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I hope this doesn’t sound completely awkward, but I have been struggling with feeling like myself and my style for years and your description and tips at the end were so spot on, especially on creating boundaries and the sensuality of clothing, that I got a bit emotional. Thank you for this! This was so much more helpful than any other style systems were I inevitably end up obsessing about whether clothes “suit my type” or are “appropriate”.

I am so shocked by how accurate I feel this is for me! And it went so beyond outfit tips. The boundary thing is so spot on, like a lack of want to draw too much attention in as an act of protection. Not wanting to wear too much makeup to reveal expressions. And it is all to do with not wanting to be TOO enveloping (the existence of creepy men have not helped this tbf). But it is deffo about unlearning the 'rules' that don't suit a left down and then dressing for oneself again. Also, its interesting how most of these women are brunettes!

The best description of how it feels being me that I've ever heard. You know me better than I know myself - and I had some big aha moments during this video. You both have a special gift to see the inner story, and the true essence of others, and your examples of how we can express our essence are very enlightening. Thank you so much for sharing this with all of us.

I definitely feel like I can express myself more comfortably among friends or when I’m out in public with someone I know! If I’m out in public on my own, I prefer to put up a ‘shield’ to avoid street harassment and unwanted attention (especially since I have a small frame, prominent curves, and I live in a big city). I’ll reveal less skin, wear less figure hugging clothes, and use a large tote bag that I hold in front of my body. It feels more comfortable to be unseen and unrevealing. But it also prevents me from connecting with strangers, so it’s difficult to find balance. I might experiment mixing sensual pieces with ‘tougher’ pieces (like a sundress + leather jacket). Thanks so much for the video!

i am left down and i totally embrace my seductiveness dont worry hehe edit : wow i really relate to what you're saying about trying to tone down your style because you kinda feel that you're magnetic and you dont wanna attract too many gazes and also the thing about people telling you to dress more this or that way (ppl tell me to wear more colors but im like sorry i look very good in black and other dark colors and more importantly i FEEL MYSELF when i wear them)

Wow I thought I was right&down, and I think I hide out there a lot. But I think I may actually be left down. Definitely I know I’m a down, but I think I go between right and left and am kinda like the girl who needs to encorporate both sides, but I related so much to what you said about the dance between vulnerability and boundaries. And definitely I think the sensuality and feeling good physically is so important for me. I’ve always hated blazers or anything too restricting. Also I grew up in purity culture and was shamed a lot when my curves were on display.

I think it's fascinating how people are saying they feel more so at home in their quadrant than in their kibbe type. I think the quadrant really reflects the individual personality and expression and we can relate to that so much more. Also if your kibbe has never sat quite right perhaps because your essence is quite different. I think it could be a fascinating exercise to see for example a classic LD or tr RD (which I think I am!)

Interesting including Megan Fox, I'm coming from watching an interview where she said she's putting effort into trying to dress fancier to match MGK's fancy dressing (therefore confirming your theory) I'm super happy that this video is (finally) here and I love the examples. Thank you both so much for entertaining and teaching through these explorations 💕

When you got to the 22 minute mark and started talking about vulnerability, courage, and learning to hide yourself... I cried. I balled. I didn't expect to. Thank you for making this accessible.

I have never seen anything that managed to connect all the disparate styles I'm drawn to and express exactly what I'm trying to express. The part about boundaries made me literally cry cause I finally felt understood. Basically my "conversation" with clothes is between having comfortable, enveloping, hiding clothes like big flannel shirts that still feel "touchable" and being drawn to super exposing styles such as strapless tops in silky fabrics and backless dresses

"dance between boundaries and vulnerability" - wow...that speaks to me

I’m 90% sure I’m the cool girl archetype, and it makes so much sense to me now that I feel like I look really bad if I go too understated and boring. But when I dress in more of a cool girl aesthetic I look great. Can you do a video with suggestions for dressing as the cool girl?

I was so lost as to which quadrant I was in until this video! I’m now fairly positive that I’m basically right where Lana Condor is- all of the back and forth you two described as far as trying to place her fits me to a tee, and being so close to the right and sorta close to the center in general explains why it wasn’t obvious at first :)

As a left down almost 21 year old woman, I like a bold lip with a cat liner. I love wearing loose cardigans over form fitting dresses. I especially love my collar bone area and like to add choker style necklaces to accentuate the area. I have naturally long wavy hair and love sleek hair moment😊. Thank you Rita for this great style video. I understood right away and wasn’t left confused like the kibbe system.

THIS!!!! Thank you Rita and Meradj. I’ve been on this journey through major life and body transitions for 7 years while working in a highly competitive academic environment - and am really in a good space right now. So watching this just pulled it all together for me. I’ve tagged to rewatch with pen and paper! Shout out to silk slip midi dresses with maxi cotton-merino cardigans and sneakers/boots/flip flops. With gratitude from a left-down/boho-outsider, FN, Beachy curls, deep autumn colors woman who wears 70s ripped jeans at home.

I’m a guy, but my style is more androgynous and watching both the women and men left + down videos makes os much sense! I always felt uncomfortable in suits and flowing fabrics felt like home, I feel like if it’s too casual for me it stars to lack the it factor I guess but bringing the sensuality w comfort always made me feel really good. I’m also a TR so the soft fabrics are even more at home for me. Thank you for this incredible insight, I had a pinterest favorites that surprised how well it aligned w what you explained and I also love how you said it’s really intuitive cause whenever I imagine myself in these styles I feel really confident. Thank you, it really clicked for me what i’m going for in my style🖤

This is so me. I was right. I love that at the beginning you went though the outfit styles and I was laughing and was like, "oh, so my wardrobe!"

Wow Rita! This is the most personally useful style video I’ve ever seen. Thank you so much for your work. I feel understood and empowered! ❤️

I just love too watch you two look att eachother. There is so much love and appreciation in your eyes and smiles. 🧡❤🧡

This was SO worth the wait. I'm watching it again already.

If you watch the latest video from Vogue - 7outfits in 7 days with Emma Chamberlain. The way she describes how intuitive her outfits need to be- how approachable her style is- even the way she describes boots. She is a really strong example for a Left Down woman imo

Thank you Rita, your video is, as always, amazing. I would like to share a few clothing items I recently purchased and that I realize now perfectly fit the left down essence (maybe it helps some of you!): so, for feminine clothing, I have a sleek, very sporty t-shirt made of a thicker, stretchy material and with emphasized shoulders - but it's pink, with a glittery print. I think that's a nice take on feminity, that's not traditional, conservative or too cute, but rather sporty and sexy. I also got plateau sandals that are super comfortable to walk in and give me a 70s, kind of Hippie vibe. (They were second Hand, so second Hand Stores are a great place to look for unconventional, comfy clothes, even more so when you are trying out something new bc it's more sustainable!) Then I actually just ordered a short black tennis skirt, where there are shorts sewn into it - a great example for freedom of movement while also showing skin (I often feel very constricted and unhappy in sleek and sexy dresses and skirts, even though they look good on me in theory). Btw, now I also understand why I look good either in super short skirts/pants or super long ones, midiskirts make me look so stiff and trying too hard (I was really into vintage 40s and 50s for some time, but I just couldn't make it work for so many reasons). Other tips I have: I really hate wearing makeup and I also don't think it suits me, but I found a routine that works: I mainly just darken and brush my eyebrows, put a little bit of white, glowy eyeshadow under my brow and in the inner corner of my eyes and finish off with lipgloss. It's really minimal, but the darker brows give my face more contour and strength, so I like it (and it's easy to wash off). Then I realized that putting bobby pins into my hair also is too delicate and fuzzy for me, I prefer to braid my hair back in a French braid, preferably only one large one, or smaller ones if your hair is shorter. I also don't look good curling my hair, as it is naturally straight and I think you can tell whether the curls are natural or not, and natural is usually the safe choice ("safe" as in "I'll look great" rather than "comfort zone") I also like to keep my nails unpolished, but nails and skin and hair well taken care off, otherwise I quickly look frumpy. Last but not least, if I wear jewelry, it's earrings or larger earstuds, bc they bother me less than bracelets or necklaces, and they are easy to find in less delicate styles, while still often being quite comfortable to wear. That's it for now, sorry for the long comment. I would be happy if someone shares other tips they have! Love you, guys!

Amazing video, you were really spot on! This is me! Left down, kibbe romantic archetype. I always felt my biggest difficulty was to dress femininely enough to accommodate my kibbe archetype, without feeling like I'm dressing in a way that doesn't represent who I am as a person and my essence. So I really appreciate this video, especially the advice and reflections part. Thank you. ❤

Fascinating stuff, again! (And *beautiful* manicure). It's interesting how some people, it seems, can do a bit of mix-n-match left and right - which seems to be a different thing than actually 'moving'. Does that suggest complexity of temperament? The other thing of special interest to me was the 'moving up' with age. I'm 60 now, and I think I used to be a left-down (not far from right-down) and have moved upwards over the decades. I'd love to see you follow some public people from their youth to late age, see how they moved, eg Sophia Loren, Audrey Hepburn, Katharine Hepburn.

Yessss I’ve been waiting for this one!!

You both are doing something so cool, thankful that I can learn from you and be apart of this!

This system is one of the best things I have found on KZfaq. You are so talented, Rita! I am truly a left down woman. I felt like you spoke to me in this. If I ever go out wearing something ‘too much’ I end up taking it off by the end of the night. Elaborate earrings or even makeup that I feel too staged in. I have a feeling Jennifer Aniston may be left down? She is one of my style icons as Rachel Green! X

literally was having such a hard day and this just made it a million times better - THANK YOU SO MUCH RITA 🥺❤️

Love, love, love this! So much fun. I think surprisingly my favorite section was on lana, I really enjoyed seeing how she brings in the different elements.

Great video, really enjoyed this and cleared up my doubts whether I was up or down on the left! The last 10minutes of the video resonated so strongly with me! Thanks and looking forward to future topics x

Yayyyyyy oh my gosh thank you ❤️ I was so excited!!

I really appreciate your thoroughness and your super charming demeanor in these videos but another thing I so admire is the diversity in your examples! Thank you so much!! I haven't seen this kind of diversity in too many essence systems... it's super appreciated and needed in this space.

Hi Rita. Great video. I was waiting to wear see this video to confirm my type. Now I'm sure that I am right - down. I can't wait for more great videos. Keep up the great work.

I have been waiting for this!!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I found it out after all the other videos that i’m left down❤️

This has really cemented for me where I fit. I'm right-down, more specifically something like half way down, one third to the right. Think Awkwafina but mirrored. Thank you!

Been waiting for this one! I was actually referred to your channel by someone on Reddit who suggested I had a very “left, elemental” essence. Your system is so fascinating!! 😄 We appreciate the time and effort you’ve put into your art 😌

The video I had been waiting for!! Thank you!! Of my friends if random people on the street need directions they generally ask me. But I also like to bring a bit of edge into my style. This definitely feels relatable. I second the comments about how affectionate you two look together. Thank you for coming up with a system that deals more with essence and less with physical aspects. You do great work!

Wow. I feel so seen. I couldn't describe my experiences, frustrations, or likes about style any better than you have said it for me. I've drifted between many of those initial "aesthetics", struggled with the same issues. People have described me with those exact words haha For some reason it is SO empowering to be told that in my search for the perfect style guide the truth is that for me it's intuitive. There aren't a set of rules because my rules are unique to me. Trusting myself and having the courage to put that on display is difficult but I am so happy, relieved, and excited to have found this explanation. Thank you. Also you two are adorable and I love that you do this together.

Hi Meradj! It's so good to see your face💕

Great video! The end really hit home. I'm definitely left-down but my 'lines' are soft classic (which I don't like - none of the suggestions for soft classics ever feels right). I really enjoy your essence system.

Thank you Rita. This video really spoke to me.

this is a weirdly accurate description of my relationship to clothes… but i think i’m happy to live in this quadrant ! all the current trends you named are ones I love :3 and when you were discussing sensation in dressing i was like HOW DOES SHE KNOW I OWN SO MUCH VELVET? same w corduroy they’re just such good texture

Thank you very much for these amazing videos! Watching your introduction I could immediately put myself down into the "down" category, but I was troubled with left and right. I was pulled to right at first, simply because that is how I notice my vibe to go. Still, the right down styles just didn't speak to me. Now it clicked - I actually think my home base is at the left, but I've been dressing as a right my whole life! I wouldn't have thought the type of dressing makes this much difference! It also helped to contrast myself to a friend of mine who is clear-cut into the right+down category, and these styles suit and accentuate her just so well. And also how you said in the right+down video that left+downs sometimes dress that way to disappear... that we learn we need to shield ourselves from the world... as someone who grew up with a constantly body-shaming family, hiding myself away is the only style I know... so that definitely hit too close to home. I know my comment is all over the place, but this was such an enlightening moment to me... :,)

You’re reflections are so spot on for me! Especially the ending

Thank you Rita this was so worth the wait. ❤ Definitely me. Probably drawn to the boho essence the most. It's the first time ever I've started to understand who I really am. I definitely relate to wearing clothes ie fabrics that feel good to me on my body.

I'm definitely one of those 90% who don't want to be seductresses, so I can be an outsider instead 😅 There definitely was a whole lot to take in in this video. I was actually initially more connected to the men's left+down and the focus on effortlessness and utility, than the sensuality of the women's system, but different aspects of bodily comfort do play a huge role in how I dress. What do you think about hiding by dressing up? I mean that creating a persona, some sort of a strong visual style, could be a way of hiding, so that a left+down person could try to hide by deliberately trying to dress more up? Sort of like wearing a mask.

LOVE! LOVE! LOVE! Please do more of these together!!!

Thank you! This was so helpful. Im very much outsider, but I do like some girly and cute elements ( with a mixture of tomboy and yang elements) I also like a mixture of natural makeup with fun colorful elements, sometimes bold, but def not sleek or contoured. Edit 3mo later: realizing I am closer to the up quadrant, kind of straddling the line. I dont think of myself as intimidating or dramatic in essence but other people describe me that way, and I do love maxi dresses and skirts that dont feel very down-left (depending: a flowy patterned hippy skirt is more approachable than a sleek black maxi dress.)

I've been really struggling to figure out which quadrant I am until this video! Your 5 tips at the end really sealed the deal for me. I agreed with every single one, and now I can confidently say that I am left down!

OMG first comment I have ever made. So much appreciation for your video 💓

You both are such pros!!!!! I just found out I’m an SN and this really vibes w me

Could you do a separate video explaining more about being a mix between right and left please? Like how Lana Condor is. I’m definitely down, but unsure because I feel like a mix between right and left and not sure how that translates in my style? Loving the videos💜 I sent an email about this but I’m only watching this video now and you’ve touched on what I was asking in my email , when you talked about Lana condor :)

I also noticed that all of your Left-Down examples were brunettes. And I noticed that what these women all seem to have a kind of "smoldering" essence. The more "Right" they are in the quadrant the more subtle/banked down the smoldering quality is. Another thought I had as I watched this video that it would be interesting to see where you would place classic Hollywood icons like Marilyn Monroe, Grace Kelly, Elizabeth Taylor, even Lucille Ball. And how did they manifest their personal best in clothes of their era?

Wow, that's so interesting! I just stumbled across your quadrant system, and what you said about the seductress resonates with me sooo much! I've always felt that I'm drawing people in, without wanting it, and struggle with keeping up my boundaries - which led me to hide myself and parts of my body because I didn't want to be "too inviting", even though I never acted "sexy". I felt so seen when you talked about this! This helps me to embrace my natural magnetic energy without feeling so helpless :)

I am such a left down ruby lady. I resonated with everything you said about this essense, especially about the make up. You two are an awsome duo! Rita, you look beautiful in your polka dots!! Thank you for this video 😊❤ 🙏🏾

Thank you for another wonderful video!!😀 This gave me more clarity. I identify with the tips at the end somewhat. I think my daughter is left/down.

Love you guys so much! 🤩

I really liked your discussion on Lana Condor. I think I might be the "leaning-right" version of where Lana is. I think sweetness/brightness comes first but I like to add a little bit of mystery or sensuality as well, but straight left outfits just don't really work for me. I feel like I'm one of those like ingenue types that can look like "way too sexy" easily when an outfit might even be modest on others. This system is really interesting and I feel like I have a better grasp of my essence after watching the series. I'm not sure where I am lines-wise but I'm finding that honoring my essence is more important for me.

First, it's so nice to see Menadj (spelling?) is doing so well. I was worried for you both! But now here we are. I've been waiting for this video because when you first started talking about the women's quadrants I was SURE I was left down. Most of my clothes are left down and I've worked hard to cultivate a left down, edgy aesthetic because I thought it was easier than being anything else. Then you started going around the quadrants, and when you got to right down, I was SHOCKED. I suddenly realized I could be totally right down. Right down clothes look so much better on me than left down, and I look so much better in them. I just didn't want to be right down because I thought it was more work than left down. So I held out one last hope...the left down video. The left down video was going to confirm I'm left down. That was my plan. But no. I am NOT left down. I'm right down. There's no greater truth for me at this moment than this. Right down. Thank you, Rita!

This video really got me into your essence System. It's all so new and interesting to me. And I hope I might understand better how I sant to dress. Thanks!! Have a lovely weekend

Who is the "Bruce Willis" of the women's quadrants, the dead center..... And what would those recommendations be? Would they be "overwhelmed" with anything that was too right/up/left/down? Would it depend on range? Very curious about people on the lines now!! Thank you for this, so so interesting!

Great video!!!! Thank you so much!! 🌸💕👏

thank you for this, Rita! at first I thought I am Right + Down but now I am glad I've watched all of these videos (cause I am curious) and looks like I could be Left + Down. This is so intriguing! How to be sure (if one can be) you're more Left - or Right? I feel more comfortable socially being more Right but I am naturally more drawn to Left description, if that make sense. I think I am more like Moon than Sun. What you said about rejecting makeup or social norms, boundaries and courage, as well as comfort really made sense to me - thank you for all your help 💜

Great style thoughts thank you Rita

Thank you so much! I looked back at some of my "odd" behaviours as a kid and teenager and it all makes sense now. For example; in my country we all bike to school. I'd have to make a 30min bike ride every morning. But I'd skip the first hour if it was raining outside. Sitting at school all day with wet clothes really had a tremendous impact on my mood and sense of security. No one understood but now at least I understand myself haha

Could you please do a video on beach outfits for each of the Kibbe body types? Maybe looking at the Coconut Girl aesthetic and finding pieces that would allow the body types to wear the styles?

I relate to the comfort and sensuality aspect of this so I am thinking that might mean my place in the right+down quadrant is closer to the centre line.

I think Kate Moss is probably left down, though she likes to dress left up. But to me she looks most stunning left down. #randomobservations

I love how you went deeper into the concepts of dressing for comfort and the different levels of vulnerability. I can definitely relate to that. I'm still unsure whether I'm right or left (definitely down) but I think I'm leaning slightly toward the left after this video. Although, I was wondering--how do you think a Kibbe classic (dramatic, soft, whatever) could create harmony with left+down essence? It seems like the essence of the classic style recommendations is focused on refinement, which in my mind doesn't totally mesh with being left+down.

Love this video💗 maybe next video idea, is the difference between down right and down left, because sometimes it's still confusing.

So, I haven't watched the left up video yet, but so far, I'm pretty convinced that I'm left down, leaning a little up and right, so the Seductress archetype. And yes, I have taken serious issue with being considered so seductive in the past, and I've literally shielded myself in long skirts, high necklines, oversized sweaters and totes - the whole nine yards. I'm also a Kibbe SN, (I'm 5'5) who has wanted to be a FN because I think they have a lot more of the intimidation factor that I really relate to. (Hence leaning up so much, I should think) this has cleared up so many things for me. Thank you. I'm off to watch the left up video now, to be really sure! 😃

Love your artistic idea Rita, really l o v e!

Oh this is so my quadrant, and I’m so happy to be a L-D lady

Amazing video you guys! It's actually sometimes hard for me to look really casual in anything but I do not know if that would be more in line with an up or down woman lol.

Really interesting!!

Very interesting!

Pinterest boards would be a great way to express the quadrants! I can see them in my mind!!

It's amazing how you know this. You know me!

Also, can you make a video discussing the "shadow sides" of the essences? Like, how you define each shadow side?

Thanks a lot for such a good explanation that really resonates inside, that would be great to hear your thoughts about style recommendation for different Kibbe types + Four Essence System As a DC who doesn't feel the classic, but also doesn't know how to dress as Left+down and like me in the clothes. I was thinking to try some of Megan Fox's outfits and see how it feels but I'm still not sure about this

could you begin to delve into how the essence quadrants dovetail with the kibbe types? i see some of these outfits and automatically think "oh that seems like a classic outfit/aesthetic" and i know that any type can be in any quadrant. i think it would be helpful to see more examples of how these essences are expressed on different body types, either celebrities or clients of yours that would be willing to share. thank you for another great video!

Your videos are so amazing! I love these essences, and how poetic and deep you get with describing them. I’ve definitely been a right+down, but it’s been a couple years that I’ve been shifting/playing with more left+down as I’ve been honoring my sensuality. As a young child I felt super sensual, but after some events happened I left my body a lot, so now the return to celebrating my body has driven me to explore this other realm. I remember the day when I realized - oh (I’ll always love pastels but) damn I’m obsessed with earth tones now. I love the being seen / boundary lesson and how that applies to dressing and self expression. Being intentional and artistic in that way sounds so yummy.

So David said Selina Gomez is not a SN. It looks like Rita may be right about her being a DC.

I've honestly never related to any style system thing like I relate to this... especially the last ten minutes

ok... i identify more with this quadrant than i thought... interesting! I'm definitely down, but i think i'm somewhere in the transition between left and right... i guess it depends on the day and occasion...?

Wow, I love your advice at the end of the video. If you are elementally Air, would clothes that are soft to touch but float around you express that element sensually? Uniqlo have a line called Airism and I find I just love wearing it, lightweight, airy yet really comfortable.

i love your content! thanks, Rita

So funny how you said there is a link between the diagonal types. I immediately said left down when I heard the overview of the 4 types. Now I’m questioning if I’m right up but ashamed from being “up” or seeming intimidating so I want to seem approachable and laid back

16:49 I consider myself R+D but I really love this outfit on the left! I'm not sure if it would look right on me. How would I make it more refined?

The lasts tips cleared it up for me. I think I am left+down but also think I could go more into that sensual way. I feel akward in sexy clothing, I almost never show much skin. It feels too much for me. Maybe I need a consultation from you 😉

Very interesting. I can see myself in bits of this. I wonder if I am close to the right down .

This video explains why I attract so many stalkers.

Okay, that's it, I am definitely a Left down (Maybe leaning towards right) ❤️ Now i just need how to combine Left down + SN + possible Soft summer 🤔😭

How would you do SD left down?

Omg I might just be a Left down. I feel so comfortable in an oversized t shirt and bike shorts. I feel I draw way too much attention to myself in bodycon dresses, heels, even when I just have makeup on. I feel so uncomfortable in them. Like I'm trying to show myself off and get attention.

Upon realizing I am a Left Down Lady and thinking about it, I propose the term "Femme Fatale Next Door" for our quadrant. XD

o.o the concept "sensible women costume" I almost cried.

Oh, you know what would be interesting? Could you look at vintage fashion and try to classify them in your quadrant system? Maybe it's harder since you don't have as many pictures of them and for hollywood their images were much more shaped by the studios... but it wpould be fascinating if it was possible.

So, I think I might be left-down? I was always told throughout my childhood that I looked "boyish", "ugly", etc and bullied for everything else and told that I am sensitive. I also seem to have random strangers come up to me and either ask me for directions or talk to me about problems that they are having in their life? Now, I am a tall and wide woman who tries my hardest to shut myself out of others unless it is an emergency.