Your surgeon is a serious malpractitioner to not tell you prior to surgery that he was going to do an experiment on you, in another context this would be considered abuse.
@somekindofqueer99377 жыл бұрын
NEISSAN thank you for the support. Yeah, I've just now regained the strength to explore this from a legal standpoint.
@WoodCat7 жыл бұрын
somekindofqueer I hope you'll get some form of retribution, you deserve better.
@none45307 жыл бұрын
You should definitely do something, or at least try and get the surgeon to say exactly what they will do.
@nikisawyers75593 жыл бұрын
Yeah I would honestly sue. That is not ok and that surgeon is disturbed. Unacceptable.
@SikanderG3 жыл бұрын
@@somekindofqueer9937 Good to hear.
@tatebreeds15437 жыл бұрын
As a trans student nurse this frustrates the hell out of me! You have 100% medical right to be FULLY INFORMED and then give your INFORMED CONSENT! I'm so so sorry this happened to you, I really hope the future brings you to peace with your scars and body (and/or the revision goes ahead) god that's half the goal with top surgery. Thank you so much for opening up and sharing this to warn other trans guys, I'm 180 days from surgery (yes I'm counting) and I'm going to be sure to recheck placement with my surgeon.
@somekindofqueer99377 жыл бұрын
Sydney Breeds thank you so much for saying because sometimes I doubt myself for thinking it was fucked up. Wishing you all the best with your surgery ahead :)
@nikisawyers75593 жыл бұрын
My son has top surgery in August, and I’m just doing my duty researching and learning. This is a great video. Thank you. You’re amazing.
@bran45123 жыл бұрын
Look up Aydain dowling and Jaime dodger they make educational videos as well
@icedtabby18872 жыл бұрын
You’re an amazing parent, on behalf of the trans community thank you supporting your son!
@alexcampbell16684 жыл бұрын
Please give us an update on this. This surgeon committed malpractice. This isn't just about you. This is about a surgeon who used your desperation and pain to learn a new procedure. This was not an experimental new procedure. This was a surgeon who was not respecting you as a person. This is malpractice against the LGBTQ community. Most people will not pursue sue in this situation because of the shame and fear of having to talk about being trans to so many people. You don't have to take this all on yourself. There are legal organizations that would love to take on a case like this because this is so clearly malpractice and because taking on this case will protect all of the LGBTQ community. Lambda Legal is the most likely to be excited about your case. GLAD are also LGBTQ legal advocates and defenders. Please pursue legal action about your botched surgery. This should not have happened to you. This surgeon took advantage of you. There are lots of plastic surgeons saying they do top surgery just like your surgeon. This is a very specialized procedure that comes with a lot of shame and fear of doctors. It is the surgeon's job to give full and complete information about the surgery and this surgeon hid those things from you. She is not unique. Please help others in the community by standing up and taking legal action against this malpractice.
@grayson90597 жыл бұрын
I really hope your revision with Garramone works out and that you can be at peace.
@ianmaxwell84977 жыл бұрын
Oh man, I'm so sorry that your surgeon didn't give you what you wanted. I hope you can get your revision ASAP. I can't imagine what a shock you had when your chest was revealed. Since top surgery is coming in the next 6 months for me, I'm really grateful that you made this video. I had no idea that I should ask about "what if scenario". I already talked with my surgeon about scar placement and we agree about the shape and location. Your surgeon should not do FTM top surgery ever again.
@paigeg84877 жыл бұрын
Great video, definitely took vulnerability/courage to post this. Appreciate it.
@somekindofqueer99377 жыл бұрын
Paige G thank you for saying this, for real 💕 if I can spare one person from feeing like I did/I do, it's worth it.
@Pozoe126 жыл бұрын
You should sue him
@jj.72913 жыл бұрын
I've got top surgery in a couple of months and this video is very helpful. I'm getting public funded surgery which I'm very grateful for but my surgeon wasn't quite as negotiable with some aspects of the surgery which people online have told me to discuss with my surgeon. For example, I said that I would like to have scars that slightly curve up at the sides and follow the line of the muscle, and he said that usually they aim for straight but that I should just remind him about it before surgery. I also said I would like to have the scars directly on the contour of the peck muscles and he said that that particular thing isn't in his control because it's more about genetics, length of the muscle, skin available to them, etc. So I think I will make sure to double check all of that stuff with him as well as nipple placement. Thank you for sharing.
@jaydick53443 жыл бұрын
Appreciating my surgeon now. She went over a bunch of things with me at the time I felt were unimportant/obvious. While Im not particularly fussed about the end result it shows quality of care that she is going to the effort of caring on my behalf about the small details that probably will matter long run Thank you for showing your results, especially as you are not happy with it. Its valuable information to others
@griffinvongabriel93697 жыл бұрын
I saw my surgery for my 15 week post op visit. I have one huge nipple bud that I asked her about, cause it bothers me. She said it looks like a female nipple. i was in shock when she said that. i asked her during my consultation if there as any reason for a revision that it would be covered. She told me it would cost up to $200 and be a 2 day healing time, that I could just do it on a friday and have the weekend off from work. I work whenever my work schedules me. I dont usually get weekends off and I dont want to have to go back. She kept telling me she had ocd and that she would make my scars the same height, length, etc and that my nipples would be the same shape and have the same placement. I'm not comparing my surgery to yours, just wanted to share my experience with you. Hopefully you get what you want soon:) Have a good day mate:)
@viewhue7 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry this happened to you Ohan. I think your results look really good, but I understand the complete mindf*ck of it not being what you expected or wanted, and I think it's totally the surgeon's mistake, not yours. They should have read up on what this procedure tends to look like, and talked about any deviation from that they had in mind with you, and about what you wanted. From what you seem to be having issues with, it doesn't look like it's impossible to "fix" though. That skin under your scars looks like it could be removed, and if you wanted the nipples could be grafted and placed sort of where your incisions are, I think. And I think you'd make a good candidate to be sponsored by Flavnt for your revision. I'd def. get something from them to support your cause.
@somekindofqueer99377 жыл бұрын
viewhue thank you so much, this was so lovely to read. I would love to work with flavnt to raise some funds especially for travel and stay since most of my funds would go towards the surgery itself. They're currently working with my pal Spencer but who knows what could be next!
@vicarious14177 жыл бұрын
Dr Garramone is the bomb - hope it works out for you, I'm excited to see your results! Based on the amount of tissue you have left over and where your pecs are visible when you bend over, I really feel like your results will be night and day! Good luck dude! :)
@MabariCrunch7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this. I wrote down the questions you said you wish you had asked. I'm sorry you didn't get the results you wanted. I think your results look good but I totally feel for you not being informed of this first. That sucks big time and your surgeon should have told you all of this beforehand - you should not have needed to ask! This is 100% your surgeon's fault, not yours.
@somekindofqueer99377 жыл бұрын
Alex thank you
@surprisinglyokay1176 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the info. I'm so sorry that happened to you, man. Hope everything is better now.
@jaxsonezria6 жыл бұрын
Please tell me you sued. They should tell what surgey you are getting before hand!
@jacksonohno5 жыл бұрын
Ezria Daniels ur everywhere lol you can follow your transition through comments
@nikisawyers75593 жыл бұрын
You’re strong AF. I would have flipped that building upside down.
@IamAerokinetic7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this.
@pmbluemoon6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for bringing up this very good point/question! Top surgery this week, and looking up anything that can help me :)
@karkats-longsleeves1546 жыл бұрын
I hope you can get the revision you need man ♥️
@shootayibyukhrabaytak6743 жыл бұрын
You still look great...............amazing man.....
@topplayatopplaya92965 жыл бұрын
thanks, good video, hope you get the revision, with great results!👍😉
@awsomeposom6747 жыл бұрын
thanks for sharing this, I'm sorry that happened to you
@d.j.70694 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry man .. the doc should have told you everything!! You're a handsome man, appreciate the good parts. ;)
@d.j.70694 жыл бұрын
Your chest looks really good; most likely wouldn't notice anything on the beach or at the gym. I can see and feel your discomfort, though. I pray that you can get what you want.
@melg.90287 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video! I actually had a plan A and B without realizing it, and ended up with the plan B, which was somehow better than A, but sometimes I wish I had gotten A instead. I had peri and my results are not bad at all, however, I do have some left over tissue and when I bend it looks like I have small boobs. It looks like the chest of a fat person when I'm actually skinny (not saying it looks bad, just that it doesn't align with my body type). Option A was to have horizontal scars going from the sides of the areolas. The doctor said it wasn't necessary to take off extra skin, and I was supper happy first, but now I'm aware that I have extra skin and tissue left. Anyway, I wish you the best of lucks with your revision. Your chest looks good, but I can see how you'd want it to be better. I'm in the same spot.
@kiandaran81937 жыл бұрын
Hello, I am new here and am so glad I found you and your channel! I have recently come out and everything is new and much is unknown to me.. But I get support and inspiration from you and other trans men. Thank you so much! I'll probably change my name to Aras. I have just trying it with my friends. Take care ❤
@kiandaran81937 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry to hear about the surgery. Do not be hard on yourself, it is the doctor's responsibility. I hope you can find help and that it be as you wish. Thanks for charing Big hug
@aliasanew33985 жыл бұрын
So glad I found this, was thinking of going to ting now i know i prolly shouldnt
@marsmagdalene Жыл бұрын
I want to give you a hug :(
@joaquindeleontagorda89843 жыл бұрын
Thank you sir for this vid. I wish you already had your correction.
@myjoy211 Жыл бұрын
I feel like no matter how many questions you would have asked you still wouldn't have what you wanted. They sell you a lie.... They see you are desperate and vulnerable and they take advantage of you and litterally see you as a $$ lifetime patient... Which sadly is typically true with transitions. I think you are adorable just as you are and I hope you are happy.
@parallel42 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry that happened to you. That is 100% your surgeon's fault for failing to communicate with you. It is never the patient's responsibility for that sort of thing; the surgeon is always supposed to convey informed consent to the patient. Btw, for anyone who just quickly wants to see the questions to ask at a consult, they are: - Where will my scars be? - What shape will my scars be? - Contingency plan: what if they can't do your preferred procedure?
@Beingme1114 жыл бұрын
I Keep hearing a rooster
@zachwilkins83923 жыл бұрын
me watching this: wait he got keyhole when he wanted DI? *gets to the end* what in the fuck kinda scarring? what doctor thought that was in any way shape or form okay?? i know this is WAY LATE but I hope you sued the arse off him
@ajnelson305 жыл бұрын
did you sue your surgeon because I feel for you dude! They should have told you what they planned to do!!!
@krisclement43247 жыл бұрын
I'm actually going to see Dr Kryger in SoCal tomorrow, I am so glad to see this video! I'm really nervous bc I don't know exactly what to ask I know I have preferences tho. The majority of his portfolio is good, I just don't know how it would translate to my chest blah blah blah all that jazz. Anyway thank you for this video! I wish peace!
@andywray21705 жыл бұрын
Is that the same person he's talking about?? That's wild I was thinking about Dr kyrger
@logangomez44756 жыл бұрын
Didn't you sign a bunch of paperwork beforehand and ask for copies?
@somekindofqueer99376 жыл бұрын
Logan Gomez yes. I have the copies. The PPW I signed said “removal or breast tissue and creation of new nipples” which really covered him to do whatever he wanted. If I knew then what I know now, I wouldn’t have signed that and asked for more specific language.
@harpleblues Жыл бұрын
Are you wearing Groucho Marx glasses?
@andywray21705 жыл бұрын
What was the name of your surgeon?? This same thing happened to a friend of mine
@somekindofqueer99375 жыл бұрын
Andy Wray Dr. Jess Ting in New York, NY. Who was your friend’s surgeon?
@DesignGuy176 жыл бұрын
Hey man how did you do with the Garramone revision?
@somekindofqueer99374 жыл бұрын
Super happy with it, I should make a vid! It’s been a while.
@DesignGuy173 жыл бұрын
somekindofqueer ha - blast from the past! I had a revision with Garramone maybe 7 years ago? Was the best decision!
@DesignGuy173 жыл бұрын
somekindofqueer so glad to hear you’re happy with the revision dude!
@makobell17023 жыл бұрын
somekindofqueer im so glad youre happy with your revision!!
@nikisawyers75593 жыл бұрын
@@somekindofqueer9937 can’t wait to check it out! You’re amazing!
@shalysagavin63543 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry if this has been answered, but can you say who you went to so we know who to avoid?!
@gianniray14 жыл бұрын
@somekindofqueer Hey Ohan, I just found your channel and I'm crushing so hard on you but you haven't been posting and your instagram says it doesn't exist. I want to know more and I'd love to chat... How are you? Update us when you have a min.
@somekindofqueer99374 жыл бұрын
You’re so kind! My new insta name is ohan_dzyun
@jordanforrestmiller57412 жыл бұрын
Hi Tamar, My name is Jordan Forrest Miller, and I am a PhD candidate at Georgia State University in Atlanta, Georgia. I have been working on my dissertation on trans KZfaq videos for a couple years now, specifically focusing on public health implications of video responses to two projects: #WeHappyTrans and #TheGenderTag. Your video response was included in my content analysis. In my work I would like to use the name that vloggers feel most comfortable with. I am happy to use your stated name in your video, an updated chosen name, your username, or a pseudonym. Do you have a preference? I’m happy to chat more about my research, if you are interested. Cheers, Jordan
@andrewmahoney34824 жыл бұрын
Wut? I've never seen those kinds of scars.
@leoshulista68232 жыл бұрын
your surgeon should have done better. im so sorry you had that experience.
@aedancyrus40306 жыл бұрын
I would be beyond mad.
@aedancyrus40306 жыл бұрын
I would be less upset about the extra tissue.. I would be more mad that my torso looks pissed