Honestly your right your parents are very selfish calling you selfish for not wanting to talk to people who have betrayed you you are in the right

Mom decided to stick with the leeches and they drained her blood. You have no obligation to do anything for her

When the niece mentioned financial trouble I immediately thought, "there it is. There's the reason she wants a relationship." OP should have just blocked her that same day. All the extra heartache could have been avoided.

The family should be ashamed for hiding the pregnancy from the daughter in the first place. If the ex bf and ex friend wanted a relationship with her, they should have come clean in the first place. The mom needs some serious meds and therapy

You are very much not overreacting AT ALL!

she had the right to leave her parents she wan't even selfish

Kyle and Ashley should have gone to her immediately and begged for her forgiveness. Just the gesture would’ve helped. The coverup is usually worse than the crime.

Her leaving her family so early was such a BRILLIANT move

It’s fucking insane to me that her entire family abandoned her to stay with Ashley and then went to a bar to celebrate? Like how fucked up do you have to be to do that to your own daughter? It’s madness.

From what I can tell, it seems like OP's mom is a huge narcissist while dad is basically stuck up and follows his wife. After no contact with OP, for OPs dad it was probably the final straw and then he filed for divorce Ashley as well might've been an attention seeker and jealous of OP OP imo sounds low key like someone who forgives too easily even wanted to forgive her parents for THAT level of betrayal As for OP's mom's friends cutting her off, they probably didn't know until recently when it got out again and then cut her off

6:33 she lost her family the day she chose cheaters over her own daughter

Now this is just a horrible situation To be betrayed by a friend is one thing, as friends usually come and go, but to be backstabbed by family really is on a whole another level :( I'm so happy she found her man and lives happily now with her kids :D Burn bridges lady, its necessary sometimes and some never need to be rebuilt at all

I'd never talk to my parents ever again and wouldn't even help them with the house. They betrayed her and don't deserve her help.

That mother is insane, acting entitled to... her daughter being friends with her ex best friend that slept with her boyfriend at the time, and THAT SAME EX-BOYFRIEND??? Like I'm a major "devil's advocate" that always tries understanding everyone's perspective to every situation. But who gains anything from this situation? It genuinely just looks like the mother wants a relationship with the ex's family and wants to achieve it through OP... which is just painful to even think about. I'm glad she stood up for herself

Not trying to be an asshole but if my sister sent me a picture of a baby that was my boyfriend and another girls i would've just texted "I DON'T FUCKING CARE ABOUT A DAMN BABY" in all caps just like that Edit: I swear I'm not trying to be like one of those people but how does this already have 82 likes in only 4 hours? Edit 2: bro it hasn't even been 24 hours T^T

Your right putting the birth of the daughters ex-boyfriend and ex-best friends daughter over you after they cheated is seriously messed up and then thinking you’re in the wrong after not wanting to talk to them is narcissistic

They betrayed her, and prioritize someone over her and try to ask her to heal their relationship is beyond stupid of them..

I would cuss out my parents if they were like that

Honestly I could’ve cursed their firstborn over the phone if I got yelled at for “emotional problems”

It sure is rich that the same family that came begging with their hands out for money are demanding that OP "be the bigger person and forgive them". The audacity of that family.

This is called "guilt tripping"

I hate when people betray you then demand forgiveness and choosing a cheater over the victim

Also like, SHE caused THEM emotional damage? And she has to APOLOGIZE? For what? Existing? I'm sorry your past coincidences have come back to remind you what a crappy human being you, but it ain't her fault you betrayed her. Honestly, these people don't love her. They aren't trying to reconnect because of her, they just want her forgiveness to live with themselves.

What the parents did is not okay. That is just messed up!

Don't you ever even THINK of calling yourself selfish in this situation ever you did the right thing ❤

Dean is just the GOAT

when she said “my parents still supported someone that hurt me” i really relate to that. when i was young i had a friend for 3ish years but by the second year i was getting threatened by that friend like that if i didnt text her back she would kill me or kill her self and she gaslit me and mentally abused me. my mom and her mom are still friends and its horrible, my mom sometimes gets upset and wants me to be friends with her again. its been 1 1/2 years since i told my mom what she was doing to me. anyways i now have depression and now a lesbian😚✌️(ill give more info if this get a bit popular)

I've heard this one before albeit had much info, like how OP shielded AP in school from the teasing their schoolmates would unleash on the visibly pregnant AP... Also OP confronting AP's ex while shopping which led to OP finding out...

How could the parents not care that their daughter’s ex boyfriend hooked up with her ex best friend and had a child together?! It seems like the ex best friends parents are extremely influential and they’re trying to keep ties with them to gain fame or something like that, and the dad should have filed for divorce a LOT sooner than 15-20 years.

If i was in the OP's shoes and that happened to me and my family said "we are financially struggling including ashley and kyle too!" I would have said "fucking L+Ratio for you i guess"

SELFISH? Their selfish, not you Nta

no parent should ever put someone else before their child and for them to inconvenience your feelings for somebody that hurt their child is disrespectful in my opinion and her friend was never her friend cause friends will tell you no matter how fucked up it is and years after the separation the mom is still choosing those other people and callin her own daughter selfish….me personally i would never come back and she’d never hear from me again because that’s selfish of her to still hold on to something that’s not there anymore

She has no right to be helping them at all, they made her suffer, so karma will finally fight back.

You are right your own parents CHOSE your ex and Ashley

Alright this is a lot to cover. I’m going to go over the perspective of both sides just to be fair. Starting with the mother. From the sounds of it she may have been very close friends with Kyle’s parents and wanted to salvage it but that doesn’t excuse what she did. They all betrayed her slighter and in extension her as her daughter is her family. She should’ve been angry at Kyle and op’s friend for betraying everyone with what they did, and especially been angry when the parents didn’t want to punish their son or even seem angry at what he did. Instead, she decides to choose the people who hurt her daughter, leaving her daughter to deal with this all on her own. I can understand wanting to salvage a friendship, but there are better ways to do so rather than abandoning your daughter, and if it doesn’t work out then it’s not worth salvaging. Worst yet, she called her daughter selfish for not wanting to mend things with the man and woman who betrayed her. Thats not a mother, that’s a hypothetic. Op did absolutely nothing wrong with her decision, she gave her parents a chance to make things right, but they ruined it when they went to see her friend give birth to a baby out of her boyfriends cheating, and then go out to celebrate that. They brought that onto themselves when she left and decided to never speak to them. Honestly I would’ve done the same. They’ve shown they didn’t value her feelings at all and didn’t care if she was hurt and just told her to suck it up. That’s not something a parent should do, instead they should have stuck been by her side and told her the truth the moment they found out who the father was rather than keeping it a secret and having their daughter waste so much energy caring for her friend. It’s really ironic how many people who call someone selfish are the true selfish people and never realized how dumb they sound when they say that to someone who’s done nothing but do stuff for them and simply is done with it. That doesn’t make someone selfish, that makes them more human than you. OP’s feelings are valid.

thats messed up

You are right because they wanted to force you to have a relationship with verbal abuse which you can give an cease and desist

It seems your mom prioritizes friendships over family. Because all her kids no longer speaks to her, it's sad. Forgive her, and move on. Write a short email, and say mom, I forgive you for prioritizing Ashley and my ex who hurt me, and I needed my mother by my side to hold and comfort me saying it will be ok. But, instead you chose them over me, well I hope it was worth it. But, I forgive you because it's the right thing to do, but can't and won't see or talk to you again cause I can't trust you.

I'd say you are under reacting

Its so cool when a phrase similar to "I want things to go back to how they used to be" comes up. "Oh, how things used to be? I guess that was great for everyone except me. But that makes it more convenient, doesn't it?"

In these situations I skip straight to the rage I don’t go past a sad stage until after I get my elaborate revenge at first I won’t even care I just want them to feel how I feel and then afterwards I’d be upset about it. These people have the shittiest families ever I mean who does this to their kids not only that these people still help them, I for one wouldn’t I hold a grudge these people are too nice to have families like this

All of this could have been avoided if they fessed up to OP about the drunk accident right after it happened. If they had done that then that's all it ever would have been, a drunk accident. OP would've been mad at them, but it would've been a lot easier to forgive. Instead her best friend, her boyfriend, their respective families, and even her own family chose to keep it from her for several months.

This story i hear couple time... still gets me... yup i cut ties too

Op has more strength than me I'd snap at Ashley and Kyle and my family if this ever happened to me (you aren't selfish)

Wow, listening to that story hurt me a lot. I couldn’t imagine what it’s like, if that happened to me. It’s a lot but she managed it so well.❤️

Over reacting? I have seen people murder for less.

I think she is in the right but I would do something a bit different. All the time where she is talking to her mom she just says that her ex bff and ex boyfriend hurt her but she never said how she felt after all of that. I think she should tell her mom how she felt at that moment. If her mom still will try to do anything like she did in the end of the story, then she is a lost cause.

People think it has to be love on first sight for a marriage to work, that’s not true. You can be with someone don’t fully love and you’ll soon realize from a different perspective that you do love them.

If your mom picks your ex bff over you , you have the right to pick not to talk to her AT ALLL!!!!!!!!

you are 100% in the right with this. dont forgive them, you dont need to. stay strong.

This is going to make me cry 😭

I’m confused how is Ashely part of the family?

Forgive them but never talk to them again they are selfish

They did you dirty that even I wouldn’t forgive your family for being there for someone else when you needed them. But happy you found true happiness and you don’t need them in your life if you don’t wish so.

Those are fucking terrible people and the worst part is that the boyfriend couldn’t own up to it and admit mistake

Don't be doormat next time. Such a naive OP. They are there for the money 💸💸💸

How is it her niece if it’s her bsfs and ex bfs baby? (Unless I missed smth)

Honestly, you're right. Your parents are incredibly selfish, labeling you selfish for not wishing to talk to individuals who have betrayed you. You are right.

I think the mom when siding with Ashley she was her one day 😤

Bro, I’m not gonna lie these are better than a movie they should make a movie about this. It is like three in the morning and I just can’t stop clicking on them.

Probably wasn’t the niece. Can’t believe OP would help them. Better person then me.

The mom is the one who is being selfish and she's projecting it on OP.

evelyn is such a pretty name for someone…. (the niece) and i’m totally not biased or anything-

Totally not just watching the likes and views go up live😍

Op’s Mom sounds like she has undiagnosed bipolar depression- not excusing her behavior and initial decision to basically LIE to her daughter in order to protect her own friendships. Personally i couldn’t hold on to that much Unforgiveness and I’ve been through my fair share of backstabbing best friends and family betrayals. I find it hard to maintain physical and mental health with that kind of weight. I think there should have been a conversation either Kyle or sarah at some point. I know you cant really put a timeline on healing but after so many major milestones in life it’s kinda exhausting to hold on to the past especially when it’s that painful. Sounds like she is getting the help she needs and i really wish the same for all people involved. So many relationships destroyed not just over one night but over a decision to live in deception.

I heard thos story from Tell Tales and was just thinking about it. Apparently, her parents used to swing with ex-BFF's parents. Mother had a fight on the street with ex-BFF's parents. It is heavily implied the ex-best friend is OP's mother's daughter with the ex-best friend's father. Now you can see why OP's mother was so concerned

Your not being selfish 😢😢 your in the right 😊

I really want to know what that letter says I want to hear how stupid the ex best friend is or how her life is completely destroyed one of the two

0:17 “the turned as white as a sheep” “The black sheep 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀”

First of all, I'd say that you are wrong. For even trying to establish a relationship with your past life. I know we are all different human beings, but when MY parents prioritize the lovechild of MY BOYFRIEND and MY BESTFRIEND over ME, I don't think I can even see them. The trauma would be too much. It'd have been far better if you had just decided to say "things happen" to Evelyn when she tried to talk about your family's poor condition. I even think that was a bigger plan to make you come back and embroil in this mess. But all I'd want to say is, focus on YOU and YOUR family, especially Dean. That man can't be your supporter all the time. Talk with him and give him more time instead of this whole fixing things that fixes one relationship but makes you question 10 others. Just forget everything and go NC again.

Nah they got wayyy to close with those cars 😂

Can’t she just get a restraining order from them-

I'm so sorry, your parents were such horrible persons ❤but you are just a brave and strong person ❤

OP needs to give her kids the mother she never had.

As someone who had a baby alone with only my husband for support during pandemic lockdown, not even a baby shower, it is WILD to me that this one teenager is getting so much “support” for her pregnancy. Too weird

Is it only me that think nobody in her family should be forgiven 🙄. Literally her sisters to everyone went to celebrate the birth of the cheaters child for different reasons. And still after all she forgive them.

No they burned you worse than Ozai burned Zuko in the animated series.

Heartbreaking. You really find out the true nature of a person when something they want badly is on the line. OP’s mother was willing to sacrifice her in order to keep her family and friend circle the same. But nothing can be the same after a betrayal of this magnitude. She was offered the chance at the end, and she didn’t take it. Her delusion has consumed her.

The mom doesn’t want her family back. She just wants the delusion of a perfect family. The entire family completely backstabbed their very own daughter/sister for her friend and cheating boyfriend. How could the mother ever expect for her daughter to get over extreme betrayal like this.

Imagine still being friends with the people that betrayed your own daughter and picking them over her!

Failure by a father god damn id have lost it if this happened to a kid of mine

Calling OP selfish while trying to keep the bonds of others together that aren't her? Hi Pot, meet Kettle.

Where's the link for the original Reddit post?

The OP had every reason for what she did. If I were betrayed that way, I would do similar. The fact the father realizes the mother was in the wrong and needs psychiatric help.

I read this story. OP parents and siblings prioritized friendship with Ashley's and Kyle's family over OP. Also I'm really fuming with ex- mil who had the audacity to demand from op to talk to the cheating ex and bff. EVERYONE except OP KNEW about the affair and had no guts to tell the truth. So the exmil should back off. Everyone should back off.

Kyle doesn’t have a sister feel bad for his mom

This was a rollercoaster but as a fellow Daughter who witnessed her mom put someone else over her at 15 and since had a hard time this hit deep :/ I was kicked out at 15 when her husband of a few months said "it's her(me) or me" and I don't play the victim anymore but it definitely took a little therapy and the best grandparents.

I hate that you rekindled your relationship with your sister.

That is awful. Mommy issues 100%, That is bs. Being on someones toxic family’s side rather than your own child? AWFUL. That asshole deserves to be separated from her poor daughter, And she has every right to be away..

Open the letter 💀 what if it was an apology.

“ I stayed in a hostile in foonix” 💀 2:37

The fact ur helping them pay bc they broke and they calling u selfish

I would have blocked the mother and the rest of them immediately and never gave it a second thought again.

0:08 from short

That is seriously messed up. I feel bad for the OP.

Don't say your wrong you were right and that your mom is probably getting paid by Ashly or Kyle and don't say sorry

She chose a 'might as well' husband. Like if it works for her, though.

Why are some moms siding with our mortal enemy.

People who came the short😂

She said she was 25 and when talking to the niece she said 15 years ago so that mean she was 10 and her little sister was younger then 10🤯