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Unfortunately in some situations when you do stand up for yourself the gaslighters and their cronies can work to get you fired

Happens everyday at my job. Sometimes they don't even believe you. It's enough to drive a person crazy I begin to question myself.

Here is a type of gaslighting that doesn't get mentioned much, it seems, even though it has more in common with the term 'gaslighting' (ie. fooling around with the lights) than spreading gossip or lies do: moving things, hiding things, playing tricks, rearranging things, putting things back that went missing, etc. I have witnessed this in at least two workplaces and it is not only childish and petty but is also creepy and costly in a business.

Im a victim. I started a job at same time as another person. She became good friends with staff in their 20s and I didnt because of age gap. Even though I didnt get involved in gossip or any personal scenerios so since I just did my job, I started getting picked on, watched, and snitched on to the boss. I complained to boss and she switched it to my faults. I recorded the convo and realize boss is not going to help. Instead she thought I should quit.

You really are 100 % right, gaslighting gets worse in my experience when you give in to them, you have to separate yourself and stand up for yourself or it will get worse. They prey on your self doubt.

I experienced corporate gaslighting. When I brought up a law that the company was breaking my boss ,bosses, President of HR, VP of HR on a conference call they all read the same lie from the same script on a conference call. I sued them and the judge approved a class action lawsuit against the company for FLSA violations and unpaid wages. Boom! Keep notes and proof of you stay at your abusive job.

If management or supervisors are doing the gaslighting, you stand near zero chance of fighting back and winning! Start looking for another job and milk the company as much as possible before you leave! Good luck!

Found your channel, felt like this could be a safe space to share my experience. Been researching loads about this lately because my direct supervisor has been doing this to me for the past 10 months ever since I started on a job. It's quite an interesting ride, and you're so right about the blood pressure going up and the emotional waves. Ever since the new year, that was when I came out of the tunnel and really started seeking alliances within the company, job searching and reminding myself that my ability was worthwhile and I did get put into positions by her and the company to complete projects along with no help while she proactively ignores my over-capacity issues, gives me slight compliments once in a while, then manages to diminish my self-worth and reputation around the company by painting a picture where I'm too green for anything and bad at my job. Then proceeded to talk to people around me about how she was able to help me all the way out on this journey. There have been many conversations of gaslighting in the past year, and I guess recently when she started judging my mental health - She asked if I couldn't complete my work because of my own mental constraints instead of the lack of time/over-resourced claims I've made in the past few months - that was kind of like my last stroke to the bs she's been saying to me. Last year when that initially happened, I'd actually break down from work and cry and have to take a couple days of sick leaves. This year, I feel like I've grown to be stronger in terms of setting my own boundaries in the head - so whenever a conversation like this happens, I document them down on paper, while putting a mental block to myself while she talks, just to reassure I'm not crazy and she's not being respectful. The blood pressure still goes up for a few hours to be honest, but I manage to cool down throughout the day for important interviews/things because the bottom line is that I can’t let her take control of my emotions completely. While I have a team of very supportive coworkers I work with, I still need to make contact with her because she is my manager, so the goal really is to get immunity, and concentrate on myself and opportunities so I can plan ahead and leave the toxic workplace! That said, I empathize with her but I don’t respect her because she never really supported me through my work, growth or anything. I agree with some of the things you’ve called out in your video series where when a toxic manager is insecure or they feel threatened or have no answers, they tend to make up excuses and blame it all out on their subordinates. Even though I empathize with her and can understand the way she acts, I still strongly disagree with her actions and do not respect her as a leader. Thanks for creating a safe space here and sharing your content!

We have a manager that constantly gaslights. She makes the mistakes and blames us cause she will come up to us an says something like "because yall are getting alot of errors on the work yall need to start triple going through your work receipts." Clearly this is not our job. She was the one that was making the mistakes that caused errors "

On point ✅ it is not good feeling 😪🤧 i took 2 weeks to figure it out if I'm crazy 😜 I'm absent for 2 weeks really hurt at that time omg i think i will never forget every single word they said but i forgot I'm crazy . Thank you God ❤ love your video Thank you ❤

what happens when the supervisor's boss goes along with the gaslighting

My manager sent me specific info to send to a dept. that had requested it from me. I obeyed. Then I was written up for sending said info. Mgr said, “the info is outdated. You should have double checked the resource.” Except he’d sent me that outdated resource and asked me to send it. He wrote me up a 2nd time for not simultaneously putting in a request to have said outdated resource updated. Problem is, they have too many resources & they change processes & systems so often, nothing is ever up to date. My BP went to what my dr called “hypertension emergency” when previously I’d never had any problems with BP. It’s horrible.

Another form of gaslighting at work can be phone calls, texts and e-mails during your off hours from bosses and coworkers that they most likely can figure out the issue at hand themselves instead of contacting you about it as it's probably not a life/death emergency.

My previous manager was like that. 😂😂😂I was so happy when she moved to other department. Recently she asked hr to contact me to interview a position in her new department. I was like no thank you, not interested

Gaslighting was coming from my subordinate who was in the organization much longer than I but lacked qualifications and institutional experience. He teamed up with a supervisor of long standing and wrote a letter against me after my boss humiliated me in several meetings. I wrote her a letter since she did 180 degrees on this very employee whom she wanted to transfer due to his persistent lack of respect. I saw the writing on the wall on a Friday and by the following Tuesday handed in my resignation. I know for a fact they regretted this gaslighting when these very employees overstepped their boundaries not too long after my departure. The workplace was then inundated with Covid. I still wish them the best.

Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I really needed it today!

Very helpful. Thank you😊

Dear Benjamin Sir,very helpful video.Keep posting 👏👍

Sir, I am a independent messenger and I come to realize that my boss had accused me delivering the wrong items to the client address, they allegedly complain to my boss but when I got their the items were correct. Being a messenger, one cannot rush at their job too quickly to make people happy. I feel my boss is micro managing me with psychological torture conditions test. Good channel Benjamin

Where were you 3 years ago. I am now in a situation where it is out control and I am perceived as the lunatic, I really need help. I never realised this kind of help was on YT

When my boss would say "it's an excuse", my response was no, it's a "reason"! That shut a situation down!

Thanks for the great video. When your manager unexpectedly started critizing you even when you made progress in the work, and said he simply wanted to help you grow, will it be a clear indicator of gaslighting? Or in a scenario that, the manager started comparing you to some other coworkers and implies you are something less by saying "You are level-X, which is a very high level. The expectation of level-X is blablabla" even when you are confident about your contribution.

One time at one of my previous jobs when I was performing a task and my supervisor wasn't satisfied I told her that I tried to do it to a good degree and she said I did it to *no* degree as she was really talking down to me and making me internalize it.

My boss told me after the first two months that I asked my collegue in another country for help every five minutes, which was not true and got me mad and a week later repeated that infront of another colleague and put that in my KPIs. What should I do? Should I quit?

My last employer did this to the extreme.

Yes it has entered the work place in many past jobs as well as my current job I police are not doing it then who is its a long story don't ask, maybe it's time for a sit down with that unifom and have a coffee with a breakfast for a nice long chat or maybe not?

I used to clean rooms at the hospital where I work....this women would my room from me she does to alot of coworkers so I said to her you want the take it there's plenty of rooms I can do

I thought it was gaslighting and passive aggressiveness. I think it's actually an employee with a drug/alcohol problem...or all of those things. At the point now the reason doesn't matter.

And then there is family gaslighting.

Why you're video's title is in English if you aren't almost close caption in Spanish?

Good to know. Never heard of gaslighting

Vemco

This video could be better if it is not long winded in comparison with other videos on gaslighting

Dont mess with us gas lighters we light gas

Coming back to this video, my main question--in fact my ONLY question--is WHY? Why bother wasting precious energy on a daily basis? I read the comments below and what I tune into over and over is a great disconnect by the people who claim to have been gaslighted. The comments reveal no insight, no sense of cause and effect, no sense of having any real connection to the personality of the manager they see as the villain. Particularly if the "gaslighting" happens in job after job. Believe it or not, most managers and supervisors are usually far too busy to plot and scheme about how to drive their direct reports crazy. The only time I can see this happening is when the direct report is foisted on an unwilling manager who has been given no choice in the hiring process. (And if that's the case, the organization is indeed dysfunctional to begin with so anything can and does happen.) But beyond that, it's usually a fatal, stupid game and is obvious to more than one person. So I ask why? People who play those games are generally also NOT playing with a complete deck and have a hard time remaining invisible for long--invisibility is the LAST thing they want. What is the difference between being gaslighted and simply being an incompetent employee? Usually the employee's faulty perception.

My boss love gaslighting me, i want to play tis game n c who will win the race

This guy is gaslighting us into watching his whole video while not showcasing actual helpful tips and actionable knowledge 😂🤦🏽‍♂️this world is a truly sick place

My manager sent me specific info to send to a dept. that had requested it from me. I obeyed. Then I was written up for sending said info. Mgr said, “the info is outdated. You should have double checked the resource.” Except he’d sent me that outdated resource and asked me to send it. He wrote me up a 2nd time for not simultaneously putting in a request to have said outdated resource updated. Problem is, they have too many resources & they change processes & systems so often, nothing is ever up to date. My BP went to what my dr called “hypertension emergency” when previously I’d never had any problems with BP. It’s horrible.