Yes!!

Yeah, I was told by my boss and HR to dumb down my responses and not to be so educational toward customers. I did that to a reoccurring customer and they got concerned with how I was responding to them. I told them what I was told to do. They asked are they here? No. Then they told me talk to talk to them how I would normally. I am trying to find a new job away from this place. I have also learned from many KZfaqrs on how to spot a red flag🚩 business and this business is the biggest red flag🚩. Now, when I go into an interview I always study the companies landscape and upkeep and their building. If it's unkempt or in disrepair then I don't want to go in their, and to just listen to all the red flag🚩 interview questions.

This is like telling your employer "I hope you are better off dead in North Korea, China, Cuba, Laos, Vietnam, and Russia for real!"

I really love your videos, you are showing and helping in very real and specific work-life issues ❤

Currently I'm dealing with a boss, that I feel relatively new as a manager, is woman (I'm too) and she is completely biased. I highlight some situations and the things go worst. Now preparing for second round 😂 with her or scalate the situation.

Nice talk

If you have to dumb down they don't have the mental level to be over you.

👏👏👏With you 1,000% !

Same here👍💯

I wouldn't do that either

Oh that is so awesome to hear!!! good for you! And congrats on the job 😁

Congrats!!!

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Amazing

About to do this very thing! Wish me luck

Exactly - That's their insecurity and they should know how to deal with it in healthy manner. That's interpersonal skill.

@@rakeshadhikari5556if that boss is narcissistic, he will turn around to make u look like u don’t have interpersonal skills as u have made him look bad with your competence

I hope you've been doing everything to make your boss's life easier....and, of course, nobody can do what YOU do, right. Take a week or two off and see how they get along without you. I guarantee, work will stack up on HIS deak and he can't handle it as easy as you. Then, YOU ask for a raise.

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"Because someone has to do the job". Read this somewhere, makes sense. It's not fair but that's how it is.

I've asked myself this question, over and over 🙄

If they were competent, people would get jealous and he wouldn't have become the boss. To become the boss, you need to be average.

Excellent question

@@j.j.9538 dam this one hit hard. Makes sense.

Yup HR is just slaves to the higher ups.

Agree 💯

Yeh Human Resource usually are on the side of the company. Only go to them for non controversial reasons

People are better off documenting things on video or audio on their phones.

HR are sometimes in collusion with the management

True!

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Awesome turn of events! Blessing in disguise

Looks like we had identical paths, the same things happened to me and now looking back, it’s what I needed to help open up my business. Who’s laughing now …

Dude you're worth more and I hope you found a better job.

I always say "a job is like a boyfriend". Pay attention how a job treats you. If the treatment is poor, they are not worth it. Find another one that treats you better. Same goes for boyfriends lol

@@mugensamurai thank you! :)

@@grazynawolska8160 thats a very good way of looking at it! Thank you for the tip! :D

Wow... so sorry to hear that! Hopefully you can get a new job soon! Or at the very least, start preparing a hostile work environment report for HR

HR is always on the boss's side.

@@lincolnlane6763 to predict behaviour always look for where the income is coming from. The person who provided the income is the person who everyone will side with in a discussion/debate

I agree with this comment..

This is what is happening to me. HR sided with my team leader even if there's an evidence against my team leader.

same, I read somewhere though that HR is really not our "friend" and are there to protect the employer, After leaving a very toxic job with an evil manager, I managed to walk away but for a while suffered with PTSD

I have worked for supervisors that don't want the competition in knowledge. They have been promoted due to friendship. They were given free rein in what ever they did .....write ups, firing people. Personal vendettas became a daily occurrence. Bad management seems to be a normal thing in companies now days.

The weak are always trying to sabotage the strong.

🎯 Well said!

Same here. Salaried workers are paid to work, not engage in office politics.

Remote is wonderful... I am excited to find the best opportunity as I work toward this goal!... 🎉 😊

Did that years ago: shifted departments because of how an evil boss bullied me, and then filed a grievance that ended his career.😁

but that is the point, toxic and insecure bosses _don't_ want their underlings to grow and succeed.

I never thought about this but you’re exactly right! I have been placed on a PIP before and it was only a matter of time til I was let go. PIPS are just a way to let a person know it’s time to look for a new job!

100%

HR everywhere I've been have been about as useful as a water heater in Arizona.

Or you could get creative.

@@kaytlinrodin1660 What were your concerns?

My manager spoke to HR and told them she could handle the problem and they just ignored it just like she did

Very true. HR usually sides with bully bosses.

I am on #4

@@KZfaqPurgetheblackplague, ugh! I am sorry to read this. Keep the files and ask for a forensic audit if it blows up.

True they agree the boss not the employee that's not fair

Hate to hear how workers are treated like garbage as if they had no dignity or value s a human being.

@@mkervelegan Absolutely. It is a putrid work environment what we have in the USA. Especially for easy targets. North Korean like cults of egos, major inefficiency, No workers rights, environment of fear.

Ugh, I had that at my last job. Once trained and up to speed with the other colleagues I can become highly autonomous. At that job we often had no supervisor during the worst summer months due to lack of staff and heavy demand. He just had to be elsewhere doing other stuff and that was fine. The team would coordinate and delegate equality enroute and just get it done. There was no real leader and honestly it wasn’t needed, but out of empathy and compassion I would check with each person every so often in case they were getting frustrated with doing the same task all afternoon and suggest a swap around if they were. Alas this was enough to get me marked as the unofficial leader. I quickly realised that I was automatically being deferred to and that for the most part the team were happy to follow my lead. I was fair and impartial-I just kept an eye on things and settled disagreements on the very rare occasions that they occurred. But of course eventually HR recruited enough staff and the workload began to lessen and that’s when the trouble started. The supervisor returned and began doing the job he should have been doing the whole time and he did NOT like the easygoing autonomy that the team had developed. Now I admit that I should have noticed this sooner but he really didn’t like the way everyone sort of knew what was expected of them and came to me when it was time to delegate or mediate. Far too late did I realise what was happening. We’d effectively made him obsolete and surplus to requirements. I only noticed this when he started powerfully asserting himself and very obviously imposing his way of doing things on us. And as if to add insult to injury his method was not only worse but more than one person felt they were being treated unequally and thus cohesion and morale collapsed. When I realised that he was actively targeting me, sabotaging me and lying to me in order to set me up for failure I realised that it was time to get a backup plan sorted and thankfully it was easy enough to quietly negotiate entry to another company that does the same services to clients. I still wonder how it looked for him to abuse the six month probationary period to get me sacked, but then I reappear two weeks later with the uniform of their main competitor.

U r so correct. Although I knew everyone would listen to me on my job, I never out shined my boss. I always purposely made a mistake on all reports I gave him so he could correct something so he could feel good. Sucked but I did it and it worked.

??? Master, we live in at-will employment...Just leave. You deserve better.

Ugh. No one is my master.

Fk the master

@@SK-ql3yf Facts!!

Did you go?

Sounds like some I know..shes slightly older than someone, nit picks people with quirks didn't at first but likes younger people esp trouble makers and ignoring complaints about these bad eggs..and let them move up the ranks but thus one person never got that..often put alot of wirk on that person and but blame on that person for small mistakes, or things she didn't do she started off fine when 2 or 3 others worked around her but when they left ..she lets bullying go on and she began to bully and people had to fight to get things other than dishes and one gal that went to college she commented shes doing better than her..accuse people of lying when they aren't

Sorry you’re experiencing this. Don’t be afraid to apply elsewhere :)

I know how you feel… I had an insecure boss a couple years ago, and it was miserable for me!

Oof... sorry to hear that :( Hopefully you get a new role and get out soon! Then you won't have to deal with getting cut out of things.

Yes, but sometimes it’s not that simple. Sometimes office politics keeps these people in these leadership positions when they should definitely be replaced. Sometimes no matter how hard you work things are just out of your control.

@@Justrelaxx101 Right, It is better to leave the sinking ship early if you can.

@@Justrelaxx101 usually the toxic person gets protected for some reason.

Not a problem at all! Thank you so much to watching!

Thanks for watching!

If you're in the USA and have documented what your boss said about racial groups, you have a lawsuit.

Yes! I’ve been amazed by the traction this video has gotten. But as long as it’s helpful to people 😄

Thanks! Glad it was helpful!

compensatory syndrome

I'm in the same boat.

Thanks for watching!

Thank you, Christy! Thanks for watching

Thanks for watching, Ali!

🤣🤣🤣 Good for you! Keep your head up high 😃😃😃

No, that just makes you seem weak. They will treat you worse

@@stever507 exactly, they do not get to cross professional boundaries with their toxic bs in the workplace!

3. When he moves forward, he'll use that to put more blocages your path, that has been my experience

5. Try to befriend other executives, try to get your boss and his friends fired.

Yeah, that's a great addition! I am personally a proponent of the way NY manages their employment laws.

Every company should have a policy: mediocre but ambitions people have to be kept out of management. But most middle managers admire ambitious people and promote them. Ambition is not a value.