Wanna trade? XD

I'm having a son, and because I hate my dad, was raped and was raised with 5 sisters. I desperately wanted a girl. I'm not sure if I want to abort... but i do know I wanted a daughter-_-

@@halimakimathi4189 if it's any comfort, your son won't have anything to do with your father and his evil character. He will be your perfect little baby and I'm sure you'll love him the most in the world. Plus you may have a daughter later in your life if you are planning to have more kids❤

@Elisabet Vainionpää your absolutely right! Thank you so much, that was much needed healing right their 😇🥰 ty♡

@@halimakimathi4189 Don't abort just based on gender. Killing a baby just because it's a boy is not the answer. Your son will probably be beautiful and sweet if you raise him with love. Jesus is coming back. Have faith in Him alone to be saved. Believe Jesus died for your sins and rose again then repent if you seek salvation.

Thank you so much for this! It's definitely something that seems really hard to understand unless you've experienced it. I can't wait to meet this little one and I know he's perfect for me so I'm sure those feelings will multiply when he's here!

I am getting my „4th“ boy as well and I am so devestated! The dream of a daughter has finally come to an end 😥

For me it’s never gotten easier and he is a year old. I love my son beyond measure, he means everything to me and I’m so grateful for him but I’m still upset and sad about not having a girl🤷🏼‍♀️ It pops up every now and then and I feel like crying. There are things I know I’ll never get to do.

I have four girls and want a son

you are so pathetic.

Oh my gosh I love that! I hope this little guy still calls me all the time when he's 21! That's the cutest thing ever 🤍 I'm really excited to be a boy mom now and am so relieved I was able to get through the disappointment before he got here.

Sounds like the son that called “28473 times a day” might have some severe and unhealthy attachment. That’s not something to be proud about.

@@jpichet6999 sounds like unhealthy attachment from both sides… but who are we to judge as we don’t know anyones situation. It does sound a bit strange

I love this, just found out I’m pregnant with my 3rd boy, this comment made me tear up xxx

Gender disappointment isn't child disappointment ❤️

That's so incredible! I already can't imagine not having this little guy and he's not even here yet so I know it'll be multiplied once he's in my arms 🤍 Congrats on your little one!

So true. It's so interesting how that works. I think we all need to normalize our feelings around everything and give everyone the space to grieve, feel safe, and be accepting even if we don't understand.

Absolutely opposite.

Men are not encouraged to want boys.

Aww that's amazing that you've bonded with her in a different way! Who knows, maybe you'll have amazing daughters-in-law one day too!

Everyone in the family has male and female babies. I would be really happy to have 2 boys but I already know that the people around us are going to make us feel inferior. I already have a friend hoping I get a girl just like her. Girls are very popular in the family. The adult female are very nasty too so I know what's coming my way...

I’m going through that today as well. I have a 3 year old boy and i was just told I’m having another boy and i can’t stop crying, i wish they were tears of joy but sadly they are tears of disappointment. I wanted a girl so bad. I’m 38 and i don’t know if will get pregnant again. I was hoping for a girl so bad…. I’m just so sad…. And i even feel sad about feeling sad because i know I should be grateful for having a healthy baby…. It’s just disappointing 😔

@@hollygrail2964 Mom guilt is real. I don’t know if you’re a believer or not, but I firmly believe God gives us exactly what we are supposed to have. I love my boys & have come to the realization that there’s no chance I could be closer to a girl than I am to my boys. My boys are now 18 & 20, dating girls I adore, & still Mama’s boys. Allow yourself to grieve, but know that everything works out as it should. I’m praying for you.

@@joyt.3982 wow Thank you, thank you! I really needed your words of wisdom! You speak so beautiful of having two boys it gives me joy and hope! I am a believer and I thank God for everything, for my healthy boy, for your kind words and prayers 🙏 From the bottom of my heart, I thank you and I pray fro the well being of you and your family! ❤️ Blessings ✨✨✨

That's exactly why I shared. It's important to let people feel their feelings without feeling ashamed of them. If my experience can help someone else have some hope then awesome. I'm just happy to be on the other side of this now and am SO excited to meet my little guy 🤍

I do know this little one is perfect for me so I am the luckiest person! That's amazing that you care for your nephew and he's so sweet 🤍

Thank you so so much for saying that 🤍 Some of the comments have made me question if I should've posted this video, but I think it's an important topic and if my experience can help someone else going through it then it was worth it.

@@SarahBrithinee don't question it. You did what you did for a reason and there's nothing wrong with that! Your feelings are valid and real, and like you said these are things that aren't ever talked about it so you never know who you are reaching!

@@SarahBrithinee I am not a mom yet, hopefully I'll get to be (pray for me), but as an empath I feel like I get you. You are raw and real, and it's so refreshing when it seems like so many people only want to talk about butterflies and rainbows. People go through a lot of emotions, and I'm sure many people feel exactly like you, it's just not talked about enough.

I'm 19 weeks pregnant, just found out I'm having a 3rd boy. I didn't want to have another child but birth control failed so I prayed and prayed for a girl. We picked out a name and everything. I hoped the second one was a girl but got disappointed. I wanted this to be the last because my pregnancies are always difficult so I didn't want to 'try' again. I don't know how to deal with my feelings right now.

Thank you so so much 🤍 I'm relieved to be on the other side of it and just can't wait to get this little guy into my arms now 🤍

Also just wait til the first time he picks a flower and says “here mommy” your heart is going to MELT ☺️

Oh my gosh that is the sweetest thing ever. I can't wait for moments like those. You're totally valid in your feelings. Everyone struggles with something and it's not a competition. Some people struggle with fertility, pregnancy depression/anxiety, gender disappointment, PP depression, etc. They can't be compared to each other because every person's journey is different 🤍

You got your baby girl after all. Awesome.

Aww thank you so so much 🤍

Aww that's amazing 🤍 I hope this little one is a mama's boy too! I'm going to soak in allll the cuddles he'll give me!

That's amazing! Everyone has said that as soon as you hold your baby those feelings go away, but I'm happy mine went away before he's here 💗 Now I just can't wait to meet him and get to know him!

I think I'm going to love it too. Everyone tells me how much boys love their moms so I'm really counting on it. I'm also just relieved to be on the other side of these feelings and am so excited to meet my little guy 🤍

Thanks girl! You're absolutely right. We all deserve the space to grieve in our own ways. I'm thankful that I know this little one is perfect for me. If we're able to have another one than who knows what they will be. Right now, I'm ok being a boy mom & plan to be attached at the hip with this little guy!

Oh my gosh, you're are the sweetest ever for saying that 💗 I'm trying really hard to let my journey help as many people as possible!

I am in exactly situation but with girl#4...i always wanted to be a boy mama,so i.m still in shock,i can.t believe this is happen to me

I understand. Currently going through this right now. It’s okay to feel this way

Same.

That's amazing 🤍 I'm so excited to meet our little guy and get to know him!

I'm already on the other side of the disappointment and cannot wait to meet him so I'm sure that will multiply once he's here 🤍

Thank you so so much for saying that 🤍 I'm so glad I'm on the other side of this now and cannot wait to have him in my arms 🤍

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It's definitely something that I think a lot more people deal with than we realize. Even if you do end up dealing with it, there's hope & happiness on the other side of it!

I'm so glad you've liked my videos. I think it's important to share my journey so that it'll hopefully help someone who is or will go through the same thing. We're all valid in our feelings and these are important topics that aren't talked about enough.

Thank you so much 🤍 And yes, there can be multiple feelings at the same time that seem opposite. It's totally normal.

I think it happens more often than we know too. Thank you for being so open minded and giving everyone the space and respect to have their feelings. It's important and people like you can help other women who feel ashamed feel safe to open up about their struggles.

Thank you so much 🤍 I'm relieved to be over the disappointment, but it's certainly a real feeling. I cannot wait to meet him and hopefully be his favorite human 🤍

I’m sorry to hear that. I’m currently 17 weeks and just found out I’m having a boy as well. It’s hard for my fiancé and I as well cus we did want a girl too. I know that can be hard hearing it’s a girl and then next appt it’s actually not. I know that was probably a roller coaster emotions. And I’m sorry you had to deal with judgement from your family

@@kylissasimmons342 Hi! Thanks for your nice words. Yes, I needed time to process it, thankfully my husband has been an Angel the whole time. Now our boy is 10 months old and we love him to the moon and back. He's amazing 😊 You get over gender disappontment at one point, every parent needs their own time and space.

Was the baby a boy or girl? I knew someone who's friend was told 4 times during her first pregnancy that she was having a girl and imagine her surprise when the baby was born and it was a boy instead.

Absolutely. These topics need a space and if my experience helps someone else then that's wonderful. I just am so happy to be on the other side of it and can't wait to meet my little guy 🤍

Aww thank you 💗 And yes, cultivating the relationships we want is so important. It's a lesson in life we all need whether that's with our kids, parents, partner, friends, co-workers, etc.!

Thanks Lisset 🤍 I'm excited to look back in 25 years and be so so proud of the little man that I've raised too. I know he's perfect for me and I'm so relieved to be on the other side of these feeligns 🤍

@@SarahBrithinee ☺️💙

Thank you for sharing. I’m on the opposite end. I just found out I’m having a girl when i really wanted a boy so badly. Feeling that disappointment and shame. I hope you’re doing well.

Oh my gosh. 1. I'm so so glad you were able to have a healthy baby and got the girl you had hoped for. It sounds like you've overcome a lot and have a ton to be proud of. It's incredible that she's become your bestie. I'm sure it's a bond that you both treasure! Maybe we'll have a daughter in our future, maybe not. I'm just excited to meet this little one and feel so happy that I'm finally on the other side of the disappointment 💗

Absolutely! I know this little guy is perfect for me and I'm so relieved to be on the other side of these feelings 🤍 Now I'm just really anxious to meet him haha

"Cutesy"

Totally agree. The relationship doesn't depend on the gender at all. Really at the end of the day when we start that parenting journey, it should be unconditional is what I think. I am naturally open to any gender. For the girly things I have nieces to spoil. However, its the nastiness of the people around me. They make you feel inferior if you dont have one of each.

Are you close to him? In a way that he is calling you often and that you are able to have heartfelt conversations with him? I think this is the part that I fear the most… i just found out Im having a boy

I'm so sorry you felt like you weren't able to express your feelings. That's exactly why I made this video. We need the space to feel our feelings! I know I'm going to love this little guy so so much because I already do 🤍 and I'm so relieved to be on the other side of these feelings!

Thank you so much. I can imagine how hard it would be to understand if it's not something you've experienced. I appreciate you watching with an open mind and really taking the time to understand -- that says a lot about you 💗

@@SarahBrithinee thanks. I found your channel accidentally about a year ago. I enjoy your reviews on stuff and then I was excited when you got pg. I wish you a healthy rest of your pregnancy and can’t wait to see baby.

Are you feeling a bit better now? I just found out too, 13 weeks today, and I fear that this feeling will stay for a long time:///

Did you feel better eventually?

@@tequilabumbum4373 I did. Took a few weeks to get used to the idea but eventually it didn’t bother me at all and I just felt excitement to meet him. I now have a healthy, happy 7 month old boy and he’s just awesome. 🤩

@@miaand12 im so happy for you 🤗🤗 I know I will feel better too deep down, its just hard to get used to the idea right now ☺️ all the besst to you and your baby!

@@tequilabumbum4373 I have no doubt 😉 all the best!

Thanks for sharing! Also going through th same thing and wondering how you're feeling now one year later?

@@lindaballerina100 I'm sorry. But I got my mind wrapped around having a boy a few weeks later and when he was born I directly fell in love 💕 He is such a calm and sweet baby. He loves books just like I do and it's a pure joy to see him grow. I still hope to have a girl at some point of course but I'm not so lost anymore :) I hope you will also be able to experience this !

You are absolutely allowed to feel how you feel. Theo is now 7 weeks old & I will tell you that there’s no way on this earth I’d rather have any girl over him. He’s the best thing to ever happen to me & I love him more then I ever knew was possible. It’s easier to say that on the other side than feel it/believe it when you’re going through the disappointment, but when that little boy is placed in your arms you will be so thankful it’s him 🤍

Im feeling exactly the same and grieving the little girl i thought I will have 😞 It feels like it will not get better. Did you feel better eventually? Im sure you did, I would just like to hear a honest answer 🙏🏽❤️

@@tequilabumbum4373 I’m so sorry your feeling this way. I know the guilt makes it even tougher. But yes, I did start to feel better eventually! I had a hard time connecting with my baby throughout my entire pregnancy. It felt very foreign and I never really felt that maternal instinct kick in. Even after my son was born, it took me a few weeks to really feel connected to him (I had kind of a traumatic birth/delivery so I’m sure that also contributed to the delayed connection). But while I was pregnant, I found that referring to the baby as “him/he/his” made it seem more real. Buying clothes, picking out a name, decorating his nursery… all those things made me feel better about having a boy. It sounds silly, but I truly believe now that you get the kids that you’re SUPPOSED to have. It’s ok to feel sad and disappointed right now. Grieve the life you pictured with that little girl. But get ready to live the best life with your boy! It’s so much better than I ever imagined it could be ❤️

@@Candace488 thank you so much for your reply, it gives me so much hope! I actually feel a little better already, you are right, those things seem silly but they do help, like picking out a name and going shopping. Just trying to imagine a new dream, with a lil boy in it❤️ Im wishing you and your family all the best 🙏🏽

I have many of the same fears as you. I’m sad that I will possibly be the mother in law, so many people out there hate their in-laws. I’m on this mother site and their are so many posts about how they hate their mother in laws and don’t want them around their baby and how their baby doesn’t like their mother in law. It doesn’t leave much hope for the future. I know even if you have a girl you might not have the relationship you want with them but I feel the chances of being wanted or needed later down the road are greater if you have a girl. I think this is why I still have never gotten over being disappointed. I’m not sure how you move past the disappointment when you know the odds are against you.

These are my exact thoughts! Second pregnancy with a boy and I’m terrified

@@kalalily87 did your disappointment eventually go away?

@@tequilabumbum4373 I love my son more than anything and I am very close to him. He just turned 2 a few months back and he is everything to me. As far a gender disappointment goes it has never went away completely there will be times where I see or hear something and it triggers it and I get sad and a bit angry. What triggers my gender disappointment the most is anything mother in law/ daughter in law related, gender stereotypes that are boy related, thinking about the future and how I won’t get to have a mother daughter relationship like I have with my mother, being a paternal grandmother (in my mind they are like second class citizens, the maternal grandmother is the one that gets to see the grandchildren the most and be close to them) I know that’s not always true but that’s what I have in my head. I don’t think it ever will really go completely away, maybe it would lessen if I get to have a daughter in the future but as of now it still raises its nasty head from time to time. That’s why when people say, (oh, you will feel differently after you see your baby,) I wish they would say that, Yes of course I love my baby more than anything but it doesn’t take away the gender disappointment, maybe it does for some but I don’t think I’m the only one out there still having gender disappointment after their child is born. I really think it should be brought to light that gender disappointment can linger, so others know they are not alone. Hopefully this is helpful for someone still struggling to know they are not alone.

@@kalalily87 thank you so much, I appreciate your honesty🙏🏽❤️❤️ I think too that I will never stop wishing for a lil girl, but all we can do is wait, pray and enjoy in the meantime!

Did you have a girl or a boy?

@@Luna_44. I have a two month old little girl now 💓 I am thrilled and I absolutely love her to death, but I will say going back and reading this comment now makes me sad for past me. Because the love you have when your child is born is OVERWHELMING. And it is a completely new, different kind of love that your mind can’t comprehend. So it wouldn’t matter if the baby was boy, girl, purple, blue, yellow. Because your child is the most beautiful wonderful thing in this life. It’s a blessing.

@@CaraMarieDabneyOMG CONGRATS!!!🥳💖 I hope your daughter has a happy and healthy life💕💕💕

Same :( Always wanted my first to be a boy, but it turned out to be a girl. Now I feel ashamed of fearing that the second one would be also a girl, although I'm still pregnant with my first.

Same! I just found out yesterday I'm having a boy. I feel really confused and sad and I feel soo guilty for it?

@@bumblebee8t3 The guilt is so hard :( I’ve not even found out the gender yet (will be doing in 2 weeks) but I’m expecting a boy as both me and my partner have 3 brothers each and no sisters so it more likely will be a boy. The guilt I feel for wanting a girl so bad is horrible, and expressing that hurt to family and friends is even harder because I don’t want anyone thinking I’m ungrateful. Our feelings are valid regardless though and no one should be shamed for how they feel about something. It’s our experience, we are allowed to grieve and be upset. 🤍

@@charlottehardman1292 💯🤗🤗 I had lots of ppl saying I should b grateful and so on, I was thinking u have no idea how I'm feeling, its not my fault I'm feeling this way and it doesn't mean I will love him any less. Ppl can be so insensitive.

@@bumblebee8t3 are you already feeling better or not yet? Im going through the same thing, just found out today ://

@@tequilabumbum4373 I gave birth to my beautiful baby boy and I'm over the moon! I couldn't be happier, trust me I thought I wouldn't get over the gender disappointment but once he got here that soon disappeared and all I could think about was giving him lots of cuddles n love. It does get better. Before I gave birth I started buying boy outfits to help me and it slowly did get better. Once he or she is in your arms that will all fade out xxxxxx

Hahah oh my gosh 5 boys is crazy!!! That's quite the crew in your house! I know this little one is perfect for me and am so relieved I'm on the other side of the disappointment. It's crazy what pregnancy hormones do to you though!

Aww thank you so so much 💗 I could never do a public gender reveal party! It's just a lot of pressure to try to digest your feelings while all eyes are on you. I knew that wouldn't be healthy for me. That's so awesome that you're close behind me with a little boy! I've been on the hunt for allll the cute boy clothes and can't wait to share his little outfits! Also, YES! There's a lot of pressure and I've worried about him being a jerk too. I think we just have to do our best and raise them to be the best versions of themselves. The state of the world is really scary right now, but we're raising the future so we need to do it in a way that we want the world to be which is such a huge opportunity!

Yes, absolutely 🤍 You provide such an incredible gift to families! I'm relieved to be on the other side of this now and just can't wait to meet my little cutie. Being able to see him and hear his heartbeat and watch him move around really does provide such a different type of bond while they're in there 🤍

That’s awesome! Hopefully you are kind and understanding. My ultrasound tech was horrible, she was just down right mean.

Thank you so much 🤍 That's awesome that your 5 year old still wants to match. I hope mine wants to too haha. I ll take whatever amount of time I can get for us to match though!

Why did you not want a girl is because she like men more than you

@@Mackenzie88 How are you trying to be a smart ass and insult someone with such a nonsensical statement 🙄 GTFOH

I'm already feeling over the disappointment which I'm so grateful for. Now I'm just getting really anxious to meet this little man 🤍

Thanks girl! I'm excited to meet him too!! We're getting closer 💗

What do you get?

@@eunicelove5126 baby boy#3 🥰

Oh my gosh that's so amazing! I hope this little guy wants to be as close to me as I want to be to him. I cannot wait to meet him and have him in my arms 🤍

It absolutely isn't & I think that's ok. I wish it was more normal to have true feelings out there. That's amazing that you have a sweet little mama's boy 💗 I know this little one is perfect for me and now I just can't wait to meet him!

Weird you got it all twisted