Dont worry about being attacked online. its comon here cause people here can be very toxic online. but in general noone has anything against negative arguments or if you got other experience in live. just dont take it personal if someone feels offended and stay above stupid people who are not willing to comunicate in propper ways (greeting from germany)

Please ignore the attackers. There are trolls who will attach anyone for any reason on the internet. I ignore those who attack me on social media.

@@Malte133 Moin, dem kann ich nur zustimmen!

Germans are to honest to be polite, US Americans are to polite to be honest. Do not get to much frustrated. Germans also like to complain...

@@karinland8533 she literally gave this example in her video. It's kind of an annoying "excuse" for Germans to use. She even seemed frustrated by it if you did not realize that.

Guter name :D

Moin Klaus, bin ganz deiner Meinung. LG Ben

@@Malte133 He Malte, der heißt wirklich so! XD

Blöderweise können viele damit nicht umgehen

Uhm okay... 😐

Krass. Ich kenne keinen über 40 Jährigen, der sich nicht die Körperbehaarung entfernt. Ich bin 48 und mein Freundes / Bekanntenkreis auch so zwischen 30 - 60.

@@IBex__ Genau... ich werde demnächst 50 und bin auch kein Freund von zu viel Haaren.... Im Winter nehme ich es vielleicht nicht ganz so genau , aber im Sommer ab, was über ist :-)

@@IBex__ It takes a gay guy to appreciate body hair on a man. Nothing more sexy than this treasure trail on some of these eye candies. 👁

Bin 30 und rasiere mir nicht die Achseln und auch nicht die Beine. Und die sind teilweise echt fies (weswegen ich aufgehört habe sie jeden Tag zu rasieren, was nötig gewesen wäre). Ich werde betrachtet, wie ein Alien. Mein Freund unterstützt das zum Glück und wehrt sich auch gegen Stereotype. Aber, als ich Mitte 20 war, waren die Blicke und Sprüche von allen Seiten echt schwer auszuhalten. Fast genauso frustrierend war, dass meine Elterngeneration meinen Struggle nicht nachvollziehen konnte. "Rasier dich doch einfach nicht." Ja, als wenn das so einfach wäre in meiner Generation, Mama.

@@KoRnChEn , wenn sie Dich wirklich stören dann lass sie weglasern

Oh I'm glad I'm not alone with my CA-->DE experiences haha :D 💕

Are you single?

@@Lofimusic3783No.

Richtig. Ich finde eigenartig, dass Leute schreiben, es gäbe kein Äquivalent.

@@Akkordeondirigent Haben es wahrscheinlich selten gehört und dann irgendwann vergessen. Ich selber kann mich nur an zwei Momente erinnern, das gehört zu haben, die beide in der Grundschule stattfanden. Das ist jetzt aber auch schon 15 Jahre her.

I agree. But I don't turn into a liar if you ask me. That doesn't help anyone if you keep quiet about things that are just shit. And if there is nothing positive to say, then so be it. And either the criticized person accepts it and knows how to appreciate my honesty or not and never has to have anything to do with me again. The same people can then also be sure that if there is something good to say, then I am just as honest. With me everyone knows where they are at any time when I am asked. Dem stimme ich zu. Aber ich werde deswegen nicht zum Lügner, wenn man mich fragt. Das hilft keinem weiter, wenn man Dinge verschweigt die einfach mal Scheiße sind. Und wenns nichts positives zu sagen gibt, dann ist das so. Und entweder nimmt die kritisierte Person es hin und weiß meine Ehrlichkeit zu schätzen oder eben nicht und muß nie wieder etwas mit mir zu tun haben. Die gleichen Leute können sich dann aber auch sicher sein, dass wenn es etwas Gutes zu sagen gibt, ich dann genauso ehrlich bin. Bei mir weiß jeder woran er ist zu jeder Zeit, wenn ich gefragt werde.

@@TomTomson81 I do agree with your mindset, but I also think that, if someone thinks this way, if you like to dish it, you also have to take what’s been served to you. And most people can’t. Actually, that Lila often says people get angry or leave angry comments is proof, that many can’t take what’s served, but only like to dish out.. Now, I don’t mean you with this comment, I’m only speaking in general. Also, what most people don’t get is, there’s honesty and then there’s inconsiderate rudeness. Just because you say every hurtful thing that could be technically true, that’s not being honest, honesty doesn’t exclude consideration. (Again, I don’t mean you personally) Lila is a good example of honesty, when she’s addressing differences in behavioral patterns or cultural differences, she is honest with what she’s saying and it’s obviously true, but she isn’t inconsiderate about how she’s saying all that.

A nearly equivalent is the older german phrase : Reden ist Silber, Schweigen ist Gold - Talking is silver, say nothing is gold.

@@janfrankfischer2479 dude that phrase is meant in a different way. -Reden ist Silber schweigen ist Gold. Man soll auch mal zuhören. Vom zuhören kann man was lernen. Man soll über das nachdenken was man sagt bevor man etwas sagt. Oder man sagt nichts weil es nicht angebracht ist etwas zu sagen. So wie das komprimieren von information um schnell auf den Punkt zu kommen ohne um den heißen Brei zu reden. @hi from Hamburg Meistens haben Weniger schlaue Menschen oder ADHS Kandidaten so wie viel Redner oder Dumm Schwätzer den Satz an den Kopf geklatscht bekommen. 😌😅🙈

@@urlauburlaub2222 Hi 🙂 I want to add, that in East Germany (GDR/ DDR) before reunification the number of people shaving body hair was much smaller. The reasons are probably much less influence from abroad and the lower living standard, which is usually accomponied with a more conservative opinion. Actually for men at this time shaving was no consideration at all. So East Germany was perhaps two decades behind West Germany (FRG/ BRD) in this development.

@@urlauburlaub2222 I can only laugh. Obviously you have a big goal - to spread the maximum of rubbish. 🤦‍♂️😄

@@urlauburlaub2222 Ive just finished replying to you, and now I am not sure I should think about such resentful views. No, that is all I have to say. But I certainly get a whiff of the hostility directed at... it seems to be Americans, or is it feminists, or who else the projection is aimed at. Wherever you are from, you don't seem smart enough to be anything like a German. I see why this lady gets uncomfortable about nasty comments on her podcast.

Thank you Kasia. I hope you get to visit us in America. Welcome. We have love for Poland here. There are many Polish businesses and some Polish foods available in the stores. We are open minded here and multicultural. Identity isn't an issue when we are given the principles. Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness not matter your beliefs or if your conservative or liberal or something else as long as this is respected you will be fine; That guy is incorrect. There are consquences for racism here. The cons or pro depending on who you ask is we don't force people to pay for health insurance or for colleges because we have massive influx of people who move here out of necessity. It wouldn't be fair to everyone. Education is truly a privilage here. Its expensive but I went to Brazil for my medical needs. It was very nice. I qualified for assistance through STEM program funding. There is assistance even for foreigners. The waitlist is 7 years for visas right now but priority cases can be made for sooner visas. Taxes are low here 22% if single, 11% if married this is common if your income is less then $100,000 a year or so; Depends in the state. Business thrives here but not all businesses are fair to their employees. Wages are very high. Even gas station workers get paid bonuses for being hired. Everywhere is hiring right now. Good luck to you if you try out the lifestyle one day. Its alot of work but you can get ahead quicker and retire quicker if you plan out your goals and stay diligent. I promise you that you can make friendship easily. Not many people get offended easily. I appreciate the love. I hope this information was helpful. Poland is truly a unique and beautiful place with delicious food. 💛🌟 Wishing you happiness.

@@urlauburlaub2222 "Without a clear identity leads to all the problems we see on the news". Really? My experience has shown me that extremely clear and narrow parameters can be dangerous in quite a few situations. Of course Germany comes to mind first, followed by the apartheid South Africans. America describes people as black or white, although I haven't met anyone who is actually black OR white. Many people claim to be conservative or democrats, instead of a bit of both. It is a reason to be free of a 2 party system. I don't know where you are from, and that doesn't matter. But my life has involved ongoing changes in a multicultural country. I have changed partners, jobs, cities, homes, and beliefs. I have followed different belief systems and different aspects of my genetic makeup and family traditions. I am not a Maori, but am strongly influenced by our treaty partners here in New Zealand. My children and grandchildren are all tangata whenua. My partners have been English, Maori and Pakeha, and more. They have had various occupations. We have moved from city life to a rural community. We have been South islanders and North islanders. We have been Aucklanders and then part of the Waikato. As the family scapegoat, the family I had for several decades I don't expect to ever see again. My five family members plus nieces, nephew, brothers in laws and sisters all vanished from my life within a few months. Many cousins and other relatives are more far off than ever. I have found new families, new sisters... I had to. If I moved to a different country, I would be staunch about my identity. I wouldn't want to lose it. But in time I would assimmilate, and hopefully it would be a country that accepts newcomers. I have Jewish ancestry hence my love of these extraordinary people. I have Scottish ancestry and many Scottish ancesters. I have a Polish first name and British surname. My partner is a bushman and we spend time in our native bush. But I'm also a city girl. Adjusting to change is important as well as keeping all the foundational core of ouf identity. That is my 2 cents worth today. Ata marie. Shalom. From New Zealand, with its melting pot of people. (There are no Maori here who don't have non-Maori genes. I was once very young and now I'm an elder. I am just saying that various things change. We once fought the Italians and Turks. Today we love them, just like our Maori). Once we could spend a two cent piece. Now we have none.

Moin, kennst du den Kanal von 'Jay in the USA - Mein Leben in den USA' Berlinerin, die nach Arlington geheiratet hat und Vids auf Deutsch macht. Wir waren, in den 80. 3 J. zusammen, bis wir geheiratet haben. Tochter kam pünklich 9 Monde später. Grins.. 2. Heirat nach 9 j., da war 2. Tochter 3 J. alt und eines der Blumenmädchen. Grins LG aus stormarn

German Girl in America had to change her channel name to Feli from Germany

thank you so much for your nice comment! :'D I'll keep sharing my adventures in Germany :) hehe no one is ever too old to learn anything but I understand how you feel since German is definitely not so fun to learn I'll agree XD

haha now i know where i got that from! i am considered blunt and impolite because i speak the truth, when others would not. i am many generations American,but i have a german great grandfather, he was very strict and forthright. A pure soul, for the most part. i am also called fearless, as nobody else will dare to say what i say. Or, i say it first, and others then feel it's safe to say too. Have i been punished for it? YES.

Ohh, r/de and other German Reddit communities are not representative of Germans. It's a toxic shithole. If you go to e.g. a bar or a cafe and ask people directly, they will answer your questions better.

Not really...we 're just fed up with any kind of nazi stuff and dumb questions on it.

Oder ganz kurz: Nicht reagieren!

And the more i like him the less i would have him to pay. Because I do want to start as equals. Not dependent and as I owe him anything

If she earns the same - or even more - than I do, why not splitt the bill?

Yes do more some American observations I expected ,Burmuda shorts versus Euro shorts, didn't know German men shaved anything but their beards.

Well that's be very generous Ms Wilding

I am a German in my 40s, and I was very surprised about the arm hair address. Either I am more polite than average or Lilas sample was to small or younger men have applied more directness and less courtesy than their parent generation (cultural change due to individualization, thus changes of attention on politeness and manners).

I didn't know my phone could massage me. Will try!

@@halbgefressen9768 LOL🤣 that would be really nice!

Depending on which part of America you live in that can be the same. I live in the New England region which is a few states in the northeastern corner and we have a reputation of being more rude. I myself am not sure but Ive found people in both the south and in places like California to be more polite. I wouldnt consider the rudeness to be an indication of honesty however.

"men doing hot yoga" - Snowflakes should be careful...

Well, the generalization would be a big misconception. It's a minority that is obviously annoying.

I understand that too! I don’t like “dating” multiple people either - it would just not be called dating

Also I love your blue eyes...beautiful.

Americans in the north speak through body language (in my experience) a lot of Europeans don’t really know how to read body language so they don’t realize we are being rude when we are. Southerners however are very mean if you disrespect them.

I was a military child & traveled all over the U.S.. I was surprised to hear that U.S. southerners don’t like U.S. northerners because of their bluntness/rudeness. I never really saw what they’re talking about. I guess the ones claiming this had more experience than me or had a bias already.

Indeed, i think its a regional thing from northern germany, i once lived in Bremen and learned this tradition there. I never heard of it before

My way Was always to pay the first date.. and if she wants to pay i offer the second date... Has worked pretty good back in the days of dating

He would not ask to go out if he was not interested... thats how I see it

@@reko7264 yeah i think it's a good way to make sure it's even :)

@@karinland8533 naja, sometimes they just want to get to know you in a friend way!

@@k8con yes, first you hang out together to get to know each other . He is interessted in you, how you are as a person ( hopefully you too) that is the most dt important part about dating. Then over time, it might involve into something romanic. It might take some weeks. So German dating is the process to get to know each other. If you are in a romantic relationship it is not dating any more. Then you are a couple. It is more committed without talking about it. In might be a misconseption of my self but for me US dating sounds like: I like your looks- lets date (multiple people at a time)- lets have sex- get to know eachother- maby we put a label on it If you stay just friends it is not a problem , because everyone is paying for them self, so there is no presure

Hi

I want a serious relationship