Have you ever seen a covert's mask slip? It's not pretty, is it? Thanks for watching!!

It sounds like narcissists are very emotionally immature people that refuse to grow up.

1. Just disagree with them 2. Just ignore them They will blow up in a heartbeat!

After love bombing they are really good at forgetting your birthday, anniversary etc. or using important dates to hurt you

The interesting thing about narcissists is that they LOVE to try to tell you negative things about yourself but FLIP OUT if you so much as suggest something that THEY need to improve.

The first time I saw a mask slip completely when when I praised someone else. They went ballistic, tearing that person apart. Try pointing out the good qualities in someone else. They can't stand it.

Let’s not play games with crazy people if you notice something is wrong and their actions don’t match their words or your gut feeling tells you something is wrong you should just wish them well and get the hell out of there before they start doing some damage to your life

Projection! Look for projection.

They yawn to invalidate what you're saying, and they can't stand boundaries - there are numerous signs

2:55 ask for empathy while they don't need anything from you 5:40 Say "no" to something they want 6:30 Ask about their ex 7:30 Push their known buttons (challenge their false sense of self) 9:20 Ask about something you know they're hiding

The covert I was with would NEVER let me see his pay packet, yet ALWAYS insisted on seeing mine! Narcs tend to be money and materialisticlally possessed!

I exposed 2 covert narcissists in my life by asking for empathy. They both were friends of 30 plus years! My God I am a magnet! I am doing everything in my power to change myself so this doesn't happen anymore.

"I knew when you were lying...I just let you THINK I didn't to keep the peace. That time is OVER."

My first covert relationship almost killed me. Pure torture. Soul wrenching. I still don’t know how I survived but I did. Coverts are by farrrr the worst. I tried dating again after a long hiatus and just got “entangled” with one and this time I did ask basic questions that my instincts told me he’d be offended about. Even though he was asking for my deepest truths. So once I realized he was not responding to the basic question such as living situation. I asked again but with more of a straight forward approach. And boom his entire drama filled situation came out ridiculously. Here’s the deal. These folks can drain the light outta anything. Be careful. At least with the grandiose narcissists they show their dysfunction. Coverts mirror and become everything you’ve wanted and more. And they are the opposite. They are just utilizing your energy which makes them “appear” better 🤦🏻‍♀️

I have had a relationship with a covert narcissist woman. The first six months there were less problems or things going on. I felt great, proud, confident, yeah, tjis is how it should be in a relationship. The last two months before I ended were hell. This person has put her true authentic self aside years ago (in her childhood I guess) and let's her false identity control her life. Covert narcissist are excellent actors (love bombing, gaslighting, scape goating, use their flying monkeys, silent treatment, fake behaviour) and they know how to use this to perform. At the end I felt empty, used and abused, wasn't myself anymore, didn't know what to do anymore what was good enough for her. You really start doubting yourself. People who haven't been with a covert narcissist person can't imagine what somebody has gone through, because it is also unbelievable the stuff you are dealing with. They want to destroy your life and identity. I am so happy that I have my life back.

Also, I think it's very important to note that many covert narcissist don't explode in overt rage, but instead use very passive aggressive means of punishing you, such as: prolong silent treatments, withholding, refusing to answer you, doing things you asked them not to do and denying it or feigning ignorance that you ever ask them not to, and a whole bunch of subtle things that are designed to get your goat. The name of the game for many of them is "plausible deniability".

I have one more. Confide in them something vulnerable to you during the love bombing stage. Even better, make something up that looks like it has bothered you. Wait after a couple of disagreements to see if they use it against you. Especially if what your "bad" experience is irrelevant to the topic you're fighting about, and they go out of reasoning in order to bring it up just to hurt you, then you know this person is to be avoided.

The covert Narc is very sneaky

I do not recommend giving it time, because that just gives the toxic person a greater capacity to imprint himself or herself upon your soul by the time you break up. That’s just gonna make your parting hurt all the more

Just tell them “no” and watch what happens.

Be careful of the biggest victim in the room the “deserves” special treatment because of their sad sad story

The shy, fragile female still threatened to kill me when I wouldn’t give in to her demands. No narc is benign; all are capable of violence.

They'll set you up too sometimes by asking for your help or advice, and when you give them well thought out help, they reject it and you and it creates distance, i.e, an askhole.

OMG saying NO and then standing back and watch the toddler tantrum happen. Then watch THEM accuse YOU of being controlling, manipulative, always taking the fun from their life, never letting them make decisions for the self. If you’re not deeply embedded with them, it’s at first a shock and then laugh out loud embarrassing for them. Well worth videoing them in this state to show the family and friends who the Narc has fooled as being the “perfect” human being, partner and parent.

When asking for empathy they might just fall asleep on you

They are fractured, broken souls without their own identity, sad really.

These rages could last for hours and there was absolutley nothing i could do or say to diffuse them, like someone possessed!!!

Do something that they consider an "inconvenience" to them, their time, etc. Broke my leg in 2016 and my narc literally dropped me off at the ER and told me that it was going to be a while and I would be there forever, be fine by myself and then went grocery shopping. That is when I started to realize what the hell was going on. Any inconvenience to THEIR schedule, THEIR needs, THEIR and you will see that mask slip.

Can you tell when a covert narcissist is lying ? = Every time he opens his mouth to speak

Anyone else made the experience that Coverts have a extreme problem with their age/ getting older and simply rage if you bring up that topic?

Make them responsible for what they do like lying, manipulating, abusing

Just one thing. Just say No to something simple in the beginning when you meet someone. 😉

They are often great story tellers and are either self portrayed as faultless victims - or as virtuous courageous heroes. While in fact I notice they are kinda wimpy - one time I tried to get a narc to try downhill skiing - I saw that she was too afraid - would rather go tubing down a hill - often they are remarkably similar to little kids. It’s like their emotions were somehow crystalized or freeze dried somewhere in childhood. One video I watched says they are 2 years olds emotionally. It’s kinda breathtaking & spooky

It's so refreshing to know that there is a name for this abuse. It's so subtle, that you don't even know it's happening. The whole time when you're trying to fix things, they make it seem like you're the problem. Or they'll work on what's wrong for a little while; only to go back to what they were doing before. And with his family, if I brought something to his attention, then I was the one who was wrong because I took what they said out of context. I'll leave out other details. But counseling didn't work. It was the same thing. I must be a magnet for these types of people. The overt narcissist is easy to spot, while the covert is not! Thankfully the next time around I will be more careful and cautious. If I feel something is terribly wrong, I will act on it and not brush it aside.

It’s weird how they are text book behavioral.

They also talk about other. Watch out how they talk about their friends or even past friends or family members. EVERYONE did them wrong and they were just minding their own business and 💣 boom huge problems and these people HATE HIM/HER FOR LIFE!!!

Yes!! My ex is this exactly. When I figured out what was happening and I didn't respond the way he wanted, the tantrums would be horrible and unbelievably childish. And its also really hard to put into logical words why you are afraid of them and their 'puishments'. To this day, I still have trouble explaining why I was afraid of crossing him, however today, I have no fear of him or anyone like him...SO happy to say :) thank you for this video!!

Well my intuition proved a complete unveiling I discovered I am an Empath at 55 years old 2 children and a huge amount of abuse. Just so happy for amazing people like you to help guide us through. xx

Coverts are really really well practiced. I missed many clues: 1. He knew how to date a woman. Just enough attention but not over the top. 2. He focused solely on me, seemed uninterested in pursuing anyone or anything else. They have no hobbies or passions to pursue. 3. He would be very quiet/almost blank when we were interacting socially at a dinner with strangers. 4. He acted nice in public and pulled the Jekyll/Hyde as soon as we were alone one night. I had created a narc injury and had no clue until much later what that was about. 5. He was the greatest at acknowledging his bad behavior and begging for forgiveness then would top the love bombing while seeming like the happiest man on earth. One year and I was done ✅ Coverts are beyond crazy.

Tell them what you really want for your birthday, or a place you want to visit. They will not allow it to happen. Introduce them to your friend and watch/listen to their reaction.

Sometimes I reckon love bombing IS NOT TALKED ABOUT ENOUGH regarding Narcissism!!

I get the eye-rolling and a lot of huffing and puffing whenever any subject is broached that is out of his "comfort zone ". Along with the word salad, there is some twisting and gaslighting. He only gaslights himself at this point because I am on to him. Never let a narc see you sweat. No response can sometimes be the best response. I refuse to hand my power over to these emotional malcontents. Now I can plan my escape of 20 years of covert abuse. Thank you for this valuable information. Subbed--

Great video. Thank you! Another thing that helps with exposing them, is to openly share your knowledge of them with relatives. I am still proud of the fact that I disregarded my psychiatrist's advice, and sent a letter to my father's last girlfriend. He was already planning on taking over her council flat, once she kicked the bucket. With my letter, and a later letter from the Council alerting her to the fact of my father's enquiries, she finally got enough knowledge and listened to her intuition. She kicked him out. And even then, he raged about still having a key to the door. So, she had to have the locks changed. It's a community effort. Don't shut up, speak out, warn people. In my case, the old lady was able to recover her health and finally, her children from a previous marriage were able to visit her again. They were so glad she kicked him out. Without my letter, she would have kept making excuses for him, and believing his gas lighting, blame shifting, and "poor me" victim statements.

My wife is a Covert, its been 17 years of struggle. I was so happy to be able to put a name to it. What has really got me fired up is she has begun to make a noticeable affect on the kids, especially the oldest who is 15. He has become callus and shows signs of lacking empathy. Knowing that I'm not the bane of her existence has really gave me a better view point when she gaslights. Its almost comical except for the fact that my youngest (11) is really hurt when she sees her flip out. Thank you for these videos, they have helped a lot.

The covert narcissist I lived with was constantly annoyed about something. I used to try and make him feel better any way I could: empathising, agreeing, pacifying, nothing worked. One day an unexpected bill came in so I decided to get in first with the indignation. "Look at this!" I said, "as if we haven't given them enough money already!" (This was echoing a regular complaint of his). His reaction was completely unexpected. I had thought I was doing the right thing, showing him that I felt the same way as he did. But no, he turned on me! "Why are you so aggressive?! Why do you have to make this into more than it is?!" Talk about deflated. I was like a burst balloon! It's funny but this was the point at which I actually realised there was something very wrong with him.

And another very early sign: they'll do or say something (usually both do and say something) SO bonkers, that you're thinking ... whaaat..?? and then you try to analyse what on earth that was.

I am learning that I am married to a covert narcissist. My husband is very successful and very intelligent...so it made it harder to spot. However all the gaslighting and the lack of object consistency as well as no emotional empathy tells me this must be the case. I did see all these signs from the beginning but gave him the benefit of the doubt because he was stressed at work, or his ex-wife was being difficult or something. Wow!

When it comes to covert narcissists, there's a good chance you'll look like a lying fool if you try to confide in others. He's great at helping the elderly person carry something or whatever. He seems great and I seem crazy.

I feel we all play the role of narcissists atleast once in out lifetime. This is to teach us different perspectives......But that's no excuse. Narcissists are still bad.

My narc had two kinds of voices, one sugar sweet like a bird and a deep dark and evil. When she was talking to their friends and family it was dark. After a situation when I heared me screaming at her, “...is there really no empathy inside you?“, I got my first silent treatment. Then I gave her my narctests. She learned the word NO, I took my trust back. At the end I asked her, if she really was thinking, that I'm not able to go. She went in a very deap tone not looking at me, “no I think, you are able to go...“ She was right. I was hurt and angry and so I played a few weeks, it worked, but not as good as I wanted to. They might not know who they are, but they know you even better than you know yourself. Don't play, narcs are knowing what you are doing before you know, it's their game, don't waste time. Forgive yourself and just stay away, you're too beautyfull. Saludos cordales de South America

I found out when I called her on her BS, and brought up specific examples or told her that she didn't have a reason for what she was doing but only an excuse... and ended our friendship right there on the spot. I realized later I was in the "devaluation" phase, but me "discarding" her just put her over the edge. Watch out for what comes next though, you'll learn the true meaning of "vindictive"... "Hell hath no fury like a narcissist scorned."

Correct ...again...good video. By the way saying no usualy ends up with them giving you the silent treatment as your punishment for saying no...ridiculous...lol 😂

True story. My narc went into a rage on our honeymoon when I played a recording of, wait for it, our wedding vows. I had no idea what to do next.

Narcissism is a mental disorder !! You shouldn't put up with them !! Stay safe!!!👍👍

He had a complete emotional breakdown/temper tantrum because I couldn't drop off a pair of his pants that I had and told him he would have to pick them up. He claimed I was taking things to a whole different level of crazy and that's why he never wanted to date me. I was then blocked. It's highly intriguing when you give them a dose of their own medicine and they absolutely lose their minds over something minuscule and insignificant, but when you come to them about serious matters you're the over emotional one.

Thank you for this video as it is the absolute 100% truth! My ex was a covert narcissist, his thing was with mind games and a lot of avoidance and ghosting. Good riddens

Yes, I've seen the mask slip, though I didn't realize it at the time. I genuinely thought my (now ex) covert GF was one of the sweetest loveliest people I'd ever met. Seemed empathic & spiritual. She even brought up topics like NVC (non-violent communication) and the difference between being 'nice', and being 'kind'. Seemed hard done by - definitely played the victim role. She was absolutely "no contact" with her ex. It wasn't until much later, with the benefit of 2020 hindsight (and learning about covert narcs) that I realized how much I'd been walking on eggshells, how every disagreement had been subtly twisted to be my fault (which I ended up accepting responsibility for), how we only really did things that she wanted to do, etc, etc. The mask first slipped after she'd been pressuring me to travel overseas with her, while I was in a slow patch with work and was only just getting by (she wasn't earning much either, but had been saving to travel all year, and only recently suggested I go with her, which I was in no position to do). It got to the point I had a breakdown over it. I practically begged her for empathy. I got a stone cold response that just seemed disgruntled that she wasn't getting the outcome she wanted. That was the first red flag, though sadly I didn't recognize it at the time. Later I saw the clash of two covert narcs - her with my flatmate (though I didn't realize then what I was seeing). Jeez that was an uncomfortable tension of mutual silent treatment & passive aggression! The relationship ended when I set boundaries, and a 'no' around behavior that basically amounted to cheating, to which she blew up and 'discarded' our relationship over. Perhaps the most shocking is how thoroughly she had me fooled.

When you talked about the ex being the narcissist best friend , I seriously could cry, you are so spot on!!! My bf ex gf was the topic of all our arguments, during the relationship he would punish with the silent treatment because I couldn’t accept her . Thankfully we broke up 2 months ago. 4 days after we broke up his cat had to be put down and guess who was there , the ex gf (I know this as she told me ) I’m so out of it and feel so relieved !

I just resigned due to a narcissistic boss. Life is too short to tolerate abuse

My #1 advice is to always give it time. It can be hard to rely on cut and dry “signs” at the very beginning because covert narcs are very good actors and it’s difficult to see who they really are at first. You have to keep a cool head throughout the love bombing and really focus on getting to know HIM instead of getting caught up in romance and fairytales. The last guy I dated had some telltale signs (which could be attributed to being a narc or a little bit eccentric tbh) but most were much more subtle. For example he didn’t say his ex wife was “crazy”, he said she was very young, artistic, “ungrounded” and not ready for marriage at the time. At the time I thought that was not a typical narc thing to say but now I realise it was a carefully watered down variation of “she’s crazy” because he is VERY smart. Also, in the beginning he was very very good at faking empathy, he accepted hearing “no”, and so on- so for a short while I ignored the feeling in my gut and told myself he seems fine, don’t be paranoid. I am cautious though, gradually over 2 months he showed his true colours more and more and eventually it was obvious what I was dealing with. 2 months boom, next

Often its like no reaction at all. Totally no response....or just..."i dont know"

Yes i my eyes were finally opened to the fact that my ex husband was a covert narcissist through sites that popped up on KZfaq. I thought wow!! That's exactly what he does. I realized that i was never the problem. I just had a codependency and kept hoping to see what i needed in him. It never happened. I spent 20 years with him. 10 years married and it wasnt until i had my children that i realized i needed to get out from under his abuse. I have been living in my own place with my kids for a year now and he still goes out of his way to keep control of me and abuse me by not taking the kids when he knows he is supposed to and not paying child support. Thank you for your awesome informative channel. It is helping me to stay strong and recognize a narcissist pretty much within the first few weeks of meeting them

When they end it they go away without considering your emotions-and then come back like nothing happened-

Convert narcs like my own mother. She lavishes me with compliments, and tells me how she loves me the best (bs she's always favored my criminal brother), tells me im the best in everything i do, she tells me how shes always had my back (bs she's always been my enemy and she has always been at war with me, only i didn't know it). She talks about how abusive her mother was with her all the time, so i and the rest of the world feel sorry for her. (She's a hypocrite cuz she was so much more abusive with me as a child). And then when my back is turned she's doing her best talking shit on me and with 'hatred' in her voice, saying outrageous lies about me to get 'my' family and all 'my' friends to hate me and look down on me and disrespect me and ultimately unfriend me. She was even doing her best at trying to turn my own daughters against me, telling them things like i never wanted them and i don't love them, teaching them to call me by my first name, instead of mom. I went no contact with her for 12 years and should have left it at that. But stupid me reconciled with her because i found out she's got beginning stages of Alzheimer's. The last time she was in my home (i invited her for christmas for a few days cuz i felt sorry for her she was gonna spend it alone). She kept talking about how beautiful our home is, while she went around accumulating items around my home and hid them in 'my own suitcase' in my closet. Things like a wool coat, my bathing suit, an $85 bottle of vitamins (i had set aside for my daughter), my husbands pants and most importantly...important original documents that she knew i really really needed. She woke up at 4 in the morning when everyone was asleep, put the suitcase in a garbage bag and took a walk about a block or 2 thru the neighborhood and threw my things away like garbage. It took me years to figure out that this is how my things were going missing. IT WAS ALWAYS HER!!! I thought i was going crazy. We have a video camera now recording any movement going in and out of the house at night. That's how i caught her, but by the time we realized things were missing and thought to review the tape... the damage was already done... it was already days later that she was already gone. She's been doing this to me since i was a teenager (since i became of age) with all my favorite things and clothes that really flatterered me. Who TF does that to their own daughter who is trying to love her??? And i was always a sweet kid and a real good daughter to her.

My husbands mask falls off when it comes to empathy. My son from a previous marriage was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer in May of 2015. He lived in CA with his wife and 2 kids and I immediately got on a plane to be with him. Within 2 weeks of being gone my husband is wanting (almost in to the point of demanding) that I come home. There is no empathy in him at all. I stopped calling home and waited for him to call me for updates on my son and he NEVER did. My son passed away in September of the same year which brought me to my knees and my will to live was gone. I called my husband to book a flight for me to come home. There was absolutely no empathy in him. When he picked me up from the airport I was exhausted and crying when I saw him. I just needed to be held. I got nothing.. I am crying now just going back to that scene when I realize "what kind of man did I marry?" All his lights were out and no one was home during my grieving process.

The lying, about little things, tantrums and rage were relentless. My head would spin.

Scary stuff. I broke up with a guy because i thought he was nuts but in hind sight, he was a covert narc. He was constantly going 'woe is me,' and i wanted to boost his confidence. Little did I know he was just an entitled piece of something that expected the world to understand and recognize him. He would be unbelievably kind usually, but blow up when he feels rejected. Humble, down to earth, lacks confidence is how I would've described him at the beginning! Cannot believe it.

The direct conversation to see if they empathise may not work if they are trying to dupe you. My covert narc was my main supporter over many years and I felt he was sympathetic and empathetic until I learned that was so only because I provided narc supply. Plus he enjoyed being a help-a-holic. The more effective way to test empathy is to see how they react to TV news reports on child or animal cruelty, extreme poverty related catastrophes, miscarriages of justice, natural disasters. Narcs won't give a damn or they will blame the victim or just say something more neutral like 'that's terrible (in a tone of voice that suggests they don't care at all) but it's nothing to do with me.' They never sympathise, react with emotion at someone else's distress. Basically, nothing is terrible to them if it is not happening to them or they are not directly involved with causing the problem. There will be no hand over mouth OMG reactions with a narc, offers to donate to a charitable fund, just a bored eye roll or smirk or sheer indifference or they will give an intellectual account of why it is pointless to help or donate because 'poverty will always be with us, why try to change anything. It must have been a narc who invented the saying: 'the poor will always be with us.' Sociopathic narcs might even find it funny to see someone in extreme pain or suffering. Covert Narcs are also racist and the male ones sexist too. It won't be long before they start making derogatory or demeaning statements about categories they regard as inferior. Narcs are competitive as well. They may seem to empathise with you, on your bad day, e.g., You tell him "I got made redundant today, I'll have to find a new job, and I won't even be entitled to severance pay." But they will turn the conversation around and say something about their experience similar to yours (feigning empathy, when really being competitive) E.g., I know how you feel. I was made redundant but luckily I kept my job and got promoted soon after, which is why I drive a Jaguar now. All the same, that made me feel really terrible and it took weeks for me to get over it and it still upsets me to this day. I think what my boss did to me was terrible, don't you? Sometimes I still get nightmares about it, and it really affects me and I think I may need to see a GP to get a prescription for sleeplessness. I just feel so tired all the time with lack of sleep thinking about how close I was to being in your situation now. Can you give me a massage because your story is making me feel stressed?" Meanwhile your far more serious problem - having no income coming in until you get another job - doesn't come into the equation. It's all about him/her. With sociopaths, they will outright lie and cheat to con sympathy out of you, and to get some material benefit they don't deserve like crowd funding to support their cancer treatment and they haven't even been diagnosed with Cancer. Narcs also always want to hang around those they despise too. They will never be good enough in their eyes, yet they will still want to hang around with them and smear campaign them or gossip about them behind their backs whilst putting on a friendly face when they are present. Normal people want to distance themselves from those they hate and be with those they like. Not narcs.

When the mask slips it's like an explosion.

I think what sucks the most is that a narc watching this wouldnt actually have the humility to recognize any of these traits to change. We all are narcissistic to some extent, and when my ego is being exposed I feel the temperature in my body rise, and my face get red sort of like I got caught in my own shit.. but it's good, because then the next step is to change.

Yep, I've seen the mask slip and fall off crashing to the ground. It's a scary, hurtful, confusing sight.

No reaction. Gray rock. My ex was in a rage 24/7 when I did this

Being the victim for 30 years, it makes it different. I exploded when I caught her lying. I had a better story to tell related to what she just told me. Does that make me a narcissist? I was loyal and never cheated. Never needed to tell lies. Never gas lighted anybody. Never tried to ruin anyone's day, life or minute. These lines get blurred, the longer you are with them...

These just popped up in my KZfaq feed --- I spent almost 20 years in a Narrcicist relationship & didn't know it until about 3 months after I left & everything dark came to light... If I could give 1 piece of advice on how I have overcome this ( I know that this is easier said than done, I had done a lot of other self-awareness work prior to this which is why I was able to walk away.) You have to realize & accept that you were in love with a figment of your imagination. You were NOT in love with that person because that person NEVER existed. They say once you know what a narcissist is you will never get into another relationship with a narcissist but I think they are wrong because it's harder to spot these covert's ( which this is something new for me) I ended up in another relationship with the covert, on a positive note I realized really fast & Ran as fast as I could. :) Thank-you for the video's

It’s great to see more DV/ narcissism abuse channels popping up. You provide good examples of how the terminology can translate to life.

The reaction to my stuff is always “Oh” so done ✅

The guy I was dealing with had 2 ex wives. One, he painted as some demon b*tch from Hell, the other quite Saintly. The fist had cut him off completely, the other was still talking with him, often. I always wondered why he saw them both in such a polar opposite light. You've answered that for me ;) Thanks!

Just to let yall know, the 3rd answer they give about their ex is almost nothing. My ex narc claimed to have forgotten the name of his ex and refused to share a lot info about them.

Thank you for you videos. I have watched a few today, and you are really helping me get through a rough time. It is so comforting to listen to you validate my experience.

I think the best way to tell is too say no to them about something. If its still in the beginning, they probably wont freak out, but they will still try to pressure or persuade you. Granted everything is kinda situational, we all have moments where we could have been more empathetic, or moments where we could have accepted a no more gracefully. the mark of the narcissist is their manipulation, constantly sidestepping any responsibility, lack of respect for boundries, and a delight in rule breaking

I am just adding to what you have said, also noticed that grandiose narcissists are often far better and more willing to give empathy, fake it better and not get keyed up by. For me all convert narcissists I've known were also neurotics; grew up the outcast no one liked, felt unfairly unappreciated when the truth is they had a reputation for catty nastiness towards other kids. Covert Narcissist tend to always get keyed up and rudely dismissive towards others in pain, their victim complex prevents them from even pretending. Needless to say empathy is a killer test.

No I didn’t see it Slip...I saw it fall off! 🏃‍♀️run as fast as you can! Away from the sneaky narc! Run fast!!!! Don’t look back. They do not change.

They really fake empathy at funerals the narc I was with wanted to be the most important person there crying the loudest even though they were no tears honestly what a sham just found your channel really enjoying your posts Thank you xxx

Everything you said is so true!!! I’ve been out of my bad relationship for over two years. I gray rocked mine. Now I can laugh at what a jerk they are. Thanks for this video, I could relate and laugh at the same time! 😀☕️

OMG!! I have goosebumps from all I’m realizing.

They accuse you of being a terrible person who in actual are the terrible one. They project their stuff on you. My mom is a covert narcissist, I asked where is your compassion your empathy, oh that pissed her off.

Imagine he said to me that he is my master.. I was stunned and I smiled pretentiosly, then I told him.. I'm not your servant, shame on him!!!

My mom is a covert, cerebral narcissist: I swear, she is diabolical.

Always wondered why we didn't have real communication, real empathy. It was like being interrogated for information, and that was it.

IM HAVING GOOSEBUMPS when you said "anything that challenges the narcissist false-perception of himself! And when you said " It is very easy".. It sure is ! thanks for sharing and being a support and an educator about this extremely important topic.

My hubby does not rage, he either gives the silent treatment, or says something very hurtful, using psychological trauma against me, as l have CPTSD...

"the reason i am so selfish is that i am suffering so bad that it is just natural to be like this"..... " remember what i have done for you - blah blah blah.." " you were never there for me" .. after 40 minutes with rage shothing abusive crap straight in to your face when they know your hearing suffers if they raise their voice. smiles and says." i am glad i got this of my chest.. now you can drive me to the shop as i asked you to when yo said no".. " I am really sooo emphatic" when you say that about others....

I have seen all of this in my narcissistic family. I no longer go to family functions because I am treated so disrespectfully when I am with them in a group. They are rude in private too, but worse when they are all together. When I have called out our daughter on her reactions to something she cries. I believe the crying is a response to being exposed, she works so hard to hide her true self and comes unglued when she is discovered.

I feel like all I attract are narcs as 'friends'. I'm ready to go through life friendless. Not worth the aggravation.

You're "advice", whilst it might be Fun to play this game I've been studying them both from text and real life... This is never a good idea they ca float between the two disorders As soon as someone does anything that doesn't align with your Principals and Values LEAVE I'm 68 seen enough of their BS Love your own ass for once Loving you from Oregon

Any sign of disagreement is met with a slammed door and a 2-3 day silent treatment session. Then he talks to me like everything is normal. I quickly realize... he wants something. Yup...you guessed it. One day, about a month ago, I said, “nope.” 😊 I retained an attorney the next day.

I did, I showed him a picture of when I was little and I basically called myself a little sh** and he started bragging (as usual) about how naughty he was and saying I was nothing like how much trouble he was. I pointed it out and he went off at me. So yes I think I should get rid of him

Omg this is so true! It's spooky! Great video, thank you 🤗

Yeah, my mother got so she would try every tactic in the book to ensure she had control of the phone conversation. Cut across, abruptly (and incorrectly) finish my sentences, say she had to go when it was just a way to stop me do she could go on for another hour. Finally, she told me I was boring and I told her that I’d been polite in listening to her talk about her dead marriage for years. There’ve been a few times when I’ve told her no and she’s said that I’d better be careful who I say no to. Since she’s likely in the process of disinheriting me and giving all the work I’ve done for her over my life to my sister, I guess I don’t need to consider being careful, since she’s essentially made herself worth nothing to me. Don’t have to tell me twice. Long story short, this is a mother I thought I had a good relationship with but, last year, things went nuts and I had to send her a certified cease and desist letter to stop her from calling my workplace. Yep, do it again and I’ll get a restraining order and make it public in her township. That’ll blow her precious name to smithereens. Don’t test me.

"I was in a GREAT mood until you opened your mouth!" Standard tactic observed frequently in my ex-narc.