It also feels manipulative. I told my boyfriend to not do this or get friends/family involved. I don’t like feeling pressured to say yes. It should be my decision because it’s my life

@Thelondonbadger nice

Mysterious Freak I always thought about that O would say yes so the person wouldn’t be embarrassed and break it in private. I couldn’t imagine saying no where there are 100,000 ppl. Even if I didn’t want to marry them I still wouldn’t want to embrasses them

Mysterious Freak Depends on the person U shouldn’t feel pressured to say yes no matter wut the setting anyway, especially strangers

@Thelondonbadger how is a private proposal manipulative to him?

yes, all that plus why s/he said "no".

Yes, especially #3.

Well my mom said no to my fathet 2 times and the third she said yes

And if she wants to marry

and it depends if they talked about it. Like, people are not prepared to marry at the same time, and some people don't want to marry so it depends if they talked about that or not

Lynn .D congratulations 🍾🎊🎉🎈It’s soooo beautiful

Well you were this close to losing a great guy.

Lynn .D idk why you would be proud of letting your man propose to you three times before accepting.

Wow, he must've loved you more than himself. I would've bounced after the second time.

He is a damn fool. After the first rejection he should have left.

You mean answer.

Azadi Kurdi I meant great question. I had a typo that I will fix. Thanks

Yeah for sure its over.

@@gamalsankara1388 Should depend on length of the relationship and if there are issues.Better to say no and work on fixing problem before.

MrsB WHO DAD IS THAT

If he's only your 'current' boyfriend then it is probably wise he doesn't propose. :p

I know right but i was at this theological private college ( eveangelical church connected) they asked me if i was dating any1 < so i said yes and then they asked me if i was gonna get married to this person < so i said yes ( ME AND MY BOYFRIEND DISCUSSED THIS TOPIC) < we will marry 100% but < the time + we must still get financially stable so they said to me = Money should not stand in loves way ? so i thought - who are you to tell me how my relationship with him suppose to be : just caz you know his your soul mate and and r still planning on marrying but not yet , caz we're suppose to be stable 1st < to live together PLANNING IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO i feel . it's not like yur wasting time - you know he's/she's the one and then you plan and then you get stable and then you marry i feel like churches "some" push ppl in getting married marriage is a big thing too everything has to feel right - then you can but waiting for right timing < is not wrong or sinning

@@crystaledson what do y'all consider financially stable? I feel like there's never gonna be a "perfect" time to get married. If I hate waited until I was financially stable, I may not have been married until I was like 40 or something who knows. Marriage is for growing together. I agree that it's up to you to decide when it's right for y'all,but if you wait until everything is perfect, I'll just tell you now that life will never be perfect.

Cheyenne Michelle-Rena I mean for us we want to be finished with our education and have jobs that enable us to afford a place to live. Right now he is getting ready to graduate from university, I'm about to go into my second degree which I will graduate from in June 2020, and neither of us has a permanent job. We feel 2021 will probably be our year to get engaged, 2022 married. I just don't want to be financially dependent on him and doesn't want to be fully dependent on me.

Smart thinking!! Me and my boyfriend have the same outlook.

Hahahaha

U've said it better, this is very true

Exactly! Like oh but it's ok when men NEVER propose? If the woman is ok with it let it be same for a woman

Exactly and am I bugging or do I recall Adrienne saying yes to someone and staying engaged forever and not getting married to them? Lol isnt that more wasting someones time than just saying no I'm not ready

@@jasminevaliente96 Lenny S.

That’s the keyword, “not yet”. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and there’s not a single doubt that this is the guy I want to enjoy the rest of my life with but there’s also no doubt that I’m not ready for engagement let along marriage and neither is he and that gives me peace in a way because neither of us feel pressured.

Agree

Absolutely! I think we're always clear on what we want.

Dekthagr8 I agree.

Agree 1000%! At 27 I know what I want and I don’t need 5 years to get to know a guy.

I so love you right now, in my 30s, and I am glad I never got married earlier..

That’s why you need to have the talk and be sincere. You need to be able to let each other know how you really feel and plan it all out with a positive compromise. That way you can both be in the same page. When the next chapter comes you both will just get on with it naturally.

Really you'll with Loni's 💄 haha

I thought it was just me, I’m glad someone else noticed it

I feel like she didn't see it like the lighting they were under kind of deceived the make up artist. Because the closer you get to Loni's face you can barely see it

Kemi Adorin' I was thinking the same thing 😱

I was looking to see if I was the only one who noticed.

It's her under eye highlight smh wrong shade

Its def the highlight

Kemi Adorin' I came to say the same thing! Girl they made her look ghostly 🤦🏽‍♀️

Friend do you have a notification of when girl chats are uploaded because I always see you saying something on every vid

T Richardson yes 😂

Myronn Coleman me too girl 😂

Agreed 💯👏🏽

Yeah, unlike the View. They argue too much there and some women don’t like hearing the opinion of others.

Well in that case Santa might need to consider retirement cause he's 2 years too late!!

drtash21 lol. Baby steps.

No, there isn’t.

Lol bless you😂

T Burke It’s just a little too much highlight( I think it’s called ) on her face lol

@@jordanharrington1890 I think it's setting powder

Exactly. I was looking for this comment. Her undereyes are still baking. Look white like flour. Nope...looks bad

Omg always they use wrong powder weekly it seems

rightttt, they're bogus.

Good point

You don’t know. She could’ve saved it or something? Idk

Hahaha

True

It's only long because it's old

That is completely true.Even on a first date.Maybe not go into complete detail but do mention what you look in a partner(wait until you get married to have a passion connection,marriage,kids,etc) because at the end of the day,you can completely love eachother but at the end of the day,you guys might want something else and wont realize until mid into the relationship.

@Anne Day Exactly, you worded that perfectly! It's not fair to any good relationship to throw up marriage in the air and hope it lands in a safe place. Marriage is a delicate flower that needs to be handled with the up most care, seriousness, and consideration while watering it along the way to forever.

True! I do not believe in a surprise proposal, lets talk about our relationship goals. Do not surprise me with a marriage proposal, I would hate it!

Exactly 😂😂💯💯

PERIOD!!!!! (I know this is old, lol) If my boyfriend proposed to me, then we already had this conversation over and over again about when we’ll both be ready to do it and where we would want to be in life when it happens.

I saw that too😥😂😂😂

Not even trynna be rude but . . . . . 😂🤭They should really delete this

Dtflll I was looking at that omgg

For real they still letting her bake till this day

Her co hosts could have told a sis something tho

Skin, hair, body glow...

But It’s a “talk show” not a “daily show”. This conversation is pertinent even if it’s from 2 years ago.

I noticed that, this is old.

I wonder how Jeanie would feel about the proposal now that she's divorced her ex-husband. Hopefully now she sees that she was pressured into marrying him because he proposed to her in front of all her family, because it seems likely that's what happened. That's kind of a manipulative thing for a guy to do because it almost forces her to say yes.

@@rtmusicvideos431 I agree!👏

Mona Pizzalover every now and again they’ll go in the archives and post a long girl chat clip from a couple years ago

Yesss. I noticed this several times

@@MsVeeTheVisionary Full on beard. Love her, but full on beard. :(

Look at Adrianne's makeup too! They made her look so old here. :( Adrianne is a summer, she doesn't need piles of makeup on.

U do? Lmao

It's an old video

@@kathope4484 it is an old video but she does have short hair and wears extensions

Over Rob, she so sorry she missed out on being a Kardashians .

Support the Obvious yeah I think she probably feels like I should’ve left a long time ago

@@britbritnicole9211 I totally agree

BritBrit Nicole agreed

She probably is you don't just get over stuff it takes time. She definetly seems like she's in a better place tho

I dont think its appropriate to „date“ 6 years. And in the end it doesnt work out? Its better to say from the beginning „i want to get married“ and then get to know eachother for 6month and then get engaged, married. Men like to play with women and want to be „free“. A grown man can enjoy his freedom in a marriage. Sry a man who just waste your time is not a man!

I agree. I think you hit a certain age where you date to marry. Like 23 and up...

Yup yup.

Teach lady so women can know the difference!

Why can’t the purpose of dating just be to be in a relationship? Why does it always have to lead to marriage? I mean, how much can you truly know about someone after a few dates to want to pursue marriage? And why does marriage ALWAYS have to be the end goal? Why do people always think that a relationship is a failure or unfulfilling if you don’t get married?

hannahbannana well if you don’t want to get married right now, don’t date people who do

Regardless of the gender, if 1 person is not ready just end the relationship period. No one should be forced to marry and no one should feel strung along. The 2 obviously are not on the same page. End the relationship, go your seperate ways.

I call it a double standard and I don't know where it comes from

If it's under three years its pressuring if it's over three years and he cant commit hes the problem.

sd v - Thank you !!

Exactly 💯💯👏🏽👏🏽

Why doesn't the woman tell the man off hand that she's not ready for marriage?...shm😒

👏👏👏

but if she is ready but he isn't, its still his fault right?

Funny how her not being ready is his fault. Why does he have to take responsibility for her not making conscious moves toward the next step? If you are saying that she is saying no because she doesn't see him as marriage material or doesn't see the potential, then she has to make that apparent or end the relationship. As the old sayings go, 1) a closed mouth does not get fed. 2) the squeaky wheel gets the oil. This is exactly why people look for closure in the end. Their ex never communicated what they needed and had the unreasonable expectation for them to just figure it out.

How is he your step dad then

Reem because she stepped up to the role as her father

Reem you do realize people dont need to get married to have children right, that goes for taking over the role as well.

Tonia's Reviews I know that. I thought that you had to marry tho to claim “step-parent”

@@reemzilla to legally be the step parent you do have to marry, but to use the title? Nah. If a man has been with the woman long enough and involved with her kids, and they plan to stay together without marrying, for all intents and purposes, he is the stepdad

Netta Netta 😎 SWEETIE...TAM KINDER SLOW AT TIMES!!!

Brittany FFF 😎 OK YOU'RE SLOW ALSO😝LOL😝

😂😂😂

Unun?? What? 😶😶

Sonata Shinome meaning like “No”

That's the stupidest thing I have heard in a while u already having a bby why not get married ...he can always leave u cuz he doesn't owe u anything but with a marriage its different

Debbie debz they have a kid together! marriage doesn’t solve everything and it’s not necessary if it’s not going to be healthy

Debbie debz no it’s not tf? Maybe she wants to make sure he’s not marrying her just bc they’re having a baby & that can over hype the excitement of everything. Or maybe she’s not ready yet. Nothing wrong with having a baby before marriage btw everyone has different beliefs, chill out 🙄

@@Sumi2379 not ready for marriage but your ready for a bby... I was raised differently can't have a bby out of wedlock and whether he marrying her just cuz she is pregnant she should be glad cuz a lot of men wouldn't do it ....they would just have you as a next baby mama at least he wants to man up and make it official but I guess y'all love playing baby mama roles

Interesting.

A LOT. Life can be going swell for a year TRUST and believe my husband was making triple the money he makes now that first year we dated, his family was all in good health, he was in good health, his career seemed secure as he had been there for over a few years, we didnt live together so he could run and clean everything before I came over, he had a new car so always reliable transportation...... girl by year 3 that company he worked with got bought out and they fired all their employees, he lost his place and had to move in with his mom, a few months later his mom developed a health issue that made work hard for her so he ran out of savings trying to provide for her, his car note became too much he had to give it shot his credit, he had no reliable transportation so seeing me was hard to do unless I did all the driving which hurt his pride. I got to see the real man he was when his life got hard and he still made me a priority, busted his ass and ego at low income jobs while he searched for a higher paid one so he could take care of his mother and take me out even when he didnt have to, see that throughout all of that stress he NEVER snapped on me or his loved ones remained positive despite having to get up everyday to catch a bus or carpool to all these odd jobs until he could buy a unreliable car that took hella patience to deal with. Long story short while I lucked out and found a man who remained in good character even through hard times which taught me he was the one. I could have easily married him when he proposed at 9 months only to discover a man who pushed me away because I had more, gave up trying to progress, lived off his momma for free despite her struggling, cheated on me because his ego was hurt he lost everything, used me and got comfortable. YOU CAN LEARN ALOT MORE IN 5 YEARS than 1 and that's a psychological fact.

Because you need to *know* that person thoroughly before you make that decision to be with them forever. Marriage is not something you rush into

Jasmine Valiente but did you honestly need the adversity to show you his true character and that he was the one? I could be misinterpreting so correct me if I’m wrong, but did the adversity confirm what you already knew to be true? Couldn’t this have occurred at any point in your relationship or even 6 years after you married?

Well said!!!

@@Dekthagr8 exactly.

Good point

Very good point❤

Get to no the person before y marry them.whats done in the dark is always brought to the light

HeyFatty ok. I thought I was being over critical.

Agreed

Sal Mah Sal she needs to speak up and say why she said no. Men always have to figure stuff but when it’s the other way around then women want men to communicate.

Nah, if she says no, then the man needs to up and leave. She sees no future with him and is basically just holding on until something better comes along. There is nothing to figure out, you are not the one. Get the heart break over with and move on. The longer you try to stay in that relationship, the less she is going to respect you. As a man, if you had any self respect you would leave.

it is.

Cool

@Vanessa Louis 😂😂

😂😂😂

Agreed 💯💯💯💯

Exactly

You're Nigerian or Ghanaian aren't you? 🤣

@@shalomikemba 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

😂😂😂😂 Yep she's Ghanaian 🤭