i took a debate class and my teacher once said "the second the person starts attacking you personally and not the subject at hand is the second you know you won the debate"

“When debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser” - Socrates

The main women who always say “we should uplift each other, build each other up, etc) be the same women who are quick to dim another women’s light so theirs can shine.

Loni: Maybe we need to stop the red carpets. Tamera: NO NO NO. 😂😂😂😂

never attack someones look period. you can disagree and argue all you want but when you start attacking someone on how they look, especially things they can’t control, you’re a bully idc

Jeanie has so much insight and wisdom . I want that. Can't imagine how much work she has to do to reach that point in her life.

I feel like Adrienne was the only one that truly has the solution to this problem. It about what's in the inside!

Loni is a real one. Her tears & compassion for her friend and women in general is so tender. We all need a friend like Loni 🙂

Adrienne is that friend who will cry when you cry She’s over there bawling too lol

When having a conversation, and there is a disagreement on the topic, the people who are unable to articulate their point fall back to attacking the person personally. That's when you walk away from them.

Loni said she’s crying for a friend.... I doubt those tears are for someone else. I hope she can soon one day genuinely love herself and find unconditional love

Tamera! She speaks truth. It's self-hate. "Love your neighbour as you love yourself." The way you treat another woman is a reflection of how you view yourself

Adriene had an awesome point, because claiming a materialistic acccomplishment still adds fuel to the same fire. Adriene really got to the core of this issue! Slayed it! Much respect! because as she said, not everyone has something to show for!

I love Jeannie’s wisdom and energy so much and I strive for even half of it

Jeannie’s makeup tones are phenomenal. Her and Jordyn Woods makeup artists have mastered the luxe natural look

Treating this subject like they weren’t judging Keanu Reeves new girlfriend a few weeks a go 🤦‍♀️

"Your bounceback is always going to be stronger than your setback!" Period!!! Come on Jeannie!!!!!!!

You should never attack someone for how they look. You have no idea how extremely damaging that is. Their self-esteem plumits to the groud, and all it takes is for them to hear it once and it's stuck in their minds forever, and though you may not know it, what took you 2 seconds to say, will stick with them for the rest of their lives.

I love what Adrienne said. She really uplifted me

'If we start loving ourselves as we are then we can love others as they are. ' Tamera slayed it! Exactly what I was thinking!

13:08 “Having a good heart goes far beyond having a pretty face because at the end of the day, if you have a wack heart, there’s no photoshop for that..” PREECH.

Title: Attacking a Woman's Looks Comments: Attack

can we talk about how much times loni just interrupts mid sentence when Jeannie is getting to her point

Loni’s crying but she was just undermining Shannon for being mixed.

“ that burgundy lipstick , bad highlights , second wave feminist “ she thought she was doing something by talking about her... that doesn’t make sense to me... why the hell are you... as a woman resulting to INSULTING another woman... for why ?!?! You can disagree with someone... what you cannot do is talk bad about someone else’s looks

I think men also struggle with their looks, they just don’t verbalize it as much.

I love Loni’s heart so much. She is consistently speaking up for women and REAL issues women face day to day. I love moments like this when she pours out her heart on the show.

off topic: Tamera's outfit is EVERYTHING.

This really touch my heart we have to do better for ourselves and each other, and not just tear each other down every single time we have the chance to it’s not right!! Let’s build each other up 🙌🏾

all the ladies looked soooo beautiful today, INSIDE AND OUT!!! be kind ppl.

I love Adriennes mindset !!!!! I always can relate a 100% to what she says ♥️🙏🏽

Adrienne really spoke to me. Come on you better preach 👏🏾👏🏾 it’s not about what you accomplish cuz some people May not have the opportunity to accomplish a lot of materialistic achievements but one thing we always discredit and disregard is people’s character. Character, faith and conduct will always surpass all the materialistic things you could ever brag about. And it brings it all back to humility. Thank you Adrienne 💜 God bless your soul 💜

As women we’re taught to compete with each other. That our only value can be found in receiving attention from men. The medicine to this, is lifting each other up, remembering that our worth is not measured by the validation of men or others. That there is no competition at all. We are not meant to live to compete. ❤️

Love that Adrienne! “No photoshop can fix a bad 🖤”

Adrienne has a fantastically point, each of us has the choice to keep moving forward with positive change 💕

Interesting considering Loni was talking about Shan's look.

If you have to result to insulting someone’s looks... you automatically lost the argument... you have no way in maturely retaliating or carrying on a conversation... if your go to is to simply attack their looks then you my friend need some communication skills !

Jeanine has learnt to become a strong person. The way she speaks and expresses herself definitely shows that...

Ironic she’s crying when she just judged another women a few days ago and still hasn’t publicly apologized to her!

I swear, I felt like everyone of these beautiful women spoke to me personally while I was watching this. I am a 22 yr-old gay man (college student) who honestly feels judged for my looks by my community and society in general. Cus I'm too short, I got patchy facial hair, and I'm chubby. I am currently doing some personal soul-searching, and I found this video at the perfect moment in my life. I honestly can be very catty and negative and I use it as a front and as defense mechanism because I am also unwilling to express my true emotions for fear that my masculinity will be discredited even more than it already is. Tamera told me to start loving myself and to also start loving others. Jeanie told me to have an ambition and work for my goals because its more important than looks. Loni told me that beauty and looks are way too focused on in today's society and we normalize the fact that we judge each others so often and thats not right. and Adrienne said focus on your character; and she's right cus filters help me out ALOT with my selfies but i can't use a filter on this ugly ass attitude i got. They all just helped me out so much right now. This is why I watch them. Different perspectives rarely seen in the media until current years; these ladies are a blessing. Love them.

I consciously do 2 acts of kindness daily to strangers.ive been doing that for years privately.

Oh my! Loni you are gorgeous, I feel African American women should show their natural hair. No one is going to laugh! Natural is beautiful!!

When Loni started crying 😢💔 women we need to do better

Loni you got me emotional too. You are a beautiful human being inside and out. You are so loving and supportive of women in general. Your kind heart and loving nature inspires me to be a better person.

If you validate yourself through accomplishments jeanie, you lose. It is no different than validating yourself through anything else external. We must know that we are validated because we exist. PERIOD

In argumentments men attack women's looks also. I have experienced it and seen it happen to other females.

This is why I love these ladies. You all are full of wisdom and inspiration! On a side note: EVERYBODY is beautiful, don't let anyone tell you different!

This made me want to work on myself as a person. This video helps a lot. I was talking to my family a few weeks ago about how I want to help shelters and donate food and clothes and anything someone might need. They thought I was crazy, but Im going to do it anyway!

Reasons why this is my favorite show ♥️♥️ thank you ladies!

This has really help me today! So many people can find things that are wrong with one another , that we never stop to find that time to support what is good. We need more of each other to compliment and uplift one another.

Such a great and necessary conversation. Loni is so real and open and vulnerable, so inspiring. And I really appriciated Adrienne's comment on the fact that our worth is inherent and we shouldn't look outside of ourselves for validation.

This was such a good topic. I AM ENOUGH. Love you ladies .

Loni is such a sweetheart I think that we as women receive a lot of criticism regarding our looks, our bodies, our hair, etc. So we grow up feeling very critical about how we look and end up criticizing each other. ESPECIALLY on social media, even in these comments, people are SO rude. Calling the girls fat and this and that, we need to stop.

This topic has been so heavy on my heart lately so it’s so crazy this popped up on my feed… I loved everything I heard here!!!! These are conversations that need to be had between people of allll ages.

Any time someone starts attacking your looks in a debate or arguement; they already lost & they know that don't have anything else of value to add to the conversation.

Men don’t negatively about each other’s looks they talk negatively about women’s looks

Yes Adrienne! When you speak with your heart you shine!

I love my girls so very much! You bring such a great amount of positivity and light into those that watch you and I hope this show stays running for many years to come!

yes ladies!! this is one of my favorite girl chats. I have struggled with this as a model constantly feeling the need to compare myself to other models and women in general. and I have learned to not care as much and just to only compete with myself. love you ladies ❤

The way Adrienne said Ad Hominem 😂 “ad hommanom”

The Real production team KNOW what they’re doing. They think they’re SLICK. They reposted this OLD clip from 1-2 years ago to make people feel sorry for Loni Love. I ain’t FALLING for it. Loni, TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY! You swear you’re right on everything.

This episode is sooo beautiful....it's healing and brings out this light ....

This was the best segment you guys have ever done. May God continue to bless every women on this panel. A shift is happening!!

Man The Real is such a good show. It inspires me.

Look at Loni crying, smh i hope she understands how her recent attacks on other women affects them too. Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you.

Wow, I love this video this helped shape/change my perspective about things and how i see myself. I love these ladies! Thank you for your guys platforms and what you do with it for us!

This is one of the best bits I’ve seen from the girls in a while! I love them all so much and look up to them and their maturity.

Loni made a good point about watch your response because you never know who you’re clapping back to.I control my comments by picking and choosing the stories I comment on.I do that because if it’s a story about a particular rapper,singer or entertainer that may have a younger following I don’t comment.Thats when you may get a very disrespectful clapback to a comment you may leave.And yes many of you younger commenters love to mention peoples ages and call them old or making age related comments to demean.Social media is for everyone not just the young and we should be respectful of everyone regardless of age,race etc.Thanks Adrienne! I was thinking that when she said that about a college degree.I say this all the time.GREAT CONVERSATION!!!!!!!!

I hate when people are just mean and are a bully to them, especially when it’s to Loni and are about looks.

I loved what Adrienne pointed out. A good heart really does go a long way and I think it’s worth building your career around your character strengths if you’re able to. It’s a beautiful thing. I understand what it feels like to have nothing to offer career wise but the only reason I stepped into the medical field was because I started caring for the residents and didn’t like feeling useless. The medical field was never my dream job but it’s slowly becoming part of it because I’m finding a new love of wanting to properly take care of others and allowing God to take the best of me and pour it into my work. ❤❤❤❤ May God forgive and bless us all so we can love ourselves and not be so quick to attack other people.

that was real deep, thank you ladies and please bring our show back !!

Loni cries but really hurts others with her words🤦🏾‍♀️

you mean like loni does when she’s losing an argument? lmao

thank you jeannie and loni for sharing you painful experiences! although i didnt like it when loni kept interrupting but still appreciate the authentic emotions. and Adrienne what you said at the end was GOLD!

This is the most Real The Real I've ever watched. Women, we need to start off by loving and celebrating us first so that we can be strong enough to stand against Society's attacks.

The second you attack something as superficial as their looks, you are admitting that you have no more valid arguments.

Loni has such a beautiful soul, all of these women are so amazing and gorgeous inside and out! It is so nice to see such a positive show full of beautiful spirit. I also love the representation showing beauty in all shades.

That video was hella powerful. Makes me want to write down all the things I love about my character and things and I am proud of ❤️

Just started watching your show and I get so much growth spiritually mentally all of you are true to yourself

I LOOOVE what Adrienne said near the end.

The wiser you become the more you realize that looks is not everything personality big wins at the end ❤️🌺❤️

Loved this.. These four on that table had the best thoughts to share and to talk about.. Gonna miss this show..

This was by far the realest segment I've seen. Please keep it up!

Wow. This was probably one of the best and my favorite girl chats ever! God I missed it when I was just these 4! Now I feel like we dont hear too much of Adrienne or Tamera speak because they get overshadowed and Jeannie always gets interrupted. I missed this set up.

“Each and everyone one of us plays a role.” and that’s the truth

Loni girl you spoke THE TRUTH. Girl, I was crying with you 😢😢😢 I absolutely loved this discussion. 😁😁😁

Love you girls so much! ❤❤❤ PS "I am enough" is my yoga mantra. I have a tattoo of it. Best mantra EVER.

Loni got me over emotional with these mood swings 😂

Yes!!!! On point girls!!! Tamera and Jeannie 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

one of, if not the very best episode ive ever watched. my heart is so full. thank you. and i adore all u women so very much.

Wow I love this conversation. It's so deep, they discussed a really important matter. I think they all made a great point.

Class v Crass. What you like in others is a reflection of what you like or would like in you. What you hate in others is what you hate about yourself. We are mirrors for each other. Do your inner work and let your light shine. You are Beautiful, You are Intelligent, You are Joy, You are Confident, You are Courageous, You are a Work in Progress, You are Enough, You are Strong, You are Kind, You are Not a Mistake. You have Purpose, You are Compassion, You are Light, You are Love, You are a Blessing. ❤💙💚💛💜

Loni, I get what you’re saying. Vanity has rippled through our generation. So many people glorify superficiality. Like you said, looks are now everything instead of character. Social media has created unrealistic standards that women are striving to attain. No make up and natural hair is still and very much okay, please. Be yourself and enjoy it.

I think this show hot them some really great hearted women. All four of them are just so sweet and pure. Bless your heart 💝

i love and miss these ladies so much. I discovered this show when I was 16 and I'm 22 now, all these years they've taught me so much I'm truly thankful for this show.

Here go loni crying when she was attacking someone the other day. Girl bye

Thanks Loni ... I agree , American culture as a whole has become toxic

Omg Loni you are so beautiful with or without your wig. You have a huge ❤️ and you are loved for who you are! This chat was awesome and do true. You are all beautiful women with wisdom, humble and kind. I admire all of you for being great women in our society 💕

you preach Adrienne coz you got it right. Some of us don't have many accomplishments in the material world, but that does not measure our worth.

Women who are hurt and deeply insecure are the ones who attack,