Let’s Stop Calling Kids “Shy”

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When our kids are older, we usually define confidence as trusting yourself and not following the crowd. And yet, when our kids are younger, we often have the exact opposite definition: Why isn’t my kid confident enough to make friends at the playground? Why won’t my child leave my lap at a party? Why do they stay on the sidelines at soccer? In this episode, Dr. Becky talks to three callers about reframing shyness as a form of confidence. With practical scripts and strategies, she encourages parents to reflect on what shyness brings up for us, resist the “shy” label, and tell our kids that they’ll know when they’re ready.
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@kmsevero1 9 ай бұрын

My 3-year old daughter is already starting to label herself as shy which I hate. I actually have social anxiety disorder and so I'm really having to check myself in using certain language with her, and trying to handle my own anxiety seeing her struggle with something I have struggled with too. This was a really helpful podcast, not just for how I can reframe her own labels but also for me, in maybe relabelling how I think about myself!

@antonioochoa8169 Ай бұрын

God Bless you Dr. Becky

@user-lu3ic4jd2g Ай бұрын

I was a child during the late 50's and 60's, and found a bunch of my old report cards, reading through them I noticed every teacher labeled me " very shy. " I was so angry to read that. I was shy, but why label a child that way. Just reading those reports made me feel like a freak all over again. Do they think a child isn't aware that they are a bit different. As an adult, I realize that I was, and still am a total introvert. Back in the day, they probably didn't even know what an introvert was. I love who I am today. I am a deep thinker and a deep observer. Please don't label children like they did me. Let them please be who they are. Let them be their authentic self. There is more than likely, not a thing wrong with who they are.

@RandalooRace 5 ай бұрын

For me, I was just very aware of the energies of others. I knew who I could feel safe with and who was kind. This was who I was and didn’t need to be changed.