I didn't realize that being a kid/teenager and forming weird friendships with grown men who are using RuneScape to escape their failing marriages was a universal experience lol.

i was gonna meme but honestly ff14 gave me a social life and friends when i was struggling to get through university. I even met my current partner from being in the same FC and now we've been together for over 7 years and we're getting married soon. This game has had a massively positive impact on my life and it would be incredibly different if I never downloaded it. I still play it constantly and my favorite thing to do is help new players and usher them on their own journey.

"living in fear of doing things is not a life worth living" i did not expect to be gut punched into starting my art project today but here i am!

Completely agree with the "don't trust anyone" segment. I myself am an example where I have the Trade Mentor status when I've never even touched my only leveled crafting class' level one quest (don't worry, I don't put the crown on display). As long as they play the game long enough, anyone can achieve mentor status, even if you don't comprehend basic fundamentals of the game which is why i've always seen the status as a joke.

A DPS was trying to rush a sprout 🌱 tank who didn’t have smooth control on their forward button. I the healer said “don’t rush the tank”. The DPS’s health dropped to 30% while I typed the message out. The tank rescued the DPS with their higher enmity. It looks like the DPS needed to clear their daily in a set time frame. This was Satasha

I hate the sentiment that players with titles can't mess up in normal content, I cleared 3 ultimates and solod all deep dungeons, doesn't mean I'm not dumb enough to die 4 times in a regular ass alliance raid

Since I started making foods inspired by the food buffs you can make in FFXIV as a culinarian, I feel like I've been having much healthier meals and fun at cooking too, with which I struggled as an adolescent ♥. Shout out to the Shakshouka furniture item that started it all!

This turned out way more inspirational then I ever expected. Good job

"I learned how to comfort somebody during their failed marriage at the age of 13 so im basically a lisenced therapist" This is so accurate.. I was a raid leader in WoW.. I told our hunter that she had to use the Best in slot Gun we got her instead of a bow during raids.. she litterally broke down in tears.. I then had her husband in our voice chat try to shout me down. grown ass 30+ year old man, shouting at me a then 15 year old kid... what shocked everyone though is that i shouted him down and then kicked both there butts out the guild lmao. talk about life lessons!

If he doesn't mention the importance of having a balanced life. I will do nothing but ill be upset

I was also thinking about "don't tell others what to do, i'ts never good"....but oh boi, yesterday i got Asphodelos (normal) in roulette with some sprouts and we die 3 times because they didn't understand the mechanics. There was a MENTOR (battle) that suddenly in a very friendly and nice way telling the mechanics and what they do. He even do some calls during the fight. Incredible and everyone was fine and thanks him at the end ! That was sureal man...a mentor being nice, giving advices and people accepting them XD Edit : also i confirm, i'm totally legit a female irl, behind my viera character. Promise, believe me, no fake.

Dude holy shit, literally everything you said is exactly what i have done and been through, thanks for making this video, people should legitimately listen to these advices

I sincerely appreciate people taking the time to explain dungeon mechanics to me and hope to one day be the one guiding others... though not as an official mentor. I'm not throwing _that_ much time down this hole. Also, I have an RL friend who plays a female Viera. Can confirm the last bit.

Even though I've played the game for over a year now and haven't made any friends. I can still say mostly everyone is friendly and patient which is nice

the superbolide tooltip though 😂 "everyone's ugly in my area" - same 😔 congratulations btw.

Before I started playing FF14, my social anxiety was at it's worst. I went from someone who grew up playing MMORPGs regularly, always interacting with people online to being too afraid of even joining a guild. But this game helped me love MMORPGs again and now I'm even interacting with randos in Limsa, though as a cat girl I've learned to be wary of male aura... anyway, definitely don't be afraid of trying anything in FF14. Except replying to tells from male aura. Maybe be afraid of that. (Joking aside, this game seriously did help me with my anxiety!)

Man if I could add to this video: Don't emotionally invest yourself in the game or the people in it. Take care of your real life and take care of yourself. If you make good friends along the way of playing the game that's great, but if you go into the game to actually MAKE friends or meet women/men, focus on real life, chances of finding somebody worth your while are extremely low and people fall for that trap way too often.

Ff14 gave me flashbacks to when i played Destiny 1 at 10 yrs old, and would raid with 45 year old dads who would take a smoke break every time we wiped. Ff14 is just like that, except it's an equal 50/50 split of moms and dads.

From the story I learned that no matter how much you want to hate people, or blame them for being bad, there is always another side to the coin and its best to acknowledge that I should accept that I am not them. In order to understand and change them, I need compassion. I remember hating the villains until they revealed their backstory so often.

I came from TERA, I was literally cursed with racist slurs because we got wipes from FIHM(their "savage" tier of dungeon) for a known bugs. FFXIV is like one of those friendly retire community to me ;_;

Healers don't have to get good until Aurum Vale. I remember tanking in there once, and the healer would only use Cure I; no Cure 2, no Medica, no Regen; just Cure.

God damn, 3 lessons for free. Thank you sir. BTW nice work on the fire cape, im proud son

Actually really surprised that you've had so many negative reactions to advice. Worst I've seen so far is people just not responding. I've had a few dungeon runs where I gave newbie tanks some advice (after asking if they wanted any), and every time they were grateful and I got to see them improve right away. :) Idk if I just got lucky, but usually giving advice is pretty rewarding. As is being friendly in general. Many a run that would have otherwise been frustrating has been made so much better by chatting. They may not always be the best players, but they can still be fun to talk to. Also have to agree that level 90s mean nothing, though. I've maxed out everything but two jobs, and I know how to play... maybe half of them? I just fed them lots and lots of Frontline exp lol.

When i was a sprout going through story trials and a WHM when we got to those truals with weird boss mechanics, the tank (always a different one everytime but it was always the tank) would stop before going in and explain the weird mechanic to me. I always always listened and gave them their updoots at the end.

I like how you used the DRK symbol for "use mits" example. I started DRK, feel like i burn mits fast and healrs are quietly mad at me.

Congratz on your fire cloak! Great video, thanks for sharing!

congrats on the fire cape :D

Another great video. Thanks for the great advice

I accept advice also finding regular playing friends is HARD!!!!

6:25 me when I'm driving without a license

Congratulations on grinding for the Fire Cape!!! I still remember grinding my Fishing for that cape ;v;

Compare Lalafells to potatoes and I may seek out your shins. Edit: Grats on your lvl 99 grape

You turned out to be one my fav content creator of FFXIV so… thanks! You have a Sub!

Kou your form of satire is honestly so amazing. It’s haven’t had the trust beaten out of me yet, but I get why you would feel that way.

Hell yeah, love the J1mmy shoutout!

ngl, i was a shit head. XIV taught me companion like nothing else could, thank you everyone in the XIV space

Oh my goodness,Kou I love you so much lol❣️😆 seriously,you’re awesome^_^

My guy unlocked the ancient techniques of Just need a big ball to complete the bis

The help thing is so relatable. One day, in one of my usual boss fights for grinding as a dps, I ended up with one of those players... I sersiously questioned my abilities at this point. There was that tank who was basically dps-ing his life and had no idea about dps positionals. As a DRG, most of the time I had to face the rear of the boss, that tank was suppoed to keep the rear open, yes?... well, his b0tt was sticking in the corners of the arena so I tried to sneek in the corners to do my job and smashed the True North button, but couldn't easily dodge rear attacks or AoE. I kindly asked the tank to move to the other side so that I can effectively attack the boss and also he protects the rest of the party... needless to say he didn't take it well and mocked me... Talking about AoE, at some point I was targeted by stacking arrows.... nobody moved, I coudn't move by fear of one-shoting sm1, and I died (yey teamwork)👍 Oh and one last thing, I checked their plate, they were mostly lv90, which is way above my lv since I'm a trialist, great! Can someone pls tell me I'm wrong somewhere (other than giving advice), cause after that battle I was hesitant to login again (and that never happened to me before).

Great video. Congrats btw.

well this was surprisingly wholesome

I love j1mmy and I can tell I'm gonna love your channel too

how does a community pride itself in being super nice and inviting be the hardest to find a group of people to play with

The thumbnail feels too accurate

1:19 I thought that was a chocobo getting a facial... great video though!

Kou this has to be one of the top video's I have ever seen in the FFXIV content creator circle

Yo idk whose WoL that is at 6:48 but that glam is a banger

pog

Quality video, I'm out here learning so many things.

That tshirt is fire, Kou. GUNDAM!!!

If you want to give advice, tack on a little "

I’m proud of you son.

I rarely write comments on YT, like 3 per year max, but I really wanted you to know that I liked this video a lot 😂

"Weird feeling towards this THING" Okay dude...

I love you Ko, always make me smile 😊 FF14 has some incredible people behind the avatars, and these random encounters are what inspire me. I've found the fishing community has the best people. I'm not a raider, the fishing grind is way more up my alley. It's a solitary battle between you and the big fish. 14 certainly a jack of all trades game, but anyone who can master fishing is a superstar 💫

FFXIV really is a “sink or swim” kind of game in the beginning. No hand holding whatsoever.

What's your Necromancy level in RS3? Your first 99 was Filemaking? MINE TOO

The hg unicorn t shirt 😂😂😂 love you kou another babger vid

Advice is always taken as an attack on their playstyle. Let alone wherever you fall on the controller versus mouse and keyboard debate. There’s never a good answer which is usually why I’ll just talk about other things like lore and plot holes. Little dumb things to get people more comfortable with my opinions, then at some point maybe they heal for a second and I show them both how I personally play tank and how hard it is to play a healer when the tank refuses to use mitigations. It takes more time but it creates good players and decent friendships, if ya love the game as I do- this is the most accessible method I’ve found so far in order to keep your data center’s world full of people who enjoy the game.

The fact you use the loporrit plush as a mic is sending me And the life lesson i learned from this game....is time management or the lack their of Do I wanna do something in this game or real life? yes....Now do i have the time for it? No...hahaha But maybe one day Like an Savage/Ultimate clear....that would be cool c: also congrats on your runescape...thing idk anything about runescape but congrats

Yoooo you are funny af!!

I've always been a solo player. I used to just do MSQ and its related dungeons and raids exclusively. I still find this fun, don't get me wrong, but when I started interacting with other people, I enjoyed a whole new side of the game. I've spent hours listening and talking to a bard or spending the whole day helping people complete savage raids. I still play mostly solo, but if someone asks me to help or if I see someone performing, I take a break from the routine and try something new. Also, BLU is fun. Highly recommended.

I got yelled at as a returner, by a sprout, about forgetting about the control collar in one dungeon. And I was a disgrace as a mentor because I didn't even know. I had the flower........

some stuff is really weird in ff14, like the "dont give advice ever" stuff or the "minimum" conversation in dutys, like if ur in lower lvls ppl usually speak to each other and wait , if its 90 content ppl usually say no more than "hi" and "ggs" if even and cant even wait a few sec with pulling and stuff, like the moment i write down "hey" and press my tank stance one dps or heal already starts pulling shit (and im the tank), everyone has this kinda "i wanna get it done quick" mentality, if your doing something the first time good luck learning anything because ppl gonna rush it and carry you and you prolly gonna learn nothing at all, at least thats my recent expirience with stuff. like maybe let the noob tank at least try tanking the new boss once he has to learn it too.

I accidentally started as a tank. Dreaded every dungeon as I was usually the one person who didn't know it and was worried about people constantly criticising because I was learning as I went along, community wasn't too awful Though when I got to pug raids trying to figure out tanking with zero communication I just gave up and switched to summoner, now I just stand at the back and learn all the mechanics with little stress

…..I always appreciated the help 🤷‍♂️

CONGRATULATIONS (99 firemaking was harder before wintertodt) on the firemaking cape, was harder before wintertodt but still congrats

What I learned from ff14 is that it's nice to be nice to other people and that if a shadow wizard offers to teach you how to summon a primal, tell them to go suck a bug.

Kou where'd you get that shirt

Congratz on firemaking 99 :D

yay, congratulations on your Runescape achievment!

you know; its funny how true Number one is turning out to be. every time i do fights and people keep messing up, and despite the fact that we are telling people they can ASK QUESTIONS; so many times, people just don't ask a damn thing, WIPE THE PARTY SEVERAL TIMES, and they we just start to give up.

_Better version of that first quote. Don't answer a question that hasn't been asked._

If you keep doing life lesson number 1, then Meteion will sing her song of oblivion toward earth.

Thank you for this video, HUGE facts. I wanna add something, and this is something i've learned playing this game and it's helped out irl too. Just don't take shit so seriously. Sure there are for sure serious things in life. But really, not everything is as serious as we make it out to be.

This vid's amazing, and totally love the advice xD And funnily enough, I do have a male Viera alt and I'm a girl irl, so I do fit the stereotype lol (My main's a female Miqo'te, and I have a female Hyur alt too!)

Depends on the world, I've never had an issue giving feedback or receiving

Congrats on your Runescape thing!

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Wait, you're telling me the other miqos in my lesbian harem might also be dudes? I've never felt so betrayed. Haha Great video man. Might try savage next week then.

gz on firemaking 99!

I will admit, we have snuck me into groups for harder content I hadn't completed yet, but fortunately for people, I was one of the better players they would get and usually fairly fast on the uptake. It's pretty sad when a player who has not even cleared the content yet is doing better at it than people who have cleared it enough to have the mount.... Also, playing through all of my classes up to 90. I might not be as versed in all of the rest as I am my main of each role type or my bard by the end, but I actually prefer to try and do my best on all of them, so I pay attention to my abilities and would like to think by the time I get them to 90 I will at least know them quite well and be a team asset on any one of them. I sadly simply don't have the time in my life to utterly master every one of them, but I know them well enough I could actually help newer players with how they work. And honestly, when you have played through enough classes and paid attention, you start to realize that a lot of abilities do very similar/nearly the same things, just with different names.

When it comes to receiving and giving advice in FF14, I think HOW you say it goes a long way. I personally like, to throw in a little emoji, to express myself in more of a friendly manner, rather than trying to come off as a pushy or demanding. More often than not I receive a positive attitude in return. I try to treat others like how I'd want someone to tell me if I was doing something wrong. And I know for a fact that, I don't appreciate players being arrogant and obnoxious just to call out mistakes that I or someone else is making. And I witness this from time to time. Players being rude or aggressive when other's make mistakes, and when they receive a negative attitude in return, then they are like "This is what I get for trying to help!". I've come to understand that being polite is often too much effort to a lot of players however, or simply "not necessary" (Or so I've been told). Of course you will still get some players, who simply don't want to be told anything (You don't pay my sub!). But I rarely encounter these types of players. This is just my personal experience however.

I legit bought a Midi USB keyboard for this game despite previously have no interest or talent in playing music.

ngl Endwalker is the first time ive been inspired to learn a song in like... a couple years lol.

sounds exhausting

As someone who has paid for their ultimate clears and boost every job to 90 I can confirm I understand my role.

Don't be afraid! Hell yeah. I used to be so anxious queuing into duties with others m, as a PLD at that. Now it's no worries.

I have no weird feelings about Astolfo. They're perfectly acceptable feelings 😤

Congrats on the Runscape accomplishment. My GF is still very active in that game as I sold my soul to ffxiv!

Meanwhile, there's me struggling to understand technical terms from my team's advice they're trying to tell me as a white mage

got 99 firemaking first as well in like 2018. then nearly got 200m in it before I got my second

Some girls just wanna get smacked with a tank buster.

bro talking about ME in the thumbnail, ugh

Heres the thing - Video games are AMAZING at teaching social skills, Team work, Math, sciences (If accurate) and even physics depending on the game (Think tarkov or human fall flat both express Gravity and Prupulson physics) Ironically as a kid when our science teacher asked us how glass was made i was the only one in the class who knew and guess what....it was runescape that taught me how its made....video games teach more than people are willing to give credit.

gz on a cape

I remember once while healing a dungeon with a tank who had cardboard for armor, a DPS who kept standing in bad was dying and they complained to me with something like "can you heal me sometime?" Like yeah if the tank was pressing their buttons and their HP bar wasn't a pogo-stick, sure. I politely explained how they are at the bottom of my priority list, and they seemed to understand; they also upped their game a bit when they realized I'm not gonna take their sass. So I guess the moral here is if you ARE going to give advice/suggestions to others, at least know what you are doing. At the same time, respond to people kindly and you may get their respect. #3 is a very good point and life lesson. Always forge ahead.

ff14 gave me self assurance, at first when i started playing i was realy scared of tanking, now i fucking love it and could do it blind in some dungeons XD and dis teached me that as long as i want something i can do it no matter what and nothing will stop me ever again from getting great >D

Man I've given out so much adcice over the past 3 years I've been playing (not a mentor btw) and the worst reply I've gotten is they just don't respond, guess I'm just lucky idk?

Do you play on a JP server? Cause I hear that people on those servers specifically don't like getting advice.