Have you ever purchased something simply because you liked how it looked on an influencer - only to find out that you didn't really like it on yourself AFTER buying it? 🥴I certainly have!

My husband took a work trip with two coworkers to Europe and he said the guy with the smallest suitcase looked the best, while the guy who overpacked looked the worst. Good lesson.

I have purchased items based on what I saw from influencers, but they either didn't look good on my body or I realized that the items weren't relevant to the life I have. I think many of us buy for our "fantasy selves"!!

I actually unfollowed all fashion influencers at the beginning of the year. I realized how it was negatively impacting me. I’m definitely finding my style now that I don’t follow them.

One thing that I don't see represented in fashion content is just good normal, practical clothes. I want jeans that are high rise, have big pockets, and are loose and stretchy enough to be comfy. I want some jeans that can spread manure in without worrying about staining my jeans. I want tshirts that won't ride up when I exercise or garden. I want jacket pockets with zippers. I don't want to wear all black or beige. I want bras with wide, padded straps that don't ride down. Do influencers ever talk about that kind of stuff?

Oh man, no way am I ashamed to tell anyone who will listen to me that 95% of my closet comes from Goodwill! I work at a community college with students trying to make ends meet -- I'm the resource coordinator -- and have managed to get thousands of dollars' worth of Goodwill vouchers for needy students. I'm proud to tell them that these jeans, this blouse, this pair of shoes, and this men's blazer -- all came from our local Goodwill, or the online version. Students are so grateful to get $100 in Goodwill vouchers from me.

I feel like woman are getting tired of society and social media pushing overconsumption on us. I got rid of 50% off my stuff when I moved into a new house this year. I got rid of pants and jeans that I diddnt fit for already over a year. Got rid of lots of tops and dresses that I kept for 'if I might need it one day'. And I decluttered 15 fragrances. It feels soooo much better. I am 32, I was ready for this.

I'm done shopping for clothes! I shop for my ideal self!!! I need to understand my true self!! I'm starting at least a 5 month no buy. I need to be freed from the shackles of consumerism. It is a prison.

When I was younger I dreamed of a large walk-in closet. Now after discovering capsule wardrobe, I can’t imagine having that many clothes ever in my life. The options may be great but it also causes decision fatigue and takes longer to get ready. I would still love to own a bigger home someday but I’m turning my walk-in closet to a library/reading corner.

I have a rule that whenever I shop and buy new things, I also have to clear out at least SOME items from my closet.

Some good points, but be aware that decluttering and minimalism is just as much a lie. Better to pack away things you aren't currently wearing and bring out when you feel the inevitable need for variety. So much of the push for decluttering comes from the clothes industry who know that clothes wear out quicker when we have less, and we get bored, and have space, so will buy to fill the gap. It's more environmentally friendly to wear the things we have much longer. I finally had to get rid of a cardigan I bought 35 years ago because it was too small, but it has been worn for 35 years. I'm hoping to sucessfully alter a skirt I bought 45 years ago to wear this summer.

I’ve never been susceptible to influence from others, but I used to buy clothes (and other things) that I thought I needed for a life I wasn’t even living. I had “funeral clothes”, little black cocktail dresses, heels, athletic gear, etc. I was in my 40s before I realized how stupid all that was. Now, everything I own gets used/worn.

I dont get excited when i see celebrities closets,i get overwhelmed 😅 it stresses me out just looking at it. I used to have too many,til the day i just wanted to go back to the roots,a smaler closet,what i used to have back in 2011 and i was happy with it. Now im so happy, again, with what i have, its a bit more than back in 2011,but not nearly as much as the time i had 2x over 2m and a smaller wardrobe-and i didnt used what i had. Now i love evry piece, and i buy for some "hole" i have.❤

Thank you SO much for this video. I could have a closet full of clothes but I still only seem to go to a few things on repeat because I feel so good and comfortable in them! I also stopped buying beautiful things that I KNOW I won’t have anywhere to wear them…..but I just loved them. I am much more realistic now with myself as to my actual lifestyle. I also thrift so much more now.

Fast-fashion has contributed greatly to the shopaholic-ism and unrealistic expectations of many of us, it’s not just social media and micro-trends. I enjoy watching fashion content here on YT, but actually rarely buy from influencer links. My style is different from most content, less casual - I hate denim and athletic wear, and I can’t wear any synthetics, which most items contain. I just enjoy styling myself and love good clothes and accessories.

I started thrifting clothes six years ago and have never looked back. Except for under garments, I thrift everything!

Well done on recognising how your lifestyle no longer matched your values and taking action to make positive changes. I've been decluttering recently and it really helps me to feel clearer headed about my life. I find some fashion vloggers helpful when they put outfits together but some of them are quite bossy and prescriptive, I prefer the more creative stylists who put second hand outfits together and 'shop their closets.'

I'm moving from a large condo in a small town to a small apartment in a big city. My wardrobe definitely needs to be paired down a LOT to fit in my new space. I've gotten started on streamlining and am surprised by how much easier getting dressed has been. I feel much more like I actually have a personal style versus having so many options and feeling like I was dressed as a different person from day to day. The only fashion 'influencers' I follow are people whose style I want to emulate so that I can get outfit ideas but using what I already have!

I have started minimalism in 2018. I got used to declutterring my wardrobe often. Today, I struggle a little… I only have black and white tops, i would like to add some statement pieces as well but it really is a struggle to find pieces that I really like and feel go wearing

The only things I won't buy used is undergarments & shoes. Undergarments are self-explanitory as to why I won't buy them used but as far as shoes are concerned, I won't buy them for two reasons... 1) you never know the state of the feet of the previous owner and there is no way to ensure cleanliness. 2) depending on the previous owners gate, stance & weigh distribution, they could have worn in a way that doesn't match mine so they could cause foot, knee, and hip pain or injury. Aside from those two things, everything else is fair game to buy used/pre-loved. 💜

Thank you for adding in your honesty. I figured this out later in life (in my 50's now) but, hey, an old dog can learn new tricks. I am glad some young people *get it* and are figuring out non natural stuff is not only bad for our skin, but for the people that have to work in these conditions putting this stuff together. it is not like we want to take their jobs away, but perhaps bring some of this back to the states, or pay a fair or better wage. Sorry, did not mean to go off here, but what you address here, not many are willing to listen, but hey, aren't we all on a learning curve? I was told one time, when you have curated the best practices of what you own, you can go into your closet with the lights off and pick out an outfit. challenge yourself to try it out and see if you come up with something cool, edgy, wild or even a vibe you get complimented on! Get out that maybe pile and create a look or if the fabric is pretty, make into a pillow, yeah? ps. keep the black dress, you look very sexy in it. add a sparkling necklace or choker with it... boom, done. In the movie, Pretty Woman. The red jacket you see on Julia Roberts in the beginning was thirfted for 30.00

I've purchased influencer promoted items as I've been updating my wardrobe and personal style over the last 12 months. However, it can get incredibly expensive if you keep purchasing non-stop after watching so many hauls. I've learnt to control my spending and only watch these types of hauls if im in need of something specific and want some inspiration on where to purchase.

When I was young and thin basically a size 6 or 8, I got my favorite clothes second hand. Now I’m an xl. I found it really hard to find nice things in that size reliably.

I honestly think that so many tips of people who have over-bought at some time and went from an overabundance to a "minimalist" wardrobe, is unrealistic for most other people, who just NEVER have so many things, or if we have, we accumulated over the last several years. I do however think, that having had sooo many clothes and options at one point, really helps in finding your own style, what you like to wear and what doesnot work for you. so, it should honestly be communicated, that havingalotzt some point will actually prove to be helpful down the line. also, all things we wear are trend-lead, if we are not very niche. Blazers, minimal pants and t-shirts are juxt really trendy at this point...

Minimalism can just be the other side of the same coin, leading to shopping hauls later, why go from one extreme to the other? I don't buy this minimalist trend either, the excessive decluttering followed by shopping sprees, just stay in the middle, be balanced and moderate in all things

I think that the root of the problem is trying to keep up with trends that are here today gone tomorrow AND getting that look thru fast fashion i.e. cheaply made. I really curate carefully what I bring in and I love thrifting good quality classic things that are in great shape. Instead of all the decluttering I periodically go thru my weardrobe and curate pieces for the coming season. If something is worn or I really never see myself wearing it again I get rid of it. Everything else gets packed away and stored. Many time when I go thru the stored items when that season comes around I choose entirely different things than I did the prior year. Finding personal authentic style is really the key and curating carefully what comes in ensures there is a great new rotation of new looks for many years. In other words don't try so hard to follow the crowd.

I actually put a filter on my email (well my boyfriend did bc i asked) to put all the emails that have the word unsubscribe in them to the trash folder, it has actually helped with not wanting to buy everything under the sun. It might not have to do with clothes but it does help me. It's also good to get rid of subscriptions you don't need too. I did that with a makeup/skincare box I got. I started to become overwhelmed with too much so I had to stop. If something runs out I will purchase that item again if I liked it. For example, my toner I use, I will purchase another one before it gets too low and I will be fine. Or if I can't remember when I first used a certain mascara , I will just throw it away and purchase another one if I don't already have one that isn't opened

I get so many wonderful, current, new and affordable fashion by thrifting. Most of my purchases still have tags. I also thrift my yarn and fabric for those times I desire something more custom.

I feel like for me this was very different than for most people (judging from what I read when going through the comments). Until I was 16, my mom chose my clothes and outfits. And she was more about trends then I ever was during my entire life. She used to see an outfit, like it and bring it home for me to wear to school. I was horribly bullied for that and have been called "wanna-be-Barbie" more often than I can count. That kind of made trends come with a negative feeling for me. When I was 16 I started buying and choosing my own clothes. I know I chose weird combos most of the time because I simply didn't know how to do any better, but I learned a lot on the journey. I mainly was inspired by male artists (singers for the most part, but also actors) or comic book characters (also mostly male). For some reason I never really felt too inspired by what women wore in magazines or on TV. Later I started using trends to shop what I actually liked (when something came on trend I was looking for, I bought it). I still ended up with a wardrobe full of stuff I didn't wanna wear, because even doing it this way lead me to own many clothes that didn't work for me - or my preferences did shift too quickly to create a cohesive wardrobe. When I started decluttering my wardrobe, it felt like it was the wardrobe of at least 12 different people. Also my choices shifted a lot when I started working as a presentor for a local TV show. It took a long time for me to learn what truly flatters me and what rather pulls apart my own proportions or makes me look lost. I learned the most during the time I was modelling (as a hobby) and saw full body pictures of myself. Usually when something you put on doesn't create the image you intended it to do, it doesn't work for you. First thing that happened through this discovery was me leaning into a VERY small capsule which consisted of only black and bits of white and grey. I wore pretty much the same outfit every day because fit, silhouette and style of each piece was so similar. I didn't do this intentionally, it just happened. And I started neglecting any other piece of clothing that was found in my wardrobe, so I ended up decluttering heaps. I also learned about David Kibbe's system, John Kitchener and others, got my colors done, stuff like that. It was very confusing at first, but lead me to learn to understand what impact clothes have on the way I look and come across like. And over time I was able to figure out how to transform all the information I had gathered and translate it into my own style. I don't have a super minimalistic wardrobe, and also not a "small" color palette to pick from in which EVERYTHING goes with everything else. But I managed to create a wardrobe I am excited about, one that instantly inspires me when I open it up and the color scheme actually makes me very happy. I also now allow myself to both express myself through my style and set a mood with it. And when I analyze my picks, I can see influences of what I liked before, but it is way more refined and matched to work for me and my lifestyle rather than just picking random pieces that remind me of something I saw on another person and loved it. I personally think that in my case this trial and error wasn't a waste of time, it was something I needed in order to figure out what actually IS my style. I DID enjoy all of the phases by the way, it just wasn't 100% ME. And about shopping clothes. I usually first look at colors, then type of garment (let's say I am looking for a specific type of jacket) and then fit, fabric, shape and style. That's the easiest for me to go about it. And I only do that when I feel like something's missing in my wardrobe. When I can't find what I am looking for, I don't buy anything and seek after it later again or contemplate sewing it myself (depeding on the fabric, I can't because my machine doesn't work with every single type of fabric). A side note: What I figured is that some types of garments that look insanely great on you might not work with your current hair style and for that reason may look odd despite perfectly going with your body's structure and shape. That's the case for me which is why I am growing my hair longer now. I had that pompadour pixie with an undercut and am transitioning to a medium length hair cut now. I also strayed away from bleaching my hair to platinum blonde and went back to a color that's VERY similar to my natural rather brunette hair (it makes my own colors work for me while the bleached hair made them look slightly seperate from me). So I am actually attempting to grow out my natural hair color now. The recent phase is kind of icky though because the darker hair makes it more obvious that this shorter hairstyle doesn't really work for me while the bleached color concealed it a bit. I can tell you that there are various reasons why some stylists advise you to not lighten or darken your hair more than two levels unless you wanna look like a completely different person and create a specific fashion look. Sometimes leaving your hair color alone OR simply just refining it, is best. So your hair should also be considered when figuring out your personal style, that's all I wanted to say.

I RARELY purchase new! I absolutley love theiftong/free cycling/ up cycling. I own that loud and proud. I get compliments on my style- and people are shocked that 90% of my wardrobe is thrifted. Sadly- the new stuff isn’t made as well

I say “Fill the whole in your heart NOT the gap in your closet.”.

Hi, Haley. Loved this video. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this. I've been purging my closet over the last year or so, and one of the things I ask myself if I'm unsure whether to keep something is "Would I buy this again?". This video is the first one of yours I've ever watched, so not sure if this is something you've mentioned in the past, but I found this question to be a game-changer for me. I look forward to continuing to follow your channel. X Maryfrances

So true about thrifting! I have given away so many nice clothes to Goodwill! They just don’t fit or I don’t wear them.

I am a fashion influencer , I don’t link products anymore and don’t create haul videos anymore. It’s too underwhelming and doesn’t align with the person I am . I have decluttered my things from time to time and donated to charity, friends and family, I still have amazing collection but those are things I would reach out to and wear them and fits my lifestyle. As an Indian it’s impossible to be minimalistic because I love handlooms and bespoke clothing. So now it’s quality over quantity

Thanks for this great video. I like the point about trying things on that you are not sure of. I have had a pair of pants in my closet with tags on for over a year (maybe 2). I keep telling myself that I will wear them when... Finally, I tried them on and it took one second to decide that I didn't even like the fit of them at all. 😊

Happy to see an influencer turned minimalist! Great job! 😊

Totally agree too many options fatigue, us I now absolutely do not want too many items so now am very mindful of what I add to my closet or makeup collection I only follow low buy thoughtful spending channels, I just started following a Chanel that owes round new your asking what people are wearing and the majority are wearing thrifted and makes me feel like the tide is turning to make thrifted ‘cool’ to the point wear I feel like saying something I bought new was thrifted 😂 which is fantastic as it’s great for the environment and our wallets! New subscriber! 🙋🏽‍♀️

I enjoyed your video! Most of my wardrobe is thrifted and I have no shame about it! I have amazing quality pieces (ok a few holes mended and adjustments but that is part of the fun!). I have to admit tho, I don’t need anymore clothes and it’s hard to shop thrift shopping as it’s so addictive!

Every few months a lady from orphanage comes to ask for clothes, I told her we didn't have kids clothes but she told us that they had teenagers as well so I emptied my wardrobe and she had to call people to bring extra bags. It's sad and assuring at the same time because they are in their teens and still not adopted but we can be useful to them somehow

Its good to declutter and buy in second hand store that is good quality and less money and we save the planet too 😊❤

I'm a true minimalist for winter, but a maximalist for summer. I have only 3 jumpers/cardigans for Winter, a gorgeous white mohair and wool, brown jumper and yellow cardigan both in organic cashmere. I then only have 2 leggings for winter (perfect with boots) - brown suede and khaki cotton. My trouble is summer-time, I am a dress hoarder apparently. I buy everything I like, even in colours that don't suit me - I had a dress still with the label on for 2 years!!! then I finally wore it recently and realized, the colour lilac is NOT flattering on my skin. What a waste.

I really love your taste and style always so chic. My faves would be *luxdups* leather backpack and the Swarovski pave diamond ring so gorg. Thank you for your recommendations.

May not be for everybody, but when I have decisions to make, such as weeding out wardrobes and bookshelves, I use a pendulum and ask yes/no -- does it stay? Does it go? After a while you get to feeling what the answer is before you see it with the pendulum. It takes the guesswork out of the process, for me. Also takes me out of the mind-games situation, arguing with myself about keeping this favorite item and the memories we had (if there were any).

Thank you 🙏

Tamara kalinic’s fiance filipi recently said the more u know urself the more u narrow down ur style and adopt ur uniform. This has really helped me not feel guilty about buying more of the same. T shirts, tanks, polos, and button down in different colors and materials for example only solids or stripes, no puff sleeves or diff types of sleeves.

HI Haley - would love a video on what people are trying to get from clothes. I just have a uniform wardrobe, I just put on what is appropriate for the weather, so I am bewildered by people who say "I have nothing to wear" and would love to know what this means.

I don't follow influencers. I look at inspiration pictures at google sometimes or get inspired by a tv show, but mostly I use only my own brain when deciding what to buy and what I need. #oldschool

Thank god I don't have insta etc because it sounds awful to be bombarded with this nonsense. Buying second hand is so much better for the environment.

‘Impulse purchases are rarely ever intentional’ Hehe

Unbelievable. Trend after Trend and people becoming rich off the gullibility of others

I bought the Marc Jacobs tote. It was so so so not my style. Sold it last week. Whew!

About thrifting SHOES, and shoes specifically, i can't help but being a bit skeptical too. I can't get out of my mind the idea of parking my feet where someone else's fungi have been 😅 Almost everything else can be washed, but about shoes (expecially pointed toe ones) i am really not very sure. How do you really know they are sanitized?

So after we lost our belongings in a fire (no one got hurt🙏🏻) I, who used to be such a shopaholic (this was pre influencer times) just couldn’t shop anymore, something happened to me, where I thought I should only buy exactly what I need and wear. This lasted about 7-8 years. And I would literally feel so guilty if I bought any piece of clothing or accessory, even if I needed it, and I could never get myself to buy something just cause I liked it. Anyway, my husband kept telling me I don’t need to feel guilty, and slowly I started buying clothes and shoes etc again, only to fall in the trap of watching hauls.. so now I feel like, I have WAY too many clothes etc and only a few of them represent me, and I have way too many trend pieces.. so now I’m going to try to declutter (and I actually have decluttered several items and yet there is just too much), and only buy some basic staple pieces, which believe or not, I actually don’t have (or I do have in some categories, but not all). Oh and I stopped watching hauls 3 years ago, cause they just ruined my bank account😂 Thank you for this video and your honesty🙏🏻

Great video but it would have been interesting to see why you got rid of what was in the garbage bags

It's more sustainable to pack away excess items to wear at a later date rather than buying.

nice

I know this is supposed to be a streamlined video. It be nice if you would go through your thought process on how you declutter certain items and not others. I guess more of a question on tips and tricks on how to edit ones closet. If you covered the topic before let me know. Just new to your channel just thought I would ask.

Curious, if you store your colorful items somewhere else as I observed a great deal of nuetrals

Thanks for ur tips. Whats ur nationality if i may ask?

I bought my entire closet thrifted from the real real and dont buy anymore but a couple pieces a year

It’s not “a part of the job”. It’s a choice, every time.

Many nice comments to read 😇

I’m so over haul videos and have unsubscribed from channels that feature hauls vs thoughtful content.

you look like moira dela torre

Fast fashion is accessible but not affordable at least not for the people earning starvation wages or the planet. Criticize boomers if it makes you feel better but it wasn’t our generation who started haul greed. Also, myself and my kids are totally into second hand

The biggest lie I've encountered is how awesome it is to declutter. I tried it and have regretted it on several occasions. I've had to repurchase numerous things I wish I had not decluttered. I do agree that haul videos are silly and more about bragging than helping anyone.

All that is just not meant for you

I stopped following anyone who does HAULS several years ago. Also, as you get older, you don't really care what other people think..most of my wardrobe is thrifted and I always donate/sell things that don't meet my criteria.

Minimalism is also a "trend", like "climate change"...

I work in long-term care and in my facility, this is all my residents get - A room with washroom, a bed, a nightstand, dresser and sometines a basic wardrobe cabinet. It may sound funny, but seeing this each day has encouraged me to live a more basic life and declutter things I dont truly love or need. My husband and i are taking money that we would spend on extra things on experiences and travel. As you get older, you wont be able to take this extra "stuff" with you and so might as well learn to live with less 🤍