JERRY SPRINGER IS DEAD HOW DID I MISS THIS.

The second story if you read the update the fiancé was trying ti get the daughter out of their lives once they were married she didn’t like the daughter so that’s why she didn’t want her in the wedding probably didn’t even want her to go to the wedding.

The dress story. They budgeted $20k for the wedding and sounds like more for the honeymoon. They already spent $14k on one day but now hes upset about spending a little over $1k on an outfit for that day. Sounds like he was happy spending their money on things that benefitted him but not things that he didnt care that much about.

Story 2: Jamie did not read the full update, so you all missed that the Fiancée was a terrible person who was trying to cut the daughter out of OP's life. Therefore, Jamie's take missed the mark on this one. Happy OP immediately ended the relationship without hesitation.

In story 2 the update is that OP fiancé wanted op to significantly reduce his relationship to the point of seeing daughter 1-2 times a year after the wedding. She had not discussed this with him previously and seemed to just think that he would naturally kick his daughter to the curb after the wedding. She didn’t want daughter in pictures because she didn’t want daughter to be a part of their lives. He took his ring off her finger and then he and his daughter turned what was supposed to be the honeymoon trip into a daddy daughter trip.

In the future I would definitely read the updates. The second story has a completely different context if would have read the update you would have found out she assumed the daughter would be completely cut out of their lives once they were married.

Perfection would be if Emma pretended to go along with her patronizing fiance by ordering a dress on Wish. Then watched him fall apart when the Wish dress arrived.

The last one... this makes me wonder what kind of engagement and wedding rings they were getting. I got married 4 years ago and we kept things really low budget. The one thing we splurged on is our rings because they are the rings we want to wear for life.

Y’ALL I CAN’T😅 A-hole dress guy’s only other Reddit post was shared very soon after this one, and is in r/dating_advice titled: “Struggling to get back into the dating scene since my fiancée left me unexpectedly”

Somebody drop this man Safiya Nygaard’s video on ordering Wish wedding dresses. That ought to do it.

Unpopular opinion: as a society we’ve gotten ridiculous about the “don’t wear white to a wedding.” OBVIOUSLY don’t wear a dress that looks like it could be a wedding dress but I’ve read and heard so many stories of brides freaking out over a white sundress with colorful flowers over it. I’m getting married next year and what my guests wear isn’t my biggest concern. I just want to have a good time and focus on my fiancé and I. This has truly gotten out of hand.

(Story 3) The issue to me is that they have $6,000 left. So she spent a little over $1,000 on a wedding dress. They already had a honeymoon fund. So what is the problem here? My husband still has no idea what I spent on my wedding dress and he doesn't care. He wanted a wedding day that made me happy and did not break the bank which I pulled off. He also wanted left alone and not pulled into drama haha as most men do.

The first story I don’t think the groom was in the wrong. He tried to diffuse the situation in the restroom and she decided to ignore him and go confront his sister. To me it seems like she is the one that didn’t want to compromise and on top of that cause conflict with her in-laws all because of a little boy wearing white.

Any dress or outfit from Wish is the bane of women everywhere. They never look like the pictures and are never any good. $950 for a wedding dress, $120 for a veil? That is already fairly cheap. But no, groom wants to order a $50-$100 dress from Wish. She’d be better off wearing a tissue paper dress. Actually, if it’s from Wish, it might end up being a tissue paper dress. 😑

Wait groomsmen wear white shirts so why cause a big issue because a 6yr old has a white shirt on?

6!! Year old in white beign the cause of the brides adult meltdown is embarrassing... Groom might want to think about therapy.

I love the phrase you use “let’s pour some grace on this”… so true

First Story) NTA that was a Bridezilla becoming insecure over a 6 year old boy not even a girl because he was wearing white pants like come on. Second Story) NTA FATHER OF THE YEAR AWARD GOES TO OP!!!! Third Story) YTA the average cost of a wedding dress is somewhere around 1k-2k the fact she found a dress for less then that is awesome I would be jumping for joy. I have seen videos of women trying Wish wedding dresses and they look nothing like the photo and the photos used to advertise the dresses on places like Wish are usually stolen from the actual designer it would have been one of those situations where “you get what you paid for.”

The arguments these couples got into were all crazy! What is it about wedding planning that brings out the worst in people. I’ve had some minor frustrations feeling alone during the wedding planning process, but this video makes me want to go kiss my fiancé. Can’t imagine experiencing any of these scenarios in our relationship.

Second story- he’s definitely being a good dad. Those 2 options were clear cut enough for that story imo. That’s his baby. Parenthood comes certainly first before any fiance / girlfriend who seemingly doesn’t respect that you’re a parent. Her MIT who crossed the line in inserting herself betw THEIR adult issues also needs to b chucked away. Crazy!

Jerry Springer died babe 😂

I get clutching your chest at a $1000 price tag, especially for "a dress she'll only wear once". So what if she wore it more than once? Could she wear it on your honeymoon? An evening at the theater? A fancy office Christmas party where she dressed up as the Snow Queen? Seriously if a dress is that beautiful, I would want to wear it again.

My wedding dress was a second hand one, £40 from eBay, bit I still spent £150 getting her cleaned and another £400 on alterations and adding pockets. I then also spent TENS of hours restitching EVERY old, yellowed sequin and changing them for gorgeous iridescent ones, I also added detachable, off shoulder sleeves. It was phenomenal and everything I first dreamed it could be when I saw it on eBay. Any wedding dress is going to add up.

Jamie I hate to break it to you, but Jerry Springer is no longer on the air because Jerry Springer is dead 😅

I can't a dress that fits me for less than 70$ for Christmas, and this guy wants to find a wedding dress at 50$? If you have some money, there's a middle ground here! How do you go from 950 to 50??? Also, in my life, I will never buy something specially fitted for me. I don't have the means. EXCEPT FOR my wedding dress. That will be, and it is for a lot of women I think, the only time that I can buy a dress "made for me" (or altered for me). I would be so sad if my fiance wanted to rob me of that chance.

23:34 I do think it may have just been about control for him and less his fear that she may fixate on an expensive dress again outside of their means. & even in this scenario, the dress was withIN their means. Only because there was nothing in his explanation that implied he was afraid of her spending habits, because like u said, if that was his fiancé, he knew what her spending habits were like, knew this wasn’t the norm as she was only looking at a THREE figure dress and veil for their once in a lifetime WEDDING. And yet he was hyper fixated on the price, even tho it was within their means, even tho her parents offered to buy it and STILL he took issue. Which to me indicates it was less about money and more about control. I hate to say it since it’s only a dress but I do think that it would’ve read as a red flag to me being that he was that condescending and disregarded her feelings abt what she wanted. I’d be thinking, “well when else is he gonna behave this way and how intolerable would that be?”

Man, I need updates to these stories lol. Don't leave me on a cliff hanger, Jamie!

Love your channel! Not formally engaged yet but been binging your videos and podcast.

Jamie you are so emotionally well-adjusted. I love watching your videos for the wedding content but what I really love is hearing your well-rounded, graceful opinions on difficult situations. I look up to you a lot for it!

I feel like a lot of these wedding AITA are less who's the A and more "why are you even together?"

I know this isn't the point, but I was just happy the kid had on pants 🤷 I love your reaction to these. Sending hugs 💜

I find it odd and suspicious that after 5 years, and apparently getting along great, it WOULDNT occur to her to include her future stepdaughter; she included her niece so it's not like she was leaning towards child free 3rd story: as soon as he said wish, I was like "oh he's not just the ah, he's a full blown idiot". Like memes about how terrible wish products are are everywhere, wtf?

I love these videos, it gets me through part of my workout 🩶

I so needed this today thank you!!😊😊😊😊

My wedding has already passed but I can’t stop watching your videos! You’re such a kind person and love hearing you’re takes and opinions. If anyone cares my wedding day was beautiful and everything I hoped for

Story 3- dude, have you never seen say yes to the dress? $1,000 is unheard of! Plus, wish will NOT look or feel the same. It will have colored thread, look different from the picture. This is the kind of dude who would put his kids into a dangerous childcare situation, to save a few bucks.

You read "on Wish" and I immediately exclaimed NO!! You cannot risk buying wedding dresses on Wish, babe no 😭😭😭

10:14 For Story 2, the update, I think, is really important. The bride said that she thought that once they got married the daughter, P, would not be as involved in their lives as they start their NEW family. She didn’t want P in any of the pictures cause she wouldn’t be around/ a part of their new life together. Dad was heartbroken, called off the wedding and that’s when he went on the honeymoon w/ his daughter. ❤

Your laugh makes me giggle SO much!

Aita wedding videos are my favorite!

🤣🤣 Story #3 had me cackling!!! He suggested a dress from Wish... WISH?!?! 🤣🤣 That man was completely out of his range for even *trying* to window shop for dresses. And that toddler comment? Way out of line.

That wish wedding dress one is like… certainly fake

That first story…completely unhinged on the bride’s part 🥴 A 6yr old child? Really? Since they’ve decided to pettily and separately stay at their parents homes since the wedding and haven’t spoken, I’m not sure how promising the rest of their marriage is but it ain’t lookin too good. You definitely “poured some grave” over the situation in attempting to empathize with what the bride was potentially going thru that made her react so irrationally, and I understand how stressful weddings are for women, but I do have a hard time reasoning that those pressures, whatever they were for her, resulted in a meltdown over a 6 yr old boys outfit. Her going on to speak to the groom’s sister about it..just not the right time or place, apart from the fact that it’s so petty. Now, the groom threatening to leave along w the nephew, while I understand that’s his nephew and his sister aka his FAMILY, his wife ALSO became his family and the first he had to honor generally once they married and took vows. I understand his potential feelings of loyalty toward his family mixed in with her completely nonsensical and bratty reaction, but you’re supposed to b a partnership and beginning a newly married issue with threatening to leave ain’t it. I imagine he was heated. Unless this was completely out of character for her, I’m afraid he made his bed. He’s not the A hole, if anything she is, but he didn’t handle the situation to the best of his ability either.

Look, I'm not from a culture that wears exclusively white for weddings; but this emotional attachment to wearing white and being THE only one to even have some white on feels like just a lot of feelings for something that isn't that important at the end of the day.

About the first story ... did she also complain about the men wearing white shirts? 🤨A friend of me didn't even complain when her 13 year old niece wore a completely white (but short) lace dress to her wedding. Why be bothered by a little child wearing white as part of the outfit (I mean, complaining about a white TIE? Really?!), that's just silly. The groom who does not know how much wedding dresses cost is a bit hilarious 😄but to be fair, you don't HAVE to spend 1000 $ or more on a dress, there are cheaper options (like pre-loved dresses which you can even get unworn). In hindsight, I regret a little spending 400 € for my dress (last year), my sister got a pre-loved one for 100 (original price 2000 €). And German weddings are MUCH longer than American ones, more like 12-14 hours than just 5. But they have to talk it out and find a solution or a compromise.

Listening to your advice and opinions, I think it would be a great video to make for marital/relationship advice especially going through big decisions and conflicts as you work with couples and are married yourself ❤😊 like the "i feel" language, boundaries, etc.

omg, found the post and weapons level AH gunning for a wish dress, he shortly after made a post "Struggling to get back into the dating scene since my fiancee left me unexpectedly" I am dying over here rofl

I don't think he wants to control what she wears, but he wants to control what she spends when they're BOTH contributing and her FAMILY is willing to spend it for her--he's a financial abuser, or he's on the verge of being one.

I guess I was just raised under a rock and my parents as well, I didn't find out until I was in my late twenties, that you're not supposed to wear white to a wedding. I went to a friend's wedding when I was 22 and wore a white blouse in black pants. Nobody said anything. But now I hear about all these brides freaking out if somebody wears any kind of white at their wedding and it makes me not want to go to weddings at all. What other unspoken rules are there about what you're supposed to do at a wedding that I was never told but I'm going to ruin someone's day if I break the rule I didn't know about?

The fiancé definitely singled out the daughter, you’re trying to see the good side of a woman with bad intentions

1st story: Not sure how the bride could be mad and heartbroken about a 6 yr old Boy wearing white pants and bow tie?? I would be peeved if a Lady wore a white dress to my wedding. A child and a boy for that matter?? Yikes.....

Honestly, most of these stories involve two people who are immature, selfish, and petulant. Narcissism is spreading, and it’s killing these marriages before they even begin. Learning how to communicate and own your feelings before marriage is crucial.

I've got to stand with the bride in the first story. He said that his wife made a big deal about ANYONE wearing white and then he changed it to WOMEN. Given the emphasis that she put on It before the wedding. I would say her reaction is proportional because the white pants are equivalent to bringing a toddler to a child free wedding.

I'm british. The onlypeople who I have seen wear white to a wedding were the bride, the more youthful members of her wedding party (flower girls, ring bearer, page boys etc) and the people who were escorted out. It's almost as if the sister did not understand what to bring her child in. A.K.A. anything but white. I've seen young children turn up in fairytale inspired outfits that the bride is completely happy with (snow white/belle's ball gown/ prince charming's suit etc). Just some nice, comfy trousers and a nice top would have been fine. Not a white suit. That implies that they're in the wedding. Also, a good wedding dress compromise could be a) going the second hand/ex runway dress or b) a prom/ other nice dress, that may or may not be in the colour that the bride wants. My personal preference would be a nice second hand dress. I think they're so very pretty. I might even get a second hand prom dress, if I ever get married.

The woman who had a meltdown about a 5 year old wearing white pants…… seriously, get a grip. This is when you look in the mirror and go “oh my gosh I’m insane right now, haha, that was crazy. It’s not actually a big deal” and move on.

8:15 The other thing I would point out with this one is that the two of you are creating a new family, so it should be a given that you would want to include each other’s kids in the wedding. Telling your new stepchild that they aren’t welcome as part of the ceremony is shutting them out and making them feel like exactly that-just a STEPchild. This is cold and mean, IMO. Not the way to start off with a new family.

Story 1: the bride is nuts

I would like more of you didn’t told reddit opnion until de end

although I can understand that him threatening to leave in the first story was a hard line in the sand, she had already disrespected his sister and nephew by asking them to leave over something so trivial. imagine the groom trying to kick out any of the brides family over something ridiculous? I'd be leaving too.... she ruined her own wedding sadly.

First story… I’m kinda with the groom here. Yea calling her names wasn’t the best way to go about it but if she’s gonna kick out my family cuz of my nephews pants… I’m with him I’d leave too and my “apology” days later after her mother told me I needed to would actually have been divorce papers

For story 3, I spent over 1k on my dress and that was on sale not even counting alterations. My fiancé had no problem with that. & we have way less money set aside for the wedding than they do. we are primarily paying for our wedding ourselves. everything is expensive for a wedding. he wants 6k for the honeymoon plus their honeymoon fund? what kind of honeymoon are they doing?

I got my dress for $250, BUT, that's because it was on clearance at a reputable boutique. There are many ways to save money, Wish is not it 😂

So am I the only one that thinks the sister in story 1 dressed her child in white on purpose to spite the bride?! Most people are not putting their kids in white because it is hard to keep clean. I imagine this is not the first time the wife and sil had issues.

Hello! You said you have a wedding planning team. I've sent two inquires asking if I can pay for your consultation. Just an hour. However, I can't get a response. How can I connect with your team?

"WISH"?????????????????? ARE YOU KIDDING ME?????????????? RIGHT NOW?????????????? WHAT?????????????? The wedding dress is EVERYTHING to the bride. This is a day she's dreamed of since childhood. In my opinion, anything up to and including 2 to 3 grand is acceptable, ESPECIALLY if the bride is using alternative financial sourcing for said dress. You DON'T mess...... with the dress. Another point, did they not have quite a sizable budget for the honeymoon already? This is unfathomable.

Wish?? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 GTFO!!! We all know they won’t look like the pictures!

Story 3: I thought she was going to drop 6k on a wedding dress and not have money left over for the bridesmaids dresses or something... Wow, 1k is great! That's actually what I spent for mine haha

Lol he has no idea how wedding dress work at all. The price, the wish website (would not even look like what is pictured), alterations, $1000 being low end ect… oh boy!!!!

Wait bro was mad about a $950.00 dress and with the veil it’s around $1k? That’s not extravagant. The story where the bride spent $9k on a dress and put it on the fiancé’s credit card is extravagant then asked for his honest opinion and he hated the dress (lol).

Yes! Stay out of the dress shopping buddy!

Story 3 😂

1. I will be strict with white as well but its a 6 year old boy, he's fine! I don't think you are completely TA but could have been nicer. Both of you need to grow up. 2. Ive heard this story several times. I would have ended it as soon as she said no. This man needs to leave because the fiance does not want to be a step mom and your kids come first. The update is that the fiance said she though he would become a holiday only dad and not be involved anymore which makes him no where near TA and she is a major AHole 3. TA. The ONLY way you would NTA dictating your brides dress would be if it was actually truly ugly asf or it was basically lingerie and you were just trying to save her embaresment.

I thought that the reason people aren't supposed to wear white is in case they are mistaken for the bride. Pretty sure a 6 year old boy isn't going to be mistaken for a bride...

Fiancée left in the 3rd story

The second story the daughter should have been in the wedding period! Find a part for her! Not that hard! The bride seems selfish.

That last guy: 1. He is not familiar with what wedding dresses cost. that’s problem number one. so he cannot have a balanced reaction. He needs more research. 2. You guys try to do things the affordable way. That’s good. It doesn’t mean that your preferences will always be identical. But there are times when it’s OK to splurge. Does he not believe that?… And if he doesn’t, what kind of financial arguments are you guys going to be having in the future? 3. I am a pretty frugal person myself. I consider that my wedding dress is only going to be worn for one day. And even in my opinion: he. is. cheap. 🚩 there is a difference between being frugal and being cheap. And sometimes one masquerades is the other. If she is usually a frugal person and she decided that this is some thing that was worth spending a significant amount of money on (which frankly, for a wedding dress, seems like she was still being a frugal person) then obviously she gave this thought and decided that this was important enough to her. You already had a honeymoon fund with money in it. You had $6000 extra. If you guys both contributed half and half and she said she was buying it with her own money, we can consider that $3000 of that is hers. Do your research man. She even compromised to the point of having someone from the outside donate money to get her dress - and even that compromise didn’t pacify you. if you already had your honeymoon planned and spent money on it, what in the world were you going to spend $6000 more on? You really couldn’t just let her have this? If a frugal person decides to spend $1000 on something - then you know it’s important to them. And if you have the money, and you can make room for that, but won’t - then that means you have a problem. There is some kind of neurosis there. And she does well to consider, what this reveals about the kind of person she’s going to marry and how neurotic you’re going to be in the marriage about money. Because you already said she is frugal - to both your advantages, and willing to compromise. What more do you want? Sometimes these threads frustrate me to no end. And I wish that I could be present to offer feedback…. Try to imagine yourself in the other persons shoes…

Upset over white pants on a six year old?? Unbelievable. WHO CARES!!! Get over it! I wouldn’t care if anyone showed up in white! Geez!!!

Story 1: it’s not about the child. I hope her husband can see that hindsight.

On the first story…there has to be more to this story than what was written by the O.P. I would be willing to bet it wasn’t about the kid as much as it was about the kid’s Mother. Perhaps there was bad blood between them to begin with and the groom’s Sister used that situation to stick it to her soon-to-be sister in law. The SIL read the invitation and knew this would piss her off and did it anyway. This is the behavior of someone that had a bone to pick.

Jerry springer died

Jerry Springer died 4/27/23

Btw toddlers throwing a tantrum have their reasons. Just saying

I think I’m loosing count but six add stops in the middle of your video is very discouraging.

Story 1: If that was a flower girl wearing white, would she have reacted the same? I wonder if there was already a tension between the sister-in-law and bride to begin with. She should have known better to just let it go and enjoy the special day.

Story 1: ESH. OP's sister sucks for putting a child in white. The bride sucks for going rogue, but OP said she requested no one wears white. OP also sucks for not doing anything helpful!

First story: a child wearing white pants and a white bowtie is not even remotely close to a guest wearing white. I am having a very hard time imagining how this episode might be a once-in-a-lifetime situation and not telling of the bride's personality 😅 but hey, you never know, I hope things turn out well for them.

#1- ESH. Bride overreacted, the sister should not have dressed the child in white, and groom should have tried to calm the bride instead of giving an ultimatum. #2- NTA. Of course your child should be a part of or present at your wedding. #3- YTA. He insulted his fiance over something he didn't understand. There was money in the budget and it is HER money. He got his tux taken in but didn't understand why she wanted her dress fitted?