he talks so soft and caring that it actually made me cry. No one has ever talked to me like this.

“Forgiveness is letting go of the need for them to pay you back”...

Came from your tik tok that said “trauma is not measured in severity but by surprise”... and I realize that this happened with my father and then again with a traumatic break up.. I was never able to explain this trauma, but wow.. those words moved me.

Matthias....please....PLEASE continue making content. I’m a 28 year old man tearing up because of what you’re saying in this video. I’ve watched your TikTok videos for a while and this is the first time I’ve watched a KZfaq video of yours because this is exactly what I have been searching for I have to begin the healing process the right way. Thank you. From the bottom of my heart.

he just described me, and his voice makes me cry because no one has ever talked to me with such respect, somewhat care, or softness. this is helping me heal

I’m a 47 year old man with childhood trauma. While I don’t have addictions to drugs or alcohol I do have a a vast history of broken relationships and jobs. I’ve run away from EVERYTHING that felt threatening. Even if it wasn’t. Every argument or questioning or debt felt like I failed and I ran away before the rejection of the relationship happened. I’ve never felt safe with anyone. I’ve never been able to explain to those who do love me why I do what I do. These words of yours are a good start. THANK YOU! ❤️

I’ve never once heard any words like this, I needed this thank you

I saw your tiktok on how trauma wasnt measured by severity but expectation/surprise. I always thought i wasnt worth talking about it because mine didnt seem to affect me to the point of breaking or just wasnt as bad as others to matter

You're such an incredibly well spoken psychologist. I'd really enjoy a video on forgiving but not reconciling with your abusers. I've cut my family out of my life and my mental health has greatly improved since but I'm dealing with a lot of anger from being robbed of my childhood and a normal adulthood. I greatly appreciate you and your videos beyond measure. You're helping so many ❤️

This hit hard. Thank you for the cry and realization.

I just feel so distant, and my dads just a reflection of the way his parents “parented” him. My fathers just a stranger that I know really well. I really just don’t feel like I can talk to him about it

I have never had someone told me that my situation mattered. I had recently convinced my myself that it didn’t and that I ultimately didn’t mattered as well... But thank you. I think I really needed that.

Someone please make him famous. He deserves it more than anyone on this app. Thanks for the cry, and feeling of acceptance ❤️

Please do a series on this topic, this video helped me so much and hit home.

I needed this. So badly. I've been to therapy session after therapy session and none of them have helped me the way you have. Thank you for being you, man. This video alone is going to help so many people.

On here from TikTok! You hit on something deep! That trauma isn’t measured over time, but by surprise! No one has ever help me call my trauma, trauma! I kept trying to convince myself that I hadn’t suffered enough to call my unresolved trauma! I have been trying to manage my anxiety, my PTSD... and I’m afraid that my depression would come back. I take my meds regularly and I do my best to be gentle with myself. But I needed this information, this validation! OMG, I treated up and then felt a calm and a release! Thank you!!

You have to learn to talk to little you. It’s life changing. Figure out what age you are in that moment your triggered and then say everything that someone should have said or done and calm them. We heal ourselves. 💜

I went into heart failure and had Emergency Open Heart surgery, at 12yrs old. Explaining to some how that caused PTSD is so hard because they don't get it. But you saying that it catches you by surprise helps me so much.

I can’t even express how I feel but what I do know is that I’m done procrastinating and holding back, I’m going go see a therapist because this hurts SO MUCH and I’ve been holding back from it. I haven’t allowed myself to process anything, I just let everything “go” because then I don’t have to hurt anymore

When you hate somebody, you’re still depending on them for something..WOW!!! There’s a powerful statement if I’ve ever heard one!!!!!

You’re so calm and collected that I felt like it was okay to be calm too. It wasn’t being talked at, it was being talked with.

I’m a 27 year old woman who just talked to my mother about something that happened as a child yesterday for the first time and I come upon your video today😭 I really really needed this. Thank you

When you said we can travel back to that child when trauma occurred to say, “It’s okay. I see you. I know you” I straight out cried. Being swept under the rug is as detrimental as the trauma. That’s the perfect environment for damage and ptsd. Thank you so much for taking the time to remind us to come back to the present with the breathing exercise at the end. You’re an amazing therapist. I’m so glad my daughter, who is currently going to college with her major being psychology, shared your link with me. Merry Christmas to you and yours.🎄

I think the worst is feeling helpless,going back to being a six year old and not being able to stop him from hurting her in front of me.Or stop him from hurting me,and even now I still don’t know what I could have done.

As a social worker who treats many that are so broken from trauma, thank you. Your words and insight are beautiful and truly amazing. There’s literally no telling how many lives you are changing. God bless you!

I don’t know why I thought I could get through this without crying. I was sobbing 3 minutes in.

tw: assault i genuinely fell in love with your content and I'm so thankful that you've started to also create youtube videos. im 18 years old and in february i was physically assaulted by a man I let into my home and called a friend, and it left me in the hospital. you're videos give me relief for helping me understand, understand my feelings, why i do certain things because of the trauma, etc. while this video is about child hood trauma, it really fit my situation. im grateful for you. were grateful for you. please don't stop what you're doing

My grandad killed himself, it turned my mom into mean person and she took it out on me. It’s so true that trauma isn’t about severity it’s about surprise.

Thank you! I needed this so much! At 37 after several therapists, nothing ever hit me the way this video did. I will be actively working on forgiving myself and self medicating. I have needed to do this for so long. 🙏🏼

I've recently been through something traumatic, and this resounds really deeply. Thank you for giving me a map.

I sobbed. But you said what I've needed to hear. Thank you so much.

i am crying so hard right now. Also. I know you didn’t mention religion at all in this video but I can see by the way you speak on forgiveness and reconciliation that you have a relationship with Christ. He shines through you, it’s beautiful.

I am moved to tears. I have been struggling with my past self for a while now and this is exactly the answers i have been needing

Thank you. So much of that I needed to listen to. I see my therapist every week. I’m so glad I listened to this. I’ve always known that forgiveness is for me, but I never understand it. Now it makes more sense. I’m over 50 and dealing with this I thought if I put it in a box on a shelf in my brain and forget it’s there. That would be that. Not so. That box exploded when I had a flashback. I’m on my way to healing and your videos help. Thank you.

i literally had this conversation with my therapist today. your words are very moving and impactful. thank you.

Followed you from tiktok. I really love your approach to healing. Thank you!

The people I was supposed to be safe with were the one's that caused the most damage. Unfortunately it carried over to my adult relationships. I forgave my dad just before he passed away. It was harder to forgive my mom until I understood what she went through with my dad. Scary part is that the trauma repeats itself in different relationships. Never once thought I'd end up in a relationship just like my mom and dad's. I have now been on my own for close to a year. I'm working on forgiving myself for the things I've been through with my ex-husband. Being too scared to ask for help. That no one would believe me. Just like when I was 9 and my dad left me in foster care for something he did to me. Bless you dear for bring this important subject to light. Much love and thanks 💜💕🔥👑🦋👑🔥💕💜

gosh i so needed to see this! Thank you so much for all you do!

I can’t stop crying, you are so extremely powerful.

I love your conviction. Your emotion. It’s so real.

I don’t think I’ve ever heard anything more on point. Thank you.

Your voice is so calming I just love how your voice sounds

Definitely created a map for me . ♥️ Needed this so much . Thank you for what you’re doing !!

I needed to hear this. I have never cried over what someone said before.

I hear you. I feel this deeply. So glad I found this video today.

Thank you so much. You have no idea how much this really helped me

Thank you. Your words are so validating and do give a road map to healing.

Thank you for this. 🥺💜

This feels like an acknowledgment done personally and I guess that is sometimes all what most of us need in later adulthood to manage the healing process. Thank you.

Love all of your content man keep doing what you're doing and empowering people through everything you put out. Sincerely, thank you.

Thank you for making this video. I love all your content... thank you for everything you do

Damn you have a way of explaining things in the way it really makes sense! It’s like you truly understand. Thank you 😊

This was needed the most to me right now thank you❤️.

I can’t begin to say how much I needed this right now. This put a lot into perspective for me and I definitely cried a few times. I can’t thank you enough.

this is solid insight for dealing with any type of trauma. ❤

youve given me the one pov of loving and caring words that i never got growing up. thank u sm.

Thank you for doing this video.it gave me some light at the end of the tunnel

I don’t need you to be proud of me to be OK with myself. Wow. I just...wow.

I'm so glad I found your videos. I've even send them to my therapist because she loves to find people or videos that can explain in another way than she can. I love that.

Thank you, from the very bottom of my heart. Here’s to healing. 💜

Thank you for this video. I’m so grateful I found this video. Thank you.

This is life changing. Thank you. Made me cry when you said 13 years old. My lord you are in my head

You have no idea how much this was needed in my life right now! I needed these tools so much!

This is exactly what I needed.... I can’t thank you enough

You are so amazing. You are definitely doing what you were put on this earth to do. So grateful for you.

I appreciate you very much. Thank you.

words can not describe how much this helped me heal, thank you.

You sir, have found your calling. Thank you so much for this!

Thank you so much for this incredible insight. This warmed my heart and really made me feel like healing is possible. Your passion to help others is evident and very beautiful.

Thank you for the honesty, understanding, and cries throughout this video.🙏🏽💖 you are a blessing

Just hearing this I feel like it helped. Found you on tiktok and I’m grateful

Thank you so much for your content. It is literally saving lives. Please don't stop❤️

i think that you’re an angel. i can’t explain how much i needed this video & the rest of your content...thank you so so much.

Can't thank you enough for this. I personally know that once the awareness is there healing can come!

This video is very important I’m so glad I came across it. I needed this before seeing my dad this week.

This video was more helpful to me than you know. 12 year old me hasn't known what to do in order to heal for nearly two decades because the severity of what I went through was always downplayed by everyone else. Time to take that power back. Thank you.

thank you so much. i've never heard anyone talk with so much care and attention and the way you described certain examples fit some of my situations, which helped me realize some stuff. thank you so so much.

I am completely speechless at how this touched my soul. You are an angel. Thank you for this.

I dont want this to end plz continue it's crazy that how u enter my mind and saying how I feel

Really thankful for this. Definitely a huge step in the right direction for me.

I was starting to tear up then he said that you couldn’t have stopped your parents from fighting I really started crying because my parents fight over everything and I feel like it’s all my fault.

I'd really like for you to make a series of this. It really helps me and a lot of others :))

This was a roadmap for me. I grabbed my journal and used this to feel out what this brought me to. Thank you ❤️

Thank You for making this! I’ve gained much more understanding. I feel more aware about how I’ve lived and dealt with my trauma over the years. This was exactly what I needed to hear, and it motivates my very soul to keep me striving to be a healthier and stronger person!❤️

Thank you so much for this video. My day has been an absolute nightmare and this has helped me feel so much better ♥️

Truly amazing work! Your ability to so accurately articulate emotions is incredible. I think you're going to put the pieces together for a lot of people who couldn't understand their own pain. Please keep doing this and thank you for what you do.

Thank you for this. I needed this on my journey

You speak to me on so many levels! I wish I could have you in my life as my personal therapist. So many good points in this video.

This was unbelievably helpful. You made me think of addressing my trauma in ways I had never thought of before! Thank you!

This video was absolutely wonderful and so truly inspiring. It was so emotional in the best and worst ways possible. Please make a part 2.

Your videos have helped me process feelings that I haven’t been quite able to put words to. I came from tiktok and I’m currently journaling my emotions which normally doesn’t feel effective but does right now. Thank you.

Thank you. Thank you so much.

Please continue your videos. Turn this into a series. I'm finding such calmness watching you.

Thank you for this! I needed this in so many ways ! God bless.

Watching this was like some mad awakening for me, sitting in floods of tears but feel like I’ve gained a lot of knowledge. Thank you.

You touched on a lot of points that resignated with me. The perfect metaphor of the portal that randomly but continuously takes me back to my childhood trauma. The avoidance and the paying debt with debt (drinking)... I feel like this was meant for me to come across because it has genuinely helped me. And the breathe at the end, very much needed. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

You are so awesome thank you so so much. I appreciate you more than you know

Everyone on this comment section is so thankful for you thank you so much you deserve what we cannot give you you are an amazing person

I don’t know how you had all the words to voice everything I’ve been feeling but I can’t thank you enough. Bless you❤

You have this ability to pull down my walls through video.That has never happened for me. You affirmed that it’s ok for me to make my own safe place and space and still love my parents through a video! 🤯 thank you💕