Healing My Anxious Attachment (How I Became Secure)

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When I started my healing journey, I thought I was anxiously attached because of how I was reacting to my breakup at the time. As my healing journey continued, I discovered I was a fearful avoidant (both anxious and avoidant). This video outlines the process I followed to heal my anxious parts and ultimately discover my avoidant ones too!
Chapters:
00:00 Intro
00:41 Learn & Research Attachment Styles
07:42 Attachment Triggers
11:37 Understanding Triggers on Emotional Levels
13:15 Awareness of Coping Strategies
17:10 Protest Behaviours
19:55 Be Honest With Yourself
23:06 How I Realized My Avoidant Traits
26:31Reprogramming Attachment Styles
30:22 Positive Insecure Attachment Traits
32:13 Additional Resources
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Пікірлер: 15

@marcomeng3414 12 сағат бұрын

Thank you Charlie you really guided me in a lost journey❤️

@CassandraContreras-jw9ou Ай бұрын

Ooh Charlie you read me like a book! I have been consuming avoidant attachment videos to get closure and to hope I can get another chance with my ex knowing the information I gained. But watching this made me look at things differently and actually this is the first video I’ve watched speaking on my anxious attachment. Thank you so much

@vendulahilkova9610 Ай бұрын

Dear Charlie, thank you for sharing this! I finally can give a name what I’m living in right now and sharing your journey opened my eyes and helped me a lot. Maybe it doesn’t help to save my current relationship but definetly I can be ready for the next one and it just brings me sooo much relief ❤ thank you for that!

@AmyDominica Ай бұрын

Excellent! Thank you so much. I have had a similar journey. I have been in the place where I realize now how my behaviors have hurt others. It is truly eye opening, challenging and empowering at the same time. I appreciate you saying that we need relationships to be apart of the healing process. It is hard for me to believe I am not broken beyond repair, that I’m better off not getting into another relationship. Even when I want to give up, something deep down keeps me hoping, and therefore, doing the work. Thank you for sharing your story. I look forward to more videos, especially, ones with more tips regarding healing while in a relationship.

@healingwithcharlie Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing! It can feel intimidating at first but healing is totally worth it in the end. Relationships can be a great opportunity to grow if you’re with a supportive partner. I hope you’re able to find that one day. I’ll make more videos on how couples can heal together soon :)

@FloraSora 21 күн бұрын

Great, great, great stuff. Way better and more constructive than all the DA stuff I've been watching lol. Waay more healthy to just try to understand oneself than to theorize what the other party may be thinking. They're not the problem!

@MagicPrincessGigi Ай бұрын

Thank you Charlie, the quality and the content are brilliant! I'm going through a break up right now, so it helps immensely.

@healingwithcharlie Ай бұрын

Thank you! I wish you all the best during your breakup. I know it might not be easy right now, but things get better with time

@dawnkennedy985 Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing.

@oscardannysanchez647 Ай бұрын

Awesome information! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! 💯😃👍🏻

@heatherranck4191 Ай бұрын

Hey there, new follower going through intense all things. However I had to break away from the moment to compliment you on your Opeth album in the back. ♡ I had the chance to see them a year or two ago. And they're an all time treasure. Had to give credit where it is due. -I do not have the skills to give you proper credit for your comforting conversations. But you deserve it much.

@healingwithcharlie Ай бұрын

Thank you very much! Opeth is one of my favorite bands, and Ghost Reveries is my favorite album by them. Haven’t seen them live yet but I will the first chance I can

@luciagoldfarb5003 Ай бұрын

Excellent !!!

@nadirahmuhammad747 20 күн бұрын

Hey Charlie may I just say the protest behaviors you listed such as silent treatment is not from anxious end it’s from the avoidant end… I hate the silent treatment I can’t do it. I prefer to force a conversation which I realize is my personal protest behaviors in attempt to regain connection or gain clarity but seemingly I cross boundaries and create more discomfort and disconnection

@kristennicolefoster 16 күн бұрын

Is it possible to have anxious attachment but only towards one person? I’ve always been fearful avoidant. I cut people off without explanation, quickly and don’t think anything about it. But with my spouse I have anxiously attached while he is avoidant. I really wish I could use the same avoidant tendencies I’ve always had towards him but I don’t, I can’t seem too. Feels like it would be so much easier when things get tough!