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Help! I'm In Love With A Married Man

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“Help! I'm In Love with A Married Man”
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This video is for you if:
1) you have found yourself in a relationship dynamic where you are effectively a third wheel,
2) maybe you are dating a married man,
3) maybe you're dating a guy who's in a long-term relationship with someone else,
4) and maybe you want him to leave and be with you,
5) maybe he's even telling you that he's gonna do that but objectively that was not happening.
What do you do?
In this video, Clayton and Jack dive into some tips on what’s the best course of action when you’re faced in this situation - you’re in love with a married man.
This can be really difficult situation to find yourself in.
If you're interested to pursue something longer term with them that I think you should cut contact and not be in a dynamic that them to basically keep you in their life, have a certain level of connection maybe sexual connection, but they're not really saying “yes” to you.
By you cutting in contact you are withdrawing yourself from the dynamic you can say, “Look I'm open to you. I would love to be with you and if you ever decide that you want to leave your marriage and pursue this like I'm open to that, but I don't want to contribute to this dynamic.
You've got something that you need to figure out over there and to let that do what it needs to do.” And there's a risk that in doing that you may find out that they were never intending to leave their wife or that they don't want to but at least we're in the truth then you know however hard that is.
And something that speaks a little bit to the character as well of the way that you enter a relationship, the character of this guy that's important to track.
KEY POINT: So being able to have the courage and the sobriety to back away from the situation and cut things off will allow you to not enter something that's gonna be a lopsided relationship as it is where there's already a deteriorating foundation something that's an infection getting built right into the relationship itself.
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@claytonolsoncoaching
@claytonolsoncoaching 6 жыл бұрын
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@adventuresabroad3982
@adventuresabroad3982 5 жыл бұрын
Please help me clayton...
@renitanadela9236
@renitanadela9236 4 жыл бұрын
Please I need your advice I have my best friend more than 3 years he is married man no hidding each other everything know each other I'm separate then both decide to become relationship Because very close more than 3 years friend only one time date but everyday talking good morning and good night is there and more talking everyday and both decide make relationship because both feel love each other no hidding everything what I do I feel full of him because he is respectful person never say not good I agree with him make relationship or no please I need your advice thanks best regards god bless
@lydiamiya2941
@lydiamiya2941 Жыл бұрын
It the same with me
@SimplyQuintessa
@SimplyQuintessa 6 жыл бұрын
I literally have tears in my eyes because y’all are telling my story but with understanding and compassion and truth. Thank you for not vilifying us. I never intended on falling in love with a married man and the emotional connection (at least for me) is strong. I have torn myself away from him but I cannot shake the love I still have and the wanting I have for him. It’s hard but y’all have given me a compassionate insight. I just don’t want to love him anymore and I really want to let the fantasy go. I’m only hurting me.
@sharonmarinucci1881
@sharonmarinucci1881 6 жыл бұрын
Quin Tessa PLEASE,GO EASY ON YOUR SELF, IT'S HARD ENOUGH WHEN OTHERS JUDGE YOU ,THEY DON'T KNOW YOUR FEELINGS,OR CHILDHOOD,OR ANYTHING ABOUT YOU,WHEN A PERSON IS ALONE OR IN PAIN PHYSICAL OR EMOTIONAL ,SOMETIMES ANOTHER HUMAN BEING CAN SAY OR DO A LOVING KIND ACT ,THAT MAKES US ALIVE AGAIN ,WE BEGIN TO RESPOND. FIND OUR SELF-ESTEEM ,OUR BEAUTY IS AWAKENED ONCE MORE.DON'T PUT YOUR SELF DOWN MANY WILL DO IT FOR YOU !!!💙💛🌹.
@SimplyQuintessa
@SimplyQuintessa 6 жыл бұрын
Sharon Marinucci Appreciate That Sis! You’re right. Feeling much better since I posted this.
@sharonmarinucci1881
@sharonmarinucci1881 6 жыл бұрын
Quin Tessa YOUR WELCOME,HANG IN THERE ,ONLY YOU KNOW YOUR OWN SOLUTION WHAT YOU CAN HANDLE ,WHAT YOU CAN'T. GOOD LUCK MY FRIEND 👍👍💃SINCERELY SHARON
@SimplyQuintessa
@SimplyQuintessa 6 жыл бұрын
Sharon Marinucci Bless You
@dafni10565
@dafni10565 6 жыл бұрын
I totally understand. Im currently falling in love with a married man and i have to end it because i know its wrong and in the end i willget hurt. But i want him.8n my life so bad :( hes my hero
@blackirishrose4040
@blackirishrose4040 6 жыл бұрын
If he's married prepare yourself for heartache.... believe me it's not worth it.
@HopefulInterventions
@HopefulInterventions 5 жыл бұрын
I strongly agree! It’s not worth it, it will change you. It will lead you into depression and emotionally distressed. It’s toxic, much like a poison. It’s also like a drug! And we know how bad drugs are for us.
@prettybisaya8687
@prettybisaya8687 5 жыл бұрын
It’s true.I been there at it leads me into depression....
@melaniatrumpo2500
@melaniatrumpo2500 4 жыл бұрын
true..happening to me at the moment.
@AngelicaHernandez-pu2gy
@AngelicaHernandez-pu2gy 4 жыл бұрын
Even if a man says his not married and tries to even get in into a relationship the best way to do is walk away or say your not interest on him at all. Especially if theirs kids involve why not just take care of their own house hold and try to work it out.
@AngelicaHernandez-pu2gy
@AngelicaHernandez-pu2gy 4 жыл бұрын
Lust and beautiness is not for ever and in the long term they will always think on the first wife or either way. Cause it’s not always with good solid roots.
@LuisGonzalez-sb9lx
@LuisGonzalez-sb9lx 2 жыл бұрын
The heart is always gonna want what ain’t supposed to have.
@MsGlamourcat
@MsGlamourcat 6 жыл бұрын
These are no-win situations. Avoid these sorts of dynamics at all costs. If someone is married, they've made a commitment to someone else, if that marriage is not working out then it needs to be worked on or it needs to end. The advice you've given is absolutely perfect. Any gaps or shortcomings in a relationship is a chance for people look at themselves and see where they need to improve, rather than expecting their partner to change. When you start to make improvements to yourself and clean-up your act, you'll notice that your partner starts to make changes too. The major pitfall of affairs is that the third-wheel person doesn't have to deal with your dirty socks accumulating in a pile on the floor, the laundry, the daily tedium, etc - they are not getting a chance to see all of your flaws and misgivings and vice-versa and if you were to actually live together, budget, pay bills, house-clean, manage your social lives, etc, this relationship too would end up as boring and lack luster as your current relationship / marriage. The grass is not greener on the other side, it's greener where you nourish it.
@beingjackbutlertv
@beingjackbutlertv 6 жыл бұрын
Some sober perspectives in here, thanks for sharing.
@claytonolsoncoaching
@claytonolsoncoaching 6 жыл бұрын
Well said.
@PositivelyPam
@PositivelyPam 6 жыл бұрын
True; usually in these situations you're only seeing the best side of them but have no idea what it's actually like to live with them and what they may be doing that drives their spouse nuts. It can be hard to accept but if someone were truly your soulmate they would already be completely free and available for you and it wouldn't be a relationship situation that is causing you so much strife. Sometimes what we think we would truly like isn't always what's best for us.
@danieldeluca4936
@danieldeluca4936 6 жыл бұрын
Balderdash! There is a perfect win-win-win solution and it is Biblical. "Why do you have to hurt one to love another? Won't somebody please, please tell me!"
@safeyaalhameli3361
@safeyaalhameli3361 6 жыл бұрын
MsGlamourcat 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@bikerchick1871
@bikerchick1871 5 жыл бұрын
It's extremely rare that the guy is going to leave his wife, most times he will not-he wants his cake and eat it too. Best decision to make in this situation, is find a decent man who is single, and if a guy is willing to cheat on his wife, he will cheat on you!!
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz 4 жыл бұрын
I like u am single 😍🌷❤💑
@teannabell1095
@teannabell1095 4 жыл бұрын
I think my manager was a waste of time
@antonionlynnenriquez248
@antonionlynnenriquez248 4 жыл бұрын
If he is married, he is NOT your soulmate. He is NOT yours! No matter what he says, do NOT lose your soul for a doomed relationship! It is NOT love!! Run! Do not cross a boundary you will regret. If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you!
@mariannbjorklund700
@mariannbjorklund700 Жыл бұрын
So true!!!
@abdallahabouda6339
@abdallahabouda6339 Жыл бұрын
Wrooooooong , mans are biologically polygamous, and can love multiple woman's, there is not a single script of any religion that put limitation of how many wife's a man can have , only Islam set up a limitation, so been a second wife is better than he's cheating around with multiple woman's, grow up ladies!
@rachelross5829
@rachelross5829 8 ай бұрын
Only people with common sense understand this. People want to even fall for twin flame B's justifying dysfunctional behavior. I'm wounded to buy won't ever deal with any of this. I clicked cause I can't even believe a video is made of this. Polygmy is something the other woman needs to bring to the table if this is a prob in your life
@ManuelLugo-el1vj
@ManuelLugo-el1vj 7 ай бұрын
No such thing as a soul mate !!
@rachelross5829
@rachelross5829 7 ай бұрын
@@ManuelLugo-el1vj definitely not someone who has part of my soul but people who are meant to make guest appearances and then people who are meant to stay forever. We can call it what we want. The only contracts I feel we made before birth was with parents in my opinion. I could be wrong
@nadlat8880
@nadlat8880 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for not being judgmental, blaming the other woman and calling them names, this video deserves alot of credit. Thank you.
@zelmahenry7300
@zelmahenry7300 6 жыл бұрын
Been there done that for seven years dont do it you'll only get hurt
@jheckperarizagamboa9596
@jheckperarizagamboa9596 6 жыл бұрын
Zelma Henry hey..is it really not worth it?f i ended it soon will i b a better person or letting go of a great person whom i found the characteristics im looking for accidentally..?
@sharonmarinucci1881
@sharonmarinucci1881 5 жыл бұрын
Jheck Perariza Gamboa. WHY LET GO OF A WONDERFUL GUY? I'M SURE HE LOVES YOU ALSO . BETTER THEN BEING WITH A SINGLE MAN WHO BEATS YOU UP. .
@thelmabukikun1485
@thelmabukikun1485 5 жыл бұрын
Into the third year of it..its draining my energy.. iam.thinking of dropping everything soon
@asanta2023
@asanta2023 5 жыл бұрын
Sharon Marinucci Sharon, you ask ‘why let go of a wonderful guy? Well, what about the fact that it is wrong simply because he’s married...just because he’s wonderful does not make it right.
@spiwemabge2769
@spiwemabge2769 5 жыл бұрын
And finished after the 7 years
@iknowwhatsup2880
@iknowwhatsup2880 4 жыл бұрын
Be a real choice not the escape. Let men do the work, break up and pursue & choose you! If he can't do that, he not good enough. There's so many choices out there. I get it, I find myself attracted to an unavailable person.. It's sound advise to back away and let them figure out their stuff. I never expected to feel this way. It sucks!
@davidgray7204
@davidgray7204 Жыл бұрын
If there were so many choices out there, why are so many women in the 40's saying they can't find a man
@patty8945
@patty8945 3 жыл бұрын
My friend had an affair with a married man; she put herself in a very sad situation. There is no winning here. I feel sorry for these women or men who had fallen for married individuals.
@busisiwemabaso59
@busisiwemabaso59 6 жыл бұрын
If u are in love with married man u waisting ur time energy n ur future...
@teannabell1095
@teannabell1095 4 жыл бұрын
That is true
@traceyowenhughes9223
@traceyowenhughes9223 5 жыл бұрын
I AM in LOVE with a married man. I DO NOT WANT HIM to leave his SPOUSE or SITUATION. I AM A firm believer in KARMA and RETRIBUTION. How you get EM is how you lose them. No STRUGGLES HERE. I HAVE distanced MYSELF. Moved forward FOCUSED solely on my ASPIRATIONS and GOALS. I TOTALLY RESPECT his protecting his UNION. Wish them the BEST. No interruptions or hiccups from me.
@javeriatariqmalik5864
@javeriatariqmalik5864 5 жыл бұрын
help me too
@TewasaSonko
@TewasaSonko 5 жыл бұрын
My CURRENT situation!! It’s hard to get rid of them, especially when they are so called “separated”!! I was raised to be a “REAL LADY”, but ended up in an UNexpected situation.
@AngelicaHernandez-pu2gy
@AngelicaHernandez-pu2gy 4 жыл бұрын
That’s a very good start like backing away from a married man. The only thing is your going to get into bad situation and heartbreaks. So why even focus looking in a married men when theirs a lot of single, honorable men out their without any problems.
@daniellamoreno3616
@daniellamoreno3616 4 жыл бұрын
Great!
@lpsglitterpaws8536
@lpsglitterpaws8536 5 ай бұрын
I am the same situation
@joysinner3415
@joysinner3415 5 жыл бұрын
God doesn't send you someone else's husband!!!!!
@fireeye33
@fireeye33 4 жыл бұрын
Joy Sinner but the devil can
@teannabell1095
@teannabell1095 4 жыл бұрын
I was just in love with him
@joysinner3415
@joysinner3415 4 жыл бұрын
Teanna Bell....I get that. Really I do but you deserve to not be the girl on the side. You should be his 1 and only. He isnt the only man you will ever love....I promise.
@teannabell1095
@teannabell1095 4 жыл бұрын
@@joysinner3415 okay
@fireeye33
@fireeye33 4 жыл бұрын
Joy Sinner most people are way happier with their 2nd marriage, they have a healthier relationship too...you can't control ppl's happiness by a piece of paper. Loving someone doesn't always mean INFIDELITY, it's true that everything has to come from within/true love. Put your self 1st, love your self, and know when to walk away from a man who doesn't value you. But if the connection is real and have better future potential for everyone, you cannot be the nazi of people's business.
@lifesymphony2024
@lifesymphony2024 6 жыл бұрын
Be prepared to get cheated by him. If he can cheat his wife for you, he can cheat you for another woman. All the best for blind love.
@lifesymphony2024
@lifesymphony2024 6 жыл бұрын
My love is very cautious and conscious.
@lorithaxton7604
@lorithaxton7604 6 жыл бұрын
Not always true
@sharonmarinucci1881
@sharonmarinucci1881 5 жыл бұрын
Sharmella Krishnasamy THATS VERY NEGATIVE. YOUR INDIAN , I KNOW SEVERAL INDIAN DOCTORS THAT HAVE LONG TERM LOVE AFFAIRS WITH WOMEN AND THEIR WIVES KNOW ABOUT IT AND CONDONE IT . AS LONG AS THE DR.S. PROVIDED FOR THE FAMILY THE WIFE SIMPLY DIDN'T CARE AT ALL !!😷👳👥.
@amyadams9773
@amyadams9773 5 жыл бұрын
@@sharonmarinucci1881 right
@sharonmarinucci1881
@sharonmarinucci1881 5 жыл бұрын
Amy Adams. VERY INTRIGUING SUBJECT. OF COURSE I HAVE GOTTEN SOME NEGATIVE RESPONSES PERSONALLY BECAUSE OF MY UNDERSTANDING TOWARDS THE MALES AND WHY THEY DO WHAT THEY DO ,NOT WANTING TO ALWAYS PUT MEN DOWN. SOME FEMALES HAVE TAKEN TO ABUSING ME IN THESE POSTS ,VERY SMALL MINDED PEOPLE. !😵😲. INTELLIGENCE IS SO HARD FOR MANY TO COME BY😨😱.
@beccaw2452
@beccaw2452 5 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this! I just cut him out! And I did the right thing 🙏🏻 Thanks ♥️ so if it is the right thing to choose me he will do it apart from me 👍🏼 I will never be a sidechick.
@claireadhiambo3440
@claireadhiambo3440 3 жыл бұрын
Hey Becca, how did you do it, did you just block him out of the blue?
@beccaw2452
@beccaw2452 3 жыл бұрын
@@claireadhiambo3440 I told him that I Will do that then I did it. The best thing happened after. I’m with a new wonderful man whom give all of him. We will get married ❤️ So I Will never ever do same mistake again ❤️
@claireadhiambo3440
@claireadhiambo3440 2 жыл бұрын
Wow, great feedback
@claireadhiambo3440
@claireadhiambo3440 2 жыл бұрын
Wow, great feedback
@donellemiller6680
@donellemiller6680 5 жыл бұрын
Been there, done that! He chased me, but i fell in love. But, I also kept on living my life and putting distance between us. Only lasted a few months, I wanted more but not at the expense of being the odd woman out. Several years later, he's still married to her. Story said and done. And I'm ok.
@donellemiller6680
@donellemiller6680 3 жыл бұрын
@Johanna Nilsen They have feelings but they are short term. Nothing serious, nothing permanent just the urge to do what they want. Pump up the ego and there fine off they go back to the wife. Lol
@vidhyaasb
@vidhyaasb 5 жыл бұрын
I’m surprised all the comments are on how the other woman should leave the married man but what about the wife shouldn’t she leave him too ? He cheated on her he could cheat again ? What does it say about self esteem n character of wives who choose to stay with men who cheat on them ?
@bbgelen8047
@bbgelen8047 3 жыл бұрын
Becos its totally her choice. If she wants to leave or give him a 2nd chance
@vidhyaasb
@vidhyaasb 3 жыл бұрын
@@bbgelen8047 it's women who accept cheating husband that create cheating husbands! Such women are giving their husbands the license to prey on other women without consequences...these men know their shameless wives will take them back 🙄
@bbgelen8047
@bbgelen8047 3 жыл бұрын
@@vidhyaasb i would like to ask u to put urself in those wives shoes. Easier to say then done. I was the other woman but i never hated his wife becos i knew what pain she was going through. Its the other women's responsibility as a human being not to accept any married man's proposal. The wife forgive because she loves him, no matter how bitter the truth is. Besides it, if she has children for the sake of children, family n society they forgive their husbands. U know u can't stay made at someone u truly love n husbands sweet tlk n their touch melts their heart. So stop slamming wives who r legally wedded it the cheater who is manipulating both his wife n the other woman. N u know in our Indian society no matter what happens people always blames women. So let's not slam eachother instead let's stand with eachother n fight against cheaters.
@vidhyaasb
@vidhyaasb 3 жыл бұрын
@@bbgelen8047 yea I agree fight against the cheaters and the cheater is the husband not the other woman. It is not the other woman's responsibility to save his marriage he made the promise to his wife it is his responsibility. The poor other woman is also a victim in my opinion who ended up believing his lies n sweet talk. It's time to place the blame where it rightly belongs that is on the cheating husband. I think women who accept a cheating husband lacks character and encourages men to stray coz they know they got nothing to lose and it is this safety net that makes these men prey on other innocent women. Remember If he cheated on the wife once he will cheat on her again! There is nothing noble about accepting a cheater.
@bbgelen8047
@bbgelen8047 3 жыл бұрын
@@vidhyaasb My dr i didn't say its other women's responsibility to save someone else's marriage. In fact it's husband's responsibility. I was in that situation, i feel used n manipulated but i can't blame his wife, becos she never asked me to believe that he loved me. Infact i should have nevet accepted his proposal. I even tried to do something reckless like committing suicide n all but then i realized that i was being with the man who was lying to his wife n i helped him in cheating on his wife. So i don't find any reason to blame his wife. I should have kept my standard high by not allowing an unavailable man in my life. U may not agree with me becos we r different individuals but blaming on women for accepting a cheater husband is not done. Ek hath se tali nhi bajti hai.
@kimking3269
@kimking3269 6 жыл бұрын
Sometimes it's not that simple. Never thought I'd ever end up dealing with a married man, until I became a struggling single mother. He stepped in and completely provided for my son's and myself. I've tried to leave the situation several times because it just didn't feel right but he'd always pull me back in because he knew he had the finances to provide for two homes. And especially when he's your best friend as well, it's almost impossible to break away from. fast forward 16yrs later, I'm getting older and being his outlet isn't working for me anymore. I've grown and matured in so many ways and I'm in the process of finally walking away and trying to heal and get over him. but it's very difficult.
@SimplyQuintessa
@SimplyQuintessa 6 жыл бұрын
Kim King How did you keep this up with him for 16 years???
@sharonmarinucci1881
@sharonmarinucci1881 5 жыл бұрын
Quin Tessa SHE LOVED HIM ,SHE NEEDED HIM, HE ALSO PROVIDED FINANCIAL SUPPORT FOR HER SON TOO ,HE WAS ALSO HER VERY BEST FRIEND ,SOMETIMES PEOPLE ARE PUT IN OUR LIVES FOR DIFFERENT REASONS. HE MOST LIKELY LOVED AND CARED GREATLY FOR HER ,HE MIGHT HAVE SAVED HER FROM A BAD RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE ELSE FILLED WITH ABUSE. NONE OF THIS MEANS THEIR SEX MANIACS ,OR TERRIBLE PEOPLE..GOOD LUCK KIM , SOMETIMES WE OUTGROW SOMEONE BUT WE DON'T HAVE TO THROW THEM AWAY 👥💜☎🍷
@asanta2023
@asanta2023 5 жыл бұрын
I agree with Quin...Kim, no matter the circumstances, it is wrong...believe me, I know. Who knows how many blessings in your life that you’ve missed because of this. I say do what’s right. Because if you trust God, He will take care of you. But you’ve got to honor God...I know it’s not easy.
@sharonmarinucci1881
@sharonmarinucci1881 5 жыл бұрын
Kim King. AFTER 16 YEARS ,WHAT DO YOU DO. JUST THROW HIM. AWAY ? A GOOD MAN THAT HELPED YOU WITH YOUR SON. PAYED FOR MANY OF YOUR BILLS. HOW DO YOU JUST SAY. O. K. YOUR GETTING OLDER NOW ,I DON'T CARE ABOUT YOU , OR HOW YOU FEEL 💌❤💔💲! DON'T LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO DON'T UNDERSTAND THE MATTERS OF. THE HEART , GOD ISN'T GOING TO TORTURE YOU.
@MsScarlett61
@MsScarlett61 5 жыл бұрын
You are human, but we all evolve and grow. I wish you well and happiness. People come into our lives for a reason, some for a fleeting moment, some for a season, some for light. What you do with your life is your decision. It's what works for you.
@lindaob2447
@lindaob2447 6 жыл бұрын
if he cheating with you he will cheat on you
@birungipriscilla1670
@birungipriscilla1670 5 жыл бұрын
it is not true.some them are not cheaters but trying to look for love too.
@sharonmarinucci1881
@sharonmarinucci1881 5 жыл бұрын
Oli B. NOT ALWAYS SO ,SOMETIMES PEOPLE MARRY YOUNG FOR ALL THE WRONG REASONS AS THEY MATURE THEY START NOTICING THEIR PARTNER NEVER REALLY TREATED THEM WITH LOVE ,RESPECT. . SOMETIMES. A PERSON. JUST IS LOOKING FOR KINDNESS AND. CONVERSATION. NOT ONLY ROMANTIC. ENCOUNTERS. EVERYONE IS OF DIFFERENT THINKING ,THANK GOD 👫.
@chanthana7694
@chanthana7694 5 жыл бұрын
Sharon Marinucci I like the way you think with no judgement. You have a good heart sis. Every circumstances are differ, not always about sex and lust. “He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone at her.” I'm no Christian but that has always stick in my head to remind me before judging someone without fully knowing their backgrounds.
@sharonmarinucci1881
@sharonmarinucci1881 5 жыл бұрын
Chanthana. THANK YOU FOR THE COMPLIMENT ,❤💃🐦.
@prazad001
@prazad001 5 жыл бұрын
Oli B you just don’t have a fucking clue.
@beberivera7011
@beberivera7011 5 жыл бұрын
This was so illuminating and non judgemental. Thank you for doing this kind of work. It's so easy to find support if you're a wife, but there is such a huge stigma involved with being a mistress that many forget that the mistress is just as emotionally invested -for whatever reason- and is just as psychologically devastated by the infidelity and yet have no real voice in the matter.
@bbgelen8047
@bbgelen8047 3 жыл бұрын
Yes n sometimes she sufferers the most because society judge her..n the man he truly loved n compromised her dignity n moral for often leaves her n making her feel terrible that he never loved her..everything she heard n felt was a lie.
@Sheilamaizi
@Sheilamaizi 5 жыл бұрын
I feel exactly what you expressed in the beginning of this video. I have been seeing a married man for two years. He connected with me emotionally and I have never felt like this in the past. I was seeing him for two years and then stopped seeing him for a year. Then we started seeing each other again. However, I told him that I would not get intimate unless he left his wife. This is really hard because it is on an emotional level. I feel like I cannot trust him either. If he did this to his wife, what makes me think he will be any different with me. He seems so sincere.
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz 4 жыл бұрын
I love u am alone ❤❤
@nanaakuapapabi382
@nanaakuapapabi382 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you guys for not judging us but with an advice, people are good at judging when they don't feel what you feel, it's no one's prayer to be with a married man..oo but "love" is something else
@jellyb.9947
@jellyb.9947 Жыл бұрын
I’m going crazy its hard i dont want to feel this way but its so f* hard to let go now help!
@Sheilamaizi
@Sheilamaizi 5 жыл бұрын
I must say that I am so glad that the gentleman on the right is acknowledging how hard this is. I find this extremely difficult. It saddens me to know end because I really have such strong feelings for this man.
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz 4 жыл бұрын
I need u love u 😍😍😍😍😍😍
@rinr7052
@rinr7052 4 жыл бұрын
Same here. I’m going through this right now and it feels like the end of the world lol. Can I get an update on your situation?
@sammie23breezy13
@sammie23breezy13 4 жыл бұрын
Worst thing to do is be involved with a married man ..even if he's unhappy . 💔 I had to blocked him to ease the connection .
@raij465
@raij465 5 жыл бұрын
I read somewhere that men always cheat down, meaning that the woman he cheats with is at least one step lower than his wife. He purposely chooses these damaged women because he knows that a strong, healthy woman will have nothing to do with him, as a married man. Even if he tells the story about how awful his wife is, and that they’re going to get divorced, he knows that a woman who values herself isn’t going to fall for that.
@Ytdeletesallmycomments
@Ytdeletesallmycomments 3 жыл бұрын
It is not love and hurtful. He will never leave. Men who lie to the wife will lie to you. Worst mistake of my life. Dont even know how it happened i am not side chick material at all.
@anewloveofficial9137
@anewloveofficial9137 5 жыл бұрын
The easiest way to solve this, is to stay away to those who are already committed. Don't just date with someone you don't even know what is his/her background. Know the person very well first, and check if he/she is with some one or not. Before you try to a touch to them.
@---Joy---
@---Joy--- Жыл бұрын
"The pain of giving your heart to somebody outweighs the pain of being deprived of that." That's it, in a nutshell!
@Jeng4280
@Jeng4280 6 жыл бұрын
Try having a crush on a man who you find out is married. In all honesty when I found out I wasn’t surprised. But I promised myself to respectfully back off because I don’t want to be in a crazy dynamic. I can’t stop my feelings though and it does sting really bad. But I have to do this because he’s committed to someone else already. And although he looks at me with such a hunger..I have to step back. It’s so hard though.
@kashiloveyou2681
@kashiloveyou2681 5 жыл бұрын
I am single man and you may wedding
@sobiaafzal2649
@sobiaafzal2649 5 жыл бұрын
Lakeisha Waller is your name isha
@browneyedb
@browneyedb 5 жыл бұрын
I'm in the exact same situation!!!! Would love to talk to you privately if you have Instagram, I can DM you?
@nikki7128
@nikki7128 5 жыл бұрын
@@browneyedb who me??
@Lisa-th9dg
@Lisa-th9dg 5 жыл бұрын
Me too. My situation was he was just a friend that I had no intentions with at all but I just started to like him more and more.
@julierobinson8173
@julierobinson8173 6 жыл бұрын
really wise and non judgemental information 👍🏾
@annechristineodoy5579
@annechristineodoy5579 5 жыл бұрын
This ....really helped me realized a lot of things, which I actually really knew all along but had been to blinded to acknowledge. Thank you Clayton and Jack! I wish you would do more contents regarding this subject (i.e. why women would fall for married man, or how to let go of this kind of toxic relationship). More power to you both!
@suneetashivji6956
@suneetashivji6956 3 жыл бұрын
I have a friend who is married n tell in love wd married man .he told her he loves her so much .he will soon divorce his wife,but he nvr divorced his wife..her husband came to know about her relationship. She got her life spoiled but the married man for whom she spoiled her life didnt bother about her spoiled life and moved on with his wife.will God punish that man who spoiled the life of innocent, simple and emotional woman.She stays wd her husband but husband dont care for her he doesnt even talk to her and alwaz beat her n torture her.
@carolynnesbit8670
@carolynnesbit8670 Жыл бұрын
Why other women chase married men!? Because they can..and it's a game for them against his wife! They don't care about the devastating consequences they create! If they don't get their own way from the blackmail and tear's.. "You don't love me enough, or you'd leave..or..I'm going to leave you if you don't do something! All that deal stuff! But..eventually the "other" will reveal her true self, especially when they move in together! YAY...happy days..NOT!
@jenniferthom4066
@jenniferthom4066 6 жыл бұрын
There is absolutely no excuse for a woman to be in any kind of a relationship with a married man! Period. If he has any interest in you on a real level..and you share the interest...let him know that he can look you up once his divorce is finalized in court! Any woman who gets involved is pretty foolish to be with a man who can betray his wife/family like that...and DONT use the word love..you truly dont know meaning...
@ofs3216
@ofs3216 5 жыл бұрын
Jennifer Thom I say bravo to your analysis! 👏
@samantharoberts9538
@samantharoberts9538 5 жыл бұрын
@@ofs3216 yeah bravo !!!! 😀😀😀😀😀😀
@rinr7052
@rinr7052 4 жыл бұрын
“It’s Adultery Not Love” Thank you.
@heatherwilson3118
@heatherwilson3118 4 жыл бұрын
What about a friendship that develops into love that never goes any further?
@iactedtreasurer3874
@iactedtreasurer3874 Жыл бұрын
@@heatherwilson3118 Exactly. That is what happened to me. It was a wonderful experience that is over now, but the love is still there for both of us. It was a very deep friendship that never turned into anything physical. I treasure the relationship we had.
@Iamsugarbrown
@Iamsugarbrown 3 жыл бұрын
The facts about the insecurities that will inevitably be there ... so true
@thelmabukikun1485
@thelmabukikun1485 5 жыл бұрын
Very nuetral and non judgemental .. you guys really understand and not blame women for the decision to go out with married men
@alicesha76
@alicesha76 Жыл бұрын
This is very helpful for me. I was dating him for two years before I found out cause he lied about being married in the beginning. I was already in love with him and I stayed with him cause he kept saying he's leaving but no signs of it happening so now I'm heartbroken and trying to heal and get over him🥺💔
@golden.goldilocks
@golden.goldilocks 6 жыл бұрын
There is something that is missed in this video and should be considered. I am coming from the UK and many men find themselves trapped in marriages but the reasons they are unable to 'escape' is due to practicalities. A man can work all his life, support his wife (who may or may not be working) and support the children. If he leaves, he will, in effect, lose everything. I know this from a legal situation. It isn't 50/50 anymore here in the UK, despite what we may be led to believe. The judge is very sympathetic to the woman. There are so many cases where the wife has literally screwed the husband financialy and left him in ruins. He can be left living in a bedsit (one I know ended up in a caravan) and so as a result, men don't leave. Nothing to do with the relationship dynamics but the fact that we live in a horrible material world.
@diamondunicorn2421
@diamondunicorn2421 6 жыл бұрын
Golden Goldilocks I completely agree. I personally am seeing this now. That's why they stay. However it depends on the man. If he's really done with the situation and takes everything into consideration. He'll sacrifice everything just to have a peaceful mindset.
@yolandaliriano1186
@yolandaliriano1186 6 жыл бұрын
Golden Goldilocks this is very true!
@TheSunshinefee
@TheSunshinefee 6 жыл бұрын
that's why men need to study carefully whom they want to marry and have kids with. I encounter many men who claim to be in this position and when I look at their wives I see what kind ofwomen they were attracted to, it got boobs, looks and dumbness all written over them but hey the men chose them anyway.
@salomaos.3634
@salomaos.3634 6 жыл бұрын
Ugly/pretty the woman has all the power in the marriage (it's better to not do it).Btw,there's nothing wrong in liking a girl for her looks/youth AT FIRST;women also like men for their wealth,confidence,looks and so on. You just have to actually develop feelings after - > So you would stay with your patner even if she goes fat/ugly/old or if he goes broke/lazy and etc...nobody likes your personality at first (cuz they don't know you). I know a guy who dated a super hot girl and married her;nowdays she's fat/old(He's still handsome,fit and well off);nonetheless he acts the same >He kiss her and hugs her all the time,is TOTALLY sexually hooked on her and says he loves and wants to fuck her everyday (And it's true that he does -their kids hear the noises at least 4 times a week
@honeydew8002
@honeydew8002 6 жыл бұрын
Golden Goldilocks
@eternallightbeings7826
@eternallightbeings7826 5 жыл бұрын
Women who get in such dynamics don’t sit to think that you’re getting left overs? He’s married and most likely still love his wife but is too cowardly and selfish to work things out so he figures he can just fill the “void” by someone else who is the third wheel. You will never get them completely because their home is where their wife and family is. They have a history together that you will never know because of course the married man will tell you things from his perspective. Theirs always 2 sides to a story so dont get too involved. Why lessen your value and worth and put yourself in that predicament? Think for once that if this man is not happy what makes you think you can? Possibly only temporary until he gets bored with you and leave you for another. If a person isn’t happy internally then their outside circumstances are all temporary. They can have the best of everything but if you’re not happy then nothing will. Plain and simple. Don’t ever fuck around with someone taken. Karma will come back and bite you in the ass 10x harder
@keviphewhuo3759
@keviphewhuo3759 4 жыл бұрын
EternalLightBeings but if a man said he dont have kid from wife then ..we can carry on ??
@sharonbushong9559
@sharonbushong9559 4 жыл бұрын
There are men who's not upfront about being married. It's a good idea for the women to do a background check before becoming romantically involved. For some women, once they have sex with that man, they become emotionally involve and it's not that easy for them to walk away. So the women start feeding into his lies about his situation with his wife and he's planning on leaving as soon as the kids is 18 and off to college and etc. I unknowingly dated a married man. He took me out every Weekend; Saturday and Sunday. It went on for 4 months. When he wanted to move the relationship to the next level, I thought it would be a good time to meet his friends and family. When he was stalling, I became suspicious and ran a background check. That's when I found out that he was married. What woman would allow her husband to stay out 2 and 3 o'clock in the morning🤔. Every weekend for 4 months😮. I had no clue that man was married. He said he had custody of his 13 year old and I had a 12 year old. I didn't want to bring men around my kid, unless I knew for sure that he's the one. So I didn't invite him to my place and nor did I go to his. I don't want someone else's lying cheating dog.
@rinr7052
@rinr7052 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your words. Needed to hear them. I always think about their history and how he must have loved her enough to marry her, make a ‘commitment’. I honestly don’t know how I got here. I never wanted this role. I’m only 23. It’s not really a sexual connection, mostly emotional, but I know that doesn’t make it any better. Stupid, foolish, selfish, naive, yes yes I hate myself too. It’s so hard to comprehend and execute. This is probably the hardest thing I’ve had to do besides burying my mom 6 months ago. But like I did 6 months ago, I have to do this and not look back, and hope that in time the pain will fade. So thank you for your sobering words. This video is really helpful too and so are all the comments. 🙏🏼
@egnalynngwe12
@egnalynngwe12 5 жыл бұрын
I tried a few but decided to to be part of that dynamic any more. I have much to offer and deserve better.
@angelrech3941
@angelrech3941 5 жыл бұрын
I'm inlove with a married man who is x2 older tha me, ad i am hoping that he will be my long time partner but i feel guilty too abd i feel a lor of insecurities because i feel so small and cheap. My heart is suffering. I want to go away from him but it's so hard
@manikashrestha1076
@manikashrestha1076 4 жыл бұрын
Can u explain me more???
@faulknerph
@faulknerph 3 жыл бұрын
Same situation here
@faulknerph
@faulknerph 3 жыл бұрын
Same situation here
@charlenehunter6157
@charlenehunter6157 2 жыл бұрын
Me too for 4 months I don't know what to do I'm in love with him
@a.c.2695
@a.c.2695 3 жыл бұрын
I believe one can fall in love with two people.
@user-wz3yx6di2f
@user-wz3yx6di2f 2 жыл бұрын
I can’t stop 😭😭😭 I love him. I do not want to ruin his marriage. And hurt his wife. She does not deserve it
@vidhyaasb
@vidhyaasb 5 жыл бұрын
Great job guys finally a non judgmental non preachy advice on the topic acknowledging the position and emotions and reasoning of the other women.
@daniellamoreno3616
@daniellamoreno3616 4 жыл бұрын
Yes the best!!
@karenjensen7566
@karenjensen7566 5 жыл бұрын
I’m in love with a married man. Someplace I never thought I would be. I’m 68, he’s 73. He was separated for about 7 years until January a year ago his wife fell and broke her hip. He then moved back in to care for her. We met online this past January. We met in person later that month. His wife was diagnosed with cancer in May and has some serious heart issues as well. I love him, I know he loves me but now is not the time for him to leave. I’d never ask that of him. We haven’t seen each other since April. But we rarely miss a day of texting each other. I still date others since I don’t know where this is going. But I don’t want to withdraw my emotional support during this difficult time. I keep no secrets he knows I see other people. But this is hard on both of us. If he left now I wouldn’t want him. You don’t run out on a sick partner.
@jenniferraymond3913
@jenniferraymond3913 5 жыл бұрын
Karen Jensen you have to respect him for staying to care for her. I also think you are a wonderful person for not removing your emotional support
@dlourdes4743
@dlourdes4743 4 жыл бұрын
This equivalent to emotional unfaithfulness
@iactedtreasurer3874
@iactedtreasurer3874 Жыл бұрын
@@jenniferraymond3913 I second that.
@karenweaver4798
@karenweaver4798 Жыл бұрын
This is spot on.. Seven years ago I worked for someone. We are both married. I was married for 27 years at this point and still am. NEVER in my life did i think i would be the other woman. I was the sunday school teacher, stay at home mom etc...i fell off my pedastal.. lost my crown...got caught...lost my job..my lifecas it was.. small town...everyone knows i had a affair with a local Dr. My marriage is awful. My husband obviously has zero trust..7 years later im not allowed to go to the grocery store by myself. Ive left at least 4 times...life is hard. And I still love this other man.
@Abstractthoughts007
@Abstractthoughts007 Жыл бұрын
Does he say that he still loves you?
@karenweaver4798
@karenweaver4798 Жыл бұрын
@@Abstractthoughts007 yes he does..
@letsirkann
@letsirkann 5 жыл бұрын
I know its been months since these comments were posted but Im just so glad that somewhere along, there are people who'll not judge you...I didn't intend to fall for him either but his constant daily messages made me fell for him. Quite the naive girl here thinking at first he was not actually married despite having 3 kids with her wife. After my friend searched a lot about his history, it felt like there was a heavy thing that crumbled me. And when I confronted him about the truth and threw accusations to him, he said it was painful but I dont know if it was still true. From then, i decided to stop replying him, stop everything . It's hard,really hard..you're hoping for the both of you but you know that you have no place with him.
@stevewalther2293
@stevewalther2293 4 жыл бұрын
That's how he got his wife.
@rinr7052
@rinr7052 4 жыл бұрын
Same 😔 am ashamed of myself. I always think about their history and how he must have loved her enough to marry her, make a ‘commitment’. I honestly don’t know how I got here. I never wanted this role. I’m only 23. It’s not really a sexual connection, mostly emotional, but I know that doesn’t make it any better. Stupid, foolish, selfish, naive, yes yes I hate myself too. It’s so hard to comprehend and execute. This is probably the hardest thing I’ve had to do besides burying my mom 6 months ago. But like I did 6 months ago, I have to do this and not look back, and hope that in time the pain will fade. Thanks for sharing. This video is really helpful too and so are all the comments. 🙏🏼 And can I get an update on your situation?
@jessicabartolome1441
@jessicabartolome1441 6 жыл бұрын
Great video, you made me feel understood and my confusion is lessened. I really love this person but at this point, it isn't my call anymore!
@jheckperarizagamboa9596
@jheckperarizagamboa9596 6 жыл бұрын
Jessica Bartolome is it not really worth it?im from Philippines..
@amoures6841
@amoures6841 6 жыл бұрын
@@jheckperarizagamboa9596 no,not worth it especially in the Philippines where there is no divorce. You'll just hurt yourself sis...
@kashiloveyou2681
@kashiloveyou2681 5 жыл бұрын
I am single man and you may help wedding
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz 4 жыл бұрын
😍😍🌷❤
@njrom2975
@njrom2975 2 жыл бұрын
You’ll get in trouble , you make Asian and Filipino women look bad, you should be ashamed of yourself , stay away from a married man , karma will get you I promise , I witness such things . You will be loser in the end
@tinaross5814
@tinaross5814 2 жыл бұрын
I love this married man so much and he love me
@onetrulov7
@onetrulov7 Жыл бұрын
A different take on this, why is it assumed that a woman dating a married man is “scraps” as you referred her to be? Why not see that the woman is actually possibly using the married man as him being scraps? There are many women that much rather date a married man for the fantasy aspect and getting the best version of him without any strings attached. It is his responsibility to tend to his marriage. He’s the one responsible for his home dynamics. Not every woman that dates a married man wants him exclusively. He’s not necessarily the only one in her circle of lovers. Not every woman seeks exclusivity. Yes I know the title is about a woman falling in love with a married man. But just because she loves him doesn’t mean she wants him for herself. Not necessarily a self esteem issue, instead a matter of a simple option.
@Gotoworkkk
@Gotoworkkk 11 күн бұрын
Spot on perfectly said!!!
@letsirkann
@letsirkann 5 жыл бұрын
Thank u for this vid...at last,someone who is there not to judge the situation of a woman who's inlove with a married man..
@bevanbuckwheatshea5520
@bevanbuckwheatshea5520 4 ай бұрын
There is absolutely NO future getting involved with a married man or woman. Only heartache and a whole lot of trouble ahead.
@assumptavyenna640
@assumptavyenna640 6 жыл бұрын
I'm a single Mum ...and a boss ladie...I Don't depend on any man what they did to me only God can explain. ..Married man or single Man all are same
@justinemutesi9377
@justinemutesi9377 5 жыл бұрын
Its true
@nicnoc2628
@nicnoc2628 5 жыл бұрын
you are so right.
@asanta2023
@asanta2023 5 жыл бұрын
True Asumta...but it is still wrong to be with a married man. It is wrong.
@louisvaneeten8162
@louisvaneeten8162 5 жыл бұрын
Don't patronize, not all men are the same, also not all women are the same
@stevewalther2293
@stevewalther2293 4 жыл бұрын
For some reason women love married men more...its a jelous thing or more challenging it's a magnetic thing they have???
@tyemnanyichristopher475
@tyemnanyichristopher475 5 жыл бұрын
I find this video highly useful to help me detached my relationship with a married man .thanks so much for helping me out
@jenniferthom4066
@jenniferthom4066 6 жыл бұрын
If the otber person is married..tbe only choice is leave it alone....if tbey become single and gets divorced in tbe future...fair game
@ark.0616
@ark.0616 11 ай бұрын
Loving a happily married man is very heartbreaking especially when you know that he can’t be with you no matter what happen because he is very connected and responsible to he’s family . The only thing we can do is to avoid it and let it go . Him being with you and at the same time being with his wife is painful because he might love you but the love may not be equal . You might find out that you are less love and his wife whom he is truly committed and truly love is the truly one . We can’t control our feelings but I think loving someone so much who is married and committed must be stop no matter how much you love him . For me ,I can’t handle pain knowing someone I love is in love with somebody else too . ..loving a married man who can’t give his heart 100 percent is like dying everyday because of heartbreak . I believe that you can love 2 people but the love is not fair or not equal . One person is very love and the other one is a beggar . Thank you for the wonderful video.
@auruminsanity1600
@auruminsanity1600 6 жыл бұрын
Never trust a man who would tell you that he loves you more than his wife and his girlfriend.Another one is,never go out with a man who is recently separated from his wife no matter how much he'd say he loves you.Resourse:The Great Amercan Men Shortage.
@clandyjeur3880
@clandyjeur3880 6 жыл бұрын
No! I'm not hypocrite women. If GOD says; don't steal, don't steal.
@withoutvisionthepeopleperi1082
@withoutvisionthepeopleperi1082 4 жыл бұрын
Yes, don't steal. But where does it say that God forbids a man from taking another wife? Provided the woman is not married...
@enowbinadege6464
@enowbinadege6464 4 жыл бұрын
God says don't fornicate and you do fornicate, don't lie and you lie, so God is God when certain issues are concern? ?
@onlyforme8453
@onlyforme8453 3 жыл бұрын
Is this video even religiously based?
@mercymallari3871
@mercymallari3871 5 жыл бұрын
If you are in love to a married man nd this man still living with his wife ,stop nd learn to forget this guy bcoz you can ruin their relationship ..stay away nd back off frm this man let his wife be with him bcoz they dont wanna ruin their relationship
@snowqtee
@snowqtee 5 жыл бұрын
If you’re dating a married man and he’s cheating to be with you he’ll also cheat on you and that’s a given 100%
@enowbinadege6464
@enowbinadege6464 4 жыл бұрын
Did he cheat because the wife cheated? ? No i don't think so, he cheated because he wants to and not because u accepted him,
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz 4 жыл бұрын
I like u u u u also love u u 💑💑💑😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍❤❤❤❤🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷really
@enowbinadege6464
@enowbinadege6464 4 жыл бұрын
@@MuhammadImran-ln4fz 😀😀😀😀😀 i love uuuuuu too
@tsherman393
@tsherman393 3 жыл бұрын
Not always true
@CrystalDatingCoach
@CrystalDatingCoach 3 жыл бұрын
Get out now! He's NEVER leaving his Wife and if he does it probably won't be for you. He's got 2 Ladies and you got half of Man!! Wake up!!
@asimazfitness1125
@asimazfitness1125 4 жыл бұрын
A married men admitted that he is single at the first place, worst man ever!
@1986nitya
@1986nitya 4 жыл бұрын
Fantastic video, Doctor! You've clarified so many things so beautifully! Thank you a million times over!
@marthaclayton2457
@marthaclayton2457 4 жыл бұрын
If you are in your 50sh and you are looking for a friend or partner and you are financially independent and has kids on your own. Go for it. But if you want marriage kids and so for. That it is a bad choice.
@KandeShack
@KandeShack 4 жыл бұрын
I’ve been with a married man for over 4 years. Mine is sort of a weird situation...he is in an arranged marriage from Iraq. I’ve never loved anyone as much as I do him but it is so wrong. I’ve met the wife and children and adore them. I’m in therapy to try to learn how to leave. My therapist says “you’re addicted and he is your drug.” So true.
@florenceanne3639
@florenceanne3639 Жыл бұрын
I think you should stop helping him categorize his marriage as "arranged" even if that was what he told you. He probably said that to win your sympathy. Four years is already gone and to me, it seems you are just wasting your time with him. He's not going to leave his "arranged" wife for you. At least his children are not "arranged" even if his wife was! Move on with your life without him and I wish you all the best.
@animefixx9926
@animefixx9926 5 жыл бұрын
Getting with a married man it’s just like putting yourself on clearance lol
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz 4 жыл бұрын
I am alone ❤❤🌷
@privateprivate8366
@privateprivate8366 3 жыл бұрын
WOW! I’ve got to say! This is the most intelligent and intuitive explanation I’ve seen so far. Without a doubt, yes, there are men who are dirt and who are just running around. I get that. They want to remain in their marriage and have their confidence built on also having another woman or women on the side. In addition, although I was in a situation where someone I worked for started paying me a lot of “attention” and I really had feelings for him, I am unsure as to whether or not to label him as “dirt”. I think that, as is said here, it’s possible for something to awaken in a married person, that may have dimmed or died some time ago. I’ve never been married, but I’d imagine that, for some, marriage can become a very vanilla prison for them. That it simply becomes about doing the dishes and taking out the trash. Working their job to support it all, most certainly doesn’t add continuous excitement to it. Even for single people, like myself, and a pretty well off guy I know, he’s mentioned about losing passion in life. I don’t have the family at home situation and he doesn’t have to work a 9-5 job. So, I’ll say IMHO that, it isn’t simply a thing of a guy or woman being dirt. Sometimes, it’s simply timing. While it’s never a sure thing and will always be an unknown, as to whether a man would’ve loved you, if he’d met you before his wife, it is entirely possible that it can almost end up a pretty tearful and miserable realization, even for a man, that he might or should be permanently betrothed to someone who no longer actually has his heart. I do realize there’s terrible pain in divorce, breakups, adultery, etc. But, I also do not discount the pain if someone who is on some Sisyphean trek to hold together, that which no longer has substance for them. In addition, for my situation, I’ll never know how this man truly felt about me. He seemed to “pursue” me for about 3 years, left the company, his wife died and I never heard from him again. So, I know that, other than the fact that I couldn’t reciprocate, when I worked for him, he’s a man so, probably out of sight means out of mind. I’ve never stopped thinking about him, which is a problem, on my part. But, I didn’t totally feel inclined to vilify him, for all of the attention he began giving me either.
@iactedtreasurer3874
@iactedtreasurer3874 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Private Private for your well thought out comment. I am a married man who fell in love with a divorced woman. We never had sexual relations and we never crossed any physical lines. It was really more of a very deep and special friendship, but we both understood that if I wasn't married, things would have been different between us. After several years of our relationship, she has made the decision to not be in regular contact with me anymore, although she has demonstrated that she loves me. She is in her 50s and I am sure she wants to enjoy life with a partner and not grow old alone. I know there are those out there who will judge a married man for falling in love with somebody outside of their marriage, but it is not as simple as a man just stringing a woman along out of vanity or selfishness and hating his wife. My wife and I have built a life and family together and I am going to stay with her because she doesn't deserve to be abandoned. She has no source of income and support other than me. Judge as you will, but in a world of billions of people, it is very possible that a man will have feelings for more than 1 woman if he is placed in a situation where that relationship can develop. The issue is where that relationship ends up.
@privateprivate8366
@privateprivate8366 Жыл бұрын
@@iactedtreasurer3874 yes. While I respect the vows people take, when they marry, I also recognize that many people are pushed into marriage young, by social and even religious standards. Sometimes, they even marry who someone else wants for them. They evolve through their lives, change or just realize that they may be suited for someone else and actually find that someone else. I also recognized and understood with this man that, if I were in his shoes, would I let go of my marriage, being unsure as to whether the object of my intentions was also interested? Probably not. While I’ll never know what he actually wanted, I considered everything from the worst to the best and there were, indeed, times when he appeared to sulk a bit, because he may have felt stuck. Stuck in his marriage and stuck in his role as my boss and company president which, socially might’ve caused trouble, if he became more open about his feelings. On my end, I couldn’t take chances, because I felt that, as a woman of color, I’d likely be vilified by the office also. It is some years later, I’m in my 50s, his wife passed some years ago and I did send him holiday greetings last year. But, although he responded in kind, for any possible reason, I don’t think anything is there and may have never been or he’s just moved on with his life, paired up with someone or alone. I’ve needed to move on and am seeking. While it’s probably too late to find the love of my life, what I find, if I do, will have to do. Best to you.❤️
@iactedtreasurer3874
@iactedtreasurer3874 Жыл бұрын
@@privateprivate8366 Thank you for the reply and update in your situation. I wish you the best and I hope you do find that love of your life or that you receive that text or card from him one day out of the blue. I too would contact the woman in my life again, if I was free to do so someday and take the relationship beyond friends. But I also wonder if she would still feel the same or maybe even be married by then. It is sad to be so close to someone and just have it end, as in my case, when you both have the same feelings and wish it could be something more. I don't want to forget her and lose touch of what is happening in her life, but like you I have to move on. At this point she is on my mind most of the time and that is not healthy. I fear that I will always think of her and bear that sadness through the coming years. I want to thank you for the thoughts you shared. It has helped some being able to share my thoughts and situation with you. It seems that our experiences in this area are very similar. I have not spoken to anybody about my situation except you (and now the world). I can tell that you are a kind and thoughtful person. I will always wonder what happened down the road for you. Take care.
@privateprivate8366
@privateprivate8366 Жыл бұрын
@@iactedtreasurer3874 the very same to you. All of this goes to show just how complex life can be. It is not binary, particularly in matters of the heart. Be well.❤️
@p38077
@p38077 6 жыл бұрын
i"m the 'want to be safe by avoiding pain of real relationship then breakup' type. Thank u both hottie gentlemen for explaining so well, i never understood my this own dynamic until now.
@moumitalahiri4495
@moumitalahiri4495 6 жыл бұрын
Leave him and pray for his happy life....sacrifice is the sign of true love becoz love is immortal
@birungipriscilla1670
@birungipriscilla1670 5 жыл бұрын
true
@efaronshaggyjinky9434
@efaronshaggyjinky9434 4 жыл бұрын
Agreed. Sacrifice.
@milesaway794
@milesaway794 4 жыл бұрын
Love it
@rinr7052
@rinr7052 4 жыл бұрын
Great point. Thank you.
@gbrown932
@gbrown932 5 жыл бұрын
I gotta say it happend to me and we were together for 20 years. Until their death. And two years later it's happening again. Everyone's situation is different.
@adventuresabroad3982
@adventuresabroad3982 5 жыл бұрын
Can You help me?
@lydiaseaton4109
@lydiaseaton4109 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you it can work
@marysmith9565
@marysmith9565 4 жыл бұрын
Bill Morgan you were in an affair for 20yrs?
@marysmith9565
@marysmith9565 4 жыл бұрын
Bill Morgan can you tell me more?
@siphosamibusumamwape874
@siphosamibusumamwape874 3 жыл бұрын
Mmm okay , I don’t want him to leave his wife so he is going to marry both of us 🤑🤑
@janekamau7169
@janekamau7169 3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@parisjej
@parisjej 3 жыл бұрын
Child good luck my minister sideboo asked me to have a 3some with him and his wife I did it and they loved it then they asked me to come back but they scared if whet the church think so they be acting funny sometimes 🙄
@indiansacredchants
@indiansacredchants 5 жыл бұрын
Leave about married man, don't even date a committed guy who is seriously in love with someone. Girls understand that they have made a lifetime commitment with someone. So avoid them & get out of heart break 😊
@lee-rentiaarnoldus4500
@lee-rentiaarnoldus4500 3 жыл бұрын
Words fail me in my inability to express how stupid I feel,men don't leave their wives
@11burnout
@11burnout 9 ай бұрын
Some actually do..
@vianeyc8046
@vianeyc8046 5 жыл бұрын
I’m falling for a married guy. VERY hard. Idk what to do he says he cares so much for me and all these sweet things his kisses are the sweetest too 😔 I’ve never thought I’d be in a situation like this but dammit I guess I am now. I’m constantly torn between being a good person and backing away or just going with it but i feel guilty asf! but I swear I almost feel like I can’t cause I’m into him so bad and he says the same about me. I tried to stay away but couldn’t. He would come up to me and after a while I just HAd to see him too. I hate that I love him 😪🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ I don’t know what to do or how to stop. Idk if I should let go or not
@sabinahutchinson5604
@sabinahutchinson5604 5 жыл бұрын
My suggestion to you young lady is to separate yourself from him, I'm being married for 18 years, my husband cheated on me with one of his co-owkers, they were together for two years, let me tell you that when I found out it was HELL for him, her and me.... At the end my husband come back to me crying and asking for forgiveness asking to take him back ...I took him back we have two kids (girls). We are happier then ever. I'm telling you stay away, it never works . They all say the same thing about their wife's, men get bored and love playing, they are insecured, they live attention, just stay away! You deserve better, stop being with a married men, it's not good. God bless you :)
@Eros13adios
@Eros13adios 5 жыл бұрын
Its all a LIE!!..He's telling you ONLY HIS VERSION of things.Don't believe him about his wife flaws or that he's leaving his wife for you--HE AIN'T!!..He's pillow talking to you.Don't be a victim.
@sabinahutchinson5604
@sabinahutchinson5604 5 жыл бұрын
@@Eros13adios agree, my husband is back with me and our kids... Men are like boys...
@laurenhills239
@laurenhills239 5 жыл бұрын
Vianey C GIRL IM IN THE SAME SITUATION! It’s so hard!!!!! I never thought in a million years I would be involved with a married man, just bc my step dad left my mom for his mistress..... it was a terrible time for us and I hated my step dad and his mistress even more. Idk but now I’ve fallen for a married guy and we have such an emotional connection, as well as amazing chemistry. It’s. So. Hard.
@joysinner3415
@joysinner3415 5 жыл бұрын
Run!!!!!!!
@mylifesrough
@mylifesrough 5 жыл бұрын
I hate to say that Im just another naive woman who’s here reading thru all the comments than listening to the video, hoping that something would strike me and would awaken me from this nightmare. Its been 2 years now, just like the good ones, I never want him to leave his wife but it always tears me apart everytime he’s with her. Now Ive written a letter, I want to confront him about us, by that time, i would want to make sure that I already have plans and am ready to leave him, sometimes I just wish that he’s a muslim and is accepted in the society to marry more than one woman. Dont want to waste more of my time, want to get myself a future.
@rachelprada7872
@rachelprada7872 5 жыл бұрын
mylifesrough I’m in the same position as you 😢
@teannabell1095
@teannabell1095 4 жыл бұрын
Yeah I just bathed this morning and it made me feel better about everything
@luulips
@luulips 6 жыл бұрын
Great video explaining this dynamic. I pulled out of a possible situation like this.
@pamelamcgill1363
@pamelamcgill1363 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you. !!! Thank you....!!! With married man ayear ...!!! Hecameacter me never told me he's married. 7 months now invested. Can't break free. Pam
@stevewalther2293
@stevewalther2293 4 жыл бұрын
I'm friends with a woman who is in love with a married man..lol...I'm trying to get her to leave him and she is trying to get him to leave his wife...
@bonniegordon9108
@bonniegordon9108 Жыл бұрын
I met the man I loved and dated 61 years ago. He and his wife have NOT had sex for 25 years. But in 2 months, we have fallen in love even deeper than college. But he won't leave her...he promised to care for her...she is sick...but he doesn't want to break his promine...she has a Narcissistic personality disorder. But she is tearing him up verbally and emotionally. It breaks my heart! HELP!!!
@alisonpalmer1671
@alisonpalmer1671 6 жыл бұрын
Excellent video thanks, really explains why someone would choose this dynamic. Enlightening!
@kashiloveyou2681
@kashiloveyou2681 5 жыл бұрын
8oia
@kashiloveyou2681
@kashiloveyou2681 5 жыл бұрын
I am single and you
@jenp27
@jenp27 6 жыл бұрын
it becomes more difficult when this is someone you had a relationship with in the past. old and unresolved feelings may resurface. easier to fall into old patterns and habits because it is someone you've already had been involved with...
@deanarodriguez4258
@deanarodriguez4258 5 жыл бұрын
Jenp27 Thank you for saying that. My guy is getting a divorce. I hope we will have a future, when he's ready. Until then, I have my best friend back.
@Lheensayleen
@Lheensayleen 5 жыл бұрын
Well said. Never watch any video that has a heart in this kind of situation like this one... Kudos!!!
@user-ux4vz5up2c
@user-ux4vz5up2c 6 ай бұрын
This really really helped.... Thank u guys for not being judgmental....
@jonzhang2379
@jonzhang2379 5 жыл бұрын
Catch your felling you either have happiest life or dead hard! There’s millions different situations and there’s no right or wrong...
@stuartsteeves5624
@stuartsteeves5624 2 жыл бұрын
I love with a married man , but I’m a man. He cut contact. I cut contact. But both of us want each other still, so going to start again. He tried marriage counselling. It’s not working. She doesn’t put out. I think he’s incredible. She must be crazy not to want him every day. He’s a very sincere sweetheart of a guy, really suffering. I pretty sure he’s feeling what I’m feeling - chemistry is on fire….where can it end?
@jacklinemirembe8921
@jacklinemirembe8921 6 жыл бұрын
In my case, I wouldn't want my guy to leave his wife over me because their kids need them both,at least I be his secret lover and I protect his fAmily. I never wish my lovers kids to grow with separate parents. I can't allow it to happen.I love him and love his family too.
@carolynburchfield499
@carolynburchfield499 6 жыл бұрын
I in love with a married man and I love him so much but I don't want him to leave his family. But I'm so happy. He keeps me smiling as I keep him smiling. I feel so safe in his arms.
@rosemarieriley6728
@rosemarieriley6728 6 жыл бұрын
Jackline Mirembe hi call me 7045474976
@rosemarieriley6728
@rosemarieriley6728 6 жыл бұрын
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@nguyenhuyenchi6494
@nguyenhuyenchi6494 6 жыл бұрын
But in your mind ,there is a tentative and made hurts you by yourself when you think about his family and yourself?
@jacklinemirembe8921
@jacklinemirembe8921 6 жыл бұрын
Huyền Chi on my side it's different because I knew it from the start that his my lover nothing else.
@DarlingLittleHeart
@DarlingLittleHeart 6 жыл бұрын
I'm married and he's married.. we know it's not good gor both of us..but we love each other.. He's 15 years married and I'm 5 years married. We're still on each other. But we don't want our family to broke up. 😔😔
@lovejoyful606
@lovejoyful606 5 жыл бұрын
Leave it Alone it'll make your marriage worse. You'll end up falling completely outa love with your husband. R U N !
@birungiblessing2106
@birungiblessing2106 3 жыл бұрын
@@lovejoyful606 cheating of two animal you will missed all,do right choice be with ur husband, that is not love ur sick of lamorence.
@Sheilamaizi
@Sheilamaizi 5 жыл бұрын
In the beginning he says he wants to be with me and marry me and all, but down the road I feel it changes. Especially if we are not intimate. I have never gone through this and I feel like I am never going to get over this. People tell me that he is a player. I felt this way even before people told me this. Listen, I really could use some help and I realize that this video was made on Feb 9, 2018. I signed up for the free webinar, but that will have to be on a computer I have at home. It is a different email than the one I gave you. I should be here tomorrow until 5 pm so hopefully I will see anything that you send me during the day.
@janethomas78
@janethomas78 6 жыл бұрын
his wife is the third while. he chases me, she chases him. no one is chases her.
@janethomas78
@janethomas78 6 жыл бұрын
He is a man-- He is my Creme Brule. My Sweetheart from high school. I am disabled, 60. we are too old for Drama and Chaos. He gets enough of all that from his "wife". We are perfect as we are.
@sharonmarinucci1881
@sharonmarinucci1881 6 жыл бұрын
Gorilla , Love Your Moxie,👙💄👒!
@jenniferraymond3913
@jenniferraymond3913 5 жыл бұрын
gorilla twist OH BOY!! Get ahold of yourself!!
@nonnab6634
@nonnab6634 5 жыл бұрын
Lol!!!!
@lawrenciaspooner2327
@lawrenciaspooner2327 5 жыл бұрын
@@nonnab6634 lol
@1986nitya
@1986nitya 4 жыл бұрын
Why don't I ever come across men like Dr.Clayton Olson who understand how to speak 'emotions' so well?
@oldrose1750
@oldrose1750 4 жыл бұрын
If a married man you have a crush on makes some subtle advances toward you do you say something or just keep it friendly? I enjoy the subtle attention I find it flattering that they too find me attractive but I am a respectful type of person who sticks to boundaries even when it's not easy. I just wish the guy were single or that it were another single guy giving me attention where I could also reciprocate. Because in this case even when the guy gently strokes my arm I cannot do it back.
@Shelbymaldita
@Shelbymaldita 3 жыл бұрын
I had a friend who had an affair broke up his marriage he got divorced and married my friend. Wow! Now someone have a crush on me at work. I'm avoiding him at all costs.😉
@nunyanunya5099
@nunyanunya5099 5 жыл бұрын
One don't date married men 2 if he's cheating on her with you then what do you think he'll do to you if they split up and he actually gets with you and clearly if he's cheating he doesn't love either of you your both just came pongs in his twisted sexual games and he's only out for his own sexual pleasures if someone's in love with you that means they love you enough not to cheat because they couldn't bare the thought of losing you
@kuljitobhan6285
@kuljitobhan6285 2 жыл бұрын
Hi, need your help. What if you are in a relationship and he gets married to someone else without telling you because of some family issues and then comes back telling you he can't live without you, what do you do.
@teannabell1095
@teannabell1095 4 жыл бұрын
I have learned to move on with my life
@diptipatel525
@diptipatel525 6 жыл бұрын
Avoid these situations at all costs!. If your man does not believe in loyalty and fidelity then he's not ready to settle down! There are no two ways about it!. If he does not know your worth then it'll kill you but avoid this unfortunately then it becomes too late, it's what it is, either wait till he is ready and there are many great men who actually are very happy in a committed relationship/marriage and are completely happy!. If you are in love with someone who is a woman_ _ _ _ then have enough sense to cut your own heart out instead. You can hope that the man you are falling in love with believes in the same as you, if not then you know what you'll do, and then it may be too late! Avoid negativity completely!, it is advisable to only think positively and to dream of a beautiful life of love, with everything you ever wanted and you will see it!.
@AnaCristina215
@AnaCristina215 5 жыл бұрын
You are wonderful. You opened my eyes,
@adventuresabroad3982
@adventuresabroad3982 5 жыл бұрын
Please help me to be alone...I don't need this circumstance in my life again
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz 4 жыл бұрын
I love u really am alone ❤🌷😍
@gleazytap
@gleazytap 5 жыл бұрын
Im here because i found out that a friend of mine married a muslim guy with a family.. and now she is disturbed. She is too young to be in that situation..i dont see why old man manage to be so narcistic. I hope he will realized and let her go to experienced and have a good family with someone who is not selfish..
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz
@MuhammadImran-ln4fz 4 жыл бұрын
I am alone 😍❤🌷
@jogrigsby6453
@jogrigsby6453 3 жыл бұрын
I'm in a relationship like this with a man that I loved when I was 14 years old! I am now almost 70!
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