30 years ago I was married to a Hmong Yang in San Diego. I was 15 and he was 25. Our marriage lasted 2 years. During that time, he was very abusive verbally and physically. He wasn’t controlling but he was extremely abusive, anything ticks him off and I was always his punching bag. I ran to my parents and family for help 4 times. Each time they forced me to go back, be patient, be good, do whatever he says, make him happy, blah blah blah. In the end I realized nobody was going to save me, I would have to save myself if I want live. I left him quietly when he wasn’t home. Took a greyhound bus to out of state and made no contact with family. Stayed out of Hmong community for good and never looked back. A couple years later, he passed away from a sickness and I was finally free of fear.

Coj mus nriav ib tug niam mos ab tim Laos rau xwb mas. He will leave you alone.

Get a restraining order (explain that he's threatened you with a knife), divorce him, and then move far away where he won't be able to find you for a couple of years until he gets himself into another relationship! Your husband clearly has a serious fetish, although not dangerous, it clearly is bothersome to you, so either just go along with it or get the heck out of that marriage since he's unhinged enough to threaten you with a knife! What made you think he was a good catch if he'd been divorced 5 times previously?!! 🤦

Sister, this reminds me of Mab Vaj past story. Her hubby was toxic so she pretended to be crazy to get rid of him. You should try it 😆

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There are some really crazy men like this out there with crazy fantasies. I've been through with one but worser than this guy. They do have a mental issue and they're narcissistic people who will blame you for everything bad that happens in their life. You will have to be the strong one and leave if you're done with that life, restraining orders need to be in place and you'll for sure have to go into hiding far far away where no one knows you, even your family can't know where you've moved to. It's sad and scary, but that's only one way to get out. Good luck to you sister.

He is normal. He has fantasies he wants to fullfill. If u love him, u would do things that pleases him. The reason he is danger to u is because you lied to him. U triggered him the way u didnt want him to be 😂. Stop lying snd stop running away from him. Be open and honest with him nicely and respectfully. He is already damaged enough being divorced 5 times. Who would want to continuously be divorce??? Even u dont. If u love him, stop thinking he is crazy and danger. Accept his fantasies. Its not like he is cheating on u, so why make such a big deal out of outfits? Ur mom is right. I agreed with ur mom.

cas koj tseem xav mus ua niam #6. niam peb twb qhia koj lub tswv yim li cas. Tsis paub ces nyob ua li nws hais xwb mas thiaj tsis tuag.

Red flag from the beginning already!

Ib tug txiv neej nrauj 6 tus poj niam ces red flag lawm os.

Cant blame all hmong men.. blame urself for not thoourougly taug lawv keeb kwm

Cas koj zaj neej neeg ko yuav txaus ntshai ua luaj li nas Viv ncaus aw.. nrog koj ntshai li lawm os , ua li nws tus niam thiab 3 hais Rau koj os mus nrhiav kev pab thiab thaum twg koj tawm ces tawm mus kom deb kiag koj nws txhob pom koj xwb mas

Tsis yog tus txiv danger os ... Yog nej cov Pojniam RUAM dhau lawm xwb. Tejzaum qau tag lawm.

Ua siab ntev muab koj lub siab los hlub 💯 ces yeej tsis muaj qhov yuav ntsai lawm. Sib2 hlub xwb.

Txaus ntshai dhau lawm os

Kuv tsis ntshaw tus txiv zoo li koj tus ko kiag li..

Dang lady! Kawg yuav tau khiav ntsiag to es file restraining order kom nws txhob tuaj ti koj xwb os. Txaus ntshai dhau lawm. Yim nyob yim muaj kev phom sij xwb. He needs help!

Thaum koj paub li Nov lawm ib coj mus rau kwv tij qhia kev hloov li koj nyiam li nws nyiam Kom ob leeg los sib haum los sib hwm txhob yuav li nws siab txhob yuav koj siab. Ob leeg los sib koom neb lub neej thiaj tsis puas 3. Yog kwv tij qhia. Neb tag nws tsis hloov ces coj nws mus rau neej tsab Koj pom li Nov xwb 4. Tus niam tsev koj twb nyob tau li ko tib zoo sib tham ces nws hloov tau koj maj vim nws nyiam thiab hlub koj lawm pab Tswv yim li Nov xwb

Ntuj os lawv aw ntiaj teb no cas tseem muaj tej tug txiv neej pojniam koj tus txiv ko ces lam muaj qws txob xwb tab sis nws coj tsis thooj li peb txiv neej kuv ntseeg tias cov txiv neej zoo li koj tus ko tej zaum 100000.leej ntshai xyov puas tseem yuav muaj ib tug thiab coj txawv tiag2 nyuam qhuav hnov koj zaj neej neeg no xwb tsis tau hnov dua li.

Kav tsij nrhiav kev kom deb li deb Tau xwb ma viv ncau

Haha great story

Txav aws, khiav mus nyob Alaska los yeej tsis dim. Qhov twg los caij dav hlau xwb yeej tsis txhawj lis os, ntshe tsis muaj nyiaj yuav pib dav hlau xwb. Tsis xav yuav ces nrauj xwb tsis nyuab li

Your Hmong Husband likes to cosplay😂

😂😂😅😅😂😂😅😅😂😂😅😅😂😂

Tej tug txiv neej yeej npab vwm li ko tiag ov

Don’t worry just be friends

Haub yaus koj txiav koj txim xwb os. Koj twb ua poj nrauj ib zaug es ho tham niag yawg nrauj nrauj 5 niag poj niam ces tim koj xwb os. Ua neej nyob mas xav kom neej zoo ces xyuam xim mloog lus yuav lwm tus qhuab qhias mas thiaj li zoo. Cov neeg tsis mloog lus ces neeg yeej lem lem lem xwb

Wow you have it tough. Sounds like a movie. What a crazy guy.

Yog txaus ntshaii npaum ko tiag es khiav nrauj kiag nws thiab mus nyob txawv zos kon nws nrhiav tsis tau koj report rau police kiag xwb koj thiaj dim nawj

Mentxhai koj nyob qabteb ce khiav mus qaum teb hoyog koj nyob qaum teb ce khiav mus qabteb xwbma teb chaws no nws yeej nrhiav tsis tau koj lios mentxhai aw khiav sai li sai nawb mog yog koj tsis xav tuag

Koj yeej yug los khaws luag qub raug luag siv.

Honestly call the police on him when you plan to leave him. So sorry for you. Be extra careful and I hope you find an escape route for you.

Tawm kom tau sai li sai tau nawb . Nws tsis mloog koj saj dab neeg tab sis nws yeej muaj nws cov txheeb ze mloog ces koj zaj dab neeg yeej yuav mus txog nws ov.

Mloog mas tsis txaus ntseeg pes tsawg tabsis yog koj ntshai ces thaum nws tsis nco qab ces khiav mus nyob txawv lav xwb otherwise yog khiav tsis taus ces nws Xav kom ua Yeeb yam rau nws saib los ua xwb.

Kuv saib seb nej cov poj niam twb ua npauv Suav toog ntshaw cov txiv zoo li no los sav

Tsi khiav ces kawg tuag

Es yog nws crysie npaum li ntawv cas nws ho tsis mus yuav cov poj niam Liam 2 es nyiam ua li ntawv mas lo

This not something hard. He just like to do romantic 😅

Sister aw!! Li ntawv xwb tsis ua cas os zoo qhov nws pom luag hnav zoo nkauj es nws yuav rau koj hnav os. Ua kiag li nws hais xwb os. Tsis txaus ntshai os

Txaus ntshai dhau,

Tus txiv li ko ncaim ua ntej saib ntiaj teb no puas muaj txiv lawm yog tseem muaj ces lawb

Just disappear before it’s too late. Ib tug girl hais rau kuv tias “ koj xav tias kuv tua tsis tau koj no lov?. Ib hnub twg koj yuav tsum tuag rau kuv tes. Ceeb toom rau koj ua ntej nawb”. So I disappear from east coast to west coast.

Get away as far you can! Save your life

Tej zaum nws nriav tsi tau tu nyiam li ntawv xwb. Koj tsi hau rau qhov koj tsi nyiam xwb.

Muaj ib Co txiv neej ruam tsab ntse pluag txom nyem los tseem li him xwb thiab os

Koj kaws cov lus uas nws hawv yuav tuas koj coj mus rau police, ces lawv coj nws mus hlob kav hlaus ces koj dim xwb mas,thiab uas daim ntawv tiv thaiv koj. Yog koj tsis khiav hnub twg nws muab koj tuas ces lawv tseem hais tias nws xiam hlwv no ces lawv tsis muab lub txim loj rau nws thiab nws tseem tsis raug mus kaws thiab.

You better run

She need to go report to police n go get help from place that help woman in danger like this... seriously fast...don't wait to long n don't let yourself risk no more...get out fast for her safety...

Haha

Txhob tusiab vim koj yog pojruam

Get out while you can. Don't put your self in that kind of marriage. You'll put yourself into mental state. Don't worry about being divorced again. You're not the only one.

Txiv xiam hlwb rwj xwb os. Ib tug txiv neej muaj txog 5 tug pojniam es nrauj tag ces kuv yog pojniam li koj yuav tsis yuav li os nawb. Kuv yog ib tug txiv neej thiab tseem kuv nrauj txog 3 tug lawm ces kuv tsis qhuas tias kuv zoo li lawm yog, yog kuv na. Koj yuav taug nws keeb kwm los yeej siv tsis tau , pab koj tsis tau luaj twg os nawb ntshe nws kev hlub saum txaj chaw ho haib heev rau koj xwb es lam yuav rau qhov ntawv xwb lau 😅🤣😂 Peb txiv neej mas feem ntau cov hais lus mos ces yog cov phem 80% xwb ov. Kuv yog txiv neej kuv tsis dag li os. Qhov koj yuav dim ces koj cia li mus ua daim ntawv tiv thaiv koj, es khiab ntsiag to ntawm nws mus lawm xwb. Qhia txhua yam rau tub ceev xwm thiab koj yuav khiab kom lawv tsis txhob qhia nws xwb. Txhob ua ntsuas ntshai tsam ho tsis meej pem ces yog raug nws xub muab koj tua pov tseg os nawb. Thiab muab txhua yam koj tus txiv info kom tag thiab kev nws raug kaw dhau los rau tub ceev xwm thiab ov.

Koj yog hom neeg zoo li cas ces koj tsuas nrhiav tau tus neeg txawv tsis deb li koj thiab xwb vim tus ntawv thiaj khom lus haum nyog taus nrog koj ua neej. Tus ho txawv zog koj lawm no ces koj thiab nws sib khom lus tsis sib haum zoo vim neb ob tug cwj pwm hais lus thiab zeem muag pom sib txawv deb heev.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😅

Hehehe, koj tseem yov kom leejtwg pab koj ua koj lub neej licas naj. Koj 2 lub qhov-muag twb saib, pob ntseg twb mloog tibsi. Koj lub qhovntswg twb hnia kiag thiab cev tes xuas kiag lawm koj thiaj qaug quav rau nws lawm. Ces rseeb tsis dua koj tus kheej li lawm tiag. Koj tseem yov kom leejtwg pab koj.? Txawm koj yov ciaj tuag los yeejmeem ua ncejzeb sib-ib, ua ncej tsuas sib-nres mus tag ib sim neej li lawm xwb hos.

😂😂😂

This guy likes to play Bobby. I think it's fun time.

Qhov zoo tshaj ces khiav kom deb deb tsis li ces muab nws coj mus hlob kav hlau kom ntev ntev tsis muaj hnub tawm xwb tsis li ces ntshe muaj ib hnub twg koj yuav tau mus pw qab nyom xwb lau! Tus neeg ko mental lawm os

Kav tsij khiav nws mus nawb tsam lwm hnub koj ua tsis tau li nws hais ces nws yuav hlais koj ua phem rau koj. Nws twb treat koj lawm ces report rau police.

Call the cop so u can get a restraint order against him and move to another state. Your scare of your life every day u need to leave. Love yourself.

Run! Get protection from him.

Hmoog koj piav koj tus kheej koj nplab nauj dhau koj tsi haum nws os. Nws phim cov poj niam coj li nws tiam sis nws nriav tsi tau tu nyiam coj li ntawv xwb. Vim nws lau lawm tsi paub tag kis yuav zoo li cas qhov ntawv yog qhov nws nyiam

Report to the Police.

Cas kuv ho ntshaw ib txiv muaj hauj lwm zoo vaj tse zoo khov kho li ko es kuv mam li ua siab ntev xwb better dua tau niag txiv tub nkeeg los tseem tsa hwj chim siab2 Kom yus nyoo nws xwb..romantic los tsis muaj..yog pauv tau no pauv rau kuv vim kiv nyiam tus txiv romantic crazy thiaj muaj fun mas..

Please leave. Get a restraining order and get your family to help you get out safely into hiding. It’s only a matter of time before he hurts you.

Tej zaum koj tsi nyiam dance ces zoo li meem meem txom xb. Kuv xav tias yog nws tau cov poj niam es tuaj dance tas li saum TikTok na mas nws kawg tau ua poj niam qhev tas li 😅😅 nws kom yus ua las voos rau nws saib ces kom nws ua tej yam yus tsi xav ua xyws li ua mov noj ntxuav tais diav tu tsev tu hoob nab tag rau yus ces yus mam li mus ua las voos rau nws saib xb mas. Koj ua li no ib ntus ces nws laj2 ua hauj lwm lawm ces nws tsum lawm xb mas mi sister Aw

you already know what to do inside of you. You already got the answer but you still staying.

You don’t have to move to Alaska but definitely move out of state. Put lots of distance between you. Don’t tell your family or anyone where you moved to. Wait until everything quiet down the call your mom to let her know you’re alive and don’t worry about you. But don’t tell her where you are. Stay out of Hmong community for a few years. Keep your eyes open and stay alert. In time, he will move onto someone else and let you be.

Scared 4 ur life, my friend. I say go live in another country like Laos 4 a few years. Please b careful n take care. G luck.

Sister, you shouldn't care too much about what other's opinions and just think about yourself. What makes you happy? Marrying and divorcesd 5 times should have been a big red flag to you or anyone. Better be divorcee than living in a marriage with a narcissist and controlling and an abuser freak!!!

Well the third ex already told you what to do but looks like you refused to used it to get away.

What? 5x already married? That's a hard "hell no" for me! Did you think you can change him or that you are the one?

U marry a guy who divorce 5 time there something wrong with him n when your family give u advice n u still don’t listen don’t blame nobody jux yourself

This lady sounds like she was blinded by his status and money…should of had the “after marriage” discussion before even marrying the dude. Also 5 ex-wives wasn’t a red flag?! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Idk what’s more crazy. The fact that people told you he divorced 5 wives and still married him 😂😂😂

You jumped into a marriage with a man who’s been divorced 5 times? The things he asked for are doable. He’s willing to pay for everything so go take dancing lessons. Do everything you can before calling it quit. But if your life is threatened then leave. File a restraining order and disappear for awhile

Sorry lady. You’re crazy yourself. There are laws and restraining orders to help you. If you don’t trust him why stay this long.

This person is putting her life in ur hands. If everything she says is true then her life is in danger and you should report this to the authorities

My opinion to you is that you need to get out of that life because you living in a danger life with a man that is mental and crazy like that man like that can't never change you need to go and get a restraining order against him so you can get out of that danger life before it's to late to you 😢

Call the poo poo 👮

If he has had five ex wives, that’s already a big red flag and something wrong with him. It’s your fault too for being naive.

Obviously, you haven't seen 50 shades of grey 😉

Cas koj yuav ruam ua lauj. Ua lub nriag no mus xwb los mas . Txhob qhia leej twg paub li xwb. Yog tub ceev xwm nrhiav tau koj ces muab nws qhia kiag kom tuaj xwj xwb ces lawv yeej paub qhov tseem ntawm. Nws xwb los mas. Txhob muab nws kaw thiab.

I recommend you seek help from domestic intervention. You are living on thin ice. This guy is unstable and dangerous. Wishing you good luck and safety.

U marry a guy who divorce 5 time there something wrong with him n when your family give u advice n u still don’t listen don’t blame nobody jux yourself n for the guy he need to stay single for life😂😂😂🤣

6 or 5 wives is red flag already. OG hmong guys are is no good. I wouldn't even bend down either to please him or anyone who isn't respecting me. Love those who love you and those who hate you walk away is best. Wife and husband should be treated equally to have a better relationship. Why do most hmong guys think that their wife should obey them. No way ever in a couple should have that. Sister, you scared and no like drop him and have freedom. But if he buys and wants you to dance, do it easy xwb na. But for me, I'll not even married a guy with that many divorce already.

Gather evidence of what he does and say to threaten you. Leave and get a restraining order. If possible change your name. There should be woman organizations in the area you live in that can give you resources.

DUUUUUUHHHH LADY!!! YOU'RE HIS 6TH WIFE!!!! DING DING DING!!!! RUAM TIAG TIAG!! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

sad you had to hook up with some loose marbles dude. the alarm/signs were all there; someone who has been through that many marriages is evident. feel sorry for you.

Nes nes nes, you eat the mushroom but didn’t follow the log. Take your important documents and only the clothes on your back and run to where there are no Hmong people. Nrog Hmong nyob ces he’s gonna come looking for you and people will talk even if they don’t know he’s like that. Change your legal name and change your Hmong name, change your hair, your style, the way you walk, the way you laugh if you want to live. You’re no longer a two time divorcee, you’re a one time divorcee and your ex husband was Mes

No good! He has 5 ex wives!

He should have married to a dog!!! He is crazy!!!! Should not have went back to him and should have called the cops for threatening you and put on a restraining order on him.

😂😂😂yooj yim cuag nyob teb chaw no tseem khiav tsis dim ce yog tsis xav khiav xwb 😅😅😅😅

Run, run as far as possible. This dude is a psycho!

lol, your mom snitched on you. But, seriously though, 5 ex’s, you should’ve known. Pab tsis tau lod

Your man is a narcissist. You need to get out and get a protection order before you die by his hands

You better GTFO gf. That mofo has issues.

Tus txiv neej no yuav tsum tau nrhiav tus neeg zoo2 nkauj thiab nyiam2 tu cev. Tus neeg no yuav tsum very sexy thiab phim zam rau tus thaub no.. he also need to lower his expectation on his spouse

Don’t be scare of your husband no need to waste your ho talk to your relatives and ho report and do a restraining order again your husband do we won’t hurt you or come near you sister..it’s better to let your family members or relatives know before things get worst

This guy likes the modern looks and he like to copy the latest fashion. There is nothing wrong with that but this couple need to work on it.. this lady is not the same class as her husband.. she is the old fashion hmong woman.. they are not the same level expectation for life.. some man likes their spouse to be the the of the crowd, this guy is one of them.. this woman better change her mind set and be the best she can be ( modern looks and style) or leave him for an old fashion hmong men