The hardest part for me was getting over the guilt and shame of realizing you allowed someone to control you in these ways.

It taught me that I am a happy soul.And not everyone has got pure and happy soul.Thanks to my parents and God.

I left my husband last week. I always returned but this time I’m not. It feels like I’m grieving a death of someone. It’s been a very hard week.

I changed from being a people pleaser and timid person into a force to reckon with! I am a Warrior baby! It took being broken, abused and discarded to lead me to self awareness, bravery, strength,positivity, peace and independence that’s what the narkynark taught me !

Just out now 45 days. Im still foggy and wondering who I am. I carried the last two Narcs on my back that broke me financially and emotionally. Friends and family disappeared. Im lonely. Work alone, live alone no one to talk to but a dog and two cats, they don't talk back. I have youtube videos that keep me getting up each day including yours. Thank you.

The devaluation before the discard is hurtful beyond words. You can’t believe it’s actually happening. May God help anyone that is going through this! I would rather be shot than deal with it again!

I have reached that spiritual awakening. It's crazy, like a veil has been lifted. I didn't realize there were people out there who purposely manipulated and I didn't know what boundaries were. I had hit that point where I didn't know who I was because everything I had believed up to this point in my life wasn't real at all. It's a weird feeling, but it has brought a lot of wisdom. And the inner work on being aware of my own programming is awe inspiring. I hope some day I can be healthy enough to attract and want someone who is also healthy. Thank you for this video! ❤

I only found out what a narcissist was only about 2-3 months ago.. I was with a person for a few months and the love bombing was insaneeeeeee and so was the devaluation and discard.. I probably should thank my lucky stars that it only lasted a few months. I blocked her on everything and haven’t spoken to her in 2 months. I lost my entire sense of self I knew something was wrong . I didn’t want to work, go to the gym, cook, I lost 15 pounds. My friends and family didn’t recognize me. Just imagine this was only a few months of being with this girl, I can’t even imagine what some go through dealing with it for years .. my heart goes out to anyone struggling, it was definitely a painful but necessary experience for me..

I always felt I was never enough. I was constantly trying to please him, avoiding any arguments. Now that we are no longer together that feeling of not being enough is completely gone. I now struggle with narcissist constantly being vindictive whenever I speak up.

It was so revealing to know that just being nice to a narcissistic person was a torture for 2 decades

I left my wife 15 days ago after 27 years of marriage and discovering 3 affairs that she had in the past 10 years, most recently a 9-month affair which started my learning when I found a text string after she asked me to fix her computer. However, I also found an email where she told one of these 3 lovers that she had been living a dual life literally since we married. From everything I am learning through various therapy videos is that I have probably just scratched the surface, and even despite her own literal written documentation, she is denying all but the most recent affair. It's really sad. I am just starting my healing, but your videos, Stephanie, are amazing, my favorites to watch, and so incredibly helpful. Thank you!

I can relate to the part that this abusive relationship forced me to learn to love myself and what abuse looks like. I am not the same person I was two years ago when I left that abusive relationship. And I’m proud of myself because the old me would’ve jumped into another relationship because I needed for someone to heal me and the new me Finally learned those hard lessons and learn how to heal myself and I have been single for two years and I am proud of myself. And when it is time for me to date I know that I can trust myself because I am fully conscious and aware Thanks to the abuser ❤️

I honestly had to numb myself in order to cope. I'm just coming out and I feel great! Great being away from him! I feel happy to get out of bed and smile to myself.

I was discarded last week. It has been one of the most difficult events in my life to try and process. I trusted and cared for this person endlessly but when I started to set boundaries and say "no" to things that made me uncomfortable the house of cards fell quickly. It does feel like I'm mourning the death of this person and also their family who I loved so very much.

I've basically been dissociated for the last 3 years (massive amounts of THC used too). I'm finally realizing I'm not worthless and can fulfill all my dreams. I'm on day 4 of no contact and escape. Good luck to everyone out there going through something this awful!

Great insight about how a narc can actually force us to dig deeper into self-love and help us learn to set emotional boundaries around our energy. Thank you for your work. 🙏

Being in a relationship with a cluster-b, really wakes you up. That's a whole new scarry reality to wake up to...

Middle of divorce with young children. Makes me sick. The entire relationship was a lie. Thank you for doing these. Videos.

Right on! Thank you. 4 months after the discard, grateful for the growth, amazing learning experience. I now know Evil exists. Used to be pretty naïve.

I learned a valuable lesson in that relationship. Lost everything including myself... started over at 57- I have major trust issues I don't know if I'll ever get over trust. But it made me a stronger , better person. I now love who I am.. I'm a survivor of a true life nightmare... Never again..

I put up with a lot at first because when she had withdrawn her excuse was that she was dealing with depression. After a couple weeks when she had "bounced back" she seemed a bit different and something felt off. That's when I started looking into depression, personality disorders and ended up here, learning about narcissism. Covert narcissism described her perfectly and for a couple months I was trauma bonded while I continued to learn about myself and covert narcissism. Thankfully, I was able to remain physically healthy and fairly confident while calling out her childish games in the end and made a clean break with her. She hoovered me once but it's been two weeks now and I'm sure she won't return after calling her out while keeping a cool head. We don't need these people, they're parasites but, they can also help us realize that we are attracting these demons and that we need to work on ourselves.

I'm about a year into my awareness. You're right that it will change everything about the rest of my life and how I interact with people.

I just left my abusive relationship over a month ago and what got me to let him go was all the name calling for absolutely no reason. I'm not someone to doubt myself or feel bad about myself and this guy totally was doing that and I hated it. I finally let ties go because of it and it's so great to be aware of myself and actually be able to feel the way I feel and be myself. I didnt realize how bad the relationship was until I started distancing myself. It's only been a month and a half and I already feel so much relief. I just dont know how to parent with him now.. and I know it's all about control to him.

Week 3 out of an abusive relationship. As a man it's so difficult to accept that I can fall for such tricks. Stephanie your videos have helped me for the best part of a year... In and out of the same cycle with the same person, expecting different results. It wasn't until I became suicidal that I had to look at myself. Gosh I have one life, as you said Stephanie I've been asleep up until now. This Channel has educated me so much. I was in this abusive relationship watching your videos and arming myself with the facts. For so many years I've been trying to find the right time to leave. With every new video I watched I gained strength. One day I stood up and said "I'm done" in my mind I knew this relationship was going to kill me. For anyone struggling... Just keep going, a day at a time, watch these videos, in a secret location if you have to! Arm yourself with the good ammunition. The more I learnt about this stuff the less alone I felt. Without gushing I am always so grateful for your channel Stephanie. Thank you so much! X

You have helped me so much. It will be two years from when the Narc walked out. I have grown so much and can be alone for the first time in my life. I knew I had grown when I came face to face with him last week and he didn’t control the conversation. It so happened that he had a trigger and needed to talk. The trigger was what should have been our twenty ninth wedding anniversary. After he left I felt proud of myself I never felt that before. So thank you from the bottom of my heart. Sincerely, Bobbie

YES!!! My deeply dysfunctional relationship finally taught me how to take care of myself and gain more independence.....especially since getting out of it. ❤️❤️❤️

I’ve borne the burnt of several abusive relationships (all types - relatives, friendships, romantic, and professional). The primary lessons I learned were 1) I have to put myself and my own best interests first, and 2) Appeasement and cooperation don’t work with toxic folks so it’s a time and energy waster to try, AND 3) I have to reject a person if they aren’t what I want or need in my life. In my past I cared about getting along with everyone as much as possible. I still prefer that, but I also realize some people don’t want to get along and actively CHOOSE to harm others (physically, emotionally, financially...any way they can). I don’t want to put up with it and I will not do so. I will not accept or tolerate anyone or anything I don’t perceive as being beneficial in my life.

IT IS SOOOO TRUE! I finally (5 months after the break up) get to the point that I am grateful for my toxic ex to wake me up to love myself and to put myself first. I would also never get as much education on manipulation, gaslighting, emotional abuse if I haven't gone through it and tried to figure out what actually happened. I think I needed the experience. I love my healing process. God put him on my path for a reason - for sure!

1 year post narc survivor, sometimes I still struggle but most times I'm alright. Your videos are always needed. Thank you 💚

I was in an abusive relationship and it was so hard to leave I still love him, I really do, but he’s not a good person and I don’t think he will change. I don’t want him back but I feel feel sad for him and for me, and at the same time I feel calm, I know I’m happier without him and I’m grateful that is over, but sadness is still here, specially because well I will always care about him even after all the pain he caused

I've learned to love myself enough to not let anybody treat me with disrespect, disdain, neglect etc. I've learned to protect myself from abusive people.

Wow wow wow! I have listened to so many of your videos BUT! This is the most relatable video yet!!! Oh my goodness. You nailed this one!

My issue is I know when there is abuse, I know when I need to set boundaries, however my fear of the emotional abuse/guilt/shame that will come from standing up for myself keeps me from doing it.

I found this video very helpful ... and have seen them all. I especially liked the part that described the absence of a sense of self, and the blank indifference of the NPD to the concept of self. -- I spent years with a classic NPD woman. I once asked her about her sense of self, if she knew who she was ... she quickly said no, but had no interest or care about the concept. Her primary motive was, "How do I get what I want," and "How do I make myself seen in high regard by the public." - Home for her was an empty vessel that could not fulfill her narcissistic needs. In a humorous manner (to me today) I was a "trophy" husband she loved to be seen with in public. At home, I had less significance to her than an outfit of clothing in the closet. I was an inanimate object. -- The consequence for her, of her disorder, was a constant dissatisfaction with life, an inability to feel deeply. She could not understand people or the world ... was very fearful and always upset, angry and hateful, etc. You know the deal. A normal response of empathy and care for such a suffering person, can be trouble, and not the best approach. -- It felt like abandoning a helpless child when I left, contrary to humane instinct but necessary for self preservation.

Yay, thank you! So true, so much good has come from my abusive relationships. I am stronger, wiser/more discerning, more loving from a more respectful & mature place, & finding my own voice...the list goes on.

I've watched all you're videos and in tears, everything you've said reflects within my relationship.

I found your videos when I was really going through it, thanks for being part of my healing. It's been a bit over a year since I was discarded, and I feel as though I have finally closed that chapter of my life. I told myself I was over it many times, and many times I had to forgive everyone that was involved, including myself. Everything that's happened feels like a distant memory, it no longer hurts to think back on it. I've been able to heal pain caused by that relationship, along with the pain I had been carrying from childhood. I do wish I had learned my lessons in a less painful manner but I am thankful for all the things I learned anyway.

Wow. I’ve never considered how they might have changed me. I can’t wait to have free time to check this out.

Your videos are beyond inspiring. I'm sharing with some friends/ family who are going through this. I've been there in the past. Thank you so much!

The ending was gold! As much as a lot of it sucked I can't help but be grateful. Thank you for being a great resource for my healing and understanding.

I’m learning so much from your channel Stephanie. This video really resonates with me. Key thing I took from this... “this relationship on some level forced you to love yourself.” THIS! Also recognizing abuse. I had a toxic and narcissistic parents and my entire life I have felt I was worthless. But what happens when you have experienced so much hurt and rejection that I don’t know if I will ever be able to love myself?

I just realized I was head over heals with a narcissist and he bailed on me suddenly (after lots of soulmate talk and longterm promises and dreams) cause I started speaking my boundaries. Thankfully I realized through this experience that I have some wounds to heal and im still figuring out the rest. Lots of time to reflect and learn.

you are so knowledgeable. When you said we operate from our wounds..i cant wait to hear more on this subject. Your videos are really helpful.

This is so amazing and so helpful, you have broken down the information so well. Be blessed. I am definitely Awoken.

I never EVER! Thought I would ever be in a situation dating someone who put me through abusive cycles. Thank you for helping me through this tough time and helping me GET OUT of this viscous cycle and get my confidence and self worth back!

Even though I’m a couple of years out, the 20 plus year marriage really did damage me. Thanks Stephanie for keeping me on the healing path.

The best video I’ve ever watched on the amazing lessons I’ve learned through the most difficult years of my life. All things are working together for my good. Fantastic insights! Thank you! 💕

Ive watched a lot of channels and videos on relationships and narcissism, you are one the best with your content, and how you articulate, take my word for it. thanks

Thank you for posting this. I am 100% thankful for the lessons now, and as you said the awakening. I see life much differently, present, past and future. Along with a lot of reading, watching videos like yours and going to a therapist it’s very exciting to me.

I remember, fairly early in the relationship, feeling so overwhelmed by his need to be totally my life, like we were one person. It freaked me out, I couldn't cope with it, but he was literally/physically in my face telling me that was how it should be. It disgusts me thinking back on it.

Love this approach. Thankful for the lessons and for learning what I don’t want in my life moving forward.

Stephanie, thank you for this video. I both laughed and cried. But at the end of the day, I ran across this video at a pivotal place in my development. Thank you so much for having these conversations and addressing these touchy subjects. I will save this one and watch it often.

I became very self aware , very honest and very self loving and so much more I feel so strong now it was the greatest lesson of my life so far my discard was the biggest blessing in disguise

I have had several failed relationships I think I’m starting to realize that my mom was toxic to me growing up so I thought that was a healthy relationship I also recently broke up with my emotionally abusive partner I find your videos to be very helpful thanks again

This woman is so on point. Thanks for the video!

I love every word in This message. Thank you so much!

Thank you I appreciate this message.. and you for delivering it... I've been raised by 5 narcissistic females.. and left behind by both parents.. to cope I got into a relationship that was not the healthiest.. I just wanted to say thank you

Yes yes yes yes! Everything she said is absolutely true. I'm way out of my abusive relationship and I have come so far from the broken shell i was right afterwards. It truly is an awakening, and I feel like I'm in tune with the world again. ♥️ Your videos Stephanie!

Stephanie, thank you for posting these videos. They really help me understand what has happened to me over the past 15 years. I am a lot more self-aware than I used to be, but I struggle with codependent behaviors. But I’m better than I was when I was younger and when I was married.

So right on.. I never realized and I am here watching as a result of this past relationship...

I love your work, thankful that you share!!

What I learned towards the end of my final relationship, which ended in the summer of 2016, and then in the three years since: what emotional blackmail is, including gas-lighting, threats and ultimatums. I discovered attachment trauma (which I have. Had no idea. Thanks to Alan Robarge for shining a light on this relatively new concept.) I learned what's really important and about self-care, self-love, self-acceptance. I had a full-blown spiritual awakening where I was in touch with the universe, infinity, a higher power, and saw, like a lightning bolt, what my purpose on the planet is: to be love, of love, with love, and for love. I had two back-to-back narcissist partners. I left one for another. The second one was VERY charming and covert. Love-bombed me and seemed, at first, to be 180-degrees different from the partner she was trying to get me to leave. BECAUSE I had shared so much with her about how this prior narcissistic partner was treating me, she was able to use that intel to her advantage. She knew what to say, how to be, what buttons to push. Insidious. I learned about ego. I read the "Untethered Soul." I've also learned about social and emotional learning - SEL - which is the answer/solution to creating a world with very few, or no, narcissists. Social and emotional learning that starts in pre-K and goes to 12th grade and beyond. As Stephanie wistfully says in a lot of her vids, and we all say, and know: if ONLY we had been taught these things growing up! We could've been given the tools to learn about ego, consciousness, self-awareness, social awareness, empathy, healthy, responsible decision-making, and what healthy relationships look like. We would've learned about civility, self-esteem, self-love, etc. We could've avoided co-dependency, people-pleasing, a lot of depression, self-sabotage, and so much more. Slowly, little-by-little, SEL IS being implemented in schools all over the world. It started in 2011, or so. But we have a long way to go. It WILL change the world in every way, from prejudice, bullying, and toxic relationships to war, poverty, sex trafficking, domestic violence, and crime. There's a very real, empirical chance these "realities of life" will end, or be greatly reduced. IMAGINE! Sure fires up MY imagination! If you want to learn more, google CASEL, RULER, Roots of Empathy (Canada), the NoVo Foundation, BRAC International (the world's largest NGO, headquartered in Bangladesh), or The IRC's "Healing Classrooms." And there are others. You'll discover a whole world created by people who were wounded, bullied, and in some way impacted by a world where virtually none of these skills are taught growing up. Not by parents, schools, churches or groups like scouts. Because no one really taught them either. Finally, hurt, affected people decided to take real and substantive action aimed at the root, at the source, of ALL these problems. Prevention vs "maybe-we-stumble-onto-a-cure" after decades of therapy, divorce, depression, lost productivity, soul-searching, recovery, etc. So, to all of you who've been through the ringer: bravo! Well done! Keep exploring. We are on an amazing, special path. Check out S.E.L. and see if it's being done in your community and, if you're inspired, investigate, maybe volunteer. If it isn't in your school, maybe you could initiate a conversation about that with the community: teachers, parents, students, community leaders, mental health experts, therapists. (Ironically, if this really became the new teaching norm, we might not need as many therapists in the future!) Yes, the pain, suffering, loss, and turmoil we went through has made us who we are now and there is gratitude, acceptance, clarity and peace. But I think, if given a choice, most of us would probably prefer to spare our children, and their children, from having to go through all the same shit as us to get to this place. I might be wrong, but that's where my head is. Namaste, David

Excellent video. Yes, these abusive relationships do force people to re-examine their life. All kinds of abuse and how to understand it and deal with it should be taught in high school.

Stephanie has hit the nail on the head. Excellent.

I would NEVER THANK an ABUSER

I’m 34 and never knew myself. Let go of a 12 year relationship. I’m ready to live and love! I have so much hope! These videos make me feel so not alone!! Thank you!!

You’re so AMAZING!! I’ve been watching your videos off and on for months. And whenever I do, it gets me realigned with my purpose, my path. I couldn’t agree more with everything you’ve said. And I’ve left my narcissistic, extremely abusive ex again. And I have hopes it’s for the last time. I finally am starting to feel like how I feel I should feel. And every day is so much conscious, intentional effort on how I think as how I choose to spend my time. Because I never want to fall back into that relationship again. Thank you so much for your help. You gave no idea how much you’re getting people like me!!! God Bless!!

Excellent video !!!!! You are so easy to listen to and actually absorb what you are telling us !! Some videos I have watched I found myself distracted away from watching but you are a level headed kind of engaging !! Thank you for that !!!

This video hit so many nails smack bang on the head for me. In 2017 ended up getting divorced after 30 years of marriage. I had always had this sense that I was not the problem, not that I was perfect but I was not the reason married life seemed so hard. What you said about being asleep is something I am beginning to realise how much I have been. Looking forward to the emotional wounds video as I suspect that will be for me another big step in me waking up.

Thank you for helping me to see the upside of 25+ years of negativity and allowed manipulation. I am 59 years old and just now learning to love myself again.

This video is exactly how I feel now at the point I am with my whole experience. You explained the entire process as if you and I were holding hands through it it’s amazing how those toxic people all seem to play off the same play book. I am grateful at some point of every day that I’ll never have to live and be married to that monster again and all I see is hope for my future. Which is all I need 💝

Amazing savvy, style and presentation. Looking forward to gobbling up your material. You have a high level of refinement on this subject which bears your unique voice with a delightful and charming presence.

Well said, again, TY. The biggest lesson, I do love myself. I lost that for that time with the narc. I am now No contact, and loving myself more everyday. I was completely unaware of NPD. Very difficult lessons. Happy to be moving in the forward direction. Ty Love & light to you and yours always!!

Amazing you hit the nail on the head I could relate to everything you said. Thank you so so much I just am so grateful to hear the words aloud and have confirmation. Coming out of a 2 decade marriage now 3 months on with the help of subliminals and channels life yours.🙏♥️

Thanks again Stephanie. Everything u said made sense to me & I went thru it. I’m looking forward to ur series in healing wounds. I was v struck by ur comment in this video that we “operate out of our wounds”. I’d like to hear much more about that. I’m 6 months out of a 20 year “relationship” -no sex once they’d sucked me in - w 2 kids so it’s not all plain sailing but I feel the best I have in decades. Re-discovering who I am. The gaslighting narcs practice is so awful, messes w ur head so much, it feels almost evil. As u say, I’ve learned heaps about things I had no idea about. Ur last comment about “waking up” also feels v true. I’ve gotten so much value from ur videos & u have helped me so much. Thank you

I'm still in this toxic relationship but you're helping me so much to understand, to improve myself... You're a blessing.

After 2 months of pure agony since leaving my borderline partner, this video has calmed my stomach down just enough to feel like myself again. For the moment anyways. Thank you

This is the 1st time I have ever been with a beautiful narcissistic woman. A very eye opening experience. I never questioned myself and my self worth before meeting her. It is definitely a form of disease built up over years of abuse from another partner she had. This video really helped me Stephanie ! Thank you.

A truly amazing insight. Thank you so much for putting my life into perspective. I’ve just come out of a relationship with a narcissist lady who made me doubt everything about myself and what I stand for. I’ve never heard of gaslight until I started researching what I was going through. Funny thing is once I got to understand the problem (that I was dealing with a narcissist or I was being gaslit) it took me a day to come out of that madness relationship. Learning how I was manipulated for a year was like a whole new world has just opened. I felt like I was coming out of a trance.

Omg this was the BEST VIDEO. Thank you so much for the enlightenment. You are wonderful.

I've been out for about 6 months. I don't think I will ever want to send him a thank you. I'm glad I learned, but I don't think anybody should have to learn that way.

I'm bipolar and I felt normal coming out of the relationship being around crazy makes you feel crazy 😅

Thank you for your perspective on this subject. Your experience sounds almost identical to mine. I’m so awake and transformed now. ❤️❤️❤️

Thank you for all your videos, they are such a big help. I am fresh out.. was with my ex for just shy of a year and boy does everything you said resonate!! I foolishly broke no contact Thursday but re-established it by Friday night and am 100% eyes wide open not breaking it ever again. I am so grateful to you and a few other channels.. you guys are helping me climb out of the well..this has been absolutely awful..and before I even saw your video tonight I realized that this HAS forced me to wake up to so many things and I’m undoubtedly learning so many lessons. Blessings and much gratitude to you Stephanie! 💛✨

They teach you where your weaknesses are.

I'm struggling because I was married for 20 yrs. Divorced for 9. I divorced him because of all the fighting and he just had my self esteem at zero. He was downright mean! Now im beating myself up thinking I was at fault. I should have done this...I should have done that... was miserable in my marriage! I know my part in it tho I just put so much blame on myself I need to remember how awful he was!

Thank you for what you do. I watched almost all your videos and you have really helpful information that I take with me everyday. Thank you. Please continue doing this.

Wow. It forced me to learn to love myself! That sums it up, thank you!!

I listened to this .....and I've come to a point where I can say thank you...so I sent my friend...well ex friend some flowers and a bottle of wine....and wait for it....she called me and said they are not my favourite flowers and not my favourite wine so I remembered what you said in other videos not to react but respond....so I stayed calm and said thank you...and she said GO TO HELL!!!!..😂.. ....So i said I've already been there...when I was friends with you!!!......😂.... jokes aside I have got to that point...and I loved the message thank you...

I'm still with a covert narcissist. I still tell myself that compared to others she isn't that bad. She has little empathy though and is seriously passive-aggressive along with being negative 99% of the time which is draining. She has helped me a lot early on when we first met though but as time has gone on things have continued to deteriorate which is really sad to reflect on. I'm trying to learn and become a better person while she seems to slowly get worse over time. It's like being with a robot who even seems to like to see you down which is messed up but I remind myself she has a disorder and may be malignant which is why they are like that. I have been around narcissists most of my life but I did not realize it until I started researching all this. I often wonder what this world would be like if all the low empathy cluster B people just vanished leaving only empathetic people behind. Would we need laws and locks and government anymore? Do narcissists create 99% of the world's problems? I do fear she has changed me in negative ways but hopefully, if I can escape, I can repair any damage that has been done. Thank you as always for making these videos and raising awareness on this issue!

With the help of your videos during and you're still helping 6 months post. It's been a lot of guilt and shame for allowing certain things to be done or said to me but I'm still working on forgiving. Especially when it felt under the guise that they were trying to make me better. I teared up on this video because it is fun work, once your eyes are truly open it's hard to dismiss things. Still in the process of healing and I appreciate this video because of the post narrative that not a lot of videos speak of. Keep em' coming!

I have watched so many of your videos. This is by far my top favorite. Thank you for this video. Means a lot to me right now

I am 11 months out of my 6 year relationship with my ex narc. I have learned that it's not my fault, that I cannot make a relationship all about that other person, and what I want is a deeper relationship than just surface content. I recently saw them in public (my narc and the girl he cheated on me with for two years) and I ignored them. They don't get my time and head space anymore. I am still not ready to date anyone yet because of the baggage that I have, but I know when I do, I will be more open and ready to have a deeper and committed relationship. AND I know what to look for as red flags! I love your videos, Stephanie! Great job! To anyone out there that is in their narc relationship, or just out of one... it gets better, and it takes time. So don't beat yourself up about taking too long to "feel better". I did that for so long! It DOES get better, but with patience towards yourself.

Just 3 months of leaving an 11 years relationship My sense of self is something that I know I lost because I did everything he wanted and to his expectations Initially i did that because I believe that I wanted to make him happy but as years went on I did so I didn't have to hear back lash. I forgot who I was before him I am now working on getting my self esteem back and not doubting my everything that I do.. because he made me feel as if I did anything without consulting him first it would turn out disastrously and I am slowly moving forward to knowing that everything isn't perfect and that it's ok that I CAN DO THINGS WITHOUT NEEDING HIS APPROVAL AND THEY WILL TURN OUT GOOD, BECAUSE I AM CAPABLE AND SMART.. My kids are also my strength to look ahead and become someone thay can look up to....❤

I LOVE YOU AND THIS! This really hit home THANK YOU

The end of this video is SO EMPOWERING!!!!! Thank you Sis :)

Hi...I am just coming out of my relationship. I finally filed and put myself into a safe place. I have been working with a counselor for a year and 1/2. I moved out to file and he completely moved out while I was gone. So I am home and waiting to see what mediation brings. I am finding it difficult to set goals for my future. I dont know how to find me again. Now he is playing or should I say he has gotten huge favor from our daughter who has now reached the age of maturity. She is his victim too. She is too young to realize and I am so concerned how it is affecting her. Though she has a really great guy in her life for about 3 years I see familiar patterns in their relationship. I have been watching you this whole year. Now I need to heal but also want to help my daughter.

I was with a narc for 17 years and in 7 days it will be 2 years to the day i walked away from him. I still dont know how to love who i am or even whats healthy. Im trying hard but i dont know if i will ever know how

Thank You ! I really like your style and your empathic manner !

Thank you, I needed to hear this right now. I was fortunate enough to have gone into therapy right after I got out of my abusive toxic friendship and it helped a lot but many doubts and fears that this person engrained in me have been resurfacing and it's time for me to get to work again to finally move on from this