How Do I Get Her To Choose Me Over The Other Guy?

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Жыл бұрын

How to get a woman to choose you over the other guy she is dating so she wants a relationship with you instead.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who is new to my work. He’s been friends with this girl in his mutual group of friends for 3 years. She had a boyfriend until earlier this year when they broke up. A mutual friend told him that she liked him and they eventually started sleeping together on these group trips. They only see each other every 4-6 weeks when their group gets together. However, she is also now seeing another guy casually who she seems to want to lock down, but he’s not interested. The guy who writes in wants to know how to get her to choose him over the other guy she is trying to lock down. He’s tried locking her down but she doesn’t want to.
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@sagarthakkar900 Жыл бұрын

I wouldn’t even entertain a woman who is torn between me and someone else. I don’t care how pretty she is, her character is what matters.

@f8talfury Жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@martinmayfield1932 Жыл бұрын

Ask yourself “what are the chances the other guy is a 3% man?” And proceed accordingly

@ET-lg4mt Жыл бұрын

I think this every day

@Kain5th Жыл бұрын

i guess theres a 2% chance hes a 3% man... waitt....

@efrencalvario 11 ай бұрын

i know even if i fk up some days she will come back cause the other guys fk up more than me lol

@supremegaming8794 7 ай бұрын

@@efrencalvarioI like that mentally

@all-father5254 29 күн бұрын

@Champ1988 Жыл бұрын

To me, it's a green flag if a girl mentions that she's casually seeing someone else. Coach teaches that "women help whom they like." The more vague a woman is, the easier it will be for you to draw conclusions that cause you to make unnecessary mistakes with her. For example, most guys know that when a woman pulls back after showing you interest, sometimes it's because she is entertaining another guy. So instead of being patient and allowing her to come and go, a guy might call her out on it and pigeonhole her into NOT choosing him. In this case, she gave him VALUABLE intel. She's saying, "I like you, but please handle this situation delicately because I want to take my time." So if a girl ever tells you about another guy, you should take that as a sign to move at HER PACE. We're goal-oriented, and it can be excruciating to feel stagnant when we're doing all we can to make things happen with a girl. But patience is a virtue, and you must do everything you can to control those feelings of anxiety with women and where the two of you stand.

@Champ1988 Жыл бұрын

@@dendanskehelt4296 I would have said, "so you're saying I should start playing volleyball?" In my opinion, she's just passing time. She 100% knows you like her. And the more you wait, the less respect she has for you. Even if she'd reject you anyway. Go ahead & get that no so you can move on. Best case scenario she agrees. So you win either way so you can stop worrying. Report back on the outcome.

@leealex24 Жыл бұрын

There's a girl I'm interested and I texted her after we met recently and she seems friendly/excited to hear from me. But, when I hinted interest without being too explicit, and indicating a date, she seems to back off. Never know what's happening, but, I guess I will just relax and not do anything for now.

@Champ1988 Жыл бұрын

@@leealex24 this is why Coach is always showing y'all tough love. Bro, "indicating?" That's female energy. Be direct and ask for ger availability. You probably still won't see her again. But like the other dude, get that no out of the way so you can have closure. Start being direct. She already knows you like her if y'all went out.

@holyshit5274 Жыл бұрын

@@dendanskehelt4296 update

@Zhello79 10 ай бұрын

Then you have the girl who hides the boyfriend and pretends she is single and the only people who knows about the boyfriend is her parents 🤷🏾‍♂️.

@Gio-m Жыл бұрын

When you let Corey’s work marinate in your head for a while, you start really developing a “me first” attitude. For instance in this scenario , you should immediately get turned off by a girl who’s actively pursuing someone over you. That’s when you should place her at the bottom of your priority totem pole. Naturally, you won’t have much time for her. You’ll be too busy with the other items at the top, perhaps even another girl .

@mrfitz02 Жыл бұрын

There is no competition with anyone except the person you look at in the mirror. Other than that remove yourself focus on your purpose and the one destined for you will value and support you

@HandsOfSweed Жыл бұрын

Stop trying to get her to choose you. That's how.

@loganblack4885 Жыл бұрын

Go find a woman who truly desires you

@rjskum688 Жыл бұрын

@@timgibney5590 I was that beta at one point. And it's true.

@silvermine2033 Жыл бұрын

@@rjskum688 Haha me too!

@coreykleinman7902 Жыл бұрын

@@timgibney5590 you mean top 3%

@leealex24 Жыл бұрын

@rjskum688 Жыл бұрын

@@leealex24 just have patience man. Dont blow load too soon.

@mavrk.d Жыл бұрын

How do I get a girl to pick me over another guy? Corey: Have you read the book 10-15 times?!

@InmortaliitY Жыл бұрын

Aaaand the context is: *Don't chase girls who doesn't want you *Find yourself and be happy, then you'll attract happy people. *According to Todd you need to be physically attractive to atleast have 20s of her time, to show her your self-esteem(status), you've been working on, INSTEAD of chase girls who don't want you. In other words, don't focus on girls. If she suddenly pops up, then act a catch and don't be too invested, coz she need to have her speed. Blabla

@aspe434 Жыл бұрын

At least the woman told him that she wants another guy; most women would have kept that secret and would have just fabricated reasons why she can't go out on dates.

@kingdavid772 2 ай бұрын

Sounds like a keeper 😂

@itsjustnopinionok Жыл бұрын

The moment you find out that your the side dude or woman is the moment you decide your no longer playing this game anymore. Walk away and don't look back. Because of they are chasing someone else while with you. Even of you win this you will only be with them until they find someone better because you where never there first choice

@seanc546 Жыл бұрын

It sucks we have to play these games, but there's enough evidence and life experience that shows it's necessary. I had to make the decision to play this game this week. Nice woman, lots of fun when we're together, but clear to me it's time to back off and allow her to do some pursuing.

@martinmayfield1932 Жыл бұрын

Yeah. It’s what most women respond to.

@robsolf Жыл бұрын

It's not really a game to them, though. She's not doing it to mess with you; she's doing what she's doing because of how she feels in the moment. We just have to remember not to take it personally, which can be hard AF sometimes.

@ET-lg4mt Жыл бұрын

Wouldn't call it a game. No more than bird mating ritual is a game. Your just being the ideal man

@DukeFavre Жыл бұрын

"How do I get her to choose me" You don't. It has to flow. Let met tell you something that's gonna hurt you, the moment she's treats you like an option, you have to eject. Either you like her or you don't. A woman that is into you will make things easy on you and reach out. Read the book, always work on yourself, improve and good things will come along.

@martbau25 10 ай бұрын

How do you know if she Is treating you like an option? There is a girl at my work that I like but she just broke up with her now xboyfriend (really happend) and she has shown all the signs of interest ,touching me bumping into me ect but when I made a move on her she said she didn't know yet and wasn't ready for a new relationship yet. Yet I know she goes out a lot. Sounds like I'm an option right?

@alberik666 Жыл бұрын

I don't want her to choose me over any other guy. She can go and kick rock..

@gerardo.galvan Жыл бұрын

Lol there’s always choice for women for men too but when you’re the 3%

@1HunterRoss Жыл бұрын

A girl who rebounds fast is a huge turn off to me, I would never trust a woman who does this, they are most likely unable to deal with their emotions at all and avoid them by finding the next D

@robsolf Жыл бұрын

As the best line in "My Best Friend's Wedding" goes: "Who's chasing YOU?"

@zayg062 Жыл бұрын

love how he says if you read my book, you know yet he read your book multiple times and still doesn't know?

@humblemumble1591 Жыл бұрын

its clear to never start a relationship unless you can get away within 30 seconds. i get that from movie heat. I know coach corey doesnt like the red pill community, parts of it are admittedly toxic. the best piece of advice to realize that women are never yours, its just your turn. there is always a hotter better woman, just dont death grip onto one and the next one will find her place in your life

@steveobaby6048 Жыл бұрын

Thanks coach

@Rskillswitch Жыл бұрын

I'm nlt even heart broken anymore but I'm here to see Corey's sarcastic reactions 🤣🤣🤣

@charlesthomas3367 Жыл бұрын

Beggars can't be choosers. Which would make them losers. I'm a poet and I know it. If she doesn't tell you you're the one for me, she's not for you! Be a puzzle to her, don't be scripted or predictable. CT

@rustyshackleford1419 Жыл бұрын

Please choose the other guy. I'll keep stacking my chips

@brendanhedges7365 Жыл бұрын

I wonder if CCW gets over saying have you read the book 10 to 15 times haha bloody legend

@matthewlatta14 Жыл бұрын

Remember: It’s like tennis. She hit a ball over the net to you that said she’s with multiple people. So, do the same (but don’t tell her you are because a gentleman doesn’t kiss and tell). If she hits a ball to you that says she wants to be exclusive and you want that, too, then hit the exclusive ball back. Just wait for her to do that and match what she gives you. In the meantime, enjoy meeting other great women while she’s away and who knows? You might come across some that you like even more than “Jessica!” Oh…and keep reading the book. That 10-15x thing is a game changer. Wait until you start applying it to other great books, too!

@islandknight6105 Жыл бұрын

In other words - Be a man and follow her lead! … True facts 😂

@lionelt7882 5 ай бұрын

Lol. Ngl…I was in this situation. You have two choices 1) go find another girl who wants you or 2) keep hooking up, hanging out and having fun.

@johnv9797 Жыл бұрын

Maybe a dumb question, but at 9:23 corey talks about the ex also maybe trying to get back in the picture. Wouldn’t that just push the girl towards the other two guys? Isn’t the ex supposed to be the one leaving the girl alone? I guess I’m assuming the girl dumped the guy but just curious

@randymatsonmatson9156 Жыл бұрын

I’m in a similar situation but a my ex of 7 years w 2 children she’s talking to a descent guy and me but says she doesn’t want a relationship but I asked if he wanted one would she let him invest but not me and she couldn’t answer we talk a lot and have both made great changes

@214dallas22 Жыл бұрын

Sitting around trying to get it to work with a girl that doesn't see you as her best option and is banging another dude. Waste of time. Even if you do get her to choose you, it's a matter of time before she monkey branches to someone else she does have desire for. Desire can't be negotiated.

@StartingFromNothing Жыл бұрын

"uuh, little competition.." 😅

@andikrause399 Жыл бұрын

Fromy my pov it doesn't even matter what the other guy does, she is simply more attracted to him anyway

@karolkozak64 Жыл бұрын

Stupid question guys… i have a 7yr old and i’ve been seeing a 28 yr old. Now heres the fun part…She has two kids with two different men. Would any of you try to make this situation work? She is super sweet, super super hot, literally a 9 in my eyes at least, no conflicts, im fine with how things are since i have a life of my own. Thanks for your input

@DavidZMH Жыл бұрын

“Only wish her the best as a friend”…thats not true. Nobody wishes the best for someone that doesn’t choose them in the beginning. Personally it takes me a while to accept a woman has moved on from me and I come to a place where I want the best for her. But as long as I am attracted to someone it’s impossible to want the best for her because you want her to choose you.

@gamwsas Жыл бұрын

love is selfish. i ll never understand that since i love her i have to wish her the best

@Gio-m Жыл бұрын

Yah I agree, people are just lying to themselves when they say something like that. Like you, it’ll take me a long time before I can actually be indifferent ( I can’t really say happy because I just wouldn’t care by then lol) .

@johnboy1760 Жыл бұрын

You don’t. I’ve been in this position, and I “won”. The juice wasn’t worth the squeeze. Women are neither delicate flowers nor oblivious. She knows you’re competing for her and she’s revelling in the dynamic. In a time where everything is labelled as simping, this is one occasion where that’s exactly what the dynamic is. It’s beneath your dignity to compete for someone else, who can’t make up their mind on you. Let’s say you win. What you’ve illustrated is you’re all in, while the other person was tossing a coin over you. What makes you think that won’t happen again?

@tapatapaz Жыл бұрын

Good stuff man

@deezgutz5330 10 ай бұрын

True as more guys comes along she'll start games all over again.

@jblasutavario9549 Жыл бұрын

The other guy has read Coach Corey's book for sure 😆 🤣 😂

@chuckiegravesfield3170 Жыл бұрын

if he slept with her, he already won. let her go and move on let her choose what the fuck she wants point blank.

@deezgutz5330 10 ай бұрын

So they both won, since asker sleeps with her too 😂

@PizzaHomeSlice Жыл бұрын

Would be funny if the other dude had read 3% man since he is doing everything right from what we can see.

@dnola2053 Жыл бұрын

That would be a hilarious twist

@UnderTheBridge96 2 ай бұрын

Is it fair to say if she’s into the other guy, that dude is only going to find pain by keeping her around? (Being that emotionally invested) At this point do you think he should just walk away completely & find someone different?

@paintopurpose Жыл бұрын

Ashley, and not Jessica? Whoa, times are different

@joemarsh5312 Жыл бұрын

Every 4 to 6 weeks? You ain’t gonna get her… the other guy is with her 4 days a week

@TheFeezy777 Жыл бұрын

But eventually shes gonna get bored of the other guy soon. 4 days a week too much contact

@joemarsh5312 Жыл бұрын

@@TheFeezy777 she’s choosing the other guy.. that’s what your missing

@TheFeezy777 Жыл бұрын

@@joemarsh5312 yea for now. For the moment.

@ross1479 Жыл бұрын

@@TheFeezy777 not if it’s her idea

@TheFeezy777 Жыл бұрын

@@ross1479 women always have options especially if shes attractive. They can always monkey branch at any given moment.

@crimsontyt 3 ай бұрын

So what would i do, if she's spending time with another guy, while you are chasing her? No wonder, she plays hot and cold, not because they may be shy, also there may be another guy, fulfilling her needs, you could be providing. Honestly, unless that relationship between them, is platonic and neither have feelings for each other, i would just block and ignore her. It isn't worth the time and effort, no matter how old you are. Especially, as a guy, you are trying to impress, get closer and get to know someone better, she openly treats and allows another guy to provide her emotional needs.

@Scottallen0813 Жыл бұрын

I like with everyone starts with I’ve read the book so many times then they make basic errors 😂

@TheGreatSalsaMan Жыл бұрын

Reading is one thing, absorbing and comprehending the concept is another. We all read the same math books in school but not everyone becomes a mathematician

@Scottallen0813 Жыл бұрын

@@TheGreatSalsaMan very true that’s why it’s important to apply the information

@jonapaloma66 Жыл бұрын

If its this much "work", why bother? He should just let her go, she is not worth it.

@johnbingaman3645 4 ай бұрын

Just got out of a 2 year relationship. The x probably wants her back. Don't be another rebound and then Chad thundercock. He's in there again too. She's With? 3 different guys in about a month. I don't know. It could be a street girl. The old macadam highway.

@rickysbrutal Жыл бұрын

i was in a situation like this once i cut the girl off its not worth it just find a hotter one let the other guy keep her

@Themanhimsel Жыл бұрын

Live from Jamaica

@emmanuelroswell9464 Жыл бұрын

Same here, kingston 🇯🇲

@gabbyscott79 Жыл бұрын

Barbados 🇧🇧

@CoachCoreyWayne Жыл бұрын

Irievibrations 🔥⛅️

@tropicalfarm3469 Жыл бұрын

Trinidad 🇹🇹

@TheGreatEmilio Жыл бұрын

Chiraq 🌭

@MijoShrek Жыл бұрын

Its hard for a man to admit the situation for what it os. Especially when he actually would like to pursue a relationship with the women. But your just for Fun my guy.

@JasmineGold8 Жыл бұрын

Come on! If the girl really was into the other guy, the guy who sent the email would never know a thing about his existence! She just wanted to cause a reaction out of him.

@jamesmorey7544 Жыл бұрын

How would this work on a long distance relationship

@MatttAt Жыл бұрын

If she's worth it, close the distance and lock it down. Long distance over time is a huge disadvantage.

@NoName-zb1gm 5 ай бұрын

Don't bother trying. No woman is worth fighting for. If she leaves her guy for you then she's going to leave you for another guy.

@user-gx3sn5hi8l Ай бұрын

Certainly you can't get her back 🔙🔙🔙🔙🔙🔙🔙. She love the Guy Alot. Need let her go

@s2003katalin Жыл бұрын

You don’t.

@theDrzhivargo Жыл бұрын

heres the truth, the girl makes the decision u cnt tell me otherwise.....oh and wer depending on crazy ppl

@Villathadon Жыл бұрын

What would 007 do? 😂

@davidaustin8424 3 ай бұрын

5:30

@davidaustin8424 3 ай бұрын

9:32

@nickstrapko7549 Жыл бұрын

Persue a woman that is emotionally and physically available . Anything else is a waste of energy

@TheColtonStreeter Жыл бұрын

She is already getting dates and hooking up with someone else, then takes it upon herself to tell this dude she wants to see him smh, then with all of that she's still focused on the guy she's already seeing, like chick focus on building something rather than adding other dudes trying to build something else

@markaitken4408 Жыл бұрын

Too much drama!

@RichCwm 6 ай бұрын

CUCKED

@leonak7654 Жыл бұрын

Don't waste your time mate !

@thomasmurphy9348 Жыл бұрын

If a woman tells you she is seeing another guy at same time as you..say goodbye then and there. Low value woman.

@Locoskates84 Жыл бұрын

Stop chasing low value females

@init_2winit82 Жыл бұрын

Never chase a woman...Period!

@bluesmoke8826 Жыл бұрын

It's guys like this guy that has put us all in the position we are in with females in this society. Why doesn't this guy just get lost and let the other guy have her?

@tapatapaz Жыл бұрын

Scarcity mentality

@deezgutz5330 10 ай бұрын

You can Say the same thing for that 3rd guy too, since this chick is a rebound from the 1st dude.