How I Learned to Meditate & Downsides of Living A More Examined Life | Matt Harris (Dan's brother)

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Ten Percent Happier

Ten Percent Happier

3 ай бұрын

How I learned to meditate? How do you fit meditation into a busy life? A candid interview with Dan Harris' younger brother, Matt...who used to mock Dan for his growing interested in meditation.
(Matt's Essay referenced is under WRITING at www.danharris.com/podcast)
Matt Harris is partner at Bain Capital Ventures, where he’s developed an expertise in Fintech, or financial technology. He’s also a father of six incredible children. He is 17 months younger than Dan, to the day. And as you will hear, he likes to make fun of his neurotic brother. In fact, he shows up a lot in Dan's first book, 10% Happier, mocking Dan for his budding interest in meditation.
In this episode we talk about:
- Practical tips from Joseph Goldstein
- The books that have been integral to Matt's process
- Tips on starting a practice.
- The biggest issues for meditators
- How not to try too hard
- How awareness of the ego impacts work,
- The upsides and downsides of living a more examined life.
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@newpilgrim
@newpilgrim 3 ай бұрын
As always, thanks so much for the killer content! I remember when I started, I really got into craving - craving a particular experience. Today, as you say, it's about the discipline and the practice, not about attaining some 'mind-blowing experience, etc. Appreciate you!
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
We're so grateful to have you on board!
@yvonnehiggins299
@yvonnehiggins299 3 ай бұрын
That was such a pleasure. Thank you both for this honest, open, thoughtful conversation. The humour and ordinariness that you brought to this insightful exploration of your journeys is much appreciated.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
We're so glad!
@pleinaire8698
@pleinaire8698 2 ай бұрын
What I love most about this conversation is your interaction with your brother.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 2 ай бұрын
Totally agree! It's so fun to watch!
@pamelamarshall3665
@pamelamarshall3665 3 ай бұрын
You guys are so great together! I love to see the love and admiration between you two.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
We're so glad you enjoyed it!
@angiemcmurray9861
@angiemcmurray9861 29 күн бұрын
What an absolute pleasure to eavesdrop on this warm, funny and insightful conversation between two brothers doing their work. Thank you Dan, you just keep getting better and better! ❤
@kvk1
@kvk1 3 ай бұрын
This is on the Mt. Rushmore of best TPH episodes. Profoundly relatable and enjoyable conversation. Thanks as ever to those who made it possible.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 2 ай бұрын
Thank you for such generous feedback!
@staciermbadgett109
@staciermbadgett109 2 ай бұрын
I love hearing and watching you both! This was awesome. I’ve listened twice and watched the video as well! Do more together, please! You guys are great and I love your relationship!
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 2 ай бұрын
Love this! Thanks for watching (twice over)!
@overnightparking
@overnightparking 3 ай бұрын
I’ve had a Vipassana practice for roughly the same amount of time as Dan. I consider Joseph Goldstein my teacher though I only know him through his online KZfaq and podcast dharma talks and I think I’ve listened to almost all of them. I don’t consider my Practice as leading to Nirvana but as a tool which has taught me how to be a better person and gain insight into the true nature of reality in a personal sense the same way I study quantum mechanics to gain insight into the nature of material reality. I tell people that meditation is like basketball practice, you learn and hone your skills, but it’s not an end in itself. From my point of view in meditation we learn the practice of being mindful, I.e. watching what is going on in one’s mind, being aware of the thoughts, feelings and emotions that pass through your mind and which if you identify with them you run the danger of being unskillful which I define as hurting others or hurting myself or both. Anger as an example, arises not because we say to ourselves "oh I think I want to be angry for awhile" but arises the way thoughts do through some habit pattern of the mind of which we are unaware. And the problem with anger is that it either hurts someone else, hurts one’s self or both. So the practice of meditation is to develop the skills to be mindful of the minds patterns so throughout the day as much as possible when unskilful feelings like anger or greed or lust or jealousy, et cetera arise in the real world, the lived experience world, the daily world of our experience we recognise them as what they are, not something that we have to act on but something which has arisen. Focus on one’s breath and these feelings quickly dissipate as mysteriously as they arose. And as the Buddha taught we must first learn to recognise these unskilful thoughts, emotions, feelings and then we must learn how to stop them when they do arise and finally we must learn how to keep them from arising in the first place. For me that is hugely worthwhile and the motivation for me to keep my practice going. It has made me a better person. And it works. Thanks for a great KZfaq video.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story!
@pleinaire8698
@pleinaire8698 2 ай бұрын
What I love most about this podcast is your beautiful interaction with your brother.
@susydyson1750
@susydyson1750 2 ай бұрын
again i've listened to you both so much respect kindness and humour ❤❤ a great conversation between you for all of those listening
@susydyson1750
@susydyson1750 2 ай бұрын
you brothers communicate so well in this second careful listen i've been able to pick up useful details . thank you 🙏🏽
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 2 ай бұрын
Thanks for joining!
@susydyson1750
@susydyson1750 2 ай бұрын
What I tefylky enjoy is the laughter as every time I laugh o recall everything’s said !!
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 2 ай бұрын
Yes!
@dharmalearner7396
@dharmalearner7396 3 ай бұрын
Just found your channel this week . This talk sounds so much what I am going through. It is very supportive to find your brother describing his experiences. Sounds like group therapy back a few years ago when others described their experiences and I found support just by hearing their stories. Thank you
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
We're so grateful to have you join!
@hristuppiteitinu
@hristuppiteitinu 3 ай бұрын
I thorougly enjoyed that. Impressed by how far he has come in a year especially with a busy job and all those kids. Inspiring me to get back to the cushion.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
Awesome!
@robynwells8249
@robynwells8249 2 ай бұрын
I listened to this as a podcast. This was so informative but so fun too. Hopefully you’ll do this again.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 2 ай бұрын
Thank you! We'll share with the team!
@AvivCMusic
@AvivCMusic 3 ай бұрын
Fascinating conversation, thank you! I'd like to voice a thought: Like many folks nowadays, I'm a total atheist who is building a serious interest in mindfulness meditation, as well generally in Buddhism-related topics and philosophy. However as a rational person and an atheist, I still find no reason at all to believe in a kind of "shared awareness with other sentient beings", that Matt seems to lean towards believing. Mindfulness can be a fascinating tool to learn about our own mind, improve our mental wellbeing, our ethical behavior - and I find we can also layer over it interesting philosophical ideas. However - none of this means we need to start believing in metaphysical things which we really have no serious evidence for. Such as - a "shared awareness". I understand the temptation to believe in that stuff - this is part of what has been fueling different religions for all of history. But I don't find it justifiable. Meditation - along with its various philosophical interpretations and related ideas - is fascinating enough. We don't need to actually believe in, well, actual "woo". And to clarify - I'm not saying there isn't a "shared awareness". I'm saying there is no serious evidence for it. Just as there's no serious evidence for the gods of the different religions.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 2 ай бұрын
Interesting thoughts! Thanks so much for sharing!
@susydyson1750
@susydyson1750 3 ай бұрын
Such a wonderful conversation with huge sparks of humor and laughter thank you both ❤❤
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
We're so glad you enjoyed it!
@sflint8391
@sflint8391 2 ай бұрын
Great interview, so relatable. Thanks to you and Matt.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 2 ай бұрын
Our pleasure!
@mwmsjuly19
@mwmsjuly19 3 ай бұрын
An immediate favorite! I love your chemistry and humor and the really beautiful conversation. It helped me frame my own learnings in a new way. Thank you, Dan & Matt!
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
We're so glad!
@hristuppiteitinu
@hristuppiteitinu 3 ай бұрын
Also really happy for you two to be on the path together and undoubtedly growing even closer.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
Yes!
@Firuzeh
@Firuzeh 3 ай бұрын
Heartening!
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@lmansur1000
@lmansur1000 3 ай бұрын
Love this!! Thank you!!
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
Glad you liked it!!
@ceciliabonevardi6803
@ceciliabonevardi6803 3 ай бұрын
Thank you!!!!!!!! 🌻
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
You are so welcome!
@lmansur1000
@lmansur1000 3 ай бұрын
For Matt and I think you Dan may also be also interested... from what I heard Matt sharing about, this is audio and I think there is a book, but the audio is in the author's voice... and he is a Jungian Analyst. You may have already got in touch with his work./ But just in case, here is the title. I love this as I was working through stuff and it gave me a very helpful perspective. I think Jung and Buddhism do harmonize: so here it is and the author is James Hollis: Through the Dark Wood: Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life Audible Audiobook - Original recording James Hollis PhD (Author, Narrator), Sounds True (Publisher)
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@goodnatureart
@goodnatureart Ай бұрын
on Matt's notes about intrinsic curiosity I wonder what Robert Sapolsky would say about two brothers who come and go into meditaiton at different times and decisions about the life you want to live BEYOND THE SOFT VIOLENCE of SELF IMPROVEMENT that Vinny Ferraro talked about... enjoy the ordinary miracle you and your sibling can talk about the river of life together.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier Ай бұрын
Yes!
@susiebeifuss5059
@susiebeifuss5059 15 күн бұрын
Watching, I paused here to share this video with my sister, hoping that we might move closer and my adult children for a morsel of the education I would have given them, had I been able and with two new friends across the country I'd like to share as a welcome to my chaotic world party favor❤
@myrootsgraspNewsoil
@myrootsgraspNewsoil 2 ай бұрын
I loved this so much. Thank you. ❤
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 2 ай бұрын
You're so welcome!
@dharmalearner7396
@dharmalearner7396 3 ай бұрын
I wasn't able to search successfully for the essay being discussed.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
Here you go: (scroll down page) www.danharris.com/podcast
@dharmalearner7396
@dharmalearner7396 3 ай бұрын
Thank you
@lah6739
@lah6739 2 ай бұрын
It is pretty hard to "not think". The practice is not engaging with the thoughts and just letting them float by like water in a river.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 2 ай бұрын
We appreciate your insight!
@susydyson1750
@susydyson1750 3 ай бұрын
For me mindful training is one thing meditation another facet
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
Yes!
@slinkybear
@slinkybear 3 ай бұрын
I love this. I want to read Matt's essay. Where can I find it?
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
www.danharris.com/podcast and scroll down to Writing section!
@slinkybear
@slinkybear 3 ай бұрын
@@TenPercentHappier thank you
@user-qu4jw5td9f
@user-qu4jw5td9f 3 ай бұрын
Did anyone else notice that the two brothers share the same sense of style? Their grey sweaters are nearly the same.
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
Love this!
@cynthiafore7997
@cynthiafore7997 3 ай бұрын
Is there a link to where I could read Matt’s essay?
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
Here you go (scroll down the page): www.danharris.com/podcast
@lori-thepetnana-spadaro7630
@lori-thepetnana-spadaro7630 3 ай бұрын
Wood nymphs and fairies😂😂😂
@Bitti-mz4ki
@Bitti-mz4ki 3 ай бұрын
Life is the dancer. You are the dance! Eckhart Tolle 😏
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
Yes!
@caramajaka
@caramajaka 3 ай бұрын
Guitar strings tuned too tightly actually break! : )
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
Touche!
@joseph_yt5496
@joseph_yt5496 3 ай бұрын
Is this your brother, Dan?? You two do NOT have the same voice!
@TenPercentHappier
@TenPercentHappier 3 ай бұрын
It is his younger brother!
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