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INTJ here, and I can tell you the guilt at “not seeing it coming” is so real. I feel like I am supposed to be responsible not only for myself, but for all the people I care about. When I can’t measure up to the standard I set for myself in my head, I can feel so inadequate. It’s something I have been working on lately, because I am holding myself up to an impossible standard, and it is not fair to myself or the people around me. Learning when to let go, to let people take responsibility for their own lives, and to give myself the same grace I give others is a struggle, but I think it’s worth it.

Too true about the INFJ/INTJ. In high school, I was one of those people that knew exactly what I wanted and how to get there. Went through all the steps and what I wanted didn't happen as expected. Instead, another path came my way, and I went with that. Many personalities might say, "Oh! What a happy accident!" I say that no accidents are happy.

Definitely an INFP and have struggled with so much self doubt and feeling like I am not contributing. I often doubt my feelings, thoughts, and opinions. It's been a battle, but as I've gotten older I've learned habits to stay positive and not take things so personally.

My jaw literally dropped when he said INTPs will have impostor syndrome surrounding "I don't have an opinion". I have been feeling like this for past 3yrs, before that I think I had opinion on things, but in past few years I've been feeling that anything can sound right or wrong if a person talks about it long enough, and people can just make anything right and wrong, then what is even right or at least right-er. And that may be I don't care about things enough to have an opinion on something. This has been so frustrating, I thought probably I wasn't smart enough anymore to even form an opinion. This had even put me in a slump state where I'm scared of discussing things with people who share same interests cause I don't even know what's my opinion on those. I've never felt more dumb, pathetic and lonely in my life. Ngl, feels good to know this is a rather common thing that happens to a lot of people.

Thanks for your informal videos, Frank. They always deliver, on par with your comic sketches. As an INFJ, I always feel like an imposter! 😂

Ooof! As an INFP who is constantly stressing over not getting enough done, I started this video a little skeptical. However, my job is to help people and so not getting enough done often equates to not doing enough of the things that matter. I have had many, many “I destroy everything I touch” “I’ve never helped anyone in my life” “Everything is worse because I exist” spirals- much to the dismay of my loved ones. Personalizing and catastrophizing are killers. It’s so important to learn to identify your triggers and distortions and find a response that works for you. Thank you for the video! As always, we get a lot out them.

As an ISTP **internal screaming** this was very accurate But also I think a large part of it comes from not being good enough, for example say that I was told "Oh hey you did a good job on this assignment your really good at this" unless its something I'm really confident in Ill start thinking "oh no im not i was just lucky im not actually good at this im tricking everyone into thinking im good at this but im not, Im a liar, people are gonna figure out that im not as good at this as I seem to be and theyll hate me, Im living a lie" and then it kinda spirals

As an INTJ I'm feeling this way right now. I have planned all my life ahead of me but recently I feel like things might not work out the way I wanted them to be. And I'm totally confused and lost right now.

My experience as an INFJ has been that I see myself as someone who should achieve the greatest of things academically, spiritually, and with regard to relationships. People tend to use and abuse my selfless side, but I don’t say anything back unless they are doing it too often or do something for their own gain with some other relationship. I currently don’t have any people I could call friends. I’m in college right now and I don’t want to intrude on other groups’ structures and seem nosy. I have so many future plans but no way to bring them into fruition.

As an INFP, that was super accurate. Thats totally the kind of thought that prevent me from sleeping as night haha

ENTP here. I remember calling myself dumb out loud at work for not exceeding my personal expectation. A coworker heard me and said that if I considered myself dumb, then I must think everyone around me was beyond dumb since, according to her, I was the smartest one there. She looked so sad when she said this. Now whenever I say this which is rare, I always add in that this is based on my personal standards. As soon as I contextualize it that way, I realize that I need to stop being ridiculous and need to cut myself some slack.

Once again a spot on video! I'm an INFP and resonate with the inner drive to do something that "matters", but I'm also with the ENFP on the whole "my ideas aren't original enough".

As an ENTJ, spot on. When I was in undergrad and grad school I was constantly pulling unnecessary all-nighters because I didn’t think I was “doing enough” and thought I was falling behind of my own schedule. To this day I have a hard time “calling it quits” at night. Just the other week I worked 17 hours OT. Work-life balance has been something I really needed to practice and learn because I had always been on this schedule and prioritizing everything on a list.

As an IFNP I chose nursing because helping others was the only worthy choice for me. I also get lots of positive feedback from others telling me I’m an “angel” and thanking me and that makes me smile but I’m also thinking…”but I could do better.” Nursing is really taxing but when I daydream about doing something easier I get this fear that it won’t matter enough to me and I’ll also get bored. The escape for me with the way I think and feel that causes me stress is to get outside and walk or hike. Ah, the great outdoors!

I'm an INFP and I already laughed seeing the title.

This is genius. Sobbing rn. Everything's sticking together. An xntp here, who's been through all the 16 circles of hell due to most-likely-depression - because wtf else can it be - and a naturally strong sense of anxiety and impostorism, coming from the disappointed perfectionism and unachieved goals, since childhood. I've been searching for this realization for so long, I wish I had time to explain: I would literally write a psycho-analysis-essay on my behavior on each stage of my life right here without a hint of embarrassment about trauma-dumping, but the feeling's too strong to let go just like that and the bus's about to arrive. Smiling like a fool. I haven't felt such happiness in a while. Thank you, James. This video seriously triggered me in a positive way.

I LOVE that you kept the type you are talking about posted up during the whole time while discussing that type. It’s so helpful! ❤❤❤

Very accurate for the ENFP: I am a designer, and I do think sometimes that I am not creative and innovative enough... But in fact when I look from a different perspective, I truly am pretty good and I think I shouldn't be so harsh on myself!

The Ni one hit really close to home. I entered a deep depression after realizing medical school was not possible. I had mapped out my entire future and wasted years in preparation for it, and accepting that I would be much happier in a different field was rough. Truly a humbling experience… now I have a job that gives me so much “me time“ I feel a lot better even if the pay is awful. Hoping to go into forensics in the future instead!

INFJ here who is also neurodivergent, I’ve come to realize that I think I’ve had imposter syndrome (at least unconsciously) for much of my life. I’ve known about my ADHD and Autism since I was about 8 or 9, but that coupled with my secondary function as an INFJ being extroverted feeling makes me painfully aware whenever I stick out like a sore thumb to others in public. My imposter syndrome has gotten worse over the past year thanks to my now ex-ballet studio, and the form it took for me were things like: “I can’t keep up with my classmates” and “I *should* know what I’m doing, but I don’t.” It seemed to me like everyone my age and younger at that studio were all amazing, and perfect, and able to pick up things super quickly, while I constantly felt like a failure who was falling behind. It got so bad that about one or two months before I left I started to get extremely stressed, aggravated, and felt like I was losing it. Now I’ve transferred to a new studio with much more understanding and compassionate teachers and have been improving both in my training and my mental health over these past three months. Imposter syndrome is still something I have to overcome, but moving to a more reassuring environment has definitely helped me. :)

It's literally what I'm living right now as an INTJ. A bunch on unpredictable things happened, I fell ill and all of a sudden all my self-confidence was shuttered, so I fell into a loop of anxiety and obsessive, self-judging thoughts. I'm trying to live without planning everything or expecting so much from me, but it's DIFFICULT. 😫

I'm a college student currently. Both ENTJ and INTJ are spot on. as usual i can't figure out which of these two I am. But at least I'm temporarily validated.

I feel like Frank would be like that chill teacher that u forget is a teacher and not a student

Ooh I've been searching this subject recently. When starting up my therapy business I had major imposter syndrome, even after already being on placement and working with people who were very happy after their sessions. I said in my head 'fake it til you make it', which doesn't even make sense, because I'm not faking it one bit lol. But it helped, and gave me the initial boost. Its going well, but occasionally I feel this. BTW, really appreciate your word of the weeks, they're so helpful and inspiring.

This was a really interesting topic Frank! It shows how our personality type plays into so many different areas of our lives. And of course this reiterates how helpful studying MBTI can be. Not just for improving our relationships with others, but MBTI has countless other applications.

INTJ here, and quite frankly I agree with this. Some things I had a plan for the next 3 years and all of it I cancelled and decided it wasn't what I wanted anymore (even though it's something I really wanna do) all due to a close family member of mine unexpectedly was diagnosed with epilepsy. The whole, I should have seen it coming bit was very much how I felt for the past 3 months. I feel like I don't know where I'm going in life anymore, or even what I want to do. That I can't even finish a simple task on time to the standard that I expect myself to be for others. I'm considering getting help and finding someone to talk to, hopefully I'll be able to get back on track.

ISFP- it’s true, sometimes when I start thinking about how maybe what I’m doing isn’t “good enough” it’s a reflection that if I cared more (were more passionate) I would go that extra mile without a second thought. And the depressing rabbit whole that is questioning why I’m not moved by work is heartbreaking at times. Other times, a motivator. And I tend to jump back with thoughts of “it’s meant to be how it is and that’s good enough, even more than enough. Because it exists”

I adore these more analytical, conversational videos. They really get me thinking about myself and the people I know. Much love from an infj!

INTJ - I failed. Life did not go as I planned. My first big choices in life turned out to be huge failures, with a repercussion of 10 years of poverty and homelessness. It took me another 10 years after that to finally fix my life. 20 years later I am finally at the starting point where I should have been 20 years ago. Imposter syndrome is my life now. Because I am a huge failure who lost so much, but on the outside I look like a strong woman with success.

Thanks for this more formal yet still informative as usual video, it is spot on! And don't worry about the phrasing for the Fi types, it fits perfectly with this dread of never contributing with anything of value 😢 But you took my suggestion about keeping the types names in the corner, so yay! 😊

Love this video. Extremely timely. I find myself in this situation often. Thank you, Frank!

This gave me an existential crisis bc I'm an INTP and the anxiety I could relate to the MOST was the EXTJ "I'm not getting enough done here." Like I kinda loathe how my INTP analysis paralysis slows me down in making decisions that should be easy.

INFP is so true. I'm a 'gifted kid' who is just starting to have to struggle for the first time in my life. I feel so bad about myself because I know that if I just applied myself I could do well. It often makes me feel like I"m a horrible person or I'm not trying hard enough. If you feel a similar way - please know that you don't have to be good at this or that. You are a valuable person no matter what. Keep doing your best!! No matter how good or bad that might be

Kind of loving the old energy that feels more like we're sitting down with Frank while he talks about types and various topics. Though I could probably listen to him talk about lint for a half an hour and be enthralled.

I felt this very deeply. There are many times as an INFP when I feel what I do doesn't matter, it's so frustrating.

The ISFJ one made me laugh. My mom's an ISFJ, and she always kept a cleaner, nicer household than like all of my friends' parents growing up. They would always compliment it and be like "wow it's so nice here" and so on, but my mom always thought she was a messy person because she would have one "pile" of disorganized stuff (like papers, mail, notes, etc) on one table in the corner of the room. Like mom, nobody cares about one miscellaneous grouping of loose items, the rest of the house is super clean and well-decorated lol.

As an INTJ this was spot on😂 I literally have zero clue. I am just jumping from one place to another, with my goals. I plan so well, but my life..just takes so many turns. And the blindside..soo real..

Thanks for this video FJ! I’ve been trying to figure out my type for ages, but I think my overpowering imposter syndrome was confusing and misleading me to dead end after dead end. Now that you’ve kindly explained how each type experiences imposter syndrome differently, I think I have a much better chance at finding my type now! 😊💕

I just retook the test and it did come up as INFP instead of previous INFJ and I watched both and though I do relate to a degree to INFJ imposter syndrome, the INFP hit it RIGHT in the bulls eye. Everything you said is how I feel. I care so much, but I don't do bc I have so much fear and mental and emotional blocks preventing me to move forward and it's eating me alive, making me even less capable to get up and march on.

Now I know where does that anxiety of "I didn't do enough today" come from. My type is ENTJ and that was so true for me. I used to have an imposter syndrome and see my achievements as no big deal, and that's luck .. etc, I believe a lot of us have had that at some point in our lives, but I still have that specific imposter syndrome of ENTJ " I'm not productive enough" I know how that feels, but I also know how to address it. That's what make me doubt my type sometimes, I'm not playing the role so well or I'm not a CEO for instance. That was great, Frank. This video have the vibe of your old thoughtful Thursdays videos, I really miss those. Thanks for the video and the valuable information.

INFJ here, stuck in the "i don't know where I am going / living my life day by day without a plan and in utter panick", it's stressful and terrifying

Thank you for your amazing videos, Frank! I've learned a lot more about myself and others through your educational videos, and your comedy sketches are just what I need to keep my morale up. Thank you for existing, FJ, and continue to make these fantastic videos! - a fellow INFJ

Thank you so much for uploading this

It's really interesting how the imposter syndrome always occurs in our talent areas^^ Counter-intuitive at first glance but it makes sense... that's where we attach our identity on and therefore a vulnerable area... It's a good reminder/eye opener to put things back into perspective! 👍

I am an ISTJ, and despite being very accomplished professionally, educationally, etc I struggle with feelings of inadequacy all the time. Sometimes I look at where I am in my career and don’t think I deserve to be where I am. I have little kids now and that’s been a challenge in a similar way-feeling like I’m not a good enough dad/husband. My wife (and ENFJ) helps me soooo much. She’s my biggest fan and is always there to lift me up when I’m struggling. I couldn’t do what I do without her.

as intj, I definitely relate to that imposter syndrome. my life in the past year has been apathetic and demotivating for not being good enough in my job. I was moved into another branch of what I'm working as, which is also nice and I somewhat like it, having fun at times, but it was hard to see how untalented I am compared to my peers(I knew I average but damn, now I feel lower), so I'm kinda functioning with a hatred/apathy towards my personal works I used to enjoy. I'm so tired after work, putting all my mental effort into it that it leaves little afterwards for myself(I burn myself becauseI want to be good and responsible, to show I'm not as bad). I can also relate a lot to the istj one, I have been feeling like that as well, I don't feel very organized or systematic, I feel my life's a mess no matter how much I try to keep things organized or have a mental plan about doing things. I hope therapy can help me get over some of the issues I want to better myself at about myself or at least help me get my passion to work on my personal stuff back because it's very important for me to finish it. 😔

ISTP here. While the Ti-dom imposter syndrome does affect me to some extent, I think I relate more to the Fe-dom one in a weird kind of way. Since I tend to intellectualize my social interactions I'm often worried I don't give the "appropriate" response to whatever is happening around me (but then again autism masking probably has a big role in that lol).

i've been struggling for years feeling this self doubt, that actually grew with time but i haven't been able to know why i was feeling that way so thank you frank for this video it helped to clear the idea for me

Thisis is so true. As an infj, I always feel responsible for not seeing things coming especially when it's related to a person revealing their true colours or being taken advantage of.

Yay! Great presentation. Love the type-letters floating in the corner. Now I can see of which types you're speaking in the moment! 🎉

Right one. When I first got into typology I was thinking to myself 'naaaan I can't be an ISFJ I'm way too messy and disorganised' andn then I saw your video's and the ones of objective personality... It's all about what you feel responsible for and what you are afraid of :) Thanks again great video FJ!

I'm an ENFP and sometimes I can be completely empty of ideas and creativity or see my ideas as inadequate, which often makes me wonder if something is all right. Then I start to blame myself or feel incompetent because I feel like this is something I have to do. I can say that these times make me a little panicked but then everything goes back to normal.

Love it FJ!! Needed this - ENFP with debilitating anxiety. So spot on as usual. Super relating to INFJ here

Frank, as an ENXP this encapsulates everything I am feeling rn. Running out of ideas is the worst feeling for an Ne user, it's like losing one's flair.

Your section on INFPs was crazy-accurate. I’ve always wondered why my husband (INFP) would seem to have these moments of literally asking, “Am I even doing anything that matters? Do I matter?”, and my ENFJ self is just wondering how to respond to this internal crises 😆 this helps me to understand where these self-doubt moments come from, and looking back, I can see they align with major life/role/expectation changes.

Ooh thanks! This is really helpful for writing main characters in a story! It has been said that a good protagonist will have "a lie that they believe". Often this is some flaw that they see in themselves that holds them back from realizing their true strength or potential. This lie can be something that was impressed to them by others, or through personal misunderstanding. Either way, it's something that they tend to repeat to themselves like a mantra. So using these imposter syndromes for the different types is a great place to start for identifying a character's lie they tell themself.

Wow a rlly great video! Can’t wrap my mind around how deeply you understand mbti and how you’re so good in explaining it. Even tho it’s for comedy purposes often, but it’s still so accurate and spot on. I’m sure you helped many people with your videos! You made me reflect about myself a lot and you always make me laugh! In fact you’re the only person I trust when it comes to mbti haha I feel like it’s a topic that gets misunderstood easily. Especially after it became a trend

Thank you for this video. It bears a message many people who cares for me tried to tell me all the time. (being an ENTJ)

It's so real it hurts. Being an ISTP it bothers me not knowing something of interest to me, and it's worse when someone questions me that because I study social sciences I should know. Perhaps other personalities do not feel that need to want to understand a lot, but in my case it is very real that sometimes it is stressful

Shared this with my sons. Excellent video, thank you.

I love the change in order! I needed this. My creativity has been off for a bit now, and honestly I've really been doubting myself. This video made me want to look back at my past and I'm like, hey, I'm kinda awesome. But honestly that isn't really enough to me. I need to pull off some new shit, and I am motivated! Thanks a lot, Frank. You made my day. And it's 1 am. So, longer than the average day. When someone else says that, anyway. yeah.

Expressing my gratitude for the insightful video, Frank. While I cannot speak to the applicability of its contents to other personality types, as an individual of the ISTP type, the corresponding segment resonated with me significantly. It provided valuable insight that enabled me to discern a solution to a long-standing quandary I have faced for the past year.

Extraordinarily, I received some very unexpected good news about work- a good opportunity might be coming my way- but I hadn't seen it coming at all, and as an INTJ I (internally) freaked out for a whole day. I'm focusing on the most urgent and imminent work things but I that "surprise freaking out" is still going on in the background. Your videos are always incredibly on point.

Important topic, thank you! I am typed INFJ but I relate more to the Fi impostor syndrom. I feel a strong need to have a positive impact on the world, be it through art or my work. When I do something, It’s my identity. And I want to feel a certain feeling. If stuff is not aligned with my values and identity, all becomes pointless.

Well! You just explained my life. Excellent insights, FJ.

You absolutely got me at the opinion thing with ISTPs, I always feel like my opinion's gotta be justified because that's what I feel other people are like, and not *knowing* why I think something bothers me to no end :')

The INFJ one was spot on. I had a bit of an identity crisis last year and my main thought was “What am I doing? Did I ever do anything worthwhile?” But now I’m all good 😎

I love this, and this was a solid video Mr. James!

INFJ here, and yeah even before being aware of mbti Literally EVERYTHING you said, down to the intonation of those monologues. It's insane 💀 "Where is my life going...? I- What am i doing?! W hat is hAPPENING to me??! I should've seen that coming" Yeah sounds about right 😂

Great video! This is the best content I've ever had on the topic. Thank you very much.

INFP working on a very long term project right now, and this was a pep talk that I needed, Thank you!

This was really needed. Thanks FJ. 👏👏👏

I am an ENFJ, and knowing how to feel and act in a situation is very stressful if I don't know how to play it right. I have two big problems right now, and I know the right thing to do, but it includes some heavy conversations. I get mad at myself if I don't get those conversations right and I screwed up. You would think those conversations should be the least of my problems but I will obsess about them.

Honestly, thanks! This sheds light on the exact thing I’ve been wrestling for the last couple of years in my writing as an INFP. If I don’t feel a burning passion for my interests/hobbies, I think to myself ”Damn, I guess I’m not the right person for this” and then I quit. That’s partly why I rarely develop any new skills or interests anymore; I just leave. Knowing that INFP’s tend to feel like imposters because we don’t FEEL enough, makes me want to push through that stage and keep going.

Thanks for the enlightenment 🙏

So true (infp). And nice background BTW

Great video! Thank you for sharing!

You got my ISFJ spot on. I always think I can do better. Constant and Never Ending Improvement 😅

INTP here! although I don't think I have Imposter Syndrome myself, I still find these types of videos quite interesting. I think it would be really cool if you could also do one of how either social anxiety or anxiety in general (GAD) affects the 16 personalities. I have severe social anxiety myself and I'd love it if you could make a video about that. Thank you!

I have both the INFP and INFJ dilemma right now hahah wow, this is so comforting to know it’s normal and i wasn’t just internally beating myself up about not working harder on my passions and where i’m going in life (which I over plan and make back up plans for lol)

Thanks, helpful and funny- love your giggle ❤

I was in the middle of writing a poem for my channel and I felt stressed cause I couldn't come up with a good idea I often feel stressed because of it but I do extremely well when not under pressure and your explanation about enfp made me realise something although I can't explain it I feel relieved and am happy so thanks for making this video 🙂❤️❤️ Edit: I just came up with a poem after relaxing a bit Edit 2: I am in an uncontrollable rage With these unreasonable requests They put me in this cage Saying it's for my best They didn't do the bare minimum Yet expect me to comply Knowledge isn't wisdom and this proves me right Using violence for punishment They treat me like a pest So, I show my resentment unlike the rest Thank you for reading my comment ❤️❤️

I'm an INFP and I recognized myself also in the ESTJ/ENTJ (not being productive enough) and and also in the ENTP/ENFP (I'm not creative), but then you explained INFP and it all makes sense 😅 What matters to me most is my writing and the thoughts of not being productive enough or creative enough only come up with things like writing that matter a lot to me. 'I should be putting in all of the effort to reach the goal of becoming a succesful author who has something to say with their stories'.

As an ENTJ I think I have thought all of these at some point. Thanks Inferior Fi. I do get the INFP and ISFP alot because it`s hard to work towards my Fi needs. Again thanks Fi. 14:04

I needed this, thank you FJ, I am currently still going studying in school trying my best and this video gave me some more courage to keep going, stay cool and attractive

Omg INFP is soooo accurate. I feel that "nothing I do matters" and "I'm actually harming people" ALL.THE.TIME. yep. That me. Nail on the head. And it makes me shut right down.

Thanks Frank I'm a INFP and have been way too hard on myself my entire life of 32 years and counting and well I'm on a journey of starting to break out of my Inner World and start to ask questions like what Is normal well what you said about the ten people and what Is the average was helpful and healing I know from watching your videos as a INFP ultimately I'm the only person who can break me out I find your videos Insightful and have really helped me jump out of myself to look at myself to move forward so thanks again Curtis 👍🏽

This is amazing insight. I'm blown away 🧡

INTJ/INFJ’s pride themselves on introspection and prediction because we’re always thinking about every little detail so when something blindsides us we feel pathetic, like we let our guard down for a moment and everything came crashing down and now we have an anxiety of always staying on top of everythibg

ISFP here. YES. And it's exhausting. I'm learning to combat those feelings by practicing complimenting myself for what I've done so far. Patting myself on the back and telling myself I did good on whatever little I managed to do or comforting myself when I did, said, or thought ( or lack thereof )something outside of what I want to be/represent, actually has some healing effects.

Estj here. It is very true even with the plans and to-do list and reminders. I still think I am not doing enough, though, being the most achieving one in a group of friends or family, I set the standards higher. And that feeling that "I am the kinda person who gets things done" has proven to be right when most people around me prove to be incompetent or can't do the job right or sloppy(in my perspective because I think I could do it better). However, since I used to live in a very stressful atmosphere created by me to me especially in college and it affected my health, now I just set back and relax sometimes and let others take charge of things (though I know they won't do it perfectly) and I try to convince myself to enjoy these unplanned moments. At least when others screw up, they will be the ones to blame😂. For things related to my personal development, I try to tell myself that stressing and self-doubting will only slow the process down. If you are not doing enough, you are just unmotivated, or maybe you need a break. What if you are not doing your best now? It's fine. You can be a normal human and be less productive and unachieved sometimes 😂

you got me at the INXJ one, my life had a huge turn, the plans i had for years have been collapsed and after that my overthinking got worse and i felt lost and couldn't figure out what I'll do after. i tried to get myself out of my dark thoughts but didn't work. i even restudied the cognitive function cuz i doubted my type and my personality, but then i got on my feet again and trying my hardest to get my life together. this was something new for me because i never thought my plans, my goals and everything I've worked for would vanish. but some things are out of our control, we cannot be sure of everything.

Love your videos.

Thank you, Frank, for this excellent video. When growing up, I was constantly told by my mathematician mother & 2 older bros that I was stupid, illogical, and would never amount to anything. I’m an older INFJ lady, although extremely successful (I had to show them, by God!!) who has suffered with the imposter syndrome for decades.

As an INTP, i totally agree. I've been to this phase multiple times and makes it a downfall for someone who gives pride on giving opinion to everyone who's expecting from me.

Love it Frank! The video’s extremely similar to our nemesis roles for each duo set. As an XNFJ-don’t get me started on which one I am 😂-I so identify sometimes with spending half my day feeling like I haven’t done enough for my friends and family and the other half of the day feeling like I no longer know where I’m headed in life! 😳 But I don’t feel responsible for not seeing something coming like the INFJ. It’s more like how did I miss that? I’m usually pretty good at catching what’s going to happen next. What an idiot! And I feel dumb like the ENFJ in the imposter syndrome because I should be doing more for my family and friends because that is the whole reason I’m here in this world but I need to see where I’m supposed to be going next to be doing more them. I drive myself crazy sometimes over it. 😜

Frank, did you get a new camera! The video quality is exceptional in this video! The content itself is, of course, is sublime as always. But the video quality!

Haha INXJ spot on. Divorce changed my landscape and all of a sudden I was sitting in a boat in the middle of the ocean having to find land again. My bf (INTP) likes to bring up an example of when we moved into a place where the wifi wasn’t great. At first I was like, “Ahhh, this is great. We can disconnect from the world and relax… it’s peaceful.” And then literally a half hour later I was trying to research something and lashed out “Gosh!!! What the hell!? We can’t live like this.” Basically, life HAPPENS to us; we don’t happen to it. Having to imagine a whole new future is very distressing to us.

"They plan so much they don't actually have to live life" Woah, that hit me hard as an INTJ