I am watching porn for 2 years straight every day and now I face memory problems, cognitive impairment, creativity problems and etc. It's really bad

I would love to see a video about pornography recovery specifically directed towards women. Almost all recovery resources are directed towards men, which can cause many girls to feel alone in their struggles. I imagine the shame that women feel from porn use is even stronger than usual due to the fact that society sees pornography compulsion as primarily a male issue.

I broke the habit this year. I hit a point where I wanted nothing to do with porn anymore. I got an app that blocks pornography and installed it on my phone. My computer is a work computer so I sent access it there either. It’s been almost 5 months now, and I’ve only used it twice (I had a slip up), but have otherwise continued down to his path towards a porn free life. I feel much better and can actually have sex again, as I wasn’t able to while a porn addict.

Porn is a problem when it replaces the real thing. The issue is that you dont know when you are using it to replace the real thing if you watch it everyday. You likely find out that you are using porn to replace the real thing when you try to have real sex and your body doesnt respond to real sex with a person. That's been my experience.

I love the examples of healthy behaviors. So many videos (by every KZfaqr) are problem focused and I pray more will be healing focused

yay!! so happy your channel is back!

Thank you for covering this topic!! 🙏

I'm grateful for you talking about your won (edit: own) experience and reasons to quit. Because I personally don't know and haven't met a person who's addicted to porn in a way where they can't work or sth. The people I've met have similar issues you seemed to have: the way they look at women, their unrealistic expectations of sex and stuff like that. Relational issues arise because porn is devaluing people, especially women. Even if you personally don't think badly of women or whatever, watching it and getting this subtle message will change your views on people. It's very tricky, especially with society backing this up (it's a market with a lot of money in it after all!) by saying "men are like this", "Men need this", "it's natural" (porn as it is consumed nowadays hasn't been around for long!) and portraying women as jealous, insecure people if they don't want their partner to watch other people having sex. It's also interesting because if this was a real life situation, it'd surely be considered as some sort of cheating, right? But because it's "only" a movie... Well. I've got a lot of thoughts on this topic and I'm just glad you're voicing some of them. It makes me feel less "outdated" in this world. My values are very important to me and it's dificult to find people who've got the same ones and are also living based on them, you know?

Not watching porn has been difficult but it's been doable. Clean now for almost 2 years. Basically cold turkey. The lingering problem is lust. I don't know if it's an L.A. thing but women here are always dressed in a way that is very provoking and triggering for me. This makes regular life difficult and frustrating.

thanks so much for talking about this. 🙏

I though the book "The Porn Guru" by Harper Daniels did a good job explaining why pron is so harmful and how to stop.

That's heavenly podcast. Thank you all.

Please don't spread hopelessness. You don't need external help to quit porn You aren't gonna miss it Its NOT a lifelong process I used to be chronically addicted to it, 6-7 hours a day. That bad One day I decided to simply quit it. Its a one minute decision guys don't fall for self pity I have quit it for months and I don't miss it.

I know that it also affects your ability to perform when you’re in a real relationship. So does that ever get fixed or is your sex life forever ruined?

How do you know if it is a habit more than an addiction? Or vice versa?

It's like facing a huge demon who have hell fire Dimond shield. To anyone who struggle quitting these type of sites Man there's no hacks on this There's only one way☝️ == it's like== Snatches chains made of Hell from ur heart and soul I swear TO GOD there's no life hacks to quit it's just a Hell u need to run away from as quick as possible before it's too late ma Man

Like the lady said it's all kind of the same. I wouldn't consider watching porn twice a week a gross addiction...of course, I might want to watch more if I wasn't in constant pain from alcoholism. It's all relative

Thank you so so much!!!!

If you're reading this and struggling please know that you'll feel better as long as you stay with it. I was addicted to pornography for at least 25 years. It even cost me a marriage when I was in my early 20s. I was always into all sorts of stuff, but finally got tired of not being able to control my actions after I got into practicing stoicism last year. I'm on day 105 with no porn viewing. I have mastur ated a few times to attractive woman doing yoga.. But, woman are beautiful and it's okay to be attracted and turned on from time to time. My advice from lessons learn is this: 1.) Stop the addiction. It will be uncomfortable. It will take time. It will pass. 2.) Don't search porn or finish to pixels. Its okay to see an attractive woman and get turned on - But the dopamine spike is too much. 3.) Set healthy boundaries... Whatever they may be... and stick to them. For me, if I master ate I just say "okay, no self-exploration for 2-3 days." This allows time for my dopamine to reset and my sensitivity to increase. 4.) It is most important to not do it if you're craving it. If I notice I'm planning on looking at woman doing yoga, or thinking about when to do it - I don't. That way I'm not reinforcing the neurons. When I started, I thought that it'd take a few weeks... Then maybe it'd take a few months... Now I realize that recovery is a life choice that will never end. With the right commitment and boundaries pornography can be managed. Thanks for reading, good luck.

Glad Your channel's okay. It was hacked for a couple of hours.

Usually about a week ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

2 things that made me want to quit are the facts that pornography addiction is responsible for 40% of divorces in America and that sex trafficking is the largest business behind pornography. Consider before watching cause Porn is more evil than you think.

I would like your take on "Perversion" - Such as an older man (62) looking at 20-30 year old (girls) online. Yes, I am referring to myself...

Violent videogames? 4:20 NO NO NO There is literally no connection between violence in video games and violence in real life. None, zero. You really need to correct this simple statement, unless you want to misguide even more people. If you see Robbaz (youtube) play games on his channel and see him do depraved things in videogame, I'm pretttyyyy sure he does not have any wish to ever even fantasize about doing those things. In the very same way I'm blasting through few triangles posing as an human npc in a game, I realize that I'm doing it because I see animation (ART), sounds (ART) and consequences (Videogame design, ART). I'm given a chance to enjoy someone's art, that is literally the opposite end of a spectrum from violence. If I delete all my units in Age of Empires (1998) as a 5 year old, am I pushing my violence to the video game or am I wanting to hear a ridiculously voice acted scream when the units die (ART)? Obviously it is the stupid scream, and not the fact that the screen depicts a tyrannical leader, me, murdering all of his underlings. I'm overthinking. But there is dire need for you to play video games and observe your motivations. True violence in "violent" video games is just actual real life violence. Back in the day it was poking or pushing my brother when we still had hot-seat multiplayer. Now the violence is all verbal. And oh boy there is lots of verbal violence people are just directing at you. League of Legends, Counter Strike. Nobody gets a relief from their anger in killing the opposition. They vent their real life toxic crap just the very same way the would in real life. How? Shout and type horrible words and ill wishes upon you. Violence is hurting others. Violence depicted in games is art, even if it was the most accurate and gruesome (Rockstar's Manhunt). Nobody played that game because they wanted to slowly stab someone, they played it because it is art. And if in one sentence you fail to disconnect "violent" video games (art) from violence you instantly make the mistake of confusing porn (art :D) from sex. I'm out.

I'm not sure whether I've kicked porn because I'm not sure what exactly counts as porn. That's part of the problem. A clear line in the sand is easier to toe but with healthy erotica versus pornography it's all degrees. How well are we empathising with the people showing themselves here? Are they feeling what we think and hope they're feeling? Are they getting to express their sexuality? How much did they enjoy filming this? Do they care about their audience or at least appreciate the attention? What did it mean to them? How do they feel, having done it? Do they regret it? The more personal interest and connection there is, the less I think of it as porn. Whatever I watch, I don't stop watching at orgasm if they haven't finished. That would be like coming prematurely and depriving my partner. I'm perfectly aware that the other person won't notice but I want to cultivate the habit or giving them attention until they're done. If taking the people seriously means I can't take the clip seriously any more, then it's probably porn. What helped me was writing an erotic Novel and a few poems. I worked through the fantasies there and tried to make both psychorealistic and hot, which was hard but perhaps valuable.

I think you'll get over it if you listen to former Catholic Priest Alan Watts lecture on - Sex in the Church.

Absolutely fantastic! I'm in love with this! 🎨 👄👄👄🍌🍌🍌

oh dear. I don't like hearing it called that.. compulsive habits caused by dopamine addiction really aren't any different from one another, there's just a lot more shame associated with one type because of other implications that have to do with how it's made... but I like the channel so I'll give it a shot.

Some people don't have a partner......

It’s so annoying how it’s always about the addict and not about their abuse victims