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My late husband claimed to be a Christian all his life. I only became a Christian halfway through our 30 year marriage. During his last couple years of being terminally ill he did everything he could think of to try to destroy my faith. It infuriated him that he couldn't. The harder he tried, just made me feel he was controlled by a demonic spirit. How could anyone be so horrible?

Narcissists not only abuse you physically, mentally and emotionally, they also abuse their victims spiritually. Getting closer to God is getting away of the narcissists. You can't serve God while serving a narcissist.

They always say "it's in the past" that's the narcs favorite thing to say instead of repenting and taking accountability.

"For the Narcissists, GOD is nothing but an enabler/an extension of their false self." Perfect definition, thank you soo much! 🌈💚

Of all the things I have learned about the narcissist, this may be the most disturbing. And, it confirms my experience.

My father in law was the overt religious kind. He would never cheat on my mother in law but he verbally abused her and shamed her constantly. When his children became grown most of them left him. One of them told me she left because he would preach one thing and live another. He would say he wanted his daughters married, but yelled at them and called them prostitutes if they so much as talked to a member of the opposite sex. He would preach on love and how husbands and wives should love each other, but then he would shame his wife and degrade her constantly. When my sister in law(the scapegoat) got married he said that God would/could not bless her marriage(give her children) because she defied him(her father). Nine or so months after she was married she announced to the family that she was pregnant. Her sister(covert and enabler of their father) was afraid the baby would be deformed because of her disobedience to their father, but the baby was born perfect. My father in law had no more to say about her after that. The Almighty had proved him wrong and there was no more he could say.

My narc ex used to weaponize God against me whenever he felt like he wasn’t getting what he wanted. He’d always say that God doesn’t hear my prayers because I’m being disrespectful to him, when it was actually him disrespecting me. I was fearful of my husband so kept my mouth shut a lot and did whatever he wanted me to. It’s definitely a demon for sure that’s doing these things. I hope God delivers him one day. He had a good woman who prayed for him, loved him, took care of him, put up with all of his garbage….but I eventually reached my breaking point and left. These types of relationships kill!

They use God and guilt, I grew up with this manipulation being dumped on me relentlessly! Imagine using the almighty to back up their abuse, when I think of it, it's even abuse towards God.

Ugh. Narcissists are such hypocrites. It's annoying.

This is the exact way I was abused, and reclaiming God from the matrix of narcissistic abuse has been utterly horrifying. I needed to hear this.

Heard so many of these in my narc family, starting with curses , "God doesn't sleep" or "God will punish you" ... well, I hope the same for them !

Thank you for such a helpful video. My MIL is a Christian narcissist. In fact the entire in-law family is super religious and narcissistic, superior and special all the way. I come from a different family background, which was a start of all the blames. When my side of family members got diagnosed with cancers, MIL said that it was because my family was under the control of Satan. She always felt and acted so superior and said she (and her family except me) was “specially chosen” and “specially loved” by God. She hurt me so much verbally and tried to control my husband. Husband had been in her control through his entire life, so he basically chose his mom over me and my child. And yet, every single sentence they spoke ended with god and Jesus. It made me so confused and doubtful. It took me years to finally realize that the god my in-laws relentlessly speak of is not the true god. So thankful that I realized the truth and did not turn away from the Savior.

My narc went to college to be a minister he ended up leaving. His grandfather was a preacher. He ended up taking philology so I think that's how he learned to be a better narcissist

Both of my parents were Christians during my whole life, but it was my father who had the true understanding of Him versus my mother who sometimes used it to shame and manipulate. I'm thankful I learned who He really is and don't serve her version of him.

Yes my narcissistic mother told me “god was watching”. She didn’t know THE TRUE GOD JESUS

Again, Danish Bashir, you have cracked this concept of narcissism! 😅😅😅You simply always know the right, and actually true, things to say. I salute you, sir 💐💐💐

I’ve told my kids that respect comes from trust and love. Those must be earned and treasured. If a person has earned your trust and love and treasure it then there can be mutual respect.

My narcissist husband moved out and whenever he has tried to hoover me, he uses God to get to me.He told me not to let evil win and how it’s all a misunderstanding.omg when he was leaving he even said God showed you the fake FB account and I pray that He also showed you that I didn’t cheat and if he doesn’t I will lose my faith.Thank you for this video, it opened my eyes to how can a person stoop this low!

To be honest you're the best presenter when it comes to narcissist behavior, I have learnt a lot from you ever since I subscribed to your channel thumbs up 👍

This plays perfectly into personal revelation in my faith. God “revealing” to the narcissist anything and everything they want in the name of God. How many people have been manipulated by a narcissist in the name of God?

Happy New Year Danish! This past year has been hell. Thank you for all your videos. They have helped me to leave someone so evil. I start the new year in a new place and in peace. It's only been 10 weeks and I am struggling between hating him and grieving having to leave my hometown and my life there. I moved over 200 miles away. I am doing the work on myself, learning to love myself and I need to give my self time. Happy New Year everyone!

I was told by an ex narc that walking into a church always made him extremely nauseous. I didn't know what that meant at the time, but now I know it is a sign of demonic oppression.

I experienced most everything you discussed. Spiritual Covert Narc Mother was even more damaging than Malignant Narc Father. Evil deadly combination. Excellent video!

Just wait till they meet the real God they are in for a big surprise and it is not going to turn out very will. They deny God he will deny them and that's for eternity.

I have experienced everything you say. Thank you for speaking the truth about these things. Something I've noticed (and been victimized because of) is the narcissist believing that he or she can control God or charm God in the same way they do people and they will never be held accountable by God.

My narcissistic mother was highly religious, always sitting on the first bench at church, going early to church to read from her multiple prayer books, praying at home, extra kind to outsiders, etc. But she was a wretched person to her own children. She lied, cheated, stole, gas-lighted, etc, and when confronted, she would say things like, "after all I've done for you", "I love all my children equally", etc. Her true self was revealed once she died. Her bank books gave all her lies up. She stored treasures on earth, and none Above

There Is Absolutely No One And Nothing That Can Keep You From God Unless You Allow It ! ✝️🌿

just as a personal note, the intensity of the backlash from a narcissist when they use God as a way of trying to hurt you, it ranges anywhere from them looking completely silly and childish almost completely laughable, to it downright ruining your family levels of toxicity. God bless everyone, I wish you all well on your healing journey's and Happy New Year 2024!

This explains my relationship with my husband who I now recently separated from my own mother and other family members and my relationship with my inlaws since I was 15 years old. Lord have mercy 🙏🏽 it's because of the grace of God I did not kill myself or lose my mind 🙏🏽

Danish, if possible, whenever you get the chance, you've got to write a book about religious narcissists. Narcissists are highly attracted to religion. By the way, excellent and insightful video. Thanks for all you do Danish.

Very very true. My ex always threatens me by relating everything with God.

I've wondered how Narcs could have a real relationship with God and so callously treat His servants. This makes a ton of sense. So their god is also an extension of themselves. My husband's god was the big policeman in the sky waiting to dole out punishment to the lawbreakers in our house. I lived in fear of that god. I even grew to hate him, because it didn't seem fair that he would bless my husband at my expense, leaving me guilt ridden for my resentments. That was over 30 years ago, and I've been holding on to the jealousy over God's blessing him with another marriage that suited him better than ours. Maybe I can finally let all that go, because I don't have to believe in his god anymore. Seeking God on my own has been a painful and lonely journey, but maybe now I can have the hope of finding true intimacy with Him.

I remember my mum coming to sit in front of me when i was praying.She just sat there and watched me.At that time i did not know what narcissism was.I was thinking she will find fault in my prayer.She sat there,stared at me,did not say one word,then a small crooked smile appeared from the corner of her mouth.This was over thirty years ago.I shudder when i think of it now.There so many red flags and i did not know how to read them.What you saying puts things into perspective for me.

i am a child of God, above all else.

From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA Thanks again so much for all your videos you put out. God bless you ALWAYS.

Yes Danish, God is love and I know it was HE who made a way for me to come out of the hellish life I was living with a pastor narc. I am now free. "Whom the Son has set free is free indeed."

❤🎉 Big amen to that brother Danish. And may the good Lord bless you for all that you do in the coming new year.😊

⚡👍👍👍you are so absolutely correct about this 👍👍👍⚡

My narcissistic ex always uses unfortunate events as a warning sign from God to correct me..

Money and control are their god.

The one i was involved with asked me to pray that we could get together when i was ill. Later i found out he was married to another woman who is religious. i can only imagine how he is using this to manipulate her and other women😒

A now former friend turned out to be a spiritual narcissist. I mentioned something about healing our shadow side in general, that everyone needs to do this to have a more pure walk with Spirit, this guy took what I said and quoted the ONE BOOK he read on spirituality 40 years before (he was 76), and then used that and also the fact that I told him that I communicate with Divine after reading the series Conversations with God by Neil Donald Walsh and he weaponized all of that against me with a 2 page email berating and belittling me, calling me a "know it all" (even though I would always phrase things like "as far as I know" or "at my current level of understanding this is the way I think things are", etc.), and also he called me other names and he said, " What you don't really know is that, you see, God sent me here to be your spiritual teacher!" After he spent two pages completely abusing me. But he only had the one book he could quote LOL spiritual what? Spiritual how? (Meanwhile I had put my spiritual knowledge in a podcast 1800+ hours or there in the public.. after attending mystery schools and reading hundreds of books.. sigh..😅) I was friends with this person for 17 years.. he kept that narcissist side hidden well until that email. My reply to him was, "WHATEVER!" And I never wrote to him again. He wrote me another probably scathng angry letter to me but I never even read it because I literally don't care anymore. I had to ghost him after that..

This is the best talk yet. Thank you for re-affirming what I have already learned to be true with all of the Narcissist I have had to deal with in my life. They refuse to believe in God, and any show of religiosity that comes from them is a lie. To weaponize God against you is the only interest they have in God. The lengths they will go to, to try and convince you they are Holy is profound.

My husband was like this. I finally divorced and couldn't be happier. Two years ago he attended church with the kids and I in the morning and murdered his former best friend that evening. Of course he claims self defense. He writes letters to our children and talks on the phone from prison about how God will punish the unrighteous, will destroy the evil one. The whole time he is insinuating that I am the unrighteous, evil one! He uses verses out of context against me a lot.😮

So much truth..... Threats to cast me from home & disown me as a child if i ever did (something) again, which parents found out about. It was terrifying, because i wouldn't have had anywhere to go. I was surrounded by very religious extended family of whom many were highly narcissistic. (father's side) *I learned it wasn't safe to FEEL* . I blocked all feelings which could cause the casting out. Then father wanted me to join a strict cultish church which didn't take for five years, fortunately. But meanwhile, parents sent me to small private high school, to ensure i would be trained to marry a man. Father again tried and finally got me into the cultish church which increased the mind control and i became very religious. (That church was run by narcs as well, and it was a horrible experience that almost broke my mind.) At that point, i believed the "supreme father figure" would do even worse than my birth parent if i allowed myself to feel what i'd been punished for as a child, and he'd b*rn me forever. Fear became my warden. Parents pushed me to "marry" someone and it was all fake, because i wasn't in love & didn't know the truth of who he was. It wouldn't have mattered to them, as long as i had the appearance of being a person whom they found acceptable. The person i became trapped with was dangerous and covert narc, and i was almost crippled by DV, was secretly poisoned for years, treated with cruel cunning, and in truth he wanted to be rid of me and isolated towards that purpose. In his mind, women who were harmed were to blame for what happened to them. Once we saw a documentary in which a woman was rped by four men, and he was declaring loudly & repeatedly that she had a "tramp stamp" on her back. (tatoo) This seemed to justify what had happened to the woman in his thinking. To the outside world, he looked like a very religious person, involved in politics & church. It took years and so much trauma, but i was helped by my own wonderful higher mind to get away! Now i'm spiritual & happy, undoing religious bondage, and believe in treating others with love as we want to be. Thank you for this video, it's much needed

Perfect examples even though painful. A narcissist will project their sinful thoughts and behaviors on you to guilt and shame you. They sabotage the relationship and when there is trouble or the relationship fails they can blame you for leaving.

"the devil can quote scripture." 👉 Tell that to a narc. 🤣

😮 im in total awe at this revelation. Suddenly everything clicks.

After my narc ex finished AA in 6 weeks (yeah, it takes way longer than that), he told me that I needed to fix my relationship with God because I was the problem in our marriage, not him. Once I fixed my spiritual problem, then I could fix other relationships I had. He put himself on a pedastal and never once acknowledged his issues (alcoholism, Cheating, bullying, etc.). For you ladies going through what I did, run, don't walk, away. I've been over 20 years single and I've never been happier alone. The Lord is my focus and he provides me with everything I need.

Oh my goodness! You described it so well, this video gives me chills. Yes, they throw Bible verses at you to keep you under their control. "Honour your mother and father..." >no matter what they do

Thank you so very much for thus video. You have cleared up so much about my relationship with my mother. Especially because I myself was a very spiritual child, so that my mother was really able to use God to justify her abuse of me. She presented herself as a great saint, who had a special relationship with Jesus Christ, that no one loved God as much as she did. As a result, my childhood was a nightmare! Worst of all, my relationship with God was also harmed, as she caused me to see God as totally supporting all her actions - specifically her abuse of me, because I was an evil child who needed to be punished. I struggled for many years to finally come to know God and His love for me. I could never figure out how someone like my mother, who claimed to love God so much, could be so cruel and abusive. Your video finally explains and sheds light on this dilemma with which I have struggled a lifetime. Thank you 🙏

My mother became a Christian when they came to America, all she knew was the quran, she said I always thought God was a god of wrath and vengeance. I never knew he loved me until now.

True Sir...💯 My mom weaponize astrology !😢 She says as per astrology you have bad time now, your marriage will destroy, fail in your job, etc..😔 I wish everyone knew about this! Thank you for sharing this sir. God bless you ❤ Happy New year

I recall my narcissist father-in-law pleaded out to God saying "why is this happening to me? Why am I dying." The narc was 87 years old.

Pure logic 👍 💯💯💯🧠🧠💯 keep sending more videos like this 💯🧠💪👏😎

I feel like you grew up in my house. Thank you for your videos, they are helping me overcome a lifetime of trauma at the hands of my father.

Never consider a Narcissistic - a toddlers. Their Mind is fully adult .They make plans as per adults. They are only toddlers by heart. That too a stubborn toddler not a good boy or good girl. Behave like an adult with them. For that- we will also have to be adults (I am also working on it) Treating them like toddlers will give you reasons to forgive them.

you did an amazing job explaining this. literally everything you said i have personally experienced to the t. i’m sorry you had to grow up with these types of parents also.

Omg I recently dated someone who was like this always posting scriptures but doing the complete opposite. Asking for nude vids and images devaluing women being a hypocrite yet acting he was so holy and better than people

I’ve been watching a lot of your videos and find them very helpful. My mother was a very evil narcissist, but I hardly knew it until after she died and I had time to be away from her (I was 60 when that happened) The question that keeps bothering me is, does a narcissist KNOW what they are doing and make conscious choices to be the way they are, or are they driven by something beyond themself, such as a mental illness, or even the demons you mentioned in a video I found fascinating. I really appreciate your taking the time to make these videos. They are helping me, and many others I’m sure.

It was ONLY after 58 years that what I've experienced my entire life was not ALL the fault of my deceased father but was fully cosigned by my (Sadistically) CATHOLIC mother since my Friday the 13th birth. As a Christian my Mother weaponized her Love to be "Other Than" GOD'S love for me.

Thank you for making this video Danish. May we all heal from the narc scars soon. Not to mention but I would like to say that I am a Muslim and in my religion there is this concept that Allah loves you 70 times more than your mother, so this summer when my narc mother wanted to hit me and I was able to stop that by practically holding her hands many times, she after days started screaming Allah 's affection is like a mothers so if He(Allah) can make you go through trials, why cant I (My mother). That was really an eye opening moment for me, because she thinks she is a God like Real God and can punish us or put us through trials ( not to mention those trials are episodes of intense abuse at times like hitting, and she abuses us all the time by tiring us).

How dare you mocking God he said to me.They think they are gods.Thank you so much Danish

My narcissist ex husband would ONLY be Christian at Church. Complete hypocrite.

Thumbs up 👍 regardless, Keep learning. Don't stay complacent in ignorance. Cheers ❤

When I confront my narcissistic husband, he says things like, "we're all sinners. Why are you judging me"? But I'm merely correcting him and telling him what he's doing wrong. If I say I've never heard him apologize once in our 26 years of marriage, he says, "Apologize to you? Why should I apologize to YOU? I apologize to God! He knows my heart. My apology is between me and Him." My husband has formed God in his own image!

Inspirational what you have overcome and able to help others with awareness from your own expansion. Thank you

I live with my father, one of the biggest headed 'christian' narcs on the planet and he loves going to church to get his rocks off. Its spooky as fuck growing up with dr.jekyll in public and who knows what personality at home. Great piece dude. You are carrying a much needed torch rn.

Thank you, Danish. Great insights.

My father used to scream at me “I command respect!” Hahaha. Imagine the biggest example of a hypocrite claiming that

Thanks for covering this!!! ❤I am getting so much from your videos so far afterwards just finding you. Cheers from Alaska.

Truth! My narcissistic father is this way and is obsessed with my being humbled because I’m not worshipping him like he is a deity.

Thank you again Danish. You nailed it again! Happy New Year and God Bless ❤

Amen . Thank you for sharing this message. Happy New Year. God always with us.

This is one of the best videos ever!!! Explains these people so clearly!!! Thank you!!!!

My mother did this to me growing up, thank you for diving into topics no one else does on youtube! You know you're stuff, you've helped me so much! I love my mother now, we have a healthy relationship now where we are equal.

Happy New Year Danish. A beautiful perfect message! My Catholic mother with Munchhaussens was just like this. I would hear her say in Machiavellian form" not my will but thine be done" and still keep smoking when my brother has lung disease. Using Jesus as fodder.

Thank you. A kind word after such toxic abuse still has the power to surprise me.

You just blew my mind with this. It answered a question that I wanted answered so much. Thank you so much you're helping me get through an extremely recent break up with a narcissistic person.

Happy New Year! Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us.

This video danish is a new year gift and a major eye opener to people whom i didnt kw how to put things across to... thanks alot mate...👍 definitely would share your videos across aa it indeed cam help lives dealing woth ths Narc abusive in all forms...happy new year✌️

My malignant religious narcissistic mother abused and reinvented God's words. When she is raging it's "God will distroy you blah blah blah" and when she gets what she wants it's "God bless you blah blah blah" accompanied with her laying her hand on your head. It always shivers me. Last year I started telling her don't bless me bless yourself. (Karma is hitting herself hard and she doesn't see it, I do. She says it's an ordeal against worldly people who are attacking her because she's God's child. Nah woman it's karma.) She laid her hand om my head. I told her I do not want her to do that anymore. She does this s* with my Golden Child brother every freaking time and he's addicted to it. Now she says I hate God. Please woman. I hate YOU.

Beautiful conclusion. God is the highest manifestation of love. Happy New Year!

Happy New Year Danish and gorgeous kitties ❤ May God richly bless you and make all of your fondest dreams come true. Thank you for all the great and helpful videos this year. This one is especially insightful for it explains the lack of empathy and conscience in narcs. Since they believe that they are an extension of God ,then they truly believe that they can do no wrong because they are favored and doing His will. Which is upside down delusional thinking.

Oh wow! You just explained my mother! I never understood what was going on with all the contradictions until now! Thank you!

Very good episode, Danish. It gave me helpful insight about the bad treatment I have had from my mother and from my adult son.

Thank you so much. I got new knowledge to recognize my father's behaviour. 😊

“May God strike me down right now!’ Supreme level of gaslighting. Danish!! We had the same mother. Nice to meet you my brother. 🤣

When NM would rage at Me for whatever reason. Then she would look up to the ceiling and shake her fist and say "When I get up there you're going to tell me why I was given her", meaning Me. That scared Me the most. She was always getting awards from her church becaused she donated so much money to it. Always had to have a church announcement

Your descriptions are the best I've heard. I see my husband clearly in your explanations

Wow! Things are beginning to make sense now. Ty Danish!

My ex-husband who is an ex Jehovah Witness (he was thrown out years before we met) is a clinically diagnosed covert and malignant narcissist. Whenever he accused me of not listening to him, or whenever he accused me for not following his rules and DEMANDS, he actually said, that I am going against God and Gods rules, and not listening to God and Gods wishes. In other words, that TWISTED AF grandiose narc thought and believed of himself as a "God". It never worked, so I became enemy number one. He actuality told me that I was an eneny of God, and I should and need to be punished. We were only married 2 weeks when he first told me that and started his punishments. His punishments were so SEVERE, I developed C-PTSD in only 11 months before I left him. I am POSITIVE, that if i did not leave him, I would have died; either by his hands or the SEVERE and EXTREME stress I was in.

this is one of the best explanations of this i have heard..i thank you deeply..Thank you ....

Very good explanation. Thank you.

Bingo!!

This is so relatable...My father in law acts as Preacher who gives prophecy...and that definitely all of he's prophecies support he's act and he's sons act...thanks Danish much needed to explain reality 👍🔥

My ex-husband claimed that God told him to leave me for a woman he committed adultery with. When I called him out on it, stating that God would never go again against His Word and encourage sin, he accused me of being a narcissist, and that became his new narrative. He had a total meltdown when I asked him if he projected much. I was a captive in my marriage, but God set the captive free!

Very good indepth analysis!

Danish, I love listening to your happy budgies in the background of your videos!