How long were guys originally together

@@graysonleslie9781 10 years

Wow!!

So beautiful✨

Wow 10 years and u got back together I was with my gf for 6 we broke up 8 months ago. Of course it was my fault. I begged for months just for to tell me to let it go no going back or fixing things. Until a week ago I just told her I give up and I am just going to leave her alone and move on with my life. So I’m hoping no contact works for me as well cause I love her and miss her and I’m sure I’ll never find anyone like her again

😆😆😆 very true thank you

That’s so true. My ex is posting photos that make him look like he’s having the best time but a friend told me he’s actually in bed with an infection - so there you go.

Good looking women get on a dating app and can get a hookup within a couple hours. Dating apps don't work like that for men.

No he's actually with the new supply . Out dating and living his new best life . After draining me financially. Emotional and mentally and no I didn't wish him the best of luck . I do wish I heal and journey forward .

Thank you, sir 🫡

It is for you to get them back

It’s not always that your ex comes back

11 months havent heard from her

@@os3688 how old are you both, and is she "the one"?

@@os3688 I guess by now you have worked on yourself until you are comfortable with her not coming back.

Also, if they take too long to reach out to us, their value will decrease day by day. That's when you'll be over them for good.😊

How are you now?

5 / 6 months seems like the right time to move on. I am on month 3.

I'm on my second week of NC... I admire you guys. Hope to be like you some day 🥺

@@OsunaEdu updates?

Ty coach I am working hard to stay strong as you say and continue n c for another day or another another week ir month it's over a month now ty your a big help to alot of hurt people. Ty

I've the 2.5 month mark of NC, thought I was getting able to move, then today I get hit by huge dose of nostalgia of the intimacy we once shared. So I'm back to binge watching coach Lee for a few hours 😂

What's your update?

@@jerescot how are u now?

@brandon ohara happy, and moved on. She contacted me a couple months to tell me she had gone back to her toxic ex, and thebreason she felt we could never progress was because she never got over him. Go figure, hear that logic helped me move on. I'm navigating a new relationship with someone else now, we've been dating for 4 months and going strong.

@@jerescot awesome bro Good for you bud

Update?

❤️🙏

@@Afternoon99 stay in the NC if he returns tell him nicely how you feel about the situation if he’s not willing to make changes then he’s all about himself and you need to search for someone else.. bc you dont want to be miserable with someone who’s not willing to make the changes to make the relationship work.. the heart will heal .. theres more fish in the sea..😉

@@Afternoon99 update?

@@simay5346 many things happen. I broke NC to say if he wants to come back in this year he can cuz I won’t date. He asked after 19 days asking how it’s going so far (as how my life has been), replied I’m doing well and asked him back he said he’s fine and then we stopped talking. 2 weeks later he texted me again saying “it feels strange, I used to spend all day with you but now I feel empty, bored and alone”. And ofc I bursted my eyes out asking why he seem to hate me and he said he didn’t hate me but hate my action and telling me stuffs about it and also said I turned from caring to controlling. So I replied I understand my shortcomings and told him why I acted how I acted and it doesn’t mean I’m the only one doing bad in the relationship and he did as well. He left me on seen again so after 2 weeks I texted him he made me confused because he just made it seem like he missed me but why disappear. He told me there’s nothing to talk to begin with we’re not together anymore and it’s not right for him to talk normal and he keeps telling me I was controlling even tho I explained why, and ge also said we don’t have the same taste in music and likings. After reading all that I sent him messages why it’s not fair for me just because we have different tastes in music and stuffs. Yes I sent him paragraph and I’m done. No more reaching out to him. 17 days later which is few days ago he texted me if I went into his Spotify to create a playlist (bcoz he let me use his Spotify account but after he broke up w me I stopped using his and create my own account) so I said him I didn’t use it, he then left me on read and that’s just it. So basically I’m not reaching out to him again cuz he made it clear to me we’re not meant to be or whatever. No more anxiety and trying to convince him. If he reaches out again that’s on him cuz that’s not my job. If he doesn’t then I’ll just find someone else who’s not as immature as him. We both did mistakes in the relationship but no one cheated. I know well and he as well does. If he doesn’t step up and own up his mistakes when I bring it up then I’ll let him be and find someone better

@hellohelena do you have IG?

@@henrypido3152 no, I'm off social media

God has anointed Coach Lee indeed to minister in quiet biblical way truth of the matter. He helped me not allowing my emotions (fleshly) to rule me and be led by holy spirit. He is giving practical biblical advice. Restraint, disciple, obedience, hope, forgiveness, wisdom, knowledge, peace, guarding the heart from more further damage. Gods Blessings to CL.

@@moniquelampkin7212 AMEM 🙏 The flesh is weak. We need God

Facts

Right? I often think Coach Lee has a tough job.

One day at a time. Let no contact work. Do NOT contact her.

It will get better Jason. I felt like you 3 months ago but now I feel much more like me again. Stay with it. You will feel better.

It’s so hard. It sounds stupid, but I print out calendars and after every day of NC, I put a big ❌ through it. Seeing a week of those makes me know I’ll be ok. I have one ❌ at this point. And hurting constantly 😢

@@victoriarendon3294how are you doing now, sweetie? I hope your heart is feeling better❣️❣️❣️

Maybe there is hope for me after 12 yrs.

Were yall separated or divorced?

@@CiluhStyle1 Just separated.

@@lizardink2900 I'm goin through that now...married for 7 years come March but together for 8 years...she dumped me 4 months ago but we were semi living together. Just separated last week and ita rough. We have children so no contact is a bit of a battle. Do you have children as well? And how long were you two separated?

@@CiluhStyle1how did it go? I have children and been separated 2 and a half months. Mostly strategic NC for 1 month and a half

Congrats! 🎉

how is it going now?

@@freedomfinancial we both acknowledged stuff we did wrong in the relationship and are seeing how it goes. I feel confident that in the long run we will get back together but we don’t want to rush anything in the moment

@@LobsterJesus ❤️🙏

Dont wait on her keep going until shes ready n see where you are and if it's worth it then

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I hope I heal, I'm about a month out, feeling like total shit, crying every day, she left me because I lost my temper and said some horrible inexcusable stuff, so I don't think she's coming back, which makes me feel sick every day knowing that, like I just don't care about anyone except her. But I don't think it's coming back even with no contract In fact this would be the second time that she'd be coming back so that's probably why. But yeah. I hope I heal, and just come out of this shit feeling and shit life

So true!

You got yourself back and someone who sees your value, found you.

@@nbee6217 yes you are 100 right thank you that made my night

How are you now?

Did he come back?

💯

@@abubakarlambu6511 im trying nothing if it should be it will and if not then im also cool with that im the important person here not her anymore i concentrate on myself 👍

@@davidspears9351 well said bud

@@davidspears9351 I'm 3 months in

That means she was never meant at all and it's good that u found something better..keep up the good work

Good for you! ❤

Haha. College keeps us busy. Really helps with no contact.

I can actually laugh about it now. As odd as that sounds I can laugh at that heart break. You will make it out!!! Much love

After a year? Should be a month.

Neal, when my ex and I broke up, there was NO CLOSURE AT ALL to this day. It ended abruptly, and we went our separate ways. I had to leave him bcse he was using me. This was 11 years ago. .Take care of yourself..

What if your ex actually tells you the reasons and one of was the fact that you didn't know how to handle anxiety now, so how you gonna handle it after marriage?

Well, I did all the wrong things too. She is not coming back and I don't even want the relationship anymore. She doesn't even seem like the person I was with for so many years. At this point, I can do much better.

Irish you the best

update?

@@izzyrose2500 it’s been about a year and a half now? Maintained no contact & I haven’t heard from him nor have I searched him up so idk where he’s at or what he has going on. I moved on & forgave him for hurting me. No contact served its purpose 🙏🏼

Kotone_lovesanime. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent. It has EVERYTHING you need including strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk

That's how I feel. Like I'm dying from a broken heart

Yes. Sometimes I think if I did get back together with him the relationship would just make me feel mega insecure about everything, day and night. I would be waiting for him to take off at the slightest thing. Who wants that???

Update??

a few dozen boyfriends???? hahaha and im over here crying over my first love for 3+ years thinking ill never love again

keep us updated!!

Best of luck

Update

I think I've done well. I maintained my composure and had light yet professional energy all the way through. She was talking to me during the session about some music stuff and she kept the conversation going for a little bit. It was a great moment and there were many times she'd giggle at some of my stupid jokes during the session. Other than that, at the beginning of the day, we met at the hallway outside the studio and she said 'hi' in a very formal way, and I responded more or less the same way. After the entire session ended, we practically didn't speak a single word to each other, and she didn't say bye to me when she left, and neither did I. I think overall these are great signs. The day went quite well, and I remained calm and myself throughout and I resisted the urge to talk to her afterwards or to even text her. Now it's back to no contact, but I could feel that there is progress!

Youddef- women like long hair

Did she ever reach out?

Don't

What happened

3 weeks? That’s nothing my friend

Heya! Did you reply?

Same , 8 months down the road

Hang in there. Continue with NC, it will eventually pay off. You can do this!!

Do you really want someone who hasn’t wanted you for 8 months she Will of been with someone else I’m sorry to say .. the best thing you can do is show her she messed up get in the gym dress smart get your money up and then after you do all this get your money up and then watch the shock you give her and then never give her a second of your time again become a high value man instead of a boy waiting for someone who doesn’t want you sorry it’s harsh but this is the advice I got and it worked now I’m stronger as ever and will never allow a women to make me feel how i use to feel after the break up it’s turns out the grass wasn’t greener on the other side

@@DM-yw8dn i am actually a girl (29) and my ex is a man (28). He will absolutely have been with someone else.. I however have not :( I’m not sure if women are wired that way, I know i’m not…

@@jinglebells3659 it's time to move forward. I was in a relationship that lasted seven years. My ex & I finally got married on March 27, 2021 & she asked for a divorce January of this year. She got engaged to her girlfriend the next month. Knowing that she's moved on is helping me heal. My ex & I have three kids together, so no contact is helping me heal, so I can become a better man for my babies. Do not wait around for someone who tossed you to the side like yesterday's trash. Become a better version of yourself & move forward with your life. You deserve nothing but the best out of this life.

Yeah dating and being social helps produce abundance mindset for sure

Depends on severity of heartbreak and circumstances

I'm really sorry Brian. These things are so depressing to live through.

Same

You dodged a bullet.

I'm in the same boat as you for a 2 month relationship. I did occasionally reach out but she is completely ignoring me. 2.5 months NC now. 4.5 months broken up. I have little to no hope though

update?

@@Nimbus3690 update?

@@gagsjjmomom9014 nothing. I think she's dating someone else. But I've moved on

I maintained no contact for over 60 days.. She never reached out, but I also worked with her, so I don't think she really ever missed me. We only communicated for work stuff, sporadically during that time.. Even though we didn't talk, I think because I was there, it made it easier to move on. Even though she said she forgave me, I don't think she did.. it's okay, she totally took me for granted, I deserve better.

Not everyone is like that. Not everyone ends to get with other people. I’m sorry if that was your case but a lot of people have valid reasoning to end things. Also, it may be ur fault they left and it’s ok to take them back if you’ve learned and changed

@@brandonnykyforak so true

Same here, it's been around 9 months I haven't got any sign of contact from her. However I recently met another wonderful lady who really makes me forget her very efficiently. I really hope the same will happen soon to you.

Yah same boat. I think NC only works for the first three months. After that changes drop significantly and you can kiss her ass goodbye. Sucks

After 9 months, what do you have to lose by contacting her? Even if she has moved on, at least knowing that for certain will bring you closure. Nothing is worse than wondering. I am in no contact, by my choice, and I just completed 10 days, and I feel like an addict needing a fix!! after my serious relationship ended about 3 months ago, he continued to message me. So I finally had to ask him to hold off for a while so I can heal. He may never return. But I'm going to give this another few weeks and see what happens.

Steven-L, Steven, did it ever occur to you that you probably loved her much more than she loved you? If I went into NO CONTACT with the guy I loved, I would RUN to him when the no contact duration was over. I am so sorry. ❤

My ex came back to me few days ❤ago got help from a Relationship Restore Dr Wilson who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg. for a second chance. He can bring your ex back, and he also do a lot of work also like financial problem, and court case, etc.

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Did he ever reach out?

@@jarrodoberg2078 nope! after 4 months of no contact i reached out and basically said “im moving forward in my life, if u want to pursue something let me know otherwise i’m moving on without you” he responded within a minute and said “best of luck” so i got my answer that i had been waiting for months super quickly. that was the final push i needed to finally get over him even tho i never thought i would. now i’m dating someone who is so much better for me in every way!

@@katiestrombeck5703 glad to hear. I’m day 12 NC just found out that she had a tinder account already. We’ve been broken up for 14 days…

@@jarrodoberg2078 I am so sorry. I know how that feels (not with this past relationship but before that). No contact is so incredibly difficult. Each day felt like a year. But I feel like I learned the most about myself during that time. It sucks and it was awful but I had to go through everything that I did in order to be prepared for the relationship I am in now.

Update?

Same position we broke up 8months ago I was begging for 6-7 months straight. U time a week ago I just told her I give up I’m not trying anymore and I’m just going to move on so I pray we get back together but idk anymore hopefully this NC works

I understand how you feel completely. My boyfriend and I were together for almost 2 years. It was amazing. We never had a fight or argument and one day he sent me this text saying how he doesn't see our relationship progressing and how hard it is to say it. Then he says he will always care for me. I thought I was going to die. It's been a month and it's still hard. Hold on and don't give up. We can do it!

@@sharc.9259 thank you! We got this. I just want this to pass

I totally understand

My ex and I dated for 2 months and split. I begged and cried for a week and then went NC for about 4 months. I reached out in late December to wish her well and happy holidays and we were back together for 2.5 years! It’s possible. But she just left again because i got complacent in the relationship and wasn’t making an effort. I miss her so much… One important thing to consider is I had gotten to the point where I realized “wow… I really haven’t thought about her in 2 whole days… I couldn’t even think of a world where this would be possible 3 months ago” and then I waited a couple of days and thought hard about it before I did reach out. I decided I wouldn’t be too upset if she didn’t reply but she did! You must emotionally reset yourself before anything can happen, and we will get there!!!

You shouldn't have spoke of no contact

Crystalina Lee, I've spoken to you before. Give him a little more time. If you don't hear from him in the next 2 weeks, move on, honey. Take care..

abdulsamadsu, I am so sorry to hear your pain. We can help you. I recommend Coach Lee's Workshop for you which will help you immensely. You will learn so many things about yourself, and strategies to make you feel better. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

It’s been 43 days no contact still no sign ?

Truth and nothing but the Truth. Most are not mentioning the Real reason the breakup occurred in the first place. The odds are much higher that you and your ex will not be back together for good. An ex is an ex for a reason.

Crystalina, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It works great! myexbackcoach.com/ebk

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