The main reason that Calvin decided to go to his Mum’s for the weekend was to stop Ruby from wanting to get a job for herself. He wanted to keep her with him at all times and stop her from getting her own life. Like she says, he doesn’t want her doing anything.

“ Shes a person You haven’t written a person” Very very very true

5:55 There's something poetic about how Ruby's entire existence stems from being Calvin's perfect 'not like other girls' girlfriend, but if given even the slightest amount of agency would not choose to be Calvin's girlfriend.

The part where he makes her say "I love you, ill never leave you" means too me that you just want to hear what you want to hear even if it's a lie you make yourself believe that.

Do men feel as disturbed by this movie as women do? The way he controls her gave me anxiety. It's so obvious what she wants and if he simply gave it to her, fulfilled her wishes, discussed, communicated and sometimes compromised, they could have been happy. However, he chooses to withhold everything she wants from her, treats her like an object, demeans and humiliates her. There were some scenes where I would get reminded of Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004) and 500 Days of Summer (2009). I admire Paul Dano so much for being in this film. @CoreIdeasI loved this video essay, thank you so much!

I absolutely love this film. Zoe Kazan wrote a beautiful and insightful movie. It makes me laugh and cry every time...... I couldn't see you when you were here and, now that you're gone, I see you everywhere.

I've watched this way more times than I should have. This film has such an interesting and unique charm to it and the fact you made a video essay on it, when everyone else is doing the same Summer Blockbusters over and over again is refreshing. Keep up the great work!

After watching this I realize I have a lot in common with Calvin when it comes to relationships. I'm scared of making the same mistakes so I tend to avoid connecting with people.

I thought he took her to his mom's to prevent her from getting a job and staying at her apartment? I think that shows how codependent he was by fearing her spending time away from him.

This deserves more views. You hit the nail on the head with the theme of unfulfilled love. One cannot seek fulfillment through a relationship; it is but an enrichment to our lives. Cheers!

I completely agree about this being a cautionary tale, despite it’s somewhat optimistic ending.

Before my pops got sick and ultimately met his demise at the hands of lung disease, both he and my mom told me to go forth and do whatever it is that I wanted to do before trying to settle down. I always just put that off to the side of my mind when told that but it wasn't till the point that when my old man was nearly out the door did I realize what he and my mother meant. There were times many times in his life that he wished that he didn't have to put up with his current situation, caring for people who don't deserve it, working at a place you loathe because you have a family. And many times I felt that sadness and hatred as I was his son and at times he was abusive physically and emotionally, this doesn't excuse the fact that you shouldn't be doing this to children but it allowed me to come to terms and forgive him. Because unfortunately, he was a unhappy person, he never got to do what he wanted and always had to do the self sacrifice because that is what was required of him as a father. So that brings me to your point that "unfulfilled lives, lead to unhealthy relationships." So right now I do have a pain in my heart and want so much to love another but I know that for my relationship to be healthy and fulfilled I shouldn't try and put the unnecessary expectation for my significant other to fill.

I hope with paul dano being cast as riddler in the new batman film it will cast a light on this film which in my opinion is his best role

This is an amazing level of production quality for such a small channel, I love it!

I'm so grateful to this movie for existing. It's such an important story with a great moral lesson and I feel like other screenwriters could learn from it when tackling the romantic comedy format. Great analysis- I particularly enjoy your thoughts on the ending, because I agree, there's not really any indication that Calvin learned from his experience and if he and Ruby start over in their relationship, who knows if it'll turn out any better. I was a little disappointed with the ending for that, tbh.

One of my favourite films of all time. I remember seeing this in cinema by myself and was floored when I walked out. Thank you for this great analysis!

This film is just ..... PHENOMENAL!

Im so mad that he got her, he shouldn’t have had a happy ending or maybe i just like zoe kazan lol

Im 2 mins in and I have to stop watching... because Im going to go watch this movie now. Thanks.

This is a such a well written video. Glad you brought this movie to my attention in the manner you did and I look forward to next video!

fantastic essay! the idea of this film is actually criticizing the love that people understand is just truly a good point. loved it

Dude you have a criminally low view count! We've gotta pump those numbers up! *shares*

Love your deep analysis of the film! Great job💪

I just watched this movie for the first time, and loved it, but I was still not sure exactly how to feel about everything. I found this and you really helped clear it all up for me. Thanks!

This was a beautiful commentary .

Very nice commentary, thank you.

I love the detail.

Wow this was a great interpretation of the movie. Thank you.

He smacks of a covet Narcissist

Loved every bit of this analysis on the take on Love. I love these kinds of movies. Another favourite is the Movie "her". I love how they both explore Love in a Utopic world, one that's created by the protagonist as a way to avoid dealing with real life challenges and exploring relationships with the emotional legwork they deserve. Because there is no perfect anything in the world.

Eventually someone did review this movie i've just wait for so long! And please do The Disappearance Of Eleanor Rigby for the next topic, that movie is just such have a meaningful message for viewers

Love your videos.

Thank you, I have some reflections to do now

A great analysis!

This is amazing

So he could have made her do anything, and THAT'S what he went with?... No imagination whatsoever. Another great video dude.

This movie was amazing

calvin just like me fr

👏 great video!

An entire film about the "manic pixie dream girl" but lord, Zoe Kazan sure is the one to play that role.

you KaptainKristin and the nerdwriter I can watch you guys stuff forever keep it up man I would ask you to ask your audience for some recommendations for video essays but you seem to know what your doing you rock man

Great job on the vid.

Interesting, thank you! I have to add, it's ridiculous how much more attractive the two female interests are than the protagonist...I mean, unless you're so so used to it by now it's just normal.

Hidden Gem 💎

OH GOD!!! I´m writing about Ruby Sparks, for my channel (I'm Brazilian), and I LOVED your video, your good way of explaining is so clear, can I use it as a reference and leave it in my video description?

This is a pretty interesting view of the film, but I believe that everything that happens during the film is Calvin telling us about his novel. And in the last scene when he meets Ruby(actually she's not Ruby) Calvin like makes us understand what about was his novel. He saw a beautiful girl(maybe in the coffee house) during one of the hardest periods of his life, he loved that girl and used the excitement to write a novel(the one he was telling us during the film), and during the last scene, he meets that girl actually and promises us not to tell what happens at the end)

He sounds like a "nice guy"

Another great movie that's quite similar to Ruby Sparks is the original The Heartbreak Kid (1972).

What track did you use in the outro?

oh god no it's too relatable, you done fucked me up

I've seen this movie before. It's been done several times already. ----------- Guy dreams up a dream girl. Dream girl comes into being in some fashion or another (either as a highly advanced android or as an angel or as a literal dream girl breaking into reality itself). Guy loses the girl because there's sumpin' wrong wit him. Either because he's a jerk or he's just plain stupid or a combination of both, he loses her in any case. Guy learns his lesson and tries again with another girl. Or he ends up alone (if not worse off than he was before). ------------ The only thing which is subversive about this one is the fact that the guy lets the girl go himself and, the new girl he pursues in the end is actually the same girl, albeit with a new personality which may or may not be compatible with his own. --------- When are we ever going to see a film where the guy ends up with the dream girl and things work out between them?

I liked this.. but don't do the nerdwriter pause break right at the end

And then, ruby meets wallace and marrie him and wallace dies in a plane accident and calvin find him when is about to kill himself and become friends. Good video :)

I am sorry, but you just have to put together Weird Science and EVERY Woody Allen film and stuff it with pamphleteer and unbearable feminist ideas and indie music.