I remember telling a friend "wow my mom really pushes my buttons" and she said "of course she pushes your buttons -- she INSTALLED them."

They messed us up so badly , I regret and miss who I might have became 😢

I'm 48 years old. No kids and never married. I had a very violent abusive childhood. Replicating my family's poisonous DNA has never been a desire of mine since I was 7 years old. I'm just happy to know that I am not alone after reading some of the comments here.

This is unbelievable. I spent years with psychologists who were less than useless, they were retraumatizing morons with big egos and their patronising empathy. With this one video I’ve got my experience explained quite a bit, compared with hundreds of hours of therapy to receive nothing except extreme cptsd. Thank you

"If you don't have many friends... it means you have a lot of life experience." (Søren Kierkegaard 1813-1855)

None of my brothers or I had children of our own. We all decided the hoop needed to be broken. This is one of the reasons why the line dies off in our generation.

My parents destroyed everything that make me feel good about my self. So i decided to tell to every relative, friend and my parents friends the truth about my childhood. But I never allowed my self to act like my parents.

This was a difficult video to watch. I'm 37 years old and I'm still struggling to get over my "dead" mother.

My mom did nothing but sleep when I was a kid. My dad was MIA cause he did not want anything to be expected of him - not that he had anything to give, we were always poor. I was born with a rare genetic disorder NF1 along with brain tumors ( optic pathway glioma), but was forced for a lot of my childhood to put my actual medical disorders on the backburner cause my Mom was depressed and that took priority. Even today when I bring up the past to my mom and how we were left to fend for ourselves from an early age she just screams at me " I had sleep apnea, you should have felt sorry for me" and I was like "mom I was 6", which was never an excuse to my parents. They both use to always say " I left home at 15", so according to them, their parenting pretty much stopped at 12 or 13. Not that much parenting went on before that. I was always forced into adult situations from an early age and never got to be a child that was fully unencumbered by the day-to-day minutia that adults face. Kind of makes sense on why I am stuck in an adolescent state at almost 40 years of age - which is scary considering I only have my self to depend on. My parents have not been in my life for 25 plus years and I have spent many years on and off the streets. Pretty close to being there again. It doesn't help when you have tumors all over your face and people treat you like a freak when you are out in public. NF1 is a terrible disease.

When I was 17 I had already decided that I did not want children because if you've never known anything else you will most likely repeat what your parents have done, and I could not put any child through what I went through with my mother. No child deserves that. My mother didn't have a clue what she did to me, but I would have known if I had done what she did, and I would have lived with tremendous guilt. In addition my father, the finest human being I have ever known, was schizophrenic.

Parentification made me take everything too seriously, and I take everything that others say too seriously and very often, I get disappointed because many people don't mean things the way I get them. I can't lighten up. I rarely smile. But I have a good heart.

Due to the severe damage and trauma my single-parent covert narcissistic mother caused, I knew since age 8 that I would NEVER have children. I'd never be responsible for bringing a child into this toxic world. My mother was not capable of being a parent. My father, I'd see once about every 3 months. I knew him, but he was more of an "acquaintance" than anything deeper to me than that. Both my mother AND my father contributed to him not being a part of my life. Neither of them were a meaningful part of my life in any positive constructive way. Only in a negative and destructive way, at best. And they were both the only blueprint I had for life, so I knew I would never be capable of being a parent either. By age 8, too much crippling damage had already occurred. Either way, I could never allow the cycle to repeat. So, I realized at age 8, that I could never have children or allow that to happen. The cycle ends with me. I'm in my 50s now, incapable of taking care of anyone else and barely capable of taking care of myself and not abandoning myself. That's the price I pay for the crippling damage she has caused. There's never been a single moment in my life where I have ever regretted my choice of never bringing a child into this toxic wasteland called "life". And at age 50, I am now learning what boundaries are. I am ashamed to admit I have violated other people's boundaries in the past (eg: Reading their diary, and things like that). At the time, I didn't see what the big deal was, because I had no concept of what "boundaries" were. I was never entitled to them, growing up. But my mother taught me that not only was I not entitled to them, but she was the only one that WAS entitled to them. So you, and everyone else wasn't entitled to them either. So, you violating my boundaries or me violating yours would be "no big deal" because neither you nor I were entitled to them. Just her. In my 50's I'm learning I'm entitled to boundaries, and so is everyone else. People need to respect my boundaries and I need to respect theirs. How I enforce boundaries? I have no idea. But isolation works well, so far. With no one in my life, I don't need to worry about anyone violating my boundaries and me violating theirs. This is the lifetime of damage my narcissistic mother has caused that I'm still learning how to unlearn. On the Ace score, I got 100% as there wasn't a SINGLE question that I was able to answer 'No' to.

The first 10 minutes describe my experience PERFECTLY! My mom died over 35 years ago and I'm still healing from the personality flaws I used to cope with her parenting.

It took me a while to realize I actually didn´t want kids. After several disappointments in my relationships, here is why I decided to be childless: 1) I never found a good and responsible man to be a father 2) I was severely bullyied as a kid because I was very ugly and now I don´t want to pass my genes on 3) Kids are expensive and demand money and time, also they demand a mother AND a father to be raised psichologically healthy. Unfortunately most people don´t think carefully before having kids.... I don´t blame them, the problems of raising kids are not something society discuss... it´s a taboo to say that kids can be very stressing to their parents, mainly when the parents are not prepared to be parents financially, psichologically os phisically speaking.

Damn!!, you have a better understanding of narcissistic parents than anyone else I've listened to on KZfaq. It's very enlightening how you explain that an abused child cannot accept that their parent is bad, so they take ALL THE BLAME themselves and see themselves as "all bad".

So true - my oldest brother died in this abuse, i’m still trying to heal and survive, i have two adult siblings who are still intertwined in the sadistic abuse. They will never get out. They’ll die in it.

I was my mother’s scapegoat and was blamed for everything everyday. Called stupid, ugly, all the bad things. I absorbed it all, I even did terribly in school and in my life. I am almost 30 years old and breaking free from these horrible feelings about myself. I can’t seem to undo some of the damage. I really want to get an education but because of my feelings of worthlessness and inability to complete anything I feel it would not go well. I have tried many times, but deep down inside I feel I am not smart because of the things I was told about myself.

Sam, Very brave of you to speak of this topic! I'm in the same childless boat for the same reason. But, my grandparents really saved me in so many ways. Thank you for this video.

Thank you for this video Sam. I am an over-pampered, over-protected and over-cared child of a perfect and over-involved mother. I have become a reason for her to wake up and do anything. Everything revolved around me, she gave up her career for me (it went crashing down with the collapse of the USSR and even when given a chance she didn't pick it up), she nearly died when giving birth to me (surgeon botched C-section), she cooked and cleaned for me including my workplaces (volunteered, when said "no need" it was ignored) - most of it was normal parenting. She is holier than Jesus, I am a heretic, and everyone else is barbarians unless they recognize her glory.

I was raised by a narcissistic father and a mother who was overly controlling. And they stayed together because of me. They were programmed by bad parents who were programmed by their own bad parents. It probably went back for hundreds of years. I have deep-seated anxiety that ruins life but that cannot be rooted out because it's intertwined into my personality. I am broken and it seems like permanently. Why transfer any of that to a child? I would prefer the curse to end with me.

Oh, I'm apparently incredibly lucky. Somehow I gained "self-illumination" at 7 y. o. and stopped believing anything my mom says. Just understood then back, that "I will grow up and move out, there is no way for me to live there." And now my dream came true. I live alone, work my job and no contact with my mother. Now listening you, I'm somewhat scared. Could be much much worse...

Thank you, Sam for speaking the truth. I was parentified+ the family scapegoat. No children by choice.

I love this analysis. You really explain this topic perfectly. I married a narcissist but was unaware at age 19. Honestly I never knew people like this existed. My husband was raised in a single home with an older sister. They have basically no relationship and it's due to the monster of a mother who raised them. My husband is mentally probably a two year old at best. I always knew something was wrong but couldn't explain it. It was like they were a clan of evil non humans and they walk around like it normal. My own parents said my husband is numb and void. It's strange to see them walk around with no real attachment to reality. Honestly it looks like it hurts to be live. So sad that they never get feel what we feel inside. It's like everything comes from a place of negativity. Me myself I am making my exist. I tried everything but when I realized what I was dealing with, I have a sense of freedom. I now know it's beyond me. Thankfully I was loved and nurture and came with a strong sense of self so when the narc tried to make me him it didn't wrong. I lead with love and something nobody can take from me. I do send everyone who was raised in this manner love and 🕯️. Wish you guys would have landed in my mother's belly. I'm an only child and she gave a lot of love and boundaries. I guess it all depends of who you end up with. It's so sad that some of you didn't even get a chance. Regardless try to be the best you can if it's possible 🖤🕯️

you have explained my whole childhood , Thank You. (I dont know if i should cry or just turn into The JOKER)

Yes. This is the exact reason why I don't have children either. Now I'm 40 and just recently starting to build a self, so I'm very glad I took that decision. I was the smothered, "perfect" child type, so it took a very long journey to really grasp why was I so unhappy and scidal from a young age, when there was no apparent reason. And this mind whirl is no joke; I have a friend who recently lost a son because she had the same parenting style I went trough. I tried to talk her out of this behaviour, but of course, she can't realize how her "deep love" translated to her son's mental illness, because she considers herself the epitome of the good mother. I'm mad at her; no child should be doomed to that fate.

I have to chime in and identify. I’ve never wanted kids. I was the scapegoat and tossed out of the house at 15. I have found my way. Loved my career and I waited a long time for a relationship. After 25 years of therapy I still need more.

and such child is isolated not only physically, but also mentally as child becomes estranged from others due to the abuse, as child doesn't expect a good treatment from others and because of a constant smear campaign from a narcissist parents. And of course a child can never win in this narcississtic game, because for everyone around a parent, especially a mother, always loves a child, and if a mother says something bad about her own child, than that child must be just pure evil! especially this is totally the case in backwards conservaties societies. so child is not only abused and self projecting but also castigated and reproached by everyone around, by the whole freaking society...

I have struggled for years now to understand why my brother committed suicide. My mom married his dad when we were both around 7 years old. I've heard so many stories about how terrible his biological mother was, for the time she was even around. I have also heard many stories about how difficult my brother was when he was a kid, and how nobody knew how to really 'handle' him. When our parents married each other and we merged households he was a bit aggressive to my younger sister and I for a while (so ive been told). We then grew up together, became very close while our parents fought. Dad was angry a lot, mom started drinking a lot, and there was a good bit of toxicity before my brother and i graduated high school and were out of there. A lot of my childhood memories are blocked out still, but I remember the time I was the most afraid of my mom was when she went at my brother one day. Years later he confessed to me that she was always worse to him. I didn't have the tools to understand how it could even be possible. She was pretty toxic to me too, but it was in different ways I realize now. I remember telling him that mom loved him and could be really harsh. I thought that was the right thing to say, it was before my mental health journey began. And dad was objectively more abusive. The last person he ever responded to was mom, telling her he wasnt doing well. She told him she would get him a subscription to some therapy thing, but mom is a high functioning alcoholic with a shit memory. I'm realizing now she probably shared that with me because I've been her therapist since before I remember. He never found a relationship he was happy in, he rejected our dad for being abusive, but he seemed to trust mom. I did too at the time, it's taken years to get past the intense guilt of just thinking something negative about her. I saw her split in that moment, in the kitchen when we were kids. And it was my fault, I accidentally told on him for something when she was talking to me- i dont even remember what it was. But i was too scared to defend him when she went at him. At least I can see the truth now. I wish she hadn't told me he had reached out to her for help. I wish I hadn't comforted her in that moment. Oh, my brother. There were so few people he felt he could ask anything of, he thought he was a burden. I understand now more than I ever have before. Edit to add: As the non-entity child, I appreciate your words just the way they are. I wrote a poem at 18 which was about how i felt "shattered, like tiny broken stars" it is very validating to hear this talked about without the soft language. I have chased who I am all over the place, and the closest I've ever gotten to finding it is in being a dog owner.

"Rock a bye baby on the tree top, When the wind blows the cradle will rock, When the bough breaks the cradle will fall, And down will come baby cradle and all."

You should study narcissism in many Nigerian families. Highly emotionless, yet strict, verbally abusive, yelling types who leave trails of destruction and harm in their children. Many, not all though.

I appreciate the intellectual analysis on parenting. Even better than university level classes. Thanks Sam!

I could easily not had children I was planning a career uograde as I had realised I was fine with being alone. When my husband took me out to dinner held my hand and said lets start a family I nearly had a heart attack. We had two children but I remember being very afraid that I would be like my mother. Sad but I had a horrible childhood, I'm pleased to say I wasn't perfect but ok at motherhood. They are young successful woman now pursuing their own careers.

I never wanted children and did not have any. For a very long time, I thought it was because my parents had two children when I was 9 and 12 years old. I had to take care of them much of the time. Also, my mother was/is a difficult, smothering person, very controlling, very unpredictable. I did not admire her mothering. Decades passed and I believed these were the reasons I did not want children. I now believe, after some study, that both parents were narcissists. My father is dead and my mother may as well be. I do not believe that I can repair myself but there is some comfort in trying to understand why I am who I am. Thank you for your informative work!

One of your best uploads in my opinion. Thank you.

Thank you for showing me my background. It was painfull to hear but also I feel relief. Now I understand why I had imaginary Friend from mirror… It was „ugly” me. I had 4-5 years old. Now Im 40 and still on path of healing.

Thank you so much for this explanation 🙏

My older brother was the male version of my mom. And of course he would take over for her when she went to work. They shared the same birthday. They even graduated from college together. And from the younger siblings and my perspective he could do no wrong.

I knew from an early age I didn’t want children. And in my 20s I realized I didn’t want my children to experience what I did. At 47 I was diagnosed with ADHD. After studying basic psychology, and the Big 5, I realized my father, grandfather and uncle were/are narcissists. My parents both had massive ACE’s. But they deny them. This talk was excellent. Thank you!

Yet another masterpiece. Thank you Sir.

Wow. This was unbelievable 🙏🏼

Thank You for sharing such an extensive knowledge on ths subject. It is so sad that such are the consequences of trauma dynamics passed on from generation to generation...

💯 agree with you. On the topic of children. The very reason I don't have children my self.

Very good point that narcissistic supply is a source of impaired reality testing. I never thought about it that way!

It's remarkable how your video encapsulated the very essence of my parents and my upbringing. The painful familiarity was so profound that it resonated with me on a cellular level, making the complexities seem almost simple. The cult-like methodologies, such as "we are superior to others, so we cannot engage with them," or the restrictive "not being allowed to leave home even as an adult," are distressingly recognizable. It required relocating to a different continent to liberate myself from their influence.While I have always understood these dynamics intuitively, I would never be able to articulate them as coherently as you have (stating the obvious here). The pressing question is whether this damage can be repaired or if it is even worth attempting. Despite my acute awareness of the detrimental impact my parents had-particularly on my social skills and general ability to participate in life-it remains a constant, conscious effort to avoid reverting to those ingrained patterns. How do we break free from this deeply embedded programming? Thank you.

With every video I question myself and those are not easy questions. But I feel better after that. I do things better. I feel people better. I am not a narcissist, but none of us is completely normal.. I really want to be just a better human. And most of all a better mother. My parents died when I was little so I grew up figuring life on my own through three completely disfunctional foster families. I have zero idea on how to be a patent, all I do is building strong relationship with my kids and being there for them and involve them in what I'm learning and doing. And I literally feel like this man was sent to parent me... Thank you so much, Profesor.

I do not have children either. As children, my mother could not leave my abusive father because he was the bread winner. I swore i would never be dependent on a man financially or connected to a man by having his child. My mother also agreed that having a child puts the responsibility solely on the mother regardless or what anyone says. I could not commit my entire life to a child.

happily childless for these reasons you explained. Me & my spouse getting questioned by society everyday why we are not taking child. I really dont know how to explain these words to them. I feel suffocated, they make me feel like i had done any crime,not bringing a child into this world. Thanks for this video.

PROUD Antinatalist over here. My parents and upbringing brought me to my enlightenment about NOT procreating. This world is disgusting. I will not create and insert an innocent being into it. I won't create an insecurely attached, neurologically, genetically, psychologically damaged person who will suffer, inflict pain on others and pass away. I will put an end to the madness, in my own little way.

Dr Vaknin. If you have time, a question from one of the half-baked. Firstly, your hair is looking terrific here. A bonus because I'm sure I'll rewatch this lecture many times. It's advanced stuff, a horrifying narrative of the origin of the special kind of hell myself and your audience carry quietly - we've little hope of successfully explaining it to others. So, even to hear you articulate the nuance of it is a gift to many of us, so thank you. My question: the social isolation - if it happens chiefly in the child's earlier years, say, pre- to early teens, but then they socialise themselves and seek out 'reality testing' outside the family, is the damage already done by then? By what age will the isolation lead to the loop of self-referencing to the 'bad object'?

I see. I now understand. This really brings into perspective my childhood.

Every point describes me and my life. Brutal.

Mind blowing. But makes so much sense.

That is very interesting. The hippocampus uses memories as landmarks. Hmmm I am going to think on that while I work this evening.

Professor Sam: you offer listeners a great deal of matter for absorption and pondering. Do you really not have children? Hearing you synthesize and reflect your gained life awareness makes me think you may also be speaking from experience as the ‘object’ created by your own parents. I can almost hear them engaging your nascent, incredibly absorbent child mind with some of the attributes of which you speak. I would love to hear you in conversation with three or four other professionals of your caliber (are there that many 🤪?) to gain a deeper understanding of the variations/permutations you have spent your life parsing… Thank you for continuing to post these deeply thought-provoking forays into the life of the mind and its interplay with all of our physical realities.

Sounds a lot like my family structure. Some of us are worse than others, small numbers of people in the family have all the kids while other have none. I don’t have kids and haven’t made any moves in the direction of having them

They messed up big time my father 100% narcisist, manipulated my mother so that i dont receive love from her either. He was afraid of me becoming better then him. Such a tragedy. Im 38 years old and struggeled alwais in life

Man I love what you contribute to the world. Abraham Twerski and You are my fav Psychologists

Thank you so much Dear Professor Sam Vaknin.

Thank you, Professor Sam, for your extraordinary ability to verbalize what all of us children of abuse carry with us. I too decided at a young age that future children for me were off the plate. If I were to ever physically, mentally or verbally abuse anyone as I was, I would just have to kill my self. As a child I watched Pa on Little House on the Prairie tv show. I thought it was a total lie, no fathers treated their daughters as nice as he did.

Love this! Thank you for elucidating this from this particular developmental angle. All of your content is great, but this tied a lot together for me.

That's ,today I understood why I'm like that I'm today.

@11:30, I heard you outline the "appeasement strategy", and i burst into tears. Im 65. I just want to figure out to what level i damaged MY children? What i allowed, what i did or didnt do better... Atonement for me, would be to warn my children. 💥💔

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Prof Sam you are best... impressive!!

I was told by many people over my lifetime that I was not the motherly type, I didn’t deserve to be loved. I was told that I was the ugliest baby they had ever seen. A cross between Gorbachev and Nixon. I have two autistic children, and I hope I help them become responsible, kind, and successful. Success in a parent’s autistic world means very different things as sometimes independence and integrated into society may be the definition. Success doesn’t mean what type of career.

Great work Sam

I'm totally sending this to each of my parents haha

Great Analysis, 👍

So how can one live with ego failure?

Thank you so much for this video Prof. Vaknin. This video was literally a replay of my childhood, I have gone through therapy and have gone no contact with my father and middle sibling, I needed to cleanse my environment in order to heal and re-parent myself but it is still so very hard to integrate myself. Now that I've cleansed my living space, I have been working very hard to piece myself together, put all the fragments together. is there complete recovery from ego failure?

I have known since atleast 11 that there is something wrong with me. I would ask people, is it normal to be able to see yourself outside of yourself? I feel like instead of experiencing the world from 1st person I am experiencing it from 3rd person. When I dream, I am both a character in the dream, and a narrator hovering over myself interpreting/narrating the dream. Like a movie. I feel like a sim character. After watching hours of videos I feel I understand I made myself the bad object. Which is fine. But this video has had me crying in my car for 2 hours. I have a son. Since he was born ive just wanted him to be better than me. I want him to believe in himself and love and prioritize himself, so I only tell him good things about himself. My thoughts were, if I do the opposite of what my mom did to me to him, then he will be better. I feel Im understanding in this video that that will not help him? By me not being able to see any bad behaviours I will still make him mentally ill? When he acts out, I deeply internalize it. I feel like Im failing him and so that is why hes doing it. I wish I could find a doctor like you here. I got bipolar put in my chart after a suicide attempt and now it just gets written off as mood swings and Ive expressed that it is not that bc I dont even have feelings, but no one hears me. I have always known it was me, but I just want to do the best I can to raise someone who trust people and is decently healthy. I grew up in literal cult and a cult family and I just want happiness for my son. 😭

Can thete be psychological classes for pregnant people before they give birth to kids..because I thing a large percentage do not have a clue of impact made by different behaviours to their kids...

I want to change this so I can have a good life and potentially have kids I don't wanna be dead

🤯 Wow. This is very helpful. And affirming. Thank You💜😻

I think this knowledge makes people other-half baked :)

Daaamn, that was good 😮

Looks like there is no chance for us

That's precisely why I don't have children either.

And yes I really believe my mother loved all five of us.

29:20 that was child me totally isolated and alienated from the world focused on the bad object, thinking very negative thoughts about myself. How do I fix in my late 30s?

I am reading the book Living Life Backward: How Ecclesiastes Teaches Us to Live in Light of the End. In this book I found this quote. ''When a man comes to die, no matter what his talents and influence and genius, if he dies unloved his life must be a failure to him and his dying a cold horror.'' - John Steinbeck, East of Eden My narcissistic dad was asked to see an oncologist hematologist by his GP, I had feared the worst and contemplated many thoughts and feelings regarding his eventual death and the suffering he may endure if he gets ill. It finally ended up being nothing major. When I came across this quote it brought me to tears and a state of compassion I had previously not felt.

Is there a thing that a parent needs the child to projective identify? I am pretty sure that my mother needed it as if her life depended on that. She needed me to believe all of the projections and she would sense the resistance as if she had a sixth sense. This was going on for decades, there was nothing left of me I needed to become projective identified so she could feel safe and believe her own projections because I believe she needed to fantasy to be externally validated for her. She had a very fragile “fantasy identity” of being god like mommy- constantly needing validation for this psychosis and skilfully manufacturing that projective identification in me and my father and sisters. Is this a common thing?

Omg did I knew that my family or my mum is a narc I would never had my daughter. My son is doing okay but he is also traumatized by my sick family members. Im cutting out contact more and more with everyone in my family. Even sick grandparents cause I guess they are all narcs also. Im keeping mostly to myself. So I might can attract better people. I dont know. I hope I can attract something good, cause Ive gone through hell all my life.

You have changed my diaper mind many times.

How do you know that I choose childless due to being raised by a narcisstic mother?

It seems obvious to me now, but it took me a long time to realize that the politics of the world RELIES on bad parenting. If only responsible people were physically able to reproduce (or even 'allowed' to reproduce)... there would soon be no surplus to retirement in society ; and no surplus to requirement in society would mean... no volunteers to fill the lower ranks of the military. Isn't it funny that the dream of *world* *peace* is so easily achieved... if only mankind became completely sterile.

Thank you 🙏

Wow..this video resonates with me...thats what my mother did to me

I always thought there was something wrong with me and I couldn’t raise a healthy child because I wasn’t healthy. Being raised by two Narcissists, mother being a dead mother, dad being a criminal that ended up murdering his girlfriend in a narcissistic rage because she broke up with him and then committing suicide because he couldn’t deal with the new version of himself that he created. Of course then he decided to make the choice of the ultimate abandonment of suicide, leaving myself and my brother behind. lol 😂

My kids are good kids, and my husband never compliments them, he would rage up to seven hours whenever they dare stand up to him or dare protect me.

An addition to your list of disqualifiers from Parental Blame: ASD Spectrum Disorder ( Theory of Mind) *Premack and Woodward 1978

And what about nutrition we are what we eat...My son became very ill as an adult after eating junk food...

Hello Prof, thank you for this highly informative video. Would you say the appeasement vs rebellion strategies in childhood correspond to the formation of Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders respectively?

All this is applicable in all power imbalance situations, such as white America versus black America, Israelis versus Palestinians, show trials in repressive communist Russia & China, coloniser versus colonised, boss versus employees, narcissist versus victim of narcissist, etc etc etc

Is there any correlation with music performers and narcissism? Not the obvious lead singer that adores attention, but the less visible musicians in the background

Gold👍🏼

Sam, if children are exposed to all the above in various amounts, is it possible to turn this around at any point if they’re still young? Do you have any advice for parents who were not able to prevent them from exposure due to Malignant Narc father? (Also abusing and draining mother, relentlessly) Any information would be greatly appreciated. Children are 4/6/8 years old…. Thanks in advance!

We had a collective Social isolation recently.

Professor, can we build an ego in our thirties after spending over a decade learning and educating ourselves and expanding our self-awareness? So we can be somewhat healthy 🙏

This reminds me of the parenting in the black American community