How to be a Powerful Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)

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Being a highly sensitive person (HSP) comes with a unique set of benefits. HSPs often exhibit a deep capacity for empathy, making them attuned to the emotions and needs of others, which can enhance personal relationships and foster meaningful connections. Their heightened sensory processing allows them to appreciate subtleties in art, nature, and everyday experiences, often leading to a rich inner life and creative expression. Moreover, their ability to notice nuances and changes in their environment can contribute to thorough and thoughtful decision-making, providing an advantage in both personal and professional settings. Finally, the reflective nature of HSPs can lead to profound insights and a deep understanding of complex situations, benefiting problem-solving and emotional management.
Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.
He has published several articles and books in these areas and is the author of:
The BPD Card Deck: 50 Ways to Balance Emotions and Live Well with Borderline Personality Disorder. Available at: www.shorturl.at/jBHJV
Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: tinyurl.com/2anv8dww
The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: goo.gl/LQEgy1
Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): goo.gl/BLRkFy
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: goo.gl/sZYhym
Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).
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@wenofzen9139 16 күн бұрын

The popping is VERY intrusive to my autistic brain. I understand why it is a part of the video, but it physically hurts to listen to this when the pops startle me. But the content is excellent.

@Fenjar4022 15 күн бұрын

I'm not so much on the neurodiverse side and I find it really disturbing too, so you are not alone. The information is very good, there is no need for those audio effects😊

@regineheine5707 15 күн бұрын

I am not autistic. Nevertheless I get disabled to listen to your content by these noises.

@carriehobbes2448 15 күн бұрын

I’ve gotten overwhelmed with both audio and the sudden zooming in and out of images and dr. Fox :( really puts my nervous system on “ALERT! DANGER!” Mode - I’m quite sensitive but this is the first time a dr fox video has felt frightening to watch and listen to. Being HSP sucks 😢

@caringforall4454 16 күн бұрын

Elaine Eron wrote the books on HSP. She hypothesizes that high sensitivity is a genetic variance- with only fraction of population having it. Others believe being highly sensitive is an environmental epigenetic adaptation children have to make to survive a toxic or narcissistic family

@DrDanielFox 16 күн бұрын

Interest. Thanks for sharing.

@oregonsnob31 8 күн бұрын

Are there any books written by trusted sources who delve into this topic of environmental epigenetic adaptation and HSP?

@akat3628 16 күн бұрын

Awesome topic, Dr. Fox.

@word_salad_bingo 15 күн бұрын

Dr. Fox, thank you so much for this one. This was exactly what I needed today. After DBT, EMDR, and now some neurofeedback under my belt I don't think I'd qualify for a full BPD diagnosis but I know I will always be built differently from most people. I think my own (conditioned) reaction to my sensitive subjective experience is what's frightening and this really helped pull me out of a bad headspace today.

@carriehobbes2448 15 күн бұрын

Dr. Fox just started watching the video - but feeling sudden anxiety with the way the screen swooshes in and out especially with the noise May I suggest having a more soothing style of presenting your excellent videos? This one seems designed to grab the attention of a toddler (nothing wrong in being a toddler but this is SERIOUSLY overwhelming for this HSP, I wonder if others are struggling to watch it too). I really enjoy your content and right now I’m having to mute the video and turn subtitles on. Which really is a shame because the calm soothing tone of your voice REALLY helps to take info in I don’t know who edits your videos but please could you let them know that this one is very overstimulating both audibly and visibly? Not able to watch it right through - which is a shame because I do feel cursed being an HSP! Oh dear. Can’t even handle the screen suddenly pushing you left to right, zooming in and out. VERY frantic - just guessing but this feels like it was edited by someone who has become numb to auditory and visual stimuli (eg. Someone who plays violent video games, for one) - it’s the opposite end of the spectrum from people who are more sensitive than normal. Please can we have this video reedited and rereleased in a more calm format? This is a very important topic and I’d love to absorb it! Thank you! 🙂

@joyfulgirl2009 9 күн бұрын

It made my pain way worse watching this video with all the useless noise. It's funny how people talk about things and have no depth of awareness that will help them understand these things I mean there was thought put in this video this is so frustrating

@mlewelk 9 күн бұрын

My trauma therapist just said he thinks I am a hsp.. Great video, thanks for posting. Watching from LinkedIn.

@magueysunset 16 күн бұрын

I used to apologize incessantly, and even thank people too much...even if they disrespected me. That workbook called 30 Days to Stop Apologizing by Harper Daniels was helpful, as well as the Tao Te Ching and books about boundary setting. I still do it at times, but getting better.

@DrDanielFox 16 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

@JagoShogun 15 күн бұрын

Hello Doc, I was studying a documentary on the evolution of hyper-vigilance, and it's correlation to producing more epinephrine which in turn, metabolizes sugar and produces more muscle mass. And it all plays with fight-or-flight or 'aggression and fear' and all of this correlates to (my) bpd in general. Having lived like this for a long time, sugar does nothing to/for me and I am built like a truck for it, but I am more aggressive or run more than I should from situations. I've also heard people with bpd produce more epinephrine as a natural consequence to their condition.

@DrDanielFox 14 күн бұрын

That's fascinating how all these factors tie into your experience with bpd. It's great that you're diving deep into understanding the connections between hyper-vigilance and epinephrine production.

@WTMI 16 күн бұрын

Dr. Fox, I am so glad I found you. It has been a few years now. And, it seems, every time I really need it, you come out with something relevant just at the right time. Thank you so very much for your compassion and understanding; your ability to shed that light to others and help shake the negative perception of the emotional experience generally.🙏 ... I love a good Americano too. LOL

@Pxliny 14 күн бұрын

I feel seen Thank You! I'm diagnosed with bpd, social anxiety and ptsd but I feel like I'm also a hsp. Nowadays it's hard for me to solitude without feeling lonely but I'm quickly overwhelmed when I have to interact with people around me that I'm not at least 90% sure if they really like and accept me as I am. I'm always thinking am I acting right or am I too stiff and don't talk enough... I also tend to dissociate when I'm feeling overwhelmed in a group with a lot of people I don't really know but have to interact with like for example in university. I feel like your advice to just watch people or be with someone I'm feeling save with but doing our own things are very helpful so I don't feel lonely and my mood doesn't drop into being sad and feeling disconnected from the world. I think having a partner would help me but social anxiety and bpd make it difficult. (I hope my English is understandable)

@DrDanielFox 14 күн бұрын

Your words mean a lot to me. I'm grateful that my content could resonate with you and offer some comfort.

@Jar0Jess 14 күн бұрын

I've been watching your videos not realizing you're the one who wrote the book that saved my life. Thank you. ❤ was diagnosed with BPD and autism last year. And been learning so much about my life and past and my behavior it's flooded in and has also taught me I can trust my own perspective and myself as long as I take care of my adult life so my kid self can be comfortable.

@DrDanielFox 14 күн бұрын

I'm so glad to hear that my book and videos have been helpful for you. Thank you for sharing your story.

@aquamarinedream8304 15 күн бұрын

Makes me feel odd because other people tend not to process as deeply. 😅 When I find a thoughtful person I'm so happy.

@monopthalmoss 15 күн бұрын

Totally relate to this:) it can be a lonely road sometimes but... We always find others:). Peace and love:)

@ArchanaMehta-pn4hm 16 күн бұрын

Very helpful thankyou somuch

@suzanahas4740 9 күн бұрын

Excellent explanation. I recognized myself in most of the situations. I used to blame my sensitivity and I was trying to toughen up myself bcs I was seeing it as a flaw. Thank you for helping us change the perception.. I definitely need to work on distortions, which I often fall pray to.

@DrDanielFox 8 күн бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@lisanapoli257 16 күн бұрын

I work as a psych NP and enjoying your videos. Thank you for the excellent work and sharing your knowledge.

@Bobby_101 15 күн бұрын

I'd give a little addition. The people you are describing are opposite of extroversion. They are intensely introverted, but with the need to be social (being social does not men extroversion). Extroversion is best described as positive emotionality and ability to easily handle and adapt to chaos - having high dopamine and adrenaline. Which is literally the opposite of being highly sensitive. HSP are a specific combination of person - extremely introverted people who need a lot of social connection (oxytocin). (Being social is connected to oxytocin, rathen then Extroversion - which is connected to dopamine - epinephrine)

@DrDanielFox 14 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your insights and adding to the discussion!

@feelingsubconscious3040 7 күн бұрын

Today, I began to realize i am highly sensitive person, also who has BPD. I have to protect my energy and SET BOUNDARIES. I don't know how to verbalize them to people though. For me, they come up after the boundary is crossed, but too late, i have split on you. It's not like you can randomly bring them up un convo. Last time i told someone your crossing a boundary they said f*** your boundaries. She was my best friend. 😢 i often think of bpd as a lioness sleeping in her den. That day my lion ate her.

@DrDanielFox 7 күн бұрын

Setting boundaries is crucial for your well-being. It's important to communicate them clearly to those around you.

@LinYouToo 11 күн бұрын

The sensory experiences on this video are uncomfortable with the whooshing and the pops but great message

@DrDanielFox 11 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

@shahilagh 16 күн бұрын

Thank you. I just want to say and wish you reflect on this that people have different circumstances and a HSP in a good environment is powerful and any person has some level or tolerance. In the presence of constant abuse at times of vulnerability any human beings including HSP will be affected forever. A HSP who grows up in family home or have access is different with when someone had to leave home young leave alone in different countries falls unwell all sick. And that is not easy at all forever shaping life

@DrDanielFox 16 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing

@bigyeticane 16 күн бұрын

This video is a great idea. The ability to determine the intentions or emotional/mental state displayed by others allows us to understand them better, and it could help us to have a better relationship with other people than a person who can't read them so easily might have. Of course this all depends upon a person's mastery of mindfulness, and how far that they have come along the road to managing any affective instability. Thanks for the positive mindset and insight, Dr. Fox. Also, thank you for posting videos that help and enlighten for free. Most other self-promoting mental health content producers on youtube are more concerned ultimately with you purchasing a solution to your problems from their website.

@DrDanielFox 15 күн бұрын

Glad you found it helpful.

@Kristbjorg-Nymann 16 күн бұрын

Yes, I most certainly struggle with managing my emotions. I have BPD, Mixed Bipolar and ODD...along with other comorbidities.

@WhitePelicansareReal 16 күн бұрын

Definitely a Highly Sensitive Person. So sensitive while watching this great video, I found the sounds, photo changes distracting. Not a bad thing, just a current moment situation. I believe you are spot on about this! Thank you for speaking up about this also possibly stigmatizing situation we can find ourselves in. 😊

@angiekleindl8012 16 күн бұрын

Same!

@Nonethewiser621 16 күн бұрын

Me too HSP! Too many pops, wooshes and photochanges.

@d.nakamura9579 15 күн бұрын

That could also just be ADD TBH

@debbiecarter5824 15 күн бұрын

I’m confused . Why are people acting like HSP is parallel to autism?? I am a HSP and I am not autistic. Did I miss something?

@ja2de769 15 күн бұрын

Interesting feedback on this video. Behavioral health, mental health, personalities, etc. Our understanding is evolving, and I hope that continues. In reference to Autism, there may be some traits of HSP. Or maybe not. And, someone may have traits of HSP and not be diagnosed with Autism. Many things are on a continuum. My thoughts are that these categories of sensory and developmental differences will change anyway. Thank you for the video. :)

@jakebull2496 15 күн бұрын

and that sound effect is irritating...

@monopthalmoss 15 күн бұрын

Yes:) more information and videos that extol the virtues of being sensitive.and not the potential drawbacks! Theres a richness to life experience that is..worth everything in my opinion wheb youre sensitive and start really honing your focus on positive asoects snd learn to stay "grounded"..no matter what Im a practicing energy channel/healer

@alund1975 16 күн бұрын

The popping is causing me not to be able to hear what you’re saying very well

@DrDanielFox 15 күн бұрын

It shouldn’t be popping. Sorry about that.

@gluten-freevegannutritious8522 15 күн бұрын

Whoosh! Over and over every transition hard to focus

@Sprkll82 16 күн бұрын

THIS was the one. The breakdown, the compassionate accuracy without stigma- this was so helpful to understand how to care for my powerful heart and mind that also needs solitude, art, and regulation 🤩

@oregonsnob31 10 күн бұрын

The slide changes sound is super scary to me. Guess this makes me highly sensitive?

@DrDanielFox 10 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's always fascinating to hear different perspectives.

@celestyn05 16 күн бұрын

Shout out to all the ones who had to look at the whole store before "picking something out" as kids! 😂 Decisions are hard sometimes!

@DrDanielFox 15 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts

@MelissaLove-WeRgr8 9 күн бұрын

… goes to make a comment and ADHD spd bpd brin is not functioning … returns to video… it’s the whooshing sound for me 😖 .. took my loops out under my studio beats and I’m like nopeeee back in . .. also anyone do this guys bpd workbook??. Realized rn that I have it and still have not gotten into it, just learned I have aphantasia and cool to know now what he looks like and can at least “ hear” the authors “voice” 😂

@ArchanaMehta-pn4hm 16 күн бұрын

🙏

@user-jm3vi3tc2n 8 күн бұрын

Hsp is the same Bpd

@gregorverstraelen3347 15 күн бұрын

Please cut out all the useless and annoying noises. Otherwise much appreciated topic.

@nunyabznz3029 15 күн бұрын

As an HSP the annoying noise that keeps rumbling through the audio is so bad I could not follow your talk.

@carriehobbes2448 15 күн бұрын

For me it was the noise AND the sudden swooshing visuals pushing Dr. Fox to the right and suddenly zooming in - dreadful. I’m trying to listen now while staring at comment just to be able to hear his voice but can’t follow along :( Thank GOD his older videos aren’t anything like this or I never would have been able to watch them!

@joyfulgirl2009 9 күн бұрын

As a highly sensitive this video and all the extra activity in it in REALLY annoying holy moly. No need for constant noises and pop ups during a presentation dang

@DrDanielFox 8 күн бұрын

I’m getting the video redone. I know people are bothered by it. I apologize.

@AJ22-80 16 күн бұрын

You just pathologised HSP.

@DrDanielFox 15 күн бұрын

Sorry you feel that way but I don’t see like that at all.

@gofai274 14 күн бұрын

It is literally curse, same only most evil corrupt ppl get to power as tolstoy already realized... 0.00001% decide everything you can help only yourself that is hard truth...

@DrDanielFox 14 күн бұрын

It's disheartening to see the influence of a select few, but remember that small actions can still make a big difference.

@gofai274 14 күн бұрын

@@DrDanielFox Sorry that is not how anything works, everything is pre-determined 0.00001% decide who goes to places of power and everything. RIch will have AGI soon. I know smarter ppl than me and they couldn't do absolutely anything... High IQ ppl withdraw from society as they know this shit is over...

@gofai274 14 күн бұрын

@@DrDanielFox Sure even you cannot even believe this, you are better than this cmon...

@MrBungle900 15 күн бұрын

The irony of making a video for people who are highly sensitive and filling it with such annoying pops and swooshes that we can’t watch it. The unnecessary sound effects are drowning out your voice and I can’t focus on anything else but the next popping sound. And the next. Who made it like this? It’s frustrating me so much. I’m sure the content is great but I will not be able to continue watching it. Had to give up after a few minutes. 🤨😩

@NancyMichaels-mk3st 13 күн бұрын

I don’t like the background sounds

@DrDanielFox 13 күн бұрын

Sorry about that.

@sfaye5548 8 күн бұрын

😱😖🥴noises unbearable!😵‍💫

@DrDanielFox 8 күн бұрын

So sorry.

@joyfulgirl2009 9 күн бұрын

Toi MUCH SWOOSHING AND NOISE WHY?????? Why didnt you think about this???

@PiePaivi 14 күн бұрын

Right, when one is HSP, as I am, it's not good to have those funny sound effects...I jumped many times. Next time, forget them. I had to stop listening.

@DrDanielFox 14 күн бұрын

I appreciate your feedback and will keep it in mind for future videos.

@lynnh1682 16 күн бұрын

Highly sensitive... 🤔 Are INTJ highly sensitive? Haha.

@becky2470 16 күн бұрын

Everything was great except for the part when you kept saying “highly sensitive person” instead of autistic.

@DrDanielFox 16 күн бұрын

Interesting feedback. Thanks

@becky2470 16 күн бұрын

I don’t mean to sound rude; it just pains me to hear an in-depth description of trait after trait of autism and have it called something flippant like “highly sensitive.” Autistic women are so often villainized with a misdiagnosis of BPD or, conversely, we’re dismissed as highly sensitive. This implies that we’re overly or hyper-sensitive, rather than asserting that we’re having a different physiological experience through our senses. I also wonder how someone who fits the criteria for highly sensitive would not quality as disordered. Overstimulation, intense attention to detail, and hyper empathy are all debilitating in their own right. It’s difficult to imagine someone with this profile feeling empowered as a minority amidst “averagely” sensitive (neurotypical) people. My prediction is that someday HSP becomes an outdated misnomer for low support needs autistic. But I mean no disrespect and think your video offers helpful advice for anyone who is more sensitive than most.

@akat3628 15 күн бұрын

@@becky2470 Hi Becky, my understanding is that HSP and autistic are two different things. I identify as being an HSP, but not autistic. I appreciate your different perspective, however. Take care.

@debbiecarter5824 15 күн бұрын

What ??? I’m confused . Why are people acting like HSP is parallel to autism?? I am a HSP and I am not autistic. Did I miss something?

@jordsupp 15 күн бұрын

@becky2470 surely HSP covers a broader cohort than ASD? ASD = HSP, but I don't see that HSP = ASD. But I might be wrong.

@BobbiFarren 15 күн бұрын

Nice topic. Please, stop (or at least greatly lessen) your sound effects for every split screen, zoom, pan, cross-fade, and lower thirds. It's simply obnoxious, excessive, distracting, the uneven audio cross-fade between your lesson and the audio effect, loses its intended "accent" to a bullet point, ad nauseum.... ....and your talking to/about HSP's....

@DrDanielFox 14 күн бұрын

I made a note of it. Thank you for the feedback.

@attheranch873 13 күн бұрын

The popping sound and the sudden movement backward and forwards is very distracting from what you’re saying. Why have this on a video for sensitive people?? it’s disturbing so I stopped watching it.

@DrDanielFox 13 күн бұрын

Sorry about all that.