How To Be Judgement-Proof and Never Fear the Opinions of Others

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This talk by leading psychologist and TV and Radio personality, Dr Mel Gill, was filmed at A-fest, Mindvalley’s transformational event for entrepreneurs and game-changers interested in personal growth. You have UNLIMITED potential. So your personal growth should be UNLIMITED too! That’s why we’ve launched the Quest All Access Pass for unrestricted learning and self-development. Get instant access to all our transformational courses 👉 go.mindvalley.com/qaap_mv_des...
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IMPORTANT TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Introduction of Schizophrenia
03:13 See yourself as a contributor in someone's health
04:12 The ending story
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@Mindvalley 4 жыл бұрын

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@XXXXBossXXXX 3 жыл бұрын

Hurt people Hurt Others. Insecure people project their Insecurities.

@XXXXBossXXXX 3 жыл бұрын

@@sequentially_gaming5628 People who have grown up in a bad environment/community , and frequently experience hurt, feeling of abandonment, made fun of, outcasted, etc. especially coming from family or close relatives, tend to do the same thing to others in some way shape or form. This is usually because they’re not aware of this. Thats why school bullies are usually kids who have it rough back at home.

@XXXXBossXXXX 3 жыл бұрын

@@sequentially_gaming5628 naaaah naaah lmaooo

@XXXXBossXXXX 2 жыл бұрын

@@frostaxcess how so? can you elaborate?

@pastapiano8202 2 жыл бұрын

@@sequentially_gaming5628 🤣

@JOVI08 4 жыл бұрын

This is the most direct and practical advise to kill the fear of judgement. No sugarcoating. Love it!

@mattcorby186 4 жыл бұрын

But there is no way for me to know if they celebrate when I leave. All I can do is love myself and try to spread love wherever I go.

@ZeerakImran 4 жыл бұрын

You know it bro

@raftaarsingh2132 3 жыл бұрын

No one asks the cactus guy🌵 to stay when he gets up to leave early

@Omkar3324 3 жыл бұрын

Judgement is not always u r this u r that stuff. Somestuff is very subtle, people on a subconscious level think of other people and judge themselves as lesser than them and then they don't say u r this n that, but they act like the same way that they conditioned their belief or judgment to be. Thats also very hurtful.

@ANONYMOUS-DEK012 2 жыл бұрын

All u have to understand... Is that ur a no body... U r not some celeb that is on ur groups mind once u leave... Ur the only one they talk about... They gossip only about u... Nah... Nobody cares.. That's it

@Sky4Jus Жыл бұрын

Lol imagine believing in love

@SurelyDivine 4 жыл бұрын

After watching this, I feel like I don’t need anymore lessons on how to get over my anxiety/fear of judgement from people😂 This is phenomenal!

@sterlingpless9280 2 жыл бұрын

Who are the nicest the people are the ones who get judged

@angelmd43 2 жыл бұрын

Well answer to your question: They celebrate when I leave because I tell them the truth and most want you to lie to them. Good video! Thank you!

@mannmadantilak489 4 жыл бұрын

Enlightening speech by Dr Mel Gill. Will surely help for controlling reactions to judgments by others. Also this will encourage Positive talks. Thanks to Dr. Mel Gill & Mindvalley Team for sharing this. 👍

@nkandufx846 3 жыл бұрын

What people say or think of me,won't determine who I'm..

@punaheleboy 2 жыл бұрын

I am happy to be a part of something I don’t completely understand

@littlelily4 4 жыл бұрын

These are amazing tips! Will definitely use them 😊

@vbvoeurn 3 жыл бұрын

They celebrated when I was leaving. But this is the opposition meaning. When I first came, they didn’t know me, so there was no celebration. But when I was leaving, they celebrated a party for me.

@punaheleboy 2 жыл бұрын

I met compassion and I accepted myself

@Sarah-zg2iq 2 жыл бұрын

Amazing advice! Thank you sir 👏🏼

@ronaknarkhede674 4 жыл бұрын

I would not be scared of being judged if i had achieved something in my life

@4dimensi507 3 жыл бұрын

Set morning routine. Set achievable goal every morning. For me, it's Luminosity Brain Training everyday. It's great!

@4dimensi507 3 жыл бұрын

Here's the link: www.lumosity.com/en/

@4dimensi507 3 жыл бұрын

I drink honey & exercise every morning. Write your dreams, set your goals. Prepare your equipment before sleep, and feel like champion the next day!

@4dimensi507 3 жыл бұрын

Write your dreams literally every morning as well. It's great source of imagination! X

@ojt4438 2 жыл бұрын

What you have achieved doesn't define you as person.

@terefloresca8909 2 жыл бұрын

I grew up scared of a judgement i think i need to accept the fact that is normal thing to deal with in right way criticism that i need to Face

@HH-vg5sb 3 жыл бұрын

Powerful question at the end of this message.

@Shinylivingdex 2 жыл бұрын

I needed this today, thank you.

@4dimensi507 3 жыл бұрын

Some people call you con man Mr.Gill. But i believe their words are those mental institution you're talking about. Bless you, Mr.Gill. I hope you will us bring a good life sir 😊

@hoksicala Жыл бұрын

I always need a hand with this kind of stuff. Thank you.

@illusionaryjourney 3 жыл бұрын

Brilliant. Thank you

@punaheleboy 2 жыл бұрын

I met compassion and I accepted myself.

@spacecowboy9479 9 ай бұрын

Thank you very much.

@Tfghjknjjjjnjn 4 жыл бұрын

Good video made me think about some things...bless u sir

@JanKatrinaGuanzon 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this nugget of wisdom hehe 😚

@Syncere20 3 жыл бұрын

Great video thank you

@katerinasofie6879 Жыл бұрын

This is brilliant!!

@tiffanytiff_fitmarie6487 8 жыл бұрын

The only right mind is where you are right now. Every single person on this planet is out of their mind and in their mind in every single second! This is why there is no real judgment. It is only within all mans perceptions of wha they believe every second! We can transcend all received such judgment by being in our now moments of intuitive awareness and personal enlightenment! But do we actually think that we come up with stuff. No it is a constant flow of consciousness that we all are connected to. There isn't you and me separation we all are one and receiving so called beliefs perceptions and conditions by what we focus on! So when we release fears and stop resisting to the real pure self God consciousness of wholeness we can change our eyes of duality of judging right and wrong and have singularity of sight for ones self knowing there is not one of us that is better or lesser

@complexjanedoe 3 жыл бұрын

Idk I'd you will see this but I needed it so much. Thank you

@drewg8542 3 жыл бұрын

“Earth is one of the largest mental institutions on earth.” Lol. Great video though!

@kimlec3592 2 жыл бұрын

This man gets it !

@alenferina7381 2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha, love it. Love you Mel.

@haigohaygo4353 10 ай бұрын

So grear video wow awesone!🎉

@hirunniceder9514 3 жыл бұрын

Waaaawww that was awesome

@iluvthembeats3.031 2 жыл бұрын

Excellent

@tiaho-whetuford5338 2 жыл бұрын

SO INSPIRED

@jayg.a Жыл бұрын

I'm not sure why I'm receiving an introduction to schizophrenia. I also don't think the title has much to do with anything he was talking about

@zahidshah3135 4 жыл бұрын

Do people celeberate when you come to their lives or do they celerberate when you leave👍👍👍

@kavyadeo4921 2 жыл бұрын

Why don't I like this? If I think badly for closed ones, even if they are judgemental or constantly angry, doesn't sound like a good idea, or even that they are mentally ill. This feels like making fun/ not taking seriously things that should be. ):

@kimlec3592 2 жыл бұрын

Psychological & emotional abuse by family is a massively unacknowledged cause of so-called mental illness. Mothers are often monsters.

@KingaGorski 5 жыл бұрын

I'd like to think I'm judgment-proof!

@pkavenger9990 3 жыл бұрын

i dont get society really, i give you my personal experience: A guy always keep bringing up how skinny i am, every time but in fact actually i was shredded but i live in Pakistan and everyone here is square shaped body so they think V tappers are actually weak. Now i cant always take off my shirt and show them my muscle to prove that. So, one day that guy again brought up "me being skinny thing" and he literally hit my nerve that day. I got up and grabbed him and judo throw him and put a sleeper hold on him. everyone was like woo WTF happened, that skinny guy just throw a bodybuilder guy like he was nothing and put him in a submission hold. i took it a little far with sleeper hold but i did not kill the guy. And everyone who used to enjoyed skinny jokes on me, look at me like i am some kind of monster and start showing sympathy for the 20 Kg heavier guy than me, who just got smashed by me. This is what is wrong with the society, they push you to the dark side and then play victim when you go there. From that day i got two rules: 1) Always meet other people with a simple on your face but dont get attached or frank until you know someone for 2-3 years. 2) Stay away from negative and judgmental people, if you dont get open with them and stay reserve then they can't say anything bad to you, if they still do then, dont ignore confront them and just say "You wanna fight? if no then tuck your tail between your legs and crawl away some place else". Most of these guys who do that are pussy and they get immediately scared when they hear you say that. Negative people always pick on people with low energy level. Honestly i have no friends right now because it is very hard to find someone honorable and positive. Those who are honorable and positive are introverts and dont socialize much. But i am still looking for a girl who can complete my life. i have a dog as a substitute to friends, they are way better trust me. You dont have to deal with all the bullshit and drama with them.

@4dimensi507 3 жыл бұрын

Bless you, my friend. I hope you lead a good life now 😊

@4dimensi507 3 жыл бұрын

Remember, many part of us are mental hospital patient. Those people who hurt you, they're just patient in curing. You don't get angry at mental hospital patient, right? You know they're ill, they're not on their right mind. You sympathize with these patients, you understand them, you're better, and so, you forgive them 😊

@4dimensi507 3 жыл бұрын

People who hurt you are ill, don't mind 😊

@pkavenger9990 3 жыл бұрын

@@4dimensi507 Thanks bro.

@hafsaabid7454 3 жыл бұрын

Same problem I just don’t understand society I always have to behave in a certain way to fit in and when people judge me for just being myself it really hurts especially when the people are your family. I used to suppress my self so much that I stopped talking to the point that now I struggle to form the right sentence structure or right words to express myself, it makes me look dumber than I really am and people treat me like I have no intelligence.

@user-ye1rk4kd3j 3 жыл бұрын

if you don’t feel the awkward, thenawkward one becomes them

@elisejones4361 4 жыл бұрын

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

@darkvador9428 4 жыл бұрын

❤💪

@gabrielguzman6018 2 жыл бұрын

That's why I don't like it when people get mad for your facial expressions

@NicholasDhruboDas Жыл бұрын

May Allah bless him.

@YouilAushana Жыл бұрын

If you did nothing to another person than this is fine. But what if you were the person at fault?

@aru2279 Жыл бұрын

Is there a parameter to distinguish normal and mentally ill people?

@rod287 Жыл бұрын

(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). FEAR is Perhaps the GREATEST BARRIER WEE have to ACCEPTANCE WEE r AFRAID if WEE REAL-EYE the REALITY of SOMEONE WEE CANT DEAL WITH watt the Reality WUD Mean r with the CONSEQUENCES

@rainy.d7404 Жыл бұрын

So I walk around thinking everyone is crazy? 🤔🤣

@abrahampalmer8761 2 жыл бұрын

1:40

@4dimensi507 3 жыл бұрын

Bapakku, itu becanda receh supir bis kenapa bapak bawa ke festival😂

@STUPIDYOUTUBE_HIDINGMSGS 2 жыл бұрын

So what I got from this is, I should be a bus driver instead.

@sugarfreesheryl9 Жыл бұрын

I only have one friend 😂

@grv_agni 2 жыл бұрын

What the fuck did WW 2 had to do with the topic. Man's making the audience crazy intentionally.

@raily6824 2 жыл бұрын

😜

@glynnispitcher9423 2 жыл бұрын

(REHAB TIME!) EU R LONELY NOT BECAUSE NO ONE NEEDS EU BUT BECAUSE. EU CARE ABOUT WHO IS NEXT TO EU. FACTS OVA FEELINGS!

@ezbornentertainerz 6 жыл бұрын

Lol mel gill ... is known as a con man in SG..

@elizabethfabulous8991 6 жыл бұрын

Ever so true.

@DrMelGill 5 жыл бұрын

I can sue you for this defamation EZ! Suggest you remove this now before I escalate it like I did the last time.

@maranofan 4 жыл бұрын

What the actual FUCK man. He replied, that’s so creepy

@4dimensi507 3 жыл бұрын

@@DrMelGill Okey, i have no interest to get entangled into this, i simply wonder who type this. I just watched a 5-minute video about Mel Gill who do not care about mentally-ill insults. Who wrote this reply? Second, no one call himself legendary psychotherapist. I have a hard time believing this account is yours, even though it's yours. Third, sir, whatever you're doing, stop. Just stop. Around you, stop.

@4dimensi507 3 жыл бұрын

@@DrMelGill It's been 2 years now. Hope you're much better now, mr.Gill. Bless you, have a lovely life ^^