How to Be More Confident (Use this technique)

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@DerekHalpern 5 жыл бұрын

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@elshanquliyev6134 8 жыл бұрын

I asked a cashier, he responded "you confuse the days. It was free yesterday". Apparently he was way more confident than me😂

@vedangsawant5506 8 жыл бұрын

haha

@Ostnizdasht206 7 жыл бұрын

You were out alphaed.

@jozf8163 7 жыл бұрын

Not really, that was just a new opening. You just need a secondary response to a situation such as this.

@Galahad5923 7 жыл бұрын

how did you reply to this @Elshan Quliyev ?

@elshanquliyev6134 7 жыл бұрын

subramani ravikrishna İ paid. that's it

@marqueemoon5710 7 жыл бұрын

I said it and the cashier said back "ohhhh I've seen that video too!" it was rather embarrassing.

@y2m3e.45 7 жыл бұрын

scumbaggo omg that's the worst xD

@raheellmomiin4064 7 жыл бұрын

scumbaggo

@estebansaldana7097 7 жыл бұрын

@themainflamingo134 7 жыл бұрын

lmaooo

@poppynut 7 жыл бұрын

lol

@aryamangoel5483 7 жыл бұрын

The comments section has just basically become a place where people make stories about going to the cashier without actually going

@abcd-ld3bb 7 жыл бұрын

Aryaman Goel Hahahaha that's so true

@mylifeaskarliegh1419 7 жыл бұрын

Aryaman Goel true af

@DaJukezz 7 жыл бұрын

I am that cashier :/

@poppynut 7 жыл бұрын

true dat!

@lenalee5516 6 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same while reading their stories 😂😂😂😂

@drevian 7 жыл бұрын

i said that to the cashier and my mom hit me in the back of my head and told me , " shut yo dumb ass up you know damn well hersheys aint free " and now im less confident :(

@teamchaotic5213 7 жыл бұрын

WTF HAHAHHAHAHAHSHGGAHHAHSHCZJCJ

@buzzie96 7 жыл бұрын

I'm SCREAMING

@mhmdbilani 7 жыл бұрын

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH LOL bad luck dude XD

@sigmamale520 7 жыл бұрын

aww crap

@y2m3e.45 7 жыл бұрын

UGLAH. lmao xD

@michz2256 8 жыл бұрын

I went to a super market yesterday and at the cashier i said wait it's not free today ! He told me no it's not and we laughed and now we're best friends.

@speedycord4916 8 жыл бұрын

did you talk about something after you told him the line? or you're saying that you only laughed and became friends

@michz2256 8 жыл бұрын

+Speedy Cord Did you really believe what I just said ?! 😂 that's really funny...

@speedycord4916 8 жыл бұрын

+mich Z Really? shit man..... when you said that you became friends with the cashier you made my day and made me happy but now it's just a lie......

@engineerSalih 8 жыл бұрын

"now it's just a lie" and so is Santa Claus

@speedycord4916 8 жыл бұрын

Hummer Lol I knew that Santa Claus is a lie since I was born

@10thLobbyPls 10 жыл бұрын

My issue is that when I know I'm the centre of attention, I start going bright red and that forces me back into my shell..

@PoungSauce 10 жыл бұрын

Feel your pain bro

@flcn_bugsbunny2424 7 жыл бұрын

Luke L Exactly the same happens to me at school, then people start making jokes about how red I am and it forces me further into my shell

@Jade-ot9rs 7 жыл бұрын

I have the same issue and I can't help it, and then people say 'you're going red' which just makes it worse! It's so embarrassing lmao

@ronaldcervantes1959 6 жыл бұрын

Whip out your massive hog and just grin at everyone like the joker.

@TheDigitalGuru430 3 жыл бұрын

Hey, how are you feeling now (after 6 years)? If it is still there, read this. What is making you red is your over thinking about 'what they are thinking about you'. You can imagine a scenario where you put yourself in their shoes (esp if you know most of those people, if not just imagine by their character type) as you walk in. If possible, sit on one of the seats like they do and imagine yourself walking in. Now see what can be thought about you? Some people will be jealous? Some will be happy to see you? Some people will like to help you because they have realised that you are feeling uncomfortable? Now convince yourself that it is not your problem what they are thinking. It is their insecurities and appreciate those who are happy to see you or want to make you feel comfortable. Do this exercise once or twice in your head and you'll be fine next time.

@craqqer 10 жыл бұрын

Dont fake it till you make it. Fake it till you become it. It works !!

@thefivedalmations130 10 жыл бұрын

Cool

@craqqer 10 жыл бұрын

_REZ_ Cool

@thefivedalmations130 10 жыл бұрын

COOL>

@craqqer 10 жыл бұрын

_REZ_ C00L

@thefivedalmations130 10 жыл бұрын

Cool

@tedh1463 9 жыл бұрын

i made the cashier search in her electronic pad and call over the manager, biggest mistake of my life.

@maryams1290 9 жыл бұрын

ted h LOOOL I knew it'd turn out awkward!

@iass1398 7 жыл бұрын

I used that line.. But the cashier just looked confused and really weird at me. And all the other people in the line just looked weirdly in my eyes and probably thought "This niggah stupid or something"

@pd6192 7 жыл бұрын

Lol

@liastro2037 7 жыл бұрын

#IASS 😂😂😂 sorry mn

@katiewaity3413 6 жыл бұрын

It's all about the way you say it, you must be awkward. It'd probably go the same way if I tried it 😂

@InderjitSingh12 8 жыл бұрын

not confident enough to fake the confidence... fml

@idksreeja 7 жыл бұрын

me.

@ninjamusic5897 7 жыл бұрын

I can't smile.

@ambersnippe9520 7 жыл бұрын

Same. I'm not even confident enough to say that to a cashier. I almost get a heart attack when I even have eye contact with a person

@juhosaarenpaa7727 7 жыл бұрын

Inderjit Singh Same.. i somehow feel awkward even if I just go to some public place, like i shouldn't be there or something.

@duckingalien9667 7 жыл бұрын

true

@JamesOHanlon1 8 жыл бұрын

i said it. then she said no. so i told her i dont have the money. she told me i cant have the items. i took them any way. she got security. im in jail now. gotta go, my celly needs the net

@alexmga9303 8 жыл бұрын

But at least now you're more confident

@WWEMasterLucky1994 8 жыл бұрын

Didn't you say "It was just a prank bro"?

@JamesOHanlon1 8 жыл бұрын

+MachineGun yea I did, they added 2 years to my sentence

@WWEMasterLucky1994 8 жыл бұрын

+James O'Hanlon hmm,did you point at the camera?

@nixonnervujune2460 8 жыл бұрын

+James O'Hanlon 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@RequiemX90 8 жыл бұрын

Im a part time cashier, and I served 2 people in the past week that used that line lol

@abcd-ld3bb 8 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 Omg

@no3023 8 жыл бұрын

FUARK ZYZZ BRAH LMAO

@RequiemX90 8 жыл бұрын

Rain Hiilt fuuuarkkk brah we gon make it

@no3023 8 жыл бұрын

2016 and his legacy still alive. Mirin' hard

@ImranBinAbdulKhalique 8 жыл бұрын

I have no reason to go to a cashier today ..so here it goes.... "Wait,its not free today?" XD

@gamingtec101 8 жыл бұрын

i remember about 4 years ago i was very confident..talked to girls made tons of friends and always helped the new kid gt ot know the school...than i moved to a new place and lost all my confidence with everyone...never thought this was possible and now im a lonely piece of shit.

@4luvvrs 8 жыл бұрын

I feel you, same thing with me

@gamingtec101 8 жыл бұрын

Lunar Snow :(

@Pogohontas. 8 жыл бұрын

+GamingTec101 same for me, but it wasn't moving, it was leaving school. just like this guy said, fake it till u make it. If u walk by someone on the street and think 'man I want to keep to myself right now' then say fuck that and ask them how their day is going. It may be cheesy, and they might respond awkwardly, resulting in an awkward situation. But that doesn't matter, because you just initiated an interaction with someone. When you initiate an interaction with a peer later on, it will be a lot less awkward than the random guy on the street. You have a great opportunity, since u are still in school, so use it!

@gamingtec101 8 жыл бұрын

***** YEAH THAT is so true..i should try it someday !!!! i need to

@Pogohontas. 8 жыл бұрын

+GamingTec101 not some day, TODAY! if u dont do it today, you know you won't do it at all

@LifeOutward 8 жыл бұрын

I think my biggest hurdle was that I never ALLOWED myself to be confident - I always worried too much about what others thought. "Power Stances" and affirmations never worked for me, like I mention in my own Confidence video, but once I learned to tell myself that I was allowed to feel good about ME, that's when I really took off.

@katiewaity3413 6 жыл бұрын

MajorMotionMatt I agree :)

@MrAussiebloke12345 10 жыл бұрын

I tried that "Wait, its not free today??" line and the cashier just gave me a weird look and didn't say anything, now i feel like a dick.

@SpyWhoLovedHimself 10 жыл бұрын

LOL that's exactly what I assumed would happen when he suggested using that line... I could tell humiliation was on the horizon for some unfortunate folk.

@gingerkaty3066 10 жыл бұрын

She deserves to be fired!

@MrAussiebloke12345 10 жыл бұрын

Ahmad Haha my comment was just a joke.

@xKitKatKrunchx 10 жыл бұрын

+Ahmad I feel really bad for you, you must have no life to be able to waste your time on that comment for possibly no outcome whatsoever.

@gamehacker3476 9 жыл бұрын

Ahmad is typing tooo fucking long comments what you do for living ;-)

@therealdanieldavis 9 жыл бұрын

Well, It's impressive how these techniques work. I was confident, you know? But now I lost it. I never thought you could lose confidence.

@drgains6575 9 жыл бұрын

Daniel Davis same here, used to be really confident, hope this works for me

@Phika741 9 жыл бұрын

Daniel Davis Well. I was the most confident guy in my school in hungary, but then we moved to germany, to live a better life, i wasnt able to speak german in a loong looong time, so i lost my confidence. but im hanging out with friends and stuff like this, i think im on a good way now.

@PurpleLemurs 8 жыл бұрын

Anyone else terrified of saying that line?

@pyb6 8 жыл бұрын

ikr I'll get kicked out

@trblackhawk33 8 жыл бұрын

yep lmao cuz u have to say it like its a joke or theyll think ur being serious and then it just turns awkward

@LeaSenMusic 8 жыл бұрын

i'm scared of saying it out loud and have the people behind me be like "wtf"

@asmrgamer6441 8 жыл бұрын

lol me

@reemillustrates4718 8 жыл бұрын

I'm terrified!

@skinnybuddhaboy 8 жыл бұрын

Me - "It's not free today?" Cashier - (Holds gun in my face) "Get out of my shop, and...THANKYOU, COME AGAIN!"

@atryan1125 8 жыл бұрын

true story

@sr5015la 8 жыл бұрын

is it free?

@ethft8829 6 жыл бұрын

Stol drop and steal jk

@SleepyWagon 9 жыл бұрын

said the line but i mumbled the last couple words and promptly shit myself paid and left, thanks now i cant go to my favorite store

@mousaedfakhro2368 9 жыл бұрын

Sanic The Hegheg How can you be unique when your not confident? you'll just be like a million others lacking self-confidence (which tbh includes me).

@CrypticNovas 8 жыл бұрын

+Sanic The Hegheg i never laughed so hard at a comment

@dwightschrute3712 7 жыл бұрын

I don't think I should be laughing this hard; it's not normal...

@zhyarsardar9427 5 жыл бұрын

LOL

@danielnemchinsky8 8 жыл бұрын

It's weird forcing myself to smile actually makes me feel happy

@johnlane9873 9 жыл бұрын

I said this to my local weed dealer, I'm in hospital now. Thanks!

@speakingthetruth9245 7 жыл бұрын

You can't just have confidence for the sake of confidence . You must have something to be confident about

@y2m3e.45 7 жыл бұрын

Speaking the truth you are... speaking the truth

@simplyvibinn5417 7 жыл бұрын

Not true. This video is right. I've tried this in earlier stages of my life and it worked wonders. But what I'm saying is that you can have confidence if you just believe you can. Understand that no matter WHAT happens, this technique will work. That's confidence right there, isn't it? But of course you need something to be confident about. Confident doesn't mean proud. It means to be self-assured. Knowing you can do something properly is how to do that. And if you can't find the confidence, then this video is showing you that you can give it to yourself forcefully. Smile for ten seconds and then try to stop. That's the sort of science behind this. The thing to be confident about is the thing you're trying to execute.

@aeltube4184 9 жыл бұрын

"wait is not FREE todaaay!!?(:" and all the people on the store began to stare at me in silence....so i paid and i left.....dayum

@XxSmoothGroovexX 9 жыл бұрын

Lmao feel sorry for you . I knew it wouldnt work, so I wont try it lol.

@money4louyah436 9 жыл бұрын

Green Trent ***** lol I've seen people do it and prosper 😂 it takes a couple of tries

@whopperlover1772 9 жыл бұрын

LMAO

@M0HX 8 жыл бұрын

***** XD

@G0MMEZ 8 жыл бұрын

Took it a tad literally didn't ya 😂

@Actraiser1 8 жыл бұрын

Thanks, this is inspiring! I'm not using that fucking line, though...

@raphael7252 8 жыл бұрын

Yeh fuck that corny line looooool

@claudia8016 5 жыл бұрын

Actraiser1 “you will laugh. Everyone will laugh” bitch I don’t think so

@dylanarochas7779 9 жыл бұрын

the "free" line never works. we hate it so much and hear it 100 times a day

@mrlion9719 4 жыл бұрын

At least you get it for free 👍

@nonchewlant7174 9 жыл бұрын

the cashier said 'no bitch'

@anamaria-ek7bm 9 жыл бұрын

lol

@MrBrandonata 9 жыл бұрын

I got shot at

@The3nlightened0ne 9 жыл бұрын

I got escorted out by security.

@evanah3703 9 жыл бұрын

lmaaaooo

@josephm9690 9 жыл бұрын

sucks to be you guys, she winked at me :)

@0ethereal0 8 жыл бұрын

That cashier wiped out the last of my confidence... which was less than none to begin with... so basically I have crippling confidence debt help pls. *cries*

@mickmockedmack 7 жыл бұрын

Get some on loan from the confidence bank.

@mogains3852 9 жыл бұрын

This may of just saved my life, thank you!!!

@trollingisasport 8 жыл бұрын

+Bishop Gains do like potatoes?

@Kanibulus 8 жыл бұрын

is that because you wanted to take your life?

@mogains3852 8 жыл бұрын

Maybe

@YetiMacheteHD2 8 жыл бұрын

+ChaoticHitman ALL KINDS

@YetiMacheteHD2 8 жыл бұрын

***** AWWW MAN ALLLLL KINDS, JUST LEAVE THE NUTS HANGIN OUT

@ItzSandman 10 жыл бұрын

I put a pen in my mouth and immediately starting laughing, cause i'm all like wtf am i doing lol

@chelseymartinez6781 9 жыл бұрын

me too Lmfaoo

@KorbenNightfire1 7 жыл бұрын

I got punched in the face. Apparently this doesn't work on prostitutes.

@aryanmanuja 7 жыл бұрын

Korben Nightfire Hahahahaha

@xyoungdipsetx 7 жыл бұрын

Lolz

@wingopingo 5 жыл бұрын

Haha

@Imwalkinhea 5 жыл бұрын

Omgggg😭😭😭😂

@terpship 4 жыл бұрын

ya lol u made my day😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁🤣🤣🤣

@MementoMori0 7 жыл бұрын

So I did it and I asked "it's not free today?" She said no so we made awkward eye contact for like 5 seconds and then I didn't know what to do so I took the drink anyway and ran fastest I could but she called the police and I just came out of jail

@nickg7978 5 жыл бұрын

YEET THE YOUNG MEET I actually just started cracking up from reading this

@TheRoarWithin 8 жыл бұрын

I find it funny when I see people using jump cuts. I just imagine them shifting left and right just for some unknown purpose.

@angelgirl21luv 8 жыл бұрын

He probably had the camera far from him, and just edited that way

@Darqoni 8 жыл бұрын

+Stefan Alexander Lay probably to make it flashy and energetic, /variating...

@genericname34 8 жыл бұрын

+Stefan Alexander Lay oh see, I like em. Sure, its odd when they're used like this where he moves left and right, but overall I think it helps it flow more than long takes

@kalaichelvithayalan9292 6 жыл бұрын

Ich dram

@DerekHalpern 5 жыл бұрын

Its like magic.

@saraha.2581 10 жыл бұрын

Well, I did what you said and the cashier just glared at me and said, "Nothing's free in life. If I have to work you have to pay." There was no laughing just intense awkwardness.

@kac327 8 жыл бұрын

Not gonna do the homework because I'm a rebel

@burpie3258 8 жыл бұрын

rebel rebel

@weiaweiaiohe5971 7 жыл бұрын

No Ur just a punk

@TheBattlefieldPro97 7 жыл бұрын

Sam ...Kerabast

@barryirlandi4217 5 жыл бұрын

That got me though school!!

@ronaldomoore944 8 жыл бұрын

(KFC) Me: "wait it's not free today?" Cashier: "Uhh was that your big joke?" (Subway) Me: "wait it's not free today?" Cashier: " Oh yeah it is after you pay for it"

@Karadashio 8 жыл бұрын

+Lord Ka I wish I could like that more than once

@natethebesttt 7 жыл бұрын

Ronaldo Moore oh fuck

@thechosenone8808 4 жыл бұрын

y-you t-too

@blinx182 10 жыл бұрын

So I tried it out on this cute cashier girl at Uwajimya and she hopped the counter and sexually assaulted me, threw her apron at her boss on the way out shouting I quit, and I'm currently in the process of filing for a restraining order against her, she will have to stay at least 150 feet away from me. As far as I'm concerned this video is some black magic hodoo voodoo crazy shit that shouldn't be messed with. It's too powerful.

@cleanhypnotist 9 жыл бұрын

Humor is a great approach.

@whopperlover1772 9 жыл бұрын

Indeed m8.

@Squidlet087 10 жыл бұрын

I did it and the guy was like uhm no

@maliadoudou7678 9 жыл бұрын

I was that shy fat girl who didn't know how to talk with guys who have no confident and that was in middle school 3years ago .. after that I changed hight school and what I did is pretend to be confident like he said in this video he is 100% right I'm saying that from my own experience I meet someone who make me feel that we that confident girl .. And make sure to be your own best friend cause your closest friends can be the ones that never want you to be successful .. There nothing for not to be confident you are who you are ..

@sibusisomkhabela8642 8 жыл бұрын

This video helped me... I pretended to be confident and it is working, I'm actually becoming confident!

@ihopeutubedies 8 жыл бұрын

Maaan I used to be such a confident little kid. Now I just wish I was as confident and energetic as I used to be.

@DerekHalpern 11 жыл бұрын

Absolutely.

@tomtate1641 5 жыл бұрын

about 10 years ago he had almost zero confidence but now he has unstoppable confidence

@donkeydave3246 8 жыл бұрын

Outside world here I come

@jrantorsvik725 7 жыл бұрын

Lmao xD

@OLGMC 7 жыл бұрын

David Krolak hide your wifes, hide your kids

@judithrecio1784 8 жыл бұрын

So i did the "hey it's not free today" line to a cashier and then i laugh, she gave me the most dirtiest look ever and then paid me extra.... then i was like in my head *okay, never doing that again...* then i ran into the door thinking it was one of those open by themselves kind. I turn and lot of people looked at me. yaaaaaaay now i lost even more confidence TY

@MichaelP-ke1tm 6 жыл бұрын

Dude, you're like a fucking genius. This video and your how to introduce yourself video are simple but GOLD. I hate those videos where they give you like 50 different tips. They're long and overcomplicated

@vicsearnmoneyonline 11 жыл бұрын

I love your fresh, bright, intelligent ability to deliver your story. What most others dont take into account is the research bit you bring into your videos. I love them, thankd Derek

@FifteenSpatulas 11 жыл бұрын

LOL! That was quite a confident response Derek. Practicing what you preach! Thanks for another great video.

@imnotayoutuber9130 10 жыл бұрын

The guy said, wut? And I was like oh I was just kidding, he he was like, -_- gtfo

@thoughtscapes6024 7 жыл бұрын

I found when I stopped focusing on what people think of me I gained more confidence. Fake it till you make it baby!

@MajorasMaskMailman 8 жыл бұрын

I started pretending to be confident junior year of high school. It's amazing how well it works.

@hatiahbegum5659 7 жыл бұрын

Who's watching this because they have to deliver a presentation?

@duckingalien9667 7 жыл бұрын

{raises hand}

@klowie_ch 7 жыл бұрын

Hatiah Begum I have to sing in front of my class...And I'm a shy girl..

@-royalxox8826 7 жыл бұрын

I have to say something to my parents ;_;

@glazechanel5488 9 жыл бұрын

im not confident at ALL i dont know how to make new friends i feel uncomfortable around other people and i dont say a word in class its just impossible for me to talk to someone cuz like i dont know what to say to them if i dont know them i really need help since im moving the US for sophmore year and i dont want to be a loner

@blueyblue453 9 жыл бұрын

I feel you

@321Cherrybomb 9 жыл бұрын

I'm exactly like this😔

@glazechanel5488 9 жыл бұрын

nice to see people with my same problem

@JoeMartinez18 9 жыл бұрын

I'll become your friend :D. people tend to void me because I'm not easy to get insulted and am fat :D. A fat confident person isn't liked by people, or atleast by spaniards.

@glazechanel5488 9 жыл бұрын

JoeMartinez18 south americans or actual european spaniards?

@ThisAndThat4All 11 жыл бұрын

I LOVE your videos! You talk a LOT but you also deliver information, not like ppl who just talk for the sake of talking

@babygirl-nr6is 7 жыл бұрын

I do the exact same thing and everything u said have happend to me except for the college part cuz what happend to me was in high school, i actually had a problem with being or acting as myself and so when i've noticed that confident means careless , careless of what would ppl think of what you do , i've actually succeeded to act as myself in front of ppl for the first time since a long time ago and it feels awesome ! anyways thanks for the video !

@joshuag1223 7 жыл бұрын

I said "Wait, it's not free today?" and they kicked me out before I got a chance to say it was a joke

@GolferMike 10 жыл бұрын

What's funny is that I do it all the time. I went to a Dunkin Donuts with a friend who frequents there every day. He said "watch, when u get to the front, my coffee will be ready." It was. But it was then my turn to order, which I did, and then said "is it free today?" And the lady offered me a FREE donut! My friend was shocked! I pointed to him and gave the cashier a wink, and she gave him 1 too! But not the 6 people behind us!

@Mary-tw5wt 5 жыл бұрын

That is one of the most helpful video I’ve ever seen about how to become a better person. I’m not a confident person and at the moment I study drama and I’m so good at it but sometimes I feel so down about myself that I couldn’t have the energy to act properly and being so insecure about myself that I would just want to give up. But this video helped me to open up more

@CurtEastin 9 жыл бұрын

Thanks Derek. I love how you use research to support your ideas. I like to think of this as practice until you become - rather than fake it till you make it. For me, faking is manipulative. But practice in honest and productive. Anyone who is great at anything has been practicing for a very long time - long before they were actually great..

@JoanieTiVi 10 жыл бұрын

I often pretend to be confident when i work since i sell stuff and people are gonna buy if they trust my opinion hahaha help me a lot to talk to strangers out of work. Also the best way to be confident and meet other people is to just don't care what they think about you. You think your cool and funny so if the other person don't think so well too bad for him right? You have to beleive you're awesome

@leylibear 10 жыл бұрын

totally agreed!

@royceewong 10 жыл бұрын

agreed too

@jayfay786 9 жыл бұрын

We should date...but agreed as well

@goehz99 9 жыл бұрын

Yes because you're pretty.

@avneet5219 8 жыл бұрын

I might think the title of the video must changed to "HOW TO TALK TO A CASHIER CONFIDANTLY"😂😂

@electricpsychord 10 жыл бұрын

Love this video! I used to be so insecure and when i started to pretend I was confident and that I loved myself in time it became a reality "the lie becomes the truth" is my life motto plus if you want to be confident by "faking" it you are being the most true to yourself because YOU want to be a confident person You are basically making a dream come true

@GoldieLoqs 10 жыл бұрын

This is the best confidence video I've seen!! Going to try all of this.

@Taylor-hc7jm 9 жыл бұрын

You can't fake it. You can earn it. Think what is confidence f irst ? Confidence comes when a human achieve some goals or in other words stop being useless walking, talking, eating and sleeping machine and becoming worthwhile. This way fulfill his/her life. Imagine you being a macho man like Dwayne Johnson. Would you feel uncertainty?? Think what you good at and strive to become best in that subject. You might want to build your body or finally lose weight or even go to singing/raping lessons!:) And if you are confident already, don't ignore uncertain person since it's breaks them even more, but support them:)

@WelshGrey 9 жыл бұрын

good old raping lessons

@JoeMartinez18 9 жыл бұрын

XD Raping lessons ? Where can I learn it?

@Taylor-hc7jm 9 жыл бұрын

my mistake lol

@iamtoast2058 9 жыл бұрын

Raping what?! O.O

@iamtoast2058 9 жыл бұрын

Build my body and lose weight with rap-- XD

@solsticesin7416 10 жыл бұрын

The ironic thing is , I am the Cashier today.

@AngelRichardsonlifecoach 11 жыл бұрын

YESSSS!!!! This is SO true, Derek! I did this EXACT thing years ago and I've NEVER looked back! I like to say, FAITH IT TIL YOU MAKE IT! LOVE it!!!

@dylankerns7022 10 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I am always finding myself in situations were I didn't want to say my ideas or speak up and get into a conversation. This video has made me realize that I can be what I want! Thank you.

@ApricotData474 9 жыл бұрын

Lol "wait its not free today" that seems way to corny. I'm not trying that. Haha

@aurorapalacios5159 9 жыл бұрын

Being afraid to be silly is not something you will ever find in a confident person

@burpie3258 8 жыл бұрын

All I see is your see-through shirt, man.

@Popopatop 8 жыл бұрын

LMFAO

@idksreeja 7 жыл бұрын

now I can't stop looking at it

@doloresberry3144 6 жыл бұрын

body confidence

@johnbryan1188 8 жыл бұрын

The best advice I've ever heard! Simple at it's best!

@andresd.5231 9 жыл бұрын

Holy shit.. I started faking my confidence.. and the results are amazing. just step out that door..walk out with a smile and live that day like if it was your last. This worked thank you Derek. You just earned a subscriber!

@josephsmith8087 8 жыл бұрын

I'm confident everywhere except near 1 girl...

@abcd-ld3bb 8 жыл бұрын

Tbh nobody asked you...

@tinapham7854 8 жыл бұрын

AWW! That's sweet! Good luck!!

@lampdee5575 8 жыл бұрын

+joseph smith *Tell her how you fell :o: If she rejects you then she rejects you.*

@josephsmith8087 8 жыл бұрын

+Lampdee✨ Fuck this world... especially all my so called "friends".. I'm just gonna write shitty nu metal

@lampdee5575 8 жыл бұрын

joseph smith Do whatever you want, it's your life.

@lauren-ce4db 8 жыл бұрын

1:22 Did anyone else think of "Does the thing really work?"

@mallorkaos5623 8 жыл бұрын

+Lauren Nicole "The answer is YES"

@sarahmarques3770 8 жыл бұрын

omg yes xD

@charleigh1343 8 жыл бұрын

I'm obsessed with ur profile , I live Melanie so much

@carmenlydia9424 8 жыл бұрын

Graveyard girl right?😂

@Freedish911 8 жыл бұрын

No..it's fake...fake confidence gets fake personality- gets fake friends- gets fake life- gets fake happiness...get confident in something real imo... you can "fake it till you make it" true- temporarily just to get yourself out there but eventually it will burden you, ..unless you are a fake person.. then again I lost all my friends recently so what do I know...

@AshleyFromBrooklyn 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the advice. I’ll try out some of these techniques.

@peterpan-cz6jd 10 жыл бұрын

thank you bro. much love. i subscribed and am looking forward for more videos.

@A1MOSTADDICTEDMINECRAFT 7 жыл бұрын

Who else had a pen in there teeth watching this? Just me! 😂

@MementoMori0 7 жыл бұрын

No u just weird

@A1MOSTADDICTEDMINECRAFT 7 жыл бұрын

+Imperius Nanox Yes I am

@blackie75 7 жыл бұрын

i guess it could be a kind of pen...you can write in the snow with it

@nafisahmad4303 7 жыл бұрын

hahaha me 😂😂😂

@RenzoIsHereYT 7 жыл бұрын

I had the pen in my ass

@missabbiethelazy3245 8 жыл бұрын

I didn't have confidence to speak to this new boy in my class...then he spoke to me I was like o.o dude Cx

@sarahayadi7013 8 жыл бұрын

i have a speech presentation in my college , class of public speaking andi was looking at many videos that i did't find helpful a lot but your video is really so good. you made me smile and do that posture and realize that really my body gesture can change my mind. thanks million times

@23gvijay 6 жыл бұрын

Thank You Derek, helpful

@stefcamps1977 10 жыл бұрын

What to do if you're turning red very fast?

@JeyJin21 10 жыл бұрын

funny thing is i was a cashier and im still not confident i can talk to people-especially cashiers with no problems but i have no confidence in myself this video should be called how to be more outgoing instead because im capable of that or maybe i should look for a video called how to develop healthier self esteem >.>

@CamPerry 10 жыл бұрын

Is there a particular reason you don't have confidence in yourself?

@thingsilike2012 10 жыл бұрын

isn't being outgoing related to being confident??

@JeyJin21 10 жыл бұрын

im very outgoing. Ill talk to just about anyone but outside of a school and professional setting,im really afraid. im not afraid to be rejected by someone i might only see once but becoming closer to someone i see frequently is a big deal and a huge risk to me and im always afraid that theyll think im not interesting. Do you see how i can say im outgoing but lack confidence. I only look confident on the outside.

@trosanelli 11 жыл бұрын

I watched that Ted Talk last year. Her research about power stances is pretty awesome.

@daverudbarg 11 жыл бұрын

A great reminder. Thank you.

@proedwalijustnoobari 8 жыл бұрын

And you still fake it. Everyone actually does.

@calebbrowne7520 9 жыл бұрын

This is a good way to get beat up at school .

@ljj2779 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this video. You gave some great advice.

@tasniaislam8357 8 жыл бұрын

Love this. very helpful

@kay8x 7 жыл бұрын

so any one who is standing beside me and say "Wait, it's not free today?" with the cashier I know where we were from. From the same page.

@djcyfjricjdjtdh 10 жыл бұрын

Almost got arrested

@rahimdehkharghani2780 9 жыл бұрын

The suggested techniques work for me, thanks.

@robiwon. 8 жыл бұрын

Thanks man, keep up the good work! 😀👍

@FitBricks 8 жыл бұрын

I'm confident when around friends not so much when I'm alone. Does that mean any thing?¿

@495beni 8 жыл бұрын

+Ryan brolly Its same for me, when I have my friends around Im confident and dont care about anything, but whenever I am alone Im this shy bitch who has no confidence :D or :( ?

@Pogohontas. 8 жыл бұрын

+495beni I'm with u there, but have recently realized a way around it. When ur alone and have to face confrontation with a stranger, imagine that your friends are behind there with you. They would want the best for you. Also, they would think it was weird if u were silent and awkward. They expect you to have something to say. It doesn't matter if the stranger likes it, you say whatever you want as long as you're being nice, and they can do whatever the fuck they want, as far as you're concerned. Also, think about afterward, when u can tell your friends how weird that guy u ran into earlier was, and how they'll agree and laugh about it. Your friends don't judge you negatively, and u see them all the time. So why would a stranger that you'll only see once or twice have such an important opinion?

@daishukiy4870 8 жыл бұрын

+495beni same

@M-ljxx 8 жыл бұрын

that's EXACTLY how I am. I understand.

@simm3423 8 жыл бұрын

same

@onizuka207 7 жыл бұрын

i went to a super market 2 months ago and at the cashier i said wait it's not free today he told me no it's not we laughed and became bros now i'm sleeping with his sister

@aryanmanuja 7 жыл бұрын

adam santa kruz Wtf

@essenc3d 7 жыл бұрын

Dude you are really awesome for sharing this good knowledge.

@SkylerSweetTV 11 жыл бұрын

This video, editing and content is professional. Loved it. Thanks.

@ameliepick5089 7 жыл бұрын

I'm soon 15 and I feel like my life is over when I'm Not changing

@nouraa4874 7 жыл бұрын

don't worry this is normal :) .. remember you still have a long time and many chances to make changes just put that in mind and work on it by reading books or watching videos about the areas you want to change and practice practice practice

@KingSalt 9 жыл бұрын

I'm 15 and on my summer holiday for 6 weeks then I will be in year 11, and I'm sick of being that person that does nothing or speaks to people. I have been told lots of things like, be around confident people, act confident,talk to people. But the problem I can't. Every time I try, its like a reflex to stop myself. Nothing comes out. Now I'm basically someone who has no social life. It probably has something with I used to get bullied and I'm tense all the time, and can rarely tell if someone is joking or taking the mick out of me. Can anyone help?

@cerlestes 8 жыл бұрын

+iHEX Change something about yourself that you've wanted to change before. Be the person that you want to be. Don't like your body? Workout. Don't like your hair? Go to a hairdresser and figure it out with their professional opinion. Don't like your clothes? I'm sure you have an idea about what clothes look cool to you - buy those next time. Just dare being the person that you want to be :) It's like he says in the video: social skills are learned by pretending and trying around. Pretend to be who you want to be, in order to become that person.

@farahnaser1709 8 жыл бұрын

so am I 😭😭

@KingSalt 8 жыл бұрын

I went to the doctors and they have said I have social anxiety and will be going to therapy at some point, whenever I get a spot.

@jessiechen27 Жыл бұрын

7 years later, how are you now?

@alphiewinchlee2102 Жыл бұрын

Just push anything that stands in your way.

@kevin32335 9 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the advice man.

@mustafamalik4211 9 жыл бұрын

You just made me feel like a real debater today. (I just joined debate and was looking on how to be confident,and you showed it to me).Thanks,you are the best.