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I think what makes it worse with adhd for me is that I know that I "miss" a lot of things in general because of attention and memory problems. Just like I'm never sure if I really locked the door or if I just remember locking the door yesterday, I don't know how many opportunities I just forgot about. And I can't say "well if I really wanted it I wouldn't have forgotten about it" because I have adhd. I have recurring nightmares about forgetting about big events and having to scramble to try to still get there but failing.

I didn’t realize FOMO was such a strong ADHD thing. Explains a lot about my trouble with making decisions. I’ve made a lot of wrong ones and that amplifies the fear even more.

Literally my first response to this was "you know you can film KZfaq videos on a yacht, sipping champagne right?" and now I realise I'm part of the problem 😜

FOMO could be harder to deal with for ADHD folks because of our reward system. For me a big part of it is because of my perfectionism, but also how ambitious (yet impatient) I am due to my ADHD. Seeing immediate results makes me feel like something is worth my time, but in reality most tasks that have amazing results at the end don't have that. I've jumped from one interest to another, hoping one will keep me engaged but everything requires patience and persistence.

This video and topic reminds me of a Mister Rogers quote: "You rarely have time for everything you want in life, so you need to make choices. And hopefully your choices can come from a deep sense of who you are."

Thank you for the reminder that "I wrote a book" is a thing to feel great about in the rocking chair. I've been a published author for 22 years and have often felt like I've missed out on a lot of "real life" due to publishing deadlines and also generally finding fictional people more engaging than nonfictional ones. Because of ADHD it takes me a lot longer to write and edit a novel than most of my peers, so I spend way too much energy comparing myself to them and wishing I had a different brain. So it's nice to be reminded that writing a book that people want to read is an extraordinary thing. Thank you. 💖

I finished watching the video. :) My depression has basically overwhelmed my life to the point of "oh well, I will just miss out on everything. Everyone else's life is great and just mine sucks and that's how life is. The end. Nothing to miss out on because I'm going to miss out on literally everything and nobody wants me there anyway." But my therapy is already helping me reframe things from "I *should* be doing this today", and I like how you rephrase it as "I *choose* to do this today." Your "nothing is a waste of time" video really helped me, and now this video ... yeah, it's going to take some time for me to process it. "No matter what our choices are, we're going to miss out on stuff." "What am I being present for?" "What we can do is make it so that the things in our lives are fulfilling." Those ... those are deep thoughts. And it's a really good place to explore and to think about. Thanks. Again. For a deep and very validating video that will give me a lot to think about.

your videos helped me explain to my parents exactly what i struggle with in life and no adhd is not just me being lazy

It's definitely hard. The one thing that helped me accept this is the movie Groundhog Day. It taught me that the grass is green where you water it. Sometimes I like to pretend I'm repeating the same day to figure out what my values are ultimately.

Not only just interpersonal things I’m afraid of missing out on like inside jokes or memories and activities, but fomo has ruined my life financially. Between Pokémon collecting and league of legends events and limited time skins I have spent over 20,000 dollars between the two because of the fear that something won’t be available or will go up in price in the future. I tested myself to let things pass and although part of me will always wonder if I will regret it, I’m proud of myself for keeping the money and knowing I’ll have it for real needs. I’ll only allow myself to partake in one purchase for each every few months and it has relieved so much stress from me.

This is one of the biggest challenges I've had to deal with! I constantly get analysis paralysis because I'm so afraid of missing out on something better, something more "valuable," something which would get me into a better position like earning more money or living alone so I stop burdening the people around me. And then I use about half the time I could have actually used, because I constantly stop myself to think and double-check. I've been working really hard to be more present in the moment, more productive doing the things I love like writing, but it's really hard when you don't have a reliable argument to dismiss that fear with. And now I do. Thank you.

2 minutes in and I am already sobbing. I feel so trapped in my current life, and have no options to change tracks. False positivity has caused me so much pain, but THIS is so reassuring and affirming. Thank you for the work you do. ❤❤❤

In the last couple of days it occurred to me to start thinking "get-to" instead of "have-to," so it felt like an affirmation to hear you mention that.

This is the video I needed. FOMO is horrible, especially when it affects your budget. And choosing your words is so important. I don’t have to, I GET to or I CHOOSE to. It’s an empowering first step.

Thank you for this. Struggling more and more as I age without any medication. I somehow thought I would just get better over time. No. Everyday is a struggle. I find coffee and other stimulants actually help a great deal for focusing

These videos have helped me figure out so much about me and my wife it’s nuts. We’re both ADHD lol

Absolutely! Most of my early adult life was spent in this kind of activity positivism. If I wasn't doing something "productive" then I was wasting my life and being lazy. It doesn't help growing up in a post 80s prosperity culture that is productivity obsessed. It wasn't until I got into Buddhism in my late 20s that I began to understand the value of BEING. There is very little talk or value of this in Western culture.

I was literally just freaking out because I was filling out references for a new job which made me think more of how lonely I've been the past year since moving and leaving my campus for online school and this video pops up in my notifications:) Thanks so much, Jess!

thank you!!!! I think watching sooo many people being rich and famous every time we turn on our phones makes us feel like we're boring losers if we have a normal life. but it doesn't make you basic to enjoy the little things and actually be content with what you have

FOMO is definitely harder to deal with with ADHD because we tend to miss out on more things than most people because we take on more than we can handle, even fun stuff. Like we think it’d be cool to do a bajillion projects not realizing we don’t have time to take on a bajillion projects, and then we end up missing out on completing any of them either due to not having as much time as we thought or simply forgetting about them.

I've repressed depression all my life for the sake of not missing out on all the things around me. I didn't want to take a moment to breathe because I felt already so much behind. When I gave in, I realised that despite all the sadness and moodswings, there was all the support I needed. It's an experience that brings me closer to my best friend who's also in a depression and allows me to understand that a lot of wrong that happened to me isn't a result of my failure. Running away from my feelings towards all sorts of activities got me to waste a lot of time where I could've figured out earlier who I am. Ironically, taking a moment to breathe was what I needed to stop feeling behind.

for so many years I thought I was the only one who couldn’t feel the moment and was always having anxiety over the thought of doing something better SO GOOD TO FIND PEOPLE WHO RELATE TO THIS

Literally just finished the call for the results of my assessment. I didn’t quite fit adhd or autism, so she said depression and anxiety. But I’ve found open arms in the neurodivergent community, and your videos have really helped me. I’ve found I really relate to the academic and workplace struggles of adhd. I’m not sure how best to continue considering I don’t have adhd.

Diagnosed at the age of 50 with extreme ADHD. Never had the feeling I was missing out. Had more of a feeling that this society was overwhelming. More of a feeling that the problems of the world weighed heavily upon me.

Had to cancel flights last week, for a family visit that has been long-planned, due to my partner having COVID (which I've now tested positive for too). My FOMO relating to my siblings still being on this trip is intense. You couldn't have posted this vid at a better time. Thanks

As an autistic person in heavy suspicion that I have ADHD as well, I simply saw the title of this video and my life this past 21 months suddenly made even more sense. And so far everything you’ve been saying in the video has resonated with me. I’m actually feeling the sense of fulfillment from navigating a hard situation, which you talked about in this video ❤️ I really hope to get a professional evaluation for ADHD as soon as possible.

Thank you for sharing. This aspect of life drives me insane. Especially when I see others, friends or on social media seemingly "always" getting what they want. When I know I have a very specialized set of interests or things I really want or need. This content will go a long way to telling my autistic/ADHD brain to just STFU, and stop ramping up FOMO and flurry of emotion that ensues.

Or the choices are overwhelming and I can’t decide among them, resulting in missing out on everything

Thank you so much for this video! I just found out I have ADHD a few months ago at age 29 (thanks to your video on ADHD in women) and after years of unhappiness in my job as finance manager recently finally decided to change my profession and study again. It was a very hard decision to make because I love the NGO I work for and I support our mission 100%. The team is the best in the world, I have flexible working hours and the salary is very good, but I have been unhappy with my tasks for such a long time and feel so out of place doing them. And also I'm really not good at them which triggers my anxiety a lot. Knowing that I will never have working conditions this good again (especially in social work, which is what I want to study) has made it very hard for me to make this decision, but my career really is the one thing in my life right now that's making me extremely unhappy and I can't bare it anymore. Just today someone reminded me (as many have before) how I'm giving up a great and employee-friendly job and although that didn't change my mind about leaving, it still triggered my anxiety about this decision. So this video comes at a great time to reassure me that what I am doing is the right thing for me. Thank you so much for that! And for everything else you have contributed to my life and those of many others struggling with themselves. ❤️

This was really deep. Thanks. I've started making choices with intent and by reminding myself: I can't be in two places at once. Pick one, and BE there.

Jessica, thank you so much for the consistent content. As somebody who has struggled with ADHD for years and has benefitted from the informative and validating nature of your videos, I just want to share my appreciation for your dedication to this community. You have helped me and I'm sure so many others understand our own brains and behaviors and what you have done for us is invaluable. Life is so wild and I can't even imagine all of the things you have going on in your own life. The fact that you've been so consistent in bringing us this content and sharing this knowledge, especially considering all the challenges you must face as somebody with ADHD, I really can't thank you enough for the time and effort you have put in. It is truly remarkable and I just want you to know how much love and appreciation myself and so many people have for you. If life gets too crazy and you have to take a break from this or even stop all together, just know that everything you've done for this community will shine through everybody that you have helped with this content, and we never take your hard work for granted. Thank you again Jessica, I can't wait to watch this video (:

JOMO - the Joy Of Missing Out! This is what we should be learning ;) Thanks Jess, this is a really important topic!

I’m going on four months without logging on to Instagram or TikTok and the FOMO is real... and this video hit home on so many levels. ❤️

5:12 I'd say to be careful when thinking about when you *feel* like you're living your best life. I know that the moments I recall being absolutely filled with joy is when I was alone in my room, beautiful sun shining in, and super high playing rocket league. Without a doubt those are some of the best *feelings* I've experienced, but obviously if I chase those feelings then I'm chasing down an unfulfilling life of playing video games while high. Like the lady living her best life life when she's drunk; I wonder if she's an alcoholic now cuz she's chasing down those moments of being disinhibited and carefree. I think your follow-up later in the video on analyzing whether your time is well spent or wasted effort needs more emphasis, and also emphasizing that such introspection should always happen after some time has passed (because introspecting on whether you're wasting your time *while* it's happening is the reason everyone is watching this video! :) )

I was diagnosed with adhd at 22, now 29. The biggest part of fomo that drives me nuts is when I miss an opportunity with girls showing m signs of interest, cause my brain is moving too fast in a bad way. It's beyond frustrating

we really need to talk more about adhd and relationship. I know we don’t have too much facts about adhd, but We need to educate people and teach what we know. That’s why I’m so thankful for you Jessica , for making people aware and helping us “brains” to understand ourselves and how…yeah, how to adhd ❤️ truly grateful 🙏🏼

Just wanted to thank you for your videos. I recently had a screening and they couldn't confirm a diagnosis because there weren't enough examples of symptoms manifesting before 12. I still don't understand how if my main issues seems to be long term planning and keeping track of things like bills, traffic tickets, etc how that issue would have been caught as a child. Regardless, your videos help me realize my neurodivergence isn't so rare and to feel less like an alien who just was left alone on this planet, so thanks.

One of the main ways I procrastinate is by hanging out with friends because I don't want to miss out. It is difficult for me to be present, focus on the conversations, and remember things I should, but I stay and socialize. I often stay too long, again, because I don't want to miss out. I appreciated when you asked yourself, "Do my efforts matter here?" I need to ask myself that more often.

I didn't think about FOMO as an succinct explanation to anxiety I have. I just always describe it as "The potential of what I *could* be doing always seems more than whatever I end up choosing." Which upon reflection, is exactly what FOMO is. I have so much decision paralysis as a result...

So much of FOMO for me is due to my history of giving up on things when they got hard, so basically when they stopped being an easy source of dopamine and required actual work. My mum would get so annoyed with me and the phrase "You always just give up" is practically tattooed in my brain. The shame and sadness I feel when I inevitably give up stops me from even starting something, so I get into cycles where I deep dive into a subject but stop myself from getting excited by it and enjoying it because "I'll just give it up again" and I don't want to get hurt. I end up grieving career paths and hobbies I never even started. I'm hoping that once I start on meds in the coming weeks (yay for adult diagnoses) I will be able to allow myself the risk of getting invested in something so I can push past that drop-off point and into the area where I feel like I have accomplished something with whatever I am doing.

oh boy i used to feel like i could have had an entirely different life had i been diagnosed with my adhd sooner. it's not a nice mental place to be in because it robbed me of that present moment, which was filled with regret about what i probably missed out on... which made me miss out even more! now i know better, and i make sure i list what i am grateful for daily. sure, things could be different, even better, but they also could be much worse, and for me i know my stability is more important than any coulda woulda shoulda scenario. it's like i'm finally in a place where i can afford to think about how little i'd really want to be on a yacht, getting all seasick and falling overboard. waking up on a deserted island, tied up by lilliputians. no thank you!

For me, one of my biggest challenges is saying no. No matter what I always say yes to do things since I fear missing out on something even when I don't have the time. Even when I'm really stressed I INITIATE and plan things with my friends even though I don't have time for it. This makes me even more stressed and overwhelmed but I don't feel like I can cancel anything either so I don't really know what to do. I also feel like I'm letting my friends and family down if I say no to anything...😅🤷‍♀️

I didn't realize that FOMO was a thing. I have a tendency to burn out really quickly, and when I get asked to join an activity (i.e., my mom invites me to the mall, a friend asks if I'd like to go hiking, something not very hard but mentally/physically draining overtime) I tend to say no. Usually that's because I already know that I'm tired and probably won't enjoy the experience as much as I would on another day. But almost every time, when the other person leaves, I regret saying no because I could have joined in and had a great time. I've also said yes to things I didn't have the energy for, and regretted not saying no. So usually I end up regretting my decision either way, and tend to get snappy or very emotional. It sucks a lot, and it also tends to make people not ask me to go places with them, but I've never been able to explain why it happens. It hurts my mom's feelings if I don't want to go places with her, but it hurts her feelings worse if I do go and then have a bad time, and in having a bad time, sometimes make everyone else's time bad. I try to work on it but it is very difficult. My ADHD and autism both kind of affect me in this way, bc the autism burns me out and then the ADHD makes me wish I wasn't burnt out bc what am I missing out on? What could be happening if I wasn't mentally exhausted?

This reminds me of minimalism and trying to simplify my life. I have a tendency to save things, mainly things that have memories tied to them. But then I have a lot of stuff. I think having a more minimal lifestyle and less stuff is really helpful for ADHD. More experiences, less stuff. I wanted to be a Mom, so I decided at 35 to become a Single Mom by Choice. It has been a dream come true. Still hard, yet so worth it. 💜💙

Almost every time you upload a video and i read the title i feel called out lol

FOMO seems to be prominent in folks with ADHD for several reasons. And you've put really great advice out there for us. But there is also something to be said about systemic problems. Yes, therapy is great, but what many people need the most is - money. I personally struggle with FOMO and obviously, my ADHD contributes to that in many different way, but these days, I'm extremely confident in my choices of what makes me happy. It's just that I'm still missing out and so obviously still struggle with FOMO because we live in a capitalist hellhole. I have to pay my bills and do my dishes, and for many people, that's often all they can afford at the end of the day. And I think we could sit with that uncomfortable truth for a minute.

From a 23 yr old girl in small town in the UK who has never felt like she was ‘normal’ or ‘fit in’ or a weirdo, thank you. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. I have never understood myself and my wacky little brain as much as I do since watching your videos. Thank you thank you thank you❤️

Jessica, you hit the nail on the head with saying FOMO of something else should not interfere in your engagement with what you are currently doing. Years ago, my family and my sisters family had taken a vacation together. In one city, our goal was to visit, say 10 tourists spots in one day. We tried to come up with the shortest travel time between the spots, estimating traffic congestions, and believed we would have very little time at each spot. We could check-off on our bucket list that we had been there, but what was the point if we spent most of the time in a car going from point to point. Hence, we decided to strike out say 2 tourists spots from our itinerary which was such a relief just during the planning stage. In the end, we had a great stress free, laid back relaxed time, which is the purpose of a vacation. Another key factor is planning one's life, and not just drifting away. Planning not every hour, but having some time to explore, some time for relaxation, chilling out. Any overall plan is better than having no overall plan. While growing up, there could be a lot of exploratory time, but once a vision becomes clear, it would be a good idea to get serious and do some planning. With planning, FOMO would not be an issue. It was MO'd according to plan.

Sleep is on of the most important thing for Adhd brain and yet I'm watching this at 3am while trying to keep my eyes open for some reason.

I appreciate the subtle change of context with "I choose to"... Actually I love the subtle change..!!!

My struggle is that often I know if I don't act on something I'll forget about it. I need to return to a strategy I devised of a list of "Delayed distractions" so that I can remain more present during activities. One example of this is, lately I've been watching a lot of movies. While watching the movie I might remember or think about another movie I also want to watch, or think that I should buy the soundtrack to the movie I'm watching on Vinyl. So I'll get distracted searching for that stuff to see how expensive it is, how easy is it to buy a copy of ect... and I miss the current movie I'm watching. Even if I pause the movie I'm watching it still disrupts the act of watching a movie. One method I've used to some success is just keeping a pen and paper near by so I can write down things to look up later to get them to stop nagging at my attention so that I can maintain more focus on the movie I'm watching.

Thank you for making this video!! I have a kiddo with an adhd brain and fomo is something he experiences a lot, and we're trying to figure out what works best to help him cope with it. This is such a helpful video. Thank you!

Several years ago the keynote speaker at a personal growth weekend said something to the effect that "We rarely really want the things we *think* we want. What we're going for is the *feeling* we imagine we'll have once we have XYZ, do ABC, accomplish This or That, or are with So-&-So." When I can *remember* to actually apply that concept, it helps to be conscious of what I'm going for, aka what the fomo is about.

This is super relevant to me because I struggle with a "deficit mentality," feeling like everything is a limited resource, especially time.

I struggle with this in specific ways I can now recognize, when it comes to romantic relationships and also jobs. I've had 17 jobs since 16 and I'm 32. I'm always wanting to know what's bigger and better.. it is something I have learned to "control" (for lack of a better word) with being present. I have started following many spiritual KZfaqrs and meditating!! Meditation had been a life saver.. also I want to say I love your videos and it's like you know what I need to hear.. you're the only channel I have the notification for. Thanks for all the help and your insight and lovely energy 🙏💕🕊️

FOMO is one of my biggest struggles… no one else i know seems to feel it as intensely as i do, and i never connected the dots that it could intensified by ADHD! thank you for making this video 🤍

Hi! I really love that you explain everything really well. It makes it easier for me and probably others to listen to you while multitasking and doing something else

Thanks Jessica so much for this video! I’ve always struggled with this. Makes me feel like I always need to be a step ahead of everybody, and if I don’t I feel like I’m missing out on stuff. I love your videos!!!! It’s nice to know there’s others out there with the same struggles as me. I also have ADHD 😁😁😁

What you said about the opportunity cost of things not working really hit home for me. Things aren’t working right now; they’re hard and trying to manage my ADHD really feels like a back-breaking effort. I am trying to reach out for profession support - but it just isn’t there. I spent a whole afternoon calling about 6 different clinics to get a psychiatrist and every single one of them had shut their books to ADHD patients. I tried to find a clinical psychologist for ADHD, but none of them I could find take adult patients. I have struggled so much over the past few years unlearning this internal idea that I’m not allowed to ask for help because I don’t need it “enough”, only to be turned away from help by the mental health system because I don’t need it “enough”. It’s like it’s bad enough to struggle every day, but not perceived as bad enough for anyone to actually help. It’s maddening. I spent $1500 to be diagnosed (so grateful I did), but I’ve spent more time in the month or so since ARRANGING for help (or trying to) rather than receiving it. It not just long wait lists either; I literally cannot get admitted by a SINGLE ADHD-qualified professional because they’re refusing to treat ADHD outright, or they won’t take an adult patient. The system sucks.

I was thinking about that book the other day, “Island of the Blue Dolphins” and actually downloaded it to my audio book collection to listen to in the car. It is a book I remember from my childhood, but switching schools so never got to finish it. The narration of the book is good, and sounds like an native pacific islander reading it. Take care of yourself Jessica. Now that you reminded me of my FOMO with videos on KZfaq, I will close the app and read a book. Unfortunately the book is on a kindle.

I'm so glad I found your channel. I've had problems with adhd since I was a kid but was never able to or wanted to seek help. Thank to you I started therapy last week and have a appointment on the 5th of July to see if medication is right for me. So thank you for the support and courage to do so.

I remember reading a post on facebook that definitely has the same vibe as the "95yo in a rocking chair"... the post said something along the lines of "if it's the sort of thing you'd think about when casting a patronus charm, then it's not a waste of time"... and that, for some reason, resonated with me. Even now as I type this, the thought makes my eyes water a little bit because, despite years of feeling depressed, I do have strong happy memories which bring a smile to my face and make me feel I'd cast a badass patronus charm. :)

Hi Jessica! Thank you so much for your videos, they're really helpful! Video idea: can you maybe (invite someone to) talk about pregnancy and becoming a mom? I find it overwhelming, especially since I can't take my medication during pregnancy/breastfeeding, and so much mom tasks are executive functioning!

One of the things I'm going to be grateful for while I'm remembering the things that impacted the quality of my life is finding your video, "Motivation Bridge." I had just gotten out of 7 was of group therapy for depression that focused on mindfulness. I was told several times by the therapist that I have ADHD tendencies. Then, I found the "Motivation Bridge." I sobbed. You put words to what I could NEVER explain to anyone - especially myself. I just knew something wasn't right. Because of that video, I was finally diagnosed with Combined Type ADHD at 49 years old. I missed out on a lot the day I was mindlessly scrolling through KZfaq, but the second I hit, play, my life became fulfilled. (...and now I'm sobbing happy, grateful tears. Thank you❤)

I'm drunk ( medicinal at night ) im from Scotland, I've just subscribed, I got diagnosed with ADHD 3 months ago (mis diagnosed bi polar )and I'm now 36 and served in the military and my life is a true struggle, great channel though x

Finally. I know I’m not making it up in my brain. I keep saying to my doctors I’m afraid of FOMO. I’ve trouble getting sleep because of fomo of nothing. I always remind myself that stop worrying about anything. Be present yet I drowned of thinking. I can’t do anything or move away from my bed. I always thought I’ve anxiety and a person who has overthinking issues lol. The part where you said “sometimes the things we think we really want end up not making us happy..” made me realised after a few years that I thought I’ll be happy if I studying/pursuing what I’m doing right now but turn out it isn’t. But at least due to it(what im doing right now) I just realised (and diagnosed) that I’ve adhd too. And this topic really hits me hard. Thank you ma’am.

i saw this title and immediately clicked haven't even watched the video yet and know that im gonna relate to this. i struggled immensely with fomo my entire life edit: i finished the video. in my opinion, one of the best videos you've ever made. i've never felt so heard and been given genuinely good advice about fomo. thank you so much

I most definitely have a FOMO, but many of the things I fear missing out on are things that I have convinced myself long ago is good for me yet they have started falling along the wayside since I started working. I take way longer to do tasks than others so I also don't get to exercise, read or spend quality time with people etc because I have less time now. I don't know if improving my time management is the answer yet or if I should let go of some things that I find important. I am working on improving my time management, but the irony is that I don't get much time for it haha. I wish my FOMO was as simple as thinking about a yacht party and letting that go, but I have to let go of things that I do find important but don't get time for anymore.

Today, I actually went to a plate decorating event at my university. My mom told me about it, but I wasn’t sure if I would go. I started worrying about missing it and to be honest, it almost made me cry. So I went and I actually had fun.

This video actually helped me get out of a stasis! Just finished the video and now I feel motivated to do what makes me feel those little happy present moments

I really needed this one

The more of these ADHD videos i see, the more i see my own patterns and behaviors. I just scheduled a dr visit to see if i will be clinically diagnosed for this.

Your videos are so helpful!

Thank you for this vlog Jessica as I can totally relate with this 💯!

Really needed to hear this, thank you!

Ilysm ❤️ thanks for your amazing videos.

GREAT reflection. Thank you

Thank you for the videos you make! They truly help others in so many ways ❤

Thank you, and kudos on the hair!

Great content 💖

Very helpful video 🙌🏼 Thanks!

This was my todays thing. Thank you for calming me down. Keep on doing this!

I needed this video today! Thank you so much for posting this vlog. You help me more than you know, thank you Jessica!

You're so amazing. Thank you so much jessica.

Good talk

I struggle with bad social anxiety as well, and I really want to be able to do things but I can’t and that I struggle with identity and desires as I’ve not been able to develop my own being long story short, I had a mum who would control me so much and I don’t even know if she knows she’s doing it but really how she is she’s truly narcissistic and it’s scary it really is how much she is and having speaking to family about this and they validated me. I do love and appreciate mum I want more then anything to have an open great relationship but it’s so deeply toxic. I mean I’m not diagnosed but the psychiatrist did say I will score highly on the test and that I keep relating more and more and truly believe I do have it there’s so many awful stigmas with this condition but when I did a scoring system from the gp last year I was shocked a lot of it I thought it was just me but I realise it’s not, the forgetfulness, lacking motivation only being able to game, easily distracted, a hyperactive mind fidgeting etc, I got a detention at school for forgetting my school planer and I was so humiliated and every week forgot my pe kit when we went swimming I was bullied a lot at school not just for that though. I’m so grateful for this channel really am and you should be so proud ❤️🥰 your amazing with what your doing I hope one day I’m able to do something like this xx

Thanks so so much for this your amazing

Definatley a balance. I appreciate my low self esteem, it make me appreciate the things I know I'm good at, the good things that happen( s, ed, ing) in my life. I think its a good thing to worry a little, and helps motivate you to do your best or try new things. But you can't let it ruin every minute or even half your life. Big fan. Thanks. 😊

Lovely insightful video.

I love this channel and it has helped me understand so much about myself and impulse control is my biggest struggle with my constantly fighting FOMO. This video also reminded me of an episode of 'Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast' did an episode of FOBO (fear of better options) it coverd a lot of what you were talking about and gives a range of perspective.

Thank you so much for this video❤️ Staying present is key! Listening on my lunch break✊🏽 Miigwech❤️

Wow I was literallly about to look up his very thing. ❤️ I’ve been struggling a lot and feel like this video popping up first on m timeline was a sign. Thank you!

This is another fantastic video you've made that gas helped put into words something I have struggled to express for years. I am starting to work on making sure the things I focus on are fulfilling. And letting the rest work itself out.

i needed this video RIGHT NOW in my life!!! im so happy i have found your videos!!

This has been one of the most inspiring videos I’ve seen in a while. Thank you for making a difference. I needed to hear this today

Just as I was struggling , Jessica is here ! No words to thank you for the efforts you put in for all of us ❤️

You always come out with the best content at the best times, I love your videos they're so helpful!💛💛💛

Thank you. Thank you.

This video is just so sweet and touching.