How to Cure Apathy - Teal Swan -

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9 жыл бұрын

Apathy is essentially the absence or suppression of enthusiasm, excitement, passion and inspiration. Even though apathy is seen as a lack of emotion, it is anything but. People, who are apathetic, have plenty of emotion. It’s just that early on in life, they learned that emotions (both positive and negative) are not valid and are not ok and as a result; they rejected their entire emotional side. They disowned, suppressed and denied their emotional self entirely.
When we are young, we have no problem following our feelings and thus intrinsic motivation to the ends of the earth. But when someone our survival depends on, makes that selfish or otherwise wrong, we suppress those emotions as well as the motivation. Basically the person who struggles with apathy has learned that it is not safe to want. Pretty soon, we have no motivation to speak of. We don’t know what we want.
In this episode, Teal explains what causes apathy and how to cure apathy.
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@fuckThisComputerOoO 4 жыл бұрын

passive suicide is exactly the term I described for my existence for years

@thehumbleofsoul2256 4 жыл бұрын

1. Commit to life 2. Do not distract yourself 3. Deal with feeling of despair directly, it's the root cause 4. Anger is your very best friend 5. Start feeling your emotions 6. Follow your positive emotions and take action on them, routine and monotony are your enemies 7. Notice positivity every day, make a list of positive things in past, present, future 8. How can you facilitate more positivity in my life? 9. Approach this world with a beginner's mind 10. Don't expect yourself that everything is gonna be okay. Do those steps because nothing is worse than this living death.

@alicembrooks4933 Жыл бұрын

thank you

@Galezinowski 5 ай бұрын

7:52

@hello7646 5 жыл бұрын

My positive emotion list: - my blankets -sleeping

@marieb.1810 4 жыл бұрын

My list: a hot bubble bath, reading a good mystery book, smoking an indian beedie cigarette, eating some yummy food, watching a sci fi movie. Lets list our good things we feel better by.

@onwun4292 4 жыл бұрын

@@marieb.1810 Seeing a few close friends; Eating yummy food!! The right food would create a braingasm not kidding; Listening to a song or a whole album without doing other things, I did that since I was 14.

@Spooky_Psyche 4 жыл бұрын

Well, the fact that you're able to identify anything at all that you genuinely enjoy is a huge step in the right direction! The only thing I enjoyed at my most apathetic state was playing Call of Duty and listening to music lol, but those things alone were enough to carry me through my darkest times.

@___rare___ 3 жыл бұрын

@@marieb.1810 all these things to me feel like they are gonna keep me stuck,but I also do some of these and some other stuff when I feel hopeless about not being able to make the change I was trying to.

@takealilpill347 2 жыл бұрын

- chocolate

@Leon-pn6rb 6 жыл бұрын

I am a 22 yo guy and I cried at parts while watching this video dont know why i wanted to share such an embarrassing event but this video reached somewhere really deep. I feel lighter from a weight that I never knew existed Teal Swan , ily

@sonalshalom8240 4 жыл бұрын

@@khatack it's because of shamers like you that others lose touch with themselves. Stop doing it and it's only human for any man to cry a little.

@sonalshalom8240 4 жыл бұрын

@@LilFireworkz Good luck for everything dear friend 💓

@khatack 4 жыл бұрын

@@sonalshalom8240 Whaa whaa whaa. Weak people always lose touch with themselves and then blame others for it. Look at yourself for example, you're so estranged from reality that you do not understand the difference between a man and an infant, and you're trying to seek emotional validation by mothering some random loser on youtube. You must be pretty damn lonely.

@sonalshalom8240 4 жыл бұрын

@@khatack Thank you wise guy. I'd choose to be lonelier than being in the same room with anyone like you every single time. Bye forever🙋

@sonalshalom8240 4 жыл бұрын

@@LilFireworkz 🤩☺️

@PushPastParalysis 9 жыл бұрын

I cannot tell you how much I needed this right now...

@tharii1079 5 жыл бұрын

As a way to distract myself, I have developped a complex story of daydreams. Whenever I feel bad, I go into these daydreams and let one figure meet a need for another figure. I rarely spend two hours without daydreaming like this. I remember starting this when I was eight. Love your videos and message, Teal. Thank you so much.

@ToffeeHamsters Жыл бұрын

I do the same thing, even living in books and placing myself in a characters position to get my needs met imaginarily so

@HumaAzIman Жыл бұрын

'Coldplay's - Paradise' phase Now that you are aware of your state I encourage you to rewrite the lyrics of that song in a positive reality note

@Lu._.Soriano Жыл бұрын

Same here. I literally do it so much that it feels like a separate reality.

@RR-md9pq 11 ай бұрын

I do the same since I was a kid, some years ago I got to know that its called "maladaptive daydreaming" which is a coping mechanism. I still do it! I hope one day we actually live our life fully and authentically❤

@Passiyona 22 күн бұрын

Omg I do the same thing I remember doing that since I was 6 and maybe earlier... Especially daydreaming about boy since I was 6 till now I still do it at 38 to distract myself and havent been loved by a guy that I daydreamed about

@TheFinishingStrike 9 жыл бұрын

Apathy was a slow, learned process ever since the day I was born. It wasn't clear to me what-so-ever until it was explained. I appreciate your video and I am looking forward to taking advantage of this world. Its almost as if I forgot that I am allowed to have fun and excitement in life.

@complexjanedoe 8 жыл бұрын

I feel the same say...I hope since this comment you have experienced fun and laughter bc you deserve it.

@eco_guardian 5 жыл бұрын

Your definition and description is very observant. The problem with apathy is that you lose complete interest in everything. I find I have tried so many things to get out of this that I no longer believe anything will work. I find I am half way through trying something new and lose interest as the voice inside my head says 'this won't work'. Each time it gets worse. Its self perpetuating.

@strawberrymins 3 жыл бұрын

Same I relate

@nuriaprades8901 2 жыл бұрын

How are you doing?

@olgagerman9216 8 жыл бұрын

Dear Teal, I've been fighting with depression for so long and I've tried many things but nothing helped. People told me to be more cheerful, to get up, to realize that my problems were not that serious. And then I accidentally found this video. Idk, I feel so different now. I didn't understand earlier that I was ashamed of my emotions because of my surrounding. And yes, I am totally going to do all those things that you suggested. I choose life. Thank you!

@CC-fq8bn 7 жыл бұрын

ya most people are just retarded when it comes to "helping" with depression

@awendigowithinternetaccess4400 7 жыл бұрын

Teaking Tiles Indeed. If it was just a matter of "cheering up" we wouldn't be in this crap to begin with. Another nuisance are those who overreact and think that if you have a bad day you're depressed. Delegitimizes people who are suffering for real.

@huberthubert860 5 жыл бұрын

Still better feeling in 2018?

@fravinci8491 5 жыл бұрын

How are you feeling now?

@aryaa7069 3 жыл бұрын

How did it go?

@NoneHandle2023 5 жыл бұрын

When I open my eyes and wake up in the morning. I wish the day would end.

@marieb.1810 4 жыл бұрын

I long for night time cuz i don't know WHAT to do with myself during the day.

@ranirathi3379 4 жыл бұрын

I know this feeling. Going through the day is that much more tiring because you don't want to.

@mickbowe4252 4 жыл бұрын

I know. It's like why do I need keep from dying?

@heyitsrick01 3 жыл бұрын

@@mickbowe4252 You CAN............ it's a choice. PERIOD... That's not being unsympathetic to your cause... it's just a what is...... It's your life & if you can't or won't make the necessary changes to make your life fulfilling then TAKE it... WHO says that's right or wrong........ it's YOUR life.

@thecoolestgingerkid 5 жыл бұрын

1. Will you commit to life? Death is not wrong so commit to what you actually want 2. Decide to stop distracting yourself. When you feel like distracting yourself, turn toward what you want to distract from 3. Address despair ❤️ do this before anything else 4. Anger is your best friend. Express your anger. 5. Get in touch with your feelings and body sensations. Carry a feelings journal & check in throughout the day. 6. Follow your positive emotions. Take action on those positive emotions. Shake your life up. 7. Notice positivity every day. List your good memories. List things about now you love. List things you can look forward to. 8. Look back at these positive lists and figure out ways now you can facilitate those positive things in your life now. 9. Approach the world with a beginner’s mind. 10. Don’t expect yourself to believe that everything is going to work out and everything’s going to be good. Do these things not because they might work out but because any movement is good right now.

@CC-fq8bn 7 жыл бұрын

my parents often would blame me for for losing interest in things, my Mom would scold me and say "Why don't you do something constructive?!" I asked her what that meant and she'd say "I'm not here to entertain you" and walk away. and my dad would either watch T.V. go on the internet all day long and be completely distant... I still blame myself for who I was since their arguments against me were SO FUCKING CONVINCING

@takealilpill347 2 жыл бұрын

so ironically... your dad never did anything constructive... and mum never said anything constructive. lmaooo

@mammadingo9165 2 жыл бұрын

Sorry mate . Hope your doing well

@sonicsucks20 6 жыл бұрын

29 and still live with parents gonna feel a lot better when I take your advice today.

@marcizaguirre 9 жыл бұрын

And by the wat...those of you who are shocked by her stand on suicide, I have to say that I was incredibly relieved when she mentioned this. I lost a parent to suicide. There's not a single day I have given a thought to following her steps. But I'm not allowed to even mention it. Felt good to be understood , to hear someone say "it's ok". It's very unlikely I'll ever do it. Just felt relieved about hearing it.

@dickianngarcia7719 7 жыл бұрын

Marcela Aguilar Oh my God yes...yes. True understanding and acceptance.

@dickianngarcia7719 7 жыл бұрын

For those of us that have been told our whole lives how we should and shouldn't feel. Or love would be withheld.

@marcizaguirre 7 жыл бұрын

exactly!! no one is entitled to tell you how YOU should feel

@kylecoleman6221 6 жыл бұрын

This breaks my heart. I'm sorry that you have to find hope in this way because getting to live your life with a parent was taken from you.

@lonsog4812 5 жыл бұрын

I feel you

@ledinas5434 5 жыл бұрын

Who else cried at the end of the video

@uareadorabowl3784 3 жыл бұрын

✋

@allisonmandel-giampietro363 6 жыл бұрын

Apathy is something that impacts not only the individual but families and society as a whole.

@fullofmoochabeans6538 8 жыл бұрын

A path I once walked... Good luck to the one's trying to live again...!!! Thanks Teal you're awesome...

@AleishaE7 8 жыл бұрын

Wow. My past. All of it

@marcellusAdavis 8 жыл бұрын

This one knocked my socks off! I'm going to keep listening to it through out the week because each point hit home!

@selmir369 5 жыл бұрын

Aleish F, past means trap (from sLOVEnian) ..

@JoyRise 2 жыл бұрын

Wow!! My past, my present and how I see my future. Apathy, despair, depression, suicidal thoughts 😭 Teal is changing my life, I have never found anyone like her, she read emotions like a map so she gives the way out! So many thanks ❤️

@asmaemahfoud7801 4 жыл бұрын

I ask from God , and from u all burn souls ,to cure and recover , and back to the life ,to experience all emotions with joy , and be fully human beings ... An apathetic who thinks she's recovering sends love and support ^^

@LuxMeow 6 жыл бұрын

This video was extremely painful for me to listen to even though I'm aware of why. It's still very hard to hear. The intense emotional pain came back up and it's emotional hell.

@vintageb8 9 жыл бұрын

I cried at the end of this video, this video has spoken to me. Thank you.

@JG-gx4er 2 жыл бұрын

I've watched a lot of your videos now and this was clearly the one that I needed, cuz I just busted out in full on sobbing, I'm desperate. I know that you received a lot of criticism for telling people that it's okay to commit to death so I just wanted to say thank you for that. Having a distigmatized makes it a lot easier to not incriminate myself for even thinking it when I have a little girl, it makes me not hate myself quite so much. Because yeah I cry every morning now, and once that's through I just button up for the day and go about my life like any of it ever mattered. She matters. I'm going to dance with her today, we'll see if she likes it. I'm partial to twistin the night away. Thanks.

@Spooky_Psyche 4 жыл бұрын

This video made me realize that I've literally never had anyone tell me that it's okay to want, and I'm 20. Not a single time. As a gay guy who grew up in the Bible Belt in an extremely homophobic family, you can probably fill in the blanks. Coming out meant getting kicked to the streets or worse, so I had no other option but to completely detach from myself and just survive until I turned 18 and could finally legally move out. I almost committed physical suicide many times, but even after the hell that my family had put me through, I still didn't want to traumatize them with a suicide because I knew how desperately they needed a change of worldview and that my coming out was the only thing that could do it. They really were just as miserable as I was in retrospect. So basically, I willingly sacrificed my entire childhood and rotted from the inside out for 18 years so my family and the world at large could have a brighter future. It kinda sucks to be a real life sacrificial lamb, but it's also really nice to know how much purpose my life has because of it.

@simonavin3787 3 жыл бұрын

✌🏼

@rebeccacollin3860 2 жыл бұрын

❤ to you, such a brave child you were

@georgemetcalfe4481 8 ай бұрын

May God bless you dear one. 🙏🏻

@deeclark386 9 жыл бұрын

Thank you Teal. Suffered many major depressive periods, had an abusive mother, a life trapped by apathy... thank you for giving me and others the chance of a better life.

@Rita-sp7hh 4 жыл бұрын

cried my eyes out through the whole video. from all the relatable videos teal has this seems like it was made for me. thank you teal, you have no idea what you already have done for me. I will forever be grateful for you!

@thomasperez365 Жыл бұрын

Never has one of your videos helped me more than this one. Thank you, thank you for what you do to help people, and thank you just for the amazing person you are.

@HaHaHaLMFAOtv 4 жыл бұрын

This explains everything. Sometimes my mom told me that I need to be send to army so they would shake me up. I want to laugh, but mostly all I can do is to give a smile. I feel strongly but I can’t express them. Thank you, Teal 🙏🏻✨

@chrispalmieri2532 7 жыл бұрын

I think her greatest point on how to dislodge the apathy from our selves is when she says, what did you like to do as children? For sure im thinking how much i liked sports n exercise and outdoors, playing with friends. I think this is on the money. Whenever i cancel my gym or stop goin for walks everythin goes down. Causes of me not being able to gym are being overworked for one. I think we all have this problem at work as we are expected to work like hell for less and cut off our feelings. Well how draining is that?

@laotzu9388 7 жыл бұрын

Such good material, so grateful for your work Teal. I've fluctuated through apathy and depression for about five months following three experiences which surfaced as I was beginning to experience kundalini activity, the first characterized by despair, the second by fear and shock, and the third by anxiety. After cocooning myself in my room for a month, I entered a tedious pattern of coasting and sabotage, during which I experienced exactly what you're talking about of not trusting oneself due to a bad track record and unwillingness (really a fear) to change. Things are shifting now, I just listed several things I enjoyed as child and then paired each with an adult version of those activities, and feel more motivated! Thanks for the light :)

@sickvidsfosho 9 жыл бұрын

This video truly hit me right on! As with alot of your other videos, this is very inspirational. I feel motivated to change my ways of life. I feel excited also. The problem i have is alot of the time i get this feelings where i am really motivated and inspired to changing myself for the better, its almost like it all goes away through a nights sleep. I might feel this after work sometimes and sit down and meditate a little, take some time to just do whatever i feel like doing and trying to just follow my emotions. But then next day i wake up completely in a dark place, where i feel like my life is not worth to live, i feel lonely, powerless to control my own life and just really demotivated to really do anything with it. This cycle goes pretty much on and on 1-2 days at a time for me. Thanks alot for videos you put out, Teal. They sure do make my days brighter and make me wanting to get my life together again :) Much love

@seifamgad9568 5 жыл бұрын

Hope you’re doing better

@sagenelsen5551 5 жыл бұрын

I've struggled hard with this too. It takes a lot of effort to leave it behind for good and not giving up on yourself when those feelings creep back in. It's like a subconscious emotional habit. And habits take time to break, even the emotional ones! Be easy on yourself, and I hope things are better now!!

@marieb.1810 4 жыл бұрын

I wrote this on my wall 2 yrs ago: "Just glimpses of happiness - for a split second. Is that what normal people feel most of the time?"

@jackscholze 9 жыл бұрын

Teal, Your clarity of expression is always a fresh breath of air, and you have provided valuable life guidance and helping people like me to get our grooves back. Thank you. People like Jessica Schab who criticize you or call you a dangerous person are themselves deluded and dangerous. The negative experiences of one person she chose to elaborate over 5 hours of videos, does not constitute a legitimate condemnation of you by any rational yardstick. Keep up the fine work.

@hernameisangel 4 жыл бұрын

I saw this video last year and was in such deep denial about my own apathy that I couldn’t accept it I felt like this isn’t for me and I sent it to my mom because I thought it would help her. I keep pulling the free will card so it made me want to watch and forgot I had done this. However this time it’s sinking in deeper to the point of tears and stopping to write this. I have so much more work to do. I was so arrogant, I have so much more work to do but I somehow feel like this is some sort of benchmark in my journey. Where I can a least see myself at all!I’m so so very grateful for your work all of the books videos post. Teal I don’t even know if I’d be alive rn if I hadn’t discovered your page on YT Thank you.

@paareth 9 жыл бұрын

I feel you've tailored a lot of videos to people in my state of body and mind, I wanted to personally thank you for taking the time and energy to do that. It's the first spiritual teacher who not only had an understanding of what many of us are, but also stuck with us long enough to help. I say us as I understand fully many people are stuck in this, exactly what you are talking about now is virulent in the population. (I also understand how heavy it must weigh on your frequency to look at it) Dealing with despair could be a video, as you say it's so important, I could personally use a step by step guide to help with despair, I am sure others could too. Although I know it would share some common ground with this video, is anger the only way, because my anger tends to be very blunt and nasty, like my father. We argued every day for about 10 years, and that is not an exaggeration by much. I don't remember where I gave up hope it was very young. I asked my mother about how I was when I was a kid. This is the second time around i've done that (at least), I had to keep asking her to try and get back before obvious signs of trying to please others came in. For me it's before the age of 5, so it's really down to other people to tell me, or unless my own higher self has some insight to let me know. I am trying to get to some things I enjoyed before this type of invalidation happened, and it isn't easy. The two earliest memories she had was me never wanting to leave the group of kids I was playing with, whereas everyone else cried on being put with other kids and leaving their parents, I loved it, same with swimming and getting in the water (I cried when I left them or the water, rather than the other way around). The other memory was standing at a door, really young, handing out gifts to people as they left, she said I was proud and didn't want to leave until everyone had got a gift. Previous to this she has told me I was trying to climb everywhere to get away from being stuck in one place, always active with who I was with. Aside from that it was several different physical activities, pick any of them as long as I achieved in them, but I think many of them came from the need to achieve something for others, same with cub scout badges, where she said I loved having these badges on my arm. It's not the activity itself, so that wound happened, the need to please really, really young. Anyway I committed again, for the nth time, to have another go towards life, after new year I will try things again, but not knowing what my purpose in life was or is (i've been seeking that since I was 12, now 34), it's a shot in the dark like you say, but more I hope this push doesn't just become one more thing to do because I don't know what else to do. Anyway hope that rambling helped others, as I like to share :) Take care Thank you for letting us know that it's okay to feel this way too :), thank you, said thank you alot but needs to be said. PPS :) loved the if you've given up, give up and start over, making that okay is a big deal and a crucial step in moving forward that people had not linked the dots up on.

@andrewbryner2187 9 жыл бұрын

I was reading through your comment and got mixed up now I'm confused but I do think I understand enough and I do also feel like her video's are for me because I relate to almost all of them (I actually can't remember the when it didn't apply to me)

@paareth 9 жыл бұрын

Andrew Bryner I know looking back not one thing, including intense spiritual study, intense exercise, intense desire to be successful in business, internet addictions etc they were all to avoid unconscious apathy, and when I failed in them for whatever reason dropping back into apathy it was one more excuse to stay in that state. Much of the world is in a state of unconscious apathy, much of it isn't but you can see vast sways that are, and more now I can see many kinds of unconscious emotion in people. I can see around me people invalidating how others feel all day, I do myself sometimes still sadly but I catch it a lot more. It's beginning to hurt to see it in parents doing that to their kids and their faces as they walk on by, because I know that kid is going to end up like me more or less with their emotional guidance system completely fried. Much of my comment was trying to find things before my emotions were invalidated, so finding out exactly what I was like when I was born and naturally inclined to do, before my need to please others (to avoid apathy) set in at about age 5. I was giving you my very early life experience :) All the best, Mark

@dickianngarcia7719 7 жыл бұрын

I'm overcome... with true emotion. MY emotion. I can feel the way I need and want to feel. Because I am good and I am worthy of love and acceptance and understanding and most of all I deserve to live and thrive just the way I am. Thank you Teal.There's no words to say how much your videos are helping me figure my wait out of the confusion and darkness that's been my life since childhood. Youre giving me what I've wanted and needed for as long as my memories began. I love you. Kia

@TheLastToSeeTheLight 2 жыл бұрын

That really got me crying but also felt released to know it, things are making more sense now, it feels like the first step to healing, thank you so much.

@rostomchekhar7423 6 жыл бұрын

i love the part "let me remind you that death is not wrong, make the decision based on what we want instead of what you think is right to want" life is all about decisions, thanks for this amazing vedio .

@morningmayan 9 жыл бұрын

Truly amazing!! WOW you are an inspiration and a pure truth vibration, much appreciated!

@RebelThoughts82 9 жыл бұрын

***** Religious nut job alert.

@morningmayan 9 жыл бұрын

***** The new age movement was co opted by the illuminati trying to make it look bad - the new age movement is about love, and empowerment to better yourself and the world. Don't let anyone tell you to be powerless in the name of being a good religious minion - the divine should empower you. And I besides she's not even talking new age quantum physics - she's talking about love.

@paareth 9 жыл бұрын

***** Why does everything get a pet label, why can't a simple thing like a video be looked at and judged on it's individual merits. This comment goes out to RebelThoughts82 as well.

@complexjanedoe 8 жыл бұрын

+James George the truth hurts but it shall set you free lol

@n0426 5 жыл бұрын

RebelThoughts82 was my last chance you could call yuyyt u

@pedroagma4417 2 жыл бұрын

I am more apathetic that I ever was in my life. I searched "Apathy" and saw that video. I thought "Wow, Teal Swan about apathy, this will be interesting!" I am at 08:49 and I really like it so far! Thank you!

@MayAllBeeingsBeAtPeace 6 жыл бұрын

Wow this was a truly holistic explanation of the matter! I would like to share my journey with anyone who seeks empathy: I actually experienced childhood exactly the way you described it. And the fucked up thing is that when I turned 18 and found new hope and started to dream big again my parents showed me again that they didn't believe in me and that was the deepest rooted believe of my old self. Moving into my new Self I now welcome my ANGER and HATE toward them for doing this to me. Justifications like "You should be grateful that we give you so much" and "Look at Joe's parents they give him even less than we are giving you". With this bullshit trying to justify what shitty parents they were in this regards. I love'em now and understand that they we're only afraid of me failing because then they would feel feeling ashamed in front of others. But that Anger and Hate is very crucial to me to understand what they did was wrong and fucked up and absolutely not an acceptable trait for any parent who is actually committed to being a real parent who is meeting all the needs of a child that are so god damn crucial for their development! Dream Big! Recognize that is right to feel anger toward those that took your dreams from you! Take your dreams back and hold that middle finger high until you naturally find that calm untouchable state. But don't try to be all spiritual about it by suppressing your hate and pretending like you are above it already when your current Vibration is actually below it. Love & Peace to all of you.

@erinbuckley1170 2 жыл бұрын

And at the end...when you validated my Despair...the feeling! Gosh...just Thankyou

@paulbaker604 9 жыл бұрын

I just watched this video, thinking maybe being apathetic isnt just the way I am. You basically just read me like a book, I'm amazed. Thank you Teal.

@AmalgamationMusic 9 жыл бұрын

wow. so many tears after hearing you speak about this topic. it's so utterly painful for me and hard to bear the feelings of what I've been through. I've forgiven the parent figures in many ways, though one is still alive and has not been nurturing to me for most of my life. I grew up with my aunt and uncle as my dad was a deadbeat absentee and my mom had to raise 4 kids alone. she was and still is a pretty negative Jekyll hyde of a person. it is hard to do this 'self love' by one's self. I go to counseling and have been working on it for years. all because of narcissistic parents who did not encourage me much - an aunt and uncle who discouraged me and did not show up for my interests - and I'm still trying to stay above the water breathing. I saw other kids get what they wanted, get their needs met and have a hard time getting past this. how can I get past feeling like only others deserve good lives? I find myself losing interest in things periodically and have been told 'you're too emotional' by family. I want to not need family anymore, but I find myself wanting what is not realistic - a loving and present family and siblings too! It's not happening unfortunately. I've told them my needs and they get ignored or not acknowledged. I am a musician and have to put my feelings into songs or I will go crazy. some people want to hear my music which is good, but I battle with thinking that my emotions in song or in dialogue with others are not valid. ugh. I'm so tired of this f-d up dysfunctional family life so I have avoided family in a large way. I have no choice as they are toxic for me going forward due to such a difficult childhood.

@tday2598 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for all that you do. You have no idea of the magnitude that you have helped me and the people I share my experience with lives improve. I can only begin to imagine the quantity of lives that your channel reaches. Thank you

@AmalgamationMusic 9 жыл бұрын

thanks for your caring and thoughtful videos, Teal. they are hitting the core and covering important issues for me. your service to the world is appreciated.

@eco_guardian 5 жыл бұрын

I'm watching this for the third time and I'm still blown away by how accurate this is. Thank you for this video.

@Sickness27X 9 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. You uploaded this on my birthday and this was what I've needed help dealing with my whole life. I'll be practicing these steps to help my life even further to make it how I want it to be in 2015.

@toddgilmore118 9 жыл бұрын

I have Huntington's Disease and was diagnosed 3 years ago.I have had Apathy for over 20+ years, as I am 42 and starting to develop some facial twitches, anxiety and I have already lived with the depression. All these symptoms are also side effects of the disease in neurological state. Long story... shortened is My childhood sucked because of all the millions of wrong choice I made around every corner of my life. My father making me work along side him as a mechanic yelling constantly at me for every mistake I made and how I should have known better and lacked common sense. Now I am a basket case with Huntington's, and can hardly concentrate on anything I wan't to do in life. Can never hold a job and been on social security since the age of 20. Every medication out there for depression and anxiety did nothing if not make my mood or symptoms worse!! Now I have a felony from when I was 19 and haunts me for life as well... I think I should have been killed many years ago. The only reason I am here today I think is my new found love in my life and the fact my parents pulled my bail to release me from jail the same day I was going to get a beat down from 5 men in jail. or possible gang raped. That tragic event was sort of life changing and gave me a mental reason to think God or something knew I didn't belong in prison and somebody watched over me that day!!

@gabebuchanan 9 жыл бұрын

Todd Gilmore www.greenmedinfo.com/blog/6-ways-drumming-heals-body-mind-and-soul

@complexjanedoe 8 жыл бұрын

Your a brave one

@Leon-pn6rb 6 жыл бұрын

how's it going Todd ?

@rickluzzi5431 6 жыл бұрын

Has absolutely nothing to do with childhood upbringing

@insightfullintuition2884 2 жыл бұрын

May god guide u

@joybreegaming8781 5 жыл бұрын

This brought up extreme fear to the point that I was scared half to death and wasn't sure why?

@nxvusagiii 9 жыл бұрын

i feel so better now thx teal once again, i'm starting to realize the signs and recognize your truth throughout my life. you always help so much.

@younasparvez9 9 жыл бұрын

Thank you Teal Swan. This is exactly what I've been waiting to hear. I've listened to many of your videos and other spiritual videos before and found bits of it useful but somehow was not completely getting unstuck. Apathy. Despair. That's what's been holding me back and I couldn't even see it. Thank you so much for the 10 tips. Much Love. xx

@rociomartin6107 9 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Teal. It felt as if you made this video for me. I was searching for the tools to fight this state of living death. I felt so useless, sad and embarrashed to be wasting my potentials and my life, day after day but I wasn´t able untill now. Your words and your aproach to the problem gave me the final kick in the arsh to vanish the perpetual black cloud over my head. Thank you for existing and sharing your great understanding with us. Love & greetings for a "never-again-apathik"

@Misana 9 жыл бұрын

This has been truly beneficial. I have a friend who'd do well to see this as well. Thank you for taking the time to help others. You were spot on with what happens early on in life.

@souljacem 4 жыл бұрын

If i wasn‘t apathetic i could express the emotional guidance you just gave me here. Thank you, your channel is gold

@suhani6677 8 ай бұрын

I love how you validate how we're feeling but also emphasize that we aren't powerless in the face of our feelings and can use it to do things that align with our best interests

@IDRedacted 7 ай бұрын

This is my 5 time (?) watching this, it still got my eyes filled with tears. I've gone through a lot to revisit this again but first time treating this seriously. I NEED to be healed. Thanks for this video again, you've saved my life.

@davidmascoli5794 9 жыл бұрын

I love you Teal. I think your teachings are wondreful and so are you. Thank you so much!

@Jaikay1 4 жыл бұрын

Woah, as soon as you started talking about unmet needs during childhood and asked when did you lose hope as a child, I actually started crying. I knew I was apathetic and have been for a long time, unenthusiastic the vast majority of the time etc. - and i've always thought something about my childhood was messing me up in some way, but I didn't quite put it together that they were linked. My parents breaking up really messed with me, then they got back together and my hopes come true - but months later they broke up again and have never spoke since. I always knew it was a problem but I recognise now that it caused me to give up on hope in some way. I need to build that back!!!!! Also, you're a beautiful person :) I like your demeanour, you kinda remind me of myself a little bit.

@jillhochwald1487 9 жыл бұрын

teal, this was brilliant. thank you dear dear woman.

@blim525 9 жыл бұрын

Spot on, right now for me. The light bulb just went on, and it's comforting that what I'm feeling isn't irregular. Thanks TS, love

@robynmasters335 6 жыл бұрын

This is an amazing video. I'm living my life to it's fullest and loving every minute of it but I have a friend who fits all of those characteristics. I've suggested doing his art, writing, seeing a therapist, meditation, joining a support group but he always comes up with an excuse why he can't. He's worked for the NSA in central America and served in prison. Most of his other friends have long since given up on him but I'm not quite there yet. I've known him for 20 years and he wasn't like that in his youth. You've made some very interesting suggestions which I may give a try on him. Thank you. As always, you are ever inspiring.

@brandyncolwell4842 9 жыл бұрын

Take the mass of my ship, and follow my own North Star. Thank you Teal, your teachings are both raw and beautiful. Truly inspiring.

@TheExMuslima 9 жыл бұрын

Everything in this video hit me so deep in my soul. I had to watch it 3 times to really take it all in. Thank you so much for this! I'm going to try acting like a space alien .

@Christrulesall2 9 жыл бұрын

Apathy in a person is largely in part due to people having so much on their plate that their mind is traumatized to the point where they cant think straight and also can only focus on self healing. Then there is the others that dont have a heart at all. Those are called psychopaths.

@complexjanedoe 8 жыл бұрын

wow I feel like I have distracted myself with self healing for the past 2 years and it's a hard pill to swallow.

@DanLetts97 7 жыл бұрын

Christrulesall2 I have nothing on my plate and I suffer from apathy. Long term chronic boredom and repetition is a major trigger of apathy as well.

@angurisloud 5 жыл бұрын

Not in my case, it was created by bein raised in a hostile home, where my needs did not matter. I learned to become needless and want-less.... she nailed my childhood.

@nu0228 9 жыл бұрын

Thank you Teal. I have been apathetic for a long time so this was a great video to watch. I have had wonderful, giving parents growing up but I somehow persuaded myself that obeying and being "good" was the best way to return their love. After moving to a different country at a young age, this way of living also became my tactic for social survival. Since then I have been terrified of making decisions, expressing my wants and desires because of the fear of upsetting someone, not fitting in or not being good enough. Because of this I have backed out of situations where I needed to express my desires, make decisions and take responsibility - thus leaving me in a place of stagnancy. I try to numb myself all the time through oversleeping and watching KZfaq videos. As you said, numbing is awful because you are literally taking away your own experience of "living". I have been blessed with great, people and opportunities and yet I feel I can't connect to any of that because deep inside I feel that I am intrinsically lazy, hopeless, lack grit and an awful person. Hopefully I can improve with your advice : )

@bloopdedoop1838 7 жыл бұрын

nu0228 This is almost exactly what my life has been like, besides the moving away to a new country. Hardcore apathy didn't hit me until a few months ago, but I've always struggled with minor bouts of depression. As a young adult now, I also struggle with taking responsibility and expressing what I want without detaching from it completely, and I've never really understood why until you said for wanting to return their love. Thank you for sharing your story, seeing someone else explain this is really odd and relieving. I really hope you're feeling and doing better now

@princessballoon 4 жыл бұрын

Anyone else feeling like it's too hard to commit to life, yet the other way is no option?

@katenka_ana3997 4 жыл бұрын

that's why we do the passive suicide thing eh

@princessballoon 4 жыл бұрын

@@katenka_ana3997 Thanks

@ij2759 3 жыл бұрын

If we're alive that means there is a part that doesn't want to die. So, yeah, all of us are stuck in the middle, fragmented, torn, with parts of us going in separate ways.

@josharmstrong8716 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you! You are a very wise and beautiful person! For whatever reason, there's something comfortable about my state of indifference. In some ways, it's much less painful than the bouts with depression I've experienced before. But seeing someone care enough to offer a path out has somehow warmed my heart. I'll meditate on your guidance and see what I can do. Thank you and may your life be filled with much joy!

@nefelibata4190 7 жыл бұрын

love the backgroud, very relaxing.

@gabrielasaid8713 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this powerful video, it opened up for me to a new understanding. Even I had a pretty decent childhood I was subjected to all kinds of activities my mom thought I needed: studying French, ballet, things i did not care about it, however the things I LOVED were encountered with harsh criticism. I overcome depression and suicidal ideation 6 years ago and I am pretty successful in my life . However this apathy thingy was holding me back.Thank you again Teal, your videos help me heal myself and my patients!

@mandolaa4855 3 жыл бұрын

I cried at the end. I really love and appreciate your videos ❤️

@marylin_ninja 9 жыл бұрын

YOU READ MY MIND!! I was going to ask for a vid about this I really need to get over this :,) thank u

@MissBlueberry2000 5 жыл бұрын

This hits do close to home.... thank you for your advices. I need to rewatch this again from time to time, this contains a lot of wisdom

@borisevtimov9891 4 жыл бұрын

Teal... You give me so much hope... God bless you for even existing! Love your videos so much!

@cezarradupopovici7517 5 жыл бұрын

Wow, the most relevant video to what I am experiencing and what I actually need to focus on . Thank you Teal Swan

@alaskawolves 9 жыл бұрын

this will cure cancer. ty teal for following your heart and intuition. namaste

@huberthubert860 5 жыл бұрын

Feedback after 3 Years?

@disconnected9765 3 жыл бұрын

Feedback after 6 years?

@marcizaguirre 9 жыл бұрын

I Love you. You speak to my soul like no one, nothing can. I have been rebellious to my escaping way of life. Mainly because I'm afraid of not knowing better...or not remembering . Lately , because my therapist scolded me like a child and I despise that. I am motherless, practically family-less and I've struggled for the past 12 years living without a family, a mother. I've been told that the key is to be my own mother but it sounded impossible to me...hopeless. Listening to you I am not only motivated, but also gently guided to a solution to my lost soul. I LOVE YOU!

@manoo2056 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for being sincere and tell us what we need to hear

@helicopterpo5214odle 8 жыл бұрын

You are such a source of pure joy and inspiration... wow is it encouraging to hear your story and KNOW ANYONE can make it

@JaswantSingh-pc3hw 9 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Teal... I thought something was wrong with me... Just today I was driving home from work asking myself what makes me happy... Realizing that I have no idea anymore... Tears rolled down my eyes listening to this video... Thank you

@Dani-uz2bk 9 жыл бұрын

You are incredible, im sure a lot of people need to hear this

@lauraharrison3882 5 жыл бұрын

I'm so grateful for this channel.

@clarkewegener9197 9 ай бұрын

This is an amazing video. The words are so well thought out and full of impact.

@pete8808 6 жыл бұрын

You never pull any punches in your videos Teal (and I've seen just about all of them), but this one hit me especially hard and especially close to home - thank you for your tips and hints in dealing with this. I'm already doing most of them, but my biggest obstacle is letting go of the outcome and focusing only on the process, no matter how long it takes. Thanks again!

@kurogogyou 4 жыл бұрын

The world is worth living in thanks to people like Teal.

@jessicac9067 9 жыл бұрын

You have no idea how much I needed this today. Thank you!

@davidbarnes2211 9 жыл бұрын

I am so grateful for your videos, this message in particular. Thank you.

@sonalshalom8240 4 жыл бұрын

This makes complete sense like most of her videos. I think it's my fav. till date. Thank you Teal 💓

@iancampbell9052 9 жыл бұрын

Teal, you are simply amazing. Please continue toning it up like you do.

@dave199010 7 жыл бұрын

this is a proper video, thank you

@fdematteis9 9 жыл бұрын

Dear Teal, thank you for sharing your light. As I am in the process of wiping the slate clean and starting a new life for myself in my home country of Haiti, I couldn't ask for a more appropriate topic. You are an inspiration. I was so pleased to have seen you live in Miami. It was such a treat. Much love! Francesca

@AdamFarrah 9 жыл бұрын

This was great, Teal. One of my favorites so far!

@johncox2912 Жыл бұрын

OMG this is genius!!! It makes total sense!!!! Apathy = despair and numbness from suppressing both positive and negative emotions. We truly ARE in the emotional dark ages, and have been for some time. This MUST change by each and every one us waking up one by one, one step at a time.

@iceharmonyrl 8 жыл бұрын

Lately the video you post are very descriptive of what im going through right now, thank you Teal.

@everybird3530 7 жыл бұрын

i havent been able to cry for like more then 10 years and this video made me. thank you

@2283iamme 9 жыл бұрын

How about people who protest injustices in America being told, "You've got it so much better here in America than in most other countries.(If not all)". What I like to think to myself and I should probably say this out loud is, "So that means that because someone is getting whipped more that me, I should be glad that I am getting whipped less? How about no one gets whipped?"

@NEO_Trojanmuldrop4 8 жыл бұрын

Teal is so wise and great this video opened my eyes to my problems . Thanks teal

@Passiyona 22 күн бұрын

Thank you for being here 🙏🏻

@alondraacosta-mora6504 3 жыл бұрын

i am emotionally numb and foggy which makes me confused, i dont know what is what i need go heal or what should i do anymore

@universealchemy 2 ай бұрын

This is so good. Thank you Teal.

@Shordy101 9 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much teal. I was, and still am so lost, but I found reasons, solutions and hopes from watching your videos. Wish you the best, Thank you so much.