How to Deal with Haters

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@ErikaK 4 жыл бұрын

I just want to remind you that whoever is judging you is also a human being!! whatever they say and think is just a reflection of how they feel about themselves. No one has the right to make you feel that you're not good enough, you carry on and focus on yourself and your own path. You are WONDERFUL the way you are and you are ENOUGH 💕 Sending love

@kimplansky531 4 жыл бұрын

Yes; Spot on!!!!!

@ErikaK 4 жыл бұрын

@@kimplansky531 sending lots of love !!!

@kimplansky531 4 жыл бұрын

Erica; I just Subscribed, & YES I need the lovin'...

@ErikaK 4 жыл бұрын

@@kimplansky531 aaaw thank you !!! Much love !!! ♡♡♡

@ErikaK 4 жыл бұрын

@Keysmay have a wonderful day !!!!

@rustystephenson7327 3 жыл бұрын

It’s called jealousy, haters, hate when you succeed

@vikingcathq 4 жыл бұрын

1. Anticipate them 2. Don't engage with them 3. Role model positivity & good values

@osse1n 4 жыл бұрын

The best reaction is non-reaction The less attention you give to haters the faster they fall off. It's no fun to poke at someone who doesn't react.

@malenomadiclion2030 4 жыл бұрын

O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me Thanks man💪🏾

@bongbong9548 4 жыл бұрын

yes!! you're right

@maciejd7850 9 ай бұрын

Oh this one is so powerfull and so true. My son is a talented ⚽ player and was bullied by his teammates encouraged by their parents. True, he's got some edge that sometimes makes it hard to get along with him. By no means he's a menace to society, though. We left the team and the school. Guess what, they were still hating over Whatsapp. None of our family responded to any these provocations. We have lived your advice in the real life and ouch, it is sooo true.

@GuitarMatt 3 ай бұрын

Right on! The best general message I ever got from these narcissism channels was not to give them that "NEGATIVE SUPPLY" they're craving. (That's why they make MOUNTAINS OUT OF MOLEHILLS out of nowhere... Whether it's conscious or subconscious on their part? Only God or they truly know and they would actually have to be honest with themselves to get to the bottom of that mystery!)

@RainbowWoods 4 жыл бұрын

“Don’t think about making art, just get it done. Let everyone else decide if it’s good or bad, whether they love it or hate it. While they are deciding, make even more art.” - Andy Warhol Awesome video Brendon! Love it! - Woodsie ✨🙏✨ ✨❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖✨ 🌈

@NenaLavonne 4 жыл бұрын

Rainbow Woods ♥️♥️♥️♥️😊

@tonymind308 4 жыл бұрын

But dont rush because half of the job is done with empty white sheet of paper. I am a musician composer producer singer martial artist. You need 6o engineer a bit of the job you will do.. Fantasize the plan. Write ot down and then start your 2nd half of your art!

@bubbuhsmom108 4 жыл бұрын

As a KZfaq lifecoach I have to say this is one of the most common issues young people face. People around you who don't want the best for you. Life is about energy. At some point it's ok to change your circle and get new energy and attract positivity.

@TaraWagner 4 жыл бұрын

I remember the first time I received a realllllly vicious email about what I was doing. It sent me reeling for about 2 days...then I realized no one of impact was without pushback and it made me realized I was on my way. 😂

@TaraWagner 4 жыл бұрын

I literally just said this in a video yesterday! “To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.” Except even then people will criticize you for it. 😂 Have compassion for their unhappiness.

@egg-iu3fe 3 жыл бұрын

usually haters hate because you managed to trigger them somehow. Usually I react harshly to haters, start abusing them and stuff but that just gets me in trouble. The best way is to take satisfaction that you irritated them to the point they had to hate and that right there is a win.

@magajiyahaya2718 2 жыл бұрын

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@anitapage668 4 жыл бұрын

Yes, I agree! When people are presented with anything cute/ beautiful/ lovely expressing the Positive and responding with hate shows they are uncomfortable and respond out of jealousy with a negative response! They probably had a very negative upbringing by" highly critical " people in their formative years. Total tragedy for them and eventually us.

@PracticalInspiration 4 жыл бұрын

Haters are generally going to come when you try to do something challenging or different. The best response is to take great action and show them that what you do is great work

@Death88758 Жыл бұрын

They will be jealous of you after you succeed

@kimberley1235 4 жыл бұрын

You know, it's actually so important to follow your truth. It's harder when you are alone and when those haters are your family. 🤣😭

@a-aronw1186 4 жыл бұрын

I feel you - my biggest hater is a family member too, but when you have haters it means you are doing well, and they are jealous, so keep doing you and shining - eventually the light will overcome the darkness and you will shine! Best wishes to you Kimberley 123

@michelangejean3885 2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Trust your growth! It’s all proof your doing well!

@InnerVisionStudios 4 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately there are many "haters" out there and this will definitely help people deal with them in their lives.

@jonjonhyper8324 5 ай бұрын

Why would you let somebody you dont know about you control your feelings. Why would you? This hits hard!

@smahane5664 4 жыл бұрын

I love this video, I am dealing with some haters in my life that they hate me because am just extra kind and patient with them. great video. thank you!

@larasmith2931 4 жыл бұрын

🦋I know my truth! If they have a problem that’s their business

@h3arty 4 жыл бұрын

You have answered my life long question... I've had so many haters, I even wrote their names down earlier this year and came up with 100 I've had in my whole life. It made me realise that they're not going away, and it's nothing to do with me. I know I'm a good person, I know I'm doing good things, so if anyone hates me for that, then it doesn't make any sense - meaning, it's their issue. God, thanks Brendon! I really want to start putting on personal development videos but I've been too damn afraid. I've been preparing myself in other ways, but I gotta take the plunge and just do this, man!

@Sheisme120 Ай бұрын

Love this!🙌🏻 You don’t owe it to any hater to listen to them or engage with them ever.

@AwakenwithHolly 4 жыл бұрын

Perfect timing Brendon. We got two haters today and I my wife’s suggestions were so aligned with yours. Now I am clear.

@kimchibbq5242 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Brendon~🙋What a life changing event it has been for me, finding your KZfaq 2 yrs ago~👍🙏😀Ever since that date, your contents and message has slowly changed me and now I am a creator myself with my own KZfaq channel.🙇🙈💃Your messages are very clear and they are very true to your heart and because of your message, I strive to live fully, to love openly, to matter in this universe~🙇🙏For all the work you do, thank you so much Brendon~😍🍱🚀🚢🚣☺

@veronicakadinsu9375 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks brendon i really feel bad this is the message i needed now.coz am surrounded by Haters.I never thought of anticipating them

@TheeOwlQueen 3 жыл бұрын

I'm addicted to your channel and all you have to say, I need to invest in your books. I've always got a lot of hate a lot of jealousy but it's only getting worse since the pandemic. Thank you for this strategy to deal with haters, it's helping me so much.

@thomasnorton4015 4 жыл бұрын

Not to be a hater (Cause Brendon, you are my IDLE!), but I prefer the music you used in your earlier, black and white charged life videos. The music gave a really unique inspiring format that I feel fits your vibe better. Love your videos man! Thanks for all you do!🙏❤

@ivyWulfCarnivore 2 ай бұрын

Love this video. Felt so hopeless with all the haters showing up on my page. That really helps a lot ❤

@johnrainsman6650 9 ай бұрын

You're totally right. Helped me realize I don't need to care what haters say to me. For a while, I'd been beating myself up, and nobody would ease up on the shaming. I was once taken to my boss's office with her and a high-ranking chef. The chef told me that I've been touching my coworkers too much ( *_casually,_* on arms or shoulders). I was always very outgoing and tactile at work. She told me that we need the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment. That I shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school or tell my stories, because they may be inappropriate or upsetting (can't remember her exact words) to others. Now yeah, I pretty much didn't have a filter, but I don't think I said anything *_horrible._* I only meant to have fun with my crew. I really didn't get specific information from the chef about subjects and references. She likes that I'm outgoing, but she made it sound risky and needing limits. And again, that I shouldn't touch anyone without consent. I didn't mean any harm or discomfort. If I had known anyone would feel either, (though technically no one showed signs), I would _not_ have touched them. And anyway, people casually do it to each other. But despite my side, whenever I expressed my story on YT videos, commenters would still make me feel bad, as if I didn't feel bad enough. "Well, you shouldn't be touching coworkers" or "You sound like a creep" or "The workplace is not where you act that way." I thought, "Why can't someone just respond to my story and shame without talking about my wrongdoing or correcting me?" But you know what? It's okay. It's _their_ problem. I owned mine. I own if I made anyone uncomfortable, and I would make it up to them if I knew whom. I don't think I'm a bad person, and if others do, who cares? It doesn't matter what others think of me, it's what I think of myself, and I think I'm a good, conscientious person. I just made some mistakes, but I'm gonna forgive myself for them.

@yothintantapattanakul2587 5 ай бұрын

Jealousy and pulling people down to there level or lower is very happen to my life you speaking the truth Brendan it’s happen especially workplace with many people working with you or if there know your life secrets of much thing you have.I wish I have skill to do job that not have many people involved so I don’t get these kind of jealousy and hatred I very don’t like anyone to know me I love peaceful life

@rkdizon_ 7 ай бұрын

thank you sir, you saved me... I finally tried something big in my life and I hate that I felt so bad about it because of the person around me judging me and so on... what hurts is that those people are special to me and have significant part to my life and the fact that I don't even want to hate them hurts me... you made me realized they're still good people just stuck in the hate cycle of their own life

@sammyalabamy111 4 жыл бұрын

Hope you come back Brendon, haven't heard from you in awhile, you were the original motivator that I remembered on KZfaq. Always a fan.

@JustMarketings 4 жыл бұрын

I was a hater for sport But not anymore i've grown to be a better personne with no fear no hate only positivity

@thelmamendoza7107 4 жыл бұрын

Very well said, Help me a lot god bless you more

@anamericanentrepreneur 4 жыл бұрын

Such great advice 😁!!!

@dogagilityjeff 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Brendan! I really needed this message. I've been letting those people hold me back for far too long for fear of what they would say next.

@shahnazbegum1463 3 жыл бұрын

People who hate u not because of our work but because of what he is going through ( amazing line)

@musiquemelody8009 4 жыл бұрын

Hater make me upset and have anxiety. ... continues to poke is what I can't stand. Haters are DEVILS.

@OfficialRuskyTursky 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this sir you're an angel, it's a shame that's there only a few people like you in this world, thanks for this it's one of not the best hate video I've ever seen you're an artist, unbelievable extravagant and are a true helper God bless you!!!!!!!!!!!!!keep inspiring

@kathleenkastner 4 жыл бұрын

So true! Thanks for your thoughts, very helpful. 🙏

@snickerdoodle1 2 жыл бұрын

The root of anger is suffering, The root of suffering is attachment The root of hate is envy, The root of envy is ingratitude The root of love is giving, The root of giving is abundance The root of patience is gratitude, The root of gratitude is perspective.

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@mooonberries 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for bringing out positivity in this world!

@RH-bm8xu 4 жыл бұрын

Amazing, always love your energy and content you give out to the world. Thanks for yet another beautiful video. I have been watching you for a few years now and every time, I’m not disappointed. Good job Brendon 🙌🏼

@GillianBerry 2 жыл бұрын

this was the most incredible video ever! thank you for your valuable contribution !!

@reeceleef4372 4 жыл бұрын

Share yourself with others is key!

@purplelsa 11 ай бұрын

This made me feel so much better. I hate invalid criticism. If it is valid and it has a point, I do take it into consideration or I reflect on myself to better myself. But I do get ridiculous hates for no reason time to time. I laugh about it at first. But sometimes during the hard days, all those hateful words visit me and haunt me. I really liked " Don't engage with them. Engage with yourself " I am going to write this down in my diary. Thank you

@veg 4 жыл бұрын

This speech was amazing. Wow. I'm very impressed!

@shapiakhatun7584 3 жыл бұрын

This is the best video ever!!! We will never give up on you brendon. You are a the legend!!!!

@christianlamb 4 жыл бұрын

Love your work sir!! I'm following in your footsteps!🥰😉🤙

@vikaspecht 8 ай бұрын

Thank you Brendon! Your videos help a lot 🙏🏼✨

@lopunybubbles 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! You are such a kind person... 👍🏼❤

@NenaLavonne 4 жыл бұрын

Love this! You are SO right. When people judge you, its all about THEM, not you. It’s wonderful advice to say to anticipate the haters because like it or not, they will always exist. We can learn to look at them through the eyes of compassion and understand that they must be going through some pretty bad stuff to be needing to try to tear others down. Thank you for this beautiful reminder, and for always being such a force of positivity. The world needs more people like you! Wishing everyone a truly extraordinary day! 😊✨✨

@whitneyhenson 4 жыл бұрын

Great insights. Thanks 🙏 for that. Especially step 2! 🎯

@oumaimadiabong8517 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, I've really enjoyed watching your video.

@charris8654 3 жыл бұрын

Brandon That last part of this video was the best I’ve heard about not letting someone take away from you

@hg77777 4 жыл бұрын

Instantly subscribed after this video Thank you 🙏 awesome video

@evelynfriday Жыл бұрын

Thanks for making this insightful video, Brendon. Very good points.

@allandavies1187 Жыл бұрын

The very best inspiration that I have ever heard. Thank you! I was once were you where. I got pulled - down by jealous haters. I once had a wonderful positive life and now I am broken from years of bullying and suffered 2 nervous breakdowns. Perhaps it is time for that person to come back...

@Streiffs 4 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU SO MUCH B!!!!

@deepika2644 4 жыл бұрын

The background is beautiful. Love the content.

@cuts-ur-dck-off 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the video you lifted up my spirit. Thumbs up 👍👌.

@rozhinam8447 8 ай бұрын

Helped a lot. Thank you so much.

@TheRobAbreu 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome Message Brendon, Keep up the great work, Have a Fantastic day, Amigo...

@user-ot6jo8nk1h 9 ай бұрын

Going to try this tomorrow, thanks man

@heathermercer3070 13 күн бұрын

Well said. Thank-you

@johnnypogo7539 3 жыл бұрын

Man thank you! Thank you so much for this video. I just started a page a month ago, loosing weight and changing my life. I had someone troll me hard today and it affected me deeply. Ypur video helped me so much. Thank you thabk you thank you. Liked, subscribed and notifications on my friend.

@maryamqadri4828 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Brendon!

@abbaskalantari 4 жыл бұрын

Strategy #2 was brilliant... you are doing well again!

@gerardoarce8187 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome as usual. Regards from Mexico.

@kingtemitemidayo938 Жыл бұрын

Thank you sir this video so helpful and needed more of this kind of video

@viktorludmila 10 ай бұрын

Thank u very much I wish myou would be my judge that wlould help me feel loved and feel well.. U have the words that help me feel real power in whatever I do... my mom is like that U help me preach against my moms curses U help me feel the brightness and hopefulness in my positive anticipation and fight to live my best life... Thanks for making me feel hopeful about myself...

@suebphatt 9 ай бұрын

thank you, i needed this

@blackmane1993 4 жыл бұрын

I love this video it's so wonderful appreciate the words of wisdom

@guitarsz Жыл бұрын

I'm diggin your style in the video Brendon!

@free2bgloria 4 ай бұрын

Love this guy ❤

@thenaturalpetdoctor 4 жыл бұрын

As always, love all your videos! This is very helpful because I'm starting to get more haters - which means I'm on the right path. Plenty of supporters but making sure I do not let these people slow down my path to greatness.

@sabitamohanty258 9 ай бұрын

Thank u very much sir.

@FlorinToader 3 жыл бұрын

Fab lighting setup.

@leucthuan2810 8 ай бұрын

Buy all your Books, Brendon. You are a great man. Thank you. 😍

@jerombird1614 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Sir... Love from France!

@christinasmith3116 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks brandon dealing with hater and hather since 2012 actually 2001

@Harmoni888 4 жыл бұрын

This was so good!

@OisforunderdOg Жыл бұрын

Thank you !

@COZMICCAT 4 жыл бұрын

thanks this was helpful and inspiring!

@sharonfisher3179 4 жыл бұрын

Bravo dude! Empathy for the haters!!

@1983jcheat Жыл бұрын

Thanks. It helped alot.

@tinathompson591 4 жыл бұрын

GOD BLESS 🙏🙏🙏 YOUR awesome 👍 ALWAYS GREAT messages! VERY motivating and inspiring! Thank you 😊 I AM GOING TO REPLAY THIS VIDEO OVER and OVER!!!😃😃😃😃✌️ GREAT INSIGHT 👌

@syasyarizal3030 3 жыл бұрын

This video really help me a lot. Thankyou

@mrs.robinson1828 4 жыл бұрын

Brendon, your videos are inspirational. Just a small thought. A lot of this is about online. I live in a very rural community in the UK. I am trying very hard to build a business which has gathered a tribe as you describe. And haters. Some of us don't have any online presence. We have to deal with small villages. People in real life sabotaging us. I'd love you to do something focused on all of us out with the cows and sheep who want to make a difference! By that I mean people who attack in real life not via a computer screen. It is a small point as I learn so much from you. But the non online community is an interesting conundrum.

@MT-hb7ts 2 жыл бұрын

Really well explained. Love all of the analogies, thank you!

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@DiegoRacca 4 жыл бұрын

Great! Well said 👍

@KlaasVictor 4 жыл бұрын

You're great, Brendon!

@elliethousand 2 жыл бұрын

I used to care about what even complete strangers thought about me until I asked myself 'why'. Then it seemed so ridiculous I stopped caring, only to find that I now feel sorry for them. I'm happy and at peace with my life and someone else is wasting energy on hating me or someone else. That's just sad and a waste of a good life.

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@nbiahabibah6264 2 жыл бұрын

Wow!!! So concise! Practical! Simple! But life-changing and profound. So happy I stubbled across your path. You rekindled my flame that was dimming...inspiring me to continue to strive to be a champion and share with others... Bc I was given too much energy and care to the haters. I love doing this work... Thankyou Sir✨🦋✨

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@heidipeterson4723 8 ай бұрын

Thank you, I don't know how you came up in my youtube but i need this.

@misfit387 Жыл бұрын

This is brilliant

@princesswhitener6083 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your inspirational videos. As far as me haters have been my stimulators and Brendon you do the same also! One thing about a hater you can expect a hater to do what they do, hate! LOL!