How to develop empathy skills

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5 жыл бұрын

A psychologist and photographer discuss how to develop empathy skills, empathy vs sympathy, and how to use empathy in your daily life.
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Topics discussed:
* what is empathy?
* empathy vs sympathy
* empathy in photography
* empathy in psychotherapy
* active listening
* mindful photography
* compassion
* vulnerability
Learn more:
* 5 Ways to Be More Empathetic: time.com/3562863/5-ways-to-be-...
* How to Be More Empathetic: www.nytimes.com/guides/year-o...
* 6 things to do when someone suffers a tragedy or loss: • 6 things to do when so...
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@drali 5 жыл бұрын

Mik and I also talk about how to stay mentally healthy as a freelancer on his channel: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/fbJoq8R8sr6-cWQ.html

@MikMilman 5 жыл бұрын

I had a blast doing this with you. Next time I'm coming to NY. Lol I can't believe you actually put those photos in the video.

@drali 5 жыл бұрын

I've been waiting to find an excuse to use those photos!!!! Looking forward to the next one 🙌

@DrAdnan 5 жыл бұрын

My problem is sometimes I empathize too much and it becomes paralyzing

@IAmSweetPea 5 жыл бұрын

One of the things that goes first during the developing stages of PTSD is empathy. It can make helping someone in the throes of the disease soooooooo hard.

@unleashingpotential-psycho9433 5 жыл бұрын

Empathy is an important skill for people to gain 🔥🔥🔥

@drali 5 жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@SynthApprentice 5 жыл бұрын

Empathy is a powerful skill for anything that involves interacting with another person.

@HYSIEL 5 жыл бұрын

ive always been the one that my friends (and just classmates to be honest) share their struggles to. sometimes, there are days where they come to me one by one and i just feel so drained of empathy no matter how much i want to talk to them about their problems.

@drali 5 жыл бұрын

I've definitely experienced that myself. There is a term for it - compassion fatigue. Here's some more information on that and what you can do: www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/high-octane-women/201407/are-you-suffering-compassion-fatigue.

@knoxiuz 4 жыл бұрын

6:47 thanks for that explanation. And good conversation between two beautiful ppl, i had never imagine learning about empathy from a photographer.

@savnac 3 жыл бұрын

Love it. Thanks for this video! One question I have is, I have trouble feeling empathy. I’m sort of a narcissistic person. Will practicing empathy skills increase my interest in others and their need for care?

@FromtheMidwest 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the video. I heard of empathy and see people express it but I have aspd and do not understand how it feels. Thank you for this video, it helped me a lot

@ip-l934 5 жыл бұрын

Grrrrreat video!! Being in the moment its so important to connect with people, and so to be empathetic. Practice makes the master; there's a lot of people outside who need someone to listen. Almost all of the time i go out, sitting in a bench, waiting in line, on the bus, etc...there is someone who starts a conversation and thats a great way to practice. Loved this video!

@drali 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for watching and taking the time to comment! You bring up a great point here - there are opportunity for compassion, empathy, and listening ALL AROUND US ALL THE TIME! 😀

@AmandaKaymusic 5 жыл бұрын

The ability to disappear (be not the focal point) is a magic skill. It works with emperor penguins too.

@audreydupuy2628 3 жыл бұрын

Great video! I never thought of the difference between sympathy and empathy

@bejanbaharustani4166 2 жыл бұрын

I found that the photographer has more empathy then the psychologist.

@grandmastermario3695 3 жыл бұрын

How to develop empathy after being abused and mistreated by multiple caregivers and authority figures well it's really tough even more harder is to develop trust

@emiliam778 5 жыл бұрын

Great conversation! Thank you so much :-)

@Spaceseeker 5 жыл бұрын

Great video. I learnt I use empathy in my job. Who knew?

@MrSk8guyJr 5 жыл бұрын

Not really related to this video, but I was wondering. What type of therapy do you do? I'm going through psychotherapy atm and I'm curious of how different types of therapy plays out.

@ErebosGR 5 жыл бұрын

Could you do an episode on crying/weeping? Is there a connection between weeping and a person's capacity for empathy? Are empathetic people moved to tears more easily by movies/music/etc? Is it normal for empathy and intensity of emotional response to fluctuate periodically?

@hallwnby 5 жыл бұрын

I’m someone who can feel sympathy but empathy is EXTREMELY rare, I only cry about MYSELF I cry from being very sad/angry etc but if someone died I will cry for the reason that’s I’ve lost them in how they help my life I wouldn’t feel much if they don’t Benefit me in some way I definitely don’t feel bad about them dying just bad about how it affects me

@MikMilman 5 жыл бұрын

Also interested in this.

@BrianDonato 3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate the message - empathy is so important! I discuss this in the last video on my channel as well, in the context of inner peace, from a parenting perspective. I hope messages like ours empower people to practice empathy! I just subscribed to your channel too, keep up the content.

@flymypg 4 жыл бұрын

O. M. G. Please let me add another perspective to empathy in photography. For a decade I was a semi-pro photographer (definition: takes gigs only to afford new gear). I specialized in "grab shots", those fleeting moments that are there and gone in an instant. I was the wedding reception photographer who got good shots of everyone, including Aunt Edith, who hated getting her picture taken, who always knew where the camera was and kept her back to it. I loved challenges! I preferred to be the "second" photographer, free of the duties to take the posed and formal shots, taking only photos, not videos. I always had a camera with me. When I finally started therapy, it became clear that I was hiding behind my camera, using it to allow me to be around groups without being an active participant outside of the role of photographer. To let me avoid working on my social interaction issues. Yet, as a huge positive, my camera did help me to be out in public even when deeply depressed. But it was a small isolated island of me in the ocean of humanity, there but separate, an observer rather than a participant. Still, the better decision, by far, was for me to set my equipment aside, eventually to sell it. It's been decades and I've yet to replace my gear. Yet I still have my photographer's eye. I still see the instants that are there to be captured. I also clearly see people having appearances outside the Hollywood ideal in whom I see a radiant beauty I wish to capture. So, instead of getting a camera and hiding behind it, I will walk up to such people and share my impression, and recommend they get some shots taken of who they are today. I'm still doing photography, but indirectly. What I do directly is feel and interact rather than hide. And, of course, I'm "that guy" who always offers to help with selfies. For some reason, using someone else's camera or phone changes the moment, makes it about the people, as if I don't get to hide behind gear I don't own.

@Ruby_V_ 4 жыл бұрын

>"I will walk up to such people and share my impression" That's a really powerful thought. Thanks for sharing!

@AmandaKaymusic 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks... I wrote 2 fairly eloquent paragraphs which disappeared due to a drop out. Just imagine kind and uplifting comments please because I am not writing them again....thanks

@MikMilman 5 жыл бұрын

Lol

@bimetsherojne233 4 жыл бұрын

I am very interested to develop this skill, being curious and following up on people question without being lost in their sadness but understand and help. can you give me any more tips how to practically do that.

@PeaceboneGotFound 5 жыл бұрын

Hi Ali! I have been enjoying your videos for a while now, and I find them helpful and relatable! Would you be open to doing a video about coping with breakups? I think it can be hard to keep healthy habits and have good self-talk after a breakup (and even sleeping and eating gets hard)--I'm speaking from experience right now unfortunately :( I just wanted to make that video suggestion as I think it would be totally helpful to myself and other viewers! Thanks for your videos!

@MikMilman 5 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry you're going through that right now.

@PeaceboneGotFound 5 жыл бұрын

@@MikMilman Thanks, Mik! I'm getting through it :)

@DragnPiano 2 жыл бұрын

What if you disagree with someone and the other person begins to raise their voice. How do you empathize that situation?

@TasLomv 5 жыл бұрын

To me empathy is all about effort. Trying to understand what's said, behind the words. And it's really difficult most of the time, to me at least!

@Nieenaah 5 жыл бұрын

This is beautiful.

@vincenthimself2986 4 жыл бұрын

You said smiles is the lesser part of your work, why not study smiles and focus on that just as much as the other side?

@nikoniko_ni4456 4 жыл бұрын

Even though I understand the emotions of other people, I don't how to express it. I can't simply comfort a person and try to make others understand also how I feel too. It's so frustrating that I can't simply connect to other people. I tried really but at the end I feel overwhelmed and I act socially ackward. It's just don't know what others expect me to do.

@DragnPiano 2 жыл бұрын

Have you asked questions to the other person?