Thank you for sharing. the problem for me is every time I look at her I remember. and I wonder why I was not enough

I can so relate I only found out 4 months ago my hubby is addicted to porn an he sed he’s always done it all the time we have been together. Am so hurt almost 28 years 4 kids built a home together. And he was having internet sex all along . But we had a loving happy marriage sex has always been good . But it did get less an now I know why . I just thought it was his age . Am very angry an hurt at the moment. I want to forgive an try make our marriage work but I just don’t know how long it’s goin to take to get past my broken heart . I feel like someone has put a bomb right onto our marriage

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Me too

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@@paulawilkinson6341 I’m so sorry. That hurts because your trust was broken. I hope you can find a group for support. Celebrate Recovery has support for both anxiety and depression. There are a lot of sisters going through this and my hope is you can find someone to connect with you. Don’t do this alone.

@CJ I send you warmth and hugs. The Lord help you to heal and forgive completely.

Doesn't it just hurt so bad.💔 But hate and unforgiveness just rots you from the inside. It destroys your health and your soul. Only the LORD who forgave us when we hated him can help you to forgive. 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤

@@waynegrobler7432 so true!

I'm praying for you, your heart and your marriage. A few years ago my husband turned my world upside down, completely knocked me off my feet and left me feeling not just betrayed, but broken. It takes time to heal from that kind of pain, but with Gods help, I was able to forgive him. When it all came out, I wanted a divorce, but I prayed to God, I listened to God and I am so thankful I did. 5 + years later, our marriage is healthier than it was before the "incident". It took a lot of work, communicating and praying together for us to be where we are now.

I'm going to say that my husband just blurts out that he has xhwayws on me when we were younger several times & spent another several times trying to cheat on me with wome. who rejected his advance's. It is so painful to me to think about how clueless & came home & he had spent the night w/someone when I went to a mocha trial weekend 4 law school. I'm angry & he won't talk about it anymore..Qe are in trouble. I'll pray for your marriage & We've made it 28yrs & our 18yr old daughter dying on acar accident and our house burned down that same night another disabled accident that took away his means to be the provider he has always been. i've never loved anyone else i've been with him wince 17yrs old. So idk if I have the experience/knowledge etc to counsel you but i'm here. I think marriage is nor q 50/50 relationship but a 100/100 if he not willing to completely carry it partner when they face plant in life & u both will & they'll need to carry you too maybe ur definition of marriage isn't an realistic one..❤ I am praying for you Andre

🙏🙏 Currently feeling your pain!

@Andra Diggs... I pray that you have truly healed from your pain a year ago and have heard the voice of God in your heart and soul... Not only to forgive yourself as well as your spouse... I pray that you have found your peace within yourself that the food tastes better as well as the sound of music... As the wind blows it gives you the Peace of God wrapped around your entire body and soul...

@Samantha Morris Just trust things will get better, because they do!

Thank you my friend.... After 40 years I'm JUST beginning to agree with God about allowing His forgiveness into my marriage. Please pray for us....

to God be the glory, Amen!

@@maxtaylor7105 praying for you Max.

UPDATE: Jesus COMPLETELY Healed my hips when I was worshipping last year! He also blessed us with our miracle son (we thought I was barren)! God is SO GOOD!!! He is a Restorer, & He gets ALL the Glory for my story!!! 💜💜💜🙏

Thank you for your message. I loved what Jimmy said too but your message also put together some missing pieces of the jigsaw of my life. I so related to the mind body issue as have just discovered the same about my ongoing health issues . I choose to stay with my non Christian hubby so this is a process for myself ( presently without combined resolution) but God is blessing me so much and showing me so much . Thank you so much 😊

Healing is DEFINITELY inevitable when we press in & we allow God into the darkest corners of our hearts! When we ask Him to come in & remove everything in our souls (mind, will, emotions)/lives that are keeping us from experiencing the exceedingly abundant life that Jesus died to give us, He does AMAZING things and is FAITHFUL to answer that prayer!!! When we do pray that however, be prepared to hear/do many things that you may not like to hear/do. Holy Spirit IS gentle and our Comforter, but He tells us the Truth about ourselves and it's not always easy to hear. To the extent that we're willing to press in & seek God's Will OVER our own we WILL reap the benefits of doing so if we do not loose heart! When I asked God to change me even if He NEVER changed my husband, I'll be honest... I didn't like what I heard all the time & there were times when I got frustrated that He wasn't getting on my husband for the things he did and the way he treated me and it seemed like He was always getting on me instead lol! I will tell you that things DRASTICALLY changed in me AND our marriage (my other relationships as well!) in a fairly short amount of time because of it, & it actually forced my husband to change in the process because like Jimmy's said before when one of you gets healed it's kinda like a teeter totter and it causes the other person to improve as well. Our marriage has NEVER been stronger and more fulfilling, & I've been experiencing TRUE JOY for the 1st time in in my life!!! I can deal with life a LOT better & more effectively, I forgive MUCH MORE QUICKLY than I have EVER forgiven before & I'm not as easily offended, my relationships are MUCH BETTER, & above ALL my relationship with God is stronger and more fruitful than it's EVER been in the past!!! God wants to do SO MUCH in/through our lives, but He can't do everything that He wants to do in/through us until we let go of the things that are holding us back/down! Ask God to search your heart, & help you to become the woman/wife that HE wants you to be, & ask Him to help you to see your husband/others through His eyes and command any lies that you & the people in your life have believed about one another to be COMPLETELY obliterated in the Name of Jesus!!! Continue to pray for & bless your husband, & encourage your husband in the areas that you want him to improve in (say he's not the best about how he uses his tone when he talks to you, when he DOES talk to you in a tone that's loving then point it out and tell him how much you love & appreciate it when he talks to you like that - just don't point out the times when he doesn't because men NEED to be encouraged & praised & he will most likely improve in that area because you praised him in it. They usually do more of what they're praised in. Men need to know that we believe in them and that we think that they're a good man, they need to be honored, respected, & praised and when they are they start improving!). Sometimes we feel like "Well if he did things right then I'd praise him for it!", but our husbands can only rise to the level that we see them. They can tell if we don't believe in them, they know when we don't respect them, & they CAN'T rise above the way that we see them. We have the power as wives to build up or tear down our husbands, & even if we don't "feel like" they deserve it at the time, we need to be our husband's CEO (Chief Encouragement Officer) DAILY because they NEED our praise! Like Jimmy says we're created in God's Image & we enter into His courts with praise & enter into His gates with thanksgiving. Our husbands are the same way. We can't expect intimacy with them & for them to be emotionally available/connected to us without doing the exact same thing, praising them and letting them know that we're grateful for them working so hard to take care of us and that we believe in them and think that they're a GOOD man! Ask God to help you to see your husband as the man that God created him to be, & ask God to help you to water the seeds of greatness and excellence in your husband so that you can help him to become the man that God created him to be before the foundation of the Earth was laid. We have such an AMAZING ability as wives to call out/nurture those seeds of greatness in our husbands, but we also have the ability to stunt the growth/maturation of the man that God has entrusted to us delaying him from becoming that man. We just have to decide what's MOST important to us, winning and being right or sacrificing that right for the BIGGER win by crucifying our flesh daily and encouraging & nurturing our husbands to become the man of excellence that God called him to be! When we do that consistently, it causes our husband to change as well. It says in the Word that we will win our husbands over by our chaste and respectful behavior. Nagging & complaining NEVER works, but if we can be the bigger/more spiritual person by redeeming our spouse and REFUSING to live by our feelings. If we decide that no matter WHAT, we're going to DO what God says in His Word and fight every spirit with the opposite spirit, then God WILL do an AMAZING work in our lives!!! Pray for & bless your husband, speak life over him/your marriage (BTW NEVER badmouth him to your girlfriends or your family because it's speaking death to your marriage! ONLY talk to God about your husband, because love covers, it NEVER exposes! When you do, it just makes you more angry and bitter and usually doesn't resolve anything anyways.), speak/confess God's Word over yourself and your family (calling things that are not as though they are, find Scriptures in the Bible that resonate with your spirit for your situation and speak/confess them over your life daily and stand on them no matter WHAT happens!), be your husband's CEO (Chief Encouragement Officer) and praise him daily, & watch what God does in your life!!! I hope that this is helpful. May God continue to bless and cover you and your family!!! 💜💜💜

You did well,some times those who hurts us do not realize the impact their hurt cause in our life.but u going to the one who hurt to forgive you that is divine and trust me it opens the gates of heaven and the blessing is unstoppable.

forgiveness for what? you admitted you felt that way and asked for forgiveness or was there something that you did prior to the person doing that to you? curious.. either way, that is really big of you and that's amazing.

PRAY!!!! God can change his heart and your too...allow God to convict

I'm praying for you and your husband.

Hello Fred, so sorry to hear about that. We are praying for you and want you to know it's never too late to get help. Please visit XOMarriage.com/crisis

@@XOMarriage thank you so much ❤️

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Not sure if you got anywhere yet... But some say it takes along time,check out the affair recovery channel as it has alot of great info. But at the end of the day all you can do is take care of yourself.