HOW TO GET A MAN TO SEE YOU- A conversation by RC Blakes

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HOW TO GET A MAN TO SEE YOU- A conversation by RC Blakes
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@RCBlakesJr. 2 жыл бұрын

WELCOME TONIGHT FAMILY! Please LIKE-COMMENT and SHARE😊

@AlesjahTgmailcom 2 жыл бұрын

That beautiful song is umm a beautiful wonder of joy to my ears,shalom♥️♥️

@nataliemoore9965 2 жыл бұрын

Listen to your messages has taught me how to move on. And when GOD prepares me for the man in my life .I will be able to receive him

@eveheart2876 2 жыл бұрын

Your transparency is what keeps me coming back to this channel. 💯

@stephaniejackson1391 2 жыл бұрын

Pastor Teacher Empowering just like our Lord and Savior his name is Wonderful Counselor Everlasting Father Mighty God and the Prince of Peace 🕊️🕊️🕊️ Lisa and RC Blake's what a match made in heaven like Abraham and Sarah God Bless these beautiful souls.

@shevettejackson. 2 жыл бұрын

Okay will do.

@ghutchin33 2 жыл бұрын

If a man doesn't know what he wants and/or doesn’t goes after what he wants , you cannot trust him to lead ! Thanks RC Blakes.

@tamikajackson2732 Жыл бұрын

This statement is the truth "if a man doesn't know what he wants and or/doesn't go after what he wants, you cannot trust him to lead.

@fabulosity493 Жыл бұрын

That's deep..

@stephanieclark-castro6981 11 ай бұрын

Absolutely!

@ShahadaMuhammed-gs1nr 9 ай бұрын

Assalamualaikum! Always enjoy your lectures. I couldn't agree more!

@ShahadaMuhammed-gs1nr 9 ай бұрын

@@fabulosity493You think it's deep or logical? I went through this personally. Brace yourself! I knew he was a bum and I'm a high value woman. I literally sat and took care of him. I mean paid all the bills and fought all my battles. Every single😅 one. Now how dumb of me?! I got rid of him now and found a wonderful husband.

@theg.o.a.t2594 2 жыл бұрын

A desperate woman will attract desperate situations in her life. When a woman walks away she mustn’t do it to punish a man but to salvage her dignity & self respect. Self love is the greatest love any woman can possess. Begging is for dogs. Queens attract!

@justme9514 Жыл бұрын

I realised this a couple of hours ago, when I walked away. You're not lying, seeing this comment is like confirmation of what I wrote on my journal and was thinking✔️💯💕

@euricajohnson4602 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely

@denaallen1096 Жыл бұрын

Indeed

@mimi_3311 Жыл бұрын

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@kimwalkermitchell6199 Жыл бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 thank you!

@toshistokes9277 Жыл бұрын

“Men value what they don’t have access to.” -R.C.Blakes

@eveheart2876 Жыл бұрын

💯

@juliannaokike3359 Жыл бұрын

Amen.

@steph6109 Жыл бұрын

Thats so depressing. No relationship will ever maintain its value I a man's eyes

@bettycollins1983 2 жыл бұрын

If he can’t see you, he’s not supposed to be with you. The right person doesn’t have to be forced or groomed to like you or be with you . God’s way is the only way!🙏🙏🙏🙏

@jannettwhite9853 Жыл бұрын

What's it all about Alfie?

@jannettwhite9853 Жыл бұрын

Sexual perversion.Street life.Whoremongoring..Thank God for Deliverance and your open and honest content.. It's a Blessing to soo many people to hear your Testimony..Thank you for sharing..

@KFontLab Жыл бұрын

I have just started this video but I have learned that it’s not if he can see. Good and Bad men can see your value and the value you can add… but it’s if they are willing to do the work to be with someone who requires that type of covering A grown boy will not. No matter how far he has gone in life or no matter what he has. There are so many parts to this but that is a main thing I wish we as women understood. And he just said something so perfect: If a man has no purpose and/or haven’t discovered it his sight is very different.

@veronicaatkins4417 Жыл бұрын

Amen

@ShahadaMuhammed-gs1nr 9 ай бұрын

Assalamualaikum. I couldn't agree more.

@btfields323 2 жыл бұрын

I was told long ago...never love a man more than he love you!

@outsidethebox8406 2 жыл бұрын

Never love a man more than you love yourself! That’s the key. Don’t lose yourself…

@crystalssbsnrn9673 Жыл бұрын

@@outsidethebox8406 that is a whole sermon. Love it.

@ladielox Жыл бұрын

My maternal grandmother told me in my late teen or early 20's..."Marry the man that loves you not the man you love." ♥️🙏🏾

@prophetess_cb5941 Жыл бұрын

The Bible tells husbands to love their wives like CHRIST loves the church. CHRIST love the church, HIS bride so much that he gave HIS life. (Ephesians 5). I CONSTANTLY MEDITATE ON THIS SCRIPTURE BECAUSE I NEVER EXPERIENCED THAT KIND OF LOVE

@jocelynford4209 Жыл бұрын

@@prophetess_cb5941 Amen Amen! He gives his life for her. 🙏🏾

@optique4 2 жыл бұрын

""If you want a man to SEE you sometimes you have to get scarce "",,,,,,so TRUE

@Pacifica74 2 жыл бұрын

But they only want you when you're not there so what does that tell you.

@jocelynford4209 Жыл бұрын

@@Pacifica74 it’s always so interesting how that works right! People tend to appreciate you and realize what they had once it’s gone and out of sight. 🤷🏽‍♀️

@Xica448 7 ай бұрын

That's a fact

@tiffannyholbrook5589 Жыл бұрын

He told me after 6 months of talking and seeing each other that he didn’t want to give up his singleness, couldn’t see himself married and living together, felt like porn was totally ok to engage in…I walked away 4 days ago. I have listened to this video everyday to keep my mind right. Thank you so much Pastor

@Anita1984isuponus Жыл бұрын

Smart move girl xx

@justjulie43 Жыл бұрын

Tiffany their is a man out there who will love and value. Be strong allow yourself to heal. This man RC is a builder-up of women he is a wonderful man to follow. You can do it I believe in You.

@kaitlynncristello292 Жыл бұрын

If a man tells you he thinks porn is okay, RUN don’t walk away!!!!

@bertaalvarez349 Жыл бұрын

Checkmate to him Queen! You made A GREAT MOVE!!!👍🏽👏🏽🙏🏽💛

@NELLIE979 Жыл бұрын

Tiff, you did the right thing, porn is a definite deal breaker, so many women have disrespected themselves by allowing them selves to be blatantly cheated; and the ridiculous rationale that these sick individuals give is to say porn is OK because it keeps them from being unfaithful. These same men develope erectile dysfunction and go on to blame their partner for their inability to perform; when medically when you overestimulate and masturbate to pornography; it decreases ones sensitivities. It then can be blamed on his partner, "no longer attracts him", she let herself go; when the truth is pornograghy is 100% destructive. Some men say their partner is to blame for his decreased sexual satisfaction, when he himself has desensitized himself to being with his, living breathing flesh and blood choice for a mate. Now he is a lover to himself, ONLY and can only satisfy himself.

@vj5340 2 жыл бұрын

Teach every person with whom you interact how to treat you by demonstrating your own high level of self-love.

@eveheart2876 2 жыл бұрын

Yes

@stephaniejackson1391 2 жыл бұрын

So true you teach people how to treat you by the way you treat yourself Lisa & RC Blake's what a match made in heaven when I think of Abraham & Sarah I think of these two beautiful souls.....🤓

@lynellb 2 жыл бұрын

Yes as well as setting boundaries.

@teatree8333 2 жыл бұрын

Amen!!!

@Hisfireishere Жыл бұрын

Preach

@stephanis.313 Жыл бұрын

1. Love yourself MORE than you love the idea of a relationship. 2. A man needs to see that you have a life outside of him. 3. A woman must NEVER tolerate a man who vacillates. (Say NO to a man who doesn’t know what he wants! ) 4. A man has to know that there are consequences for bad behavior.

@billiejohnson1336 9 ай бұрын

We were married for twelve years got divorced because he cheated when he married someone else for 3 years now he has arrived back in my life wanting to get married again what do I do

@Catherine-mh8sw 7 ай бұрын

Thanks ❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉

@tamaka83 7 ай бұрын

@billiejohnson1336 Pray and observe his actions, not words. Is it that he's trying to fill a space or truly realizes he lost someone he values? Ask God for discernment and He surely will reveal the man's motives.

@LadyOr 4 ай бұрын

@@billiejohnson1336 when you say and now he has returned, you answered your question, he doesn’t deserve you he could have water your grass from the beginning instead of leaving

@tiffanyhawkins5566 3 ай бұрын

Pray on it , it could work out life goes by fast decide soon

@bessiesimmonsmusic1368 2 жыл бұрын

Men value what they don't have access to. Facts 100 %

@staceycleary8736 Жыл бұрын

I just walked away from my 11 year relationship because of all these reasons. I was disrespected for years & I finally got my self love & courage to leave. It was very empowering.

@milks9289 Жыл бұрын

Same here. Best decision I could make.

@arteikahunter1876 Жыл бұрын

Are you married?

@angiebutler227 Жыл бұрын

@staceycleary8736, I admire you. According to today's date, your story was written 4 months ago which was October. You left your 11 plus years relationship just before the "holidays," which can be a difficult time to deal with a breakup. I appreciate your story, your courage and strength. I hope all is going well for you now. 😊

@TheStarExperience. Жыл бұрын

You are strong ❤

@pricillageorge6593 Жыл бұрын

I myself

@denaallen1096 Жыл бұрын

Lisa is a straight up Boss…. A man should not have to tell you more than once that he does not want you before you move on. Some think they need closure… the closure came when he said I don’t want you or this is not working. 🙏🏽

@teresathreatts4266 2 жыл бұрын

Just did a "LISA" today!! 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾Afterwards, I came home and got on my knees and thanked the LORD!! I praised God because I won't give the enemy the chance to think that I'm defeated!! The individual is attempting to reach out, but I'm NOT having it! I know the God that I serve...& He knows my desires. So, I'll do what I know to do...WAIT ON THE LORD!!! I REFUSE to just give my dignity away to any man by begging him to stay. The DEVIL IS A LIAR!!!

@viviananderson4640 Жыл бұрын

It took me 9 years to learn that lesson, but better last than never

@viviananderson4640 Жыл бұрын

After listening to your messages, I have learned that I am worthy to be treated like the Queen 👸 that I am

@bdlfontaine3240 2 жыл бұрын

"Women are putting relationships with men ahead of their greater calling. This is one of the weaknesses that women have, which has been socially conditioned into them, but also represents just a normal human need. But sometimes even normal human needs must be superseded by a deeper spiritual, divine need. That must come first. This is true for both men and women." ~ from The Age of Women, by Marshall V Summers

@johannacastro7159 2 жыл бұрын

I agree bless u always ur thoughts are clear & very deep - B dlfontaine

@joamacnalie 2 жыл бұрын

This is gorgeous 😍

@nzingahoney 2 жыл бұрын

Bam! I love this

@johnchapman5125 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you B

@alishadennis7769 2 жыл бұрын

Black women are Christians & attend church more than Black men PERIOD. Too many UNQUALIFIED BLACK MEN don't know or serve GOD, 🙏 JESUS & are impregnating Black women 🖤 ❤️ & now making white 🤍🐻‍❄️🌹 💝 women the fasting growing number of single parent unmarried homes & this weekend SOCIETY. There are millions more Black ❤️ 🖤 girls and women than there are Black men in USA , so it can seem like women do seek out men more cause of our loving nurturing nature & being socially brain wDhed to settle for one race of men, the Black 👞👞♂️ or boys who are not taught nor willing or responsible or family life mental emotional spiritual physical SEXUALLITY prepared or currently qualified to date or marry & care for a ♀️👠👠 women or children faithfully, responsibility guided by CHRIST JESUS 😇🙏 LOVE ❤️🙏 WISDOM STRENGTH KNOWLEDGE HONOR AND VERY GOOD LIVING WAGES AND CRESTE A GOOD MARRIED HOLY FAMILY LEGACY SOCIALLY SPIRITUALLY FINANCIALLY LIKE MANY ITHER RACES IF MEN SRE RAISED TO DO & HONOR. MORE BLACK 🖤❤️🙏 WOMEN'S DIVESTING AND MAKING BETTER CHOICES IN LOVE ❤️🙏 IS IMPROVING BLACK 🖤❤️🙏 WOMEN'S REMATCH DECISIONS & RESULTS IN LIFE. NO MATTER WHAT YHE AUTHOR IF A BOOK SAYS 🤓👍🙏💖🌞🙏 SO LETTING GOD CHOSE 💋 OUR MATE'S FROM HIS CHOICES AND NOT BY JUST BLACK MEN AS A CHOICE , EVEN WHEN ITS A BAD CHOICE. GOD BLESSES WITH LOVE IN MANY COLOR'S CULTURES THAT WE CAN BE LOVED AND RESPECTED HONORED CARED FOR PROTECTED CHERISHED DATED RIGHTLY INTO MARRIAGE AND FAMILY IS BECOMING MORE IN AWARENESS AND FOLLOWED NOW WITH BLESSINGS AND PRAYERS ANSWERED 😊🙏 💜❤️ BY GOD IN BLACK LIVES MORE NOW !!!!

@marjoriemischeaux9337 2 жыл бұрын

This opening song is everything Bishop! 🙌🏾💜👑💐🥰

@MsMimiWN 2 жыл бұрын

Yes it is! Perfect for the message.

@clarissabailey7355 2 жыл бұрын

Luv this song who is it

@oohno1000 2 жыл бұрын

I said the same thing amazing 😻 song 🎵 let’s find out the name plz

@lynnettebennett4564 2 жыл бұрын

I would love to know who sing this song as well...BEAUTIFUL song

@tonyabritt1427 2 жыл бұрын

To me...it sounds like Bishop Blake's himself. It's like I can hear his voice in the enunciation of some of the words. Be nice to know...hmm

@vonettapierce3821 Жыл бұрын

This pastor is truly like that uncle that we need… I’m 49 and I still need that wisdom. Thank you Pastor Blakes.

@MindSetReset 8 ай бұрын

💯

@rteetv2931 2 жыл бұрын

Pastor you are 100. I walked away from a dishonoring husband. He couldn't understand any of it. We divorced for 7 years. Then remarried again. All is well now. He's a better man now. We are better. I told him I loved him but I didn't love him more than I loved myself. God is Great.

@katherinenanjari2828 2 жыл бұрын

Great teaching! ‘you can’t love a person you don’t honour’ - very deep!

@gabrielnadia1085 Жыл бұрын

Thats the truth. I want to honour him with my admiration.😍

@shannonthetherapist 2 жыл бұрын

“ I’m a proud heterosexual leave me alone “ 🤣🤣I felt that PREACH 🗣

@MsTrish22 2 жыл бұрын

I've really been going through a lot lately. I once felt so strong. I would curve or cut ties with a man that cheated or mistreated me in the past. But I don't know what went wrong as I've gotten in my 30s. Now I'm in the process of rehabilitating myself. Your videos are really helping me! I've been out of a toxic relationship for 4 months. In that last relationship, I would let go when I realized he cheated on me. After the 3rd time, we did counseling together, thought that it was working but it wasn't. I should have just cut him off. I'm really trying to forgive him and move on. There are days that my thoughts try to get the best of me and then I have days where I'm feeling great! I'm ready to be mentally and emotionally free for good of this past relationship. It's definitely a process. Thank you RC Blakes for your encouraging messages, they've been getting me through. I'm a Queen and I'm fixing my Crown!

@christaoo4347 2 жыл бұрын

And you will. Please don’t ever to forget to forgive yourself, then the thoughts get easier.

@blackpearl1817 2 жыл бұрын

OMG I'm reading my story Queen stay on that path let God in and pray for forgiveness for yourself thats the process I'm in YOU will get back what the enemy has taken i know it hurts when u give your heart and soul I feel your pain BUT watch wHAT GOD DOES there is a lesson to be had for me I believe its loving and trusting my self enough before anything else besides our Heavenly Father I felt that when u said you were getting yourself back 😪 cause I feel the same there's a song the lyrics goes you can't break what you didn't make cuz I wasn't built to be broken Queen that's it right there just know you going to get back to your old self and your gonna be alright watch out Now !! Lol Take care of yourself and love on yourself cause Nobody knows how to do it better than you and thats real talk thats the other lesson I've learnt & Guard your heart ONe Love

@nicholaallen4777 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, Queen! I'm praying for you.

@tainachapman9486 2 жыл бұрын

Hang in there Dear sister in Christ!!

@tammyterrell7128 2 жыл бұрын

Keep pushing sis 🥰 You can do it

@debsee9338 2 жыл бұрын

You teach people how to treat you by what you are willing to accept. I love how Sister Lisa handled that situation and Brother R.C. got right. Beautiful couple.

@fatikay5735 2 жыл бұрын

"We men value what we don't have access to." Ohhh that feels good! 😂😂😂👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

@powerhouse4ever Жыл бұрын

“If you want a man to see you, sometimes you have to get scarce.” ~ RC Blackes Jr.

@MotheRuckerlove 2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️ I pray that soul ties are broken and confidence restore through the Mighty Hand of God.

@kdmylove 2 жыл бұрын

Don’t force a man to love you. Don’t play games, don’t offer sex, don’t do things to make a man love you because you will simply struggle with sinking self-esteem. • A woman should always follow a man's romantic lead because when women go into relationships, they go in emotions first while men quite often go in visually first or sexually. • Wait for a man to prove his affection, to prove his love, to prove his commitment to you before you give your heart into a situation. The bible says, ‘he who so finds a wife finds a good thing’ so when he finds you and recognizes you and he articulates his interest and his affections then you can receive and approve of him. • Here is the tricky thing about the nature of an unenlightened man. He may not love you but he may love having sex with you and you interpret sex as love. Sex is not love for man. Sex is a bodily function. It's actually a biological need for a man and an unenlightened man will have sex with a woman that is willing with with no concern for or even oblivious to the fact that he is destroying her emotionally

@RacialEqualityMatters6648 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for summarizing these important points.

@jocelynford4209 Жыл бұрын

So well said!! Very true. That last part though! Sex being an act for men. A man may not even realize that sleeping with a woman without loving her is actually emotionally damaging her. Men & women do not view it the same. We are built different. 👏🏾

@herthaikuambi5152 9 ай бұрын

Very true

@eac-guy7272 7 ай бұрын

"Sex is a biological need for a man..." so if a man doesn't have sex he won't be able to function properly or live? "Sex is not love for men " yet men use it to make women think that they love them because oxytocin is released after a woman has seggs. Napolean Hill says that sex is an emotion

@RK-yt3rk 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Pastor, I’m a middle aged woman who made the error of losing myself and leaving relationships. I now understand that lesson. Had I known my worth I would have done as Lisa did. For me it’s a bit late. I don’t think I’ve known that kind of love, but I’m here now. Even if it means I will be loving myself alone. Thank you

@ActressAyannaTene 2 жыл бұрын

It’s never too late

@Mabae-pr8po 2 жыл бұрын

Bishop Blake's what if so much loss & death in the family is in the midst of a guarded broken man & he keeps his emotions buried from the past? This man makes me feel so good, natural, I can be myself with him, he makes me feel like I can do anything, be anything. I feel safe with him. I have never felt this way with anybody ever, not even my ex-husband had that affect on me. I believe this man is my soulmate, I know it, I've seen so many clues, as if GOD is showing me that this man is my husband. I love him, I'm in love with him. I have never felt things in my Spirit like I'm feeling, never spoke the words " My Spirit" like other ppl. He doesn't express his feelings to me, I believe he's so afraid of love. I haven't seen him since February, his Nephew was murdered last October & that young man was like his own son. I can only continue to pray, hoping he pushes thru. Am I dreaming? Help Patient Lady in waiting.

@onevenus6040 2 жыл бұрын

@@Mabae-pr8po why haven't you seen him in almost 6 months? And has he ever told you that he's in love with you?

@ninah5938 2 жыл бұрын

It is never too late ❤️

@BeautyWorld85 2 жыл бұрын

You never know what the future holds. Don’t give up hope. It’s never too late. When you know better, you do better. Be blessed 💕

@xmama1891 2 жыл бұрын

This message is so POWERFUL, at the age of 42 I never really value myself because I always compromise thinking that it will show "HIM" how much I love him, while doing that I devalue myself. From this day fourth never ever again. I needed this. I will definitely listen to this message over and over again. I CHOOSE ME STARTING TODAY AND ALWAYS. I have to see me and know me.

@nellywk.9851 2 жыл бұрын

Amen sis! I'm at this point too. I begin TODAY

@888hereandnow Жыл бұрын

Psalm 139 💖

@pricillageorge6593 Жыл бұрын

Amen I'm . At this stage at 43 left my husband of 13yrs new beginning.

@nelaswanjiru1209 Жыл бұрын

@ ×mama.Am above "60" n am waking up from a deep sleep of being de-valued n dis-respected all my marriage-life of 30+ yrs.This has to change.

@yvettejones6196 11 ай бұрын

I always love people who see me when I’m seemingly invisible to most people. That’s priceless!❤😊

@taniaramirez1675 2 жыл бұрын

I am going through a breakup but I’ve been following you for a while. I want to thank you, you definitely made this breakup so much easier than ever before with your teachings. You are the father that was never around, you are truly a blessing 🙏🏼❤️God bless you and Lisa for all that you both do. 💕

@caresawill.8749 2 жыл бұрын

"Right on..finger snaps for sure for agreement. Teachings how to tap into a very present HELP."

@jqgatlas4281 2 жыл бұрын

@Tania Ramirez God bless you sis. His loss. Praying for God to give you strength and comfort. 🙏🏼

@ayulinka3954 2 жыл бұрын

Hi, I read what you wrote and felt empathy, as if I wrote it. Indeed watching and listening to the pastor's lessons eases my broken heart, it empowers and gives lots of strength and lots of smart insights and I also feel like he is the wonderful dad I always wanted. Wishing you success in your life journey and all the best.

@lynellb 2 жыл бұрын

@Tania Ramirez 🙏🏾 . Please don't rush yourself to get over it. Allow your emotions to cycle through. Actually uncle R.C. has videos on how to love again after a heart break and how to heal from a heartbreak. Remember, you're still a queen; his lost not yours.

@ayulinka3954 2 жыл бұрын

@@lynellb You are so right!

@nikkyshamz2696 2 жыл бұрын

Self respect is a must. Thank you Sir. Awesome talk, per usual . 👏🏾

@eveheart2876 2 жыл бұрын

Yes , there are individuals with low self esteem so they feed off on temporary love or casual vibe

@denisefrank164 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this. Confirmation that my actions were appropriate. An affirmation I've adopted is: I don't chase, I attract. Whatever belongs to me, simply finds me. I have peace knowing that my self respect & dignity are intact because of loving myself enough to walk away when he said he wasn't ready for me. I live my life and focus on my goals and dreams and becoming a better version of myself. It's major growth for me. .❤

@lhughes6656 2 жыл бұрын

Love that. Well said.

@lynellb Жыл бұрын

@denise frank girl, my sentiments exactly! Yessss! Loving ourselves is key! Peace and blessings to you all💕🙏🏾

@kimdavis3259 Жыл бұрын

This!!! Yes! ❤

@mnorwo2 2 жыл бұрын

"YOU HAVE TO LOVE THEE IDEA OF YOU MORE THAN THEE IDEA OF US" 🤯🤯🤯

@kdmylove 2 жыл бұрын

*THE BASIC COMPONENTS A MAN SHOULD HAVE IN PLACE BEFORE A WOMAN CONSIDERS HIM* 1.) He has drive 2.) He is safe...woman doesn't feel threatened 3.) You cannot give a man a backbone.... a grown man won't tolerate disrespect 4.) You cannot give a man a relationship with God... he must have a fundamental relationship with God on his own 5.) You cannot give a man self control....he must have it under control himself 6.) You cannot give a man a work ethic....a woman shouldn't even consider a man not making money...broke man shouldn't have sex period 7.) You cannot give a man character. If you have kids with this man, do you want your kids to have lack of character like their dad?

@clarkclarke5321 2 жыл бұрын

So my question would be .... how does a man acquire thes qualities???? Who is raising these men ???? Who is putting in the work and time to raise the boys so that they have these qualities???. Men aren't born men .... they are babies ... little boys .... teenagers ...young men ...then older men ... I am a woman .. no children. .. by choice ...so this is not a dig or condemnation on parents however that is my question .... someone is raising these little babies ... what are we teaching them...??? . or how can we raise them better ????

@Rory-ct1zu 2 жыл бұрын

@@clarkclarke5321 he must aquire it from his father. A father who is present in the home, married to the young man's mother. Not a baby daddy. Not the ex husband. So instead of how to get a man to see u, how about how to bring the black family unit back together. Start there. Let your kids see their daddy in the morning and when he comes home from work and eats with his family. Then father and mother together teach a young man how to be a suitable husband and the father and mother together teach the young woman how to be a suitable wife. The value will come automatically. Let's stop with the gimmicks

@lynellb 2 жыл бұрын

@@Rory-ct1zu I beg to differ with you to an extent. The relationship/marriage between young man's parents may not work out. Resulting in them living in separate residences. However that father, (uncles, cousins) can still have a strong positive impact in the young man's life. Additionally, mom's can teach their sons to be true to themselves. This video is about what the title says, not how to raise boys.

@Rory-ct1zu 2 жыл бұрын

@@lynellb yes. You are correct. However uncles, cousins, and other men cannot have the same impact that a father has with his son. There is no substitute for that. But I get what you're saying. I understand this podcast but he's starting in the middle. A successful black man and black woman relationship starts b4 this. The molecular level is the unit. If that is remedied then this podcast is not needed.

@angelam.1416 2 жыл бұрын

@@Rory-ct1zu you are correct. It's so sad that we as a group are so far gone from Gods plan that what you said about Gods design gets pushback. Technically, it's not the uncle's responsibility to take the place of a father. Help yes, but again, so far from the plan people want the whole extended family to make up for the missing parent.

@Loveispatient76 2 жыл бұрын

I’m glad you didn’t come on here with 10 ways to “GET” a man rule number one do this, do that. No love God with all your heart soul and mind , God will show you your worth and on your own life’s journey, the man who God has for you will see you, seek you and honor you💕🌸 Great message.

@maryannrussell7263 2 жыл бұрын

Falling in love with Jesus and walking in faith as he completes you is a wonderful feeling of security and protection. You'll feel good and safe, and when u work on safe care you feel better. You're content and now fulfilling your life in his word and learning how you are to live in patience, staying dependent on your father's leading and direction is the right way to go....by trusting God because we still don't know what's best for our lives....Just let God choose for you and believe ❤ loving yourself is first and the way to go...Real Godly men will find you..(now I said,Godly men with Godly traits will find in that order)..just let it go!

@lynellb 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, just let it go...and work on you. Self love is paramount in our lives. Build up our self love, worth and self esteem and of course keep God first.

@Pacifica74 2 жыл бұрын

I did exactly what he said, and some men still don't learn. I left without him seeing it coming and left the door locked behind me.

@aprilhiggins5197 2 жыл бұрын

EVERY woman in the world needs to here the value in this message. I am extremely grateful for your teachings! Nothing just happens...thankful that God ordered my steps to bring your channel across my path. The confirmations and information are priceless! Thank you Pastor!

@lauracisco9677 2 жыл бұрын

I need notebook for this. It's amazing how much I can see now being alone is what I need. My ex future faked . I guess maybe I just need to set back And let God finish him off. It is almost demonic. Stay strong !!

@janeicethomas2398 Жыл бұрын

Desperation devalues a Woman... THIS is 💯. Appreciate the Gems of Wisdom You Consistently Sow into Generations Pastor Blakes

@dama_shares Жыл бұрын

What's great about this footage is the pastor's transparency about who he is now and who he has been as a man. This kind of authenticity, if anything, is what would draw me closer to wanting to know more about Jesus and Christianity. So many womanizing men are just full of themselves and of ignorance and entitlement. They refuse to change. But, not this guy.

@lizblacmman8094 2 жыл бұрын

Hello Queens, glad to be here!

@delilahnaomihardy1782 2 жыл бұрын

🥰🤗

@Xica448 7 ай бұрын

"Anything that dishonours you, you should put distance between that and you"

@deborahlewis930 2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful Lady Lisa Blakes is a courageous, incredible woman of God!! I Praise God for her example!🙏🏿

@GigiGirl2023 2 жыл бұрын

Lady Lisa’s departure was a “ PIVOTAL ” moment in the trajectory of your relationship stance.

@neicyluv553 Жыл бұрын

Wish I knew all of this 30 years ago! Priceless lesson indeed!

@abigail-amana1075 2 жыл бұрын

I love this, very encouraging because I'm faced with a situation where I've decided to walk away without closure from a relationship. I was told to keep my options opened. It hurts but I value myself and will not impose myself on anyone else.

@strongwoman9527 2 жыл бұрын

Things will get better!!!! Trust God your not alone!!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏

@lynellb 2 жыл бұрын

Yessss, sis! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@bridgettetraveler658 2 жыл бұрын

This is a true & beautiful message! This very same thing happened to me & my husband! He told me he wasn't ready for a forever relationship! We were already drifting apart! For a minute I was upset! I called him back & left a message telling him thank u! For wks we didn't talk! He called me wks later saying he loved me! I didn't rush back! I didn't trust his words! About 7 months later we were married! His mother told him to get me back as well! She knew I loved her son & would only do him good! She saw GOD'S favor on me before I knew I had any favor on my life! Lisa is a Blessing for Bishop Blake! Let ppl see our favor by letting GOD'S light shine through us!!!

@KleiritiHeals 2 жыл бұрын

This whole video kept me in tears. He said he didn't want me and I didn't ask any questions, I just left. We are in a situation where we still have to see each other regularly. No contact outside of that until he text me one evening about a month ago. I continue to mind my business and move forward. If he desires to and is able to show he sees my true value I'll slow roll it and seek The Most High. If he never comes back it's for the best and there is something greater in-store for us both. All experience is a lesson on how to improve, in this situation or in the next. Amen.

@diamondgold5277 Жыл бұрын

@Kleiriti J Don't go backwards, move forward as you begin to love yourself more and more, you'll attract a Man that should possess Love as well as you do, listen to him speak you'll find out, and RC Blake's videos about, Pimp's, Simps and Kings will definitely help on weaving these Men Out.

@tharry1228 2 жыл бұрын

This is so true, when you walk away from a man that you love he will start to miss and take you for granted and that’s when he will start to pursue you

@kimdavis3259 Жыл бұрын

Sadly most men won’t pursue because of their pride! 😏

@RealLadi228 2 жыл бұрын

Men will continue to try and get you back in that position of going no where fast after you've left..its good to recognize that his intentions haven't changed but my standards have definitely changed... A man must have purpose as a reflection of God's presence in his life in order to know our value..🙏 Thanks for the confirmation Bishop

@begulley 2 жыл бұрын

I always use the terms: Self-Love! Love-Self ! This is a great message. Thanks for sharing.

@iammeindeed3778 Жыл бұрын

"...with the little baseball boy..." cracks me up Every time. 🤣❤️

@lynellb 2 жыл бұрын

This is beautiful! So many of us are growing, learning and being enlightened by pastor R.C. Thank you, sir. You are now "uncle" R.C. ☺️

@jamnoise72 2 жыл бұрын

Good for you! I'm also proud to be a straight woman!! Nothing wrong with being proud of that!!

@mrsreed317 2 жыл бұрын

We confuse choices with making a true decision. Men be mindful when she is done she is done. Don't be confused by the multitude. The real flex is monogamy maturity and the manifestation of integrity

@dianadanielle81 2 жыл бұрын

You are tooooo funny about the ball player…. “Ain’t nobody checking for him!” 😂😂 Yesssss!!!!

@carolynwilliams4926 2 жыл бұрын

Known I understand how you make woman know they deserve better. Men who change they life for the better are some of thee best teachers. Thank you

@evadoyle345 Жыл бұрын

I APPRECIATE U!!! NOT HAVING A FATHER AND LOOSING MY MOTHER AT 16 lol then moving into my own apartment at 16- now I’m 46 come Sunday this is really blessing me ❤ THANK U MR & MRS. BLAKES I THANK GOD FOR U!!!

@luzvargas1063 2 жыл бұрын

Bishop RC Blakes when a great man notice me 1- I will fall on my knees 2- will go to one of your churches to let you know in person🙏🏻🎉🇵🇷

@lynellb 2 жыл бұрын

I totally love his transparency regarding his past.. Illustrating his growth and that it can happen for us all. Self love is key, it facilitates every single aspect of our lives! Love yourself to your core 🙏🏾💕

@alexusrichardson318 2 жыл бұрын

Pastor PLEASE say it LOUD and REPEAT it HETEROSEXUAL!! WE HAVE TO SPEAK OUT and CORRECT anyone who has an issue with what GOD has ordained man for woman; woman for man! PERIODT

@queenisaac4679 Жыл бұрын

I'm addicted to this song! GOD I thank you for this powerful message 🙏 and if you've done it for Lisa and Rev. R C Blake's, I know you WILL do it for me and whoever you have for me in Jesus' name...AMEN!

@tamyrecunningham8322 Жыл бұрын

Do you know the name and artist who sings this song? It's awesome.

@angiebutler227 Жыл бұрын

@@tamyrecunningham8322, I was wondering the same thing. I just love the theme song. 🎵

@joanstevens5647 2 жыл бұрын

I think mine is the king of the world . My mistakes in life he overlooks prays over and puts in the past . He taught me about true forgiveness and loving the unlovely . How to have genuine compassion for others after being hurt and disappointed in life . I couldn’t ask for better greater bigger in the spirit realms kind heart ❤️ kind man .

@msm3668 2 жыл бұрын

Good evening, and may God continually bless you, Bishop. I just want to say that your insight never ceases to amaze me. This teaching on 'How To Get A Man To See You' is more word I've ever received regarding a 'Queen Conscious Woman' and her role as a 'strong woman who loves herself MORE than the idea of a relationship.' It pulls out ALL the plugs when she knows her value. When a man isn't certain about her value or what he wants, she doesn't need to ask, "WHY"...but say, "BYE! I wish you well." That's when he begins to see her and her value. That's a SWAG message on behalf of ALL women if I ever heard one. Thank you! ❤

@Sugabeast 2 жыл бұрын

You can do it Pastor! One day at a time. We need you! Prayers to you on your health journey. Be blessed!

@MissLeaaaaa 2 жыл бұрын

God put this channel in my path for a reason. Not being dramatic when I say you changed my life and how I carry myself as a woman. This journey of growth is beautiful! 🥹🫶🏽

@sabreakempf4091 2 жыл бұрын

I agree! His messages of wisdom are so appreciated

@empresserica 2 жыл бұрын

I feel exactly like you do!

@MotheRuckerlove 2 жыл бұрын

Agreed ♥️

@deijam 2 жыл бұрын

I second this! It was definitely meant to be. Thank you to R.C Blake’s fr💗

@lynellb 2 жыл бұрын

🙋🏿‍♀️ I agree as well. He's become uncle R.C! And I'm in love with my journey...growth is a splendid event 😍🥰. The key to love, is to love yourself first!

@ilissawalker7051 2 жыл бұрын

It's time to take notes📝 yes another great message. Thank you..

@erikag7334 Жыл бұрын

Went for a walk to the park during sunset while listening to this segment. It was very therapeutic. Thanks Pastor RC I am learning about self love more and more everyday. ❤️

@debsmith2789 2 жыл бұрын

Men need this message too. Some mature men are still trying to be out there!

@jewishbride5010 2 жыл бұрын

I feel so blessed listening to your messages RC Blakes! I woke up with a deep feeling I would like a child since I am 36 years of age, and I somehow regret having been in a intimate relationship for more than ten years and not meeting God sooner, feeling my time has been wasted, but having no clue what I should have done with the circumstances and knowledge I was in and had at that time, not sure I was ready at all. I learned a lot though in that relationship, especially what I also do not want, just as I do not like to throw everything out of my body and wildest behavior to get attention of the wrong men anyhow. Nevertheless, I decided and bind myself no man to play me, not even for a child, since I want the best for that child as well. I can not be with a man I have no deep feelings for, a man who can not give his heart to me or one that can not slow me down for the right reasons without being a hinder or being harsh. Do not get me wrong, even if I would not be blessed with a fine husband and own child, I will make the best out of life and will involve myself more into charity projects and travelling I think, which is not bad at all. God holds my future in his hands and he only knows. I also know much more than I knew back then and I can't and won't go back! God is my maker and husband now, for real, since he has given me real love no man can measure up to. Blessed be God his kingdom and the Lord Jesus Christ for saving my life and giving it spark again, I will not mourn but celebrate life in any case, in accordance with this word and proverbs 14:7-9, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!

@cynthiamacaro1173 2 жыл бұрын

WOW !!! AMEN TO THIS ! It takes a BIG level a maturity to think this way. I am on the same journey and have the same mindset now. It is crazy, as i was saying the same thing lately: That i am in my 30'S, divorced with no kids, for the world my life is a failure but for myself it is the beginning of it. I am going to focus on ME ( at every level) and my relantionship with GOD, travel even more and take care of the needy. Don't hesitate to reach out if you need a buddy.

@MichelleSmith-jb9qh Жыл бұрын

@@cynthiamacaro1173 I'm going on 33 not married or have children ! I just recently became celibate since May 2022 .I told myself I am not giving up my body to please someone else. Or if I am wanting pleasure for myself. I am definitely trying to get closer to God as well. I sometimes come short but I'm a working progress! I pray all is well with you beautiful ladies! May God continue to bless y'all journey!

@cynthiamacaro1173 Жыл бұрын

@@MichelleSmith-jb9qh That's such an honorable choice. God will honour you for putting him 1st in your life. And yes we might fall 7 times but He ll always help us to get back on track. I strongly believe that because we have decided to put Him first and to delight fully in Him, He ll give us ( in His time) our heart desires. Good luck on your beautiful journey sister in Christ. You re not alone.

@MichelleSmith-jb9qh Жыл бұрын

@@cynthiamacaro1173 Thank you! May your journey bring you joy, peace, love, happiness ,blessings over flowing and, success!

@martal662 Жыл бұрын

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@reachoperator212 2 жыл бұрын

Pastor Blakes ready to through hands... "Holla at your boy"🤣🤣. On a serious note, God has really blessed you with the passion to guide his daughters. Love your content❣🙏🏽

@stewartforeal1079 2 жыл бұрын

I moved forward with my life and made that hard decision to divorce my ex and it being over a year now and people I will tell you it was the best decision ever...I chose me. Thank you for sharing R.C. Blake.

@red_edj 2 жыл бұрын

Did you separate first for a period of time or just get divorced? I have this pulling in my spirit to leave my marriage - even having several dreams of me leaving. I know my marriage was not ordained by God and my walk with Him has suffered and diminished since I've been married. Most of my close family and friends say I am not the same since I've been married. I truly believe I'm supposed to leave.

@stewartforeal1079 2 жыл бұрын

@@red_edj living together but physically and mentally separated. I knew the marriage was over definitely December of 2020 after I saw the KZfaq video on a narcissist. I had never knew of such a thing but that was my life and it then all made since and at that point I definitely knew it wasn't me and I wasn't crazy lol. I had been praying and talking to God for over two years in reference to my marriage. It didn't get better it was actually getting worse. I was trying harder to make someone happy that will never be, I was giving and giving and getting less in return mentally and physically growing weaker and I knew I couldn't continue living that life because it was/he was killing me. I give all the credit to God for giving me the strength I needed to chose me. You have your entire life to live and everyone deserves to be happy. Fear is of the devil. I will tell all to chose yourself at all cost and follow your mind and intuition. I can never speak on anyone's marriage or advise anyone to walk away from their marriage they have to know their situations however thank God for people like R.C. Blake that shines bright lights on situationrelationships. Good luck and please always remember to seek guidance.

@red_edj 2 жыл бұрын

@@stewartforeal1079 thank you for the response and God bless you 🙏

@tiffwashington1 2 жыл бұрын

It’s was the “ya dig!” for me 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I love Lady Lisa and Pastor RC!!!

@nicolerobert6340 Жыл бұрын

Amen! I needed to hear this. My situation is extra tough. My ex had his "I don't think I really want to get married and have a baby. I don't even think I want to be in a relationship at all" confrontation. I packed my things and was out of the house within five hours after that and virtually no contact (there were a few loose ends at the business we ran). Then I find out I am pregnant a few weeks later. He's being supportive and sometimes even excited about the baby coming. And I've been trying to share the experience (it's both of our first baby) without sharing that much of me. If he doesn't value my love, he doesn't deserve to feel it. I have more important things to worry about right now anyway. Thank you, sir.

@rhondacurtis9643 8 ай бұрын

Good for you!!!

@jessicaclaraaguilar Жыл бұрын

It’s good to share our testimony because no one can argue with our personal story. But the testimony is best shared after we are completely free from our pasts.

@KP_FruitsoftheSpirit 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely true. Let Go and Let God. He has to show me that I can trust him and lead me with the Love, Respect and Honor and Value me.. I'm Worth it and deserve it. I know myself enough to be willing to walk away. ❤️🙏🏼

@joelmab221 5 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for all your videos RC Blackes❤😘I am sure you are helping millions of women around the world to have self respect and self love... Sometimes we think we have enough self love and self respect until we listen a wise man like you to understand we can improve much more🙏My blessings 🥰

@keciabrown8321 2 жыл бұрын

You really have to learn to like and love yourself! You have to watch some women as well! Because some of them, old and young will make you feel guilty for knowing your worth and sticking to your standards! You have to realize some men don't see you, because they are not kings! It's a blessing when a guy says he doesn't want you! He did you a favor! He wasn't good enough for you! Move on quietly and swiftly! Be cool with your own company!

@connievelez5478 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Lisa for being that Queen example even at a young age.

@blueeyes3079 Жыл бұрын

Men want what they don't have access too....such a game. Why does it have to be a game

@catherinestevenson4940 Жыл бұрын

You are wonderful! Thank you for your great counseling!

@felisawoodson 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your obedience!

@seashellmermaid 2 жыл бұрын

Pastor Blakes, God has worked thru you and your Lisa to minister to this broken hearted woman this year. I found you exactly at this time last year. I'm still healing. When you speak...I feel your fatherly counsel as if I was sitting at the kitchen table back visiting my parents. I didn't grow up with a father. Thank you for answering the call God had on your life. May you, Lisa, your family and ministry continue to be greatly blessed. In Jesus Name, Amen!!!

@curlyisconfident 2 жыл бұрын

This is the best one yet pastor! I’ve grown so much because of you and your lessons. I am so thankful! 🙏🏾

@eveheart2876 2 жыл бұрын

I love every details of this message. He is right about the desperation part and misogyny. Women have learned so much as our age go up is hard to found a lover.

@christinewagner1722 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom!! Blessings to you and Lisa!!💕

@gracimiller9246 2 жыл бұрын

This blessed me! Thank you Bishop Blakes. Blessings!🙏🏽

@cynseii Жыл бұрын

Can not love this video enough! Thank you so much Bishop Blakes! I’ve been watching your videos for almost 3 yrs now and has helped me get out of a very debilitating relationship. Your videos are so insightful and clear and has truly helped me. Thank you!!

@robinabuchanan4200 2 жыл бұрын

Great message and absolutely true . You must love and respect yourself.

@brandysutton9317 2 жыл бұрын

Love how you lay it out to us. Definitely listening, learning and living. Thank you ❤️

@patpate2902 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Brother Blake’s!! I enjoy everything that you teach!!! It has helped me soooo much! Especially this one.Please keep helping us with The wonderful wisdom that God has given you

@pspr1149 2 жыл бұрын

This message is pure "gold". Thank you Bishop Blakes.

@imanijx 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. I've been 'trying out' walking in my value, keeping my life full and juicy, and having clear boundaries, with a masculine energy man and it's been so, so refreshing and ease-ful. No resistance. Grateful.

@AmandaFay 2 жыл бұрын

Your words are exactly what I needed to hear thank you for being here. 🙏🏼

@Melanie-dm6qf 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing these jewels of wisdom...

@fernalicious6662 2 жыл бұрын

I enjoyed every piece of this lesson,thank you Bishop RC Blakes 🙏🏽

@virtue8550 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your effort. We need you

@joanholley8547 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Pastor Blakes for sharing your wonderful insight. May God continue to bless you and your entire family.

@purplereignsupreme6990 2 жыл бұрын

Bishop Blake's,As a44 year old women who is recently divorced I can attest that you are 100% dead on with everything yousaid. if I had a father like u or the father daughter talk then, I could have saved myself 20 years of dishonor, and role reversal. Thanks to you the next time I fall in love,I'll know better what to do.

@tawanawilliams9618 2 жыл бұрын

I just realized today that all my relationships have been bad goes back to my first love who exploited me and I never healed from it so now I’m trying to see how I can really heal and move forward