How To Get Out Of A Mental Rut

How To Get Out Of A Mental Rut - Dr K HealthyGamer

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Ай бұрын

Chris and Dr K HealthyGamer discuss why you're never satisfied with your successes. Why do we move the goalposts once we win according to Dr K? Why does Dr K believe we don't celebrate our wins enough? why does Dr K believe people need to have more gratitude?
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@ChrisWillx Ай бұрын

Hello you savages. Watch the full episode with Dr K here - kzfaq.info/get/bejne/iq5giJV1npbQXaM.html Get up to 32% discount on the best supplements from Momentous at livemomentous.com/modernwisdom

@StabbyMcPokepoke Ай бұрын

We are savages 😅

@soufianeelalaoui Ай бұрын

We always get used to the new conditions of our situation. No matter what we achieve, the initial gratification of success subsides and we're back to a default dissatisfaction, unless we learn to better manage our inner dialogues.

@NarcSurvivor Ай бұрын

The ego ALWAYS wants more. But no matter what you have, it’s never enough. Connect to your soul and generate your happiness from within.

@harryv6752 Ай бұрын

💯 🔥 🤘

@sandrabojovic4817 Ай бұрын

Thank you. One minute is enough for this message. 13 mins is too much.

@spikeboy101 Ай бұрын

I had to learn it's ok to quit. That's I'm not a failure or disappointment for quitting. I did my best and I'm moving on and accepting letting go of something that I should let go. That was a hard battle for my ego

@villian99918 14 күн бұрын

Small victories are still a win. The ego isn’t satisfied unless it’s something big so you have to show gratitude even if it’s small

@ajones8008 Ай бұрын

Comparison is the thief of joy. Here is the thing, Now that we all have internet, we cant help but not to compare because of the tiny window to the world in our palm.

@KingSlayer_. Ай бұрын

I saved up for an electric bike the other day and a good one at that. But when I started riding it around, I felt ashamed and spoiled like I had it so easy compared to others. Since it was such a huge upgrade from walking to and from work for the last few months. Such a ridiculous feeling

@husseinnaji2827 Ай бұрын

maybe some form of shame for having things that others dont. or feeling like you need to force yourself to be grateful.

@christoskettenis880 Ай бұрын

There's a saying I developed: "If you can control it, don't worry about it. If you cannot control it, again don't worry about it!" We can only DO so much. Sometimes that's enough, sometimes little effort has great results and sometimes you are just wasting your time. The important thing is ACTION, not thoughts, not feelings, not even intentions.

@elisabeth4342 Ай бұрын

Thank you for using Mckayla Mulroney on the thumbnail!! I have something in common with her: I was a vaulting specialist too (as a competitive gymnast). She's my second favorite athlete - Simone Biles is my fav!!

@zensvlognotapro Ай бұрын

Human's nature is we never satisfied. One of the 3 Marks of Existence 😊. The cure for this we need to be happy in little things, we need to be grateful and we need to help those who need help because we can. Also we need minimalism . On comparison is underestimating other people and sometimes putting ourselves in the pedestal or underestimating ourselves and putting other in the pedestal . I read something Life is a DIY approach .

@Dingle.Donger Ай бұрын

Does anyone else do this? I use shame as motivation. I am very hard on myself when I mess up, but at the same time I am very proud of my accomplishments. It goes both ways. This has worked for me for years and I'm doing well for myself.

@cyrillllll Ай бұрын

Yep! Super sensitive to guilt when it comes from the outside cause I'm already FULL of it to make sure I meet deadlines.

@RobertHollis Ай бұрын

Amazing Video! Love And Appreciate You!!

@alanfortine878 Ай бұрын

Chris you should talk with a music industry expert about how music has changed and the phycology of how musical preferences have changed over time.

@kerkireos Ай бұрын

For me, the level of satisfaction winning something is way lower than the disappointment i feel when i lose or fail.

@KimbiBella123 Ай бұрын

That's ego baby

@spikeboy101 Ай бұрын

You feel negative feelings stronger because enough bad shit happening means you're fucked. It's ok to have some ego because you will want to avoid fucking up your life and others, but have the humility to improve after you've fucked up instead of spiraling into more bad feelings

@Checkmate9moves Ай бұрын

Some people are so busy living they forget to make a life.

@kristindenise2005 Ай бұрын

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” -Theodore Roosevelt

@Lokipower Ай бұрын

This is so deep and important.

@MatteoMarra3 Ай бұрын

pov: you're watching this because you're winner that sometimes feels like a loser (and that's okay)

@cc_par Ай бұрын

got me smiling at my phone fr pookie 🤭🤭🤭🤭

@MatteoMarra3 Ай бұрын

@@cc_par mwah

@mkveebiz219 Ай бұрын

So much wisdom here 🎉❤

@SaChin-sc1tp 25 күн бұрын

I love this guy,he was so good in the Big Bang Theory

@henrycollins2478 Ай бұрын

I think it’s because, at least at my young age of 18, the big wins I’ve had all feel overshadowed by the losses at the same time

@karenjunk2130 Ай бұрын

Shame: Irene Lyon is a great resource … she differentiates toxic shame AND healthy shame…

@myronsaville509 Ай бұрын

Get this man on again

@88tongued Ай бұрын

Pride and a sense of accomplishment is for children. It's it motivates formative self-development in youth, but becomes a problem in adults. The need to feel special and be celebrated is the problem.

@drewgrffn3880 Ай бұрын

I feel like this

@vincenzoguglielmo230 Ай бұрын

Gratitude is learned and practiced. If it were inherent to the human condition, this clip wouldn’t need to exist.

@JoboVentures Ай бұрын

LOVE the LED video wall - how? Where? Is this a rentable space or your studio??

@clarkkent4683 Ай бұрын

It will be a green screen

@bigbelly8649 Ай бұрын

Hedonic adaptation - You ever wonder why multi billionaires are never satisfied either. It's a survival mechanism to always do better.

@harryv6752 Ай бұрын

I'm satisfied with my successes. I am not satisfied with myself. Therefore, I continue to push myself to improve. And to be: "Faster. Stronger. Smarter. More humble. Less ego." -Jocko Willink

@evanhughes3027 Ай бұрын

Counterpoint. Every dictator ever.

@DanielBro42 Ай бұрын

TL;DW Stoicism

@jibster148 Ай бұрын

You make your own happiness first. Then deal with your situation, then make your own happiness again. The brain is a powerful thing if you treat it like the controlling force it is

@jibster148 Ай бұрын

Once you have self awareness with ego, you actually begin to get a positive one :) you wont love yourself, you'll like who you are

@connorvantress8073 Ай бұрын

There was a quote I saw recently that went like “derive your self-worth from the effort, not the out come”, and I feel like that helps a bit. Like, as long as I am trying and am putting in the effort, then what can you do if the outcome doesn’t come just yet or isn’t what you thought it was gonna be. Just enjoy the process and keep going

@iii1938 Ай бұрын

"If you know what that is"

@Pgr-pt5ep Ай бұрын

For once, I'm the first commenter. And that's a success for me.

@user-vr7nm1kh4k Ай бұрын

I'm only the second commenter and that feels like I'm a failer 😢😅

@Pgr-pt5ep Ай бұрын

@@user-vr7nm1kh4k Well, the success of being the first commenter was not satisfactory.

@lllevokelll Ай бұрын

Of all the possible examples to pick, McKayla was not the one. She absolutely was capable of gold, just random variance any given day, and her reaction was 100% justified. We like her MORE, not less, for being salty that random variance didn't break her way that event. It was drive and ambition that got her there, and drive and ambition that will serve her well the rest of her life. Anyone using her as an example of toxic disatisfaction is being as dense as a bag of rocks, and I honestly hope that zombie neitsczhe resurrects from the dead just to smack you silly while yelling in German about weak people hating those with drive and ambition. That thumbnail slander is garbage. McKayla is a Godzilla kaiju-sized slayer.

@TabletopFamily Ай бұрын

They never said "toxic"

@ChiTheAesthete Ай бұрын

Wtf is this background, im jealous

@theperson101ful Ай бұрын

CAN'T CONTROLL ME MF!!!!!!!!!!! ;P

@aast.1329 Ай бұрын

Control this, "Pee pee poo poo bum bum."😂

@Cola.Cube. Ай бұрын

Imposter syndrome is a real thing. And it's horrible.

@manubishe Ай бұрын

The thumbnail girl is a product of a social environment that all US people met, or even tried and left. She is by far not the average viewer of CW or Gaming Doctor.

@samgee7999 Ай бұрын

Wish that US gymnast wasn’t the thumbnail for this message about accomplishment and self-worth + comparison. She was being horribly abused by the Team US doctor. Larry nassar. I think anyone would feel conflicted standing on the podium with a gold having been through sexual abuse. Let alone at that magnitude and have you place of work hide it for so long. And the FBI.

@_Cheo Ай бұрын

Anyone else sense Dr Ks ego got a little out of hand in this interview? Why bring up that you reached 2mill subs first? Also ironic within the context of appreciating wins.