Disclaimer: I am SO grateful for our little boy. I feel so lucky and blessed to be having him and for him to be healthy as far as we know. I also know that girl/boy are social constructs and that this little guy could just as likely be into dance and dolls and princesses as trucks and dinosaurs and we will love him either way! I hope that in uploading this video I can help someone else who is going through the same thing feel a little bit less alone. Please be kind in the comments.

I wanted to update everybody on this again! Our little boy Rowan Matthew was born almost two weeks ago and GUYS. I am so so in love with him. This feeling seems so far away and long ago now. If you’re going through this I PROMISE when your little one comes it won’t matter to you anymore. Until then just give yourself time and compassion! Your feelings are valid and it’s going to get better.

I love this because I’m so sick of hearing people say, “you should just be happy baby is healthy”. Drives me up a wall! Of course everyone is happy the baby is healthy, no one asks for an unhealthy baby! People have visions and dreams of what their baby will be. I’m pregnant with my #6. I have 1 living baby at home. My #2 pregnancy was a live birth and she had major birth defects. We stayed in the nicu for 6 months. I’ve lost 4 babies and I still believe in gender disappointment!

This video and the comments are healing for me. I found out yesterday that I was having a boy and I bawled in the bathroom. It’s comforting to know that this is a normal feeling

My first was a stillborn girl. I wanted a daughter so bad I cried when the Sono tech said our next was a boy. I love him so much now but it was heartbreaking at first

I wanted a girl so bad and cried at my gender reveal, because it was a boy. I completely lost interest in my pregnancy once I found out it was a boy. Looking back on it, I feel silly. He's 15 months old now and I love him so much.

Love that you talked about this. So much mom shaming around this topic and it’s so common and NORMAL. I just filmed a similar video recently bc I just found out that I am having my THIRD boy. The pain of not getting that daughter is real and us mamas need to talk about it so we don’t feel alone and feel like bad moms. It’s OK to feel all the feels and still love our little boys unconditionally.

Thank you so much Megan! I’m pregnant with my 3rd baby and found out yesterday that it is indeed my 3rd boy and I was so heartbroken. I’ve wanted a girl like you since I was a little girl and yesterday was an awful day I was devastated and everyone expected me to be over the moon! This video has really helped me 💞

Thank you for making this video! Not many people talk about this! I felt guilty in being disappointed, and crying over this, I felt like I had no one to talk to. It’s nice to watch a video about it

Wow thank you so much for this video. I truly felt so alone. I forever saw myself as a girl mom, and we too are expecting our first child, a sweet boy. I cried for days, feeling guilty and ungrateful. Just a total shift in perspective. Thanks for bringing this into the spotlight. So much love!

The bond between a mother and son is truly special - I excited for you to experience it 💙

Thank you so much for making this. We found out today that it’s a boy and I was 1000% positive it was a girl. I’ve just known I’d have a girl first since before I even met my husband. I’m crushed. And I feel like a monster. And so ungrateful and just like a total failure as a mom and I’m not even out of my first trimester. I know I’ll be head over heels for him by the time he’s here. But I’ve already jumped to what if my second pregnancy is a boy too. I can’t have two boys. I don’t want two boys. And that makes me feel worse about myself. So thank you for making me feel not alone and a little less terrible about my feelings.

We lost a daughter in May 2018 and I found out I was pregnant again in July 2018. I had been so set on a little girl that when we found out we were having a boy I was pretty devastated. He is the most amazing, beautiful incredible child and I never would've pictured being so in love with him! Of course I'm still hopeful to have a girl one day but man, the bond of a mother and son are pretty amazing.

I cant believe people really thumbs down this video!! How?? I appreciate this video soo much!. Nobody talks about this. I feel like I can’t even talk to my friends or family about it!. Thank you for this amazing video

Thank you for sharing this ❤️ I’ve been crying ever since my ultrasound today and I feel so guilty. 😭 Your video helped.

Thank you for sharing this video. I really needed it tonight as I am sitting on the couch crying. ’m so afraid I won’t love my boy because I am still so in love with my girl that I always envisioned and thought I was carrying. You helped me feel not alone.

Thank you for making this. You’re very brave to speak about this to help others.

Thank you so much for your video. It’s brave because there are definitely a lot of judgmental people out there that don’t understand. But it’s so comforting and helpful for me, as I just found out after 3 years of trying that I am having a boy. All I have ever imagined since I was a child was having a little girl. I can’t stop crying and am completely overwhelmed with emotion- sadness, grief and also guilt for feeling this way. I appreciate you being so candid and for all your helpful tips. I hope in the coming days I will be able to move forward to start looking at clothes and thinking of a nursery.

Thank you for talking about gender disappointment and being so honest about how it made you feel. I'm 20 weeks and found out today that I'm having a boy. Like you, I always pictured having a girl. I have cried A LOT, and I feel so guilty for feeling this way. I know the feeling will pass soon so I'm trying not to beat myself up about it. I also don't love boy names. I swear I've gone through about 3 or 4 different books and haven't found one that I like. The fact that I have to figure out a boy name also made me cry. We had picked out a girl name by week 4, but oh well, lol.

I wanted a boy and was the same way I was extremely crushed and im still working through my emotions. Thank you for the tips.💜

This video is how I found your channel. It was immensely helpful. Thank you.

It's very important to be honest with your emotions because guilt over them keeps us from exploring them and working through them. I'm very glad you are working through them and that you are showing a lot of other people that it isn't unusual to feel these emotions, as well. God bless you, Megan.

OMG i looked up this topic bc i experienced it yesterday and wow it's Megan! I've been watching your videos for a while even before i was pregnant !! It's like hearing it from a big sister. Thank you so much for this, so glad you're the first one to pop up lol

I’m really grateful for this video, because everything you spoke about was something I experienced myself I too had envisioned myself with a baby girl and found out I was having a boy at 12 weeks. I’m not due until December and I’ve made peace with having a boy and began shopping for him as well, and it’s helped. The nursery was a big help as well. I’ve watched your birth vlog like 100x cause it’s so beautiful and peaceful its really has helped me get an idea of what’s to come in December. I also mourned my marriage changing and youth (we’re 25 my husband and I) so I know where you were coming from. Thank you for videos!

This is exactly how I felt..so glad to know I'm not alone. Thanks for sharing what you went through.

Thank you for sharing this! People just automatically assume you don’t love your child etc etc it’s not that at all! I wish more people spoke on the topic. So many emotions and society sometimes makes it so you feel you can’t talk about it sadly.

I’m so glad you posted this, Megan. I love your honesty and openness.

Thank you for this video 🙏🏼 I’m going through this right now and appreciate your wisdom and experience 💕

This is exactly how I feel! I just found out yesterday and feel disappointed. Thank you for your video

You are so brave for speaking about this sensitive topic! Congrats on your baby boy :-)

Thank you so much for posting this video! It is incredibly helpful and comforting to be reassured that these feelings are normal and okay to allow yourself to experience. 🥰

I'm currently going through this. Found out 3 days ago we're having a boy. I've always pictured having a girl, and now I feel like I'm grieving the loss of a girl that I never even had. I felt extremely disconnected from my baby for days but now I'm starting to accept it. I feel so guilty for being "ungrateful" or whatever... I'll love him all the same, but it is a struggle.

Thank you for the video. I'm 22 weeks pregnant and last week we found out we would be having a baby boy. I already have a little girl. But I was a little bit crushed because the whole time I was picturing a second girl and booth of them playing together. I know she will play with her little brother just as well. But in my head it was a girl. And know I need to accept that and find the joy again

Thank you so much for being so open and honest! You shouldn't feel guilty about telling the truth about your feelings. You will soon find out that the gender really doesn't matter once they place that baby in your arms! I'm a mom of 4 beautiful children. 3 girls and the caboose is a boy. After having 3 girls I wasn't sure how I would do with a boy BUT let me tell you...the bond between a mom and a son is LIKE NO OTHER!!! I love all my children equally, but there is a special bond between a mom and son. He is my heart with legs!!! Congratulations on YOUR journey of becoming a MOM!! You are going to be GREAT!

WOW! Thank you so much for opening up about this! This is not a topic a lot of people talk about so I commend you for this!

I subscribed to you because of this video! Thankyou for posting your experience! I had gender disappointment in the beginning too, it was hard especially when I really thought that my baby was a girl. (couldnt explain it just felt it), but Im 38 weeks pregnant now with my baby boy and so excited to meet him! Your words perfectly summed up what I felt when I found out those many weeks ago..guilt, shame, disconnect. It only lasted a few weeks but it was so so hard. Thankyou for posting it so others can see this video and be helped by it! AND for also commenting after you had baby boy!

thank you for making this. There are many emotions that come with the preparation and arrival of a little one, and I'm not alone :')

When you read the part about ‘the stranger’ in your pregnancy journal. That’s exactly how I feel right now. I had this idea of a little girl 👧 in my head and now it’s like this stranger I don’t know. I spent 21 weeks thinking I was having a girl. Heartbroken 💔 but grateful. Thank you for sharing your journey. I pray for a healthy birth and healthy son 💙I love him I just don’t know him yet xxx

I'm 29 weeks pregnant with a little girl, I knew I was having a girl from day one I could feel it. I'm in the uk so we dont have blood tests to detect gender but we found out at 20 weeks pregnant that she was in fact a little girl and oh my gosh my partner was soooooo devastated, he turned grumpy and snappy for like 2 weeks straight because he wanted a boy so bad. I guess it affects men aswel as the women 😊 hes ok now and excited which is great 💖

So good to watch when you are in the same position as you were. Well said also when you mentioned, I know I am going to be judged. I am feeling very much the same, lot of folks from my surrounding probably think that I am not good in the head after crying over the news of having a baby girl, not boy. And yes, watching and reading other women's, like yours videos and articles helps... I know it is going to be fine.

Thank you for being so candid about this, I found out two days ago that I'm having another boy and I felt so guilty for feeling, like you said ungrateful, I love my new baby, but I'm only having two kids so having a second boy crushed my dream of having a baby girl because I know I won't get pregnant again.

Found out an hour ago that we are “Team Blue” and I am completely devastated. Can’t help but crying over never having a girl as we only want one child. It’s tearing my heart in two. But I’m so glad I found your video. Thank u for your honesty. It made me feel a little better to know I’m not the only one going through this. Hopefully my disappointment will turn into excitement real soon.

Great video, and a perfectly natural feeling! I think most of us have experienced at least some of the same feelings. l love you so much! 😘

Thanks for this! I’m 23 weeks with my 2nd. My husband did a super cute gender reveal this weekend. My daughter is 4, perfectly healthy, sweet, and now excited for a little sister💝 Inside I am still hoping for a baby boy though!😩 like you said in the beginning, I def feel guilty, esp bc one of my BFFs is going thru pregnancy loss. Trying to get over the disappointment of not using the “perfect” name we had picked out, not having one of each, not going to have another chance... ugh! I’m sure I’ll love her when she’s here.😌

I needed to hear this ❤ thank you so much for your video

everyone always says that as long as the baby is healthy, they don't care about the gender, and I always felt like a horrible person and like I was already a horrible mother before the baby was even born, and I tried to pretend like I wasn't feeling what I was feeling. I'd always wanted a girl, I always wanted a daughter, I never had a boy favourite character, favourite toy, favourite celebrity, I only ever liked girl names.. I always pictured my baby being a girl. And I'm grateful and happy and I love my baby boy, but I was disappointed when I found out, and I think I made it a lot harder for myself because of how guilty I felt. I really hated myself for this, and I think that's why it's so so so important that people talk about this. Because you're not a bad mum (or dad) for having a preference. It's okay to wish for one gender and it's okay to be disappointed. You will get over it. That being said, my grandparents always wanted a girl and they had four boys and then they adopted a little girl and they couldn't have been happier with any of their children.

Megan, your videos are amazing, loving your honesty and the fact that you came out with such a sensitive subject as gender disappointment..I met many women with gender disappointment and they blamed themselves for the feeling..I struggled with me getting pregnant for 5 years but still understand the disappointment..I wanted a boy and I got him,but my friend prayed for a girl and she is expecting a boy too..But after some time she got over it and now maybe even more happy with boy then me :) so I believe that it takes some time to "settle" and accept the fact..

My husband and I just had our gender reveal party a few hours ago surrounded by our family and friends and we’re having a boy. Deep in my heart I really wanted a girl. I always wanted a daughter. I tried to hide my anger and sadness from everyone but as the party was over I couldn’t help but to breakdown in my room. I feel bad and guilty for feeling this way. I was already planning my daughter’s appointment to get her ears pierced, our mommy daughter dates, getting our nails done, planning her quinceañera and having that bond I didn’t have with my mom. It’s an ugly and sad feeling and I feel very bad about crying and feeling this way.

This was beautiful, thank you so much for sharing! I remember we had our gender reveal and I cried through happiness and utter sadness when it was a boy, I just knew it was going to be a boy, and even though I thought I'd prepared myself I was still so hoping to see a big cloud of pink smoke when the cannon went off, and when it was blue my heart sank, it took me a good few days to come round to the idea but now I can't imagine him being anything else and now I'm due, I wouldn't change him for a girl, I'm so glad he's a boy and most importantly he's mine 💙🥰

Just found out I’m having a boy and feeling the same way you did. Thanks for posting this💙

Omg! Thank you so much for this video. I really want a boy and I feel like I'm being judge for that. I don't mind a girl but I'm sure I'm gonna be disappointed and start crying if it is. A lot of people tell me that it shouldn't matter and I'm overreacting and I feel bad about it. This video help me a lot and made me realize that I'm not the only one and it's normal to feel that way😊❤️ Love you by the way 🙂

I just had a gender reveal and it is a girl. I know i am gonna love her still but my husband and i really hoped for a boy. I wanted a boy because i always wanted a baby brother (i am an only child) and my husband also wanted a baby brother too. Without any person saying it in a platform such as this video, i feel like he and i would be silenced by people telling us how blessed, lucky and grateful we should be to have this healthy baby. But i guess when you have had a gender preference and the scans tell you otherwise it is almost like a dream that you have to wake up too soon. We are keeping ourselves mum about it knowing that people will judge us but true enough, gender disappointment is real and that coping and healing from it to have an amazing relationship with your kid is also real and available. Thank u very much for sharing.

I am so glad you and other moms are talking about this. When I found out my second baby was a boy, something felt off... I felt... disappointed... and so SO GUILTY for feeling disappointment. I imagined myself having three girls and I knew we had said we’d only have two, so that was already hard. I never had a sister and I always wanted my children to experience that, to have all girls, very close in age while I was in my 20’s. It took me a few days, and the way I see it is I “grieved” That life that I had pictured in my mind. I made my peace with it and I was excited to have my little boy! Now, he is 4yo and THE SWEETEST, funniest, most loving thing to his mamma ❤️ Funny thing is, unexpectedly and without trying, we had FIVE more children; two boys and three girls! My last five babies were born within a year (our triplets will be three in August and our twins will be two in June). You never know what life has prepared for you. ❤️

I love so much how this video is not for the people that will judge this emotion - because they are there. This video is for people that have the negative feelings, period. You can help your feelings - but what an incredible video that helps you overcome them!

Thank you, I needed to hear this

I don't have kids yet but I am going to be trying for it this year. This video opened my eyes to some of my own feelings about wanting a little boy or two before having a girl. So thank you for being brave enough to put this out there and being able to help people in so many different ways.

Oh a boy's love for his mother is amazing! Congrats Megan. I grew up with our great grandfather Acuna. He was so loving and fun. He lived behind us in a 1 bedroom duplex that still had furniture from the 1940's . He would give me his old cigar box with a Hershey bar in it. You are an amazing strong woman who is blessed to carry a son that will keep our family name going so thank you! You will love having a boy. My son is 18 and will still crawl up next to me so I can scratch his head while we have a heart to heart talk.

Thank you for this video!! Those small things matter.

I had a lot of these same feelings in my first pregnancy. My husband and I has always kind of joked that we just felt like we were destined to have girls. We didn't do any big gender reveal, but when I got my NIPT results over the phone and they me it was a boy, I kind of felt in shock. I hadn't had any strong feelings about the gender since becoming pregnant, and I obviously knew it was a 50/50 shot, but hearing it was a boy just kind of felt...wrong. I wasn't so much upset or disappointed as just a bit disconnected. It didn't quite feel real. But I definitely felt guilty that I wasn't excited. But over time, as we started planning the nursery, buying things, dreaming about how things would be once he arrived, those feelings eased off and I got more and more excited to meet our son. As I began to feel his movements more, he became a real person to me, and by the time he was born, there was no question that he could ever have been someone else. He's 18 months old now, and of course I adore being his mama! Now I'm pregnant with baby #2, and I'll admit I was nervous finding out the gender this time, most of all because I know this will likely be our last baby. I was so afraid that if it was another boy, I'd be crushed by the idea of never having a daughter. I spent a lot of time thinking about it and trying to get my mind to a place of peace. In fact, when I got my NIPT results online, I stopped and said a prayer before opening them that I could accept and feel joy over whatever the result was. I didn't want my mind to be left catching up this time. Honestly, when I saw "female," I think I felt as much if not more shock than last time. I had to go back and keep reading it to make sure I wasn't crazy and seeing things. I think part of me felt like I was terrible for having any preference in my mind, or that I wanted it too much somehow, that it would keep it from happening. I'm 18 weeks now and part of me is still holding my breath for the anatomy scan to confirm everything. But the funny thing is, even though I got what I "wanted," I'm finding it isn't so simple either. There's still part of me that feels bad my son won't have a brother to bond with. And there's still a disconnect, where I feel like I don't "know" this baby yet. I'm not feeling a lot of movement yet, and I'm so used to connecting "baby" with "boy" that I find myself mentally slipping and saying he instead of she. We even have a name picked out (90% sure) but I don't find myself calling her by that name yet. I think, either way it goes, it just takes time to accept your reality and connect with this tiny little person you don't even know yet. Give yourself patience and grace. You know you will love your child unconditionally, no matter who or what they turn out to be -- however similar or different to the reality we pictured in advance, in a million ways besides just gender. And the more you get to know them, the more that love will grow deeper and stronger.

Great video u gon get through this💙

Thank you for sharing ❤️ I needed to hear this I was so sure my baby was a girl and turns out he’s a boy. And as bad as it sounds I’m experiencing the worst part of gender disappointment because I found out today, hopefully in a few days when I see my baby next week I will feel better and start adjusting mentally

I want to thank you for sharing. I understand. I met my husband later in life and didn’t start having babies till my mid-30’s. Just found out yesterday I’m having my 3rd boy. I feel so guilty for being depressed about it. I’m truly sad. I’m just mourning the daughter I’ll never have. I’m too old to keep trying, this baby is my last. I will love him with my whole heart. It’s just hard letting go of the daughter I dreamed of.

I am due with my first, a boy in a few days. Ever since I found out the gender I’ve had the hardest time. Not because he’s a boy, but for the loss of the daughter I feel like I had. I always envisioned my life with a little girl and as a girl mom. I knew this baby was a girl and then all of a sudden we shot the colored cannons and they were blue. This is all about the loss of a dream. It’s a real, true issue.

I am not pregnant or even near being in that stage of life yet but I have so much respect for you for this video. The amount of courage it takes to 1) Take care of yourself and get yourself the help you need to overcome this 2) Use what you learned to help others and 3) Know with this topic there are going to be mean, judgmental people and yet still post it for the good of others, is amazing. You are going to be such an amazing mama and I’m sure so many women appreciate you for this! Can’t wait to see you and your little one grow! 💓

Thank you for sharing. This is a sensitive topic and you are very brave. ❤️

I really relate to this and I needed to hear this. I am 27 weeks it took me til just a few weeks ago to know for sure what the gender was. And the reason for that is I had to change obgyn's because I had switched my insurance over so I didn't know for 6 months what the gender was! At the beginning when I found out I was so happy about being pregnant. I kept it a secret for 4 months at work because I wasn't ready to tell friends or family yet I wanted to make sure everything was going well but when I finally told people they were already making their guesses and they asked me what I wanted all his family knew I was going to have a boy because that's all his family has but my family thought it was going to be a girl because the first child with the women in my family have is a girl. Me and my husband wanted a girl so bad but it ended up being a boy and I'm still trying to wrap my head around it. And it doesn't help that people are still trying to guess the gender because my gender reveal is not until this Saturday. The thought of me never having a girl really sucks considering that all of his family are mainly boys. I'm trying so hard to be happy about having a boy but it's been really hard thinking I may never have a girl. Thank you for these tips and I will work on them. Please wish me luck 😊

It happen to everyone and it's nice to be knowing that I am not alone in this journey

Thank you soo much for sharing. There is a lot of stigma around this topic bc ppl assume that you’re ungrateful or wont love your baby. You can be sad/disappointment but still be grateful. Our feelings are valid. I know not everyone will understand. Like you, I felt like I knew I was having a girl. And I feel like I am meant to also be a girl mom (maybe not this time but sometime later) so I was devastated when I found out I was having a boy. I thought I prepared for this possibility and I was surprised with how hard I took it. I have a step son so I already feel like a boy mom. On my fiancé’s side of the family, there are a lot of little boys. And on my side, we had a mix but they’re are all big now. Its been tough bc I find it hard to bond with boys bc we’re so different. At least thats how it it with my stepson, even if we both love eachother. I was really craving a mother daughter relationship as well. And its sort of like a loss to me that Im still grieving. Of course I love this baby. I prayed for this baby. Maybe next time, if we decide to try again. This pregnancy has be traumatic for me so far so and Ive also been depressed because of it. Maybe once Im out of this fog, I will see it differently. Thank you for being brave enough to share 💖

thank you so much for sharing this. i haven't found out the gender of my baby yet, but i have been nervous for it to be a boy, and if it is, i don't want to be sad or disappointed if i can help it. i want to prepare myself either way.

I've been a subscriber for while but haven't been active on KZfaq and totally missed you being pregnant, congrats! I am also pregnant, almost 18 weeks, and it's a boy. My husband and I talked about both, had the boy name picked, but both fixated on having a girl. When I got the call and learned it was a boy I was in a state of shock- like what do I do with a boy?! But, I've learned so much about the bond between mother and son, and it really is something next level that I cannot wait to experience (which my husband ended up telling me was the reason he wanted a girl for the daddy-daughter relationship). We will have our girl at some point in life, I fully believe it but right now, we are meant to have this sweet boy and I love him more than I can explain. Other ladies, you are not alone! I'm so glad to be a part of this discussion ❤

Knowing that I’m not alone, just makes it a little better

i wish i would have found this video sooner. when i found out i was having a boy i was crushed to say the least. now i’m 37 weeks and i can’t wait to meet my little man!

Im so glad I found this video.. I have 2 sons already and today I had my 20 week scan for our 3rd baby... I found out today im having my 3rd BOY.. I was so desperate for a girl.. I cried in the toilets after my scan.. my partner kind of understands and ive asked him to not make me feel guilty or worse for feing sad.. I am so happy im having a baby boy BUT I am gutted and grieving that girl I will never have.. we have decided this is our last baby and no more after this.. so I will forever be a boy mum.. I love his name and my oldest son really wanted a boy so I just know that he will be SO HAPPY!! I only found out a few hours ago and feel on the verge of tears when I think about it.. ive started adding things to my amazon wishlist for boys so thats helping .. but this video was nice to hear xxxx

Thank you so much for making this video. I grew up in a house full of women and I always wanted my home to feel the same. I already have a son who I love to bits but when I just found out my second is also a boy I cried my eyes out. I felt like I should have at least one girl, but I guess it’s just the way it was meant to be. I won’t be having anymore so I think this is why I was so sad.

Megan you are wonderful. I have no kidlets but what you have shared in this video is incredible. I love and admire that you shared your true feelings in order to help others, even though there is an element in the Internet who are revolting and only wish to hurt. Very courageous of you. I too like to share with other women, though in my case I do not have a channel, it's just through sharing with my friends, family and others I meet. I'll share with you as well because unfortunately these things happen and if they do knowledge is power and takes some of the fear away. Vulvadynia. It is pain during intercourse. It can be caused by, in my case, stress in my body, too many urinary tract infections (because I did not know I had diabetes), and the trigger was physical trauma - I slipped on a wooden floor down two steps and landed extremely hard on my butt. It hurt! The pain from sleeping with my husband came a few months later. After some time I was very lucky to find a pain specialist in Adelaide Australia who treats this issue and others (bladder pain and people dealing with chronic pain from cancer). One of the triggers for Vulvadynia is childbirth. I'm not telling you this to scare or worry you. Just to be aware that there are resources out there. Here in Australia it was very very hard to get the help you need, especially when you have no idea what is wrong! I was extremely fortunate to find Marek's clinic. Here is his website : www.vulvadynia.com.au . Marek travels internationally to conferences to advise medical practitioners. Australia is very much behind, in my opinion, in appreciating his expertise in the field of pain. Anyhooooo, I hope you don't mind my sharing this with you, but I think this is information that I think all women need. Looking forward to seeing your little man in June! Take care.

Props for being open about the natural human reaction to dissapointment. You are just saying aloud what many a parent felt when they found out they weren't having the boy/girl they hoped. If you see a family with 3 or more of the same gender - 100% guarantee Baby 3 and beyond is because of their dissapointment with the 1st two. TRUE FACTS.

I have an 8 year old son and identical twin boys on the way. I desperately wanted girls. I absolutely cried my eyes out

Thank you for this video. I just found out I'm having a boy today and feeling all these things and just crying feeling like a bad mom. Thank you for making this heard.

OHH I JUST went threw the same thing like three days ago 🙃 I literally had the same experience as you. All my friends have had girls and I just always thought of having a girl too. When I found out I was literally crushed and didn’t believe it and looked up how accurate the blood test is. But I thought about it and have been doing better. 😊

So proud of you for talking about this!💕

Thank you so much for posting this video as I am super miserable right now

I’m glad you posted this! I immediately just assumed it was a girl and this is my second pregnancy you’d think I know better by now! I just couldn’t help it. I only picked girl names, I picked all girl gender geared items for my registry. I envisioned my daughter having a sister. I was used to being a girl mom so I just wanted another one. I know that sounds selfish to people who may have always wanted a girl and who doesn’t already have one. I don’t know these feelings are so confusing. I will love my son but woah I did not expect to see it say I’ll have a boy. I don’t know how to be a boy mom. I try to remember I didn’t know how to be a girl mom and I did that. Im just sad and feel guilty for feeling this way.

I have a son who is now 21 but I remember back when I was pregnant I just assumed I was having a girl. Have no idea why. I guess just because I am female. When we found out it was a boy I was shocked. Wasn’t disappointed just shocked. So glad you did this video!!! Love your raw content.

Thank you for sharing! I'm not pregnant but if I found out I were having a boy I would probably react similarly to you. Thank you for normalizing these emotions ❤

Thank you so much for this video 💕

My aunt has five girls, she’s always hoped that with each pregnancy that it would be a boy. She’s done having kids now and she’s happy to have the girls she does. Before hearing her experiences and yours I always worried about the problems that would come with each gender, but now I’m just hoping for a healthy baby.

Thank you for making this.

Thank you for talking about this! I found out tonight I am expecting a baby girl. I feel shocked, and yes disappointed. I have a big brother and I always imagined I would have a boy first; I feel like this is not how it’s “supposed to be”. I know I will love her so much and I had to fight hard to make her; it does feel like she is a stranger right now but when she’s here I know I’ll look back on this and be shocked I felt this way

Thank you so much for your honesty! I hope don’t get push back for this video because it’s soooooo important to discuss this!! You are incredible!

Thank you so much for posting this. Just thank you. Thank you.

Thank you for making this video and please know you aren’t alone. I thought I was until I came across your video and I felt the EXACT SAME Way when we found out our gender. It’s the sudden and unexpected perspective shift that just wrecks your emotions in a way you didn’t know was possible. I’m going to take your tips and implement them today! Congratulations on your baby!

I wish my mother tried to get over her gender disappointment. She's seemed to hate my guts my whole life because I'm not a boy. She never had her boy to carry on our father's name. She had my sister. Fortunately, she's not harsh about my sister's gender. I'm eighteen and I can tell she doesn't love me. I'm glad most expecting mothers do not stay disappointed. All of you are great mothers for not holding onto the disappointment. 💗

sooo glad you made this video , it’s the first one i’ve seen on yt … this is a real topic that A LOT of women face . thank you for your honesty 🤍🍼🙏🏾 i really want a boy and my gender reveal is July 24th 2021 sooo i’m watching this now just to be prepared and learn how to control my emotions around friends and family for the big reveal in case i don’t get what i hoped for .

I’m happy someone had the Guts to make a video like this. I’m really the opposite of you, always pictured having a boy and he would be my baby boy and I’d be the only Queen in the house. Just found out yesterday I’m having a girl and im sad and couldn’t be even sleep all night “picturing me being a girls mom” something i never pictured I hope this tips help me because I’m SAD!

Having my scan in a week and im doing everything to help me cope that day.

I am from Germany, my English is not the Best. In germany, nobody talk about this... Thanks for your video. I found out today that it will be a boy. I'm so sad about it and I still don't know how to cope with it. It feels like I couldn't love the child. It wasn't a planned pregnancy, the circumstances spoke against the child. Still, I decided to fight, no matter how dark it looks. A week ago the doctor said from the ultrasound image that she is going to be a girl, I was so happy, I thought that was the reward for all of that what I endure and take on for the baby. Today I got the result of the blood test and found out it's a boy. It's like someone killed my little girl that I had for a week. It hurts so much. First to hear that it is a girl and to be happy to then learn that it was all just an illusion.

The big question I have is why you want a certain gender for your baby? It is because you think you can't do certain things with your toddler when him or her hasn't the certain gender? I hope not. Because I am so sick of parents who dressing their little girls like dolls and letting their little boys only play with toy cars and other typically "boy stuff" and neverrr the other way around.

Thank you so much for making this video🙏🏻 I don't know the gender of my baby yet but we might find out next week. I am feeling so guilty just for having a preference. I was getting really nervous about how it will make me feel when I find out who are we having.

I'm going to find out the gender of my baby tomorrow and I'm watching this to prepare myself 🥲

Thank you for sharing ❤