“Care about people’s approval and you will be their prisoner.” Loa Tzu

This guy was amazing. The crowd wasn’t on his level at all. He’s dropping jewels for real.

I love what Radical Honesty is.... Lying can bring trouble, and honesty can bring trouble... it's about choosing what kind of trouble you want, good or bad...

16:09: "..When you experience an experience, it comes and goes. When you resist experiencing an experience, it persists. The major form of resisting your experience is by thinking." …Nice!

I love this: diplomacy is what causes war. Agree. Another word for diplomacy is bullsh*t or dishonesty.

“If you’re trying to stop your mind, it’s the best way to keep it going.” PREACH!!!

Sharing honesty with a person who has a vast amount of humility is painlessly easy, especially if you are a humble, person as well. What seems to be difficult for people is being humble enough to accept, analyze, and build off of the honesty received from others in order to better themselves. In other words, if you dish it, you should also be able to take it. Before we can be honest with others, we need to be honest with ourselves. Not everyone is honest enough with themselves to positively utilize honesty in order to better themselves, or to better understand others.

He said that he wants us to go out and practice radical honesty. I don't give a f*** what he wants.

I've been subconsciously searching for this discussion for a long time, now I feel like I have another piece to the puzzle. Thank you Brad.

He’s simply describing being present and stepping out of the stream of thinking. Mindfulness.

Yes! Honesty truly is a necessary practice for any relationship of any kind to thrive. We often blame others for our inability to be honest with them. They are just going to get mad, can’t handle the truth, etc. That’s actually the sorry excuse we tell ourselves because we lack the courage needed to be vulnerable &compassion needed to deliver the truth. It’s not what you it’s how you say it that poses an issue. Even with someone who repeatedly gets offended by truth. If you consistently deliver the truth in a nonjudgmental way & let your genuine intentions know that it’s to provide a benefit to this person they will be conditioned to feel reward not punishment with you. We all have the power to be successful in mastering communication & honesty when we challenge our own intentions first. Honesty isn’t our personal opinion it can be our personal interpretations. I think people confuse what’s truth with what’s preference and that’s when conflicts happen. Now others can misunderstand you creating conflicts but having conviction in our intentions & making them clear is hard to argue with if intentions are noble.

This guy is as close to a hero as I think anyone is ever going to get for me.

I love this description of enlightenment. Noticing vs thinking. I literally had this experience on a boat today. When I was thinking I just thought of all of the terrible things that could happen, but when I was just listening to my music and feeling the movement of the boat I was able to relax and feel calm, even though the movements were crazy, because I wasn't relating the movements to any future outcome, I just noticed them. It's meditation.

I used to be honest with everybody. Then I learned that it is not always good to be honest. Since then my relationships with everybody improved like 400 % :D

The Dutch have mastered this. Sometimes it can be relieving, and other times the truth can really be painful or breaks your heart. Straightforwardness and honesty can really be a double-edged sword.

0:56 bottom right, red sweater

I have embraced radical honesty in the past year.Its the best thing ever but very hard to reconfigure your brain to do it.

When you resist experiencing an experience it persists and the major way we resist experience is by thinking Noticing is more important than thinking

This makes me cry laugh, because that's my instinct and way of being. I'm the buzz kill, analyzing, criticizing family member. No one enjoys being responded to with a person's true perception. If they did, I'd be the happiest person in the world. Mind you, wording and approach with the honesty is critical, still being the reality checker isnt the job with a happy face rating. Personal option, based on personal experience. Take it how you please.

Around 14:40 I can relate. My brother died and I cried and felt so much relief afterwards. Still grieved but it took so much sadness out of me. Made me think about past experiences and I see the truth in what he said. No matter what the pain after crying and coming to terms and accepting it you feel sort of free.

Let me summarize: Say what you mean, just don't say it mean.

So weird. My radical honesty got me into big trouble and now my friend hates me for it and is doing everything she can to deny reality and come up with ways to “disprove” the truth. It’s so hard for us humans to be honest with ourselves and be ok with not being perfect. Just admit your flaws, then work on doing better.

Children learn the skills of diplomacy after their innate honesty gets beaten out of them. That's evolution baby.

I almost gave up on this about two min in... I’m glad I didn’t. This man just explained to me why none of the approaches I have taken to calm and organize and carry out my thoughts and plans have worked. They were coming at it the wrong way. Well, I was. I have a very hard time, every single day, not living in my mind. It’s obsessive, uncontrollable, life altering and can become misery. It’s so hard to put this into practice, what he is saying, and I wonder if other people suffer as I do or if I’m just blowing it out of proportion to myself. 😥

Eckhart Tolle's book, The Power of Now, changed my life. I also got it on tape and listened to it until I finally learned how to stop thinking. I've never been more productive and happier.

It's amazing, all the resistance in these comments

People can't be honest. They don't even know what they are. Thus their version of honesty is always changing. Every time they think they've discovered something new about themselves their perspective changes and this results in an inconsistency in their beliefs and their actions. Given the same neurochemistry, DNA, conditioning, environment, family influences, anyone could be one of the very people they often demonize. People are more or less products of society. Without the information put into you by society you'd have no way of contemplating anything, never mind what you are, who you are, and whether or not you're honest or not.

A book that really helped me was: metamorphsis, the journey through. Would recommend to anyone going through a hard time!

This is my favorite Ted talk next to Reggie watts. Even at a million views, severely underrated

I'm an INTP, and radical honesty is the fundamental cornerstone of my personality. I can tell you from a lifetime of experiences being completely honest, that this is NOT always the correct course of action. An early example being a teacher that asks you why you weren't in class. If you tell her the truth, that you skipped because you simply didn't want to go, you will suffer consequences. Although I'd proven my penchant for honesty, she lost her trust in me. Are you prepared to suffer real consequences for your actions? Another, and more disastrous outcome, involves the consequences you'll suffer when revealing truths to the people that you love. You may be prepared to suffer the consequences of their disappointment and/or scorn, but are THEY prepared to handle it? In this instance, your pursuit of radical honesty is a selfish act. Honesty may liberate you, but may harm those that are not yet on your plane of heightened self awareness. Are you willing to admit to your dying mother that you're an atheist, and do not believe that her death will take her somewhere you'll be able to see her again? My atheism was called out on her deathbed, and I regret my stoic faith in radical honesty in that instance. It would have been kinder to allow the dying woman before me, my own mother, the solace that I believed what she believed. That she wasn't really leaving existence forever, and we'd see each other again. In a perfect world, everyone would appreciate, respect, and accept radical honesty. The truth is that this isn't a perfect world, and the vast majority of people will revile and reject it. This isn't to say that you should lie about things that will have a genuine positive impact on the world regardless of how it will affect you (whistleblowing, or standing up to an employer that takes advantage of their employees, for instance). Learn to recognize when honesty is a selfish act that only benefits yourself, and when it will do real harm to those unprepared for it.

Incredibely interesting what that man has to say. He definetely knows stuff! I can understand his thinking because I can refer to most of the things by myself. He continues his thoughts and goes a step further, which is really what is so interesting for me, because it feels like I've learned alot about myself after this little talk. Also I like his humor he seems like a down to earth person even with his "brutal honesty"

there needs to be a talk about this? oh man... i've been like this all my life. Im really laughing at people saying "be ready for isolation,awful life etc" if you care about what everyone thinks, then something is wrong If you wanna live a life with fake friends,hypocrites, people that you dont really like or like you, be free, i like my "lonely" group of friends, i like being me, and i like my friends for being them. Honesty sometimes hurts, but it helps ,so much.

This guy has one of those voices that lulls you into a sense of false security with its velvety soft southern accent then rips it away hilariously when he curses.

I love this guy!!!! This is thr best thing I've seen in 2023 so far!!!!

Easily one of the greatest talks ever. If you disagree with that, your lying.

This man and his message is awesome and amazing

Although I completely agree with his views on honesty I was very disappointed with the misleading title of this talk. Really has nothing to do with getting over shit to be happy which I was looking forward to hearing. Even the written description never mentions it. This seems to be more and more of a common problem with the Ted channel lately. Extremely frustrating and annoying. Do a better job with your titles Ted!!

Being an introverted intuitive I can definitely agree thinking is messy and noticing is more important. As I tell people, "My intuition is always right, but that doesn't mean I am". I can think myself in the wrong direction or even in circles if I'm not careful about listening to my intuition; which is great at noticing.

Dude sounds like an elder Matthew McConehey

around 12:30 - "... offend people... hurt people's feelings... stick with them until they get over it... only takes 90 seconds..." Words to Live By: Honesty and Truth is the best way!

I try to process my thoughts as I watch this video, I mostly feel happy and I just pray... that the past doesn't get in the way of my happiness... and that all my stresses don't overwhelm me... and... there's a person I want... I want them to want me, just as I am. I pray for true love.

I took a quote from kristen Bell, She shared her therapist advice. Her therapist, stated, "honesty without tact, is cruelty".

Wow. So many of you are saying such mean things about this kind man who genuinely believes he's on to something good and is trying to share it with people. Will it work for all listeners? Of course not. But it might work for some. We're all wired differently. I'm sure for some not telling the truth all their lives has caused untold amounts of pain for them. Maybe i5s their BIG THING. Maybe they haven't even realized it until this lecture and they walk away better people for the experience. I happen to be one of those who blurts out unsavory words without giving it a second thought. Maybe this lesson isn't for me or you but I give the man credit for his kindness and his attempt to make the world a better, kinder place, unlike so many who here who have clearly gone out of their way to make this particular spot on earth a place of ridicule and judgement. Haters gonna hate no matter what. Peace.

this guy just blew my maaaand

7:50. I was on sick leave for 40 days, I had extremely stressful situations at home, I got anxiety and insomnia over it. I lost 17 lbs, and looked sick. I was supposed to return to work or retire. ( I NEVER WANTED TO EVER RETIRE).. I put on my uniform and looked into the mirror,.. and I totally FREEKED OUT!!... I was home alone.. my 1st thought was " I CAN'T GO BACK TO WORK LIKE THIS "!!... I called and retired. I had a breakdown and was hospitalized. I couldn't believe what I had done.!!! I wasn't able to return... and went into depression!, and horrible regret. My minds betrayed me by the look in the mirror! I didn't have to retire myself!, I could have took more leave without pay. The Stressed brain with insomnia couldn't think on the positive situation and thought only negative outcomes. It has ruined my life.. I haven't recovered from this traumatic mistake. I lost interest in life... don't go anywhere or do anything... im actually in stuck mode.., like shock!.. I don't leave the apt anymore also... What happened to me.?? Why did I freak out so bad? Why did I retire myself! ( knowing I never ever wanted that) Why now, am I in denial and still cannot believe this happened. My life is in stuck mode! Unable to let go and move on. It's been 4 months 5 days... will I ever Snap out?.. and accept?... 🙏

Years I’ve been trying to explain just that!. I stumbled across this video and he summarized what I’ve been trying to put into words in less than five minutes!!!

Totally enjoyed this concept which resonated within me, made me feel good, i just listened without thinking, writting it down, enjoying knowing i have just gone further than before. The Mantra was spectacular. I knew it, hahaha, Perfect. Thank you Brad Banton. I will begin my practice now knowing i have the recipe to cure restlessness & dis satisfaction.

Oh my gosh thank you so much for doing this tedtalk I sat here wondering for months why I couldn't self analize

I like this man’s analogies. Well job done, sir!

Wonderful.I am radically honest and this made me feel so much better.I have always felt diplomacy was the best form of lying.

His idea is good but you have to remember this: "Absolute honesty isn't always the most diplomatic nor the safest form of communication with emotional beings.". I know we want the truth but unless people just get the fuck over it and move on and deal with it, we won't ever be able to be there.

I would have paid DOUBLE to be there in person for this talk. He’s excellent

Such a hard audience ... but I get it , we all made so many negative experiences by truly speaking our minds that it’s like : yeah dude go on. But he is so right, with his thoughts!

He just described ultra instinct. Goku already taught me this.

I recommend you offend people. Praise the Lord for this guy right here what a great talk.

I am dishonest because I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings and end up hurting myself 😪

it's like everybody knows honesty but only few really practicing it in to reality like this guy... everybody else in the world is dishonest, including me... honesty can really really put our lives in a simple and easy way....

I love his casual use of profanity. He reminds me of my favorite teacher and my favorite boss.

I absolutely agree with so much of what I'm hearing!! Thank you!

Hahaha! "What's the best kind of trouble?" Better to be honest and be in trouble with somebody else than to betray yourself and lie and REALLY be in trouble with you.

Thank you so much amazingness all I can feel is thank you so much gratitude.

love this talk¡ I need to watch it again from time to time.

this is the most perfect tedtalk i've ever seen.

The one thing that kinda hit me about this was just not thinking and feeling things out, i think that went over most peoples heads but being me, i think too much about social interactions and that stops me from having them at all

So helping and I love him. So sweet, heart felt, and amazingly smart! Thank you. I will you the “I’m listening”. Cause it turned my monkey mind right off. Thank you DR B Blanton🌱❤🌱

Just what I need in my life.

He's right you know!

Absolutely enjoyed this presentation. I laughed I cried laughing so much. I watched it 3 times in a row. I love this Man! What a wonderful way in which he explained it. This guy is a must follow for my blissful ignorance. This talk will be shared among the others in my tribe. Tedx Talks are the best medicine I could ask for. Much respect an gratitude for all you'all do the make this site available for free. It's a lifeline for me. However, I would definitely take out a second mortgage to join if it was a paid subscription.

A concrete example would have been worth its weight in gold here! A real-life example. It feels like he was saying some profound concepts but this short talk failed to bring it home, so to speak. I was so frustrated when it ended without an example.

Good talk. I hate that total honesty is seen as radical, but I wish more people would do it.

We need more "greats" like this!!! Wow! Thank you!

Mate if I said what I was thinking I’d be living on the street or locked up

People are scared to be really honest. I am practicing this in my life and it’s amazing. Honesty has been great in clarifying the distortions. And I love that this life is full of troubles. What kind of trouble do you want to be in. Telling the truth is the best trouble to be in. 😂 😆 😝

Ive just discovered RH and I am fascinated. I want to be radically honest. I want to be with radically honest people. I HATE bs and it abounds everywhere.

I hate a lying tongue, and most people don't lie as well as they think, but I've also found out that most people can't handle the truth. You will take a lot of losses. And I would not have gotten most of my jobs, etc., without manipulating the facts. Make of that what you will.

This man is awesome and amazing 🥰. Such a good statement ❤

Awesome Mr Brad...just awesome! Thank you 😊

GREAT !!!! and I loved the three-minute path to enlightenment

The path to enlightenment is by turning into Patrick Star

simply amazing

Awesome talk! Thanks Brad :) I love your book too

Excellent. Thank you!!

This spoke to me on a huge level.

Brilliantly delivered 💜💜💜

Thank you ❤

tried it. people cannot handle thier truth

His book “Radical Honesty” changed my life

Excellent Ted talk...so full of wisdom

Thank you for the advice.

Honesty .... joke .... so funny! Great examples of radical honesty. Thank you.

Gotta get the book. Great talk!!

Thanks! 💕

You have to answer yourself at one point of time. That matters...the most! So why honesty you need.

what the hell is the guy at the front with glasses doing at 0:56? haha

I like his thoughts about honesty. He seems to have spent a long time figuring out however, what has already been discovered. I recommend the book, "The Joy of Living" as a fantastic guide to meditation. And also Alan Watt's lectures regarding the same subject.

Thanks for the presentation.

Loved this!

This dude is right on! 5 stars

Ppl have no clue what Honesty is, cuz lying is much more done & accepted socially. How many times have you ever heard someone be completely honest?! The #1 addiction by far is complaining. & all complaints are basically lies, if you really look at them. Become Complaint Free & only then will you know what Honesty is. 👊🙏👌👍

Great talk!