I don't feel left out, im literally being left out

The problem I have with these solutions is that we constantly have to ‘fix’ ourselves… When in reality, sometimes people are just jerks.

“ I Give the gift of my absence to them who do not appreciate my presence.”

I tried to gaslight myself and tell myself that I have social anxiety and this is all in my head. But I have to accept the fact that I am in fact being left out and this is very much real. No matter how hard I try to be social, at the end of the day my "friends"don't care for me and I can't do anything abt it. I'm tired of trying. Maybe I'll have friends in another life. I just wanna move on.

My problem is that I feel left out often, but oftentimes I just want to be left alone. I am a contradiction. It's uncomfortable for me because I would like to be included and belong; I just don't want to talk about stupid, superficial things all the time. Also I like to rest my voice, and most people drain me.

Rejection is protection .🤗

I have realized that those people that don’t include me I have always felt uncomfortable around them, so I think to myself those kind of people I don’t want in my life anyway. If you can never figure someone out and feel very awkward around them then you don’t need them in your life!! You always know when your around the right people when you can be yourself and have fun!! 🥰

The best action in my opinion is to leave them, if they don't want you don't force it there is always other ones

The left out feelings I get are mostly from people I use to hang out with a lot but they started claiming they were "too busy" but yet are constantly talking about what they do with other people. I'm trying to figure out what I did to cause it, but I'm not sure what changed. Other than I was going through a tough time and I felt like they abandoned me. Maybe I wasn't fun anymore? Not to be a downer, but they aren't good friends if they abandon you when you need them. I don't think you can only be a good friend only if you are happy all the time. That seems fake.

A woman who I thought was a friend called me. We talked a lot, then she talked about her birthday party, which was to take place the next day. She continued to tell in a good mood, also about all the guests who were supposed to come. I wasn't invited, I noticed that quickly. Suddenly she stopped talking and was silent. "You can come too if you want," she said. I could tell that she was embarrassed. I didn't have a present, and I didn't want to embarrass her for inviting me for the wrong reasons. So I refused and told her I had to work and I couldn't come. Which was also true. When I wrote her an email a year later and told her about my book deal with a publisher, she called me 10 minutes later! At some point she told about her son, who would also write. She talked more about it and at some point I had to tell her that I was not in a position to get her son a book deal. But I could edit his texts completely free of charge and without obligation. I have never heard from her since. That hurts! I feel like I have been thrown away.

It's a fact that there are individuals whom are routinely marginalised and excluded, not because of their negative qualities but because most people are unaware that they discriminate against certain types of people.

I actually started getting teary-eyed hearing about you being invited last minute, as if it had happened to me. Feeling left out is a huge one for me. Thank you for this video. 💓

So whoever is being left out, should stop and think “am I a bad companionship ?” , YES I AM, NOW I FEEL GREAT! 🙄, most of the time ppl get left out is because those leaving you out don’t really care about you, and if it hurts you, most of the time is because you indeed care about them.

I've experienced this all my life, as you get older, you learn to not care as much. Happy Thanksgiving Julia, much love friend. Very thankful for you!!!

They makes me feel awful on purpose, the feeling when you realise you are their side friend and they've always used you,,it breaks my heart

A lot of women are just plain jealous! An absolute reason for leaving someone out☹️

I got over the feeling of being left out years ago. I have had nobody in my life since 8 August 2000. I adapted to exist alone. Today, I am so self-reliant, resourceful, and independent, that I can not conceive of functioning with others. It only hurt the first two years. But adapting to having no friends, I found enormous benefits. I can not imagine existing like I did before I isolated. Humans are indoctrinated to be social from birth. But, once I started functioning beyond my indoctrination, I found an incredible new lifestyle. Life is so simple without worrying about what others think about me, wondering why I was left out, and wondering if someone is being honest with me or not. I have no true social media network memberships. I have no social circle scheduling conflicts. I do not travel in a herd and having to go where the herd goes. I do not have to worry about the subject matter in the video at all. All this is far in the past. I am glad I socially isolated. I go weeks without seeing a single person. The freedom is incredible. My mind is so clear because I worry nothing about any sort of social complexities. The video sounds so very complicated. With no friends, girlfriend, aquaintences, all the video subject matter disappears. 23 years without social connections can not be wrong. Life is much easier without a social existence. Besides, it seemed people did not care if I spent time with them, or not. I was just an afterthought because I was too quiet. Now, being quiet does not pose any problem.

I was feeling bad about being locked out, then I realized it was better than being locked in ‼️‼️‼️♥️😊

I think another part of the process after you have not gone down a dark rabbit hole AND you thought about the energy you are bringing to the table is figuring out if certain people are worth getting upset over not being invited. If you are repeatedly being left out, you might want to focus your energy into people who choose YOU. That being said, give people some grace for not always choosing you as it really probably does have little to do with you!

Very timely for Thanksgiving. Many people feel left out when they get together with their family or relatives. Because they are so different from their family or relatives. Maybe they don’t participate in the negative conversation of their family and relatives. And so they feel left out.

Thank you Julia for covering this topic. Super helpful! Being left out for quite frequently, among friends and coworkers, cause me to scrutinize myself, making me a people pleaser and somehow loose my true self. Now growing older i slowly understand that people that left me out maybe has their own reasons that has nothing to do with me or sometimes we simply are not close enough and appreciate different things in life. I can't be a favorite person for everyone. That's fine with me.

I have at times felt left out, but when I thought it through I felt better! I too have the freedom of choice to invite any friend I choose to for lunch and so can others! Great vid, you covered most all the bases and explained why! You bring much clarity! Thank you!!

This is so synchronistic. This wound came up for me to heal yesterday! Wow. Totally resonated and helped me understand further! Thank you 🙏🏼

Hello everyone I'm a follower of this channel and I watch these videos they are all important and good advice I'm not new I just don't comment very much I get anxious writing comments this video topic is very helpful throughout my life iv felt left out of Meany different things some because of my anxiety and others because I wasn't comfortable or into alout of things the people in my life was into eather way being left out isn't nice no matter what if it's because it's your choice or because of your mental health take care people x

Did you ever think that "Social Media" has actually destroyed the normal social interactions & friendships we all used to have???

Thank you for this. It’s really helped me see a recent ‘rejection’ in a whole different way. It’s also helped me reflect and understand why I don’t want to invite one particular friend on a group holiday for my 40th birthday, even though I love her very much. I felt so guilty before, yet now I have to confidence to talk about this with her if it comes up.

This is SOOOO good Julia, I'm left out a lot from things and wonder why, but this helps so much. Thanks so much. Lots to think about, great perspective for me to learn from and to think about.

Good information and skills on how to navigate through these difficult feelings. Yes it hurts. And we do have to turn the mirror back to ourselves and ask these hard questions. Thank you ❤

This has been a life long struggle for me. Thanks so much for putting it into perspective. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m unintentionally bringing the group vibe down whenever I hang out with my friends or if I’m joining the group late and everyone is just better friends with each other. (Which is often the case) or if I’m just socially cursed lol. Anyways it’s weirdly comforting to know that I’m not the only one who experiences this.

Sometimes, supposed friends don't invite you because they know you are too real and might offend their other fake friends with your realness.

Perfect timing me to hear this I thought I only experienced this feeling of hurt by being left out and making up stories of why I was left out.

I have a daughter in law who has shunned me for 24 years and my son pretty much just goes along with it to keep peace. It cuts deep!

I could have used video this years ago! I luckily have gotten perspective over the years. Very good advice!

As hard as it is (esp as a HSP), the best thing to do is focus on the people that love you and reciprocate the kind of energy you give, as opposed to the people who do not, because it is exhausting and will make it almost impossible to overcome feelings of unlovability or unworthiness if you don't. I am learning to stop chasing after relationships- whether family or friends- as I noticed this reoccurring pattern in my life. Go where the energy is reciprocated, period. And if there is a certain type of relationship/friendship you want in your life, be that friend to others and ask/pray/believe for that to come into your life ❤️.

Be yourself. Don’t repress or edit anything about your feelings or your manner of communication. Some people will accept you, others won’t.

You’re the best!! Your channel helps so much

Julia Christina cancelling. Thank you for sharing this video on being left out or feeling left out your videos are very good advice and helpful I can relate to the topic 👍😔

Thank you for this video, Julia. For me it's very timely. By that I mean mine and my brother's dad is going to spend Thanksgiving with our older sister and her family in the Reno/Truckee area while my brother and I are left alone to spend Thanksgiving as just the 2 of us. The entire family dynamic is a whole other topic I can get to another time.

I’m often the odd one out. The only one single. The only one kidless. The youngest in the group. An extra wheel. I’m struggling to find a place where I fit.

Best video yet, for me. I’ll be watching this again and again until it is programmed into my sub consciousness ( brilliant and can relate to that similar negative thinking)

Thank you for this video!!! I really needed to hear this😌

I want to thank u for taking the time to break it down for me your good at what u do

That makes sense Julia, most of those negative thoughts in that case will be the products of misinterpreting some vital facts which more likely be fuelled by the inclination behavior of being self centered, and not taking on board the circumstances that let the other person acting in that manner in that particular situation, good job, Thanks you

I resonate with others comments about gaslighting self or thinking it’s me all the time - fixing self adjusting - for a person who is mostly adapted and trying to ask for what they need and trying to feel self power - not sure I want to shapeshift to accommodate others. I’m working more towards solitude and enjoying it. Rather than being lonely with many friends.

This really helped give me alot of clarity and calmly reflect upon the situation - Thank you for this!! :)

Please do a video on being afraid of asking for what you want. There is an anxiety that comes with saying how you really feel.

This was really helpful and just at the time I needed it.

Thank you Julia I appreciate you & your videos 😊 they are a big help & I learn so much from them & feel better too 💕 it use to bother me with feeling left out, but then once I processed it & really thought 🤔 about it, I learned that it was ok to be left out because the people that I felt left out from were probably going somewhere they didn't want to take me which alot of times was a money factor, which led me to learn that if that was the only way they wanted to have fun,then it was fine by me because there is always a way to have fun staying home too, even like being able to save my money when they were broke, so I will stay home please & thank you 😊

I found this video SUPER helpful. I've found other advice to be some oversimplified variation of "they probably didn't mean it; grow a thicker skin!". However, I thought you did a really good job of explaining what the other person's thought process could be with the Halloween example. And I love how you explored the other side- that actually, yeah, they might be leaving you out on purpose, but it's probably because of something you're doing. Basically, you answered just about every "what if" question I could think of. A video I'm sure I'll re-visit! You should write a book or something! Thanks!

I've just found your channel. My problem is not so much being left out but being ignored by people. It's happened quite a lot over the years. I dont do social media but contribute to particular forums on health websites. My posts have been very supportive of others and I'm not always negative but my posts are ignored and others continue responding to each other as if I'm not there. This has happened a few times. This has also happened in my work life. I really got kn well with my colleagues but when we met up after work, I was never included in the conversations. This runs deep with me as I was totally ignored as a child and it really upsets me when this happens. It has happened with family as well when nice emails, texts have been totally ignored.

LOVE this video, coach! I struggled with this before. I remember a particular incident too where I was genuinely being left out...It was very hurtful but yeah I just wasn't part of that particular group where they were all in different relationships with each other. Sometimes I have to be careful with my mind on social media. Recently a friend replied back to comments but not mine and I took it personally and that makes me feel left out, but since doing this inner work, the terrible feeling doesn't last as long because I change my thoughts on it. THANK YOU for this Julia! You're the best coach ever! #Shifter #SeniorShifter Also, whoever reads this comment, remember you are all worthy and valued people!

Your channel is a blessing for me. ❤

This is why I try to stay away from Facebook it can be bad for me!

Love your views and thinking 🌸

There are friends I always have to call or text if I want to stay in touch with them. They never call or text me first. I have friends that want to spend time with me, but only if it's in a way that's convenient for them. I have to always go to their house or meet them somewhere out of my way, they won't come to my house. I have friends that have told me that we were going to make plans and they never make the effort to follow through. These things do make me feel like I'm not important and forgotten about. I'm to the point where I'm tired of going out of my way for them, when they don't ever sacrifice their time for me. I understand that I work less and don't have a family, but my time and efforts are not worth less than their is, in my opinion.

My experience is there is a time, reason and a season for everything including relationships. I’ve found that relationships come into my life for one of three purposes… 1.) A Reason - we are to help each other for a specific reason. Maybe it’s to accomplish a goal together, complete a project together, help each other thru a specific event… once this Reason is accomplished the relationship changes. 2.) A Season…people come into our lives for a specific season… could be a month, a year or decades. When that season is complete the relationship changes. 3.) A lifetime… some people come into our life and remain forever. We never know if they are in our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. So for me I treat all like they are in my life for a lifetime all the while realizing very few are and let go of them gracefully knowing there will be more coming my way.

I know I tend to be a Debbie downer when I hang out with people, but when you have very little adult interaction and very little time to hang out with friends, it's hard to just be happy and talk about the good things. Or if you talk about the good things then you come across as bragging. It's hard

I’m feeling left out of the shift group.., lol. Can’t wait to join in again some time soon… I got so much more to bring and share!

Great explaining of everything 🙌🏻

I can relate to this so much. I feel left out quite often.

My rule of thumb is don't take things personally. Thinking about these kinds of things takes up energy and stress. I would rather stay home watch TV or do soemthing else, plus hanging out involves $$$$. I love being left out! Money is more important and will always be, sorry but that's the reality to survive in this world. Money talks, people walk.

Outstanding presentation & well conveyed with valid points!!!.We all have those annoying friends who are either Negative,cynical or just humourless. If you don’t have one you prob are one!! lol. But seriously if you live for peoples Approval you will also live in fear of their Disapproval!!When you know your own worth you won’t want to be around people who don’t. Its a tough lesson to learn but worth working on yourself Thanks Julia peace🕊

This was very helpful. Thank you.

Julia, yet another video that has helped me SO much. I recently discovered you about a month ago, and I am HOOKED ! Where were you back in my college days?! I could have used you! But nonetheless, you are here now -- and I am so grateful! Thank you!

This is how I feel through family gatherings. Since I don't interact with them, they all look for my sister when both of us don't attend a gathering and my sister would brag about it and intentionally let me hear that everyone else is looking for her. Since I was always the quiet type, the one who doesn't drink and socialize, I was left out. It's like my sister is a complete different being when in there. I know it's not her fault to invite me over when she's with our cousins but maybe I wanted to feel like she actually cared. No one in my family would even remember me on my birthday. They would just remember me when they want something from me, after that, I'm back to being invisible.

Absolutely incredible video. So inspiring with my own channel aimed for CYP. Thank you!

My name is sky and you've really been helping me.

One thing is people inviting you like the example in this video, other thing is people talking about hanging out in front of you, and when you ask what is about they make sure to answer clearly this is something you won't be invited to. Sometimes is not in our heads.

Just yesterday I was thinking about this as the holidays are coming up and my now ex gf at the time chose to spend time with her friends separately from me as we were going through a bit of a rough patch at that time. And over the past year I've learnt that I am not responsible for how they feel based on their own past personal experiences. And it's okay to set boundaries as to when you need space

This isn't just a "feeling", both of my son's have cut me off, since their father died this last spring... Their dad and I were divorced over 20 years ago- He used competition to gain favor with them over the years. He would often undermine everything that had anything to do with disaplining them, so he take them out to eat or buy them something they wanted without me knowing. He became the "hero", in their eyes. He'd always say, that they loved him more than me. Now, they've made up stories about me, so being with the grandkids is not allowed. I'm struggling with the holidays... I miss them dearly! Thanks for your videos!

Well I always thought being alone was terrible but I realized being in the presence of people I can’t stand is worse

Happy thanks giving

Julia, how do I feel being left out. It is a real struggle for me. Whenever I go visit my daughter-in-law and she does not speak to me for the time I am visiting it really make me feel left out. When I get there I will give her a hug. Tell her it’s nice to see you or how was your day? I get the one word response. After a while I just freeze up and literally cannot find anything to start up a conversation. I love her, I really try to accept her as an introvert. I know is is a kind person, I know she is an old soul with wisdom. I watch her talk to my grand-daughter at the dinner table but they won’t engage in a conversation with me. We do live 7 hours apart. I did go to Florida for 14 years in the winter time so was not there to bond with them for months. I would go to see them in the summertime. I have a lot of love to offer but it just seems like they are not interested including me at all and it hurts. What can I do.

Feeling left out is definitely in the top 3 WORST FEELINGS ever and when u see some1 talking to your best friend it makes u feel horrible

More Wisdom from my life coach Julia Kristina. I try to dedicate a little time every week to her classes. Good stuff.

Thank you 🙏 I really needed this

Can you believe this has happened so much in my life and as strong as I’ve become over time at 67 it still pings in my heart but it doesn’t define me.

I’m tired of being an afterthought, forgotten, ostracized all that stuff. 😢

A few years ago, I was talking to my, then 22 yr old, son. I was bummed about being left out of PTA groups social get-togethers. He said to me, "Ask yourself, are these types of people you really want to be involved with?". I thought about it and it made perfect sense. Regarding political, socio-economic class and culture, we really didn't have much in common other than our kids were in same school. After our kids graduated, there was nothing more. Other than the occasional "need for volunteers or donors" for something or other. He helped me "flip" my thinking and I felt so much better! Thank you smart son.

Thanks Julia!

Well I'd always feel left out but now it's okay this video helped alot! But I'd like to ask something diffrrent. I'm introverted and I don't trust people I have maybe like two or three friends. But I'm not a person that vents out and telling emotions. My empathy is high and I'd like to help others and my friends but I'm not a talker. When I do feel like talking and even share something personal to my best friend I'm considered as a open person. And I felt bad like I'm not very open person but I trust you enough to share this. Best friend is going through a tough time and I'm always here to help or stand by to support you but I respect the choice not feel like talking but knowing eacother for a long time it hurts I understand this person, but the person doesn't understand me back. Like it's her character to not be open and I was like I'm same I understand you and my character is very different but it just annoys me a little like this friend doesn't know me at all and that person knows I'm introverted but yeah doesn't make any sense

Wow great video.. this is something i really struggle with. I think I'm a good friend and a good person. I need to be mindful about how I share and what I say so it isn't moany a lot. Thing is I find I'm not invited to stuff, possibly cos I've been honest about health etc, however I've tried to keep it fairly brief.. but others in the group go on about COVID, lockdowns, doom and gloom etc a lot. But they don't see the amount of time they talk about it (a lot a lot) but seem very critical of me..

Hi. Thank you for this.

i felt left out of so many things that my friends were up for in the past seven months until i decided to have a chat with them, but let me explain the situation first, maybe some people can relate or were/are in similar situation. last december everything was great, i hung out with my friend group a lot after college and i felt included, but that took a turn in february. it wasn't intense, but i felt that i changed and it was in a way that i had some situation going on and i asked them for their advice and opinion and they were helpful, still felt included, especially on my birthday. now, when things really changed and i could feel the giant shift in their energy was july. we had an exam period in january, februrary, june, july, august and september. i didn't know exactly why it happened but it did. it all started with one friend and then i noticed it "spreading" on others. it started out like this: i came first to our first exam in july and stood outside of the classroom, waiting for someone to come and open it and my friend, who i was really great friends with that december (we talked about a lot of stuff, i slept over at her apartment a few times, we came up with the idea to surprise our friends for Christmas that year) showed up after me, she said hi to me but remained in her place, 3 feet away from me and when somebody else came, she started a conversation with them. that hurt, but it was more because we used to be really good friends. next situation: i was walking with two of my friends over to the cafe while one friend was talking about some hypothetical plan, that never came to realasation - our friend (one of the many who wasn't present then) talked about how great it would be if we all came to her summer house in a village over the summer and this friend who started now talking about it, making a "plan" of sitting arrangements in two cars (because our group consists out of about 10 people) and she mentioned all of them expect me, who was walking next to her. and i was hurt because, like, she mentioned 6-7 people who aren't present but not me, who also got invited by that friend. then i started feeling excluded, no matter how much i was actually included in conversations and how often i hung out with them. the first time after a while that i felt included, like i used to feel was in september when that friend who i mentioned when we had our exam was present and other two friends. but other than that, i felt distance. so i started thinking what could have caused it, why has it happened and am i overthinking it or not. when another year of college started i started picking up on small things that my friends did unintentionally that hurt me and made me feel like they don't want to converse with me. like, for example, a friend of mine and i always seemed to get first to class (like 20 minutes before it started) and i would start talking about something and she would listen for first couple of minutes and then she would take out a book and start reading it because she has the time. and when i was really like "are you for real, now?" she replied with "what, i have a little bit of time". but somehow it always happened that when anybody else came around she would stop reading and start talking to them. one of the worst scenarios was when i was sitting at a cafe with her and other friend and i was sitting between the two of them so they were facing each other. and one friend said how she was hungry and the other one said "you can come to my place, i have rice left" and they got excited over it while i wanted to disappear. i get that they live remotely close to each other (a couple of blocks away) and that they are getting closer but seriously?? you're going to make plans in front of me that i'm not invited to? and then i realized why it hurt so much. because i used to be close with both of them but now they aren't as close to me as they are to each other (by interest and topics) and because i'm the only one that's being left out. if there was a fourth person i wouldn't be as bothered by it as i was.

It's not over yet but it sounds good.

This just happened to me recently that I felt left out when my friends didnt invite me to go on a holiday out of town (ofc it wasn't impulsive). But no matter I look into it and reflect on myself, I cant find any reason why I didnt get invited and cant stop thinking I just dont matter much to them. Is that okay to think that way?

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I love your explanations, your perspective and your approach to the topics you talk about. Thanks so much...it's very helpful.

Thank you for this video! Should you apply the same way of thinking when you feel that people you’re already with are excluding you?

As a black woman we feel this on a daily I’m looking to heal

My mom and my brother, her favorite clone for her father, had fun my entire youth leaving me out, making me feel second best. I am happy to say that I married and moved away from this sickness, but the very thought, feeling, of being in that same situation makes me sick. I guess the residual effect of this experience is that I don't want to need people; and don't depend on them for warmth and security. And, I'm not really surprised when people aren't reliable. In someway this makes for a very lonely life but its only a part of who I am. The rest of me has found other non-toxic people, made my own family, and escaped the past.

Such a good one. Coming from a religion that shuns the first part brought back some memories. I’ve come a long way leaving it so I’m happy to say I feel good and have come out the other side. Such a validating video. I love waiting for your videos every week and having them connect with something that has happened in the past or recently. Thanks always! 🙏🏻

At the beginning of quarantine I got together outside with my old friend from when I was younger she became my best friend. We would talk and play online games for hours. Then when we finally got back into school she found another friend and eventually it was always her and her friend. And she said it was a “friend group” but no it was always her and her friend I always tried to come in the conversation but they just stared at me and got back into their conversation. And at this time I was only in 5th grade and only 10 years old. And god I felt so alone there was this other girl in our “friend group” who was left out also. I told that girl about them and she felt that way also. Eventually my “best friend” and her new friend got into a fight cause her new friend said something she shouldn’t have said to someone else. And then my “best friend” was very mad. My best friends friend became best friends with one of my friends and apparently that girl started talking crap about my “best friend” and my “best friend” started talking crap about her. Then the next week they became friends again and it went back to how it was. Then I realized how terrible those two people were and how bad of a friend they are. I’m in the next grade now and I got a best friend now and she has made me the happiest person I’ve been for a while. I’m not friends with either of them now besides the other girl that was left out also. But she’s still “friends” with those two but I see her walking alone with the other two and the girl thats left out’ sister. And I feel so bad that I yelled at my old best friend and told her how terrible she is. My old best friend and her friend are now really rude and act as if they rule the world. And now I’m so glad I don’t talk to them anymore. :) thanks for reading I typed a lot.

I'm going through it now with my management team colleagues... Who despite supposedly being there for mutual support are pushing me away and not contacting me . That's how it feels and it feels like bullying. This video really connects x

what if i'm being intentionally left out/excluded, then how to handle such situation?

I do prefer being a lone wolf but not being left and feeling unaccepted.

So your relatable example of being left out is that this friend that you haven't seen in weeks does invite you to an event the first moment you talk to eachother? That's not being left out, that's being included despite being distant. The two aren't similar at all.

I've always been an outcast I don't know what it is that I do that keeps overlooked and on the outside but it's almost killed me once and I'm worried that it will drive me into that depression again one day

You're right, I look back now at how I was, there were a lot of negative moments, and I knew I shouldn't be but I chose to be negative anyway. Maybe that's why I can't keep up with a person for a long time or something, when I'm the more relaxed character I often act like I don't care, but when I'm having a personal problem I can't figure it out Negative emotions, it seems that I am the person with double standards.

I always say, “If chaos seems to happen wherever you go, then you’re probably the one bringing it.”