"Be a train that moves on. A train doesn't wait for a passenger. The passenger should be the one whose nagmamadali just to ride the train. Because the train has a destination. It doesn't wait for someone. It has a specific time it stops to the station. The train never wait for the passenger, the passenger chase the train because they know, the passenger knows, that the the place where the train is going is the destination that they want to be. Be the train that stop at a specific station at a certain amount of time but do not overextend yourself into waiting for someone just 'cause you think its your priviledge to have a passenger like this person. It should be the other way around. And the only mental strategy mental gain that you have is for you tonknow where you are going." -Real Talk Darbs, How to Handle People Who Is Afraid Of Commitment? 👌🏻🙌🏻

Psychologically speaking, people with avoidant attachment style fear commitment. They value their personal space and independence. They want relationship but too much closeness/vulnerability is uncomfortable for them. It's better to find a partner who is emotionally secure.

So far, one of the best vlogger in terms of "Love and Relationship" and whoever listen and read this may you find the right one for you.

I experienced too takut sah commitment yung guy in short ginamit lng ako more than 1 year din nghintay din ako na mg changed yung mind nea but im thankfull nakayanan ko to end that kind of situation hirap mgmahal ng ikaw lng my feelings ,,......

they don't want to commit bec they are afraid of having additional responsibility in your relationship. And ayaw nila mahawakan s leeg or marami ng bawal. And reality...di ka lang gusto na ikaw yung taong bibigyan nila ng commitment.

It depends. Because there were people who experienced bad relationship from very toxic people.

Thanks for this.. Now I understand.. Na iiyak ako habang narerealize and nakaka relate ako subrang skit nga😭😭

Kung ano ang kayang ibigay yon din lang ang ibigay mo. And dont expect morethan what they can give.

Pag broken tayo, ngayon lang natn maiisip manood ng mga ganito, naiintndhan ko na. Ganyan kasi bf ko. Pabago bago, sometimes sweet, minsan namn hindi. Minsan nararamdaman ko na mahal nya ako at mahalaga ako minsan namn hindi.. Magulo sya, kaya nahhrapan tuloy ako. Mahal ko sya un ang masakit. Nakilala ko bf ko na madami na hearthaches na pinagdaanan, so ang nangyari po ngayon is sobrang tigas na nya, di sya marunong manuyo, kahit na iwanan mo sya or umalis ka. Di ka nya hahabulin kasi nga naranasan na nya lahat ng masasakit, ang unfair nga eh. Malas ko, parang ako na sukdulan nya. Sakin lahat bumabagsak lahat ng masasakit na nangyari sknya. Kahit na loyal namn ako at di ko sya sasaktan. Lagi nya sinasabi sakin na ako na sukdulan nya. Umalis man ako, masasaktan sya pero di sya mamamatay. Sakit lang.. At di nya ako hahabulin

Easier said than done. But thank you! Its a lot of hard work 🥺

How to take these questions na "22 ka na, kelan ka magkakaboyfriend?", "Nagwowork ka na, boyfriend na next.", "Tomboy ka ba kaya wala kang bf?" Sinagot ko na yan sa lahat ng makakaya ko pero bakit ang dami pa den nagtatanong? Ang laki talaga ng effect kapag family na mismo ang bumabanggit ng mga yan. I really agree na "culture" na natin ang ganito, na kailangan i priority natin ang likes/dislikes nila. Di naman sa ayaw kong magasawa, gusto ko. Di nga lang ako stable sa lahat ng aspects. Bat hindi nila magets iyon? Anyway andami kong natutunan sa mga pa words of wisdom nyo kuya. 💖

Those who are afraid of commitment are people who have trauma and needs to heal themselves...they are dismissive avoidant attachment style...I experience it and I learned so much about that...

I am worthy to be love I am worthy to be taken care of I am worthy to be prioritize Thankyou Sir 😢 Iniwan nya man ako kasi nawalan ako nn work at wala na sya ma gain sken Atleast nakita ko kaagad yung tunay na motive nya Ang masakit lang nung sya ang broke andun ako to support him Nung ako ang na broke Ni anino nya di ko na nakita

"Focus on YOU! Focus on committing to the dreams that you wanna have. Focus on being the person that would attract the person who would wanna commit to you. Commit to the goal. Commit to your mission. Commit to your project instead of pouring out all those love to someone who does not deserve. Pour it inside you. You have so much love to give. And why are you giving it to someone who doesn't even want it. Maybe they just want it because maybe it's convenient at that specific time. So NO! You should be wise enough to walk away. ... UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE WORTHY." That's my favorite part. It hits home. Hehe. Thanks for the wisdom. 🤍

I been experience that kind of relationship..and I let them go.. that's true is hurt but, sometime we need to do it for our self.

This is exactly the kind of content I needed to hear today. This made me feel better. Please continue to create more videos like this. It helps people when they feel like they can’t find the right advice for what they’re going through.

Thank you for this vlog Kuya Darbs! Di kasi kami nagwork ng guy na gusto ko maybe because at one point I seek commitment and he's afraid to.. Until the day came na he ghosted me nalang. I'm still stuck kung saan ako naiwan.. Until I watched this video and realized that there are better things ahead of me. Thank you Kuya Darbs I badly needed this!! ❤️❤️

This is my first time na makinig sayo sayong channel and its very timing for me right. Cried a lot while nakikinig sayo dahil its painful for me to leave...I cant express but my tears flow through my face every second and breath deep.

Grabeee🥺 ang daming realizations at the same time it uplifts my self worth🥲

This video is so good , The validation that I need from walking away with a person who's afraid to commitment . Thank you so much 🙏☺️

Exactly! Thank you sa mga pangaral mo...More Power!

Sa lahat nang Videos na pina panood sa youtube , sa Realtalk Darbs lang talaga ako hindi nag e skip nang ads. I want to support this Channel. ❤️ because this channel helps alot of people.👍

Real talk talaga.thank you for enlighting me kuya darbs.Now i fully understand him now.Nakakalungkot pero true po lahat ng cnabi nyo 😭😟

The reason why i always watching you kuya Darb kase lahat totoo ang mga sinasabi mo your the best talaga kaya dapat lahat ng mga kadalagahan diyan makinig kayo kase totoo ito

Galing mo talaga Kuya Darbs... the way you speak nakaka kilabot.. gusto kong makinig kasi gusto ko ma feel yung pain at reality and at somehow napapamulat ako sa katotohanan. Galing!!!! COOL!!

Thank you sa advices Kuya Darbs. I’m going through a break up right now and this really helps me a lot. Mabuhay ka Kuya and you’re doing an amazing job 😁

Thank u for this kuya Darbs. Mas naintindihan ko self ko through this 😭💕

just bumped into this channel and.... nag marathon na ako! HAHAHA. quality content. thumbs up! :)

Must watch! Thank you sir Darbz!

Addict na ako syo.. I really enjoy listening to you grabe as in dami ko natutunan

Sana madami ka pa kuya darbs makuha subscribers kase galing mo magadvice it really makes sense. :)

Needed this today. Thank you for this 🥰

Salamat kuya darbs, nakakarelate ako dito. Susundin ko talaga to, matagal na akong ganito. Worth it ako at dapat ayun mindset ko. Time to focus on myself na and walk away sa someone na kakausapin lang ako kapag convenient sa kanila

Newly subscriber here and this is the first video of you that i've watched.looking forward to more of your worthly watched content.thank you for making this topic/content its really helpful to us.

I’ve learned so much from your vlog. Keep it up Kuya Darbs. Newbie here! More vlogs! Very inspiring & interesting. You’ helped me a lot.

Thank you kuya darbs ! Well said . ❤️

This, my friend is one of the best motivational speaker up-to-date. More power kuya darbs. Looking forward for the million subscribers to come. Tuloy-tuloy lang. So much value with all of your contents. Looking forward with your Heart Healing Session. 💪🏻💯

maraming salamat.narealized ko din.minsan dapat tlga may magpaalaala.👍👍

Omg! I'm assessing myself into the what is the signs people are afraid to commit.

This is very an interesting topic. I love it.

Its a choice...take him or leave him, dami issues ng lalaki sila nmn hndi rin perfect. Pgnginvest k ng feelings thats the time mahirap mkawala instantly its a process. Thank you kuya Darbs listening to you helps to be positive😁👍🥰

You inspired me too much.... I like the way you talk... You're very smart. Keep it up and God bless you always... I learned a lot from you❤️💯

AMEN to this. I cannot agree more.

Your both special to other. Pariho kayo nag sasabi na mahal nyo ang isat isa. Pero pag tinanong mo kung kung gusto ng commitment he ignored the question. Malanding usapan. Malabong usapan. Maayos na usapan. Hirap isipin masakit sa loob ang situation.

Sobra ang galing mo talaga idol grabe your such an inspiration to me

Thank you Kuya Darbs! :) This helps me a lot.

Thank you so much. I really appreciate your topic. It helps me a lot and now i understand. Filipino from Thailand

Thank you for this video. This is really mind opening.

I’m not skipping adds. Thank you so much Kuya Darbs. Eto po yung kasalukuyang nararanasan ko ngayon. Dasal ako ng dasal Kasi sobrang sakit ng nararamdaman ko. Eto pala ang sagot andito sa vlog mo. Natauhan ako bagamat masakit pa din. Pero magiging train na ako At Hindi isang passenger lang. Salamat po sobra! -Nurse Jem-

I really like this topic Kuya Darbs. Sapul ako... super relate😞.I'm always with the wrong guys. When i started watching ur real talks, I've realized that i've been wasting time for so long. More topics please... Joice here from Qatar. Pa shout out po. 😚. God bless you...

Sometimes waiting works but not to the point where the weight of pain is just too much. Know your battles to fight then let things go.

Yes,totoo lhat yn g sinabi mo.pinagdaanan ko lhat yn at ngaun ok nko,thanks God ksi sya nagbigay ng guidancd sa akin

..*first time ko makita at marinig ka po..but,dna ako nkaalis sa channel na ito..i like how you explain everything..continue..sharing your thoughts po.

Thanks for this video/lessons, i got blocked and left hanging.. di ko na hinabol..daming tanong sa isip ko..i learned a lot watching this..now trying to move on

CONSISTENCY is the 🔑 to commitment

Thank you for this Kuya Darbs. We're almost 3 years na (live-in) but everytime nakatulala ako yan ang iniisip ko.na bakit parang hndi pa sya ready mag commit e binigay ko na lahat ng kaya kong ibigay.I always ask my self kung hndi ba ako worth it dahil sa ayaw pa nya mag commit.Those reason na sinabi mo ay ganun sya.But still i really wanna fight and wait sa time na magiging ready na din syang mag commit.

Speechless po ako kuya darbs... thank you so much po...

Yes very true. Thank you. From Canada 🇨🇦

Nakakastrong naman po mga advices🥺💖

One of my favorites darbs💕

It was my first time to here some of your thoughts about love and to tell you it HITS me😢😢Nagising po ako sa katotohanan.Maraming salamat po for having me realize that I am more worthy to someone at the end of the day.

I feel this situation now,dretsuhan ko siyang tinanong about us Kasi I don't know kung ano mayron kmi,Anong level Ng relasyon myron kmi And yun nga he said ayaw niya Ng commitments,,wala Ng pain ako na na feel sa nalaman ko,Kasi ilang buwan narin kami nag uusap diko naman naramdaman ang halaga ko sa kanya,siguro sa narinig ko sa kanya Hindi ako nagulat dahil I already feel it,ngayon tanggap Kona Ang mga possible na mangyari sa relasyon namin

Thank you talaga kuya darbs!!! I love youuuu po talaga! 😍😍😘

More topic po😊 so much interesting

I am also in this situation😐,,and Thank you ❣️😇 I learn a lot of this ,Although its hurt💔 but now I understand my self and my self worth,I think needed to do this.

Grave ka tlaga lods tuwing na panood ko mga vlogs mo nagiging comportable ako salamat lods ha iloveyou

So helpful galing mo sobra❤

Wow such a great advices.. I've learned alot..May sense of humor ang topic.. Keep it up and God bless

Wow! Very well said po Kuya Darbs. I can't agree more to your words. It's really full of substance and meaning. God bless! 💯🙌👏👌

Now, i understand why our relationship didn't work, and lasted for only 5 months. He wanted to cool off at first but I decided to just have a break up. I am afraid of commitment and he doesnt want to commit. we are both have a perfect score in "what are signs..."

Eto yung vloger na tnitignan nag both sides. Lupeeettt.

Thank you for the advice . This is what i am going through right now :(

Thanks for sharing this Sir.

Thanks sir dub!❤️

Thank you Kuya Darbs now I truly understand him, not accident to watched this video of yours. Maraming salamat po.

Thank you for this video!!

thank you..... crystal clear

Ano kaba Kuya darbs.!! Sobrang bilib talaga ako saiyong mga ideas and bars , You've always hit the bulls eye when it comes sa mga dapat gawin as an individual and na apply ko talaga mga sinasabi mo and it is always based on reality. You never seize to amaze me.

Hi po. Salamat po kuya darbs. Nakakatulong po talaga ang mga realtalk mo para matutunan Kong mahalin ang sarili ko. Keep safe always po kuya darbs. Stay healthy and Godbless po

Natawa ako bgla kuya darbz ah.pro honestly pra skin to!!🤣🤣🤣

Opo opo! Nabawasan na karupukan ko HAHAHA

Thank you kuya darbz..!Another inspiring words for me..pra skin po eto..Godbless always!

Thank u, Hopefully magising na ako sa katotohanan. Ang hirap maging marupok

Ang ganda ng message... Pahug po... 🤗 Now I decided to be a train and not a passenger. 🚉🤗💙 I love me 💙 Thank u for this... Love2

Thank you so much po. Full of wisdom. God bless Sir! 🙏

swak na swak bes! 🤣🙏🏼

hehe ang dami ko natototonan sayo kuya darbs.. thanks sa mga words of wisdom mo 👏🥰

Imagine its my firts time to watch a vlog in youtube wowwww your so cool and smart

Thank u po ang dami kong natutunan!😍😍😍

Thank you so much Kuya Darbs!😇

Naiyak aki NG subra kuya darbs. Halos lahat NG sinabi ko ang cxang NG yayari samin.

Bigla nagflashback ang nakaraan,..dati sobrang sakit pag naalala ko,2yrs din ako nagdusa emotionaly nung iwanan nya ako,ako lng ung nagmahal,thankful parin ako at naitawid ko buhay ko nun,pinilit ko maging functional at lagi ko kasama pamilya ko,still i wish him happiness at nahanap ko narin ang taong nagpapasaya saakin ngaun

if you are dating a person whom you dont see as a partner to spend with forever in life, then you are that kind of person that doesnt really want to fall in love and dont truly knows how to love, the kind of person who have no respect about your partners feelings. being in a relationship is not a playground, it is a commitment that we all deserve!

Medyo na tauhan ako don ahhhh😭😭😭😭😭thank you so much kuya darbs

You are really a blessed for all of us! You are full of wisdom❤, I thank God I got and watched your vlog, More Power Darbs! God bless you more wisdom💕😘

dinala ako dito nang stage of pain, trying to moving on dahil sa ganitong klasing relasyon..haha

kuya darbs , u really help me to make a decision wisely 😊 #marupok kasi haha

Im on the situation right now. What is the best thing to do? Thank u!

How to open up this to the other person that you also is afraid of commitment? Kelan mo masasabing tama na ung time na pinag antay mo?

Been in a different relationship but the reason why hindi nag wowork is because may third party palagi. I don't even know what's the reason and right now I'm scared to trust again.