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They lie so much, they can't even tell the truth by accident🤦🏼‍♀️

They are children in adult bodies. Just impossible to get them to own up to anything.

My narcissistic husband is still denying his latest affair despite me screenshotting and showing him the disgusting messages he’s sending to his young female employee day and night. He’s either insane or thinks I am. He’s in for a surprise soon because I’m divorcing him and he’ll find out next week.

The narcissist is lying when they open there mouth yo talk shit

Like when he's in your face shouting HES NOT CHEATING but his phone is always on silent and turned face down....

There is not a moment of peace. It’s constant wonder and worry as to what they’re doing who they’re on the phone with what are they thinking. Even when he’s with me and all seems to be OK my mind replays all the facts that I do know of what he’s doing. Then I find myself questioning. Could he really be lying this well? Could he have really be doing this all these years and I don’t know? You are in a constant state of the unknown. My heart is always racing and my gut feels like it’s twisted like a pretzel.

The fact is the narc cares about themselves first and only. We are just objects for them to use when convenient. Lying is how they get what they want. I was astounded at the dumb things the ex narc lied about. He lied so much that he couldn't keep them all straight. He isn't the brightest bulb. 😅

Their just destroying thier life for them to feel.. thier true feels on thier inside not only do they lie to others but ..thier BIGGEST LIES are to themselves and that's a SAD way to live😢

And they get rid of evidence that you presented to them smh

When I told him that I was speaking facts, he told me to stop victimizing myself...that I needed help, that I just need to stop dwelling on the past, to just get over it.

Yes I have been wondering. And I have sooooo much from this video and videos like it that tell me I’m being bamboozled…… and I’m having a hard time convincing myself that it’s true even though I know it is

ou weeeeeeeeeee!!! I’m so glad I’m not magnetized trauma bonding with narcs anymore!! At the end of the day kids, it’s just dangerous to down right evil. This channel is great. I love how he explains everything. Also, remember at the end of day, you can’t be with narcs cuz they turn you into one. You end up grey rocking, and lying too!!! First step, get away from them totally, and then start to heal and relearn how to regulate your nervous system. Ta-dahhhhhhh!!! Do it! You will be free and a good person again. You are no good when you around a narcissist. You have the right to be angry, happy, sad, and make good decisions especially when it is a hard one. Don’t look for a magical carpet ride thru life. Be prepared to say no and walk away when you have to from people and situations. Don’t go down these dark roads that are everywhere in life. Stay of the lighted path!!!!

Even when the narcissist is telling the truth about something it will always be half-truths. They cannot tell the whole truth, everything must be embellished to make them sound like the perfect person or the hero. We have a daughter who lies almost every time she opens her life always to make herself look special.

He was close with a lady at his work. He deleted messages between them and fiercely defended her.

Dr. Phil and the behavior panel have some great videos of how to read body language and see the signs of a liar and manipulator. They are very empowering videos.

Everything you're saying hits home Ben😢

Insanely true.. every word.. it took me 2 years to remove the mental shackles he's placed me in... Even after he'd long gone back to his! I had all of these stories, excuses ready for him, serring him up to come back into my life the second be was ready to..after screwing things up or getting bored with his ex.. who is also a narcissist. You're doing the Lord's work... With the help if rhese videos, in getting better. Slowly, but surely.. Thank you

Their lips are moving?

My narc mother in law couldn't look into my eyes every time she was lying.

When you decide that you need to become a detective in a relationship (romantic or platonic), it’s when you know it’s time to leave or don’t be too emotionally invested in the person (if it’s just a friendship).

The truth is always supported by facts and evidence. If the “truth” doesn’t have neither of those, then it’s an opinion and a perspective. It’s NOT a truth. People just need to learn how to use words correctly.

They make up stories about what someone else said. Triangulate you and turn you against this person. Ridiculous.

Another home run, Ben! This resonates with my situation so well. Took me a long time to get to the point where I calmly call him out. The fumbling, deflecting stories and excuses are laughable now. He knows I know, and he's a coward. Thanks to you and your channel, I'm getting stronger. He hates that, and he hates me. I'm forgiving myself for putting up with his abuse all these years. Finding myself again, and planning my exit. Still need his money, sorry to say. 🙄

Just before the stage of devaluation do we discern their lies.

I have been in a relationship for 4 years now. He has narcissist tendencies. He has pushed me away so much, that I turned to a stranger. Now the other person is treating me like crap. Because I won't give up the one I've been with for 4 years.

👍🏻 this helps once again to hear this explained from a narc perspective.

Wow. That's the only thing I can say right now is wow

If he can change, why can’t the narcissists in our lives?

I don’t understand how this guy changed from a narcissist to someone able to help others

His idea was for me to cancel my apartment, leave my life behind in another city, and move in with him-so I did. After a year of living with him, I still didn’t have a closet, a drawer, or anything of my own. All my belongings were kept outside, covered with a blanket. My laundry stayed in bags the entire time. All I got from him were empty words and promises. I was alone in his house while he was gone all day, working somewhere. He didn’t even have coffee with me in the morning; instead, he drank his coffee at the bar next to our house. Commands, tasks, criticism, disrespect, mocking-that was my everyday life. Once, he asked me to mow the grass, so I did, and I cleaned everything else up as well. When he came home, he didn’t even say hello to me. Then he went out to a restaurant for dinner and didn’t ask if I was hungry too. So, yeah... The last words I said to him were: "You know... you are not human. The one thing that makes humans human, you lack-and that is a soul. That’s what separates us from animals: the soul. And you don’t have that."

Funny you saying all this. I went thro it this past summer with my xnarc. A Narc will dance around the "issue"... forever... I gave him a $1,000 to get his Harley on the road. He then rode 8hrs away to try to reconnect with his X. Smashed the bike. Came home...wanting to reconnect..saying that he didnt sleep with her!! Im like dude....just the money i gave u and u riding to her is enough for me to end this circus....bye jerk.

What’s the deal with these people and their phones? He had his phone on him for last 6 years and always using mine for things to look at!

This popped up at a good time. I just went back to my partner after two weeks of “I’m sorry, I’ll change” - I left because he was giving me the cold shoulder and silent treatment for 4 weeks, littered with constant criticism about everything I said (I’m not exaggerating I literally couldn’t have a normal convo with him in this time). If it wasn’t criticism it was “jokes” at my expense, or bossing me and controlling me and then getting angry, belittling comments, staring me down. It was awful! So I left. Went back - BIG mistake. He “joked” that he cheated on me (funny joke?!), then also wouldn’t answer his phone when he was at the shop apparently, and then finally did but it was just … shady. Something was off. And he had to go quickly, then wouldn’t call me back… this instances had happened also in that 4 weeks of hell. I’m sure he had someone else He’s spent the night gaslighting me that I ruined the night, and he was “so looking forward to seeing me”, and that I was being paranoid and crazy. Just circular arguments. I would point out other times he lied about where he was. His response “I’m not lying”, so I would say “but you have before” him - “when?” Me - point out the instances again… “but I’m not lying” Ugh. I give up man.

He actually told me that he tells me the truth and lies and it’s up to me to decide what to believe 😮

Suffering cognitive dissidence developed by the abuse is so painful and debilitating.

Been through all of this

He’s talking??

So i voice recorded my lovely ex narcissist going into a rage, nothing new ok. But about 4 minutes into it she switched over and began putting herself down then flapping her arms, crying and saying crazy things like "sleepyhead" "im so sad" and "my butt hurts" "everything hurts" then she began hitting herself in the arm and head. She was completely in a different world because she didn't listen to a word i said while i was trying to help her. After a while of this she switched back to putting me down but she changed her voice and was very tired. Can a narcissistic rage start narcissistic then autistic then back to narcissistic. Ive searched KZfaq rages and have yet to here anything like this.

Lips Are moving

They are lying when their mouth is moving.

If their lips are moving....they are lying. IT'S THAT SIMPLE.

Is narcissism hereditary, mental or learned

Would Lie Detector works to see if he’s telling the Truth or Lying?

I am a prisoner in my home,,, if i want to go to church he warns me,, there will be hell to pay... He has many friends and is such a great manipulator that when he has physically hurt me n i called the cops they tell me that i should leave... How can i leave when i am now constantly sick and depressed. I live in a crap house,,, mind u its all my fault even though i have never mattered in any decision he has had to make because God for id he not have complete n total control of every single breath i take. I need help!!! Before i am another statistic ,,,I need help!!!

I have a question. When it comes to birthdays, anniversary's, christmas etc do they give you thoughtful gifts or nothing or just random crap. My ex would steal random things and give them to me for those occasions. Might be a topic

Anything out of his mouth, everything he writes lol

I'd prefer the trained monkey. 😊