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Charisma on Command

Charisma on Command

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How to Think Faster Under Pressure
High-pressure situations are, unfortunately, absolutely inevitable. Whatever it is that you want, oftentimes, it comes after a high-pressure situation. Whether it's an interview, a networking event, or a date, it's those times where we really would like an outcome that we feel the most pressure. And unfortunately, all too often we go home kicking ourselves saying, "Why did I say that and why didn't I just say that other thing?"
So that's why, in this video, I want to help you think more sharply and more quickly in those high-pressure situations so you don't wind up at home kicking yourself and instead you are celebrating your big win. The first thing is to initially recognize that high-pressure situations caused us to do the exact opposite of what we would if we were going to do things well. And what that means is that when somebody approaches you at work and they're being hypercritical, what is the instinct? It's to shut down and close off. If somebody walks into a room that you really would like to speak to whether it's a mentor or a date, the instinct is to have your heart race, breathe really shallow, then go, "What do I say? What do I say? What do I say?" We need to do the opposite of these things physically.
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0:32 Change your state by doing the opposite
1:59 Know what to say in any high pressure situation
3:31 Know your framework
6:57 Summary on how to deal with high pressure situations
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@MasculineMan
@MasculineMan 6 жыл бұрын
It's too bad youtube does not promote channels like this, it's clear that you care about your audience and want to add value to them, oppose to the other money grubbers on KZfaq. If you ever want an animation done for you you, let me know :) Keep up the great work Charlie
@FishyFox
@FishyFox 6 жыл бұрын
Masculine Man Dude, this is sweet! I hope he sees this because it's obvious that him caring about his audience makes us care back!
@Yonatan24
@Yonatan24 6 жыл бұрын
What exactly makes you think YT doesn't promote channels like this one?
@Gerard-uo9zb
@Gerard-uo9zb 6 жыл бұрын
Yonatan24 Because of the fact that they don't perhaps.
@Yonatan24
@Yonatan24 6 жыл бұрын
So the 100 million views this channel has, from KZfaq promoting his videos hundreds of millions and even billions of times, doesn't count?! I agree that this is a great channel but come on...
@Gerard-uo9zb
@Gerard-uo9zb 6 жыл бұрын
Yonatan24 Let me make myself clear, in comparison to the absolute trash channels such as the Paul brothers, this channel isn't promoted enough for the quality content it produces.
@StephenRogue
@StephenRogue 5 жыл бұрын
As an introvert, every conversation is a high pressure situation
@spaak3465
@spaak3465 5 жыл бұрын
Oof the relateableness is of the charts
@fryphilip7474
@fryphilip7474 5 жыл бұрын
Stephen Arellano buy the program
@BaioWithMayo
@BaioWithMayo 5 жыл бұрын
started using these tips and now there is sexual tension with every person i meet, idk which was better
@flamecrew9atroblox958
@flamecrew9atroblox958 5 жыл бұрын
Yes lol
@Dubhe68
@Dubhe68 5 жыл бұрын
@@BaioWithMayo dude 😂😂😂
@aNighthawk
@aNighthawk 5 жыл бұрын
"do the opposite" Interviewer: Charlie: you're hired
@maxclark5244
@maxclark5244 5 жыл бұрын
HawQ Interviewee?
@MrJayXo
@MrJayXo 5 жыл бұрын
@@maxclark5244 No, he did the opposite. Instead of the interviewer saying you're hired, the interviewee told the interviewer he's hired
@_viridium_
@_viridium_ 4 жыл бұрын
@@ARMYALEX1869 "No, YOU'RE fired"
@mukulkopulwar
@mukulkopulwar 4 жыл бұрын
Lol 😂😂😂
@mikethompson2745
@mikethompson2745 4 жыл бұрын
I had a friend who hired himself like that. It's actually a common tactic to interview the interviewer to help you get a job.
@ispitmygumonthesidewalk9753
@ispitmygumonthesidewalk9753 5 жыл бұрын
I watched this video 10 times already now I’m think at 100x speed
@mikethompson2745
@mikethompson2745 4 жыл бұрын
If each time made you 10 times faster, you'd be 10,000,000,00x speed. 10^10. ;P
@godzilla8690
@godzilla8690 4 жыл бұрын
Logic level🦸
@GreenZapperZ
@GreenZapperZ 4 жыл бұрын
It sure didn't improve your math as far as this comment shows.
@Ezra_27
@Ezra_27 4 жыл бұрын
*YEAH, IT'S BIG BRAIN TIME.*
@donnersmom
@donnersmom 4 жыл бұрын
Ha ha ha... You are great
@annocount7990
@annocount7990 5 жыл бұрын
Teacher: Did you do your homework? Me: You are asking me if I did my homework? Teacher: Yes. Did you do it? Me: Hey, I don't think I've met you yet. I'm charlie
@ekin4691
@ekin4691 4 жыл бұрын
LOOOL
@kakarot1568
@kakarot1568 4 жыл бұрын
🤣😂😂😂
@s2knightryder
@s2knightryder 4 жыл бұрын
LOL
@noeliamontalban7087
@noeliamontalban7087 4 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣
@mehranzare-bidoky1541
@mehranzare-bidoky1541 4 жыл бұрын
LOL
@MrLazini
@MrLazini 6 жыл бұрын
Watch this vid in 2x for 20 times faster thinking.. Works trust me
@hellterminator
@hellterminator 6 жыл бұрын
Shouldn't that be 100 times faster?
@mswriter3612
@mswriter3612 6 жыл бұрын
WOW it works..I had to speed up my listening and my brain adapted. I needed this.. I can do this with many videos..
@MrLazini
@MrLazini 6 жыл бұрын
Not sure, we'll have to investigate it
@Peidaqsai
@Peidaqsai 6 жыл бұрын
I've always done it with all videos. Your mind can get all the informations normally and it consumes less time, your mind just needs to adapt to the new speed
@varunr4526
@varunr4526 6 жыл бұрын
Lazini lmaaaooo
@Trophonix
@Trophonix 6 жыл бұрын
I walked up to a woman and said "Hey, I don't think I've met you yet. I'm Charlie" and shook her hand We're married now She still thinks my name is Charlie
@creeperawman4779
@creeperawman4779 5 жыл бұрын
?!
@calebmills985
@calebmills985 5 жыл бұрын
😂😂
@darkstar3656
@darkstar3656 5 жыл бұрын
Nice one
@unknownface284
@unknownface284 5 жыл бұрын
😀
@roxxyhaze
@roxxyhaze 5 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@lincolnlogs9907
@lincolnlogs9907 6 жыл бұрын
I just asked my barber what he did for a living...
@melissa48027
@melissa48027 4 жыл бұрын
So... what does your barber do for the living?
@philly8068
@philly8068 4 жыл бұрын
One billion IQ😂
@TrueJEMtheArtist
@TrueJEMtheArtist 4 жыл бұрын
Lincoln logs lmao that’s just as bad as my situation: Server: here you go and enjoy your food Me: thanks you too
@housebrigade
@housebrigade 4 жыл бұрын
Looking at ur haircut he probably turned around and said he was a butcher
@ryantheapple7682
@ryantheapple7682 4 жыл бұрын
Lol
@pawefornalik6638
@pawefornalik6638 4 жыл бұрын
First time driving a car: Instructor: stop on the red Me: *do the opposite*
@JermaineToussaint
@JermaineToussaint 4 жыл бұрын
Paweł Fornalik best one😹😹
@isabelac4758
@isabelac4758 3 жыл бұрын
Turn on left.. Do the opposite lol
@Cher1111
@Cher1111 3 жыл бұрын
I failed my drive test because of my instructor she’s a b¡tch she also yelled at me
@brickabang
@brickabang 2 жыл бұрын
@@Cher1111 Yeah they told me that I’m not allowed to go at 80 mph so I went at 400 and still failed
@joostvanrens
@joostvanrens 5 жыл бұрын
I start all conversations with: "hey do you speak English?" Most co-workers don't even talk to me anymore
@yokaibyte2133
@yokaibyte2133 5 жыл бұрын
Hey, do you speak English anymore? Try that... 😄
@QuackersMcCrackers
@QuackersMcCrackers 3 жыл бұрын
Maybe they didn't speak English...
@savagenovelist2983
@savagenovelist2983 3 жыл бұрын
314 likes. The math lover inside me: *joy intensifies*
@terrybyrd3738
@terrybyrd3738 3 жыл бұрын
I'm gonna use that one at work - thanks!
@petershelton
@petershelton 2 жыл бұрын
They must not speak English
@pooppooperson2328
@pooppooperson2328 6 жыл бұрын
Job Interview: Me: Hey, I don't think I've met you yet, I'm Charlie Interviewer: You're hired
@unknownface284
@unknownface284 5 жыл бұрын
@BasicShapes
@BasicShapes 5 жыл бұрын
HR Manager: So I've called you in because of the sexual allegations against you Me: Hey, I don't think I've met you yet, I'm Charlie HR Manager: You're fired
@zchmxwl8195
@zchmxwl8195 5 жыл бұрын
Fluffy Waffles 🤣
@epharonin1524
@epharonin1524 4 жыл бұрын
@Fluffy Waffles HR Manager: “So, I've called you in because of the sexual allegations against you." Me: “Hey, I don't think I've met you yet, I'm Charlie!" HR Manager: “You're fired." Me: “No, I'm Charlie..."
@NightOwlGamingz
@NightOwlGamingz 4 жыл бұрын
Me talking to a girl that I have a crush on in class: “hey, do you speak English?”
@yetypicalmusic1869
@yetypicalmusic1869 4 жыл бұрын
Her: *Angry Vietnamese*
@thedeadlinger6992
@thedeadlinger6992 3 жыл бұрын
School: *Turns into a Vietcong infested Forest*
@mikeymorrison272
@mikeymorrison272 3 жыл бұрын
@@thedeadlinger6992 *Fortunate Son plays*
@dabruh5741
@dabruh5741 3 жыл бұрын
SOILDER:FAILS BUT GETS A SUPPLIER FOR BLUE MAGIC AND IS NOW A INFAMOUS DEALER IN NEW YORK NAMED BUMPY JOHNSON
@roelinamackintosh5376
@roelinamackintosh5376 3 жыл бұрын
👏👏
@DashingPartyCrasher
@DashingPartyCrasher 6 жыл бұрын
I'd like to expand on Charlie's summary: 1. Do the opposite of what your body wants to do: Take a deep breath, put your arms down, and stand "tall" with shoulders back, chest out. 2. Have a "go-to" phrase that you can say each time you meet someone in a certain situation, such as "Hi! I don't think we've met yet. I'm (your name)." Your go-to phrase(s) can be anything that have worked well for you. 3. Know your framework or "step by step" process. For example on a date, start with fun banter, then share each other's values, and then make longer eye contact or even non-sexual touching. (Charlie has a link to the different frameworks.) 4. If you ever feel lost in a conversation or are unsure of what to say, you can repeat what you (think you) just heard as a question. This forces the other person to repeat or clarify what they said.
@aur9035
@aur9035 5 жыл бұрын
Oh! Thank you so much!
@unknownface284
@unknownface284 5 жыл бұрын
Great work, mate
@tarylouisa7054
@tarylouisa7054 5 жыл бұрын
Thanks a lot !
@giantchook3368
@giantchook3368 4 жыл бұрын
The Dale Carnegie Conversation Stack is a great tool to use to keep a conversation moving.
@selfdalireza4826
@selfdalireza4826 3 жыл бұрын
Well done Gary
@brayjsanimation6165
@brayjsanimation6165 3 жыл бұрын
is talking to my robber "Hey, do you speak english" *gets shot* "I don't think we've met yet, I'm Charlie."
@xXSaberToothSamuraiXx
@xXSaberToothSamuraiXx 6 жыл бұрын
How to be Light Yagami 101
@user-ok7gr2lw2j
@user-ok7gr2lw2j 6 жыл бұрын
But how can I stop time to think things like for five minutes?
@xXSaberToothSamuraiXx
@xXSaberToothSamuraiXx 6 жыл бұрын
Ask Ryuk ;)
@deepakdahiya7471
@deepakdahiya7471 6 жыл бұрын
He really should go through that topic because that man is the idol human being.
@luisc5922
@luisc5922 6 жыл бұрын
L and lighto
@geryldpina7091
@geryldpina7091 6 жыл бұрын
Definitely not Light Turner
@nikitbarapatre
@nikitbarapatre 6 жыл бұрын
I am thinking only 8.23X faster please help.
@whoissalaar1306
@whoissalaar1306 5 жыл бұрын
omae wa mou shindieru ! :D
@saiarakawa
@saiarakawa 5 жыл бұрын
@@whoissalaar1306 NANI!!
@gavingregory1180
@gavingregory1180 5 жыл бұрын
Bazinga
@thegoodkidboy7726
@thegoodkidboy7726 5 жыл бұрын
bing bong
@angrywaffle2860
@angrywaffle2860 5 жыл бұрын
Slacker.
@njamison1000
@njamison1000 6 жыл бұрын
"Do the opposite of what your body tells you to do." *twerks against management table* Job Interviewer: "What are you doing?" Me: *In a more relaxed tone* "Relieving my stress. Why the concern?"
@_omaradnan
@_omaradnan 4 жыл бұрын
no you should say "what am I doing ?"
@abdulvahid4203
@abdulvahid4203 4 жыл бұрын
TurtleTroll lol.
@Creepernator
@Creepernator 4 жыл бұрын
Hahahah, this made me laugh out loud.
@sockpuppet2109
@sockpuppet2109 4 жыл бұрын
@@_omaradnan b b bbbb:b ::g
@sallymichael2355
@sallymichael2355 3 жыл бұрын
NO U DIDN'T Hahahaha how did u even think of that
@CuriosityCulture
@CuriosityCulture 6 жыл бұрын
I usually don't like talking head videos. But you just have that energy man! Love it
@Charismaoncommand
@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын
Thanks man!
@grivar
@grivar 6 жыл бұрын
Not sure this qualifies as a talking head video. A bit too much torso for that :P
@mahesh-re5ln
@mahesh-re5ln 6 жыл бұрын
Harshil Patel tom
@EscapingElyisum
@EscapingElyisum 6 жыл бұрын
it's almost like he does charisma tutorials
@joshmesser374
@joshmesser374 6 жыл бұрын
Not even once in a lifetime? That's a good music video come on
@candyheartsart
@candyheartsart 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for creating this content! As someone who has ADHD and Autism I struggle so much with social interactions and you are really helping me learn more about what to do, even if I don't really understand it.
@DaveE99
@DaveE99 Жыл бұрын
Even for me just adhd, there is so many layers to things humans do. Understanding it can help but is different than learning how to relate to it to some extent.
@AirElegant
@AirElegant 6 жыл бұрын
Take a deep breath. Oxygen is our best friend
@hellterminator
@hellterminator 6 жыл бұрын
The Apollo 1 crew might not agree with that.
@boslyporshy6553
@boslyporshy6553 6 жыл бұрын
Doesn't directly injecting oxygen into your blood stream kill you?
@hq4290
@hq4290 6 жыл бұрын
Bosly Porshy as does injecting any gas would reallt.
@Horesmi
@Horesmi 6 жыл бұрын
*hyperventilates in front of a crowd*
@EB8-1.1
@EB8-1.1 6 жыл бұрын
Even if i‘m a Fish ?
@imransurbakti4417
@imransurbakti4417 4 жыл бұрын
"OH MY GOD! YOU KILLED THAT GIRL?" "heyyy, do you speak english?"
@Baz87100
@Baz87100 3 жыл бұрын
Farewell.
@DMM-cv5fh
@DMM-cv5fh 5 жыл бұрын
In the Marines, we are taught a phrase over and over when dealing with high pressure situations- “slow is smooth, smooth is fast.” What do you think about that? I thought about that especially on your first point.
@BULLTRONHERO
@BULLTRONHERO 4 жыл бұрын
03DM M240 My Soul Mirror was in the army; she taught me many things, along with “slow is smooth, and smooth is fast” and it has been absolutely one of the most consistently useful bits of mindware I’ve yet acquired.
@epicmautauche2233
@epicmautauche2233 4 жыл бұрын
I'm not in the military or in the marines, im 14. What does that mean?
@DMM-cv5fh
@DMM-cv5fh 4 жыл бұрын
Epic Mautauche It means to slow down your movements and thought process enough for your rational mind to keep pace. For example, in Boot Camp the drill instructors are constantly screaming at you to go faster and faster and faster while you are required to perform different things from simply unlocking a combination lock to disassemble and assembling crew served weapons for cleaning and maintenance. You have to be fast and accurate in your movements, because in a combat situation your body movements will often go faster than your mind which makes you spaz out. So just take a breath remember slow is smooth and smooth is fast and you will find that what you’re doing is much faster than if you just go as fast as I can but really all you’re doing is shaking and spazzing out.
@epicmautauche2233
@epicmautauche2233 4 жыл бұрын
@@DMM-cv5fh Oohh, okey thankss
@GoblinQueen2008
@GoblinQueen2008 2 жыл бұрын
I found your comment very helpful and have learned something today. Thanks for sharing that. Also, kudos on the way you treated 14-year old 'Epic Mautauche'...your patient explanation, I think, clarified it for more than just him/her and we have gained valuable insight on something we didn't know that we didn't know. You have the makings of a great teacher, as well as, no doubt, being as chilled as a cucumber in an iceberg when under pressure. Awesome stuff. :}
@SelfMadeMillennial
@SelfMadeMillennial 5 жыл бұрын
I didn't start doing this first tip until a few months ago when someone told me, "Anything you feel, besides physical pain, you have the power to change." This has got me to start controlling my breathing, taking control of my feelings. Once you even have even just mild results it feels amazing!
@MCFishNuggets
@MCFishNuggets 4 жыл бұрын
Boss: you haven’t been reaching your goal, your on thin ice Employee: hi, I don’t think we’ve met
@sebastianelytron8450
@sebastianelytron8450 6 жыл бұрын
Under pressure? Stay cool as ice, ice, baby.
@iadjjisciajad3682
@iadjjisciajad3682 6 жыл бұрын
It's the terror of knowing what the world is about
@williams7787
@williams7787 6 жыл бұрын
Watching some good friends screaming let me out
@thomas.02
@thomas.02 6 жыл бұрын
best reference ever, unfortunately not quite original ;)
@fclp67
@fclp67 6 жыл бұрын
du du du dudududu
@akashchoudhary8162
@akashchoudhary8162 6 жыл бұрын
But ice melts under high pressure...
@adadadrian9117
@adadadrian9117 6 жыл бұрын
i tried this in my kickboxing lesson. i opened up, found a solution to handle the punch and my partner broke my nose, thanks dude!
@iamyouare4308
@iamyouare4308 4 жыл бұрын
You couldn't knock the froth of a cappuccino
@nathanjuan8737
@nathanjuan8737 3 жыл бұрын
situation? application.....
@X2StealthZeikon2X
@X2StealthZeikon2X 6 жыл бұрын
I can't express how thankful I am for coming across this channel. As a person who has gone through a very rough year on my personal self worth, it's amazing how motivational these videos are to get myself back on my feet; whether its taking mental or physical notes on my diary. Keep up the good work!
@metas1779
@metas1779 6 жыл бұрын
This guy's the guy! These vids are super helpful without being over the top like some other stuff I've seen. Well done.
@Charismaoncommand
@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын
~ Glad you're digging them!
@saarahturtle
@saarahturtle 6 жыл бұрын
This video is so needed for me. When I feel like there’s a lot of attention on me (from presenting or even putting my hand up in class to group situations) I feel like my mind goes foggy and I can’t think straight. I’m usually pretty confident but I become a different person and it’s the worst because I feel like there’s a physical boundary that I need to put the work in to stop.
@user-ok7gr2lw2j
@user-ok7gr2lw2j 6 жыл бұрын
Social Anxiety? Because I have that too...
@bellaw.5195
@bellaw.5195 6 жыл бұрын
That happeneds to me too!
@saarahturtle
@saarahturtle 6 жыл бұрын
LotusStream OceanMermaid I never thought that I had social anxiety. I might look into it.
@user-ok7gr2lw2j
@user-ok7gr2lw2j 6 жыл бұрын
No no... if you doubt you have that, you might decide yourself that you have social anxiety. Go to a KZfaq channel named Vanessa Van Edwards and look at her recent about how to deal with social anxiety. This might help you.
@PracticalInspiration
@PracticalInspiration 6 жыл бұрын
Responses like these are usually because you're so focused on yourself that you lose confidence. The techniques in this video are genuinely helpful. One other thing is working on your mindset as you'll develop your confidence. Do things, routines, that put you in a frame of mind that will have you believe the day ahead is going to be an amazing day. You'd be amazed how much of a positive effect this will have. In addition, practice! Seriously, if you get nervous in a group setting, then don't be afraid to push yourself to speak your mind. At first it's hard, but I promise it gets easier
@nicspinks
@nicspinks 6 жыл бұрын
I really liked the zoom in when you took a deep breath
@creampuff966
@creampuff966 6 жыл бұрын
camera angle intensifies
@missestomlinson99
@missestomlinson99 3 жыл бұрын
cashier: that’ll be 1.99$ me: “think fast” also me: hands her 25 cents
@aleksszukovskis2074
@aleksszukovskis2074 3 жыл бұрын
Her: "thing fast" *hands change*
@parkerhalter7316
@parkerhalter7316 2 жыл бұрын
Idk why but that got me dying
@Knowledge_Nuggies
@Knowledge_Nuggies 4 жыл бұрын
Good stuff; here's my summary: • If there's something valuable to win, a high-pressure situation is usually the gate-keeper, e. g. dates, exams, job interviews etc. • 3 strategies to excel in high-pressure situations: 1. Do the opposite of what u'd do by instinct □ We tend to do the wrong thing by instinct, that is get nervous, shut down, close off etc. □ Better: Consciously open ur body language, take a deep breath & calm down □ Think of the rituals athletes use to change their physical state 2. Know the first thing to do/say in a particular type of situation □ Have a standard go-to-strategy, e. g. particular ice-breakers for meeting new ppl at networking events □ e. g. "Hey! I don't think I've met u yet. I'm [insert name]." 3. Know ur frameworks for each type of situation □ There are many different frameworks (due to processual regularities), e. g. for dates, first impressions, case studies etc. □ e. g. good dates have 3 elements (in that order): 1. Intrigue / interest (first spark; light fun; air of mystery) 2. sharing of values, ambitions etc. (make a deeper connection) 3. physical / sexual tension (comfortable long eye contact etc.) □ Use these frameworks as mental checklists to navigate these situations • Extra tip: Caught off-guard by a question? Rephrase the last words as a question ("Blablabla. What do u think of X?"->"Oh, u want my view on X?") ○ That gives u valuable time to change ur state, think etc. ○ Bonus points, if ur opponent even elaborates the initial question as a follow-up
@ryansecord8071
@ryansecord8071 6 жыл бұрын
Step 1: Stop caring.
@Tubeytime
@Tubeytime 6 жыл бұрын
Step 2: Be based.
@makeithappen8906
@makeithappen8906 6 жыл бұрын
Golden
@htoodoh5770
@htoodoh5770 6 жыл бұрын
Teodor Lukas what?
@BTwice-PSB
@BTwice-PSB 6 жыл бұрын
Ryan Secord this works 100 % if not then u still care but when u dont give shit anymore ur rock solid but yes u do end up as a litte cold on the inside haha
@kenonerboy
@kenonerboy 6 жыл бұрын
If i didnt care I'd leave...
@vm3mm3mv29
@vm3mm3mv29 6 жыл бұрын
This channel is for aliens that want to mingle between humans
@thenoblemute7669
@thenoblemute7669 6 жыл бұрын
vm3m m3mv ~ oh no they've figured me out
@ishpeeedy
@ishpeeedy 5 жыл бұрын
You got me! Pshhht! Alert master Zucc ASAP!
@machduel
@machduel 5 жыл бұрын
Jokes aside there is a lot of stuff that he covers that you'd expect people to have already (charisma wise) then you go out into the world and everyone's a jerk.
@mihlalipotwana7448
@mihlalipotwana7448 5 жыл бұрын
You dont have to be soo loud
@scrapthatwithmatt9520
@scrapthatwithmatt9520 4 жыл бұрын
Mythron na, not everyone, just the majority (80%)
@randynelson5998
@randynelson5998 4 жыл бұрын
How is this guy so genius. The sheer simplicity of the things he says blows my mind. “Hey, I haven’t met you yet. I’m Randy.” That is the simplest easiest thing I’ve never thought of. You can say that to ANYONE you don’t know and it’ll just unfold into a conversation. Thank you Charlie, I’ve watched your videos for years and you’ve helped my interactions so much. There’s just nowhere else to get this help!! Not everyone has the confidence to trial-and-error human interaction
@harithomas1911
@harithomas1911 5 жыл бұрын
I just wanted to say thank you so so much. These videos help someone who has a behavioural disorder to read other behavioural traits and stop them from feeling lonely and unwanted. On behalf of myself and others like me, thank you ever so much!!!
@thesquirteler4520
@thesquirteler4520 6 жыл бұрын
Charlie, thank you again for your words of wisdom. They really do work! I was in a public setting all of today, and just by opening up my arms and rolling back my shoulders, I was totally at ease! Thank you for your dedication to this channel, it really does make a difference.
@Charismaoncommand
@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын
~ That's awesome :-)
@cody9744
@cody9744 6 жыл бұрын
I’ve been watching you for two years now and love how you still bring new skills to bear!
@Charismaoncommand
@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын
~ Thanks Cody! Appreciate you sticking with us since the beginning. :-)
@DepressionTalks1
@DepressionTalks1 6 жыл бұрын
These tips are helpful for sure. I think overall you just have to be yourself, and be okay with slowly growing.
@DepressionTalks1
@DepressionTalks1 6 жыл бұрын
Solutionist ' Hm.. slow growth is better than no growth.
@woodsofchaos
@woodsofchaos 6 жыл бұрын
And it would have been equal to normal growth too, until you called it slow growth.
@Shifterfire
@Shifterfire 6 жыл бұрын
In personal growth, usually any meaningful growth is slow. And if you think it's fast, you realise later you haven't actually grown that much.
@DepressionTalks1
@DepressionTalks1 6 жыл бұрын
Himanshu Singh Cool perspective:]
@DepressionTalks1
@DepressionTalks1 6 жыл бұрын
Shifterfire Never thought of it that way:]
@SergioRugerio
@SergioRugerio 6 жыл бұрын
Charlie i have recently seen all your *infront of the camera* videos, it is amazing how much you have imporved your presentation skills, honestly i dont think there is a better presenter considering that you only make one take videos, with no cuts. I would love if you could go deeper on explaining how you prepare the videos. I know you already did a videos called "zero notes needed", but if you could go a little deeper it would be awesome. Thanks for sharing amazing, mind shifting content.
@PracticalInspiration
@PracticalInspiration 6 жыл бұрын
This is what I was thinking, his on camera charisma is amazing when you consider the subtleties of how he communicates. In general, I feel they've really done great work with how they generally edit videos, it's really come a huge way.
@moritzschroder
@moritzschroder 6 жыл бұрын
Loved the video! Staying sharp under pressure has been a problem for me for a while now... when I create content, such as blog posts or my youtube videos, I can take my time with thinking and aligning my thoughts. But when put on the spot I tend to crash and burn. Definitely something I need to work more on in the future! 😉
@talkingwalex2163
@talkingwalex2163 4 жыл бұрын
Who else is here to learn how to human? 🙋‍♀️
@shriharir6450
@shriharir6450 3 жыл бұрын
Meeee
@savagenovelist2983
@savagenovelist2983 3 жыл бұрын
Turtle behind video screen with pfp of some random kid: Same...
@SoulTouchMusic93
@SoulTouchMusic93 3 жыл бұрын
Gotta prepare to sneak by in case they decide to raid area 51 again ...
@TorontosFinestKrew
@TorontosFinestKrew 3 жыл бұрын
I’m good enough to trust in my recklessness
@davidthor4405
@davidthor4405 3 жыл бұрын
I mean I do have autism, so yeah
@Blessthemartyr132
@Blessthemartyr132 5 жыл бұрын
I love every video you make and I think you do such a great job gettingyour message across. I've definitely learned a lot from you and thanks so much.
@PracticalInspiration
@PracticalInspiration 6 жыл бұрын
Great video as always! This video focuses heavily on high pressure social situations, but the principle ideas can be extended to other pressure situations too. I've personally worked a lot on coping with stress myself and doing so allows me to achieve so much more in life.
@MagicLink43
@MagicLink43 6 жыл бұрын
I've recently had trouble formulating my sentences and expressing what I want to say. Any advice that can help me overcome this hurdle?
@Charismaoncommand
@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын
My guess is that the number one thing that would help you is slowing down. Often times we think we are speaking much more slowly than we are (if you've watched yourself on tape, it becomes obvious). Take a deep breath, collect your thoughts without filler words, and take advantage of the silence. In addition to giving you a few extra seconds to think, it can be great for commanding attention if you don't interrupt it with filler words
@Charismaoncommand
@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын
My guess is that the number one thing that would help you is slowing down. Often times we think we are speaking much more slowly than we are (if you've watched yourself on tape, it becomes obvious). Take a deep breath, collect your thoughts without filler words, and take advantage of the silence. In addition to giving you a few extra seconds to think, it can be great for commanding attention if you don't interrupt it with filler words
@MagicLink43
@MagicLink43 6 жыл бұрын
Charisma on Command I think you're right. Many times I scramble through thoughts in my mind and can't seem to get anything out. Slowing down will definitely help. Looking back, I also do tend to interrupt silence and use filler words often. I will make a conscious effort to stop that. Thank you very much!
@PracticalInspiration
@PracticalInspiration 6 жыл бұрын
lol, I was about to respond with the same suggestions as the guys at Charisma on Command (not sure if it was Charlie or Ben). Another thing that might help is consider where your focus is. Often when we stumble on words or feel nerves it's because our focus is so heavily on ourselves rather than who we're talking to. For example, if you struggle in social situations, one really good thing is to keep asking questions, because if you ask others about themselves, then your focus is on them, not yourself. This can be a great confidence booster as you feel more comfortable in the conversation. I'm aware that may not be an answer to your specific issue, but hopefully identifying where your focus is when speaking will help you understand how to overcome it.
@dannyclub09
@dannyclub09 6 жыл бұрын
I'm like this. And then I try and jokingly address the fact I'm being inarticulate but then am inarticulate in doing that and come across as a complete mess. Charlie is right though, I slow down and try and form the sentence in my mind first, even if it means pausing for a while mid-sentence, and it does help.
@thewarhammer6606
@thewarhammer6606 6 жыл бұрын
Me: *Doing Tai Chi in the office's waiting room* Secratary: Sir... are you ok? Me: Can't talk. Im doing my interview ritual
@Iron-Bridge
@Iron-Bridge 6 жыл бұрын
I'm glad this channel has passed the million subscriber mark. Lot of value to be found. You're doing very well and I wish you the very best on your rise. Cheers!
@TheDenisedrake
@TheDenisedrake 6 жыл бұрын
Fabulous! Four times a year I am the lobby manager for huge dance recitals (300+ dancers). There are always a few parents or grandparents etc. who think they should be let in early, can go backstage or have some other issue that I have to say "no" to. I love the open body language and repeating the question or request. Thanks!
@thatguyrajat
@thatguyrajat 6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this one Charlie 👍
@Charismaoncommand
@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын
~ Our pleasure! Thanks for watching. :-)
@alexanderSnilsson
@alexanderSnilsson 6 жыл бұрын
These are all great tips I've tried to apply lately to varying degree. However, I must say that working on being conscious and aware throughout the day, really has paid off good to these high-pressure situations. It's like I've gotten better at "slow-mo" down the time to think and be less reactive. This is the more longterm fix that also requires tons of work. I've been using meditation, journaling and just focusing on being more present and aware. Thanks for GREAT content as always Charlie, /Alex
@Charismaoncommand
@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын
I'm getting hooked on meditation. Definitely more videos on that soon!
@alexanderSnilsson
@alexanderSnilsson 6 жыл бұрын
SWEET! I'm starting to fall in love in it as well
@tarikalakkad2005
@tarikalakkad2005 5 жыл бұрын
Man can't get enough of your videos. I see sincerity in every single video.
@saarahturtle
@saarahturtle 6 жыл бұрын
Even after a year of subscribing to this channel, I can’t get over how you managed to do these videos so well in one take
@claeswelinder2014
@claeswelinder2014 6 жыл бұрын
I can’t overemphasis the value in making a habit of visualizing possible scenarios and mentaly practice routines. This might require you to put down the phone and study your surroundings though ;)
@sgnome1725
@sgnome1725 6 жыл бұрын
Darn
@CBLK159
@CBLK159 5 жыл бұрын
Phone bad speak good
@rodrigozanabria2978
@rodrigozanabria2978 5 жыл бұрын
@@CBLK159 yes
@Resunaa
@Resunaa 4 жыл бұрын
Oh people dont already do this? It's actually nice to visualize a universe with a conversation that I'm anticipating. Sometimes you can take replies you used in that scenario and place that in a real convo you're having, almost like reading a script from your memory. The more you do it the more accurate you can become and the more fluent your sentences will be.
@bsivoljr
@bsivoljr 3 жыл бұрын
@@Resunaa The crazy thing is that Im really good at this and can visualize tons of scenarios, however I never practice this.
@abirdonalilactree
@abirdonalilactree 6 жыл бұрын
Under pressure, I'm pretty sure I'm going to say 'Hello, I'm Charly', now 😀
@amymartinez6477
@amymartinez6477 5 жыл бұрын
Funny if they are like oh you saw the video too!?
@nabeel9187
@nabeel9187 4 жыл бұрын
This channel has improved my life and mind a thousand times more than anything else.I found all the videos I have watched on this channel useful. Thank You
@lauragriffin3368
@lauragriffin3368 6 жыл бұрын
Wow! This is great advice! I’m constantly surprised at how much value any one of these videos offer. They’re just awesome! They package up so many different things into one context so it’s useful immediately. Thank you for making this!
@Charismaoncommand
@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын
~ Happy to make it! Glad to hear you're getting value from our videos. :-)
@VIK_1903
@VIK_1903 6 жыл бұрын
HOW TO MAKE ME CLICK HERE 10X FASTER
@ukaszs3986
@ukaszs3986 4 жыл бұрын
Boss: Kowalski where is that crucial report I wanted on my desk yesterday? Me: Hey, do you speak english?
@jonneyblack4458
@jonneyblack4458 5 жыл бұрын
I've seen and read a lot of stuff on this topic, and this is the best video I've EVER seen. Very informative and clearly explained.
@justineamador8160
@justineamador8160 5 жыл бұрын
Charlie! Im so proud if you! Love your videos! 😍
@charitytoke6461
@charitytoke6461 Жыл бұрын
Superb video. But, let me share this here knowing it can uplift someone that comes across it. Effective financial management made me rich and it is all you need if you want to build a strong financial future tomorrow. I started with 1000USD, 3 years ago I invested in a diversified stock market and fast forward to now I am worth 500000USD and am currently finishing my 8 unit apartments. I'm only 35 years old. Diversified stock investments have always proven to be very profitable, especially with the help of experts.
@catherinehughes2155
@catherinehughes2155 Жыл бұрын
I'm really impressed. At 35, i was worth a little over $200,000 from * in the stock market. But what you've done with your *finances* and numbers you worth, is pure genius.
@torkwaskipolischez8484
@torkwaskipolischez8484 Жыл бұрын
You have done well. It's people like you who set the benchmark for people like us to know that achieving financial stability and transition of status from being comfortable to wealthy is possible with the right *investment* plan.
@arlingjonathan4263
@arlingjonathan4263 Жыл бұрын
I'm curious, is *investing* in a diversified stock *market* a pretty lucrative venture? Can you share how you achieved these figures?
@charitytoke6461
@charitytoke6461 Жыл бұрын
@@arlingjonathan4263 Experience plays a key role when *investing* in diversified *stock markets*, which is why I have Rachel Hilda, whose experience has greatly helped me persevere in the diversified *stock market*. For three years she helped me grow my portfolio using her diversified knowledge of the financial *market*.
@arlingjonathan4263
@arlingjonathan4263 Жыл бұрын
@@charitytoke6461 Thank you very much for the response, I don't know if you can share a medium that I could use to communicate with Rachel. It's really a tough time for me due to inflations and an additional source of *income* would be exactly what I need for me in these unprecedented times and does she accept a minimum amount for startup?
@chiemikaononiwu4985
@chiemikaononiwu4985 6 жыл бұрын
The emoji he slid in at 5:14 💀💀💀
@CaptainCocaine
@CaptainCocaine 5 жыл бұрын
I'm surprised I don't see more comments about that.
@flueepwrien6587
@flueepwrien6587 5 жыл бұрын
@@CaptainCocaine exactly, best part of the video
@h4468
@h4468 5 жыл бұрын
I hope you know how much impact your videos make in the world. You have literally shifted my entire life and how I view it
@sdaisyclaire
@sdaisyclaire 6 жыл бұрын
This video just magically appears right after I worked in a shift where we were severly understaffed and a crowd of people exceeded our projections. Awesome!
@ACompleteUnknown97
@ACompleteUnknown97 3 жыл бұрын
“Do the opposite” *George Costanza wants to know your location*
@klubkudu
@klubkudu 6 жыл бұрын
Hey Charlie, I was just wondering if you could cover some texting or online behaviour that is charismatic. Like a certain way of texting because texting is a pretty big part of dating and relationships these days. Just a suggestion, keep up the good work!
@freshprince8919
@freshprince8919 4 жыл бұрын
I had a similar experience with this, had this one friend that always attacked me in a social situation, I tried this technique. after a while though all the humility, I started speaking up ... go for it!
@patriciavideojourn9117
@patriciavideojourn9117 4 жыл бұрын
i have been watching their videos since the quarantine every morning as I prepare breakfast. Very helpful!
@physical_insanity
@physical_insanity 6 жыл бұрын
Thing is, even if I do say what I want, I still end up kicking myself thinking "why didn't I say this today?" even though it probably went pretty well.
@nathanh5448
@nathanh5448 6 жыл бұрын
Hi charlie, I wanted to ask you, can you do a video on Jeff Goldblum?
@Charismaoncommand
@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын
He's definitely an interesting character. Maybe for the new Jurassic World? I'll take a look and see if it makes sense
@victoryzy
@victoryzy 6 жыл бұрын
Especially his interviews with Conan!
@epharonin1524
@epharonin1524 4 жыл бұрын
Got to do one on Rodney Dangerfield, too 😁
@deathsoulger1
@deathsoulger1 3 жыл бұрын
This channels content is changing my life radically. Highly recommend this to anyone
@jnellieeightyfive7725
@jnellieeightyfive7725 3 жыл бұрын
Love you Charlie. Keep up the amazing work ❤ we appreciate your support
@xZankiohx
@xZankiohx 6 жыл бұрын
I came here in order to learn how to think 10x faster under pressure but now I can think 12x faster than normal under pressure. How can I go back please?
@Charismaoncommand
@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын
Watch on .75 speed. 9X should be close enough
@xZankiohx
@xZankiohx 6 жыл бұрын
Charisma on Command thank you! Hahahahaha.
@vm3mm3mv29
@vm3mm3mv29 6 жыл бұрын
Charisma on Command 😂😂😂😂
@Infaviored
@Infaviored 6 жыл бұрын
That was actually really funny
@TrashReturns
@TrashReturns 6 жыл бұрын
Your biceps just looks... handsome. Ever thought about a video on your workout?
@celticsfangreen
@celticsfangreen 5 жыл бұрын
You’re a genius making a video and then linking 4 more of your videos that tag along with the main concept no wonder you have so many views
@muskduh
@muskduh 2 жыл бұрын
Appreciate your video, my man. Keep up the great work!
@RemusNeo
@RemusNeo 6 жыл бұрын
Mm ba ba de Um bum ba de Um bu bu bum da de PRESSURE! pushing down on me Pressing down on you no man ask for Under pressure that brings a building down Splits a family in two Puts people on streets
@skrrrah1089
@skrrrah1089 6 жыл бұрын
What song is this?
@sherlockholmes374
@sherlockholmes374 6 жыл бұрын
I love you.
@mcflysdougie
@mcflysdougie 6 жыл бұрын
Perry Chu "Under pressure" by Queen ft. David Bowie
@DBZMacky
@DBZMacky 6 жыл бұрын
I guess this is Michael De Santa's ability IRL.
@DemetriosLevi
@DemetriosLevi 6 жыл бұрын
This is the first video of yours I've watched, and I can see why you have over one million subs...this info is GOLD, man!
@RiaLuna1
@RiaLuna1 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! Such a great and extremely helpful video!❤️❣️
@Buraak97
@Buraak97 6 жыл бұрын
A:What do u think of this? B: What do i think about this?.. Hahaha i wanna know if this realy works, genuis. Time to practice and implement frameworks
@1dgram
@1dgram 6 жыл бұрын
Or you could get into a bunch of different extreme sports that seem really dangerous but in actuality aren't that bad and eventually you'll rarely get adrenaline rushes any more and when you do they'll be much sublimed. Then the only thing is that teammates might wonder why you don't panic when something goes really wrong; you just weigh the options and calmly choose one; it can really freak some people out and make them wonder if you really care.
@abenerice
@abenerice 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Charlie, great content as usual!
@suryahr307
@suryahr307 4 жыл бұрын
I have the most important interview of my life in 2 days and I get this video recommended. I didn't even watch any videos related to interviews!!
@quadraticequation8196
@quadraticequation8196 6 жыл бұрын
Last time I was in a fight with my teacher....my nose started shaking 😢😖
@brendanh1620
@brendanh1620 6 жыл бұрын
Haha I needed this video
@Charismaoncommand
@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын
Good timing :-)
@QwertyTSecond
@QwertyTSecond 6 жыл бұрын
One thing I'd add is knowing what you want, gearing a framework to a specific goal you want and figuring out if you're on the right track to that.
@ujjwalb7406
@ujjwalb7406 4 жыл бұрын
Love your work man
@MetaphoricMinds
@MetaphoricMinds 3 жыл бұрын
It is awkward that I'm here to learn how to socialize better, but my wife comes in while I'm being given dating advice from some guy on the internet.
@Ohakoo
@Ohakoo 2 жыл бұрын
Are u alive?
@shaun_rambaran
@shaun_rambaran 6 жыл бұрын
"Yes, Charlie. The proposal. Weren't you listening?..."
@Seeker_CS
@Seeker_CS 4 жыл бұрын
The fact that there are no cuts or jumps in this make it so much better. Nice
@RokonGaming
@RokonGaming 6 жыл бұрын
Fantastic video as always, Charlie. I'm always looking forward to improving myself socially.
@thegoodkidboy7726
@thegoodkidboy7726 5 жыл бұрын
"So, what do you think?" "Yes"
@thomasappelflap4433
@thomasappelflap4433 6 жыл бұрын
1. Don’t let the pressure go to your head in the first place
@BSJINTHEHOUSE420
@BSJINTHEHOUSE420 6 жыл бұрын
Thomas Appelflap I should consider that because that makes me lose many Fortnite games.
@thomasappelflap4433
@thomasappelflap4433 6 жыл бұрын
BSJ IN YO HOUSE AHAHAHAHAH TRUE
@thomasappelflap4433
@thomasappelflap4433 6 жыл бұрын
Somesh feeling some form of gratitude, realising that everything isn’t that big of a deal
@vladb420
@vladb420 6 жыл бұрын
or you can just be very proud of yourself
@curlymixednezz
@curlymixednezz 5 жыл бұрын
You give some great insight... I love learning your perspective on life 💯
@SalemGTV
@SalemGTV 6 жыл бұрын
Dude! Your videos are improving! Nice work
@skortana3760
@skortana3760 3 жыл бұрын
Listened to this at 2X speed so I can think 20X faster instead
@woodsofchaos
@woodsofchaos 6 жыл бұрын
Hey, here's a suggestion (because i feel you're going through a problem with the channel). Contact and do a collaboration with Thomas Frank. You both need this.
@a2h579
@a2h579 3 жыл бұрын
That’s important to think faster for every successful person, good video ❤️
@PianistaPeralta
@PianistaPeralta 5 жыл бұрын
Your videos are just awesome, thank you for doing it! ❤
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