"If you can't be happy while you pursue a goal, you wont be happy when you achieve it."
@jk-pc1iv11 ай бұрын
Yes I think this is great advice on multiple levels.
@dbbdbdbdbd59911 ай бұрын
Nah thats cap, i was unhappy abt my body 2 years ago and now i feel way better
@SilverRAM77711 ай бұрын
Same here. I had to pause the video and write that quote down cuz I know I’m gonna be using it in the future
@SdoubleA11 ай бұрын
@@dbbdbdbdbd599The point is the journey. Looking at yourself in the mirror as you make the minor gains and the progress etc
@JayasankarNair11 ай бұрын
nothing new it is already in Gita. Bhagavat Gita. @@SilverRAM777
@rajniranjan11 ай бұрын
That "It's alright" hit me more than anything did ever in this life. You are such a positive man. Thank you for inspiring me.
@zacharystevens780111 ай бұрын
I started my day stressed about all the crap going on in my life, then I hear this man’s story and those words “it’s alright” when he’s at the end of the road in a life 100x worse than mine and suddenly things get perspective. It really could be worse
@mightymoeish8 ай бұрын
6:26 timestamp
@Danny101311 ай бұрын
I don't know if I would say this video is directly charisma related, but I absolutely loved it and would love it if you guys put out more content like this. This echo's a lot of what I've learned from listening to the podcast over the past few years and my life is dramatically better for it. I'm so grateful for you both
@Werdxp11 ай бұрын
Happiness and overall life direction is definitely charisma related
@Danny101311 ай бұрын
@@Werdxp I agree with that, this just isn't the advice you'd expect if you were asking for charisma tips. I don't know if someone who isn't familiar with this channel would make that connection or not.
@maro573211 ай бұрын
This is such a great video and I really appreciate you making it. Thank you, really.
@raginggerman537711 ай бұрын
I agree. You've got many great videos on your channel, but I think this is hands down one of, if not the best.
@Werdxp11 ай бұрын
This is actually one of the BEST videos you ever done. Ben and Charlie, thank you so much
@SnowyMango11 ай бұрын
I don’t comment on KZfaq videos much. But I really want to come here and thank you for this incredible video. So well curated and love that you provided some links to incredibly useful wakingup clips thank you and please continue to do great work.
@cmja0911 ай бұрын
"We'll see" is strong. I currently couldn't get over this lady. I don't even know if she's good for me or not. "We'll see"
@iamrjdennis11 ай бұрын
Hey, Charisma on Command! I've been watching your videos for several years, and this is by far one of my favorite videos I've ever seen from you guys. Thank you for this, keep it up! 💛
@NatsukiTakaama11 ай бұрын
How can we deal with muzlams when they come to us bully us by saying *"accept ezlame otherwise you will go to hell"* ... How can we respond to diffuse the situation?
@SyntheticCoupe11 ай бұрын
Intentions are everything, the why and how one approaches people and situations in this life. It all start with your intent.
@turbo862811 ай бұрын
Underappreciated comment, especially nowadays.
@varungupta204511 ай бұрын
I haven't cried this hard in months. Thank you.
@REDRAGON1234511 ай бұрын
lol this bot comments can be hilarious sometimes
@rickyfitness25211 ай бұрын
Lol
@ed.8611 ай бұрын
That guy with the pancreatic cancer, the way he was telling his story, i just started crying hard... dunno if its a bot or not, but i really felt it
@varungupta204511 ай бұрын
@@ed.86Exactly.
@brolol52911 ай бұрын
My source of unhappiness is the fact that I'm really talented at a lot of things but in the moment I judge myself very harshly and don't appreciate what I achieved. And the fact that I waste my life being too scared to make a step forward on my own, get to know other people/a romantic partner
@sebastienmorand247921 күн бұрын
I feel the same. But fighting this state of mind could give some kind of goal.
@stefanm.196111 ай бұрын
Every sentence kept hitting me and hitting me and kept going. This video was so needed I can't put it into words. I'll share this with everyone I know, amazing information into a 10 minute video.
@EmbraceTheStruggle2411 ай бұрын
Yep same here 💯
@johnconnor413611 ай бұрын
Just wanted to comment here to proudly share that, 10 days from now, I will have been sober for 4 years.
@emptymelodies331611 ай бұрын
I may not know you but I’m proud of you! Hope you have an awesome day
@FroztOfficial11 ай бұрын
That’s awesome. Keep up the good work, I believe in you :D
@shelbyhurd10 ай бұрын
Amazing achievement. I’m on this journey myself. I hope to someday have your courage. Wishing you all of the best in life. 🫂
@MommaOsoIrish675 ай бұрын
Good job! And it is work. I'm so happy for you! Recovery is quite an accomplishment not often understood by people who've never struggled with sobriety! (Applause) Congratulations! Keep it going!
@300thNPC3 ай бұрын
John. We need you back in the Resistance
@yonaalter11 ай бұрын
"Attitude of gratitude" helps...being thankful for every little thing we have in life also helps.
@yatnalkarpranav11 ай бұрын
4:16 "Isolated upward comparison", wow! Put it so precisely. Always thought about the idea but never in those exact words!
@hipnhappenin11 ай бұрын
Struggling through a breakup right now and this is the video I needed. Thank you
@dustyk10311 ай бұрын
This is one of the very best inspirational videos I have ever seen! I believe it fully encompasses why life is best when you’re grateful for what you have, and not resentful for what you don’t. Life is best lived with your glass half full instead of half empty.
@the12Turn211 ай бұрын
Great video. Love the stoic mindset. Focus on only things you can control.
@EmbraceTheStruggle2411 ай бұрын
💯
@saadiaarfak708111 ай бұрын
I would say that I'm a happy person in my life, I do get unhappy days too but from my experience I would give some advice: - First, having bad days/luck is okay, you can't always have a good day and that's life ! As long as you don't block on this - Second, appreciating every small moment of happiness and not looking for being super duper happy because there's small moments of life like that - Lastly, being in peace with yourself give you less stress, less envy toward others I know it may not be easy for everyone but I think it's a mindset that help in life. You only have one life, we should live it the way we want
@stormrhode233011 ай бұрын
I wanna mention some of the general, foundational rocks, too: - get good sleep - eat healthy - exercise You could easily add, - read books - be social - smile a bunch - use big, positive, happy body language - find a healthy stress outlet - create things (even something like sketches or Lego structures) There are tons of other tools you can use to increase happiness. Here are just a handful.
@JaySwag7711 ай бұрын
Great additions!
@shawnespinoza930011 ай бұрын
I think the most important part of this video is thankfulness. We do not realize how lucky/blessed we are. Things can always be worse. There are other excellent points in this video, and I plan on sharing it with others, but there are always people in worse situations that can be happy just knowing that it can be worse still.
@EmbraceTheStruggle2411 ай бұрын
Absolutely. I agree 💯
@caiusKeys11 ай бұрын
I lift up my eyes to the mountains- where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. --Psalm 121:1-2
@caiusKeys11 ай бұрын
The heavens and the earth exist. Who made them? checkmate humanist.
@andreasvb114211 ай бұрын
I read the story about the Chinese farmer some 10+ years ago, and simple as it is, it completely changed my life view. Basically ever since, whenever I start judging something that happens as “bad”, I just remember not to judge it because every bad thing is gonna lead to a good thing, that will lead to a bad thing, that will lead to a good thing..and so on. In short, there’s no reason to judge it as we can’t know the future. Best to just move on and see what happens
@iRaquelLCS11 ай бұрын
Thank you, I am so grateful for a teacher like you. I honestly believe your course should be taught in school. You literally just saved me from a downward spiral. I was about to lay in bed and give into it before I clicked on this video. Thank you
@shiplesp6 ай бұрын
A friend used to say that if you feel yourself falling into unhappiness because of your circumstances, even dire ones, visit a pediatric burn ward and realize the waiting room is filled with people who would change places with you in a heartbeat.
@ZachPincince11 ай бұрын
Such a great video. I speak from experience when I say these principles truly can change your live...if you let them 👀
@calholli11 ай бұрын
"Wanting is the source of all suffering" -- Buddha
@bradhuygens11 ай бұрын
I’ve been watching each video of this channel since 2016, and this video was special. So helpful and exactly what I needed right now. You really went above and beyond referencing the non-sponsored app, and the KZfaq channels (like invisible people). Thanks for the video
@edgeofdead958611 ай бұрын
I dont know if this video help me relatively in short time but I know this is the mindset that will grant me happiness.
@richardharris2024 ай бұрын
Most underrated video in KZfaq ranking 1
@daguys3011 ай бұрын
I’ve never received a free trial that was a LEGIT free offer before. No CC # needed or anything. Good on ya! I’ll watch your channel religiously now because frankly it’s easier to listen to and trust what you’re saying because of the seemingly little thing.
@david423311 ай бұрын
Waking up offers free subscriptions if you request it, I've done so several times my life already when I felt I needed it the most!
@a---------------10 ай бұрын
This channel is beyond powerful, I didn't know that I could still feel somehow enlightened in this life. I thought I'd never feel this way but I just did. Thank you
@ArranitM11 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. I wasn't even fully aware of how much I needed to hear it, but it's really helped out quite a bit.
@mahdihabibi798411 ай бұрын
key point: Gratitude is the solvation for most of the sufferings and negative thoughts.
@johnchristopher573311 ай бұрын
When I was a kid around ten I worked out a list of what I considered at the time to be "legitimate" reasons for unhappiness. The reasons are vague and they overlap, but this is what I came up with: You're expectations are not being met. You are not being taken into consideration. Hostile forces are thwarting your goals (as opposed to bad luck or incompetence).
@NoFretBrettCSSMBFF11 ай бұрын
How long ago was this...? How have you modified this list...? Would you like some feedback after you share more...?
@ahkafkhan451211 ай бұрын
As for number 2,GUYS BELIEVE ME IT IS DEFINETLEY CORRECT.Ever since March 2023/earlier this year,i have been showing myself much more compassion,empathy and support, and i genuinley feel MUCH better,and much more contented/happy
@arnaudmenant989711 ай бұрын
I got the vidéo in my recommandations exactly the day I need it because I am over thinking about that past and getting depressed. Thank you bro ❤
@edathompson210 ай бұрын
Accepting death when I found out I had a disease made me the happiest I've ever been in my life. I took inventory of everything that I had and was blown away by how successful I was in life.
@ChristianSoschner10 ай бұрын
One of the best channels on KZfaq
@lizzam11 ай бұрын
I have experienced the rut first hand, and somehow managed to got out of it. The video explains the feeling aptly, and I don't even know that there's a scientific name for the feeling I had. I did not have a 10-minutes video last time, but I hope this would help others at least know that they are not alone, and there is a way out.
@brucet.323911 ай бұрын
This is hands down one of the best videos I've ever watched! Thank you for making this!
@playpal995011 ай бұрын
This is the first time I actually don’t need a video to explain a topic to me. I’ve already mastered this one.
@gamesinreallife754511 ай бұрын
Money can in fact make you happy, but not in the way most people generally think. Sure you can have what ever you want by having money. But true happiness comes from being “outrageously generous” - Dave Ramsay. To be able to use your money to help others in need, to use your money for purposes outside of yourself, THAT is what make you happy when it comes to money.
@lorddpablo965111 ай бұрын
Sometimes the journey is more important than the goal. The things you lean and skills you pick up and the people you meet along the way
@bartoshg11 ай бұрын
Amazing. Thank you for this video. Gives perspective to look at life from a different side.
@itswermzer11 ай бұрын
I love all your videos, but I think this one is my favorite of all of them. Thank you
@XVMIIHS6 ай бұрын
Why is this your best video you just saved my life G
@SvenGarson8 ай бұрын
This is fricking gold dude - Sometimes you just need someone to remind you of what there is right now. Another aspect is that when you live with people who mostly live by these negative traits you explained here, you probably need to get away from them to get out of the spiral.
@NachoR9510 ай бұрын
This is seriously the greatest video i have ever seen in my 28 years of life. Thank you, i needed it ❤
@a---------------10 ай бұрын
6:20 I cried, I cried so hard. I'm so selfish, I need to be thankful for what I have now.
@millermanhal8 ай бұрын
So true. I thought achieving my goals would make me happy. Finally achieving success and stability with wife,4kids. It has not. I still felt inadequate. Almost died 2years ago. Changed my attitude. Still not as happy as I would like...but everyday I try to see and appreciate what I have and be grateful. That keeps me going.
@SilverRAM77711 ай бұрын
I love every video from this channel, but this one here is easily my favorite!
@supra1jzed11 ай бұрын
My big mental check on myself when I am getting in those moods...when I get water from the fridge. As I watch my glass fill with pure, crystal clear, and near ice cold water I think to myself "There are literally millions of people in the world who don't even know what it's like to be able to do this whenever they want. They likely have never had ice cold and completely pure water before. They don't even know they want this ability......"
@sentientAl9 ай бұрын
Oh man, the man’s story was so tear inducing
@annadagrita11 ай бұрын
Wow, this is an amazing video, I really like this direction, You seem happy, doing this, I’m looking forward to more, It’s so valuable! I’ve been following You for years, this is such a nice direction! All the best! 🙏🏻✨🕊️
@protagoras991911 ай бұрын
Same feedback to share, great content, would love to see more going in this direction !
@Mb-vz3ze11 ай бұрын
For once I can say I watched a video I want to repeat watching every day. I feel this will help me, so thank you.
@kaybee936311 ай бұрын
I needed this today 🙏
@yon4k411 ай бұрын
there's a quote i heard somewhere. -we must not think in reverse, nor forward in fear but around us in awareness a quote that you should not think to mich about the oast since it has already happened
@NoFretBrettCSSMBFF11 ай бұрын
(Respond to my replies after you edit your comment, and I will (eventually) delete mine...
@athanp438411 ай бұрын
This is one of my favourite channels, and this might be my favourite video of yours so far. This is literally the first video I'm watching since finding out my grandmother died this morning. It really helped me. Thank you.
@brandonprather696711 ай бұрын
Just because other people have it “harder” than you doesn’t mean you can automatically stop caring about your own problems and be happy
@xFaelONE11 ай бұрын
I'm glad this video came to me, I needed to hear this.
@robertheuberger155611 ай бұрын
I work on reflecting on perceptions of gratefulness, but thank you so much for reminding me how to keep growing and spreading these concepts to others.
@gamergee8811 ай бұрын
Solid video here guy's. Stoicism has helped me deal with things and still does. This channel is one of my favourites.
@JakeRayTM11 ай бұрын
This is my favourite of your videos! I hope the youtube algorithm will be extra kind to this one.
@renalxdo11 ай бұрын
This video was really powerful
@dannysimenauer574511 ай бұрын
All most sane people need to be happy is Maslow's Hierarchy of needs. Then a strong family life. The rest is up to individual taste.
@richardgarrison832811 ай бұрын
It feels like this video came right when I needed it to. Thank you.
@PinacoladaMatthew11 ай бұрын
I don't want a BETTER romantic partner, I just need one
@12thMandalorian11 ай бұрын
Honestly what makes me happy is brightening someone’s day, no matter how small, I’ve made a positive impact on someone’s day
@Hunorion11 ай бұрын
I'm ashamed that I needed this, but I definitely needed this.
@ChutneyRomero11 ай бұрын
Shame is a self-judgement. You don't need that. Also, great news: we can watch this video as many times as we want! We all need reminders. I need this too. Thank you for being here. 🤝
@matijamilicevic109711 ай бұрын
These tips are great, but need to be followed up with action. Ask a friend you haven't talked to in some time out for a beer. And then do that every day. Talk to people and appreciate them!
@radfoo7211 ай бұрын
Comparison is a thief of joy!
@historiadox10 ай бұрын
Thank you for your work. For real. Can't find the exact words to show you my grattitude...
@Noir0rioN11 ай бұрын
Can we all just please agree that this video is BEAUTIFUL?!
@AdapterMangos11 ай бұрын
I have bought a copy of the Meditations of Marcus Aurelius on Kindle from Amazon. One day I intend to get round to reading it.
@richierxch495911 ай бұрын
It's 4 am and I stumbled across this video, or rather it is like it found me, and I am grateful because it is exactly what I needed. Thank you so much.
@Jordan-ii4ip3 ай бұрын
I'm so ashamed to admit how depressed and negative I am, when I live a very privileged life. I'm not rich, I'm not in a relationship, the world doesn't know my name, and none of that matters. Thank you God for where I'm at in life, for all of my blessings and for all of my struggles, in Jesus' name I pray, Amen.
@rachfan222811 ай бұрын
"negatively judging other people is a poison. Judgemental people don't know how to feel good about themselves, so they tear down other people in their minds to give themselves a temporary feeling of superiority." Damn
@user-hv8vq3ms1h11 ай бұрын
What do you think is the right way to deal with that friend in a friend group who is selfish and narcissistic but acts naive and innocent while using you.The problem is that you can't even distance yourself from him because everyone else in your friend group is so loving and kind and tolerates that person.
@MaarioTilico11 ай бұрын
The videos really helped me and keep helping me! So I'm grateful to you as well. Thank you!
@sayali15503 ай бұрын
I must say your channel is helping me to grow and so many people , God bless you..!
@Neamoun11 ай бұрын
My gosh, I have been struggling the last couple of weeks and I needed something like this!
@jacksampsonforever11 ай бұрын
I feel grateful for you,too
@marylebone446510 ай бұрын
7:20 I Thank You and the Algorithm for sending you to my YT Feed on the time I mostly need. ❤
@mindtheprivacy2 ай бұрын
Thank you. I was felling really bad about myself.
@sarasoueidan11 ай бұрын
This is honestly one of the best videos I've watched in a while and this is what I'm here on KZfaq for. Great work.
@mouvementebr357511 ай бұрын
THIS CHANNEL IS TRULY AMAZING
@banana740011 ай бұрын
I just had a thought, which is that we as humans are constantly moving towards the past, even though time only moves forward. You want to be rich in the future? You’re trying to recreate the feeling you had when you ate at a high end restaurant, or when you aim to escape poverty, you simply want to erase those feelings of hopelessness and despair. Past experiences define who we become in the future.
@Vclench11 ай бұрын
One of the best yet, and there's lots to look at
@kendomyers11 ай бұрын
I did grow up poor And I did go to culinary school, and am in the Army so I know what eating mud in the field is like One thing I learned is not to lose my wonder and enjoyment of things I like I like the salad I make myself every day I like the eggs I cook for myself I like sharing oat meal with my son
@lastcorner283511 ай бұрын
“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.”
@puffsleeveskindagirl11 ай бұрын
Guys, you simply SMASHED it on this video! I've been a subscriber for many years now and you guys keeping getting better!
@PhilaurusRex11 ай бұрын
Great video, exactly what I need right now
@ashish_sunny11 ай бұрын
This was a well thought out, brilliant video. Thank you so much for this. Will watch this again from time to time! 🙏🏻
@moalston42032 күн бұрын
3:40-Happiness is a state of mind
@Martyn_Wolf11 ай бұрын
Take an inventory of what you see as luxury (we each have our own definition) Once you've had that list. Go and find out how much each thing costs. Somethings will cost monthly and others won't. Then add them all up and you'll have your total amount of how much your personal luxury life may come to. You'll quickly see that luxury isn't always massively expensive stuff.
@Hesnotoneofus11 ай бұрын
Waking up is amazing, so glad you are spruiking it. High quality non of the supernatural nonsense
@diogocosta270111 ай бұрын
Amazing video . Thanks man ❤
@cryingpsycho11 ай бұрын
Hey this video didn't end with an ad for your course! Great
@rsswng11 ай бұрын
Beautiful video, if everyone on this planet truly understood this, it would be a huge benefit for humanity