Amen!

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Amen!!👍

Going through this right now and we attend the same church!! I can't stand to look at his lying face!!!😡

Amen!!

So true

Facts

They can break you . People like this are the most selfish and selfless characters I've ever seen.

Very true

So absolutely true.. I found out they will just subtract from you and feel as if they can do anything to you

This is the most important thing that's rarely stressed enough.

Yep! Fell for that with this last dude I just left. Thought he’d be everything my ex husband wasn’t, righteous, successful, brilliant,... he was for a while but then began to fall off. Soon I learned he was fronting just like my divorcée did. I now know and understand the lengths a man will go to to get a woman in the sheets that he wants to keep and mold and thinks he can mold to his will through sex and a forked tongue. I don’t intend to allow that to ever happen again.

Just interested in finding myself not looking for no one

This video was for me. Thank you.

@@AchAchoti347 I'm going through a similar experience, its the thought and willpower to cut the ties that's so hard. Mine is deferred hope, I invested my heart and hopes. Now I know if I continue on, its going to get very painful for me.

Me too ❤

Me too

🙏

Plz help me to forget her

That's what I'll do! Call out his name 🙏🏼

This brought tears to my eyes. I will do this for myself as I am worth what He says I am, I am who He says I am.

Yes. This statement was golden!!!

📝💜

AMEN SO VERY TRUE

Correct is Right

I know 😢we'll get past this.

Amen

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God is strengthening us

I understand! I would not call him a bum, but instead blame myself for the choice that I made. Now, I have to scrape up my broken pieces and get my life straight with GOD

**that GOD has not sent! Amen

That’s true. 💯

That's what I experienced!! Until decided to not let that man think he's my god

I'm on this same journey and this video gave me everything I need to breakaway and cut this ungodly soul tie. The one thing that hit me the most was when R.C. Blakes mentioned we need to choose our pain. Just think do you want to go through pain wasting your life on something God never gave you OR having the pain of cutting ties with the individual for a little while and heal very soon and also getting healthier and better ? I never thought of it that way so I chose to have temporary pain in order to be where God wants to be. To remove everything from my life that's stopping me from reaching my highest potential and eventually being with the kingdom mate God has for me.❤️❤️

Thank you Pastor ! I listen to your messages daily ! They bless me so much 🥰💐💝💫

If it was a long relationship, it really takes time to heal. You are so joined to them in your everyday life and activities. It's a large void. You have to get through and get past the pain of that. You also need to forgive. To release them as a weak man (or woman) who does weak and hurtful things. Hold them accountable, count the cost, be very aware of how they hurt and could hurt you again, but let the Holy Spirit really set you free w/ forgiveness. Then the enemy has no legal recourse to your soul to afflict you any more. Holding grudges and going over all the hurts keeps you prisoner. When the thoughts come back to haunt me, I speak forgiveness to them. There's still some pain, the void is closing 3 and a half months out. I've given up on him changing and even if he ever did, there's no way I'd take a chance.

Yeah you think that and then you watch this video and realize no I'm not

It takes time and prayers 😢real talk 🙏💜

Ain't that the truth! Never again🤦

I never will run or chase behind anyone or thing just pray for their happiness what ever makes them happy.

Message

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Real talk ❤

Wow,so true!

Amen, may the Good Lord Bless and keep you.

@Indiangirl I'm watching this is '23 I am SOO happy to have this feed came across my app just recently. Indiangirl may God Forever and ever bless you with all spiritual blessings filled with insight and a yearning to know God more. I'm heading into quarantine having battle a few years huge setback so now I'm going to run for me life!!! Be encouraged. Indiangirl keep your hands in God's hands.

Haleluyaaa U can accept Jesus Christ too

This is how it is... Everyone thinks their religion is right. All religions are right in their own way. God is God and nothing else is God. You never had to go to a preacher, a guru, a rabbi, or a middle man, you just need to go straight to God, and by the way, He never left you, He has been with you the whole time.

@@elainejones4861I didn’t get notifications previously and just seen the likes and comments I’m reading on the back of my comment. 🙈. May god always bless you and protect you, stay blessed ❤

Lol 😂

@@jaywills4334 In

Today Jan 12th 2021 God helped me again see the path ahead of me thank you God

Yes absolutely I was 🤣 no more

Yes you are very rite

Good for you!!! Amen! Thanks for sharing we need to hear this.

THATS GREAT! How did you push through without going backwards

Our Most Beautiful, Loving Lord Father God is very good! Thank you Most Beautiful, Loving King Jesus!!!! Amen

Amen

Amen !!! So many in the church stay with that toxic stuff

God is with you! Keep moving forward in Gods love!❤

I wish you many blessings! Hope you are well.

Me too...may the Spirit of God Guide us in Jesus Name

♥️🙏🏾

God bless you 🙏💓

@@birungiliz5550 thank you so much, I just don't have a place to live now

Absolutely sister....where were our teaches, I am nearly 60 and things had only gotten worse, years of abuse. He said he would kill me if I left and then he tried because I was dying, physically, emotionally spiritually,I was so numb. Hope, for change was always there...

Amen. Sister & brother💙

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Yes 2-16-24 Amen

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Same here god has plans fa me 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

me too

I hear you

Crying right along with you sister

He sure did 🙏🏾

For such a time as this ...our vision supersedes that nonsense.

Don't ever forget GOD IS OUR FATHER!! Pastor RC Blakes is an instrument and messenger

Think like a man. Talk like a man. He is a god messenger. Thank you, Rc Blake's

@Fee none of us ever do 🙏🏾

Neither did I. Sometimes I find myself crying in MY SLEEP. I just can't escape this pain.

Me either people are past evil.

Me neither xxxx

You must get out of your flesh to overcome the pain. You need to come to the realization that you deserve better than this situation. When you began to believe you truly deserve better you will begin to feel better. Don't focus on time lost, you can't get it back. You are only adding to the time lost by continuing to focus on it.

Yes and fasting is not ALWAYS food!!!!

@@kizzyrock aa

Thank you Post or been looking this been trying on my own blessimgs

Im so ready for fasting and praying.against it all; soul ties. Heart ache, Heart break, Any. And every memory, any longing for him at all. Let the healing begin

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So true been trying for 5 years

Help me lord

It really does

Not me. I'm not stinging now. Thanks to Pastor RC Blakes sent from God!

Ne too…

For the past one week, looking for this vedios like there's no tomorrow,I have been saved in the name of God.

Me too

Stay strong baby ..leave room for the right oneee

Poisoning myself for a bottom feeder to continue to lie to my Face. You said this so eloquent. You are so so Right. I stopped doing this and am now seeking The Lord diligently.

This is me too😢

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

Speak

@@nicolegodspower5018 🙏👑

That's it. I've been told by men 'I'm busy'. Making me feel like I'm asking to much. Being intimate and chase you in the beginning is no problem for them. After that the withdrawal and distant attitudes begin Eten you express feelings like explaining hurt, they don't give you affirmation. No, they guilt trip that you are not being reasonable and have to accept what you are getting from them They will act like the victim to busy to send you one little message. No thoughtfulness. Silence Very painful. I'm alone for many years now though relatively young and I decided to to never accept emotional manipulative or immature men. I registered on a dating site bc I was fed up with letting faith rule bc I realised I have to create my own life taking charge. Well.... A man approached me. Seemed like a gentle man and in a way he acted like it but after our first meeting silence began. Heartache started. I fought to not let him know but yesterday I told him how I felt and asking for clarity. Reaction: busy with work and children (from past relationship) talk to you soon. That's it. I sent a thumbs up and I will move on. I feel broken because at first you feel happy... Like finally you meet someone you feel good energy with Confusing part, I felt positive energy and u smiled everytime we video called. My smile felt devine. Now my heart is aching physically for two days. I let go. My heart feels broken. I've been put aside like a radio you switch on and off by some men before so it's hard to discern where my own wounds begin and poor treatment of this man starts. I promised myself that I would never bow down for manipulation or less than I deserve.. It was not about sex with this new man, I'm sure of this but I told him he acts like a little boy wanting to get his way and he admitted he can be like that. Anyway I'm going to restore myself rebuild myself again. This man says things like God bless etc. But a manipulator once called himself a healer but mentally pushed me into doing things crossing my boundaries, calling it prayer. I don't know why but I feel like blowing on my letters while typing. Maybe it's the cleaning wind of God blowing over my life. I'm very sensitive to energies and hidden emotions from my environment so I need to go back to my core where it's me leading. Not behaviors from others/a man. But my heart says:. I love him. What if its our human love we automatically give out to people, including a man who will take our devine nature to love into a prison cell with toxicity and getting nothing in return, while our love in itself was from God in us but misformed by a lower level. Just typing what comes up. This man said to me: You have to look for someone with similar goals like building a life together or having children. He was at least honest saying he is not a homely man but at the same time he held me, held my hand. The hardest part to accept for myself is realising that I felt insecure with this man while I am normally, essentially a strong confident person. It's very true that many men push your physical boundary subtle or openly, rude. Discussions I had to explain to men I'm not having unsafe sex and I only make love not sex. The moment they oppose your truth, boundaries, concerns and values it's bad news. In know it all rationally and I always speak up but they can be so good at dominating a conversation to shut you up. Making you responsible for their needs but when you have an emotional human need they we will not feel responsible for yours........ They will tell you be happy don't worry. The superficial positivity from a narcissist. Their is no deeper connection with these characters. A new day to heal my wounds. I have to keep thinking like a soldier but I also feel a little girl in me who is craving to be hugged and consoled by male arms. This is the deepest root of my pain. Bless your all. I hope God is real I walked with Him but bc of all research about narcissism I also started to doubt if Christian faith was also a fairytale made up by narcissists to control me. But I always felt good about God knowing He is not religion. He is my creator my Friend My Man, My best respectful company. God I miss you hold me in Your arms please.

@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 First you have to cut all contact with this guy, clearly he was playing your heart and mind to get to your body. After he received what he wanted he fed you excuses, there's no honesty in him in regards to you. Second, the heart can be deceptive, your love was or is one-sided, he doesn't feel the same, it was never in him to love you. Listen to God from here on out, not your thoughts or heart. Third, please heal before involving yourself with someone else. Let this pain become purpose and a message to other women who may be experiencing a similar situation. Our messes are messages and the purpose is greater than us. Keep trusting God and protect your temple/body, your husband alone deserves access when that time comes. I'm praying for your Peace of mind of peace.

Me too 1/22/2022

Yessssss sister

Amen!

Me too sister. God bless you! ❤️🙏

I’m coming higher than thou cus I’m on the other side. 2 yrs after 10. So I really hope y’all delivert. It feels so good on this side

I absolutely can relate with you. You have to know your worth and value your life, your emotions, your heart etc and Go free to welcome in what God has for you. 🌸🌷🌼🌺

Hello Sasha. I'm so happy for you

I’m with you… ready to let go of foolishness. 1 yr of pure wasted time. Hope you’re still look forward because what for us will never be behind us.

Praise God! Any update on this?

That’s so encouraging. I divorced a narcissist after 15 years with 4 kids . 2 years later I remarried he seemed like a dream guy but as soon as we married he stoped . I’m exhausted because he neglects everything from paying bills to wanting to make me happy and I feel so hopeless.I’m very tired please pray for me that God helps me to leave . I can’t go on sobbing my bed with tears , and hoping he will change . Blessings

Same here. I just had to cut loose a 17 year toxic relationship yesterday and this video showed up today for me!

Amen

What if u have kids by him

Me too, one week in time, tonight i seperated from my bf....i loved him dearly, but a part of me pushed me to end it for many factors. I wish him the best...

@@lolaispure4296 be the queen u deserve better!💕

@@bessk8847 thank you my dear❤

Awesome!!!❤🙏❤

The mask falls off and you see the depth of the darkness of the narc and there is no returning to who they pretended to be.

God will bring you out and will find your true identity in him🤗 I am a living testimony. He brought me and direct me to RC Blakes just surfing on KZfaq one early early morning..

Same here. So many lies, betrayal, emotional abuse, stress and over 3 years of litigious divorce with 2 minors involved. It’s so hard to forgive and let it go, but if we don’t shift our minds into a spiritual direction we will end up poisoning ourselves.

Same here after 18 years, I dumped him yesterday.

Thanks for sharing your story. It has opened my eyes to keep pushing and never give up. You are a strong women and I know that God will send the right person to you and give you double for your trouble.

No you were not the only one-30 years...

Amen and AMEN!!💜

Yes!!

Amen! 🙏

0H

Adding to my first reply- What you said is so profound. It cannot be said any better when the Holy Spirit is at the forefront of our spirit and in our mind. Heart too. Which is why I pray every morning for the Holy Spirit to speak for me and not me for me throughout my day. God. bless you, Tina

I join you say Amen. I am not ready for year 14..All signs are clear he ain't committed or willing to change

Thank you JESUS ❣️

I am ready for the stronghold to end my sisters . Please pray for me🙏🏼

@@mijuajua4820 I pray for u as well as myself . . Because I'm tired of being done!

Amen 🙏🏽

Exactly! There were some great qualities about my person but such qualities should not have superceded the fact that he had huge red flags - the kind of big red flags that turned me off. And yet, I was just so attached and addicted to this person that I was obsessively thinking about him all the time.

Going through the same. Try to stay busy then out of the blue I want to cry. He treated me like dirt. God will get us through it!

​@@valwalker9606same traumatizing😭😭💔💔💔

You said it! Why do I give my sacred body to a man who repulsed me? No more...I don't have to give him my body or my time any more. We both must heal or we'll die never having become an adult.

​@kellyh5250 I'm a week out of a 14-year relationship. We had great memories and good chemistry. I really thought he was my soul mate until on April fools day last year I over heard him and a female kissing. The conversation was caught on his Google watch. That was the first time I had ever thought about him creeping. He was clearly drunk but no excuse. Ever since that day I've been looking at him sideways. I became paranoid about everything. Anger sat in but I never stopped seeing him and things were never right for us. The disappointment for me was unbearable and I was angry at myself for staying. I thought after that incident he'd work hard to make me happier. SIKE, he wanted more sex and more sex. It was ridiculous. I mean every time he saw me he wanted sex. I started feeling like I was here for his pleasure and my emotional needs were not being met. He pretended to understand and made a bunch of promises he never kept. That added to my frustration. The blow up came when I tried to have an adult conversation with him and he started gaslighting me. Things got really ugly and I blocked his number. I couldn't read another disrespectful message. I texted him the other day, silence. .I'm not surprised because he probably blocked me or his just ignoring me. I'm praying that demon away. I really started to dislike his controlling ways.This video will be in my ear several times daily ❤

That’s me right now

I'm understanding that my hope must be in Christ Jesus...not in a clown.

Same here Stephanie Avila ...

Mine has been waiting 17yrs... guess it's time to stop waiting.

This message was for me😔 I'm going true this situation right now🙁Thank you🙏

Amen

AMEN!!

Amen

I join you and free myself by the end of this Year. I can't continue to live like this.

Me too🥺🙇🏻‍♀️

Thank you for encouraging words

We were lead here now because the Holy Spirit is working now. Embrace the peace and happiness he bestows. My prayers for you 🙏❤️💪🏻👑

I'm standing with you, holding space, and ending this for good for my self.

Blakes is going off. I can't stop laughing. He's so right though.

So did I...😔 I finally opened my eyes to Gods signs.... 🙏💕💯💯💯💯

So did I. He was speaking to me and I ignored him. Not anymore.

Praying that things are working out well for you. God bless you give you comfort and strength on your journey...beauty for ashes! 💛

@cherryelisa I've got to do the same. I have all his clothes and shoes in my house and it's so much stuff . Either he takes them or I give them away. When I left the house we lived in together "I carried him" with me to my new place, my own space. Why did I do that!

Ridding yourself of those things don’t help, because they can be replaced. You need to get to a place in your life where you are real with yourself. Make up your mind to leave him alone, and stick with it no matter what. Until you make up your mind, you will keep doing it,

Yes Emily cry, scream, get it all out. I cried, I wrote a letter to myself about what I had dealt with. It's not easy. Just take one day at a time. It's been 6 months now and I feel great. I've started setting goals for myself that I wanna accomplish. I go out to lunch and dinner with friends and family. I'm out of the dating game period. I'm reading self affirmation book for black women. I'm just looking at life differently now.

Crying with you. 😢

Same, girl And I get emotional again and cry reading these comments. Glory to God!!!

@@renec.4803same

Me too!

Me too

Yessss me too

Amen

I have been dealing with this for the past 2 years. Broke up with my ex/ son father but I have a lot of anger towards him from all his broken promises

I hope your in a better place Rhonda.

I also pray for u Ronda that God has given u strength to push forward

Father in Christ name you Are great and the all seeing only God , who hears the prayers of the Children who call on your name Your promises are a sure thing, you are not a man That you should lie, so thank you Father in Jesus name for helping this woman your child get knowledge and understanding , and your Help in this hurtful situation with her husband. Come Father With your Devine presence to tell her to pray and stand still and watch the work of your hand in all this. Comfort her children.

Prayers 🙏

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There are no age limit to a soul tie just deep sexual feelings.

I wasted a decade and I'm trying to get my life back!

So glad to know you're doing better

Invisible abuse leave invisible scars

I also had hope he claimed that we were getting married😢

This is me but I’m getting free today. Let me Hope in God. Not this ungodly soul tie.

We often like to call it, "Potential".

@@truth-is-light1994 Exactly this! I'm so guilty of falling in love with the 'potential' rather than the person he really is.

I wish I can be 21 again and know all of this

Yes,. Just wait on the one that God have for YOU. The story that I can tell you about my life. I wish that I had waited.

Oh Sweetheart You have no idea! Imagine going thriufh many soul ties. Us promiscuous in our pasts were/are heavily demonized needing so much spiritual work. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy!

Pleasseee do wait! God will guide you to the one!

Same here.

I'm 66 yrs old I've never loved anyone this deep if he would see what I see and break those soul ties God would save him or Lord Lord he's searching for almost 8 yrs Ive watched him grow but he don't see the soul ties I saw tonight I much get Free of it all as there is no future as long as these low beings are centring him yet I must let God to continue to minister to him as I cannot go back ever until both our souls are free from those deep he'll spirits that where tiring us together he has a heart of gold but his past and generational curse are following him he too must see it and break loose his scars are so deep from his very early life of sexual abuse that is tormenting him night and day I must keep praying for God to set his soul free too

61 yrs old. God removed him from me many times before, but I always went back. 23 1/2 yrs of Soul Ties, cheating, lies, manipulation. This is hard, possibly the hardest loss I've ever endured. Lord empty my heart of him, free my mind from all thoughts of him. Help me father to break the chain of trying to comprehend the reason he kept giving me false hope. Father, I need you always, but especially now more than ever🙏🏻

I am barely listening to it as well. This man is a God sent! Stay strong 👸

I am with you. Just saw this. Been out of my soul tie relationship about seven months. Really shocking and never been involved with a narcissist. He won't happen again. Stay prayed up😇

Wow, It's 6am I been going through with a man whom I am sick & tired of going through with him, I want God to give me directions towards taking the steps towards removing this person out of my life, and work on getting my daughter, grd.kids, relationship back together , I rather be with my family nonsense than an outsider foolishness, this person has no heart just good at pretending, I open my door up to help him, and have regretted every since, I want to get my peace & happiness back by getting this person out of my place & my life for good. Thank you pastor for this word

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️..Pray and Allow your Heart to break.. Been there! The mind is a Battlefield.. Allow your heart to break and miss him. Don’t give in to the temptation and his lies, they only change temporarily to get you back.

@@louloring5306 thank you for your encouraging words blessings to you

Mines to honey but when I tell you my year is not ending like this nor beginning a new year with the BS... that’s what I mean! It’s not worth it your sanity and energy.

@@ntrvlogs2904 yes !.. I got to leave this situation put it behind me cause I’m loosing myself 2021 cutting all of it out I’m choosing my pain for once in my life

If you don’t have to wait don’t wait til 2021 . The sooner the better .

Jesus 🙌🏼

Very true.

I'm sorry my dear. I truly understand your pain and I appreciate your honesty. Blessings on you as you move forward to a new beginning

HONEY I TRULY UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN, BECAUSE I BEEN THERE.I DON'T KNOW IF YOU OWN YOUR HOME LIKE I DO, BECAUSE IF YOU OWN YOUR HOME MANY MEN WILL USE THAT AND PRAY ON YOU R VULNERABILITY AND THE LONGER YOU LET HIM STAY THE HARDER IT WILL GET .YOU ARE SOMEBODY DON'T LET NO MAN DISRESPECT YOU GOD HAS BETTER FOR YOU. I AM WAITING FOR MINE

Baay Matt, I too can identify. In a relationship 22 years come January 29. No marriage, no kids together (I have 2 from a previous marriage, he has non), I'm now 51, he's 48 and saying there is no NEED to rush into marriage, cause he's only planning on getting married once. I own my own home and he lives there. We've been living together for 21 years. So, I can definitely relate. Since November I've asked him to use the guest room for sleeping but we share the rest of the house and the responsibilities. I'm TIRED of being companion and house mate. Obviously he does not want to commit to marriage with ME... yet wants the sexual benefits and the accommodation. Sigh!

@@angelgray1089 kick him out! If he only wants to get married once, its clearly not to you. Rejection is God's protection,. Please kick that man to the curb and never look back. He's using you, they take what we give and do what we allow. You deserve better, please get rid off him. Good riddance to people like him.

I figuring all this out late in life too!

I'm with you. 50 and finally figuring it out.

You still young! Leaning is continuous for life. Better late than never. Keep going!

Same here 50 and 10 years later with a man that never proposed to me and things are so toxic and I’m torn to chose between him n some family members

Me too

Sis, this is my first time listening to this man of God and I have been married for 20 years this past October and my marriage is Hell for me and we have 4 beautiful kids and after hearing his message I was so inspired to hear what I have been thinking but not for sure If I was in Gods will because it is a marriage and I thought let me look down in the messages just to see if it’s another person like me or is this mainly for single people and I saw your message looking like what I was thinking so thx for sharing and I pray your life now is filled with the spirit of God.

Amen

LaTonya, honey I completely understand. My husband and I met when I was 17. We married when I was 20, and after years of broken promises (hope deferred) and affairs, I left 4 days before our 19th weddin anniversary. It hurt like HELL! You here me? But, I knew THAT night that if I didn't leave, I would end up in jail for 25 to life.

@@mz.qleanne1132 you know what sis, you are so right in your decision and I have thought about things like that as well but definitely was like he isn’t even worth me loosing my kids over but because he did change for the most part but still we have not reconnected as husband and wife and I don’t know if it’s because of me holding on to the hurt and never really healing and loosing trust or what. But praise God you are free

Can I ask for an update with you ladies @ all. Its been 19 years, 2 kids including an 8 month baby. I am broken, beyond recognition.

Yes, you WILL

True