How To Look Charming When You're Socially Anxious

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No matter who you are, we’ve all been nervous before. And sometimes your nervousness can get in the way of making a good impression or connecting with someone you like.
But being nervous doesn’t have to ruin an interaction. There are ways to be incredibly charismatic, even if you’re nervous. That’s what we’ll be learning in today’s video on Tom Hiddleston.
Now I’m not saying Tom is always nervous, but he’s a great person to learn this from. He’s incredibly likeable despite showing some telltale signs of nervousness in interviews. Like filler words, fidgeting, and blushing.
Despite those habits, Tom is considered extremely charismatic, humble, and charming.
So in this video we’ll break down 5 easy tricks you can learn from Tom to come off as charismatic even when you’re nervous.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:00 - Intro
1:16 - #1: Anchor a positive first impression
2:13 - #2: Use a one second cliffhanger pause
4:05 - #3: Keep your voice confident using pace and timbre
4:55 - #4: Fully commit
7:27 - #5: Focus on having fun rather than looking cool
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@LivingALifeOfAbundance 3 жыл бұрын

Confidence is not walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, its walking into a room not comparing yourself to anyone at all.

@SnoozeTheRecluse 3 жыл бұрын

This dude is everywhere

@cnh1710 3 жыл бұрын

Hell yeah.....

@msmiami212 3 жыл бұрын

Easy enough to start out the night like that, but over time your social groups will naturally encourage competition however playful

@RyRobio 3 жыл бұрын

hardcore facts. Being prideful won't get anyone anywhere

@allsoover 3 жыл бұрын

yes

@nashnair498 3 жыл бұрын

Upper-class British accent does 50% of the job.

@LoyaFrostwind 2 жыл бұрын

AND he’s highly intelligent. Smart and humble. 😻and British.

@mwatson5702 2 жыл бұрын

It’s called well spoken. It not just the upper class that are well spoken.

@nashnair498 2 жыл бұрын

@@mwatson5702 Lol no 🤣 . The video is specifically about how to be charming when you're NOT at your oratorical best. A practiced and polished accent(like Tom's British RP, which is often learned rather than picked up), certainly helps. Why be in denial about it?

@danivasquez1984 2 жыл бұрын

@@nashnair498 What is RP?

@nashnair498 2 жыл бұрын

@@danivasquez1984 Received Pronunciation. The polished accent otherwise called Queen's English or Oxford English. Used by most English newsreaders, actors and debaters. Often cultivated in good schools, distinctly different from local British accents like Cockney, Liverpool, Northern etc.

@emm1h 3 жыл бұрын

One thing I've learned from following Tom Hiddleston is to not be afraid of wearing your heart on your sleeve. Basically a fancier way to say be real and genuine even if it means you might look like a dork in some situations :D

@cuca_ 2 жыл бұрын

Love that :)

@alyssapinon9670 2 жыл бұрын

Hey dorks are attractive to me for that very reason

@kristinewalberg2938 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! My voice teacher used to tell me to "sing like no one's watching," and my acting teachers motto was "reckless abandon!" Letting go of fears and "shoulds" and "what if they laughs?" is not only immensely freeing and good for out mental health, it makes us more attractive to the kind of people who'll be true friends and positive influences in our lives.

@ItsMeJessieAndArii 2 жыл бұрын

@@kristinewalberg2938 I loved choir. I had these same ideals as well and it really made my choir group feel like a family. We weren’t singing for them, we were singing for us

@chronustime 2 жыл бұрын

help, what does that mean. i dont understand the metaphor. :(

@spaghhetti8093 3 жыл бұрын

1. Make a good first impression 2. Use a 1 second cliffhanger pause 3. Keep your voice confident using pace 4. Commitment 5. Find humor in your embarrassment

@HeritageDrPepper 2 жыл бұрын

Not to bring your comment down but this is also in the videos' description with timestamps. :)

@Liwet. 2 жыл бұрын

@@HeritageDrPepper Some people don't read video descriptions, just the title and the comments.

@MrGW2fanboy Жыл бұрын

Forgot the 'Be attractive' step somewhere near the top

@meleardil Жыл бұрын

@@MrGW2fanboy Yeah... when the "to be impressed" person looks at you as if you were something disgusting which was stepped on, and dont really know how to wipe it from the shoe... No rules will help.

@leonvanveen1077 3 жыл бұрын

"This ability to laugh where others get defensive is basically a charisma superpower" this is so true, because it shows you are not bothered by the embarassment, you embrace it instead

@pcharm3711 2 жыл бұрын

I gotta practice my fake laugh 😅

@maryhasaballa4052 2 жыл бұрын

As a kid, I used to practice this behavior frequently. Back then, I realized that you can't stop people from embarrassing you so just deal with it graciously. Besides, sometimes they expect a specific, angry reaction, so if you give them that, then you are giving them power in a sense. I was seen as "aloof" but was much happier then. However, over the years, it became a bit fuzzy to discern someone poking "innocent" fun from being subtly disrespectful. Now, I just feel enormously bitter most of the time. This video reminds me to just put more effort into practicing this mindset again.

@kristinewalberg2938 2 жыл бұрын

@@pcharm3711 But won't others recognize your fake laugh as fake, which might then make you seem less attractive and charming? Maybe it's better to cultivate a sense of humor and genuine interest in others?

@yutisima 2 жыл бұрын

@@kristinewalberg2938 depends. fake laughs can sound pretty genuine, even as thevinternet doesn't want you to think that. the truth is you've heard fake laughs that you thought were real, but will never know they weren't

@guywhosaysbruh8636 10 ай бұрын

@@yutisima Welcome back to 2 years ago

@Newidhan 3 жыл бұрын

The avoiding ummm thing is a standard thing you learn in theater and drama studies, so it's not a surprise a graduate of the Royal Academy of Dramatic Art will not be suffering from this lil behavior tick

@piriyaj1347 3 жыл бұрын

In Tom’s case, it’s even better to appear a little bit shy or nervous. A very rich famous handsome man has the risks of being deemed as cocky loud and overly confident in themselves, so this absolves him of those biases by dampening him down to look sweet and humble ‘like normal folks’. This might not easily work with lesser men though. Might look uninteresting or pathetic I think, and there’s no guarantee people will patiently wait for your awkward pauses like they will for Tom. For most men, confident humor and fun personality should work better because they will be the main thing shining in compensation to their looks/status. So assess yourself before choosing strategies.

@simranbansal9303 3 жыл бұрын

What you're saying is completely true in most situations and applies more to the, general way of living. But the thing is, even if you do not earn so much as Tom Hiddleston you still can demand respect when you walk into a room. Your earnings do not define you (in some situations if you're confident enough) and even after being a low paid person, you can DEMAND the respect you deserve. It is more about your demeanour and the way you talk/behave. But again, if you have such a confident aura that even after being low on what the world counts as a measure of success, you can demand such respect, I highly doubt you'd be that nervous. So you're right there in what you're saying. But still, it's alright for people who don't earn enough to be nervous and still be charismatic.

@Clownboy15 3 жыл бұрын

And Tom is a genuinely compassionate and kind person. There was some awards show where he got interviewed on the red carpet and apparently it was rather chilly. The reporter interviewing him was wearing an evening gown but it was obvious she was freezing. So Tom offered his jacket and after the interview was over, he walked away letting her keep the jacket to stay warm.

@nightmeds3339 2 жыл бұрын

@@Clownboy15 that shows he’s got the money to be leaving red carpet jackets to total strangers. it’s very humbling, I still admit.

@mairbear2336 2 жыл бұрын

He’s an typical infp… very caring and shy as hell lmao

@fighterflight 2 жыл бұрын

Human nature is human nature, regardless of being a celebrity the people he’s talking to are also celebrities. I doubt they’re giving him special deference as a rich famous handsome guy. That describes half of Hollywood.

@livewireOrourke 3 жыл бұрын

"KZfaq is strange about copyright." KZfaq is strange about a lot of things.

@MrDemodamian 3 жыл бұрын

WTF oh good god I thought it was joke when i first heard about it.......this has gone absolutely beyond stupidity...what's the deal at the end of the day...

@Clownboy15 3 жыл бұрын

Many years ago, back when I used to do AMVs, I had my first channel struck with copyright claims. I think this was because my AMVs started going viral. But I didn’t want to lose my channel, so I stopped posting them there. Then one day I uploaded a very cute video of my, at that time, five year old niece doing a “magic trick” at a restaurant. They had these HUGE cloth napkins so she held one up in front of her legs, raised the napkin up to reveal one of her legs were missing. Then she repeated with the other leg. I, as a professional clown, was very proud of her goofiness! I uploaded the video but BECAUSE OF THE MUSIC PLAYING IN THE RESTAURANT… my channel got shut down.

@user-fn1nt1su5m 3 жыл бұрын

tom hiddleston is so attractive ugh

@michalurbanful 2 жыл бұрын

Attractive ugh? :D

@-.Outlaw.- 2 жыл бұрын

Shut up 😂

@kaleycooper9111 2 жыл бұрын

I couldn’t agree more, unlike my family. We have a habit of watching movies and shows together, even Anime, and it just so happens that the other day we were watching the Loki series when my father turned to me and said “Wait, how old is Loki’s actor?” I just said “He’s 40.” He made this shocked face and said under his breath “he looks really old.” To say I was appalled is an understatement. Tom does NOT look older than 40 😂

@ZyliceLiddell 3 ай бұрын

@@kaleycooper9111My mother thinks he’s 46.

@alexiahetka 3 жыл бұрын

I still remember to this day seeing the Hiddles-fever on Tumblr around 2012 and not understanding what all the fuzz was about, but then I started watching his interviews and completely fell in love lol

@aramis5301 3 жыл бұрын

I agree. I always found him handsome, but just by looking at pictures, you cannot truly appreciate his beauty. I think that part of his attractiveness is also in his expressions (he's got a great bone structure and everything, but it's only when you see him in movement that you really see how attractive he is). Of course, his voice is also wonderful, so that's another thing you cannot see in pictures...

@fire3986 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I remember thinking he was good looking, but not attractive as people say, but after watching his interviews I understand why so many people love him. The way he talks, his expressions, his manners, everything makes him so attractive. It's rare to see people like him now days.

@alyssapinon9670 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I’ve always admired Tom as an actor and thought he was handsome and a good person. But I only became a full on hiddlestoner as of recently after watching more of his interviews. Makes me wish I had seen them earlier so I could have fangirled over him for longer. God such a kind, charming, humble, intelligent man

@alyssapinon9670 2 жыл бұрын

@@fire3986 People always joke that he’s a man written by a woman and I now see it. He’s a real life Disney prince or a love interest from a Jane Austen novel

@SACKTV-VIJAYA 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, if you see all his interviews you will be obsessed by his charismatic personality forever. You can never ever overcome his spell.

@crywolf07 3 жыл бұрын

i'm a simple person, i see tom - i click

@Melospizia 2 жыл бұрын

How to be charismatic: 1. Be Tom Hiddleston

@morgiri9512 2 жыл бұрын

I have a crush 💕 on him when I first saw him in first avengers

@lowkeyzut 3 жыл бұрын

For four years I had been waiting for you to make a video about Tom Hiddleston. Well done, as expected of you guys. Keep it up!

@aletiscareno57 3 жыл бұрын

@mishan3150 2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@lea666nevermore 2 жыл бұрын

I love him

@mishan3150 2 жыл бұрын

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 every single month I should like your comment Well said!👌

@ruthm.9798 3 жыл бұрын

Im a simple woman, I see Tom Hiddleston, I click.

@MooniFrog 3 жыл бұрын

Same 🙏

@eshitarezakhan6901 2 жыл бұрын

He is just kind, wise, honest and full of integrity. That's what makes him charismatic.

@user-uw6wc3uh9c 3 жыл бұрын

Be who you want to see, genuine and kind - in a world needing it so greatly.

@AxxLAfriku 3 жыл бұрын

One thing! Just one thing! Please tell IT to me: WHY tf do I have so many fans even though no KZfaqr is unprettier than I am? WORLDWIDE!!!! WHY??? Tell me, dear d

@user-uw6wc3uh9c 3 жыл бұрын

@@AxxLAfriku I'm not sure what you're trying to say

@BlastKetchup 3 жыл бұрын

@@user-uw6wc3uh9c I think he's saying "he's all that'' even tho he's playing it off as if it's a bad/weird thing to have a bunch of subs, when in actuality he's promoting his channel here

@user-uw6wc3uh9c 3 жыл бұрын

@@BlastKetchup ahh, haha - thank you :)

@FlowMo 3 жыл бұрын

@@AxxLAfriku 899o99

@lauren3177 3 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad you finally made a video about Tom. He’s the definition of charming and intelligent

@Gaurav569SinghOfficial 2 жыл бұрын

Idea is to be deep in your conversation, not shallow (Take a step back and try to think hidden motive if any)

@mocotojam6767 2 жыл бұрын

And not only that, he is respected because he is also very kind and forthcoming.

@maryjane8577 3 жыл бұрын

Tom hiddleston would cure my anxiety

@tenact9332 3 жыл бұрын

Got a date tomorrow this could not be more clutch 😂😂 Edit: THANKS SO MUCH for the amazing messages guys!! It was INCREDIBLE!! We spent the whole day together and made a really strong connection, I’m seeing her again this week!! (The LAST tip is the most important imo..) 😁

@ChroniclesOfCallum 3 жыл бұрын

Good luck!

@tenact9332 3 жыл бұрын

@@ChroniclesOfCallum Thanks so much man, that means a lot!! Will update you 😂😂

@joshuasolanke7265 3 жыл бұрын

Good luck dude 👍

@chitranshtomar5928 3 жыл бұрын

Lucky you!

@ForteExpresso 3 жыл бұрын

@alyssapinon9670 2 жыл бұрын

I always have a really big, goofy smile whenever I see Tom and not just because he’s cute. His charm is just infectious where you can’t help but feel happy and relaxed watching him. Even his nervousness is endearing.

@cosmicmuse2900 2 жыл бұрын

Y'all thinking Tom is nervous but that's just a part of his charm. He's not always nervous when he's fidgety or blushing. Some people have those qualities as standards personality querks.

@escott1981 2 жыл бұрын

Sooo.... basically do the exact opposite of everything that comes naturally when you are nervous but at the same time don't forget to be yourself and act naturally. Got it. Thanks!

@lolgalit 2 жыл бұрын

He looks like a real sweetheart. That is so cool to see how person is in real life and as a character. When he in character this shyness just disappears.

@ConnorRK-pn9yj 3 жыл бұрын

All I need from this channel is a breakdown about Neal Caffrey from White Collar

@Scottlp2 3 жыл бұрын

Caffrey is great, but I’d rather be Craig Ferguson (he did a video on him)

@ConnorRK-pn9yj 3 жыл бұрын

@@Scottlp2 Craig Ferguson is great as well, what I'm looking to get from Caffrey is not only his Charisma but his confidence in such tense situations. He is after all a Con (Confidence) Man. So there's space to learn something there

@jonah1663 3 жыл бұрын

Also Patrick Jane from the mentalist. Both are same in many aspects. The Charm and wit

@racheltmsrsh 3 жыл бұрын

Agree!

@oppositelynx8229 3 жыл бұрын

Man that is true

@AhmetKaan 3 жыл бұрын

*"Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what other people are doing."* The chances of you seeing this comment is pretty low, but if you did, *I hope you have an amazing day.* 🖤

@carlosgarza1701 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@najrenchelf2751 3 жыл бұрын

Merci Ahmed. :)

@smokejc 3 жыл бұрын

so bad

@anonymousdude9099 3 жыл бұрын

Right, but when they concern themselves with what I am doing...

@facundosilva6087 2 жыл бұрын

thanks, you too mate :)

@baileybrinker5935 3 жыл бұрын

You guys have perfected the content being in line with pop culture...watching because of Tom’s face 🤷🏻‍♀️

@1saamor897 3 жыл бұрын

And loki

@merlokiii 3 жыл бұрын

I love him, he's adorable. Can't wait for the Loki series

@Daniwasinvented 2 жыл бұрын

I never realized how many hairstyles he’s had.

@FryTheGoliath 3 жыл бұрын

As I understand, the pillars of charisma are having fun yourself.

@whodatboi2567 3 жыл бұрын

I believe tip #4 is the most valuable tip. Even in the worst case scenario people can be forgiving if they see genuine effort on your side.

@NickNotas 3 жыл бұрын

Similar to "fully commit" is owning your nervousness. You don't do this all the time but if you truly find yourself stuck you can say something like, "I've got to be honest, I was a bit in my head and lost what I was going to say." or "I'm kind of embarrassed to admit this but..." Confidence is not being fearless. It's about the courage to take action even if it means embracing weakness.

@gaurikoli7634 3 жыл бұрын

I was waiting for all these years to get Tom hiddleston charisma video

@jdubs681 3 жыл бұрын

For me, the nervous fidgeting makes me like a person more. It shows me they are down to Earth and care about your perception of them. It’s endearing and lets me know they aren’t cocky.

@dalnim4294 3 жыл бұрын

Tom really seems like such a lovely person.

@AhmetKaan 3 жыл бұрын

*Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not who someone else is today.* *Jordan Peterson*

@phatcrayonz 3 жыл бұрын

yes!

@ianpage2509 3 жыл бұрын

Well I did clean my room.

@nectarshrub 2 жыл бұрын

Apple cider made me suicidal -Jordan Peterson

@0style 2 жыл бұрын

Smiling and being joyful is one of the unstated things about Tom in this video

@marionbaggins 3 жыл бұрын

Man I need this, I get nervous and it's hard for me to talk to people...Tom Hiddleston is a great role Model!!!

@readinginfrench1123 2 жыл бұрын

To this day I am still in awe that he actually did the impression in front of De Niro. What a legend!

@fighterflight 2 жыл бұрын

It wasn’t a great impression at all lol but it took balls and he made it endearing.

@elisabethcuningham3526 2 жыл бұрын

The hardest thing for me is keeping eye contact, especially when talking to multiple people, I just don’t know who to look at, I don’t want to just stare at one person.

@ktt7027 2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad that you said "You don't have to wear suits if that's not your style / you don't have to blend in with the crowd". As someone who dresses in alternative fashions, that was REALLY relieving to hear. As long as I think I look good! Thank you.

@SAkURAYOWA 3 жыл бұрын

I see Tom, I stay to admire perfection.

@Matt_Nor 3 жыл бұрын

It also helps to be a celebrity whose naturally incredibly handsome good looking, charming and very humble Tom doesn't mind putting the spotlight on those around him It's about sharing the envireoment / scene regardless of your status Also he is sexy af and not over the top about anything just living in the moment with his attention at the right place

@plica06 3 жыл бұрын

I think a lot of times in these clips here, Tom wasn't actually nervous but giving the impression of nervousness, playing it up for dramatic effect. Actors are good at that.

@-postapokalypso-7289 3 жыл бұрын

yeppp

@CrazyCircleOriginal 2 жыл бұрын

This is so interesting. I’ve seen some of his interviews recently, and he is a very intriguing person to listen to. He draws me in.

@Chillednfunked 3 жыл бұрын

Tom is fantastic

@AhmetKaan 3 жыл бұрын

*Some of us think holding on makes us stronger, but sometimes it is letting go that makes us stronger.* I believe in you, have an amazing day... 🖤🙏

@fatherjimothy1834 3 жыл бұрын

Shut up

@nirzara7176 3 жыл бұрын

I think it’s his eyebrows and the warm voice

@ZyliceLiddell 3 ай бұрын

He’s respectful, classy, kind, thoughtful, intelligent, humble, generous, talented, fun, gentlemanly charismatic, well dressed and groomed & has a nice voice and body. Not a bad face either with nice bone structure and dreamy eyes.

@tudorjason 3 жыл бұрын

Taking a pause in the middle of a sentence could invite people who are impatient, have disdain, or another reason, to finish your sentence. How do you handle this?

@Gaurav569SinghOfficial 2 жыл бұрын

Don't loose your focus (i mean don't focus on listening what they are saying?). Politely say them that please allow me to finish this

@RoorAlbin 2 жыл бұрын

Then the pause is too long

@mocotojam6767 2 жыл бұрын

I when I pause and the other person cuts in (usually in a heated argument, so not in a day by day situation) I just keep talking as if I wasn't interrupted, it makes the other person stop because they were expecting me to stop talking. I usually use them for emphasis not just to react to uncomfortable situations. Know that what you're saying is important.

@marisamartinez6573 3 жыл бұрын

I...apparently am so charismatic and all along I thought I was awkward. This was comforting!! I do all of these!

@thecaprikid1329 3 жыл бұрын

That's so cute!

@marisamartinez6573 2 жыл бұрын

@@thecaprikid1329 Haha aw! Thank you! 🙂

@neogeoriffic 3 жыл бұрын

Great. Tailored suits from Saville Row increase confidence.

@kukalakana 3 жыл бұрын

Everyone gets nervous on Graham Norton Show

@TheMusicscotty 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely adore this channel. One of my very few subs.

@Bitter_Beauty_Music 2 жыл бұрын

Stage trick: turn your nervousness into volume/annunciation. I did this for a play I was in when I didn't have a mic and it worked really well.

@jacobbailey5498 3 жыл бұрын

These videos are SO GOOD. Completely packed with golden nuggets

@MarMaxGaming 2 жыл бұрын

That’s really interesting! I’ve never heard of a channel that helps you be more socially confident and charismatic. You’re definitely helping people a lot, big time!

@andriyzolotov 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you guys. Watching you for years!

@Carl.Henriksson 3 жыл бұрын

The timing of this upload in my situation is insane.

@steelsheen 2 жыл бұрын

perfect example to use for this. Tom teaches us about many things without him being aware of it. the manner of speaking and confidence is but one of them. thank you for this video! 👍👍

@isabelleoh-criner6697 3 жыл бұрын

Saving this to keep in mind for job interviews!

@user-sw7pi8cy5c 2 жыл бұрын

Please make a video on Loki And why people love him so much Pleaseee

@katrinaroseproductions5549 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for that mid-sentence pause suggestion. I tend to pause at the end of sentences and people assume I'm done talking. Ima practice this now!

@inkman234 3 жыл бұрын

These are unbelievably useful and practical tips. Thank you for sharing them.

@sararoberts2973 2 жыл бұрын

He’s now another actor I’m trying to follow like this. Johnny Depp I’ve followed like this since 2003. I’m disabled so things like this I really try to take to heart. And I hate talking in front of people. Speech class in college (online) was kind of hard for me to look in a camera and just talk.

@AlaaMohamed-yk6gc 2 жыл бұрын

There's so much to learn from Tom Hiddleston ❤️✌️

@AllyGirl-hg2sb 2 жыл бұрын

I love Tom Hiddleston. He's my favorite actor since late 2019.

@bemydinosaur13 3 жыл бұрын

This is such a good channel 🙏🏼. So helpful to me in my career!

@lotstodo 2 жыл бұрын

He is gorgeous, gracious and a great dancer.

@DiscoveringHub 3 жыл бұрын

Learning is one of the key to success.

@lapelcelery42 3 жыл бұрын

I think there's a good argument that committing and not cutting yourself short doesn't actually make you look less nervous, it makes you look braver in spite of your nerves. People can gauge your nervousness from the fidgeting etc, but when you commit anyway it shows them they don't have to feel shame for your giving in to it. When you cut yourself off or give up, it makes other people self conscious on your behalf because you let your nerves get the better of you.

@SereneSoakingSounds 3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes when I use filler words it's not because I'm nervous because I need more time to respond. 😊 He seems very polite and kind. Great advise 💖

@ombaomba9287 3 жыл бұрын

Step 1: Be british Step 2: Have a British accent

@specialunit0428 2 жыл бұрын

I am English and it doesn't make me charming!

@sameeha2621 2 жыл бұрын

Step 3: be Tom Hiddleston

@faithxanneproudofliam 2 жыл бұрын

Okay... what now?

@debbeborders5762 2 жыл бұрын

Being genuine is charming and interesting. Good message.

@kimmichaluk3072 2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree about when you feel good in your clothes...instant confidence boost!

@Angell_Lee Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, your channel is gold!

@ChessasWorld 2 жыл бұрын

I'm so gonna try this!

@michaeldeegan5878 2 жыл бұрын

We are ahead of 50% of the game by recognizing what we need to fix guys... keep it up y’all!

@lyn2698 2 жыл бұрын

Idk case learning with Tom as a set example? This is too good to be true. Wish all my classes are like this

@nalublackwater9729 2 жыл бұрын

Been waiting for you to make a vid about this guy. Thank you :)

@Dancing_Alone_wRentals 3 жыл бұрын

What a wonderful channel I've stumbled upon. Thanks for the videos!

@kemsolid 2 жыл бұрын

This one helped a lot because it's so relatable.

@mika4moon 2 жыл бұрын

I've been considered 'cool and charismatic' by many friends and I never understood why they thought so when I am so dorky and socially inept most times. When I saw the things in this video, I realised some unconcious behaviours I developed through the years to 'not get mocked'. Its quite impressive how spot on it is. Cheers 🌼

@YBCause 3 жыл бұрын

Seems actionable!! Thank you!!

@philipchampion566 3 жыл бұрын

This is the best gosh darn channel on KZfaq. Love your content.

@jell._.y 2 жыл бұрын

oh!.. that's a solid piece of advice. pause in place of using "uh"s and "ah"s. will try to practice that from now on

@tinayechiwa1775 2 жыл бұрын

5 months later, I have a speech to give....and I have been brought back here. Nice :)

@JeannineIsaksen 2 жыл бұрын

Aw. Thank you for the Video. I had some presentation lessons in Artschool but lost a lot from it. Like for example pausing instead of fillerwords. This was a great reminder and it added some things I'm gonna try next.

@Natta44 2 жыл бұрын

This isn't about changing who you are when you interact. Its helping your brain calm down, relax and be immersed with the situation instead of your panic factor overriding and causing you to fudge the situation up! I love these tips and I've admired tom for being so humble and real. You can tell he doesn't try and mask himself, but just adjusts to the situation well hes been put in. A true improv master Haha

@mattysheehan9786 3 жыл бұрын

Your voice is so soothing

@mariemedeiros5672 3 жыл бұрын

Isnt his manner, his actual personality and manner rather than that hes incorporating techniques??

@nkosivumilenkululeko2436 3 жыл бұрын

I must be the worst introvert ever sometimes when I get a chance to comment or talk around the group of people I get so nervous and even start to shake I hate myself for it I can't seem to have control over it let alone stuttering when I'm on spotlight

@Jonit_svk 3 жыл бұрын

I fell you bro. I'm coming from the same place. Let me tell you something, one day, gradually, it will come to you, that it is so OK, to stutter, to be nervous, maybe even shake a bit.. It'll still be there.. sure it gets better with time, but it'll be there, and it won't bother you as much as it used to.. heck.. it'll even begin to feel enjoyable in some moments, like a signature of yours, something that you'll be proud of in a way. In your way, your unique way. And that is beautiful. And you'll start to realize that people don't mind it, and probably you'll even start to feel that people even actually enjoy your quirky way of expressing, or lets say just - your way of expressing, because it is completely normal and it' so unique to you. I know that one day you will realize it too. Wish you all the best bro.

@nkosivumilenkululeko2436 3 жыл бұрын

S/O to you bro I needed that 🤝🏾

@TheStonesQT93 3 жыл бұрын

I stutter as a default 😂 imagine how bad it gets when I’m nervous. What helped me is 3 things: preparation, passion, and practice 1) prep: the more I know about what I need to talk about, the more confident I am 2) passion: I only talk about things I’m passionate about when I’m in social situations. That way I forget about my nerves completely, because I adore what I’m talking about 3) practice: I’m so much better than how I was when I was 20. The more I had to present to clients, go to networking events, the easier it became. Sure, I have some really embarrassing moments. But, no one remembers them.

@canadude6401 3 жыл бұрын

Never see being an introvert as a negative. In a world of millions of people talking loud and saying nothing, you have an advantage. I have ADHD and really struggled in Elementary and High School 30 years ago when ADHD wasn't even a diagnosis. I used to view my -dis- ability as a negative, now I see it as a positive. I can dream up some creative and almost genius designs that the common person cannot. ADHD is my strength! So what I am saying is....don't try to _become_ an extrovert..instead embrace your unique self and be the best you that you can be! good luck!

@fire3986 2 жыл бұрын

Same here, I don't like being on spotlight it makes me nervous when people talk to me I give short answers. It is so annoying specially because I live in France I understand when people talk to me, but I can't talk in french people try to help me by starting a conversation but I get nervous and I create an awkward situation.

@shootatsquare 3 жыл бұрын

Great vid!

@user-xg8hv1lu8k 3 жыл бұрын

Charm is a way of getting the answer yes without asking a clear question."

@paikang 2 жыл бұрын

I'm here because of Nick. Thank you for this helpful tips.

@Colley_co 2 жыл бұрын

I didn’t realize how much I paused mid sentence until I had to make a recording of myself speaking. I’ve always been self conscious about it but I guess I should embrace it!

@pawandeepsingh6736 3 жыл бұрын

09:06 Joey’s big laugh♥️

@bumulraja7892 3 жыл бұрын

Nothing wrong in being nervous. Be proud of it and work with it. Most important, Be genuine!!!

@unknownartist1573 2 жыл бұрын

I already knew this about him and I've naturally been doing the same like him lol I've been nervous and shy so I've had to face things just like him. Interesting video thank you lol 😊💖👍🏾