How to Make Better Decisions in Life - Going Essentialist, Part I

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5 жыл бұрын

Look, making decisions is not easy. There are so many factors at play and so many ways to go wrong with things. As part 1 in a new series that I'm calling "Going Essentialist," I'm sharing 6 tips on how to make better decisions.
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@pz110 5 жыл бұрын

Notes 1. To avoid poor choices, don't make decisions after lunch. It may be best to make decisions in the morning while your brain is at its peak. 2. If it's not a hell yes, then it's a no. Give yourself time to reflect on your decision. 3. For big life decisions, make a pros and cons list. Estimate their respective weights based on their importance. Those on each side that have equivalent weight will be crossed out. The heaviest side wins. 4. To avoid catastrophic choices, take 20 minutes to calm down. Recover from the fight or flight response before making a decision. 5. For decisions that aren't urgent, sleep on them (and sleep well). 6. For better decision making in general, get to know your psychological biases. 7. Nothing in life is worth rushing for. Awareness is a great place to start, even if you don't know how to apply it yet.

@justo9564 4 жыл бұрын

The note number 7 gets me confused. Why is not worth in rushing things in life? I mean, isn't that the meaning of life (more or less) ?

@josejaimeceja3979 4 жыл бұрын

@@justo9564 I think it may refer to the fact of rushing things often tends to build expectations and then when those expectations don't get filled it tends to get ruined. (Applies for most of your plans in life). Just calm down, take it easy and make better decisions.

@sergiosierra3734 4 жыл бұрын

Naval Ravikant 3 major decision heuristics are simpler, check them out.

@CyBlue23 4 жыл бұрын

Pacochino Zulueta thank you ahah

@rizryn5690 4 жыл бұрын

But number 2 seems like a very easy way to miss a good opportunity, I mean I feel like I’ll always doubt a decision, but most of the time it turns out really well.

@nathanieldrew 5 жыл бұрын

Decision making is a complex topic and there's really a lot of ways you could tackle the topic. I'm really excited about part II in this series which goes way deeper. In the meantime, feel free to comment anything you'd like to add on the subject!

@victorious4701 5 жыл бұрын

There was this one School of Life video titled "How to Make a Decision" and the main idea of it is that before making a decision you should think through any issue from the eyes of: Gut, Caution, Enemy, Death and Courage. It goes really well with this video in my opinion. Here's the link if you're interested kzfaq.info/get/bejne/pdGUpqSLurquaWg.html

@mcee555 5 жыл бұрын

You need to check out mental models by Farnam Street blog! There's like 109 mental models to get through...so yh *sweating* lool

@tay_mess 5 жыл бұрын

Indeed, Awareness & Consciousness are great places to start! Thkx Drew.

@mdasifali4461 5 жыл бұрын

Totally off the topic, but I just adore your beard... Someday I hope I'll grow one too✌️😊

@ingridbernal 5 жыл бұрын

Even with this information, sometimes there are decision just difficult to take. And If I want to be a rational person I think I have to be a bit against me. Sometimes I just let myself go. And sometimes I just trust my heart and things will go by the best way.

@duchi882 5 жыл бұрын

*How to make better decisions in Life:* 1. Ask the Magic Conch Shell 🐚

@kylander_1423 5 жыл бұрын

Duchi "No"

@rockyman2685 5 жыл бұрын

"No"

@taquito.duende 5 жыл бұрын

All Hail The Magic Conch!

@saraha.1336 5 жыл бұрын

My conch shell told me to watch this video

@studyme-selftaughtlife4958 5 жыл бұрын

If your actions contradict your beliefs and values, it’s *IMPORTANT* to ask why. Cognitive dissonance can cause internal friction that will impact you long-term.

@aizengenesis3761 5 жыл бұрын

Can you explain to me what cognitive dissonance is I think I've had experienced that just didn't understand the concept fully until I saw your comment

@KingSpillah 5 жыл бұрын

@@aizengenesis3761 anytime you lie to yourself basically. If your actions don't match your goals, values, beliefs, and promises to yourself you usually rationalize them to yourself to fix the unpleasant feeling you get by not being the narrative you tell yourself. Essentially this piles up and eventually you can't rationalize your actions any longer, this creates intense existential anxiety and sometimes depression and happens to almost everybody.

@aizengenesis3761 5 жыл бұрын

@@KingSpillah wow thank you for explaining that to me much appreciated , now I see why I felt like I experienced it I just didn't understand it when I did happen I felt confused

@Meera9 5 жыл бұрын

@@KingSpillah thank you for posting this

@KingSpillah 5 жыл бұрын

@@Meera9 Definitely! Read a few personal psychology books, it really helps to be able to manage yourself

@samuelcollin519 5 жыл бұрын

The only KZfaq notification I click these days.

@Name-is2bp 5 жыл бұрын

Same

@Infinite_exhilaration 5 жыл бұрын

Yes Theory and Matt D Avella are worthy notifications just as Nathanial👌🏻 if you dig Nathan’s content, you should check them out👍🏻 that way you can amplify your learning

@al-fl7rn 5 жыл бұрын

Yup

@tr1stan706 5 жыл бұрын

Alex Nosky yeah Matt d avella’s videos are shorter quality ones.

@martinazivai 5 жыл бұрын

I am a 'yes' person too and totally agree with 'if it's not a hell yes, then it is no' because we really do need to know what's unnegotiable for us so we can live in balance and focusing our energy on relevant things. This week I quit my job, got into college and said bye to some toxic people in my life. Thank you Nathaniel for the tips, it's helping me a lot.

@seymourbeetle 5 жыл бұрын

As cliché and simple as it sounds, slowing down everything in my life, taking a breath and enjoying more has been working wonders for me.

@CameronMarkDoyle 5 жыл бұрын

your videos make me very calm. thanks Nathaniel, appreciate ya

@Aliusmi 5 жыл бұрын

Cameron Doyle , just want to share, i feel the same way

@iamsukree 5 жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree, calm and free from noise things

@VegardThefilmmaker 5 жыл бұрын

I feel the same too about getting calm when watching his videos. Make me think a lot and re evaluate my own life.

@Jackywitha_y 5 жыл бұрын

It's hard not to rush when you feel like you've been wasting time for x amount of years. Great content!

@rblflwr9008 5 жыл бұрын

Jacky ! Relatable af

@jo-annel.wright2975 4 жыл бұрын

@Jacky All the more reason to NOT rush...I have found is is my 'higher self' slowing me down when I feel I am wasting time because most often something better happens, occurs to me, or I realise that which was pressing on me was not 'mine'...etc..

@jellyacc 4 жыл бұрын

so then take the most wildest decision. if notthing comes from it at least youd learn something from it

@willisidro3315 5 жыл бұрын

"There is nothing in life worth rushing for." This was so profound it hurt my brain, but it gave me a sense of calmness. Thank you. You gained a new sub :)

@nadahaddad9922 5 жыл бұрын

Eudaimonia: a life in which a person is striving for self improvement ,to be more virtuous,more thoughtful and self aware ..

@sweeney93 5 жыл бұрын

Keep doing what you’re doing man, I felt lost a year ago, since I’ve found yours and Matt’s videos I’ve made some serious changes in my life, so thanks, I owe you a lot.

@bondjames7862 5 жыл бұрын

Same, but other than Matt, Drew and Krieg Adams, does anyone else recommend other channels, with similar styles, that I should check out?

@sweeney93 5 жыл бұрын

Joe Turkel No clue my friend, they’re the only ones I’ve watched anyway, all inspirational dudes

@sweeney93 5 жыл бұрын

Joe Turkel Nathaniel inspired me to start my own hiphop Instagram page on Instagram, if anyone is a fan of hiphop check it out if you’ve the time, (infamous genre) (infamous_genre)

@bondjames7862 5 жыл бұрын

@@sweeney93 Agreed. Appreciate the help, however.

@user-qb3jg8ep9t 5 жыл бұрын

@@bondjames7862 Don't fall into the self-help trap, where consuming self-help substitutes actual development. Just track your habits and try to best yourself everyday.

@markangelosambrano1740 4 жыл бұрын

9:56 "it's very satisfying to spot something that was meant to trick me and effectively avoid it" haha relatable

@jakubsirius 5 жыл бұрын

There´s an old Czech proverb "twice measure(reassure), once make a cut" I adore the way you connect things, Nath.

@CyrionWillems 5 жыл бұрын

I usually make decisions way too quick as well, all by following the gut. Get's me into tricky situations all the time, but into amazingly awesome adventures as well :D

@deborahmutombo7224 5 жыл бұрын

I once heard (and I really wish I could remember from where so I can credit it) that if you are stuck between two decisions, take a coin and alot each side with one of the choices, then flip the coin. When the coin is in the air, there's a moment when you want the coin to land on a specific side. Not sure if that would help anyone, but it was worth mentioning! 😅

@noonstyles3973 3 жыл бұрын

That sounds like a great idea! I'll try it for sure

@mayanxoni 5 жыл бұрын

I feel more human after watching your videos. Please never stop making these. Thanks a ton!

@ivvie1452 5 жыл бұрын

I seek mental clarity as well. there is so much fog in my life, emotional state, physical health, work, creativity, my sense of direction during every single day almost. This is a video I will be watching several times, like most other videos you make, so I can fully take it in. Also, that little dance at the end was super cute and fun and you should make that a thing. :) Thank you for this!

@TheFuture2k12 4 жыл бұрын

There is nothing in life worth rushing for is one something that'll be in my journal because I am also trying to apply that to my life as well. Moving at my own pace.

@FJParravicini 5 жыл бұрын

Your channel is like a video journal of your own growth process. It'll not only serve you in the future for retrospection, but it should serve to others as a case study. But yeah, I think that once you read and experience enough about this topic it all really boils down to prioritizing and working with flexibility. Really like how calm your videos are, I should work on making my stuff as chill! Hahaha

@SarahS329 5 жыл бұрын

A week ago, I got the worst sunburn I've ever had. The amount of times I thought "I should at least cover my shoulders" and "I should probably put on sunscreen" is alarming. I completely ignored my better judgment. I went for the "convenient at the moment" route and have paid for it with continual inconvenience and pain from the day I received the sunburn to now (probably tomorrow and the next day, too). All that to say that, the day after I got that sunburn, I looked at myself in the mirror and said, "you knew better, you warned yourself, you knew the right decision, and you ignored it; make it a habit to follow your better judgment." That has vastly improved this week's decision making, as I hope it will improve the next and the next, etc.

@MondoLoops 5 жыл бұрын

Providing some genuinely useful advice in your videos man, really appreciate it!

@letmebakeit 4 жыл бұрын

Is it weird that I fall asleep to your videos? The way you express yourself makes me relax lol.

@ayalashin9155 4 жыл бұрын

I'm Arabic. I care for your videos. First, I didn't know you. I only watched you to improve my English. I wanted to listen English much but I knew alot of information. You've made epic videos. Keep going on your way.

@ayalashin9155 4 жыл бұрын

@Beeblebrox One thanks alot, I am good at English but my problem is speaking. I don't find anyone speaks English around me😂 , so I speak with myself and this way is boring because I don't find various topics when I speak with myself. I hope I could travel to US in the future.

@griffinwong512 5 жыл бұрын

So glad you posted this video! I’ve been thinking a lot about decision trees and how to prioritize tasks in my agenda

@axelair8752 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making me want to change a certain amount of things in my daily basis. Your philosophy is really getting under my skin!! Thanks again bro, love your content, love your videos

@PalaminoHills 4 жыл бұрын

I am going to start listening to you MORE OFTEN, and MORE CAREFULLY. From Querétaro, Mexico.

@rtorre0423 4 жыл бұрын

You are an "Old Soul" forever seeking enlightenment in an ever changing world. Your insightful and complex view of life at your age is intriguing and comforting to listen to. You see not only the forks in the road but, the dirt trails others ignore. So, yeah, you are an "Old Soul". Don't let others distract you from your path. The world is full of critics, petty people and jealousy seeking to deter and hinder those striving for better lives beyond the materialistic world we live in. Looking forward to watching your future videos. God Bless.

@mprl819 3 жыл бұрын

One of the most underrated people here on youtube. You the best man.

@buildingbrainwaves26 5 жыл бұрын

Solid video! The message and visuals were dialed to perfection. Well done.

@BeaZTofficial 5 жыл бұрын

Just found your channel and after watching and queuing a bunch of videos I must say I love every second of them so far. Keep up the good work!

@ny5200 5 жыл бұрын

was just thinking about how i want more content! forever grateful..

@SoneczKnote 5 жыл бұрын

That is definitely me. I'm quick to commit without giving it much thought to my values

@joshuathinkingoutloud 5 жыл бұрын

Your style and authenticity has inspired me to pursue my channel. Thank you for keeping it real.

@fatimasuri2054 4 жыл бұрын

I’m honestly so glad I found your channel. You’re making a lot of sense. Thank you 🙏🏾

@gabbyliciousone8094 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making videos. They really have a great impact in my world

@Rocio-ru1zg 5 жыл бұрын

thanks for this nath ❤️❤️ i'm 20 and i met you on your "not going to college" video. i've been learning like crazy (in a fantastic sense) thanks to youtube for the past 2 years. i take youtube very seriously. i want to be fully self-made. i want to learn about social skills, economy, psychology, body language, charisma, journaling, self care, etc- things i will not learn in college and your channel have helped me so much so this is a thank you! 💖💖💖

@RaAscend 5 жыл бұрын

Nathaniel be making the most interesting videos! 🙌🏾 Great job dude!

@Chickensdraw 5 жыл бұрын

I recently bought the book Essentialism that you recommended and I am eager to start reading it, I'm also so glad you are making a series on essentialism. Keep it up man :)

@MsIngriDiva 3 жыл бұрын

I love the way you go straight to the point of stuff, I feel like I learn for a week with one video of yours, thank you so much for that.

@Jakepf 5 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate your videos dude, they help me think and understand these problems a little better than I already did.

@ViviansCrafts 5 жыл бұрын

you are amazing, my favourite youtuber. thank you forsharing your ideas and visions, they really help me

@scottjackson163 3 жыл бұрын

Under the category of “life is nuanced,” I consider the fact that my most productive days tend to be those during which I follow the dictum “just put some points on the board.” Meaning, that I stop analyzing and weighing factors, and just do something.

@SikSikSikS 5 жыл бұрын

Usually I am a bit sceptical about taking life advice from someone significantly younger than me, but you always blow me away with your perspectives, wisdom and truths. Thank you!

@bjzzzz 5 жыл бұрын

I'm excited for the rest of this series! I love how your videos piece together bits and pieces of what I've heard before. I feel like I'm learning so much!

@user-zk7fx2jq7d 4 жыл бұрын

Nathaniel, my name's Michael, I'm 20 and right now in a similar stage of life. I try to self improve, find myself and the world and think about similar topics to you. (Okay, I don't care about filmmaking, it's music for me.) Anyways, just wanted to let you know that your videos are incredibly important to me, they help me a lot. Honestly, you are the only KZfaqr where I take notes while watching your videos. Thank you.

@Retrosen 4 жыл бұрын

I can't stop watching your videos, just thanks for the motivation you give me.

@tomhopehealthy5801 5 жыл бұрын

Man, I so appreciate your whole content! You truly change my life and I'm so happy I started watching you when you just started! That was I think one of my best decision. Thank you so much!

@lghammer778 5 жыл бұрын

Good sleep is what dreams are made of 😌 "Positive energy activates constant elevation"

@zairaivanna2271 5 жыл бұрын

Your videos make me a better person. I constantly deal with anxiety and scrambled thoughts. This whole concept of calmness, clarity, the video and editing, help me overcome uneasiness while also gaining great insight into my own life. Keep being a great person and doing what you love.

@raneerah7730 3 жыл бұрын

"There is nothing in life worth rushing for." I would love to know who said this lovely and realistic quote.

@Rinel.Levitin 5 жыл бұрын

I keep waiting for you to finally upload something mediocre, and yet every time you come out with so much value and golden nuggets. Thank you for being such a gem in this world ✨

@achdicu 5 жыл бұрын

Nathaniel, you're such a smart, mature and inspirational young man! Every time I watch one of your videos is delightful and refreshing. Keep up the amazing work!

@evangalyen6402 4 жыл бұрын

I feel so happy and optimistic every time I watch one of your videos. One of the best channels i've seen! Love it!

@idontcare736 4 жыл бұрын

Wife: “can you take out the trash” Me: -takes 3 days weighing the pros and cons-

@fredericksharon6908 4 жыл бұрын

Took u long enough to take urself out 😅

@evawambani7992 4 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@Tabatha437 2 жыл бұрын

😂

@Echoplex22 5 жыл бұрын

Can't wait for the next installment. Wonderful, real advice. Much love from Montana.

@okimo3704 5 жыл бұрын

I would like you to know how much I ( and i know many more ) appreciate your videos, they simply bring so much to the table, in a really aesthetic way, but with so much simplicity, I would really like know know a lot more and more about your lifestyle and to follow your steps, even as difficult as it seems to me. Thank you so much for this.

@PassiveIncomeTom 5 жыл бұрын

We make decisions every day. Thanks for you talk about this! 👍

@tiffanylovesu2638 5 жыл бұрын

Hey my dude. I just started watching your videos today after staying up the whole night. I just wanted to thank you and tell you to keep up the good work.

@eilysette 5 жыл бұрын

nathaniel, thank you for being such an inspiration to a naive 17 year old who didn’t believe in life after high school, and only saw the negative possible futures. you’ve helped in showing me just how fulfilling hard work can be, and as cliche as it is, that dreams are never impossible. my life has changed so much in 2 months! keep doing what you’re doing, i hope to be like you someday :)

@brunaguerra3021 4 жыл бұрын

i love watching your videos, sometimes i let it play while doing another task. you deserve even more subscriber tbh

@beyondthebop 2 жыл бұрын

I truly love your videos. Especially, when I'm having hard time they're uplifting because I know that's having a hard time is a part of life. All the information and experiences you share are such a treasure. Thanks Nathaniel, I really appreciate you doing that.

@peachaos 5 жыл бұрын

I really needed this. Thanks for making this video.

@zeruszephuros5419 5 жыл бұрын

Dude, I've been following your channel since some time, and somehow you've became my life therapist....thank you so so much!!!!

@ennagy 5 жыл бұрын

I am just really new to your channel but really appreciate it already. The topics that you discuss are things I always deal with. Keep up the good stuff and I am excited for your new series!

@shreyashrawat 5 жыл бұрын

You are just incredible. Looking forward for the series.

@karl_wahu 5 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy to find your channel. Your videos are so relevant and informative, I love how simple it is but so full of impact.

@Zaefnyr 5 жыл бұрын

When you say that you packed a lot in the video i just remembered i had to replay at least twice each quote you put in it, and in spite of that, the food for mind that you provide for us is very easy to digest. I love your simple yet "complicated" style, keep it up!

@MellowMonkStudios 5 жыл бұрын

I like what you stand for brother. keep it up!

@ryanlj3474 5 жыл бұрын

Another great video! Once I have finished my masters degree and have more disposable income - you will be the first creator I support on patreon. Keep up the good work

@oliviakrause3336 4 жыл бұрын

Those are great points. Psychological bias is a big one for a lot of people I know. I always try to look at things by putting aside the distortions. This needs a lot of reflection and knowledge about psychology as you said. Awareness is important. To move away from autopilot. I found out it works like a charm to take a step back from everything, be alone for some time and really question things. That always leads to kind of an awakening for me.

@tayl5960 5 жыл бұрын

Love your videos. You seem very sincere in your desire to help/inform people, and very transparent in your thought processes both as a person and as someone trying to make a living via the internet. Very refreshing.

@curiousbrunette2677 4 жыл бұрын

I'm with you on this journey. Making decisions is not easy at all. We need to weigh down our options and really see the big picture on where our decisions might lead to. Thank you for this video

@ArielMondelo 5 жыл бұрын

thank you Nathan!!

@juanpabloflores9476 4 жыл бұрын

I really admire you bro not only because you are quite wise but also because someday I would like to follow your lifestyle.

@jeremyfox7599 4 жыл бұрын

Another extremely strong video! Keep up the superb work, Nathaniel.

@FallenAngelFallenAngel 5 жыл бұрын

You inspire the shit out of me Nathaniel. Big huge fan of your work and words. you the bomb. can't wait for the next video

@kamidsjournee 5 жыл бұрын

I appreciate how you put your thoughts into words.

@adamcleare8606 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this Video, I really needed to hear every single word. I plan to watch this again ☺

@nehamotwani6477 5 жыл бұрын

Great video with so much learning. Its rare to find a compact and complete bunch of knowledge without a second wasted. Glad to find your channel.

@tcullz760 4 жыл бұрын

Love your videos, man. Keep it up 👍

@nougat7891 5 жыл бұрын

What timing! I got the essentialist with my audible free trial just the other day!

@cengizhanermet 2 жыл бұрын

6:04 Greetings from Turkey Nathaniel :) I am learning Spanish thanks to you.

@Treehamallama 5 жыл бұрын

I know this, and I am helped by someone else saying this, it makes me feel less alone about it with someone else saying the same thing. I love this video, hearing it verbally by a kind person is helping my faith too

@carolina.helena 5 жыл бұрын

Useful, useful content. Curious to see the next videos of this series!

@ahmedelghazoly7915 5 жыл бұрын

Bro keep up the good work and please continue the essentialist series its really good 👍🔥

@jxyoolie 5 жыл бұрын

Found your channel today, by the 'A Video For Introverts'. And then I saw this. Very helpful and just in time, thank you, I needed it. Want to become an essentialist too!

@Busyfigureskating 5 жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed this content, Nathaniel, and I think this series is a brilliant idea. You lay out some interesting view points and information. I appreciate your channel so much!! Take care, Holly

@chirag1764 5 жыл бұрын

Can't thank you enough for this... I've been torn lately. I'm 16 and everyone wants me to pursue engineering but I don't want to give up years of my life preparing for something that I'm not passionate about while giving up things I love like sports, singing and learning new things.. The pros and cons list is something that'll definitely help me.. Thanks a lot Nathaniel!!

@PedroHenrique-zz7ko 5 жыл бұрын

OMG, it's the same for me. I'm 15 and everyone in my family wants that I became a Doctor, and it's really awful feel the pressure and the fear about don't do what they expect for me. I really hope you find and follow your essential way, like me hahahahahajha

@heyclaudia 5 жыл бұрын

This is so helpful!! I really love the idea of making a pros and cons list and assigning weights to each item! Thanks Nathaniel!

@AmiNa-ye7dg 5 жыл бұрын

Im in love with your content keep going ❤❤

@whatisthis4332 5 жыл бұрын

This is the first video that I've watched from your channel Drew, just subbed as well. I can't wait to watch more of your videos! This video was amusing and interesting.