I'm so glad! Thank you for watching.

Thank you so much!! God Bless you and yours as well. Thank you again for watching and commenting!

You're very welcome. Thank you for watching!

You are very welcome. Anyone that say separation means it's over didn't work for it. I would be lying if I said it wasn't going to be hard. But when you come back from this you can make anything work. I too was separated with children I know it can be scary but you can do it. You just have to remember what's important to you. You can do it!!

I felt this as I’m going through something similar. How are things going now?

Thank you.

It is really hard. It took my a long time to find my path. With my oldest graduating highschool and leaving the house we have our daughter getting ready to go into highschool. I had to figure out what I wanted to do outside of the family. Just don't rush it take your time. I tried a lot of things until I found what I wanted to do and able to stick with it. As far as you and your husband goes. Go to counseling and see where it leads you. If it determines that you two are not compatible it's not a bad thing. I know you put in a lot of years and you don't want to feel like all that went to waste but it didn't. You two made beautiful children together and you have to look at it that way. Don't automatically go to the negative either. You two are a lot older then when you were in highschool and may be you two need to find each other where you are at now. Me and my husband have know each other for over 20 years and we have changed and we get to know each other everyday. We fall in love with the new version of us and don't hold on to the old version.

Thank you for watching!! I completely understand what you are going through Asha. I went through the ups and the downs also. We didn't do marriage counseling because at the time he was done with the marriage and didn't want to go. But there was things I needed to work on so I went to counseling by myself. We were separated for the full year and we did it twice. Our 10th and 11th year of our marriage was really hard.

@@TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor thanks for responding, I am currently in therapy and it's been helpful. I don't think my hubby is keen on counseloring either but its good hear that not every couple does it. Working on myself is super important to me. At present I started Journaling which has been awesome to empty my headspace. I have a few other personal development things I'd like to do for self improvement. One of the things that came up was that I have issues with self love and prioritizing myself. This is the perfect time to find me again and love the hell out of me. I lost myself in my relationship/marriage a long time ago. I am glad your marriage in a much healthier place, praying mine will repair itself and be amazing again.

@@MzUnick10 It will. It's funny I was exactly where you are now. My biggest journey was learning to love myself which I still struggle with sometimes. In the beginning of my separation I focused too much on my marriage and as soon as I started focusing on me and started feeling better about me...my husband and I were able to communicate again. We both had blockages and working on ourselves helped. I just did a video 3 days ago about 7 tips to surviving marriage separation. You don't have to watch it if you don't want to. But some of the things you mention I talk about in that video. The one thing that also helped me that I don't mention in the video is reading. I read alot. I hope it helps you. If you need anything else or just someone to listen. I am here. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/gcWaepuLqNzNkZc.html

@@TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor LOL so weird, I started almost immediately focusing on how to fix things and that made things temporarily worst. Its only when I took a step back and begin the work on me did I see some improvement in communication. The finger pointing was driving me crazy. I too started to read as well, I want to work on meditating and restart my weightloss journey. In my heart in know we can do this, but focusing on being the best version of myself is what needs to happen. Will reach out if I have more questions, and I'll look at the video now.

@@TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor I watch the video and it has happened. However, we are not in the best place at the moment and I could really use a listening ear and some advice from someone who's been through what am experiencing. It's been so rough lately.

Yes, use this time to grow and be better.

Did u ask your wife for the separation? If so, i need advice , my husband is asking for a separation to think over whether he wants to continue this marriage. Im just worried his pride will make him not miss me at all but we have been together for 10yrs.

Are ya'll communicating?

Honestly he could be leaning toward divorce because he feels like he is missing something. With this "friend" it makes it more difficult but not impossible to reconcile. It could as simple as his "friend" listens to him when he speaks and he doesn't feel like you listen to him. During my second separation with my husband he was the one that wanted the divorce and we were able to reconcile. If your husband is willing to speak with you, you just have to find out what he wants and why divorce is the only solution in his mind.

Nothing…u can’t control her…focus on becoming the best version of you

FOCUS on self…FOCUS on becoming the best version of you

Yes I was twice...it took me a while to figure out how to be a better wife.

Who would know better than someone who’s been through it? Would u learn how to swim from someone who doesn’t know how to swim or who has never swam?