How To Move On After Divorce For A Man | Divorced Men

How To Move On After Divorce For A Man | Divorced Men | Mens Divorce Tips

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How To Move On After Divorce For A Man | Divorced Men | Mens Divorce Tips
Movies often portray divorced guys living it up and enjoying the freedom they’ve always wanted. In reality, this stereotype can be far from the truth. Men often experience the most devastating losses from divorce, without knowing ways to cope.
Men are nearly twice as likely to develop major depression after divorce than women, and the suicide rate of divorced men is nearly twice that of married men. Society’s stigma on men seeking mental health help only worsens this concerning problem.
So with men often losing their children, friends, reputations, and homes after divorce, is there anything they can do to feel like themselves again?
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02:59 Number 1 : Do Not Attempt to try and get back with Your Ex-Wife
03:45 Number 2 : Stop the desperation, and focus on what you can control.
04:47 Number 3 : Establish a Convenient Weekly Schedule
05:21 Number 4: Make Sure that the Divorce Does not Affect Your Children
06:09 Number 5: Accept Your Loss and Grieve
07:06 Number 6: Avoid Addiction
07:40 Number 7: Ask for Help - Don’t Pretend You’re Fine When You’re Not
09:06 Number 8: Get Fit Commit To Exercise Daily
10:50 Number 9: Use Mindfulness Techniques
12:15 Number 10: Say “No” to Alienation and “Yes” to “Me Time”
13:43 Number 11: Find a Hobby and Stay Social
15:12 Number 12: Upgrade your Wardrobe
16:03 Number 13: Start Dating to Boost Your Confidence
17:07 Number 14: Block Her on Social Media
17:43 Number 15: Become the Man You Want to Be
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@michaelangelo4147 Жыл бұрын

I am currently going through this now at 57yo, after my divorce was finalized on May 15th of this year and I am fighting the feelings of being angry, frustrated, depressed, failure, having no confidence, inadequacy and moments of even shutting down. But the thing which has helped me the passed several months, especially most recently after my ex-wife moved out is trying to not be lonely, but turning it into “Me Time” like you said here and enjoying my own company. I even bought a 7 piece drum set as my stress releaser and also started working out once again. So, I am looking forward to getting myself back on track with my life and being the best version of myself.

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you're are taking all the right steps. One step at a time mate. You will have ups and downs.

@donthejewler74 7 ай бұрын

I can relate buddy.

@michaelangelo4147 7 ай бұрын

@@donthejewler74 Never say never, or as you put it, “You can’t relate”, because tomorrow is not promised to us and no one knows what tomorrow will bring in one’s life.

@user-gl3vr5vm9r 5 ай бұрын

I stand with you bro , I’m going through it now

@michaelangelo4147 5 ай бұрын

@@user-gl3vr5vm9r It does get better like so many say, but sometimes it’s hard to it in front of you. But, I am also here to reporting that I am doing a whole lot better now. I was PROMOTED in my job with a lot more pay. I am loving that more good things are happening for me now. I am free to come and go as I want and when I want. I have a peace that I’ve never known or experienced before and I am just loving this time. I am now divorced and just taking in this new fresh air of life. I am still not interested in relationships though, so I am not ready to date anyone yet, because everything I see is not good and most of these women nowadays are only looking for someone to financially rescue them and I am not in the mood to rescue no one. However, I do make a point of going out with friends once or twice a week. So, I try not to be secluded at home. My job takes a lot of time out my life, but It’s actually really good for me. In fact, I am currently even looking for my next out of the country experience. Somewhere, I can go for a nice vacation. What really helped me was going cold contact with her. I just didn’t want to continue in her outlandish demands and drama! By the time she asked me for the divorce I was actually already done with her nonsense! So hang in there and stay positive. A matter fact make a list of goals and accomplishments you would like for yourself and focus on them one at a time and in a year or two you will be surprised of what you were able to achieve. We men are movers and shakers on this world 🌎 and no woman can put a stop to that! She didn’t that’s for sure.

@Atclav 7 ай бұрын

Women have no idea how much some men invest themselves into their marriages especially if they have kids. Sometimes our whole being is in the marriage. Men get into a support group like this man says.

@JTDyer21 10 ай бұрын

Just move on. Women want to leave then help them pack. I did exactly that. My ex wanted a divorce and I helped her pack. You got bigger fish to fry.

@t-pain3343 7 ай бұрын

Good for you. My divorce was hard. 10 years of marriage, 2 young kids and she decided to start cheating. It does get easier

@woodedape 10 ай бұрын

When my wife said she wanted a divorce I felt like Tom Hanks on Castaway.

@jezalb2710 Ай бұрын

Ditto

@Kauwa808 8 ай бұрын

Lawyer up. Let her go. Divorce and alone sucks but we are G-men. Grown Men

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 8 ай бұрын

Love that statement

@salvadorochoa2321 10 ай бұрын

You can definitely try being the adult here and not blame your ex-wife in front of the children, however she won't hesitate to do that exact thing, and the kids will definitely begin to form an opinion about you based on what their mommy tells them.

@Kauwa808 8 ай бұрын

True. Two out of three of my grown kids will not talk to me.

@salvadorochoa2321 8 ай бұрын

@@Kauwa808 Wow brother what a hard situation to be in, I wouldn't wish it on my worse enemy. I honestly hope they reach out to you one day and ask you what happened, so you can tell them the truth, they'll have kids of their own one day, and hopefully that'll open their minds a little or a lot. Wish you the best brother.

@salvadorochoa2321 8 ай бұрын

@@Kauwa808but I will tell you this, loss is an inevitable thing, I hate to say it but get used to it. My daughter doesn't talk to me because of the sht her mother put in her head after we divorced. At this time I'm content with knowing that she, my daughter went to college and so no matter what, she can take care of herself financially, I take that over not being with her, and knowing that she struggles.

@jaimevillar2006 8 күн бұрын

@@Kauwa808Same here 4 of 4 adult children don’t talk to me. they didn’t even bother to ask me my side of the story they just believe what their mom said. just happened five months ago.

@Kauwa808 8 күн бұрын

@@jaimevillar2006 so sorry. Sucks

@michaelgriffin691 10 ай бұрын

I have been doing this in preparation for the separation/divorce

@tim5111 Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@jugulartara4388 4 ай бұрын

Online dating has been a dismal failure. At least for me. Wasted a lot of money for minimal results. Some people tell me it only works if you are exceptionally good looking. Developing a social network of friends is harder than you think when you don't have young kids.

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 3 ай бұрын

Sorry to hear that online dating hasn't worked for you...yet. I don't believe it only works for good looking people, it has a lot to do with your profile (the right photo, the right words, etc) and how you react or how you introduce yourself to a potential date when you first message each other.

@jugulartara4388 3 ай бұрын

@@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce I understand what you are saying but you leave out critical factors. The right words and photos didn't seem to get me anywhere. I tried changing them based on advice numerous times. Dating now is completely different than my 20s. I got divorced at 39, i am gainfully employed, have a master's degree and I am not overweight. Each year past 42, the pool of eligible women that came up appeared to dwindle and met fewer sensible standards. The ones that I did establish contact with were generally jaded, divorced and unwilling to ever marry again, used very old photos, significantly over weight, had psychiatric problems, were bankrupt, had multiple children with multiple men, lived off child support, had substance abuse problems, lived far away or were scammers. The sane ones without kids didn't want a family with a divorced man or even buy a home together where my kids could be a part of my life. Hence 10 years of trying came and went without any success. The last 2 years on one dating site, I didn't meet even one woman. The last woman I met online and dated for a few months - I found out her anxiety and depression was going to be a problem and had been involuntarily hospitalized just a few years ago. Back to the dating pool. It's not just how I introduce myself or a first messaging issue. It feels like the remaining pool of candidates of women have big problems and the good ones are already married.

@shaky8820 2 жыл бұрын

Good channel. Definitely should have more subs

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@Mensdivorcecoach 2 жыл бұрын

He copied my videos and just recorded himself. Take a look at my channel and you won't believe how blatant it is. I spend a lot of time working on the research and writing this stuff. My GF and I couldn't believe it when we saw this guy.

@LivingMAD 2 жыл бұрын

Divorce is a heartbreaking experience for all of us. I made my own videos discussing my personal experience going through divorce. I welcome you to watch them and let me know what you think.

@michaelthomashamilton 2 жыл бұрын

Appreciate the video. I subbed. Keep going !

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 2 жыл бұрын

Appreciate the support

@Mensdivorcecoach 2 жыл бұрын

@LivingMAD 2 жыл бұрын

Divorce is a heartbreaking experience for all of us. I made my own videos discussing my personal experience going through divorce. I welcome you to watch them and let me know what you think.

@charlesdial7152 2 ай бұрын

I am going through a tough time with my emotions during this time of separation but it's getting better a little bit at a time. I kinda want to be on my own for awhile now because I can do it.

@jochenvandevelde2146 6 ай бұрын

Ive checked out a long time ago... that's the part ive heard so many times in so many videos...and that's the part that's the hardest for me to deal with. Ffs say something or do something to try and SOLVE the problem. At least try before you take the coward way out...my wife told me after 15 years of marriage. I mean 15 years...and she was already one year and a half thinking about leaving. For me that's the same as lying or cheating...and then blindsiding your husband and leave when he gave everything he had...i know im not perfect and ive made mistakes but at least im not a coward taking the easy way out...especially when you have a 9 year old with ASS...

@anthonyharmon9265 6 ай бұрын

Cowards way out? Its not about courage...its about wanting the pain to stop. Have you ever been in that extreme pain tha men who delete themselves have been in? Doubt it

@jochenvandevelde2146 6 ай бұрын

@@anthonyharmon9265 i don't think u understand what im talking about. It's the women who take the cowards way out by not wanting to at least try to solve the situation. U assume to much. Ive lost everything three months ago. My 15 year marriage, my house, my son one week at a time, my selfrespect, my identity...all because my wife wanted 'out' and had been thinking about it for over a year without saying something...that is the coward way out imho because just preparing to leave without a fight and leave everything u build... I hope i have cleared my message.

@MohammadAtallah-nq3jc Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@contactvp 3 ай бұрын

You need to experience yourself experiencing yourself. Go deep and do what you’re willing/interested in doing. Remember/recall the times when you were in the zone and use those same methodologies.

@julioeduardo05 5 ай бұрын

Thank you very much!

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 5 ай бұрын

Pleasure

@Stu-ky5ut 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure, hope you're doing well.

@markwanniang7201 Жыл бұрын

Thank you 💕

@Republic4ever714 6 ай бұрын

I’m not getting out of this depression anytime soon if at all I was broadsided and then railroaded.

@Vangel366 Жыл бұрын

Good info

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce Жыл бұрын

Thanks

@lewhellickson3130 2 жыл бұрын

Spot on.....

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, I hope this video helps.

@LivingMAD 2 жыл бұрын

Divorce is a heartbreaking experience for all of us. I made my own videos discussing my personal experience going through divorce. I welcome you to watch them and let me know what you think.

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 2 жыл бұрын

@@LivingMAD thanks for the compliment, and I will absolutely check out your videos. It's all help about helping each other out.

@alboondy9991 Жыл бұрын

This is pure gold. Men barely educate each other, nor cheering or encouraging other men. Thanks my brother.

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce Жыл бұрын

No, thank you for listening

@magedhosny3091 2 жыл бұрын

good luck with your channel friend

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 😊

@LivingMAD 2 жыл бұрын

Divorce is a heartbreaking experience for all of us. I made my own videos discussing my personal experience going through divorce. I welcome you to watch them and let me know what you think.

@pashanglama 9 ай бұрын

I really appreciate

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 9 ай бұрын

Here to help

@glennvillanea1429 Жыл бұрын

My wife left me 18 months ago an has never given me a reason. Says i am a good husband bur did not know what happened an wanted to be alone. I thought it was a fase but she hardly ever talked to me again. I begged until finally i gave up an filed for divorce 3 months ago. So down an sad but hopeful things will be better. Thank u for the video

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your story. I wish you all the best mate

@t-pain3343 7 ай бұрын

She likely met someone else

@grahamodonnell4980 Жыл бұрын

You made my day! Thank you

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce Жыл бұрын

My pleasure, I hope you're moving forward day by day

@miracuru2184 5 ай бұрын

I watch this 15times always hear somethink new

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 5 ай бұрын

I hope that's a good thing, wish you all the best in your journey

@marse7092 9 күн бұрын

After hearing this the first time, I’ve realized my life is already perfect as a good looking single man with lots of hobbies! 😂

@ivanr4300 9 ай бұрын

After a divorce or separation, find yourself a girlfriend, that helps a lot.

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 9 ай бұрын

It definitely helped me, but it's not for everyone at the start in particular

@clarencedobbs7362 2 ай бұрын

I got a divorce but i fought for custody of my children and won sole custody.it can be done.

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 2 ай бұрын

That's great to hear mate

@raheelabbasjangda4627 2 жыл бұрын

A brilliant video thank you stay blessed

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the support. Reach out to me anytime. Stay strong 👊

@Mensdivorcecoach 2 жыл бұрын

@LivingMAD 2 жыл бұрын

Divorce is a heartbreaking experience for all of us. I made my own videos discussing my personal experience going through divorce. I welcome you to watch them and let me know what you think.

@markmassy2400 2 ай бұрын

That was what I needed to hear and so relatable. Time to block Thanks

@iainwilkes3669 Жыл бұрын

Great video, so straight forward and helpful. Going through such a tough time right now, this is a really hopeful video 👍

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce Жыл бұрын

Thank you my friend. Hope you're OK, please join our private Facebook group for support. It's a great place to chat and just vent.

@stevekostakis2983 2 ай бұрын

Priority #1. Have a job that makes you money….then everything you say will fall into place.

@danizunzun2422 2 жыл бұрын

Good stuff but I can’t help but notice you keep looking to the side at what you’re reading. It has me looking at your eye movement and not what you’re saying.

@LivingMAD 2 жыл бұрын

I made my own videos discussing my personal experience going through divorce. I welcome you to watch them and let me know what you think.

@ventolus2068 Жыл бұрын

I initiated mine after mental and physical and fysical abuse.

@LivingMAD 2 жыл бұрын

G-Man, I just discovered your channel. I love this video. Like you, I'm trying to share positive messages regarding the topic of divorce, from my own personal experiences, through my own YT channel. Good luck brother.

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 2 жыл бұрын

And a good luck to you too my man! 👍

@carlmarch9591 2 жыл бұрын

Good work mate all the best from England 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

@LivingMAD 2 жыл бұрын

Divorce is a heartbreaking experience for all of us. I made my own videos discussing my personal experience going through divorce. I welcome you to watch them and let me know what you think.

@EB-rh9dq 2 жыл бұрын

It's a good thing to prep men for remedies/tips to help move on from divorce. However it doesn't excuse what women will resort to when it comes to their options when it's "convenient" to leave during the marriage. Just saying..

@LivingMAD 2 жыл бұрын

Divorce is a heartbreaking experience for all of us. I made my own videos discussing my personal experience going through divorce. I welcome you to watch them and let me know what you think.

@slipline4threcon688 8 күн бұрын

Stop getting married!! Go your own way - dont talk to woman except family members - let society go in the direction women want it to go- go the other way

@theodorusrexicon5760 Жыл бұрын

Good video and absolutely right about women filing for divorce - they've been thinking about it. Don't try and get them back. I had an ex that contacted me 5 months later to try to reconcile, once.

@t-pain3343 7 ай бұрын

lol my ex wife wanted me out of the house so fast so she could move in her 22F GF, who was our babysitter. She never once wanted me back. Good riddance

@willba3516 2 жыл бұрын

6 months into separation, two little boys 5 and 3. Thanks so much mate!

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce 2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure mate. I hope it helps. Please join my Facebook group. It really will help you with advice, tips and support with other guys in our shoes.

@willba3516 2 жыл бұрын

@@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce done legend!!

@CJ-dq2cs Жыл бұрын

This is what I was looking for. I thought, I was the only one going through this. It’s hard to talk to people, who haven’t experienced this type of problem. Thank you for the reinsurance.

@g-manmenthrivingafterdivorce Жыл бұрын

My absolute please CJ, please join our Facebook group. It's a small private group and we really support each other.