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After 17 years we picked up, sold hour house and moved to another state. I left my friends, family, started a new job and bought a nice house. Now she wants a divorce. I’m stuck here with no friends, no family or support. I want to get back to my home state but will leave here with less than I had when I was 20. I’m now 55. The stress is killing me. Renting is expensive and I barely have enough for the move let alone a security deposit and furniture or ? I’ll probably never own my home again. I’m sad, angry, confused, exhausted and scared. I’m not saying don’t ever get married but once again I’m laying here at 4am because I can’t sleep......

You don’t know a woman until you meet them in court

12 years post divorce here. Good video. If you're going through it now it's not just BS when you see people say it gets better. I'm happier now than when I was married and thought everything was good. Simple advice if you're going through it. Don't do anything you'll regret later. Don't spend forever being angry at her. If you have kids take every step thinking about how they'll look at it when they're an adult. Keep your calm around her, especially with kids involved. You "win" against her by being a better and happier person.

Divorce survivor here. Rich is spot on. My second life, life after divorce, is absolutely awesome! I have way more wealth, way less stress, and life is so much better than I ever imagined it could be. Keep you heads up. The only way to get through hell is to keep on walking.

I lost my brother by suicide over a woman. My brother was a rocket scientist so every time I hear the one about you do not need a rocket scientist to figure it out I think of my brother. This along with three other friends of mine took their own lives because of a broken heart. I know of not one woman who has taken their life over a man.

I've been divorced now for about 11 years, fantastic advice, I had a motto, "Live Forward" meaning don't lament on the past, live for the present, set goals even easy short term goals, reward yourself...

Thank you for this…Im going through this after 28 years of marriage. My heart is broken…fortunately the kids are grown…but my wife has changed. I feel lost…have had those thoughts of “what’s the point?” I get angry, then overwhelmed…find myself sleeping alot. I work full time…really all thats left is to sell the house and figure out whats next…but I loved this women and gave her everything. She just quit on us….its the worst feeling I’ve ever had.

My wife got tired of sleeping with me. Spent two years building a new home together. A month after we moved in, she asked for the divorce. We have a 6 yo son. It almost destroyed me. There was a solid month where I had intrusive thoughts of deleting myself. 6 months later, I have 50% custody and she is paying me child support because she was a corporate executive and I had supported her, even staying home with our kid for the first two years. I'm lucky at 45 I still look 35. All my hair, and no gut. I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel, though it still hurts to be discarded. Only time will heal, but you have to make it and be patient to yourself, and forgive yourself for being wrecked and not being stronger or doing all the right things at the right time.

Been divorce for 18 years. Lost everything .....am 52 finish paying child support..after 18 years..still trying to recuparate...this man here tells the truth....

The most expensive meal a man can have is wedding cake.

NO woman who has left you, married or girlfriend is worth your LIFE, NONE.

If you are contemplating suicide think of this poem - "Thier was a man who had the blues because he had no shoes, untill upon the street he met a man with no feet"

One thing I would add to all this. If your 45-60 and going through divorce and you think its bad, you need to keep how bad it is in mind because just imagine how much worse it will be if you get married again and then go through another divorce when your 60-75. The point of this story is don't do it again! It's a game that the only way you can win is to not play!

24 years married ( she stayed at home ) and 30 years together, I ended up with all 4 of my sons with me and she pays child support and I kept our family home . Theirs hope , the emotional stress goes on and takes time to heal from ….

72yo American here in Cambodia these past 18 years. Married the much younger woman who divorced me a couple of years ago for her cousin 5 years her junior as we now have about $2 million in assets and I am "old and ugly". All the assets (mainly land and houses) are in her name under Cambodian law. I got a fair ~50/50 settlement in the lower Court, which recognized our pre-nup (no alimony), recognized my 100% financial contribution to the properties, and gave me custody of the children. I got a fair trial in the Court of Appeals, and am awaiting a Supreme-fucking Court trial - which I will also win. My 12yo son bravely and voluntarily stood in front of the Court and said he wanted to live with me. The moral of this story is that women don't want fairness, they want EVERYTHING, even at the cost of severely damaging their relationship with their children. So hang in there guys, don't take it lying down, and certainly 'don't go quietly into the night.'

Marriage is the #1 cause of Divorce Don’t get married

54 here, lost a million dollars in my most recent divorce. Not much to some. But every penny I have made in my life. The attorney got half of that. My suggestion is other than get married in the first place. Liquidate. Before anything happens. Stash it with your friends. Not your family. Make complicated investments, not as a standard practice. But have business partners you trust. People she doesn't know, and people she can't fuck...

Thanks for the info, Rich!

I told myself I will never allow this world nor a woman to get me to the point if wanting to end myself ever again. I will stay single for life because I've been exposed to too many nasty divorces and fights throughout my life. I'm not trying to go out like that.

18 yrs of child support, so broke I had to sell plasma twice a week for 10 yrs to make it but I finally got thru that hell and so can you. Hang in there. Shared custody is good advice, wish I had known that back when

It's so hard to understand this when you are in it. But it's the truth.

17 years and seven kids. She served me papers 3 weeks ago. I'm back in the gym after 10 years. I lost 25 lbs due to betrayal and lack of sleep. It was painful, but I'm starting to feel better about it. I'll keep you posted.

Q: "Why is divorce so expensive?" A: "Because it's worth it!"

Rich, Man U don’t know how much I needed this video right now, thanks.

It’s insane how high divorce rates are. My younger brother was a Tom cruise look alike growing up had all and any woman he wanted - he’s single and doesn’t want to get married - not bc he likes dating bu bc of avoiding this..it’s so sad I’ll never preach to him “get married stert a family “ again...

I fudging need this right now, thank you. I have my good days and bad ones but “this too shall pass” also rings in my ears too. You survive by not self-deleting, make yourself a mental point of origin, have hobbies, and make more money. I have failed in all these aspects but making the change.

It's crazy how we'd marry someone who would do that to us.

To all men out there I have a message for you as well. Always make sure you have a plan B in place. This is a fully thought out and constantly updated plan of action to cope if your wife walks in one night and tells that’s it. Even if you are in a completely happy marriage you must have a plan B. A plan B will save your life. My very exciting plan B should my happy marriage end is to find a nice house renovate it quickly to my taste and then go off riding my adventure bike around the world learning about people’s cultures. Just having a plan makes you not stress about possible traumas. My plan B has every little detail covered so if the nightmare starts it goes straight into action and takes care of me. I am now caring for three blokes that are on the edge as we speak. Each one said to me what’s the point in being here. Nice one Richard you probably have saved a good few chaps 👍

My wife hired a female divorce lawyer and life became a nightmare. The unethical trickery was unbelievable. Neither she or her lawyer acted in the best interest of the kids. Their game-playing pushed me towards suicide. Fortunately I chose not to go that route.

A temper and bad decision making are luxuries you can’t afford.Use the Divorce as energy for- Self Improvement- your focus determines your reality.

Called for counseling appt. First question was "Are you suicidal?"

Thank you for the words of encouragement and truth. I had the rope around my neck about a year ago. I'm so happy I didn't follow through. I decided to stop and just have a bite before I did it. Then, I fell asleep. Each day started getting just a tiny bit better but it was enough to believe it could get much better with enough of those days. My advice, never take your own life 1) hungry, 2) tired, or 3) alone.

I totally agree with you! Split custody as best as possible combined with a one foot in front of the other mentally will see you though. I too had deep depression, but that will pass and one day your life will definitely be better!!! Hang in there brothers!

It's really bad here in EU as well. In my small country, 90% of judges that deal with divorce...are women. There is a huge society of divorced man who are now suing the government for discrimination when it comes to the custody of kids. Women almost always get custody automatically.

Love you brother you are a light at the end of the tunnel. We all need more people like you and I blessed that I found you on this resource.

Mine cost me $60K, and her $80K. And I’m a government worker. Kids were involved. The key takeaway from what Richard shares is that there IS a light at the end of the tunnel. 12 years post divorce and I shudder to think of having stayed with her till my twin boys were 18 (this year). I’d be dead by now had I not filed for divorce in ‘06.

Divorce for a man, is a harrowing experience, especially when you have children, you can handle the finances, as a man you can handle that, but when you have children, the emotional roller coaster is a head fuck, but stay strong!! Because the odds are against you, the women have the upper hand, been through it, as the man says, there is a light at the end of tunnel, your children are not stupid remember that!!

"Choose Your Own Adventure." Loved those books as a kid. Great video as always, sir.

There should be laws in place. To punish homewreckers, and to punish people that cheat in a marriage - so marriages are protected better Especially home wreckers

All a man has to say to me is that he's been through a divorce.....and I understand him.

You never really know your wife until the divorce. Early in the process right now. But passing shit tests and red pill ideas have made it easier so far.

Married 9 years and it ended slow then fast. We all have different ways to cope.

Thank you, Rich for encouraging words. This is exactly what I am going through right now.

Divorce in the western world is specifically designed to protect the interests of women at all costs. Women must be protected from all possible harm or disadvantage. Men are the ones who pay almost the entire cost of relationship failure.

You’ve got to be SO careful with who you get married to in the first place.

Thank you so much for this Richard. I am one of those guys that got reamed, royally, reamed. I had to live in my car for a year. Felt like I was back in my twenties. But! yes, there is a light at the end. All you guys going through this, you need to open your eyes and ears and listen to what we are telling you. Guys always think it's our fault, it not! Get through the divorce as fast as possible. Do Not engage in the 'back and forth" argument. And, above all, no contact with her.

Thank you Rich for your videos. Honestly without people like you who share their experiences and helpful insights, many viewers would have suffered.

Thank you brother. Words spoken from a man that has walked through something and learned are gold.

Rich divorce broke me…..financially, emotionally and kids suffered. The idea of a gun in my mouth crossed my mind everyday. Getting over it and getting out of that pit that’s dug for ya is the trick to recovering. Great honest video. And kids…..don’t think divorce can’t happen to you, I thought that too 🤡

When my ex and I were splitting up I thought driving in front of a logging truck which I saw many of near my home. I never did but I was very upset over the lies my ex told about me. I found out through public court records she tried to get a restraining order against me and failed. That did not stop her lawyer from "ordering" me from going on my own property. I felt like going to his office to punch him out. He had no authority to say that to me. After going to my property to pick up some of my tools I got a call from a police officer. I immediately got my back up and asked him what the point of his call was. He admitted that there was no legal reason I could not go to my property so I calmed down. He explained that she was "worried" or some other female bullshit he had to follow up on. He did go on to say that he could hear in my voice that I was very upset and that as a man who has been through divorce that is DOES get better. That he promised me, and he was right. It was comforting to hear something like that at that time from a total stranger who was also a authority figure. After watching this video I wanted to share a small part of my story. Peace!

My divorce lawyer told me "If you want fair there is a county fair at the fairgrounds every september".

I got lucky in my divorce, my ex was not smart, she gave me majority of our belongings so I would sign the papers and she could go out and get laid. I never had kids,dont want kids... so no custody battle/child support. Now everything was fine and dandy after the divorce until 2 years later I sold the house and made a nice Penny on it and she actually try to get a piece of that even though the divorce papers were final LOL women can get crazy when money is involved no matter who they are or what you have...

Tip: Don't let your wife/girl cut you off from your friends. You might need those brothers to lean on if things go upside down. Don't let your family consume your identity. That is not what responsibility looks like. That's servitude. I've never been that married but I have been that friend.

Thank you, Brother. My second marriage is about to end and I was feeling like a failure and suicidal but listening to you has given me hope.

The best way to survive a divorce is not to get married in the first place, believe me.

Message is never old. Thank you

I think If you are deemed a threat to the children probably the best scenario would be to keep your distance for a while. Don't add fuel to the fire. Don't risk being seen as an abusive person. Let tensions simmer down. Do what they tell you. Off course give yourself time to mourn. But not too long. Then start slowly taking steps to rebuild yourself.

Thanks for your content Rich. This pep talk helps. My singular focus is on our two kids. I’ve put in these foundation years, they take comfort in me, I’ve cultivated a bond I hope is an unbreakable foundation, but this divorce, …she can’t handle our son, let alone both kids at the same time. I’m worried for my kids’ well-being. Sure, Kid’s are resilient and they’ll get through it and figure out how to navigate this, I feel bad about it, we’ll get whatever counseling we need, I’m not worried. But what worries me is our son has a real medical issue, epilepsy. My wife literally can’t handle it, or him, along with our 20 mo baby. I think shared custody shouldn’t be too much of an issue, but I don’t see how she can manage both kids on the days she’ll have them. She can’t do it now, but on top of it is our son’s medical condition….I’m frustrated, angry, fair enough, I’m going to try for primary custody as I can better care for our kids and keep them together, but I’m also losing everything financially that also provides our foundation to care for them. Whole world being ripped apart by a narcissistic sociopath who’s unwilling to go to family counseling to better relate to her son and develop better tools to understand his needs and condition. Ignorance by choice and with it just lay waste to the family stability. Deep disappointment. Just taking it one day at a time, trying to keep my bullet-points in order centered on my kids well-being first. With all assets about to go up in smoke, makes it real hard to do what’s needed for my kids. Hoping for the best, but not feeling confident…we’ll see. Putting a lot of faith in my lawyer, hope that’s not too misguided. Wish me luck fellas, I’m gonna need it. I thought putting in the ground work in our kids’ early years would be enough, but they can’t calculate the little things, like both kids are snuggled up with me every night while she’s in another room, the kids literally seek me out for their comfort….where to the courts calculate that? Where do the factor in that I’m the one who takes them to all their appointments, meets with the teachers, works on the homework…they don’t seem to see it. Just divide up the assets and bleed the man out. I carried the burden so she could build her businesses, most of which have lost money and most years she barely made anything, but my time is consumed sustaining my career, providing our base, and providing the emotional connection the kids seek and don’t get from her, where do the courts calculate that sweat equity? Not feeling confident they do. Will be finding out in the coming months and years of this BS stupidity though. Nothing seems to matter, just money. Enough is never enough today. Success is never successful enough. Slayed dragons, conquered mountains, overcome abject poverty, you’re still never enough. Society is unrelenting at delivering its insidious beatdown in one malicious form or another. Again, hoping for the best but leery of the worst to come…likely we’ll land somewhere in the middle. The kids deserve better than this…that’s the great disappointment and the only piece I’m dialed in to do as much as I can about. I’ll tell ya though, it’s no wonder so many guys simply walk away. It’s too damn hard

Be advised gentlemen; most women who file for divorce know you'll be suicidal, they kind of hope you'll "do it". That way, it's over and they get it all! When it happens, THEY will play the victim. Don't give her that satisfaction!

Good one brother, you don't know just how many lives you may have saved. There is hope.

Just sign divorce papers after 30 years of marriage I ’m still in shock, and in a fog

Guys, if you are considering marriage do not even consider a pre-nuptual agreement as judges are throwing them out as wimmin are saying you forced them to sign it with no proof, and just like false assault or rape allegations with no proof the judges believe wimminz. The answer to keeping your lifes work and sanity legally is an irrevocable trust, not a prenuptial agreement.

I been riding solo since july 2018

Thank you for being so honest! I appreciate you.

Been Divorced 3 times and agree with everything you say, yes it’s difficult for men getting Divorced but life gets better once divorced but getting there is a rocky road. Divorce for me involved everything bad that could happen to a person went from having 4 houses great lifestyle to going through Bankruptcy and loosing everything including my kids from my ex wife poisoning them. But I am more happy than I’ve ever been but you have to help yourself get there. Invest in yourself it’s not your fault. Nice talk well done,

Shared custody matters, regardless of parenting time situations. Those parents out there who are still putting in the work to protect their rights, keep going. Agree with the message to encourage all to not give up. It will pass and it’s up to us to choose and reframe.

During my divorce, the thought of suicide entered my mind but I immediately refused to contemplate it. Even though I was a complete mess at the time, a part of me knew that I would be OK. It would just take time...

Thanks for this one Brother rings true there is always a weaponizatiom of the children. Appreciate your work and honesty.

Thanks for mentioning diet and exercise. Since my divorce I have treated myself badly. I need to treat myself better and do the work.

Thank you for this video Sir. It was nice to hear what you saying because it makes sense and is true. 👍🏿

Divorce is one of the worst things that can happen to a man. I sincerely thank all of my miserable married and divorce friends who've warned me about just how bad marriage can get. Any rational man(reference intended), would be very honest about what a grave risk marriage is.

Best way to survive, is to not get married! ... been there, done it TWICE ... lost damn near all my money, savings and self respect ... been single for 11 years now, and have more money than any other time in my life, and nobody is going to piss it away or steal it again!!!

It's hard! Life is hard!

I'm so glad I found all of your videos Richard. It makes me feel a lot better about myself knowing that I made the right decision avoiding marriage in my life so far and built a comfortable lifestyle for me. The red pill brought so much more clarity to my mind.

we think we're in control but ultimately got in. Pretty good video you hit to the heart of what the real issue is the feeling where you're helpless hopeless etc does infect you thank you for making the video.

I felt the same way, I'll never allow anyone or anything to trap me in that situation ever again.

There is a light at the end of my tunnel I know it 🙏 God bless you for sharing brother.

Tomorrow is always a better day.

Thanks a lot Rich for your work and videos.

This is a truly valuable information,thanks!

Well got arrested, charged with a second degree felony, lost my job because of that, woman is leaving and now I have to sell my house because I've lost everything and starting over at 40. Never getting married again.

Keep separate bank accounts, no matter how she tries to shame you about it. If she leaves you and cleans out your joint bank account, the courts will probably not do anything about it.

Most of the guys I know are either divorced or remarried and both tell me not to get married. The guys that remarried wish they were single again. Basically women don’t give a crap about you. They just want your money and put you through hell!

My divorce sent me into a deep depression that I am still dealing with after two years... I am 36 years old, not everything has been negative, yet, pain has been the master of my life.

Thank you for the words man

The best thing you can do if you are thinking of suicide is to take a holiday. Take yourself out to a movie eat at expensive resteraunts buy something nice for yourself like a new coat, three piece suit, or the latest power tool. Going on a vacation for a week helps. You don't have to go to the Bahamas. Another thing you can do is buy a pet. It could be a pet mouse , rat, cat or a dog. Dogs are best and have been known to relieve stress. Watching funny movies will help you pull yourself together. Get a new haircut. Talk to yourself in the mirror and smile will help lift yourself up. There are certain music that will help to. But if you are suffering from a divorce your going to want time for yourself to grieve and mentally get over it and your going to want to take as much time as you want.

Oh my god..this is amazing ......thank you thank thank you

You're great Richard, I'm not married, but i get so much wisdom from your channel, thank you. ☺

Thanks mate, I appreciate the wise words.

Man Rich you are a good dude. Thanks

From experience in the US, if you’re a male who gets custody, don’t count on a judge to enforce child support payments. All 3 of mine are nearly all grown. Still waiting and not holding my breath. Just a FYI.

I had no idea after a while of listening to rich, he actually contemplated suicide with his divorce. Respect! Thanks for putting yourself out there in the public! I’m merely contemplating divorce and looking at the next 6,12, 18 months of my how to improve my life and being a great dad after being soul crushed knowing it’s over. I empathize the pain anyone goes through being a decent man and dealing with female BS to even the point of suicide. The Bible is right. No false idols. Very wise and simply put.

Appreciate the videos man. Cheers.

Keep going! Dont stop

Wise words, thank you.

Yooo man..Going thru this myself the comments are awesome learned alot..thx for the Vid

Thanks a lot for your advices Rich! I'm 24 and was never married. But your content saved me from my Oneitis syndrome. My blue pilled father was and is a great provider for me, but he never taught me these valuable lessons.

Thank you richard cooper,my brother from another mother.

Thank you for this, helped out a lot